INFJs and The Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)
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- Опубліковано 2 лис 2017
- There is a strong correlation with being an INFJ and being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)
This lecture looks the work of Dr Elaine Aron, and the HSP Test. We look at what it means to be highly sensitive and go through the 4 Preferences and 4 Cognitive Functions of an INFJ looking at correlations between them and certain questions in the HSP test.
We try to understand what it is about an INFJ that makes them prone to being a Highly Sensitive Person, as well as examine the functions to see whether an INFJ is the most sensitive MBTI Type.
The range we got from our sample of INFJs went from 12-26 with an average of 18.
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INFJ Lecture Series:
Lecture 1: How do you know you are an INFJ?
• How Do You Know You Ar...
Lecture 2: Why do INFJs find it so hard to show up in the world?
• Why Do INFJs Find It S...
Lecture 3: What do INFJs want in a relationship?
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Lecture 4: The INFJ's Search For A Soulmate (Part 1)
• The INFJ's Search For ...
Lecture 5: The INFJ's Search For A Soulmate (Part 2)
• The INFJ's Search For ...
Lecture 6: INFJs and The Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)
• INFJs and The Highly S...
Lecture 7: INFJs and The Enneagram
• INFJs and The Enneagram
Lecture 8: Enneagram Test Instructions
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Hsp and infj here✌🏼
Tell me difference between infj and hsp. There is none! Its freakin the same thing!
Good to know im not alone 🙏
Yeah..its a blessing and a curse too!!
Same here...
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I don't feel so alone anymore...
Thank you ❤
RP McMurphy so u c too.,
As an INFJ I find most people to be a pain in the arse.
It's interesting how when you get back to INFJ data you gain energy in your speech and actions. You enjoy what you are speaking about and therefore your energy appears to escalate. Fascinating. Your presentations are quite educational even to an older INFJ. Thank you.
I am 41 and I am just now finding this video. This has helped me so much to learn about myself. Thank you!
Very good explanation. Excellent! Thank you. Has me pegged... almost. What I have found is that although I may have a preference for certain things, i.e. finishing things, lack of clutter, I do not always live up to those preferences. Does anyone else get so bogged down and stuck in the theory, research, understanding everything, that you are totally exhausted when it is time to execute? Or, being an HSP as well, I have become so overwhelmed that I cannot perform at times and body shuts down, e.g. chronic fatigue, depression, or simply needing to take a break and rest my mind. Unfortunately, with all these things not being in place or completed, I am never totally able to rest, because they're always on my mind and drives me nuts! Urghgh. Wish I could find a way to deal with that. Otherwise, I like being an INFJ :)
Hi Candace, I can really relate to what you're saying. I can get so bogged down in trying to understand the absolute ins and outs of something that I either A) get overwhelmed and give up or B) become an expert in that subject matter because I've obsessed over it so much! Unfortunately, I tend to do the former more often because I can quickly lose motivation if something presents more difficult/complicated than I anticipated or I'm not able to accumulate all my research into one concise bundle, so to speak. I love being able to organise things both in my physical surroundings and in my mind. I feel like I have this almost instinctive desire to control and over analyse things. Additionally, I like to be able to form patterns in my mind of whatever I'm observing or learning to understand it better, but not everything can be simplified into patterns... thus leaving me frustrated and none the wiser sometimes! This feeling of frustration or being overwhelmed leads me to shutting down, or as someone once said, I tend to "stick my head in the sand" in the hope that it all goes away. Being highly intuitive, empathetic and sensitive does feel like I've been dealt a heavy hand in life, and it is burdensome, there's no doubt about that. I certainly have my good days and my bad days, but at the end of the day I wouldn't want to be any different. It's lonely, but I have a rich inner world and vivid imagination. Sometimes I feel "slow" and even dumb because I don't pick up concepts (particularly in maths) as quickly as my peers, and I struggle with following instructions sometimes, particularly if they're not specific. But I can take a subject I am interested in or passionate about and run with it! I am easily hurt and over react to criticism but I've found I can always rely on my intuition and judgement about most things. Us INFJ's just have that "gut feeling" that is rarely ever wrong. I like to call it our 6th sense! I take on emotions, even from just watching a film or reading a book and cant seem to let them go, as hard as I try, but I think it makes us good people at heart. We have a good conscience and an ever burning desire to please and do good in the world. In reference to what you said about feeling like you can't rest from your thoughts and stresses, I know exactly how you feel. Even when I'm on holidays (like right now), I am still thinking about everything I have to do when I get home and should have already done but have procrastinated about for the past 5 weeks. Moreover, I'm stressing about all the anxiety-provoking situations I will have to go through in the future. I can have so much on my mind, and even when I'm distracted, they're still buzzing away in the background. Unfortunately, I can't offer you any great advice or support with that, but perhaps you'll take comfort in the fact that you're not alone, and that there's people (like me!) in the world that struggle with the exact same things as you. I suppose if there's anything I can leave with you it's to try and live in the moment. Someone dear to me once said that those whose' minds dwell in the past wont move forward and those whose' minds dwell in the future won't get the best out of the present. Just do what you can in the time you have right now because the present is the only time we have any control over.
- A fellow INFJ
Candance & Harry, I have sooo much love for you both right now. I sat here and read what you've both have written and sentence for sentences I just just nodded my head going 'uh huh. yup."
"I feel you."
I am a married mother of 2, who is an HSP ( score of 24) of 2 HSPs and I myself am an INFJ-A(dvocate). Having been in quarantine, I initially kind of preferred and enjoyed not to have to commute for several hours a day. Being hyper aware of people, their attitudes, and keeping my family and myself safe while trying to get to school on time with a public transportation system filled with uncertainties here in New York City, was always exhausting. I felt that 'oh, finally, I could feel at peace.' But not quite. Having people in my space 24hrs a day was gradually debilitating to my energy and overall moral. Where there was once enough quiet to allow me to think for a few hours and get things done, I no longer had any unless, as I still do now, find it in the few hours late at night when everyone was asleep. I realize now that that I've learned more about being an INFJ + HSP I have been functioning at my max capacity. I found myself having to constantly create, assess, reconstruct, implement and keep up with their lives. I needed them to be happy and safe so that I could feel happy and safe. But their needs, structures and demands of their remote lives was constantly changing and to avoid that overwhelm we went fully remote. After a year I realized that my INFJ+HSP mind was trying to organize 4 lives plus my own into the "funnel" so perfectly described in this video. And then, instead of a funnel it became a bottleneck. So much was expected of me to put out in order to help them and I just simply could not move. "Can I just take a vaction from life? 3-6 month, please. Could we just pause, I can't keep up anymore." And so I put it all off. I could do bursts of energy if needed but I needed to recover. Tell me when you need it by because I'll literally wait till the day of to complete it because I just needed time.
Finally, I realized that I needed some means to unload. In the bullet journaling world they call it a brain dump. I like to take a page from Dumbledore and call mine a Penseive. Whenever I feel overwhelmed I write stuff down or simply make lists of the things that are taking up space in my mind. If it's particularly overwhelming I will rant in a word document just so that I don't slow down the deluge that wants to flow out of my mind. If I want to/need to obsess I allow it for whatever time my mind needs until that pressure feels relieved and I no longer have this urgency and pressure. Pressure that kicks my anxiety into high gear and starts to taunt me with "I have sooo much to do!" yet it's literally All in my head.
I also paid attention to my rhythm. I only just recently noticed that I am very much a midmorning/midday and then an evening person. The early mornings I'm on auto-pilot and any true thinking won't actually occur. But by midday my mind is energized and working. Sadly, those were the times that were largely taken up by family and thus I couldn't really do much. But I could type. I could make notes to myself and just drop stuff into my penseive as often as needed. So on my cellphone I keep a widget on my homescreen for my 3 priorities of the day. But any one of those would be great to accomplish. On another widget I just down Any task or idea that I'd like to research. Just put it down. Type type type. I realized that sincerely need to stop trying to keep everything in my head. And because of my memory I often don't forget where I put that information and can remember it more easily later.
I find that my thoughts need a place. It needs a shelf, a parking spot, a room, it needs a home, even if it's temporary, until I can take care of them. We just take on too much and it doesn't serve us to think we can handle it all.
Some have called this type of notetaking the 2nd brain, or a zettlekasten. I find that I like to just jot things down, like I said I have a strong memory for the placement of things. However, prevoiusly, I would take any piece of paper, any notebook and then sadly lose them. But when I've reflected on what I've kept it was especially so because in a journal there is an emotional attachment. And writing it down may somehow be validating to our INFJ minds that are constantly looking for ways to connect everything into a univeral thought/pattern. Somehow when it's all integrated into my life I can more clearly see where the inspiration/theory came from or simply why it felt significant at that time and thus deepen those connections and give it further validation.
Will this be the thing that solves overwhelm? I could only wish. But like you and many INFJ's I can't help but spend my time thinking, how can I make this better for myself? For others like me? How can I handle this in such a way that it won't happen again? Is it easy to implement? I'm unsure, but I'm on week two of this new sysem and I'm loving it. I had once used a physical paper bullet journal but found the set up process and having to 'keep this larger separate thing' with me inefficient. I found that having created a digital bullet journal with hyperlinks that allow me to input this info on a whim on my phone or tablet to be incredibly helpful. Like now I WANT to use it, not just that I need to.
I hope you find something that works for you. I'm sure that when you get your 'head out of the sand," after being in the dark for so long, the light around you, even if dim, will bring such clarity that you'll see the way forward.
Best of luck to you and my fellow INFJ+HSPs. The very thing that could seem overwhelming can be our greatest strength and ally if we turn that focus towards ourselves. ^_^
it's really helpful to see why i act, think and feel a certain way. a big thank you for this very clear explanation!
I cannot stand violence, sex, or any abuse whatsoever especially towards children. I don’t like movies that represent any of these things. I haven’t gone to a movie in over 10 years. I will watch a documentary analyzing and trying to solve these things. I’m very sensitive to any evil and get easily depressed over evil and injustice. I am very much at odds with the world around me. I detect insensitive ppl very quickly and avoid them at any cost. I also do not show up for most gatherings. I always have to apologize for this. We are very complex . It is difficult being this type. We are very misunderstood. This is just a very limited explanation of our type because I’ve already taken too much time of whomever would read this. Joy of Discovery what do u see in my description of myself? Much appreciated. Thank u.
Hi Lara, great description. Haha, it's not too long, there's alway much much more where that came from! I do appreciate though the other 99% of the population will not be able to follow. You make some very good points, and all I can say is that you are not alone in this area, and many INFJs share the same issues. And absolutely, it's very difficult being an INFJ because of our complexity! Hope you can meet and befriend some INFJs in person. It will definitely help validate your feelings and understanding of the world! :)
Joy Of Discovery Thank you so much for ur confirming response. When I find that u are dishonest or an abusive person the door will slam. I don’t compromise on any type of immoral behavior. One strike and I’m done. The end game is I’ve always felt too sensitive to this world. It’s depressing. I hate it.
Chai I already knew I’m an empath and I’ve put great boundaries on it. We feel worse about their problems than they do so I’m done. I don’t like being an empath. It is worthless and unappreciated. I will always be empathetic to children but that’s it.
I hate insensitive people, so I am avoiding them, because literally I can't stand them and even they are so cruel against children, innocent people and animals and I am glad that I didn't met these horrible people in my life
You are my people 👽
Correction. The 90% are lost. Not the 10%.
Wow! Thanks for this video! It is pretty spot on for me. Its amazing that we can figure out peoples personalitys. Although a little unsettling that UA-cam knew that I was an INFJ. These videos have just been popping up all over my recommended list.
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Thank you, thank you, thank you. Watching your videos, especially this one, feels like you are describing me specifically. It takes so much of the weight off, knowing that there isn't anything wrong with me, there are many more people who also experience life in this way, and it makes perfect sense why I am this way. With everything going on, on the inside, of course I have a tendency to feel overwhelmed by too much stimulus or change more easily than most. While it still may be a technical weakness I need to manage, there is no reason to feel so much guilt about it, as if it's bizarre. It really isn't. It actually makes sense. :)
Thanks for your comment, and really happy to hear the video resonates with you. :)
Great insight; I really love your diagrams of the i, n, f, j and your explanations, also diagrammed and explained in the video about infj relationships.
Nice visual and explanations of the seeming maelstrom of our brains, and how we are filtering out truths, staying open to new information.
I liked the ti explanation in the infj relationships video about having multiple simultaneous trains of thought which other people can't follow; that just seems normal to me! I enjoy my thought process; it's one of the things that gives me the most pleasure in life; but it is rather lonely as well.
Thank you!
Wow, when he said 23, I was blown because that was my exact score. It's a difficult road to try and effectively traverse the sensory bombardment of everyday life, but it's good to understand the reasons why in terms of our cognitive functions.
I also appreciate the humor. Because we need to be able to laugh at ourselves. I mean how many times have I noticed that my theories are beginning to overwhelm someone. I try to reign it in more now, but in retrospect it's kind of funny.
Haha, thanks, and yes, I really haven't found many people too who can follow my theories in an actual conversation! :)
Info is clearly presented and very appreciated thank you!
I knew I was an INFJ but just found out I’m a HSP. so interesting 😊👏🏾
They got me all figured out..
Charming accent and good info
Yeah i’m so complicated that don’t you ever think you know me that well because you just won’t.
16:20 - Open loops... wow I feel it.
16 Personalities types were researched before Elaine published her research about HSP so some points correlate.
However HSP is also a biological trait which means other types according to Myers-Briggs may be HSP - Extrovert HSPs exist as well.
I'm pretty sure 100% of INFJs are also HSP.
HSP and ENFJ. Extroversion does not make you less sensitive. In fact, the push to interact socially would make such individuals pros at practicing empathy versus being spectators.
Just a thought from an ENFJ.
Great
Thank you 🙏
thank you
Can INFJ and hypersensitive persons make a good lasting match?
I liked the initial presentation, but I have no amplifier on my feed, so the muffled tones were hard to break on through to the other side of... mostly in the beginning you hushed the dialogue some....
You could possibly make use of the captions feature of youtube, whereby you get written captions of what's being said.. Just trying to help..
I might be more of a ENFJ
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Ever since my dad said he didn’t care for my guitar looping because they were “too repetitive,” I’ve become too afraid to even make them much anymore... and whenever I do, it’s like this^ where it just goes on for hours I just feel this overwhelming judgement from my father.. whether he’s near or not... This does really help explain thing with the loops, in music. It just used to not get sooo bad... I wish I could even showing them this very straight forward, easy to understand, informative video.. but I know I don’t matter who I tell, they won’t listen to logic.. and if they do, they’ll just act like they get it for 2 minutes after watching and then dismiss it as nothing as if they’re so grounded in reality... when this shit is the most real, validating thing I’ve ever seen. But fuck me, it shouldn’t make cuz I must obviously be so sub human that I don’t need external support and understanding, right!?
I wish I was not an infj.
It’s both a blessing and a curse to feel everything so deeply
Embracing your own self is the first step to growth, I hope you have accepted it after 2 years :)
Tell me difference between infj and hsp. There is none! Its freakin the same thing!
Also I think The statistics about the one percent is bullshit. Because first of all i am wondering how the hell can they know this. Second of all i am pretty certain that infj and hsp are the same thing. But they say that hsp have a percentage of between 15 and 20 percrnt of the population. Sooooo something doesnt ad up. Also the intererest in infj and the books that are being sold about hsp is huge wich means it definatly cant be 1 percent. Even the books that are being sold are bestsellers in some countrys like belgum.
Yeah I am an Infj and very sensitive so came to know the difference between hsp and infj haven't seen any your right it's the same thing.
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