This made my heart hurt. I have loved your videos for so long and your content has gotten me through some pretty dark days. And today I wasn't feeling great and came to get some love, some solace, or a sense of peace. But as a black woman, I felt re-traumatized. And to look in the comments and see that you have ignored what others are saying makes my heart hurt even more. I'm making the choice to step back from this channel, because it is clear that my experiences aren't seen here, validated, or acknowledged. While it hurts, because I've loved your content and following your journey so so much I can't subject myself to places that cause me harm. Thanks to everyone in the comments for standing up in the name of anti-racism. You are seen and appreciated.
Hi, Rowena. I've been a quiet fan for a while now and could even say that you've become my favorite UA-camr. I start most mornings watching your videos to hype myself up as I struggle with depression and anxiety daily, so I'm thankful for your content. But like a few other people here, I'm also a bit disappointed and I echo the sentiment that being open-minded/tolerant/compassionate to the other side isn't applicable to all conversations. I, too, have always tried my best to not be too abrasive nor combative when standing by my beliefs-and I say this as an LGBTQ POC. Sometimes, I understand that people don't understand my views because there's a lifetime of experience that shaped their thinking. I understand that some people weren't taught to think for themselves so it's difficult to try to get them to challenge their own belief systems. Because of this, I try not to judge a person's goodness based solely on their political views. However, I expect more from well-educated people and so I think skirting around the Black Lives Matter issue isn't quite... compassionate. I understand that the situation we're all in is difficult for everyone so it is tiring to "get political." But the violence and systemic racism black people have suffered from for a long time are very much real (very much documented and studied) and cannot be ignored anymore. The anger and outrage people are feeling are justified. As a society, we need to start doing better now. We need to choose a side-and the right side to choose here is the side of the people serving years in prison for crimes they did not commit, the people dying from unjustified police brutality, the people living at an economic disadvantage as a byproduct of years of oppression and in constant fear for their lives due solely to the color of their skin. Not doing so perpetuates the notion that there is nothing fundamentally wrong with the system we live in and therefore, nothing needs to change. I believe you made this video to somehow show solidarity but not addressing the hard truths and remaining neutral really made it counterproductive.
Thank you for saying this so well. I feel the same way. I remember in a video some time ago rowena said something along the lines of “we are all the same, life is unjust to everyone so we just have to deal with it”. Since then i knew she would have this kind of belief but i was still subscribed and want to see her videos still. But this video just hurts me so much, but i was kind of already expecting it. Some people who preach self care always tend to forget that we should care for others aswelo
Jess i know, as an asian myself I’m so disappointed in her but good thing that it’s not really a common thing. A lot of creators are very supportive of the BLM movement so I choose to follow them instead and if one day Rowena addresses this, I’ll listen to her side.
hey, ro! just some thoughts from a long-time fan: i find myself challenged by the suggestion to be more open-minded & kind regarding different belief-systems. i think that’s ok when debating something as trivial as living in the city vs. the country or something as serious as religious beliefs. however, i am not going to be accommodating to belief-systems that are rooted in oppression. as a woman, i shouldn’t be expected to entertain misogynistic view-points (even if presented in a way that isn’t directly oppressive) simply to keep a conversation civil or open-minded. & speaking on current events, as people who are not Black, we should not expect our Black brothers & sisters & non-binary folk to act with compassion in the face of mass murder. there’s a time & a place for open conversation & civility with opposing sides, but now isn’t the time - not during the fight for life during so much death. additionally, speaking on the joe rogan podcast, while differing in political beliefs, it is still a conversation between two rich, white men. it is a pair of privileged individuals speaking to one another - of course there’s going to be a level of respect. of course there is going to be civility. it’s not a diversified conversation. & both are highly controversial in regards to basic ethics. i wouldn’t use them as an example of moral high-ground. i apologize for this being so long, but i’ve always enjoyed your videos & wanted to offer some (hopefully) helpful feedback.
I 100% agree with your comment. It’s important that we don’t try to spiritually bypass, tone police, or center ourselves during these conversations since we are not the direct victims of the oppression that is going on and has gone on too long. Outrage, anger, and despair are all very healthy responses to the social injustice happening in our world right now. Being too moderate and understanding in these scenarios actually enables racism to continue. It’s important to take a firm and direct stand against racism and put your feet in the fire.
You've said everything I wanted to say. This is 100%. Racism vs. anti-racism is not something about which to be open-minded. There's only ONE correct side here, and that's to be anti-racist AF. Thanks for posting this!
Yes! Yes! Yes! You took the words from my mouth. I 100% agree with this. Now is not the time to be passive, moderate, and civil. People are (and have been) dying and they'll continue to due unless we make active change. THANK YOU for saying this! Regardless of whether or not she sees it, it's important for others reading the comments to see it as well!
Mackenzee Lance thank you so much for expressing your feelings so eloquently. I have exactly the same thoughts. Just because you’re ANTI racist, doesn’t mean you’re a selfish person who doesn’t wanna listen to the opposing side... you just shouldn’t tolerate racism. Period. Felt the video was a bit tone deaf considering the situation right now and I was extremely disappointed even though, bit expected 😔
Just a bit of my opinion which may or may not sound like im against you but sometimes we tend to use “self care” as a way for us to condemn and invalidate the anger and disappointment people feel after years of oppression that we cannot relate to because we are not a part of that group. It’s extremely hard to empathize with people who are now supposedly “lashing out” or being “violent” when we haven’t been 2 seconds in their shoes. I agree about listening to other people with compassion and not just to be right, but we shouldn’t be so quick to judge how people are dealing with their problems. Don’t be so quick to make things about us especially if we aren’t even directly affected with the issue at hand. As part of caring for yourself, care for others as well, even if we don’t really get their struggle
It's not always the case. Maybe someone uses self care because what's going on can be triggering for that person (leading to symptoms of ptsd, depression, pannick attacks, self harm, substance abuse and even suicide). That doesn't mean that the person invalidates what others are going trough. I personally can't agree with people being violent. Yes, I've been a victim (like most people) and yes I've reacted the same way before which never ever helped, so I do understand ir but I can't share it and I'd rather just avoid all things related to people lashing out/acting violent due to injustice not because I don't care, I just can't deal with it and I become so suicidal I can't even help myself and help other people
I understand the confusion. I think that's why she says know where our hearts lie. Because some people do it to refresh their mind to think better and nourish their body to be able to contribute to society well. But also some people do it to avoid facing a problem. Hence, it is important to be honest to yourself why you are doing a certain action :)
Hi Rowena. I normally enjoy watching your content and Beauty Within's content, truly. But as an Asian & Latinx woman, I have privilege and feel the need to speak up. As much as I believe that you had good intentions in the kind of messaging you put out in this video, I don't believe you directly addressed what's going on in the world but rather tiptoed around the issue. I didn't even hear you say "Black Lives Matter" once. The issue is that black lives are being unfairly murdered by police on the street and that inequalities in our criminal justice system have historically and currently put black and brown men at an unfair disadvantage due to racism. I get it, self-care should continue to be a priority for everyone to maintain a healthy and functioning society. But when it comes to matters as seriously as this one, where black human beings are LITERALLY being MURDERED because of their race, for those of us who are non-black, now is not the time to relax. Sure, it's overwhelming, but we're not the ones being murdered for no reason. Our primary focus should be to use our privilege and STEP UP. We need to get out there and protest, donate, make calls, post on social media, educate ourselves. It's important to understand all sides, be empathetic towards others who have different opinions, and yada yada. But this is not up for debate. No one should have to discuss whether or not it's okay for black people get to get murdered for simply living their lives. If we're tired of doing this, imagine how tired black people must be from their family and friends being killed. If you are a non-black person and you decide to sit back and relax, YOU are part of the problem. YOU are perpetuating racism in this country. This is my first time hearing you speak up about this and I'm disappointed. A sponsored video? No links to resources on how we can get involved? Why didn't you speak up earlier? We Asian-Americans need to do better.
When you talk about life being easy in the end, tbh I got real angry. You are invalidating the feelings of black people who are being affected by this. We are all angry, we are frustrated with the system, and RIGHTFULLY so. To say that we should just live happily ever after because this Thai man with very little means is happy, is just plain ignorant. Sure, it's very admirable of him to be so happy with little money. BUT THIS IS AN ENTIRELY DIFFERENT ISSUE. If I was black, I don't get how the eff I'm supposed to be happy when I have to be anxious and stressed about police coming by to kill me while I'm running or simply SLEEPING IN THE BED OF MY OWN HOME (RIP Breonna Taylor!)
How can someone be such an extrovert and a great communicator and at the same time so self-reflective and aware...Rowena you're the best of TWO personality types!!!!!!!! xxxxx
I have been a followers of yours for a while and I was super excited about your video! I watched two of the video you recommended just to make sure didn't jump to conclusions and WOW I have to say it's really disappointing. I really didn't picture you for a low-key "Blue Lives Matter" / "there are bad people in both sides" / "we should all listen to each other" type of person, by wow, at least now I know.
the fact that you wouldn’t even made this video without Beauty Within being called out for that half-assed “acknowledgement” post that didn’t even mention the Black Lives Matter moment and the racism and AntiBlackness within the Asian community. (And before anyone gets smart in the comments, i am a BLACK WOMAN, and my anger is justified) Ive followed Rowena and supported this channel for YEARS and always loved her content. she has yet to post any links of resources like Go Fund Me’s, bail funds, etc and speak out on her IG and she didn’t even acknowledge anything HERE. the fact that this video is sponsored??? yeah I’m definitely hurt but also not surprised.
Jazmynn V it’s like she’s literally afraid to say “Black Lives Matter” as if it’s fucking taboo and not common sense? it’s so wild to me how Black folks literally have to fight for our humanity and can’t even get support from people who claim “they promote wellness, love all types of people, and want to inspire and share knowledge.” Rowena is a whole fraud & so is the Beauty Within company and team 🤷🏾♀️
For the past couple of days, I have started my day watching one of your videos and you have made my days so much better and given me so much positivity and inspiration to make myself a better person! Thank you
Taking naps is my expertise, I can sleep on a couch, armchair, car, in movement, with noise and everything, the benefits are that I feel so refreshed, after 15 or even just 10 minutes.My tips for you: •Don’t sleep on your bed, or you could could get too comfy and overslept more than you should. •If you sleep more than one hour you could feel lazy or even tired. •You can practice sleeping on your couch, or maybe in a position where you can not sleep more than 30 min.
I love you so much for admitting you struggle to keep your hygiene up, no one fucking talks about this but it's such a common and debilitating symptom of many mental health problems esp depression, but no one wants to admit that they regularly go over a week without showering or brushing their teeth because everyone will judge them. Thank you so much for admitting that, it was really validating for me coz I've been struggling for years to get my hygiene on track and it's literally only been over the last couple of weeks that I've been actually making progress. Thank you thank you thank you for mentioning this, no one ever does and I always feel so alone and ashamed
She remained silent in this video too, and the two videos she links are about « listening to both sides and not vilifying cops.. » I mean seriously, it is disappointing but if you listen carefully, she doesn’t believe Black Lives Matter and yup it’s deeply disappointing
Her video is very clearly not taking a stand against racism. If anything, it alludes to the fact that racists should be welcome in the conversation which is a hard NO. I hope Rowena realizes the damage she’s done with this video and by remaining silent AF on Instagram. Hopefully if she actually does believe Black Lives Matter, she can come out and say it, using her platform to help the movement instead of vilifying those who are adamantly anti-racist. There’s no more room at the table for people who continue to stay silent over this.
I'm disappointed with the "have the convos" section of your video. I watched the episode you linked and there is nothing "conversational" about what they were talking about. They are in their own echo chamber reinforcing what the other person is saying. I listened with an open-mind but I fundamentally have an issue with so much of what was being said but 1) not using someone's preferred pronouns and 2) their arguments regarding oppression and discrimination just to name a few. All marginalization is a symptom of socialization. And the socialization of America is rooted in patriarchy and racism which is why we see racism, discrimination, income inequality, and police brutality play out the way the way it does. These are all learned behaviors. Men and women aren't born more maternal than the other; that's a socialized behavior that is reinforced in society. Same with racism. Their "eye-opening" opinions are controversial for a reason. Essentially what you have promoted is a man who believes in natural hierarchies and that a non-mainstream, "controversial" opinion is akin to enlightenment. No bro, the reason women "prefer" maternal roles is because society has pigeon-holed them into those roles. Women have been and still are socialized toward the care-giving role and there is only a marginal group of women who have rose beyond it. No one is asking for a handout. People are demanding equal treatment under the law, equal treatment in employment, equal treatment in everything because that is not what has happened. The so-called equitable institutions have not been equitable because of people have been socialized to act otherwise. That's what institutionalized sexism/racism is. If someone is murdered, you expect their murderers to be prosecuted. But that is not what has happened for black people. And that is why BlackLivesMatter and the protests have come about. Protest occurs when all other forms of social remedy have failed. I think you have a lot more self-educating to do and you can start by not listening to Joe Rogan.
👆👆👆👆👆👆👆👆👆👆👆👆👆 This comment is so spot on about how off this whole video was. I used to think of rowena as my favorite youtuber but I unsubscribed so fast after this video. Not taking a clear stance on social injustice is just taking the side of the oppressor. Also, her promoting joe rogan and jordan peterson during the times of BLM protests...... is just.... It clearly shows where she stands on the subject.
Really needed this, I was really sad about my life and now you have gave me the motivation to get my life together and clean the huge mess of my life. Thank you, stay safe
I can’t speak for Rowena, but I too am completely disappointed in her. It seems like she is trying to pass this video off as support to the BLM movement while also exercising the comfort of staying silent. Ambiguity isn’t okay. Racism isn’t okay. I’m sorry you have to deal with media explicitly not standing up, especially from someone you’ve admired for so long. Black Lives Matter. Your life matters.
I loved the Lee quote. I feel like everyone is talking right now. As the caucasian member of an interracial/ transracial family I feel more and more my place is to spend most (but not all) of my time listening quietly right now. When the time is right I can speak but how can I learn if I am not quiet?
So good to see you again! Thank you for sharing as you do, it emboldens my heart and makes me think differently (depression/anxiety ridden I am). HUGS to you
Just want to add.. I live in London in a multicultural city. I considered myself as educated and open minded person. Living in the city I assumed I know more or less about all the culture around me. I learnt from observations mostly...however that was wrong. You meed to go deeper and educate yourself about other cultures , races and other countries even if you are surrounded by them constantly. Don't assume you are tolerant and open minded because you live in community of different cultures... I totally agree to debate about all the issue within society...peollpe are bombarded with some many shallow articles and random opinions on social media they just forget to "investigate" the issues and educate themselves...aslo I recommend to travel...but not travel for beach or all inclusive holiday. Travel to learn more about other cultures, countries and just ordinary people. I must admit I finding traveling like that very satisfying... Of course during pandemic this is not easy but this situation will lastly for possibly few more months...soo this comment is not as valid at the moment but next year I hoping we all can organise some exciting travels:)...
Rowena, I can’t say how thankful I am for a voice like yours on this platform. I think all of us are going through something of some sorts to any and all degree. And somehow, your guidance and wisdom seem to apply to all aspects of life’s problems and demands. I just hope you know how thankful I am to always have you like an older sister that I run to when I need a grounding and soothing voice❤️
Rowena I have followed you for years. Your advice and wisdom has gotten me through a lot of tough times and have generally made my life better. With all that said, I have to unsubscribe. While I understand where this video is coming from, it is incredibly disappointing and disheartening to see that you are not willing to speak out against systemic racism and police violence. We may not all agree on solutions, I am very willing to discuss and debate ideas surrounding defunding the police, etc., but at the very least I expect people I support to say to acknowledge that black lives matter. It shouldn't be a matter of opinion on whether other HUMANS lives matter. It's frankly gas lighting to say that you need to just "look at both perspectives and open your mind" because I really don't think there is any other perspective that matters aside from the lived experience of black people that are killed on a daily basis. These are just facts that we shouldn't be okay with. I understand this is supposed to be a feel good video in turbulent times, but it completely missed the mark. I swept aside the fact that in previous videos you mentioned QAnon, a right-wing conspiracy group, as an example of questioning societal norms. This I just can't stand by. If I knew I could get in touch with you personally, I would love to have a conversation about all of this but knowing that will not happen I will just have to unsubscribe.
Thank you for articulating how I feel. Rowena I have also followed you for years and greatly benefitted from your videos, but this wishy-washy response to a movement that is literally defending lives and the inherent value of those lives, doesn't cut it for me. In fact, it's really quite jarring. I can't support someone that won't vehemently back (and in your case platform) something as critically important as the Black Lives Matter movement. Black Lives Matter is a simple phrase and a simple concept - at the very least bring yourself to say it once. Being open and accepting to people and their differing beliefs is often beautiful and rewarding, but the right to life and equality is fundamental. Recognise that by suggesting fundamental rights should be up for debate, you are exercising a dangerous amount of privilege.
Gowing is uncomfortable and being in the middle of it, there are growing pains, but just as are constantly learning (by keeping an open mind) we are also reaching closer to realizations. Thank you for this video and giving us tips on how to be more open with ourselves at such a vulnerable time in the world
I adore these kinds of videos.They make me think and have thoughts about everything.I feel like I want to be alone in the middle of nowhere,with only me ,myself and I.
I've learned so much from watching your videos and been inspired to try new things - but trying to sell shampoo and conditioner in the same conversation about racial justice is wack. Maybe you feel uncomfortable having the conversation, try leading from that place and open your circle up to different views from different kinds of people. fight on!
ive been struggling with ptsd for the past year and lately it has become a constant struggle to keep my mind clear from terrifying thoughts and flashbacks, but learning from your videos has helped me to pull myself out of my bad times. thank you so much for making me feel better and for making me feel like a good person, a person who i want to love. im still working on myself everyday but hearing your stories have helped so much! sending all my love and appreciation 🙏
thinking about using your love language on yourself is such an interesting thought, because its something I kind of do, but I think I want to commit to more. thank you for your videos and for donating. it means a lot!
I can relate to you, Rowena. It makes me feel so good after getting fresh air. Going for a walk 15 minutes per day boost my mood so muchhh... I love your video, Rowena. There are times when i feel so down going trough my life these days. But your video kind of remind me that I don't struggle alone. Your video encourages me so much. Thank you! 🥔🌻❤️
The line you said about that in pain and in discomfort lies the opportunity for growth and development, that shit just blew my mind and hit me hard. Thank you. I'm glad I searched "self care" today I really needed the videos I've seen so far
I just want to say, I really appreciate you. When everything seems to be going so fast and all of it is painted in extremes, your thoughts are so calming. Remembering I'm not alone; there are others mulling and thinking and wandering through their minds. Your videos challenge me to take care of myself, act in empathy, and do the challenging things that create long term change. a true bright spot on the internet ❤️❤️
Pretty much the only youtuber who I can give me whole attention to when doing a sit down video ✨ although I do admit I paused to do my skincare and get dressed 🌿 something about you makes me want to do better 👏🏻
Hi Rowena, I love your videos, but this one is super disappointing in that it doesn't bring any real sustenance to the situation at hand. By sidestepping the entire conversation (which you do allude to) of Black Lives Matter, you're literally telling your viewers that it's okay if they think Black people don't matter or that they, too, can remain silent about racism. (It's not okay! It used to be semi-acceptable to stay quiet, but now not choosing a side is the same as choosing the wrong side.) Maybe you don't support the BLM movement yourself, I'm not sure because this was very vague. You've had a chance here to really push the movement forward by using your platform to help nudge people in the right direction (there is a right direction!), but instead you chose to play it neutral. Sorry to hear this. Hopefully any viewers you have that are racist or even riding the line of neutrality over the subject will realize their wrongness elsewhere in media. Self-care won't soothe a racist soul.
Rowena, you made me cry. You are so brave for being so open about how you feel and I can only hope to do it as well as you. I feel your pain ❤ thank you for giving this gift to the world
actually, your content could be a podcast content as well. love what you share is thoughtful, compassion and loving. have you think about create you own PODCAST?
hey ro, hope you're doing well! Just wanted to let you know that your videos have always helped me. They always seem to come at the right time and have funnily become signposts for me I feel? haha somehow they point me towards directions I need to look at at that point of time and for that I am forever grateful! I know these are times of high anxiety with a lot of things happening simultaneously, and so I feel the place your voice is coming from, and even when it is especially hard to look inward I truly believe that the actions we take when we take it from the inside are the most impactful , in every context, and I'm so so glad that this video resonated this. Thats what I got out of it at least! anyway hope we all become better as we go through this together. Thanks once again!
Yes we are all the sweetest potatoes and so are you Rowena! The message you conveyed in this video was something that we all needed. Do not forget to take care of yourselves and make sure to live every moment with love and the fullest intentions!
I’ve had to unsubscribe after this video, Rowena and hope you will reflect on the following. As an Asian woman, you are able to practice “self care” on the backs of the works of radical Black women such as Audre Lorde and are bastardizing the idea of self care for your own monetary gain on this channel. Self care was started by Black and POC bodies as a regenerative practice in accompaniment to social justice work. I hope you will look to Lavendaire, Jenn Im, and Amy Lee as examples of what allyship looks like and what using your platform to stand in solidarity with Black people actually looks like. The fact that this is sponsored and only a portion of the sponsorship money is going to this month profit is gross. The fact that you took so long to take a stance is gross. Human rights, especially Black rights, are not an opinion and something to be debated. There’s not “multiple sides” to this and for you to even imply this is siding with the oppressor. As an avid reader, I suggest you pick up radical texts by Black and Non Black POC that will broaden your worldview instead of constantly pushing books and podcasts by mostly WHITE men, who honestly could care less about you and whose platforms are consumed by alt-right bigots. I suspect that this comment will be pushed down or deleted but I said my piece and hope you will take everything I said into consideration.
This!!! I agree with pretty much all your points. After doing research, and listening to folks in various communities, we need to be raising up the voices of the oppressed, not drowning them out ourselves. (Not familiar with the other folks just yet but I trust you on that. got a few lavadaire vids on my watch later) Rowena's recommendation of Jordan Peterson stuff raised some alarms for me, because much of his stuff while interesting, is white-male centric and not helpful/inclusive. And while I don't know all the facts of her life, and while yes it would be better if all the revenue & sponsorship went to charity, rowena might be in a position where she needs to save/support herself/someone else financially, and not want to talk about it. edit: grammar/clarity coz I'm sleepy and watching this before bed
You perfectly explained why I've always had issues with the self-care movement when it comes from the mouths of non-BIPOC folks. It feels so rooted in capitalism that it loses all of its original meaning. We gotta stop watering down the works of radical Black women in the name of capitalism and give credit where credit is due. Also, we gotta actually read the works of radical Black women!!!
When lives are on the line, this is not the time for people of privilege and power to just turn inward and detract from the social life of the community. It's irresponsible of you to preach that. People have been protesting out on the streets and they need privileged bodies like yours to be out there with Black people. "Fighting the good fight" also requires people of privilege to give up on their comforts and be uncomfortable. I usually like your videos but I think you need to reflect on the "Self Care" messaging you're putting out there, especially when people don't have the comfortable space to practice self care when their bodies are being attacked on a daily basis. This is not radical self care, what you're preaching looks more like an active detachment from the situation. No, it's not okay to be silent at this time. People of privilege need to do better.
And on the issue of "shying away" from difficult conversations: what's making it so hard for you to say #BLM? What's making it so hard for you to address the anti-Blackness amongst Asians? How'd you manage to make a video that vaguely references politics and human rights without naming who are the perpetrators of violence? "Learn, listen, empathize" with whom? When one side has the gun ready to shoot and kill, is it possible for Black people to learn, listen and empathize? In an unequal world, does the oppressed owe the oppressor empathy? What kind of message is this?
Could not agree more. Super disappointed and at this point she seems like a total hack. As Rachel Cargle has said, self care without community is not self care. It’s just selfish. Meaning self care without social justice is just a sad exploitation of what self care was supposed to mean. Jenn Im, Amy Lee and Lavendaire are better examples of wellness/lifestyle gurus that have been having these hard conversations on their platforms. I suggest following them instead.
It's apparent by the video you suggested that you do not support the black lives matter movement, which is your prerogative. After being a fan of you for so long, I was expecting you to be anti-racist also. But as you said, we will all not share the same viewpoints. And since this is extremely important to me and the lives of the future black children and brown children (including Latinx and indigenous children) in this frightening county, I’ve decided to remove myself from spaces I do not feel appreciated. Although you don’t mind continuing your channel, with or without me, you’ll still get money peddling self-love and self-help, and in a few months, you can live a life where this does not inconvenience you. I will never denounce how you have helped so many, including me, at times. However, for many other Black and Brown people, including me in the United States, every time we step foot outside, we have to be aware that we have to fight upstream against a disadvantage. And the video you suggested with bob Woodson is very one-sided with a specific viewpoint, but you decide what you believe as do I, all views based on our individual experiences in this country. However, as always, good luck to you in this lifetime.
Xania reed and Jess, thank you so much for the insight. You guys i can't believe she went on several videos denouncing Falundafa persecution in China and shut up towards BLM..lol she's Asian she might have faced discrimination but nothing close to what majority Black and Brown have to deal with on the daily.. So disappointing and yet not surprising. What goes around comes around though..good luck to ppl with that poor type of mentality..
Hello! I have recently started watching your videos. I would find it helpful if you talk about being unhappy with your job and getting stuck within a sunk cost fallacy mindset. Any pointers on what factors to consider when it comes to make big decision especially when the outcome could be so uncertain? Many thanks! Any books recommended regarding this matter would be very helpful I am open to recommendations:)
There was so much said but I didn't hear a single utter of Black Lives Matter and the Joe Rogan video rec?? Come on, do better. Stop exposing yourself through this complicit silence and start opening the dialogue like you preached others to do so.
What she will add to what have been said by others? Maybe she does not know what to say about it in appropriate words I dont thinn it is a responsability for her to say or to talk about things that r out of her comfort zone
I honestly love being called a sweetest potato
Me too 🥰
it’s my love language 💛
Same here
Yeshhh
Welcome to club :D
This made my heart hurt. I have loved your videos for so long and your content has gotten me through some pretty dark days. And today I wasn't feeling great and came to get some love, some solace, or a sense of peace. But as a black woman, I felt re-traumatized. And to look in the comments and see that you have ignored what others are saying makes my heart hurt even more. I'm making the choice to step back from this channel, because it is clear that my experiences aren't seen here, validated, or acknowledged. While it hurts, because I've loved your content and following your journey so so much I can't subject myself to places that cause me harm.
Thanks to everyone in the comments for standing up in the name of anti-racism. You are seen and appreciated.
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I agree 1000%! I'm also taking the same action.
Hi, Rowena. I've been a quiet fan for a while now and could even say that you've become my favorite UA-camr. I start most mornings watching your videos to hype myself up as I struggle with depression and anxiety daily, so I'm thankful for your content. But like a few other people here, I'm also a bit disappointed and I echo the sentiment that being open-minded/tolerant/compassionate to the other side isn't applicable to all conversations. I, too, have always tried my best to not be too abrasive nor combative when standing by my beliefs-and I say this as an LGBTQ POC. Sometimes, I understand that people don't understand my views because there's a lifetime of experience that shaped their thinking. I understand that some people weren't taught to think for themselves so it's difficult to try to get them to challenge their own belief systems. Because of this, I try not to judge a person's goodness based solely on their political views.
However, I expect more from well-educated people and so I think skirting around the Black Lives Matter issue isn't quite... compassionate. I understand that the situation we're all in is difficult for everyone so it is tiring to "get political." But the violence and systemic racism black people have suffered from for a long time are very much real (very much documented and studied) and cannot be ignored anymore. The anger and outrage people are feeling are justified. As a society, we need to start doing better now. We need to choose a side-and the right side to choose here is the side of the people serving years in prison for crimes they did not commit, the people dying from unjustified police brutality, the people living at an economic disadvantage as a byproduct of years of oppression and in constant fear for their lives due solely to the color of their skin. Not doing so perpetuates the notion that there is nothing fundamentally wrong with the system we live in and therefore, nothing needs to change.
I believe you made this video to somehow show solidarity but not addressing the hard truths and remaining neutral really made it counterproductive.
Thank you for this. So well said!
Thank you for saying this so well. I feel the same way. I remember in a video some time ago rowena said something along the lines of “we are all the same, life is unjust to everyone so we just have to deal with it”. Since then i knew she would have this kind of belief but i was still subscribed and want to see her videos still. But this video just hurts me so much, but i was kind of already expecting it. Some people who preach self care always tend to forget that we should care for others aswelo
This exactly is the truth. It is so important to understand this point. That it is either our lives or someone else's comfortability.
Jess i know, as an asian myself I’m so disappointed in her but good thing that it’s not really a common thing. A lot of creators are very supportive of the BLM movement so I choose to follow them instead and if one day Rowena addresses this, I’ll listen to her side.
hey, ro! just some thoughts from a long-time fan: i find myself challenged by the suggestion to be more open-minded & kind regarding different belief-systems. i think that’s ok when debating something as trivial as living in the city vs. the country or something as serious as religious beliefs. however, i am not going to be accommodating to belief-systems that are rooted in oppression. as a woman, i shouldn’t be expected to entertain misogynistic view-points (even if presented in a way that isn’t directly oppressive) simply to keep a conversation civil or open-minded. & speaking on current events, as people who are not Black, we should not expect our Black brothers & sisters & non-binary folk to act with compassion in the face of mass murder. there’s a time & a place for open conversation & civility with opposing sides, but now isn’t the time - not during the fight for life during so much death. additionally, speaking on the joe rogan podcast, while differing in political beliefs, it is still a conversation between two rich, white men. it is a pair of privileged individuals speaking to one another - of course there’s going to be a level of respect. of course there is going to be civility. it’s not a diversified conversation. & both are highly controversial in regards to basic ethics. i wouldn’t use them as an example of moral high-ground. i apologize for this being so long, but i’ve always enjoyed your videos & wanted to offer some (hopefully) helpful feedback.
I 100% agree with your comment. It’s important that we don’t try to spiritually bypass, tone police, or center ourselves during these conversations since we are not the direct victims of the oppression that is going on and has gone on too long. Outrage, anger, and despair are all very healthy responses to the social injustice happening in our world right now. Being too moderate and understanding in these scenarios actually enables racism to continue. It’s important to take a firm and direct stand against racism and put your feet in the fire.
You've said everything I wanted to say. This is 100%. Racism vs. anti-racism is not something about which to be open-minded. There's only ONE correct side here, and that's to be anti-racist AF. Thanks for posting this!
Yes! Yes! Yes! You took the words from my mouth. I 100% agree with this. Now is not the time to be passive, moderate, and civil. People are (and have been) dying and they'll continue to due unless we make active change. THANK YOU for saying this! Regardless of whether or not she sees it, it's important for others reading the comments to see it as well!
I agree with this comment! You took the thoughts right out of my head as I was watching
Mackenzee Lance thank you so much for expressing your feelings so eloquently. I have exactly the same thoughts. Just because you’re ANTI racist, doesn’t mean you’re a selfish person who doesn’t wanna listen to the opposing side... you just shouldn’t tolerate racism. Period. Felt the video was a bit tone deaf considering the situation right now and I was extremely disappointed even though, bit expected 😔
I hope that everyone who reads this has a successful day. ❤
Paul Ratiu Thank you :) I hope you have a great day as well!
@@nw-fq7gh thank you!! :)
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You too, dear fellow Human being! 🕊️🌞
If you are reading this, don't forget to take care of your body, mind and spiritual soul...you deserve love❤️
Just a bit of my opinion which may or may not sound like im against you but sometimes we tend to use “self care” as a way for us to condemn and invalidate the anger and disappointment people feel after years of oppression that we cannot relate to because we are not a part of that group. It’s extremely hard to empathize with people who are now supposedly “lashing out” or being “violent” when we haven’t been 2 seconds in their shoes. I agree about listening to other people with compassion and not just to be right, but we shouldn’t be so quick to judge how people are dealing with their problems. Don’t be so quick to make things about us especially if we aren’t even directly affected with the issue at hand. As part of caring for yourself, care for others as well, even if we don’t really get their struggle
It's not always the case. Maybe someone uses self care because what's going on can be triggering for that person (leading to symptoms of ptsd, depression, pannick attacks, self harm, substance abuse and even suicide). That doesn't mean that the person invalidates what others are going trough. I personally can't agree with people being violent. Yes, I've been a victim (like most people) and yes I've reacted the same way before which never ever helped, so I do understand ir but I can't share it and I'd rather just avoid all things related to people lashing out/acting violent due to injustice not because I don't care, I just can't deal with it and I become so suicidal I can't even help myself and help other people
I understand the confusion. I think that's why she says know where our hearts lie. Because some people do it to refresh their mind to think better and nourish their body to be able to contribute to society well. But also some people do it to avoid facing a problem. Hence, it is important to be honest to yourself why you are doing a certain action :)
Hi Rowena. I normally enjoy watching your content and Beauty Within's content, truly. But as an Asian & Latinx woman, I have privilege and feel the need to speak up. As much as I believe that you had good intentions in the kind of messaging you put out in this video, I don't believe you directly addressed what's going on in the world but rather tiptoed around the issue. I didn't even hear you say "Black Lives Matter" once. The issue is that black lives are being unfairly murdered by police on the street and that inequalities in our criminal justice system have historically and currently put black and brown men at an unfair disadvantage due to racism.
I get it, self-care should continue to be a priority for everyone to maintain a healthy and functioning society. But when it comes to matters as seriously as this one, where black human beings are LITERALLY being MURDERED because of their race, for those of us who are non-black, now is not the time to relax. Sure, it's overwhelming, but we're not the ones being murdered for no reason. Our primary focus should be to use our privilege and STEP UP. We need to get out there and protest, donate, make calls, post on social media, educate ourselves.
It's important to understand all sides, be empathetic towards others who have different opinions, and yada yada. But this is not up for debate. No one should have to discuss whether or not it's okay for black people get to get murdered for simply living their lives. If we're tired of doing this, imagine how tired black people must be from their family and friends being killed. If you are a non-black person and you decide to sit back and relax, YOU are part of the problem. YOU are perpetuating racism in this country.
This is my first time hearing you speak up about this and I'm disappointed. A sponsored video? No links to resources on how we can get involved? Why didn't you speak up earlier? We Asian-Americans need to do better.
When you talk about life being easy in the end, tbh I got real angry. You are invalidating the feelings of black people who are being affected by this. We are all angry, we are frustrated with the system, and RIGHTFULLY so. To say that we should just live happily ever after because this Thai man with very little means is happy, is just plain ignorant. Sure, it's very admirable of him to be so happy with little money. BUT THIS IS AN ENTIRELY DIFFERENT ISSUE. If I was black, I don't get how the eff I'm supposed to be happy when I have to be anxious and stressed about police coming by to kill me while I'm running or simply SLEEPING IN THE BED OF MY OWN HOME (RIP Breonna Taylor!)
thx for coming to my ted talk bye
You spoke my mind. I got angry too 😔
How can someone be such an extrovert and a great communicator and at the same time so self-reflective and aware...Rowena you're the best of TWO personality types!!!!!!!! xxxxx
I have been a followers of yours for a while and I was super excited about your video! I watched two of the video you recommended just to make sure didn't jump to conclusions and WOW I have to say it's really disappointing. I really didn't picture you for a low-key "Blue Lives Matter" / "there are bad people in both sides" / "we should all listen to each other" type of person, by wow, at least now I know.
the fact that you wouldn’t even made this video without Beauty Within being called out for that half-assed “acknowledgement” post that didn’t even mention the Black Lives Matter moment and the racism and AntiBlackness within the Asian community. (And before anyone gets smart in the comments, i am a BLACK WOMAN, and my anger is justified) Ive followed Rowena and supported this channel for YEARS and always loved her content. she has yet to post any links of resources like Go Fund Me’s, bail funds, etc and speak out on her IG and she didn’t even acknowledge anything HERE. the fact that this video is sponsored??? yeah I’m definitely hurt but also not surprised.
True. She’s handled this atrociously. I’ve had to unfollow after years of being subscribed to her
Jazmynn V it’s like she’s literally afraid to say “Black Lives Matter” as if it’s fucking taboo and not common sense? it’s so wild to me how Black folks literally have to fight for our humanity and can’t even get support from people who claim “they promote wellness, love all types of people, and want to inspire and share knowledge.” Rowena is a whole fraud & so is the Beauty Within company and team 🤷🏾♀️
For the past couple of days, I have started my day watching one of your videos and you have made my days so much better and given me so much positivity and inspiration to make myself a better person! Thank you
This is what I need and what I need to hear. Who else pray everyday just to watch a video of her.
@Maria, I also like her videos :). By the way, I have a channel too, mindful life by Agnes ♥!! Welcome over to my channel as
Thank you Rowena, your presence and words are my happy pill . Always🖤
Imagine how exhausting it is for black people!
Taking naps is my expertise, I can sleep on a couch, armchair, car, in movement, with noise and everything, the benefits are that I feel so refreshed, after 15 or even just 10 minutes.My tips for you:
•Don’t sleep on your bed, or you could could get too comfy and overslept more than you should.
•If you sleep more than one hour you could feel lazy or even tired.
•You can practice sleeping on your couch, or maybe in a position where you can not sleep more than 30 min.
I honestly just opened youtube thinking "I hope there's a new rowena video". Love you girl, I'm ready to realize stuff. Let's gooooo
I love you so much for admitting you struggle to keep your hygiene up, no one fucking talks about this but it's such a common and debilitating symptom of many mental health problems esp depression, but no one wants to admit that they regularly go over a week without showering or brushing their teeth because everyone will judge them. Thank you so much for admitting that, it was really validating for me coz I've been struggling for years to get my hygiene on track and it's literally only been over the last couple of weeks that I've been actually making progress. Thank you thank you thank you for mentioning this, no one ever does and I always feel so alone and ashamed
Thank you for using your platform to speak up on black lives matter! We see you and appreciate you! ☺️💛
Natural Nalima she was silent on Instagram during the whole thing...this is the first time I’ve seen her say something
She remained silent in this video too, and the two videos she links are about « listening to both sides and not vilifying cops.. » I mean seriously, it is disappointing but if you listen carefully, she doesn’t believe Black Lives Matter and yup it’s deeply disappointing
What really, I’ll have to re-watch it again! What’s the link because I can’t find it. Thanks!
Natural Nalima the links are in the description box!
Her video is very clearly not taking a stand against racism. If anything, it alludes to the fact that racists should be welcome in the conversation which is a hard NO. I hope Rowena realizes the damage she’s done with this video and by remaining silent AF on Instagram. Hopefully if she actually does believe Black Lives Matter, she can come out and say it, using her platform to help the movement instead of vilifying those who are adamantly anti-racist. There’s no more room at the table for people who continue to stay silent over this.
You make me rethink and refresh with every video. Thank you, Rowena
best post-shower feeling was getting a notification that my fav youtuber just uploaded a new video i missed you sooo much
I'm disappointed with the "have the convos" section of your video. I watched the episode you linked and there is nothing "conversational" about what they were talking about. They are in their own echo chamber reinforcing what the other person is saying. I listened with an open-mind but I fundamentally have an issue with so much of what was being said but 1) not using someone's preferred pronouns and 2) their arguments regarding oppression and discrimination just to name a few. All marginalization is a symptom of socialization. And the socialization of America is rooted in patriarchy and racism which is why we see racism, discrimination, income inequality, and police brutality play out the way the way it does. These are all learned behaviors. Men and women aren't born more maternal than the other; that's a socialized behavior that is reinforced in society. Same with racism. Their "eye-opening" opinions are controversial for a reason. Essentially what you have promoted is a man who believes in natural hierarchies and that a non-mainstream, "controversial" opinion is akin to enlightenment. No bro, the reason women "prefer" maternal roles is because society has pigeon-holed them into those roles. Women have been and still are socialized toward the care-giving role and there is only a marginal group of women who have rose beyond it. No one is asking for a handout. People are demanding equal treatment under the law, equal treatment in employment, equal treatment in everything because that is not what has happened. The so-called equitable institutions have not been equitable because of people have been socialized to act otherwise. That's what institutionalized sexism/racism is. If someone is murdered, you expect their murderers to be prosecuted. But that is not what has happened for black people. And that is why BlackLivesMatter and the protests have come about. Protest occurs when all other forms of social remedy have failed. I think you have a lot more self-educating to do and you can start by not listening to Joe Rogan.
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This comment is so spot on about how off this whole video was. I used to think of rowena as my favorite youtuber but I unsubscribed so fast after this video. Not taking a clear stance on social injustice is just taking the side of the oppressor.
Also, her promoting joe rogan and jordan peterson during the times of BLM protests...... is just.... It clearly shows where she stands on the subject.
Thank you for this comment
Im so glad more people are speaking up. I hope she hears us and reflect
I'm guessing you're boring in bed
Really needed this, I was really sad about my life and now you have gave me the motivation to get my life together and clean the huge mess of my life. Thank you, stay safe
Thank you for helping me get my life together after a huge mess it was.
As a black long time follower of yours, i am very saddened and disappointed by your response. I do not feel seen. Thanks for the positivity though
I can’t speak for Rowena, but I too am completely disappointed in her. It seems like she is trying to pass this video off as support to the BLM movement while also exercising the comfort of staying silent. Ambiguity isn’t okay. Racism isn’t okay. I’m sorry you have to deal with media explicitly not standing up, especially from someone you’ve admired for so long. Black Lives Matter. Your life matters.
@@mleeebb I appreciate your kindness and honesty. Thank you for speaking out.
I loved the Lee quote. I feel like everyone is talking right now. As the caucasian member of an interracial/ transracial family I feel more and more my place is to spend most (but not all) of my time listening quietly right now. When the time is right I can speak but how can I learn if I am not quiet?
I love this comment section❤️so positive and uplifting
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So good to see you again! Thank you for sharing as you do, it emboldens my heart and makes me think differently (depression/anxiety ridden I am). HUGS to you
Just want to add.. I live in London in a multicultural city. I considered myself as educated and open minded person. Living in the city I assumed I know more or less about all the culture around me. I learnt from observations mostly...however that was wrong. You meed to go deeper and educate yourself about other cultures , races and other countries even if you are surrounded by them constantly. Don't assume you are tolerant and open minded because you live in community of different cultures... I totally agree to debate about all the issue within society...peollpe are bombarded with some many shallow articles and random opinions on social media they just forget to "investigate" the issues and educate themselves...aslo I recommend to travel...but not travel for beach or all inclusive holiday. Travel to learn more about other cultures, countries and just ordinary people. I must admit I finding traveling like that very satisfying... Of course during pandemic this is not easy but this situation will lastly for possibly few more months...soo this comment is not as valid at the moment but next year I hoping we all can organise some exciting travels:)...
Rowena, I can’t say how thankful I am for a voice like yours on this platform. I think all of us are going through something of some sorts to any and all degree. And somehow, your guidance and wisdom seem to apply to all aspects of life’s problems and demands. I just hope you know how thankful I am to always have you like an older sister that I run to when I need a grounding and soothing voice❤️
Love you and love your videos. I always come back to your channel and wait for your new ones. Kisses from Saudi Arabia😘😘😘
I cant describe The way your videos always refreshing my day!!
Rowena I have followed you for years. Your advice and wisdom has gotten me through a lot of tough times and have generally made my life better. With all that said, I have to unsubscribe. While I understand where this video is coming from, it is incredibly disappointing and disheartening to see that you are not willing to speak out against systemic racism and police violence. We may not all agree on solutions, I am very willing to discuss and debate ideas surrounding defunding the police, etc., but at the very least I expect people I support to say to acknowledge that black lives matter. It shouldn't be a matter of opinion on whether other HUMANS lives matter. It's frankly gas lighting to say that you need to just "look at both perspectives and open your mind" because I really don't think there is any other perspective that matters aside from the lived experience of black people that are killed on a daily basis. These are just facts that we shouldn't be okay with. I understand this is supposed to be a feel good video in turbulent times, but it completely missed the mark. I swept aside the fact that in previous videos you mentioned QAnon, a right-wing conspiracy group, as an example of questioning societal norms. This I just can't stand by. If I knew I could get in touch with you personally, I would love to have a conversation about all of this but knowing that will not happen I will just have to unsubscribe.
Thank you for articulating how I feel. Rowena I have also followed you for years and greatly benefitted from your videos, but this wishy-washy response to a movement that is literally defending lives and the inherent value of those lives, doesn't cut it for me. In fact, it's really quite jarring. I can't support someone that won't vehemently back (and in your case platform) something as critically important as the Black Lives Matter movement. Black Lives Matter is a simple phrase and a simple concept - at the very least bring yourself to say it once. Being open and accepting to people and their differing beliefs is often beautiful and rewarding, but the right to life and equality is fundamental. Recognise that by suggesting fundamental rights should be up for debate, you are exercising a dangerous amount of privilege.
Its truly been exhausting but being able to stand would be beneficial for me
Gowing is uncomfortable and being in the middle of it, there are growing pains, but just as are constantly learning (by keeping an open mind) we are also reaching closer to realizations. Thank you for this video and giving us tips on how to be more open with ourselves at such a vulnerable time in the world
The things you say are SO deep, you're one of the deepest humans i've ever known ❤️ thanks for this video
I adore these kinds of videos.They make me think and have thoughts about everything.I feel like I want to be alone in the middle of nowhere,with only me ,myself and I.
the hug at the end 💛 love you Ro!
Always so refreshing to watch your videos. Thanks
You are such a voice of reason & I truly appreciate your existence and contribution in this world.
Very timely. I feel unmotivated and sluggish huhu. Thank you for this, Rowena!
I've learned so much from watching your videos and been inspired to try new things - but trying to sell shampoo and conditioner in the same conversation about racial justice is wack. Maybe you feel uncomfortable having the conversation, try leading from that place and open your circle up to different views from different kinds of people. fight on!
I agree, it felt a bit out of place to me too.
ive been struggling with ptsd for the past year and lately it has become a constant struggle to keep my mind clear from terrifying thoughts and flashbacks, but learning from your videos has helped me to pull myself out of my bad times. thank you so much for making me feel better and for making me feel like a good person, a person who i want to love. im still working on myself everyday but hearing your stories have helped so much! sending all my love and appreciation 🙏
you're strong and you've been doing a great job! wishing you all the best 💝
thinking about using your love language on yourself is such an interesting thought, because its something I kind of do, but I think I want to commit to more. thank you for your videos and for donating. it means a lot!
This was the perfect thing to wake up to!! Thank you!
I can relate to you, Rowena. It makes me feel so good after getting fresh air. Going for a walk 15 minutes per day boost my mood so muchhh... I love your video, Rowena. There are times when i feel so down going trough my life these days. But your video kind of remind me that I don't struggle alone. Your video encourages me so much. Thank you! 🥔🌻❤️
Opened UA-cam and first reaction was thankkk you rowena for coming back!! ❤❤
The line you said about that in pain and in discomfort lies the opportunity for growth and development, that shit just blew my mind and hit me hard. Thank you. I'm glad I searched "self care" today I really needed the videos I've seen so far
Unfortunately this is what I expected from an Asian woman who only has Asian friends.
Thank you.
your videos feel so deeply refreshing & always remind me of what's important to me 💫💫
I just want to say, I really appreciate you. When everything seems to be going so fast and all of it is painted in extremes, your thoughts are so calming. Remembering I'm not alone; there are others mulling and thinking and wandering through their minds. Your videos challenge me to take care of myself, act in empathy, and do the challenging things that create long term change. a true bright spot on the internet ❤️❤️
You're so understanding. I would be incredibly happy to have a friend like you. Thank you for helping out others with your kind words.
this is the video i didn't even know i needed. thank you rowena 💕
WE'VE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS 😭
thank you for coming back. i just want to give you a big hug. ❤
OMG the bottom of the screen next to the timestamps THERES LIKE EACH SECTION HEADER??? we love innovativness
Rowena you are soo important and I hope that you know that
Rowena is back with an other videooooo.
I've been waiting for what seems like forever 😂
Missed you Rowenaaaaa!!!!
Its been weeks now that Ive been too idle. i found this vid timely. Thank youuuu
Conscious thoughtful content, thank you for sharing your lessons and being vulnerable 🙏🏼 Also THANK 👏🏼 YOU 👏🏼 for using time stamps and show notes!!
thank you
Such a comfort to just hear you talk. Thank you Rowena 💛❤️
You're such a blessing. I'm so contented and happy with where I am in life and it's all thanks to you. I'm a smol fan from Pakistan 🥺
@@farheenw848 hello from Poland 🇵🇱!! I have a small channel too ♥, mindful life by Agnes. Welcome over :-))))
suffering and hardship can ALWAYS be a wonderful catalyst for growth even if in the midst of it all it doesn’t seem so
Thank you for being the only constant thing in my life 😭❤
Pretty much the only youtuber who I can give me whole attention to when doing a sit down video ✨ although I do admit I paused to do my skincare and get dressed 🌿 something about you makes me want to do better 👏🏻
Rowena speaks to my soul like the older sister that I always wish I had 😭❤🙏
I never clicked so fast on a video!! Having a good start this morning jeeejj!
Hi Rowena, I love your videos, but this one is super disappointing in that it doesn't bring any real sustenance to the situation at hand. By sidestepping the entire conversation (which you do allude to) of Black Lives Matter, you're literally telling your viewers that it's okay if they think Black people don't matter or that they, too, can remain silent about racism. (It's not okay! It used to be semi-acceptable to stay quiet, but now not choosing a side is the same as choosing the wrong side.) Maybe you don't support the BLM movement yourself, I'm not sure because this was very vague. You've had a chance here to really push the movement forward by using your platform to help nudge people in the right direction (there is a right direction!), but instead you chose to play it neutral. Sorry to hear this. Hopefully any viewers you have that are racist or even riding the line of neutrality over the subject will realize their wrongness elsewhere in media. Self-care won't soothe a racist soul.
Rowena, you made me cry. You are so brave for being so open about how you feel and I can only hope to do it as well as you. I feel your pain ❤ thank you for giving this gift to the world
actually, your content could be a podcast content as well. love what you share is thoughtful, compassion and loving. have you think about create you own PODCAST?
hey ro, hope you're doing well! Just wanted to let you know that your videos have always helped me. They always seem to come at the right time and have funnily become signposts for me I feel? haha somehow they point me towards directions I need to look at at that point of time and for that I am forever grateful!
I know these are times of high anxiety with a lot of things happening simultaneously, and so I feel the place your voice is coming from, and even when it is especially hard to look inward I truly believe that the actions we take when we take it from the inside are the most impactful , in every context, and I'm so so glad that this video resonated this. Thats what I got out of it at least!
anyway hope we all become better as we go through this together.
Thanks once again!
You should do podcasts, it'd be amazing
I didn't know you have glasses😎...this video was so refreshing for the brain
Thank you as always for your wonderfully helpful videos mon coeur 🌌🐧🖤
Yes we are all the sweetest potatoes and so are you Rowena! The message you conveyed in this video was something that we all needed. Do not forget to take care of yourselves and make sure to live every moment with love and the fullest intentions!
Rowena, thank you very much for inspiration 🙏 I'm very grateful you shared this video ❤ Stay safe, healthy and strong!
I’ve had to unsubscribe after this video, Rowena and hope you will reflect on the following. As an Asian woman, you are able to practice “self care” on the backs of the works of radical Black women such as Audre Lorde and are bastardizing the idea of self care for your own monetary gain on this channel. Self care was started by Black and POC bodies as a regenerative practice in accompaniment to social justice work. I hope you will look to Lavendaire, Jenn Im, and Amy Lee as examples of what allyship looks like and what using your platform to stand in solidarity with Black people actually looks like. The fact that this is sponsored and only a portion of the sponsorship money is going to this month profit is gross. The fact that you took so long to take a stance is gross. Human rights, especially Black rights, are not an opinion and something to be debated. There’s not “multiple sides” to this and for you to even imply this is siding with the oppressor. As an avid reader, I suggest you pick up radical texts by Black and Non Black POC that will broaden your worldview instead of constantly pushing books and podcasts by mostly WHITE men, who honestly could care less about you and whose platforms are consumed by alt-right bigots. I suspect that this comment will be pushed down or deleted but I said my piece and hope you will take everything I said into consideration.
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This!!! I agree with pretty much all your points. After doing research, and listening to folks in various communities, we need to be raising up the voices of the oppressed, not drowning them out ourselves. (Not familiar with the other folks just yet but I trust you on that. got a few lavadaire vids on my watch later) Rowena's recommendation of Jordan Peterson stuff raised some alarms for me, because much of his stuff while interesting, is white-male centric and not helpful/inclusive.
And while I don't know all the facts of her life, and while yes it would be better if all the revenue & sponsorship went to charity, rowena might be in a position where she needs to save/support herself/someone else financially, and not want to talk about it.
edit: grammar/clarity coz I'm sleepy and watching this before bed
You perfectly explained why I've always had issues with the self-care movement when it comes from the mouths of non-BIPOC folks. It feels so rooted in capitalism that it loses all of its original meaning. We gotta stop watering down the works of radical Black women in the name of capitalism and give credit where credit is due. Also, we gotta actually read the works of radical Black women!!!
Thank youuuuu!!! I felt so lonely reading the other butterfly and unicorns type of comments, I am glad some of us are reading through the BS
ALL OF THIS 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Finalllyyyyyyy...i have been waiting for your video
When lives are on the line, this is not the time for people of privilege and power to just turn inward and detract from the social life of the community. It's irresponsible of you to preach that. People have been protesting out on the streets and they need privileged bodies like yours to be out there with Black people. "Fighting the good fight" also requires people of privilege to give up on their comforts and be uncomfortable. I usually like your videos but I think you need to reflect on the "Self Care" messaging you're putting out there, especially when people don't have the comfortable space to practice self care when their bodies are being attacked on a daily basis. This is not radical self care, what you're preaching looks more like an active detachment from the situation. No, it's not okay to be silent at this time. People of privilege need to do better.
And on the issue of "shying away" from difficult conversations: what's making it so hard for you to say #BLM? What's making it so hard for you to address the anti-Blackness amongst Asians? How'd you manage to make a video that vaguely references politics and human rights without naming who are the perpetrators of violence? "Learn, listen, empathize" with whom? When one side has the gun ready to shoot and kill, is it possible for Black people to learn, listen and empathize? In an unequal world, does the oppressed owe the oppressor empathy? What kind of message is this?
Could not agree more. Super disappointed and at this point she seems like a total hack. As Rachel Cargle has said, self care without community is not self care. It’s just selfish. Meaning self care without social justice is just a sad exploitation of what self care was supposed to mean. Jenn Im, Amy Lee and Lavendaire are better examples of wellness/lifestyle gurus that have been having these hard conversations on their platforms. I suggest following them instead.
lonefoxdancing YES to this! All the self care in the world won’t soothe a racist soul.
@@jazmynnv5831 Thanks for the recommendations!!! Gonna check them out!
you said this PERFECTLY 🙌🏾
When you said you cried for humanity. I felt that I am so glad other people are feeling the same way.
Puddle party, that’s a great phrase
thank u for always being here for us ro💗💗💗💗know that we are here for u too.
It's apparent by the video you suggested that you do not support the black lives matter movement, which is your prerogative. After being a fan of you for so long, I was expecting you to be anti-racist also. But as you said, we will all not share the same viewpoints. And since this is extremely important to me and the lives of the future black children and brown children (including Latinx and indigenous children) in this frightening county, I’ve decided to remove myself from spaces I do not feel appreciated. Although you don’t mind continuing your channel, with or without me, you’ll still get money peddling self-love and self-help, and in a few months, you can live a life where this does not inconvenience you. I will never denounce how you have helped so many, including me, at times. However, for many other Black and Brown people, including me in the United States, every time we step foot outside, we have to be aware that we have to fight upstream against a disadvantage. And the video you suggested with bob Woodson is very one-sided with a specific viewpoint, but you decide what you believe as do I, all views based on our individual experiences in this country. However, as always, good luck to you in this lifetime.
Xania reed and Jess, thank you so much for the insight. You guys i can't believe she went on several videos denouncing Falundafa persecution in China and shut up towards BLM..lol she's Asian she might have faced discrimination but nothing close to what majority Black and Brown have to deal with on the daily.. So disappointing and yet not surprising. What goes around comes around though..good luck to ppl with that poor type of mentality..
Rowenaaaaaa I missed your videosssss
My absolute queen 😫❤️ Thank you for always reminding me to be more human
Hello! I have recently started watching your videos. I would find it helpful if you talk about being unhappy with your job and getting stuck within a sunk cost fallacy mindset. Any pointers on what factors to consider when it comes to make big decision especially when the outcome could be so uncertain? Many thanks! Any books recommended regarding this matter would be very helpful I am open to recommendations:)
This. This is exactly what I needed. Thank you, Ro. Praying that you'll always have a wonderful day. Take care
Who else loves her videos and thinks she is STUNNING!!
Btw I'm a small youtuber
thank you for making this video ❤️❤️❤️ I find all your videos so wholesome!
a little disappointed in this video, there is no "other side" when it comes to this kind of thing. everyone needs to be strictly anti-racism.
Yes! This is correct. Can’t say enough how disappointed I am in her for neglecting to speak out against social injustice and racism in this video.
You mean a lot for me because in some way it makes me get my life together❤️✨
I've never click so fast 😂 thank you for the new video~~sending all my love from India!
Never been this early! Another video from Rowena that I know I’m going to love 💕
love this n where you decided to donate thank you
Lol the first thing I thought when I started playing this video was "Wow, her hair looks so nice today!" 😆
There was so much said but I didn't hear a single utter of Black Lives Matter and the Joe Rogan video rec?? Come on, do better. Stop exposing yourself through this complicit silence and start opening the dialogue like you preached others to do so.
What she will add to what have been said by others?
Maybe she does not know what to say about it in appropriate words
I dont thinn it is a responsability for her to say or to talk about things that r out of her comfort zone
i'm IKO it is not that hard to say black lives matter, by not saying it all it’s very clear which side she’s on
I love that you are donating the ad revenue from this video.
You're one of my absolute favorite youtubers ✨