Of all the vids I've seen about understanding men, this one succintly sums up the whole matter. Great vid but I'm going to practice boundaries on you..It would make me so happy if you would not use the term BJ in you vids. Lololol
Such a bullshit.........it is soooo easy to impress and help your woman....a dog , a child a grandmother, a teacher, a nurse, a busy business woman....ANYONE......(all humans - around the world are the SAAAMMMEEE) when you care you have eyes and ear to hear.....PLEASE READ , what she wrote here : When my husband left us homeless I truly NEEDED a man and didn't have one so I had to man up for myself. How sad is that...another true comment :...I don't see men as men these days they are more like buy me give me they act like a female these days. I hate to hear this bullshit repeatedly.....Thank goodness, I did my research around the world... third real life experience comment : This only works if they are Mentally healthy And WANT a relationship... I haven't found any!!!! ..................He didn't want to be appreciated he wanted just nothing but control not all men are that good I KNOW HUMAN BEINGS.................AND THIS LAST COMMENT IS VERY TRUE............it took me a long time until a couple of years ago.........i found out, that men are not impressive at all...............they are the victim of..................& at the same time, they did not realize this : the use and abuse women.........to...............get what they want.....they do this with everyone.
Hi Mike!Greetings from a side of this planet..lol.I'm happy to found you pops up on my porch this is my first time watching your video and i suscribe immediately.I'll be 47 this year and My boyfriend will be 60.We''re in a LDR and been together for 2 years now but unfortunately we have not met yet because of this covid.To me,what you have shared w/us in this video is so TRUE! I'm doing it all of them by mailing and phone.Not because i pretend to be but more likely i do Need,appreciate,accept and have boundaries w/him.Thank you Mike you just make my day🤗.Stay safe ttyl and GBU.
Men like who they like! Period. All of the do this and do that does not mean a hill of beans to most men. A man will jump through hoops for the woman that he wants.
@Trish Malone yep... We can try these things and not scare away the right one but if he isn't the right one then yeah he'll be focused on someone else that may or may not be good for him. They like who they like. I know!
When my husband left us homeless I truly NEEDED a man and didn't have one so I had to man up for myself. I worked 2 jobs, started my own business, raised my daughter and rescued myself. Now, the only men that show up are moochers. I will never NEED a man again!
My ex narc use to even say that he wasn't my knight in shining armour. Always wondered why he even thought that and presumed it was to hurt my feelings or get out of doing something necessary. So when I was leaving I told him, "You're right, you are not my knight in shining armour, so get out of his f$&@:#% way! There is always some kind of truth in what they say but it's backwards thinking a lot of the time.
Mine are the same with the addition of don’t lie to me and don’t try to f*ck everything that moves behind my back. I don’t date often anymore because I am tired of setting a boundary of “don’t lie to me” which should fall under basic human decency.
Being older (now) I see the make him feel needed without being needy as easier. Maybe it's also because I'm determined to be in my 'feminine' AND successful. Fed up with barely surviving emotionally in a masculine world.
The guy that made this literally looks like he constantly cheats on women, just a p*ssy eater and “you are what you eat”. Trash video, can’t even finish it.
Women also want to needed and appreciated accepted and share boundaries. And to know that both of you do not cross boundaries with other people like cheating.
Instead of me making him feel needed how about his parents instilling confidence in him to begin with so when he meets a woman who can do for herself he understands that he's there because he's wanted. It's so much better to be wanted than needed.
I would say stop looking! That is being in the masculine. Instead, I would set the intention “I am ready for a man who is ready to explore a relationship with me.” That means that you must prepare YOURSELF for the type of man worthy of your best self. When you are truly ready, he will appear. ✨💖✨
What actually attracts a man on a deep subconscious level and what they want on a conscious level are two very different things. They may say they "want" this or that, but that is not always what they need to actually stay invested.
I see women in a complete masculine role with some of my friends that have raised children by themselves for many years. I have at least 4 solid examples of beautiful, kind,educated and fully self sufficient women that have been single for years and either have a very hard time keeping a man or have given up all together. It boggles my mind. I think part of the reason is simply because they keep that constant mindset of I can do this all by myself, I don't need you. So while being independent is great, giving the man a chance to be helpful and needed is probably a great tip.
Some men I have met had given me the impression and have spoken, "If you need help with anythng let me know, " and when I have let them know...crickets. I dated a guy who automatically knew he was needed, I never had to ask him for anything, he saw a need and provided. I appreciated everything he did for me, mindful that he too had needs, and I reciprocated. We were both givers/providers for each other. The point is that men are the providers if he is saying "I will provide for you," the words have to become action.
The advice I didn't include in this video but you are so intelligently alluding to is that when a man doesn't want to provide or do anything for you he probably doesn't like you that much and you should leave him and find a man who does adore you. Thank you for highlighting this concept.
Nope... Never enough... They are WAY MORE COMPLEX AND COMPLICATED THAN WE ARE! It's Madness!!!! They refuse to give you the one thing you want the most so... We have to not want them at all! It's crazy! I've about given up...
There's a quote from a movie that really resonates with me. She was asked why she hadn't married yet and she said she was waiting.... "I'm looking for a man I can rely on. A man I can truly depend on". And I think of that often. I wait for men to open doors. And then they do. I walk in and let them walk first. They lead into the bar and I walk behind watching over the entire room. If I don't know what I want I let him choose the kind of beer I like. He asks where we should sit and I point to an area to where friends are or we can sit in quiet. It works every time. Every man I've done this with just melts for me. He tells me his hopes and dreams and I encourage the best of him. I draw examples from my own experiences and make relevant to him. I control the conversation through listening and when things get boring I make a comment on external factors. A joke or observation. It always works. I am a counselor so I enjoy the psychoanalysis!
Ladies what do we care about what they want... What has happened to the world men should be caring about what women want they are to be caring about what it takes to keep us satisfied we have flipped the situation and turned it around and been consumed with what it is or how to get a man ... Do we really need a man that bad maybe it's just me but I'm just really getting sick and tired of what a woman has to do to get a man All we got to do women is be ourselves and the correct man God will send to you you will run into and you will meet and be the love of his life what we have to do is stop throwing ourselves at men who are not interested in us when you see those red flags walk away .. I feel too much power and authority is given to this and this is not the way it's meant to be.. women if we start taking our power back and we stop giving it to these men and what it is that they want from us start valueing ourselves and make them put a ring on it they're going to give us what we need and we're going to be able to connect ourselves with the correct man that's what the problem is so we got to wait we got to learn how to be happy and satisfied with ourselves & not getting a man ... If you're a believer with the Lord.. if you not a believer find something to put your attention to some type of hobby and wait until you find the right man keep your legs closed stop giving these men so much power and authority over our lives we are supposed to be their helpmates not sitting around trying to figure out what we can do to get ourselves to be attractive to them.. I don't find no problem in being pretty in and putting on makeup and stuff like that ..but I think it's going a little bit too far now we got to sit down and figure out what it takes to get a man thing over 40 to be attracted to us no he (the man)ought to be coming after us they ought to be sitting around trying to figure out how to get a woman ... It's just me... This world is losing it people wake up.. self control is what's missing.. the internet is helping this thing that's separating men and women from each other and breaking down the family... That's what's really wrong... Ladies get back to basics keep them legs closed and make a man value you and if not you wait till you meet the right one and if you don't live your life enjoy and peace ✌️
Was getting ready to post the EXACT SAME MESSAGE!!! To hell with what men want, they had better be concerned with what WE want!! Women have proven over and over that we can make it alone!!! Men can't, they NEED a woman!!
Wonderful! Appreciate your comment, all I read was all Truth. Ladies listen to her. I feel the same way, when I see all these what to do videos. The men are who need to be told what to do. There are too many so called grown men who are completely clueless . You should create your own channel.💯
@@AngieMartine23 GOOD MORNING TRUE LOVE WILL FIND ITS WAY TO US.. ALL WE HAVE TO DO IS BELIEVE IT... WE DON'T WANT A COURT GESTURE... WE ARE QUEENS AND NOTHING BUT A KING SHOULD WE SIT NEXT TO.. 👑🕴️💕💃👑
The reason I was successful and respected in my male dominated field is because I didn’t dip my pen in company ink, but more so because I loved and respected my husband so much. Told him every day I wouldn’t be successful at work with out him he got my everyday started right, made sure I looked good, looked professional (He took care of all of my business clothes because I am terrible at ironing and ruined a ton of tops over starching them).
This video is absolutely right, it made me remember a lot of situations from my past relationship when we had fights because she didn't let me lead, she didn't let me do things for her because she "didn't want to bother me" or she is very independent... most of those things destroyed our relationship. Thank you!
A good man once told me, "You've got to let people do things for you!" I hadn't realized I was taking the reins, cuz I've just always felt like nobody wanted to take care of my needs. I hope More men these days realize that women DO want a provider and to be treated like a lady. Thanks for your reply EZ Dating Coach. For some reason I couldn't reply to your reply.
Yes...i love what you're saying here🧡men seem to dislike a masculine woman. They say some women are too bold in doing a mans role and not soft and feminine and not allowing a man to help them, feel wanted, needed and acknowledged or respected. This is what my guy notices about their friends girlfriends. My guy says he's thankful that I'm lovable and easy going and supportive to his help
I love this clear, concise and sound advice! Being independent is a superpower, but so is knowing how to balance that with honesty, vulnerability and positive reinforcement. This advice couldn’t be more solid. You’ve gained a new subbie!
Full transparency, I thought not being needy, not being an extra burden on a man would cause him to want to stay...never thought it was driving him away.😔
It's a balance and that's why we can't figure it out... Because they don't like when we are too needy but they want to feel needed. And they think we're the difficult ones! 😑🤷
I hate being forced in my masculine in a relationship. I didn't realize until I started exploring my femininity. I feel very content being a sexy woman who needs a man she can lien on. I want to know he's got my back. I'm super independent and like my freedom, but I also like feeling protected, honored and respected. I thinkbthis is great advice!
All four of these tips apply to women too. It’s just basic human considerations. My guideline is: What you guessed out, you get back. Basically, the Golden Rule. When I live this way, relationships become fluid. However, if a relationship doesn’t work out or wasn’t meant to be, I wish them well and move on.
We need Love...and this... being two, gives us security..but, Th journey is all about succeeding as 1...then, meet someone who also wants to share their best days
I love how society grooms us to do it all and not groom men to step up and lead with love not with their EGO.... imagine where I didn’t have to ask for a cup of anything and he was so intuitive to my needs he just stepped up and did it! Then he made his presence NEEDED! 😳
I am 39 and he is 49, I accepted him, I needed him, I wanted include him but he decided to be everything opposite of what he showed me he is the first year of our relationship. Than he started to show control, which made me physically sick to this day ( 4 years together of me being stupid and not leaving after I saw a glimpse of bad behavior)
I can be considered an alpha female with lots of masculine energy, but I've learned thru lots of self help relationship talks n vids how to lean into my feminine power..now I dont equate that as being a yes woman or a doormat completely submissive. You have to pick your battles and I was so independent I didn't know how to receive love, I saw a lot of red flags with a rebound fling, I look back n see I was doing too much, fell into a mother role and there began the resentment... I've found the man of my dreams this year, and I let him spoil me, he opens doors, helps me with my coat, buys me flowers because during our talking phase I made him aware of my expectations and funny thing now looking back,, he not only listened but asked follow up questions as to what color flowers n even plants I liked, he wrote them down on index cards, i gave him that road map/power because he craves the responsibility, he want to rise to the occasion, he wants to make me happy, seeing me smile n laugh gives him a sense of accomplishment that even the best sex can't replicate.. Mike is right on with NAAB. You don't need to cater to your man in an artificial manner. They will see thru it, trust me..put in the work to be able to turn that masculine switch on and off..sometimes u need it at work, or when your children are being mistreated. You won't lose yourself, you'll become a better woman n men 40+ find that to be attractive as all hell. Great job Mike. You helped me find my twin flame. Love from NYC/NJ metro area
@@EZDatingCoach Thank. I might just purposely projecting now the unapproachable woman (46) because I was hurt for so many years. Just got ghosted by someone who did not even met on a dating site, but was my recruiter and talked for almost a year after he placed me. How can I even trust going on a dating site? I did not even initiated this, yet ghosted me.
I'd done those things and my partners were crazy about me, but the problem is they weren't the man that I expected to be. And now I've been single for a year and don't have interest to start a relationship with any guy, I feel it's so hard to get the type of man that I want in life
Sounds like the relationship I have with my dog. And the love is unconditional. Unfortunately, men over 40 should be able to articulate and discuss their needs, like a human being. Too much work otherwise.
@@l.sanchez8995 ... 😂😂😂😂😂😂.. even dogs most likely to be much better than may of those who consider themselves among the "men".. My God what creepers they could be 😂😂😂
Men over 40 normally pick based on honesty and integrity. No matter what any one thinks looks also have a large part in it but not what the ignorant ones think. Eyes smile are the most important. Games are a big turn off unless you are a male who never grew up.
That’s so true about feeling needed. I’ve always been independent and didn’t understand that. But after I hurt my back pretty seriously, my man dove right in to help me and we got closer. 👍🏻
Pleaseeeeeeeee, it would be nice if this would be actually true! They do it when they have hots for you and then they shut you out like we are nothing.
So true. Not disrespectful to you Mr EZ Dating Coach, these 4 'requirements' shows women that the men needed the reassurance more. That is the reason why more women are pushed to be independent and stronger.
Some men over 40 have already been through many relationships or marriage... have children... are saying they want to just be alone now. Is around because of acceptance yes... and you are there for him but he hangs back now. He wants to be pursued
Not me. I'm 41 never been married no children and I feel it's already too late in my life to get that. Cuz ladies only overlook me without even making any effort to get to know who I am, and jumping to instant conclusions I'm not her type. So I gave up!
Telling people how you want things done in my experience gets me to be called bossy, selfish, unbending, principled (which I like), obsessive, weird, odd and old fashion.
@@watwatwatnext EZ Dating Coach is an idiot. Think about the type of man you want..now be realistic..Will he appreciate a bossy, weird bitch to spend his life with ? EZ dating coach will tell you what u wanna hear but the reality is, you need to change yourself for the better. Become the type of woman that men want
I struggled with this too. The helpful answers I've found are: tone of voice (asking v ordering), motives (need v control), reciprocating (taking & giving), kindness (please/thank you)! And lastly: perfection does not exist! If you are going to write someone off without giving him or her the opportunity to correct... you will be single for life. Unrealistic expectations are bad...
Thanks for mentioning how women are forced to work in their masculin in order to be successful at work or get a promotion. It's so true and a topic few discuss about.
Mike everyone needs to feel needed. I am successful but I love a guy To be there I think it is that we worked hard to do both roles because the man let us down. you loose sight and I really need to learn how to acknowledge the small things and proactively make the efforts to convey appreciation.
It is refreshing to hear a man acknowledge the fact that women are forced to be in their masculine side so much today in order to succeed. We really need men to hep us go back into our feminine side.
This is why I prefer to go to a man's place instead of inviting him at mine.. He feels needed and, an big one, I can be spoiled... When I invite à man at my place I serve drinks, make food... Cause I am at my place. I prefer it the other way around. It also give me the chance to receive and thank him 😊 I love it when men do things for me, like planning a date, arrange a hike, cook dinner or just pour me a glas of wine. So I always suggest thinks, he processes and I praise him for executing my idea (this sounds bad writing it 🤣) One thing though I notice, some man did that in the past, were not really praised and so become little lazy... I really have to put much effort and praising to get them back on their active masculine... Yet I am getting there. Men round me are starting to step up how I like it. Thank you for your video's Mike, love them 💕
You are a giver which is fabulous! However, you and your partner will be best served when you receive and appreciate. (Definetly go to his house to make it easier). 💜💜
When we do everything alone and really want a man. How do we get a man to feel needed? I have been binge watching Adrienne Helena and others... I really get lost in the “do not do it for control” uggg”men can sense your intentions? This is sooo hard! AND now I know why I have scared every man away for the last 40 years. Or have attracted nightmares.
It doesn’t have to be so complicated. I’m an older woman loving my younger man. I never knew I had so much to share and explore. My Nursing Profession became a memory with retirement and finally I have time for “the most important thing in our lives “. Cherish him! That’s all.
My husband of 15 years told me when I ask him if he could take me to the hospital when I was pregnant with our 1. Child a son “ How is that my problem - that shouldn’t be my problem - that is your problem - why don’t you take a taxi !” - that was just one example about how helpful he is...
Wow. Where are these men at around 40 and up that aren’t reverted back to loving being single and doing their own thing? Where is this man you speak of that wants an independent man who he is dependent on? They must be on an island somewhere...
I think the onus on you in the relationship no matter the gender or sex to show what they can add to that person’s life. No one is needed, especially not romantically. You basically have to show off to your partner as to what you can do for them to woo them. It’s not fair for the other person to “make you feel” anything.
Thanks for that “EZ” advice. I definitely relate to #1. I am very independent and take pride in it; however, I can tell it can be a block or barrier when in a relationship with a man.
One thing I look for and can’t speak for other men, I need to be understood. If I am not listened to and understood, I rather spend that time with myself or my hobbies and passions.
I loved this information and I really appreciate your approach. I think I can speak for at least a few of us when I say we want to learn how to relate to men better and have successful partnerships. Thank you for educating in a way that is both realistic and respectful.
Why is it when you do need them they back off? Especially when they said oh you can call me something along that line, I do which I normally don't and he doesn't come though..
😂this is why women became independent to begin with 😂 For real now we have to believe if we need “ them they’ll come through? 😳😒😀 l was married to one who wanted the sandwich 🥪 and he never ever came through on anything until we divorced 🙃
these 4 things Mike seem more useful in KEEPING a man you've met and are having a relationship with. I've just turned 60 and in the last few years of online dating I'm not finding any men in a 20 year age range who WANT anything more than a casual relationship. Your advice doesn't do anything to help me FIND a man over 40 who WANTS a relationship. Do men under 40 have different requirements?
Thanks for sharing your perspective. I am best known for my ability to help women over 60 find an amazing man. I built a webinar that will show you a strategy to get a great guy. You can sign up it for free here: www.ezdatingcoach.com/
Love these dating coaches that say let a man pursue you. Only for every man that pursue get friend zone or blown off completely. A man sets date and makes his intentions clear. So many guys take that advice as texting, calling all the time. So your basically telling them have clingy stalkerish behavior. Men will pursue...their passion and life's mission. Nothing more nothing less.
How's that working for you?? Yes. He needs those things. And you give them to him when your in a Relationship. Until then...they want the exact opposite. They like the chase and the challenge.
@@crystalanamericaninsicily just curious if your a man or woman? As a man I can tell.you for a fact that everytime I pursued got friendzone or I think of you as a friend. I am currently in a great relationship with a woman whom I did not speak to for a month after a few dates. That went really well. She reached out to me and things have been great since. How does love and attraction grow if there is no space and time? We pursue to ask a lady out. Set all the details. Hang out and have fun. You are asking a man to not be masculine. If he is always texting, calling etc. I bet we could take a poll on this and find that everyone of these ladies has friend zoned guys just like that. I have lived this. This is not something I read in a book.
So if a man isn’t showing as much interest as he did for first 2 dates (not yet intimate, first coffee then dinner because he wanted to), is it ok to tell him “so I feel you aren’t really interested because you haven’t made any new plans to meet up with me, and I do like you a ton but I do want someone who wants me, too, do you know anyone who you think might be looking for what I’m looking for? I’m really excited about mtg someone who wants what I want .” He did also express interest in marriage and just being with one person on date 2, but I get that doesn’t mean it would be with me and that’s ok, it’s just hard to meet people in this little hometown of mine I moved back to
1. Needs to feel needed. 2. Appreciate 3. Acceptance 4. Boundaries I don't mind conflict but he hated it. He was too insecure for that. If I went out, he'd smash my house to bits. This may be true for a normal man but not for a narcissistic one this is quite the opposite.
My mother, a clever woman, knows the first rule very well. She knows how to use the most complicated sewing maschines, but in the kitchen, there is a radio with two buttons and she asks my father: “Please, help, how can I turn this on? She by the way uses all these things. I have thought that she is only bossy when she says to my father who’s looking at the news on tv:”Can you come and.. (do something.)” Then my father stand up and does that something. As a result, over 50 years of marriage.
Great stuff, Mike. I love the words you use to explain this being different words than a woman-life-coach might use. So you helping me to understand relationships from and man's perspective has been spectacular.
I have been watching high caliber women videos that insist men pay the tab. It’s affirming that you 2nd that. Your boundaries formula is fantastic. I haven’t heard it presented that way. Good stuff.
The problem is many men dont think like they are emotionally or reason like a 40yr old ....this applies to those rare exceptions that think and act their chronological age ...🌝
I accept him for who he is, but he doesn't accept me who I am. Being needed he never helps me with anything. Appreciate, he doesn't care he's selfish, I am the one helping him. All he thinks is about himself. I wait and wait and nothing happens. I'm tired I thought him so much , I make him feel likes man and respect him. He doesn't respond Me. Boundaries he never takes anywhere. I feel he nothing but a narcissist and I am done with this. Thank you 🙏🏽
Good .. controlling what goes on in your life.. he has you as his woman...why do he seek pleasure in other women.. you are queen bee 🐝👀.. anyway stay blessed 🙏
This is really weird, as a woman I feel like an ex-lion tamer and got departed in not so good terms with my former lions so I take notes on how to be happy with my next lion so he won’t walk away or eat me alive.
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Of all the vids I've seen about understanding men, this one succintly sums up the whole matter. Great vid but I'm going to practice boundaries on you..It would make me so happy if you would not use the term BJ in you vids. Lololol
@@kerriealison6545 - Thank you for the amazing compliment!!
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Such a bullshit.........it is soooo easy to impress and help your woman....a dog , a child a grandmother, a teacher, a nurse, a busy business woman....ANYONE......(all humans - around the world are the SAAAMMMEEE) when you care you have eyes and ear to hear.....PLEASE READ , what she wrote here : When my husband left us homeless I truly NEEDED a man and didn't have one so I had to man up for myself. How sad is that...another true comment :...I don't see men as men these days they are more like buy me give me they act like a female these days. I hate to hear this bullshit repeatedly.....Thank goodness, I did my research around the world... third real life experience comment : This only works if they are Mentally healthy And WANT a relationship... I haven't found any!!!! ..................He didn't want to be appreciated he wanted just nothing but control not all men are that good
I KNOW HUMAN BEINGS.................AND THIS LAST COMMENT IS VERY TRUE............it took me a long time until a couple of years ago.........i found out, that men are not impressive at all...............they are the victim of..................& at the same time, they did not realize this : the use and abuse women.........to...............get what they want.....they do this with everyone.
Hi Mike!Greetings from a side of this planet..lol.I'm happy to found you pops up on my porch this is my first time watching your video and i suscribe immediately.I'll be 47 this year and My boyfriend will be 60.We''re in a LDR and been together for 2 years now but unfortunately we have not met yet because of this covid.To me,what you have shared w/us in this video is so TRUE! I'm doing it all of them by mailing and phone.Not because i pretend to be but more likely i do Need,appreciate,accept and have boundaries w/him.Thank you Mike you just make my day🤗.Stay safe ttyl and GBU.
Men like who they like! Period. All of the do this and do that does not mean a hill of beans to most men. A man will jump through hoops for the woman that he wants.
@Trish Malone yep... We can try these things and not scare away the right one but if he isn't the right one then yeah he'll be focused on someone else that may or may not be good for him. They like who they like. I know!
For awhile...
Yes!.. And I swear it's 100% off looks!! They just want a certain look and that's it. They don't really care about your personality or success!
Brooke Benton absolutely!
@@brookebenton8192 yep!
When my husband left us homeless I truly NEEDED a man and didn't have one so I had to man up for myself. I worked 2 jobs, started my own business, raised my daughter and rescued myself. Now, the only men that show up are moochers. I will never NEED a man again!
Yes 100 totally understand
So so so true
and you still call them "men"!!!
they are most likely to be just selfish shit creepers..
Congrats sometimes men can be stressful in life ..strong woman yeah😘💪🏼
Watch ashera7... i have had the same problems.
1. Needed 2. Appreciated 3. Accepted 4. Boundaries Thank you for that!!
I am independent. I don't need a knight in shining armor to come an save me...but it would be nice to have one who wants to.
Agreed!!!!
My ex narc use to even say that he wasn't my knight in shining armour. Always wondered why he even thought that and presumed it was to hurt my feelings or get out of doing something necessary. So when I was leaving I told him, "You're right, you are not my knight in shining armour, so get out of his f$&@:#% way! There is always some kind of truth in what they say but it's backwards thinking a lot of the time.
@@cajokyze - I love that quote!! Good for you for standing up for yourself!
1@@cajokyze If someone tells you who they are, believe them
@@candykelly2705 true
Mine are the same with the addition of don’t lie to me and don’t try to f*ck everything that moves behind my back. I don’t date often anymore because I am tired of setting a boundary of “don’t lie to me” which should fall under basic human decency.
weak men lie. The Truth needs nothing!!
Amen
Hi Low
So... make him "feel needed" but don't ever be "needy." Simple. 🙄
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The difference is in building someone up rather than pulling them down.✨💖✨
Being older (now) I see the make him feel needed without being needy as easier. Maybe it's also because I'm determined to be in my 'feminine' AND successful. Fed up with barely surviving emotionally in a masculine world.
The guy that made this literally looks like he constantly cheats on women, just a p*ssy eater and “you are what you eat”. Trash video, can’t even finish it.
😂😂😂 exactly and they say women are complicated!
Even when the man gets all these 4 traits they can still leave you...happened to me...!
Nancy Gaudreau, you deserve better 🙏🙏🙏
In 21st c men want financially independent women
I’m sorry to hear that Nancy
Soooo bloody true...the discard was horrendous 😭
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Be yourself ,love yourself , respect yourself, appreciate him.
Hi LA
Women also want to needed and appreciated accepted and share boundaries. And to know that both of you do not cross boundaries with other people like cheating.
Instead of me making him feel needed how about his parents instilling confidence in him to begin with so when he meets a woman who can do for herself he understands that he's there because he's wanted. It's so much better to be wanted than needed.
That part!!!
Friendship + caring+teamwork= A Good relationship...
I like that!!! 🙌🙌
This only works if they are Mentally healthy And WANT a relationship... I haven't found any!!!! 🤷😩
Keep looking, they exist and don't settle for one that isn't healthy. 💜💜
I would say stop looking! That is being in the masculine. Instead, I would set the intention “I am ready for a man who is ready to explore a relationship with me.” That means that you must prepare YOURSELF for the type of man worthy of your best self. When you are truly ready, he will appear. ✨💖✨
You will. Think Positive. Never say never.
Me too I haven't find my man yet I'm single mom
@@leonorcadalin5980 Start going to the Corner Bar and start having Drinks where High quality Men are. 😉
What actually attracts a man on a deep subconscious level and what they want on a conscious level are two very different things. They may say they "want" this or that, but that is not always what they need to actually stay invested.
where can I find out more about this topic? I mean the differences between conscious and subconscious level needs?
I see women in a complete masculine role with some of my friends that have raised children by themselves for many years. I have at least 4 solid examples of beautiful, kind,educated and fully self sufficient women that have been single for years and either have a very hard time keeping a man or have given up all together. It boggles my mind.
I think part of the reason is simply because they keep that constant mindset of I can do this all by myself, I don't need you. So while being independent is great, giving the man a chance to be helpful and needed is probably a great tip.
#1. Make him feel NEEDED
#2. Make him feel APPRECIATED
#3. Make him feel ACCEPTED for who he is
#4. A man needs BOUNDARIES
Ya can't be too nice to anyone but cats.
#5. Men dont need no girls with #CrazyEyes
Who cares they don’t reciprocate lol
Your gonna become a carpet ride thats all youll be lol swept under that rug
*As you mature, choosing someone who aligns with your life goals and brings genuine joy becomes so much more fulfilling!*
Some men I have met had given me the impression and have spoken, "If you need help with anythng let me know, " and when I have let them know...crickets. I dated a guy who automatically knew he was needed, I never had to ask him for anything, he saw a need and provided. I appreciated everything he did for me, mindful that he too had needs, and I reciprocated. We were both givers/providers for each other. The point is that men are the providers if he is saying "I will provide for you," the words have to become action.
The advice I didn't include in this video but you are so intelligently alluding to is that when a man doesn't want to provide or do anything for you he probably doesn't like you that much and you should leave him and find a man who does adore you. Thank you for highlighting this concept.
Is it not enough for men?? That we enjoy hanging out with them, cuddle, have fun with, meals etc etc??
That is a good start. But, my video outlines what they need for a satisfying, fulfiling relationship. 💜💜
Thanks Mike.... you always look so lovely 💖
@@clairefoxall2313 thank you!!! 💜💜
Okkkkk never enough..DAMN but we needy..they call us Clingy..
Nope... Never enough... They are WAY MORE COMPLEX AND COMPLICATED THAN WE ARE! It's Madness!!!! They refuse to give you the one thing you want the most so... We have to not want them at all! It's crazy! I've about given up...
There's a quote from a movie that really resonates with me. She was asked why she hadn't married yet and she said she was waiting.... "I'm looking for a man I can rely on. A man I can truly depend on". And I think of that often. I wait for men to open doors. And then they do. I walk in and let them walk first. They lead into the bar and I walk behind watching over the entire room. If I don't know what I want I let him choose the kind of beer I like. He asks where we should sit and I point to an area to where friends are or we can sit in quiet. It works every time. Every man I've done this with just melts for me. He tells me his hopes and dreams and I encourage the best of him. I draw examples from my own experiences and make relevant to him. I control the conversation through listening and when things get boring I make a comment on external factors. A joke or observation. It always works. I am a counselor so I enjoy the psychoanalysis!
Ladies what do we care about what they want... What has happened to the world men should be caring about what women want they are to be caring about what it takes to keep us satisfied we have flipped the situation and turned it around and been consumed with what it is or how to get a man ... Do we really need a man that bad maybe it's just me but I'm just really getting sick and tired of what a woman has to do to get a man
All we got to do women is be ourselves and the correct man God will send to you you will run into and you will meet and be the love of his life what we have to do is stop throwing ourselves at men who are not interested in us when you see those red flags walk away ..
I feel too much power and authority is given to this and this is not the way it's meant to be..
women if we start taking our power back and we stop giving it to these men and what it is that they want from us start valueing ourselves and make them put a ring on it they're going to give us what we need and we're going to be able to connect ourselves with the correct man that's what the problem is so we got to wait we got to learn how to be happy and satisfied with ourselves & not getting a man ...
If you're a believer with the Lord.. if you not a believer find something to put your attention to some type of hobby and wait until you find the right man keep your legs closed stop giving these men so much power and authority over our lives we are supposed to be their helpmates not sitting around trying to figure out what we can do to get ourselves to be attractive to them..
I don't find no problem in being pretty in and putting on makeup and stuff like that ..but I think it's going a little bit too far now we got to sit down and figure out what it takes to get a man thing over 40 to be attracted to us no he (the man)ought to be coming after us they ought to be sitting around trying to figure out how to get a woman ... It's just me... This world is losing it people wake up.. self control is what's missing.. the internet is helping this thing that's separating men and women from each other and breaking down the family... That's what's really wrong... Ladies get back to basics keep them legs closed and make a man value you and if not you wait till you meet the right one and if you don't live your life enjoy and peace ✌️
(+2348147824491) Send him a message on WhatsApp He will help you bring your partner back.
Was getting ready to post the EXACT SAME MESSAGE!!! To hell with what men want, they had better be concerned with what WE want!! Women have proven over and over that we can make it alone!!! Men can't, they NEED a woman!!
That’s what I think when I see these video.Why not please us.
Wonderful! Appreciate your comment, all I read was all Truth. Ladies listen to her. I feel the same way, when I see all these what to do videos. The men are who need to be told what to do. There are too many so called grown men who are completely clueless . You should create your own channel.💯
@@AngieMartine23 GOOD MORNING TRUE LOVE WILL FIND ITS WAY TO US.. ALL WE HAVE TO DO IS BELIEVE IT... WE DON'T WANT A COURT GESTURE... WE ARE QUEENS AND NOTHING BUT A KING SHOULD WE SIT NEXT TO.. 👑🕴️💕💃👑
The reason I was successful and respected in my male dominated field is because I didn’t dip my pen in company ink, but more so because I loved and respected my husband so much. Told him every day I wouldn’t be successful at work with out him he got my everyday started right, made sure I looked good, looked professional (He took care of all of my business clothes because I am terrible at ironing and ruined a ton of tops over starching them).
Gorgeous!
So nice very good you are such a beautiful lady
Give me more experience in email
Hi Nicole
Appreciation is by far a better feeling to convey than needed.
The word appreciated denotes greater thx then needed
A man wants to feel needed. A woman wants to feel wanted..
A woman wants to be validated..
True
This video is absolutely right, it made me remember a lot of situations from my past relationship when we had fights because she didn't let me lead, she didn't let me do things for her because she "didn't want to bother me" or she is very independent... most of those things destroyed our relationship. Thank you!
I like your calm, quiet, gentle way of explaining things.
I can listen easier and better with this approach.
And the visuals are great too.
Thank you very much!!! 💜💜
A good man once told me, "You've got to let people do things for you!" I hadn't realized I was taking the reins, cuz I've just always felt like nobody wanted to take care of my needs. I hope More men these days realize that women DO want a provider and to be treated like a lady. Thanks for your reply EZ Dating Coach. For some reason I couldn't reply to your reply.
You're welcome.
I love to see us women standing up for ourselves in this comment section 👏🏾
Me too!
Yes! Strong men can handle a strong women, period. Stay aware from insecure men. It will bring along other issues.
Yes...i love what you're saying here🧡men seem to dislike a masculine woman. They say some women are too bold in doing a mans role and not soft and feminine and not allowing a man to help them, feel wanted, needed and acknowledged or respected. This is what my guy notices about their friends girlfriends. My guy says he's thankful that I'm lovable and easy going and supportive to his help
Hello Gerri
Hi Gerri
I love this clear, concise and sound advice! Being independent is a superpower, but so is knowing how to balance that with honesty, vulnerability and positive reinforcement. This advice couldn’t be more solid. You’ve gained a new subbie!
Full transparency, I thought not being needy, not being an extra burden on a man would cause him to want to stay...never thought it was driving him away.😔
It's a balance and that's why we can't figure it out... Because they don't like when we are too needy but they want to feel needed. And they think we're the difficult ones! 😑🤷
@@vhayashi7369 exactly
Women have perfected the art of men since the beginning of time so don’t overthink this. No Acronyms are required. 🤷🏽♀️
I hate being forced in my masculine in a relationship. I didn't realize until I started exploring my femininity. I feel very content being a sexy woman who needs a man she can lien on. I want to know he's got my back. I'm super independent and like my freedom, but I also like feeling protected, honored and respected. I thinkbthis is great advice!
Thank you!
Totally agree👍
I agree! The differences in men and women is what makes me like them, lol ☺️.
Me " honey would you please grab me a glass of water?"
Him " something wrong with your legs?" 🤣
Hahahaha
😂😂😂😂 that's too good 👍👍👍👍
Lol
Hahaha next thing you drive him away🏃♂️🏃♂️🏃♂️
ha ha lol!!!!
All four of these tips apply to women too. It’s just basic human considerations. My guideline is: What you guessed out, you get back. Basically, the Golden Rule. When I live this way, relationships become fluid. However, if a relationship doesn’t work out or wasn’t meant to be, I wish them well and move on.
Hi Joy
We need Love...and this... being two, gives us security..but,
Th journey is all about succeeding as 1...then, meet someone who also wants to share their best days
No we don't need love, we need sex. Security is a myth. There is no such thing as security really.
1 does she ADD or take away 2 does she give good feels and has my back? 3. Are MY goals , HER goals.
I love how society grooms us to do it all and not groom men to step up and lead with love not with their EGO.... imagine where I didn’t have to ask for a cup of anything and he was so intuitive to my needs he just stepped up and did it! Then he made his presence NEEDED! 😳
Yes, life would be amazing if both men and women were mind readers. Unfortunately, there is no app for that yet.
@@EZDatingCoach LOL
Aww again waiting for someone else to tell you how to be a decent human being with empathy! Good one! I should work on this app!!!
Very unrealistic expectation of a human .
@@redhead8777 in my world... Nope. God delivers every single time. I have a request
@@Lxoxo333 yes, me too! Praise God! GOD IS PERFECTION, Not mankind! Thanks for making that distinction; I've changed my comment!
Honey, can you get me a glass of water? ? Honey? CAN’T YOU SEE I’M WATCHING THE GAME??? lol 😆
Change the can to would. 😁😁
@@EZDatingCoach oh! lol learn something new everyday! Thanks
Lol
@@anitanapp6759 you're welcome
'Please' would be nice, too.
I am 39 and he is 49, I accepted him, I needed him, I wanted include him but he decided to be everything opposite of what he showed me he is the first year of our relationship. Than he started to show control, which made me physically sick to this day ( 4 years together of me being stupid and not leaving after I saw a glimpse of bad behavior)
You are right how are you doing
so sorry about that
Almost 50, who are you leaving him to?😂😂
@@jasonbeckam6558 great, thanks for asking
@@jasonbeckam6558 it's ok, just a lessson in life, made me grow and care about myself like never before
I can be considered an alpha female with lots of masculine energy, but I've learned thru lots of self help relationship talks n vids how to lean into my feminine power..now I dont equate that as being a yes woman or a doormat completely submissive. You have to pick your battles and I was so independent I didn't know how to receive love, I saw a lot of red flags with a rebound fling, I look back n see I was doing too much, fell into a mother role and there began the resentment...
I've found the man of my dreams this year, and I let him spoil me, he opens doors, helps me with my coat, buys me flowers because during our talking phase I made him aware of my expectations and funny thing now looking back,, he not only listened but asked follow up questions as to what color flowers n even plants I liked, he wrote them down on index cards, i gave him that road map/power because he craves the responsibility, he want to rise to the occasion, he wants to make me happy, seeing me smile n laugh gives him a sense of accomplishment that even the best sex can't replicate..
Mike is right on with NAAB. You don't need to cater to your man in an artificial manner. They will see thru it, trust me..put in the work to be able to turn that masculine switch on and off..sometimes u need it at work, or when your children are being mistreated. You won't lose yourself, you'll become a better woman n men 40+ find that to be attractive as all hell.
Great job Mike. You helped me find my twin flame. Love from NYC/NJ metro area
Wahooo!!!!!!!! I am so happy to hear you found your twin flame. Much Love, Mike
Michelle Lyn...don't feel too bad because there's an alpha female wolf living up the mountain.
Coach Jonathan Aslay says to lean into your masculine..men need to feel resistance push/ pull
I already raised a child. Back than it was a problem that I had a baggage, now that I'm too accomplished.
Not a problem for the right guy! Both will be benefits of dating you. Shift your mindset and shift what you get. Much Love!
@@EZDatingCoach Thank you. I wasn't expected you to comment me. Thank you for the kind words.
@@Lukrecia_Macskassy You're welcome.
@@EZDatingCoach Thank. I might just purposely projecting now the unapproachable woman (46) because I was hurt for so many years. Just got ghosted by someone who did not even met on a dating site, but was my recruiter and talked for almost a year after he placed me. How can I even trust going on a dating site? I did not even initiated this, yet ghosted me.
@@Lukrecia_Macskassy - Perhaps take some time and work on yourself before you date?
A hard habit to break is independence. No wonder I’m single.
It's hard to break when you've been single for a long time and had to do everything your way.
I'd done those things and my partners were crazy about me, but the problem is they weren't the man that I expected to be. And now I've been single for a year and don't have interest to start a relationship with any guy, I feel it's so hard to get the type of man that I want in life
Be patient, life is long. When you are ready you will go get your right partner.
Wonderful advice, thank you so much!
You're welcome
Compatibility that's all you need in a relationship
Not only this :)
Naab
Needed
Appreciated
Acceptance
Boundaries
Thank you!!!
Sounds like the relationship I have with my dog. And the love is unconditional. Unfortunately, men over 40 should be able to articulate and discuss their needs, like a human being. Too much work otherwise.
@@l.sanchez8995 LoL
@@l.sanchez8995 ... 😂😂😂😂😂😂.. even dogs most likely to be much better than may of those who consider themselves among the "men".. My God what creepers they could be 😂😂😂
thank you. saved me time.
I bolt when i discover a man is too needy,... huge turn off for me.
Understandable.
Me as well. They expect me to take care of their asses 😴
Should not be in a man’s nature- agreed!
Or controlling. He needs to go (as in yesterday)! We are equal partners or nothing.
@@KayNovember26 Absolutely Mila! I've had relationships with both types, neither is good.
My father told me it's better to be with a man because I want to be with him, not because I need to be with him. If a man's that insecure, then Idk...
Well said!
Men over 40 normally pick based on honesty and integrity. No matter what any one thinks looks also have a large part in it but not what the ignorant ones think. Eyes smile are the most important. Games are a big turn off unless you are a male who never grew up.
This does always work not everyone fits in this box sometimes they want to leave you but don't have the balls to do it good luck everyone !
That’s so true about feeling needed. I’ve always been independent and didn’t understand that. But after I hurt my back pretty seriously, my man dove right in to help me and we got closer. 👍🏻
Love that!!! 💜💜
That’s just what someone who cares about you should do
He didn't want to be appreciated he wanted just nothing but control not all men are that good
Pleaseeeeeeeee, it would be nice if this would be actually true! They do it when they have hots for you and then they shut you out like we are nothing.
So true. Not disrespectful to you Mr EZ Dating Coach, these 4 'requirements' shows women that the men needed the reassurance more. That is the reason why more women are pushed to be independent and stronger.
Hello Aleksandra
A man doing that is not a good man
1. Needed
2. Appreciated
3. Acceptance of him
4. Boundaries
N.A.A.B!!!!
Some men over 40 have already been through many relationships or marriage... have children... are saying they want to just be alone now. Is around because of acceptance yes... and you are there for him but he hangs back now. He wants to be pursued
Not me. I'm 41 never been married no children and I feel it's already too late in my life to get that. Cuz ladies only overlook me without even making any effort to get to know who I am, and jumping to instant conclusions I'm not her type. So I gave up!
Im glad i found this video because for some reason past couple years more and more men over 40 been approching me IN A TONS & and im still in my 30s
Telling people how you want things done in my experience gets me to be called bossy, selfish, unbending, principled (which I like), obsessive, weird, odd and old fashion.
The man who adores you will like it.
Thanks, that's reassuring .
@@watwatwatnext EZ Dating Coach is an idiot. Think about the type of man you want..now be realistic..Will he appreciate a bossy, weird bitch to spend his life with ? EZ dating coach will tell you what u wanna hear but the reality is, you need to change yourself for the better. Become the type of woman that men want
I struggled with this too. The helpful answers I've found are: tone of voice (asking v ordering), motives (need v control), reciprocating (taking & giving), kindness (please/thank you)! And lastly: perfection does not exist! If you are going to write someone off without giving him or her the opportunity to correct... you will be single for life. Unrealistic expectations are bad...
Thanks for mentioning how women are forced to work in their masculin in order to be successful at work or get a promotion. It's so true and a topic few discuss about.
Mike everyone needs to feel needed. I am successful but I love a guy
To be there I think it is that we worked hard to do both roles because the man let us down. you loose sight and I really need to learn how to acknowledge the small things and proactively make the efforts to convey appreciation.
Great introspection, thanks for sharing!!
I like you
Hi Julie
It is refreshing to hear a man acknowledge the fact that women are forced to be in their masculine side so much today in order to succeed. We really need men to hep us go back into our feminine side.
@Ibrahim hamada thanks so much for your reply. My photo is 2 years old but I’m 50 years old this year.
This is why I prefer to go to a man's place instead of inviting him at mine..
He feels needed and, an big one, I can be spoiled... When I invite à man at my place I serve drinks, make food... Cause I am at my place.
I prefer it the other way around.
It also give me the chance to receive and thank him 😊
I love it when men do things for me, like planning a date, arrange a hike, cook dinner or just pour me a glas of wine. So I always suggest thinks, he processes and I praise him for executing my idea (this sounds bad writing it 🤣)
One thing though I notice, some man did that in the past, were not really praised and so become little lazy... I really have to put much effort and praising to get them back on their active masculine... Yet I am getting there. Men round me are starting to step up how I like it.
Thank you for your video's Mike, love them 💕
You are a giver which is fabulous! However, you and your partner will be best served when you receive and appreciate. (Definetly go to his house to make it easier). 💜💜
When we do everything alone and really want a man. How do we get a man to feel needed? I have been binge watching Adrienne Helena and others... I really get lost in the “do not do it for control” uggg”men can sense your intentions? This is sooo hard! AND now I know why I have scared every man away for the last 40 years. Or have attracted nightmares.
Hard to make a man feel needed who doesn’t want the responsibility of a relationship! Most single men I meet admit they are selfish.
This advice is only for men who want a conscious partnership. (Men that don't want a relationship, don't deserve you making them feel needed). 🙂
True about climbing the ladder of success!
It doesn’t have to be so complicated. I’m an older woman loving my younger man. I never knew I had so much to share and explore. My Nursing Profession became a memory with retirement and finally I have time for “the most important thing in our lives “. Cherish him! That’s all.
1. The feeling of a beneficiary.
2. The feeling of strategy.
3. The feeling of pushing you off a cliff.
4. The feeling of cha-ching.
My husband of 15 years told me when I ask him if he could take me to the hospital when I was pregnant with our 1. Child a son “ How is that my problem - that shouldn’t be my problem - that is your problem - why don’t you take a taxi !” - that was just one example about how helpful he is...
Very good explanations thanks a lot.
You're welcome
Wow. Where are these men at around 40 and up that aren’t reverted back to loving being single and doing their own thing? Where is this man you speak of that wants an independent man who he is dependent on? They must be on an island somewhere...
They in Canada baby, or ya on Vancouver island haha
Hello jess
One right here. But of course you'll just overlook me without even trying to guess what blood type I am.
@@SinisterScoundrel6562 that’s an odd thing to say. Why would I care about your blood type? Lol
@@johncenawwe6587 yea, you’re a person who likes to hide behind false for sure-just based off your handle…
I think the onus on you in the relationship no matter the gender or sex to show what they can add to that person’s life. No one is needed, especially not romantically. You basically have to show off to your partner as to what you can do for them to woo them. It’s not fair for the other person to “make you feel” anything.
Mike, I love Your NAAB acronyms. YOU are an awesome coach. Thank you for sharing your insights!
You're welcome. 🙏🙏
I do these things with my fiancé! He loves him some me & I love me some him!!!
Give it time.
Thanks for that “EZ” advice. I definitely relate to #1. I am very independent and take pride in it; however, I can tell it can be a block or barrier when in a relationship with a man.
One thing I look for and can’t speak for other men, I need to be understood. If I am not listened to and understood, I rather spend that time with myself or my hobbies and passions.
I loved this information and I really appreciate your approach. I think I can speak for at least a few of us when I say we want to learn how to relate to men better and have successful partnerships. Thank you for educating in a way that is both realistic and respectful.
Communication is a key in relationship
Why is it when you do need them they back off? Especially when they said oh you can call me something along that line, I do which I normally don't and he doesn't come though..
(+2348147824491) Send him a message on WhatsApp He will help you bring your partner back.
😂this is why women became independent to begin with 😂 For real now we have to believe if we need “ them they’ll come through? 😳😒😀 l was married to one who wanted the sandwich 🥪 and he never ever came through on anything until we divorced 🙃
I don’t need to feel needed, more like want to feel wanted, there’s a big difference
these 4 things Mike seem more useful in KEEPING a man you've met and are having a relationship with. I've just turned 60 and in the last few years of online dating I'm not finding any men in a 20 year age range who WANT anything more than a casual relationship. Your advice doesn't do anything to help me FIND a man over 40 who WANTS a relationship. Do men under 40 have different requirements?
Thanks for sharing your perspective. I am best known for my ability to help women over 60 find an amazing man. I built a webinar that will show you a strategy to get a great guy. You can sign up it for free here: www.ezdatingcoach.com/
Jorjina Wright...Great theres no hope for me then because I'm 54 years old and is widow.
#1 and #2 go hand in hand. Feeling needed but not appreciated would make anyone feel used. Man or woman.
1. A man needs to feel NEEDED 2. To be APPRECIATED 3. To be ACCEPTED 4. And he needs BOUNDARIES.
He needs to Pursue...so don't chase him. Big turnoff.
Love these dating coaches that say let a man pursue you. Only for every man that pursue get friend zone or blown off completely. A man sets date and makes his intentions clear. So many guys take that advice as texting, calling all the time. So your basically telling them have clingy stalkerish behavior. Men will pursue...their passion and life's mission. Nothing more nothing less.
How's that working for you?? Yes. He needs those things. And you give them to him when your in a Relationship. Until then...they want the exact opposite. They like the chase and the challenge.
@@briant6466 Men pursue who and what they want. But they never pursue what's pursuing them. That's why women should NEVER chase a Man.
@@crystalanamericaninsicily just curious if your a man or woman? As a man I can tell.you for a fact that everytime I pursued got friendzone or I think of you as a friend. I am currently in a great relationship with a woman whom I did not speak to for a month after a few dates. That went really well. She reached out to me and things have been great since. How does love and attraction grow if there is no space and time? We pursue to ask a lady out. Set all the details. Hang out and have fun. You are asking a man to not be masculine. If he is always texting, calling etc. I bet we could take a poll on this and find that everyone of these ladies has friend zoned guys just like that. I have lived this. This is not something I read in a book.
So if a man isn’t showing as much interest as he did for first 2 dates (not yet intimate, first coffee then dinner because he wanted to), is it ok to tell him “so I feel you aren’t really interested because you haven’t made any new plans to meet up with me, and I do like you a ton but I do want someone who wants me, too, do you know anyone who you think might be looking for what I’m looking for? I’m really excited about mtg someone who wants what I want .” He did also express interest in marriage and just being with one person on date 2, but I get that doesn’t mean it would be with me and that’s ok, it’s just hard to meet people in this little hometown of mine I moved back to
1. Needs to feel needed.
2. Appreciate
3. Acceptance
4. Boundaries
I don't mind conflict but he hated it. He was too insecure for that. If I went out, he'd smash my house to bits. This may be true for a normal man but not for a narcissistic one this is quite the opposite.
Yes, most of my advice is for healthy men. I want women to discard of unhealthy men fast.
Great info thanks ❤️💕🌹💓❤️💕
You're welcome
My mother, a clever woman, knows the first rule very well. She knows how to use the most complicated sewing maschines, but in the kitchen, there is a radio with two buttons and she asks my father: “Please, help, how can I turn this on?
She by the way uses all these things. I have thought that she is only bossy when she says to my father who’s looking at the news on tv:”Can you come and.. (do something.)” Then my father stand up and does that something.
As a result, over 50 years of marriage.
Great story!!!! Thanks for sharing.
Wow.. ❤️
Hi Sanna
You forgot 2 very importsnt items....RESPECT & LOYALTY!!!
Great stuff, Mike. I love the words you use to explain this being different words than a woman-life-coach might use. So you helping me to understand relationships from and man's perspective has been spectacular.
Thanks Joan! 💜💜
Conger are you single yet?
I am seeking for my forever now,my husband died some years ago and it feels lonely being single.
Hi JoEllen
Alright now👍🏽👍🏽
I'm new to your Channel and liking your videos from beginning to end, Great!
Well that makes sense why I can't keep a guy 🤣 I'm always showing my strong points
I have been watching high caliber women videos that insist men pay the tab. It’s affirming that you 2nd that. Your boundaries formula is fantastic. I haven’t heard it presented that way. Good stuff.
This is so true, makes so much sense keep up the great work 🙏..hello from Australia 🇦🇺
Thank you!!! And, hi!!! Fun fact, I did study abroad in Perth, during my University years. 😃😃
@@EZDatingCoach wow, small world I’m from Perth 👍🏼
@@user-gk6fb2hv5f - So beautiful there!!!
Haha... I’m from Perth too 😄... small world.
The problem is many men dont think like they are emotionally or reason like a 40yr old ....this applies to those rare exceptions that think and act their chronological age ...🌝
That is a large problem. I want women to do their best at only dating folks that think and act their own age. 🙌🙌💜💜🦏🦏
Not all man
I would like to chat privately you beautiful
I accept him for who he is, but he doesn't accept me who I am. Being needed he never helps me with anything. Appreciate, he doesn't care he's selfish, I am the one helping him. All he thinks is about himself. I wait and wait and nothing happens. I'm tired I thought him so much , I make him feel likes man and respect him. He doesn't respond Me. Boundaries he never takes anywhere. I feel he nothing but a narcissist and I am done with this. Thank you 🙏🏽
You're welcome. 💜💜
Thank you I’ll do this for sure!
I asked my boyfriend I didnt want him going to a trip club and he said I was controlling.?
Good .. controlling what goes on in your life.. he has you as his woman...why do he seek pleasure in other women.. you are queen bee 🐝👀.. anyway stay blessed 🙏
but sad to say mostly in our times now guy is afraid in responsibility😔 i do say i appreciated and how thankful of him
Hey maria would love to know you .......hope you are a lovely person.....I wouldn't mind finding love again since my wife's demise
Thanks a lot.I have learned from your advice.God bless u
How are you doing
Yes god bless him I learn a lot of things god blessing
This is really weird, as a woman I feel like an ex-lion tamer and got departed in not so good terms with my former lions so I take notes on how to be happy with my next lion so he won’t walk away or eat me alive.
Hello from South Carolina ~luv listening to ur great advice...
oooo im from NY!!
Thank you!!! Nice to hear from you!!! 🙏🙏
@@SamElle - Ohhhh fun, what part of NY? That is my old stomping grounds.
@@EZDatingCoach Im in brooklyn NY!
@@SamElle - That's where my parents are from. 🙌🙌