Not telling someone you are trans before getting into a sexual situation is the worst kind of lying and yes - it is dangerous. There has been more than one incidence of a straight man murdering his trans would-be lover because he only found out after sexual contact had been initiated.
First off you are validated. You are a wonderful, smart beautiful human being. I would recommend you tell someone before you start dating. Then its up to them if they want to continue the relationship. Thats where the boundaries should be.
It’s so funny you mentioned the “crossdresser” purge cycling. I did the same thing before my egg cracked. Poor guys is fighting herself in all likelihood, doesn’t mean he can make others victims tho
Of course you should. It's a matter of respect for the other person's sexual preferences and a way to prevent disappointment for yourself and a bad reaction. A non-violent bad reaction would be justified as such omission would come across as a severe form of deception, especially if the person was already starting to get emotionally attached to you. Please understand that sexual attraction is not a choice and shouldn't be blamed nor shamed. Someone might be attracted to you since you're very feminine and good looking, but not be sexually aroused by male genitals and even be repelled by them. And the same goes for non-natural female genitals in case you had surgery. Some people might even be psychologically repelled by the idea of physical intimacy with a person who was born as a male, even if she looks and sounds absolutely feminine as you do. My advice is always introduce yourself as a trans person so that the guy can make the informed choice of dating you regardless or not dating you. You only want to date people who appreciate you for who you are anyway, I assume.
I had an online bf and he ended up being a chaser sadly. I think it's so good how you are secure in your womanhood, so have standards vs going for any guy that is into you. I am probably more on the desperate side since I have only begun passing a bit since moving out and changing my appearance recently. My standards would be they aren't into me for a fetish, are not doing crazy drugs, and make me feel safe to be around them
6:38 Do you understand this now? I kinda get how you may not have understood this when you were 16, but you’re an adult and claiming to be a coach now. Do you understand now?
During those days many years ago when I was a young guy, it was pretty clear what a trans looked like. They were around the entertainment quarter in coffee shops and bars. They were night people and mostly on the game too. One other personalityr, her name was Carmen aka Trevor Rupe' and trans, was latter on the ticket of candidates to be voted for as town councilor. In a rural town around 50 miles from the city limits a trans woman was voted in as an electorate representative in our country's parliament - the house of representatives. Neither of those examples can be illustrative of an enlightened society, but one that is tolerant of people that regardles of their gender and sexuality are chosen from education and personality are deemed to be the most suitable for the job. We also have a natural inclination to support the underdog to give everyone a "fair go."..Really though, with life becoming more of a struggle for many people and the system of social welfare not as wide ranging as it once was, acceptance of people who are different seems unchanged, but comes from people having other things to concern themselves with things more important than how their fellow citizens choose to identify.with and nobody cares about that anyway. Also, as part of our liberal society prostitution was decriminalized around ten years ago, but not soliciting on the street, only in brothels subject to the country's health and safety laws and workers unionized into a collective established to looks after sex workers interests. I would like to say that we are an egalitarian country, but we aren't, most people just don't care and with bigger and more pressing personal iand ssues of Race to be concerned with there's no enough time or head space to have concerns about things that don't effect them personally.
Someone explain to me, why trans girls are dying to be with a masculine heterosexual man and when he approaches them, the fear of dying invades them and they want to run away? I don't understand what happens to them in that situation they just panic and start shaking with fear.🤷
That's an easy one: Transphobia. Too many trans girls are killed by men who assume they're cis, so when a man approaches a trans woman, it can be an extremely dangerous situation.
@JasmineVine Really? I can't believe it! It happened to me, I met a beautiful girl, I didn't know she was trans, after we kissed she started shaking with fear and crying, she wanted to go home soon, we were alone in my apartment, I got discouraged because I thought maybe she didn't like me The next day she confessed to me that she was trans and that for fear that I would react badly and hurt her she had not told me, at that moment I did not understand her, I did not know about transphobia and that trans girls are murdered .
@@JasmineVine I clarify that I would never have hurt her, but I also understand the context that many trans girls go through, if I have the possibility of meeting her again I will apologize for not understanding her. Thanks for responding.
It went too far before you had a chance to tell him? BS! You thought you could fool him n he wouldn't notice. Be who you want to be but do not dupe people. 🤦♂️🤯🤡
Not telling someone you are trans before getting into a sexual situation is the worst kind of lying and yes - it is dangerous. There has been more than one incidence of a straight man murdering his trans would-be lover because he only found out after sexual contact had been initiated.
The answer to the question is yes.
First off you are validated. You are a wonderful, smart beautiful human being. I would recommend you tell someone before you start dating. Then its up to them if they want to continue the relationship. Thats where the boundaries should be.
It’s so funny you mentioned the “crossdresser” purge cycling. I did the same thing before my egg cracked. Poor guys is fighting herself in all likelihood, doesn’t mean he can make others victims tho
Of course you should. It's a matter of respect for the other person's sexual preferences and a way to prevent disappointment for yourself and a bad reaction. A non-violent bad reaction would be justified as such omission would come across as a severe form of deception, especially if the person was already starting to get emotionally attached to you.
Please understand that sexual attraction is not a choice and shouldn't be blamed nor shamed. Someone might be attracted to you since you're very feminine and good looking, but not be sexually aroused by male genitals and even be repelled by them. And the same goes for non-natural female genitals in case you had surgery. Some people might even be psychologically repelled by the idea of physical intimacy with a person who was born as a male, even if she looks and sounds absolutely feminine as you do.
My advice is always introduce yourself as a trans person so that the guy can make the informed choice of dating you regardless or not dating you. You only want to date people who appreciate you for who you are anyway, I assume.
I had an online bf and he ended up being a chaser sadly. I think it's so good how you are secure in your womanhood, so have standards vs going for any guy that is into you. I am probably more on the desperate side since I have only begun passing a bit since moving out and changing my appearance recently. My standards would be they aren't into me for a fetish, are not doing crazy drugs, and make me feel safe to be around them
I think everyone starts there, to a degree. The security will come in time. For now though, bringing awareness to it is a good start ☺️
Yes, if you still have your ...
Anyway, it's better to be honest.
6:38 Do you understand this now? I kinda get how you may not have understood this when you were 16, but you’re an adult and claiming to be a coach now. Do you understand now?
I,m open on dating a Transgender Woman i will treat her like she is a Human And Love Her For being a Person i live in Ohio
Only recently I begin to understand how I must protect my integrity.
During those days many years ago when I was a young guy, it was pretty clear what a trans looked like. They were around the entertainment quarter in coffee shops and bars. They were night people and mostly on the game too. One other personalityr, her name was Carmen aka Trevor Rupe' and trans, was latter on the ticket of candidates to be voted for as town councilor. In a rural town around 50 miles from the city limits a trans woman was voted in as an electorate representative in our country's parliament - the house of representatives. Neither of those examples can be illustrative of an enlightened society, but one that is tolerant of people that regardles of their gender and sexuality are chosen from education and personality are deemed to be the most suitable for the job. We also have a natural inclination to support the underdog to give everyone a "fair go."..Really though, with life becoming more of a struggle for many people and the system of social welfare not as wide ranging as it once was, acceptance of people who are different seems unchanged, but comes from people having other things to concern themselves with things more important than how their fellow citizens choose to identify.with and nobody cares about that anyway. Also, as part of our liberal society prostitution was decriminalized around ten years ago, but not soliciting on the street, only in brothels subject to the country's health and safety laws and workers unionized into a collective established to looks after sex workers interests. I would like to say that we are an egalitarian country, but we aren't, most people just don't care and with bigger and more pressing personal iand ssues of Race to be concerned with there's no enough time or head space to have concerns about things that don't effect them personally.
Te sigo hace como 8 o 9 años, te ves cada dia mas bonita y muy femenina, te deseo mucha felicidad en tu vida
Really appreciate this, thank you! 😊
Of course you should tell
I would be really really angry and gay myself
Which I'm not
That is so not respectful
Get a grip about reality
Gay yourself? 😂😭😂
@@jamessmith6363I mean, I wasn't gonna say it, but yeah 😅
Someone explain to me, why trans girls are dying to be with a masculine heterosexual man and when he approaches them, the fear of dying invades them and they want to run away? I don't understand what happens to them in that situation they just panic and start shaking with fear.🤷
That's an easy one: Transphobia. Too many trans girls are killed by men who assume they're cis, so when a man approaches a trans woman, it can be an extremely dangerous situation.
@JasmineVine Really? I can't believe it! It happened to me, I met a beautiful girl, I didn't know she was trans, after we kissed she started shaking with fear and crying, she wanted to go home soon, we were alone in my apartment, I got discouraged because I thought maybe she didn't like me The next day she confessed to me that she was trans and that for fear that I would react badly and hurt her she had not told me, at that moment I did not understand her, I did not know about transphobia and that trans girls are murdered .
@@joeltorres2733 Yep. It really happens. I'm glad to hear this from someone though.
@@JasmineVine I clarify that I would never have hurt her, but I also understand the context that many trans girls go through, if I have the possibility of meeting her again I will apologize for not understanding her. Thanks for responding.
It went too far before you had a chance to tell him? BS! You thought you could fool him n he wouldn't notice. Be who you want to be but do not dupe people. 🤦♂️🤯🤡
If that was the case, I would own it 100% :)
should tell that person if they dont know very risky move
Yes you should tell someone if you come from Iran
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If your attracted to him and aren't post op yes tell him first thing. Personally I don't hide my buldge so to speak .
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