Family Scapegoating Abuse (FSA) Research: 3 KEY Findings
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- Опубліковано 2 жов 2024
- FAMILY SCAPEGOAT RESEARCH RESULTS: Family SCAPEGOATING Abuse (FSA) and Family Scapegoat TRAUMA (FST) - Presenting KEY RESEARCH FINDINGS from my latest Survey, which some of you participated in. (This video also includes a special note / update for my subscribers).
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💡Rebecca C. Mandeville is a thought leader and recognized expert in abusive family systems. She is also the author of 'Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role' and a clinical expert in UA-cam's Health Partner Program. You can visit her website at scapegoatrecov....
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I am shocked but also not shocked at the amount of people from your survey who suffer this hideous hidden abuse. For years I thought I was a freak. Now I know I am in the company of millions of scapegoats....I am HONORED!
I thought I was, too. And I yearned for someone to understand me all through childhood and beyond.
@@raven4090 I hear you Raven, All the therapists, especially Rebecca, & others on the internet were the ones who helped me realize there was nothing wrong with me, not to mention getting closer and talking to Jesus every day. You are a strong resilient warrior Raven! :-)
Blessings to you.
Ditto Sister!
Oh Rebecca dear...sorry to hear this and fascinated at the same time to learn more about what's happened and how you figured out that it's connected to your vagus nerve. I'm pretty confident that a doctor didn't tell you that. I was in a terrible car crash at age 21 where my friend and I were at a stoplight and a guy smashed into us and the car was crushed right up to the front seat. We actually emerged from the car without a scratch but I suffered from vagus nerve injury (which took many years to realize) and was later on diagnosed with TMJ and my facial pain dysfunction. Believe it or not I've experienced 4 other crashes since then (one is recent as 3 years ago) wherein the cars was rendered undrivable and similarly I emerged without a scratch. None of these "accidents" were my fault btw. I'm truly at this point believing that they were ALL some type of spiritual attack. I've experienced so many different painful and debilitating health issues since this first accident that it feels like that's become my main focus in this life....figuring it out and healing it. This is how I ended up becoming a healer. I want you all to know that we all have amazing god-given powerful healing capacities and that there is nothing we cannot heal from. No matter if you've been diagnosed with an "incurable" disease or syndrome believe you can and God will help you find a way. Nothing is impossible and I am now grateful for all these experiences were an opportunity to learn and grow and help other sufferers. Having support and prayers from a loving community such as this one that you, Rebecca, have created will surely catapult you into a stronger more powerful healer too! God Bless you and everyone reading this. I love you all so much.❤❤❤❤❤❤
Time to take a break from caring for others and concentrate on you! ❤ Take all the rest your body says you need.
🙏🏼 thank you 😌
I'm so sorry to hear about this. Please rest and take all the time you need. Your work is so appreciated. Sending lots of love and healing wishes ❤ (also tail wags and whinnies 🐕🐎)
Hi Rebecca
Sorry to read about the medical emergency you are experiencing.
May quietness and trust be a source of strength for you.
Thank you for the video, the music is calming.
Remember He gives to His Beloved even in her sleep.
Rest well. Prayers for answers to the cause and your recovery.
We all appreciate you so much.
😊Jane
I’m sending love and get well wishes to you❤ I hope and encourage you to take MORE time than you think you need.
Much love to you ☀️
Wise words, thank you.
OMG, Prayers going out to you Rebecca....when you can, let us know what is happening with you. I know the Vagus nerve is critical for bodily functions...gotta have it!! Dear God, Please protect and fully heal Rebecca's health concerns, she is a valuable member of your army...We love her...AMEN
Thank you - much appreciated!
Ditto from Bakersfield California where liar King Kevin McCarthy is FROM. Prayers needed for the tRump/McCarthy for prison together 20-24 years or at least months. Two Narcopathetic Twins in 🍊 Orange belong together.
I sincerely wish you well, I wish you a complete recovery, and good health. I, like so many of us, want to thank you, with my whole heart for your precious work, and for you kind generosity in sharing it here. Know that you are changing and improving many many lives! You are loved and cared for.
Thank you, and much appreciated.
I think if you really want to fix something you have to deal with the root cause of the problems, as well, which seems to be the destruction of the traditional family. So many of us come from broken families and that seems to be as a result of the economy and the need for 2 parents to be working in order to survive which leaves little time for parents to really spend much quality time with one another as well as with the rest of the members of the family. This is what ultimately leads to the eventual breakups and you can't raise children properly if you're both working all the time.
Get well soon. ♥
I look at these massive homes that were built in the 2000s-2010s and wondered what was the point of building those massive houses, only to send your children to daycare, and have both parents working all the time to pay bills, so that nobody really has a chance to 'enjoy' the living space?
I'm an empath and I've been told I can take negative energy and turn it into positive energy. So I am sending all my positive energy to you and pray for your healing. ❤
*Take care Ms. Mandeville. May you have a smooth recovery. All my best.* 🥹💙
Hey Rebecca! You know what's happening? I always tell people about you and your work but now I've heard several times, "I know, I love her - she's been so helpful!" You are truly making a difference and your message is being heard. So I hope you will rest easy as long as necessary with the knowledge that your work is growing even while you take it easy for as long as you need to. Your needs matter. I hope you have someone who can advocate for you, but I know you have many who are sending love and healing. Please know that and take the best of care!
Thank you for letting me know, this is most heartening to hear and means much to me, and of course, you were one of my first subscribers!
I've been nervously noting your absence on social media, Rebecca, and wondering how you are doing. I'm sending you love and healing energy and looking forward to your full recovery. You are greatly missed!!!@@beyondfamilyscapegoatingabuse
Yes ma'am, I Ditto that!!! First and foremost, take care of yourself and healthcare needs. But know, being new to this channel, I can honestly say you have been a God send! It seems that there are a lot of people suffering "silently", and other's not-so silently, and unless you have experienced the covert and not so covert psychological
warfare being committed by bullies, narcissist, etc. It's difficult for people to understand. Please and thank you for all the information and research you are doing in relation to the subject of scapegoating. Very educational.
Take good care of yourself ❤. Hope you feel better soon.
Sending prayers your way for a speedy recovery... Get well soon beloved Earth Angel! Much love and many blessings to you and this community. 💛🫶🌟
Sending love and prayers your way! Take care, Rebecca. We thank you for all the research you’ve done for the FSA community.❤
Sending positive thoughts for healing, and may you know you are cared for by a community of folks who understand. Take it slow and easy, Rebecca. ❤
Prayers for your quick and complete recovery, Dr. Mandeville! You and your videos have been a lifesaver for me! You are the reason why I know about structural dissociation and why I now have a name for what happened to my mind: dissociative amnesia, coupled with depersonalization and derealization disorder.
My abuse occurred in the 1970s and 80s, when it was presumed that my hormones and being a 'spoiled brat' teenager were the root cause of my problems.
I've read through your book and taken extensive notes on it, sometimes crying, sometimes raging, and oftentimes needing a nap afterwards. I've donated it to a neighborhood "little library" to spread the message to others.
I really love the calming music in the background of this video. I started my journey by listening to 'binaural beats' music videos so I could calm myself after re-opening old, (concsciously) forgotten wounds.
Thank you for your work.
Get well soon!
Sending love & light Rebecca 💜 your work is truly a lived experience 😇 I hope you will look after yourself as you would look after your clients 😆 I'm fascinated with polyvagal theory I listened to Sue Carter & Stephen Porges this morning & the symptoms of PTSD really make sense from this perspective 👍as Sue recommends try to cuddle up with your dog for the oxytocin natural healing; take care 🌻🐕🌼🌹🌞
ua-cam.com/users/live_vgwsd9wJp8?si=dKxUwu3INWER-cU9
Sue Carter's theory on the healing components of oxytocin 😊
Oh my goodness! Prayers for wisdom for the doctors and for you to be restored to health, safely and in the time that it takes.
Feel better soon! I pray that you are recovering. 🙏🙂🌹🌻
Rest and thankful for your continued passion ✨🤍✨🪔
Sending loving and healing energy to you.
Hope you're well soon ❤️ ty so much for your work and support
Hi Rebecca, I’m sending you so much love, and praying you have a full recovery. Do what you need for healing, and self care. We’ll all be here waiting for you. 💐
Glad your okay! Please take time for yourself and recover!!
Take what ever time you need to heal. We'll be here when you are ready. Sending warm healing thoughts your way❤
P.S. Great music choice! Too upbeat would feel wrong. This felt calming and deeply profound.
I'm so sorry, Rebecca. I'm praying for you.
Sending Love and prayers, for a speedy recovery. You have helped so many of us, to find our true self again. Thank you!
Ever since I found your precious videos I admired you for the way you could deal with this horrific subject! You're giving so much to us! Please also take time, love and care for yourself!
Thank you, Rebecca! Get well soon! Greetings from Germany!
I hope you're doing better. Your work is very valuable to all of us out here. Thsnk you and I pray for a speedy recovery for you.
I’m so sorry to hear this news. Your videos have been so helpful and so validating. Please take care and hope you will feel better soon and be back in good health and thank you for letting us know.
Hoping you are completely recovered & well soon. 🙏
Dear Rebecca!! Wishing you a speedy recovery! Thinking of you 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖✨✨✨✨
Please take care of yourself. Take the time you need. I am grateful for the awareness that your work has generated for FSA. And as I watched this I hurt for all of the others who have endured this type of abuse. It is comforting to know that people are reaching out to be healed and that they have resources like this to help them.
Omg, lady. Please just take care of yourself and get well. You give so much to so many, it's time to give yourself the same care and dedication. Please. I'm sure everyone here would agree. May you have a speedy recovery and know that you are thought of. Much love to you❤🎉
I am so sorry you are experiencing a serious health problem linked to your vagus nerve. I hope you find the cause soon. Your book and videos have been some of the best help for me. I am so grateful to you. Please focus on taking care of yourself. I hope you are feeling better soon. ❤❤❤😢
Thank you so much for your beautiful work and for being a voice for scapegoats. It means a lot. I hope that you are feeling better following your emergency and that whatever created the situation is easily resolved. Please take special care of yourself. ❤
Sorry to hear about your medical emergency, Rebecca. Hope you make a quick recovery.
Thank you for sharing your findings.
I've only just found you, and you have helped heal my vagus nerve so much already, I just wish I could return the favor. Your insights are so eye-opening and validating, and I'm so grateful to you. I hope you get past this scare quickly and treat yourself like gold when its over, like you deserve ❤❤❤
Dear Rebecca, I truly hope the doctors will discover the primary cause of your emergency medical event in order for you to overcome it. I have had heart issues since catching the original pulmonary Covid in 2019, and I find a nice cold tall beer every day liquifies my blood enough to stop the problems. Not a great recommendation to a therapist, but keep it in mind.
Thx for survey findings! I would be interested to know from another survey how many of the scapegoats had issues such as depression, dysthymia, anxiety, social anxiety, alcohol or drug addiction, eating disorders etc. I think some of the problems people are struggling with have roots in being the family scapegoat. If you just treat just the visible problem, then you are not getting to the real issue. The person has low self-esteem from emotional abuse. It needs to be addressed in the here and now. We have the power to work through this as adults. We had to just suck it up when we were younger and now it's festering inside.
Your last sentence sums it up! Time to process the poison out....
@@pelletier4432 And if your family is still in denial about using you as a scapegoat then find friends to help. Parents don't want to admit they messed their child up and will go to their grave denying the emotional abuse.
Hi Rebecca, please focus on your health and take as much time as you need to get well. Thanks for sharing your research with us. It makes such a big difference to so many. Take care.
Take good care, we need you. I will pray for your good recovery. Love and best wishes for you from Barcelona
Thank you, Rebecca, for the research. Hope you are doing ok and wishing you a speedy and full recovery xx
🙏 take care 🙏
Get better soon! Self care!
Sorry to hear about your medical challenges. Thinking of you and wishing you all the best. Please know we want you to concentrate on taking care of yourself. 💗
This is where the geographical cure absolutely changed my life for the better! Still had/have to do a lot of inner work with carefully chosen helpers. Excited to see this work being done. Very useful from this angle. Take care of yourself! ❤
I'm sorry Rebecca! Take care of yourself, God bless.
Hello Rebecca, Thank you for letting us know about your medical emergency. I am praying for your complete recovery! Please take care. ❤🙏
Hi Rebecca, I am sending all the Positive energy I possess for a very speedy recovery. Your work is so valuable to all of us. But taking care of yourself is certainly in the forefront of our minds to all of us. Lots of Love being sent your way ~ Dianne
Much appreciated, Dianne!
Oh, I am so sorry, take care of yourself. We will be here when you can come back. Do what’s best for you. Hope everything goes ok.
Sending love and prayers for a full recovery. Take care, Rebecca.
Thank you, much appreciated!
SPEAKING 🔊 LIFE AND TOTAL HEALING OVER YOU, REBECCA IN JESUS MIGHTY NAME 🙏 ❤❤❤
I am so sorry Rebecca!😢and I hope they will find out the case really soon so you don’t have to go in the dark for so long. Take care, stay calm and good luck ❤
Wishing you a speedy recovery- thank you for all you do and for validating our experiences. You are a true blessing!
Best wishes
Thank you!
Sending healing and loving thoughts. Wishing you a full recovery!
Thank you so much for your work! Wishing you a good recovery, take care of yourself! ♥️
Thank you so much!
Prayers for your healing. We need your wisdom. Feel better soon
Dr. Mandeville, you are so loved and appreciated for all of your knowledge and efforts and the undeniable difference you are making for scapegoat survivors. You are also loved and appreciated just for being YOU 💗. I think I speak for all of your subscribers when I say that we want you to take as much time as you need/want to take care of yourself and recover. I know that I will be here when you are ready and I have no doubt that your other subscribers will be too! Sending your beautiful soul and body, all of the love and healing energy in the Universe and beyond .❤🤍🧡💛💚💙💜🤎🤍❤
Re-reading all of my messages here and feeling the community love - Thank you for all of the colorful hearts - a good image for our group here!
Praying for your healing, strength and comfort. I'm so sorry to hear about your health emergency.
Hope you feel better soon! Take care of yourself and take the time you need! Very grateful for you and your videos!
Get well soon, Rebecca. ❤❤❤
Oh Rebecca, I'm so sorry to hear about your health. It must have been so scary for you to experience a life/death emergency. I hope you are much better now and that you are able to find the source of the problem and fix it easily.
The survey results are very interesting. I'm looking forward to hearing more when you have recovered and are back. ❤
Best wishes from Scotland x
Dr. Mandeville, best of wishes and prayers for your recovery and strengthening in the days to come.
Praying for a full return to health. You have saved my life, and we have never even met. Now that’s pretty remarkable! God is using you in ways you may not even know. I am eternally grateful. Soo many people truly care about your wellbeing. Us empaths like to keep pulling from a dry well. Take time to let your well refill😘🥰
Very true. And I will do just that, thank you!
That sounds scary. Wishing you a team of good health providers and better health! 💝
What happened to you ? Hope you are doing well now.
Something I was born with that wasn't recognized in the medical community until recently. Kinda like FSA... I'm doing better, hope to be making videos again soon!
Sending much love, prayers and healing to you ❤❤❤
Dear Rebecca, along with so many others I wish you deep healing. I am so sorry to hear you are having medical issues. You are a Gift to the world. Know that you are held in our hearts. Take the very Best care of yourself.
Thank you Ms Mandeville for your videos. They give me understanding.
You are so welcome.
You dear lady, get well soon .
My prayers are with you. I have just come out of CCU . My heart being very weak now and no more can be done.
I am 70 and have not long realised l was the scapegoat to a covert narc mother..
Married a narc alcoholic physically and of course mentally abusive.
It took me 14 years to leave and decades to heal.
I have finally worked it all out !
I think my heart has been 💔 broken in the process
But l am still planning on living my best life with my 2nd husband and 3 beautiful children. Hoping l am not too late to make a difference for them.
I can't tell you how much you have helped my healing ,hoping something that l say can help you sweet lady. X
Thank you, Colleen - Envisioning complete healing for us all!
I hope you get better soon ❤
Please rest and take care of yourself so you heal soon. God bless you.
Get well soon Rebecca. Thankyou for everything you have done. You are a beautiful soul.
Please get well soon. We need you. Take care of your health first
Thank you - And I am.
Oh Rebecca, so sorry to hear you are struggling and suffering with a medical crisis. I wish you healing and you find answers. I hope you have a good medical care team .Sending love and prayers for you to have a speedy recovery. Take care of yourself. If you need to talk I am here.
So sorry to hear about your health issue take all the time you need to recover. I’m so grateful for all I’ve learned from you about this issue-a great relief to have understanding about what happened growing up.❤🙏🌈
I hope you have a full recovery. So sorry to hear this. Lots of Luv.❤
Take all the time you need, Rebecca! 💚
Can someone please tell us what the status is of Rebecca... She said she would have a new video Sept. 16.. and did not.... I am feeling a bit of trauma, to be honest.. that she has suddenly disappeared . I am worried of course.. first, for her And i hope she is ok, and better soon..... but second... i would like to know what is going on right now... for me. xoxoox
I had a note in my last video (this video here, in fact) regarding a recent medical event and my needing to take a break. The video with the update is here. Rest assured I will be back with new videos once I am medically cleared to work again! Video here: ua-cam.com/video/AIu6-oZ18kM/v-deo.html
I hope you will fill in.. what you referred to as your VAGUS NERVE being part of what happened.. I am VERY much wanting to know what you meant... take care !
Get well. My vasovagal syncope has been managed…mainly through education and empowerment. May you experience healing.💪
Wish you a speedy recovery!
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Or anything what makes you feel comfortable and relaxed. We wish you well!
Hoping your recovery is swift and easy, a prayer for you, please take rest and sleep well.
Looking forward to your return and wonderful wisdoms. 🕊 🙏
Best decisions ever made in life...
A. Getting Spayed...
B. Dumping toxic, narcissistic cluster b douchebags... (Family of Origin)
C. Self Discovery, focus on learning about psychology and the issues there in...
D. Moving into my own place and giving the metaphorical middle finger to the rest of the neurotic species... 🖕
Peace At Last.... 🌸 🥋 👊 🌷 🐝 🌿 ☯
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I’m sorry to hear about this,, I went through some vagus nerve stuff, the thing that everyone missed(for 18 months) was that I was b1 (Or thiamine) deficient. The vagus nerve and your ability to calm down and regulate runs on b1. I had to figure it out my self looking up symptom clusters. For me, the cause was high stress, digestive problems (low absorption) low carb diet and coffee(as well as tea blocks the ability to absorb b1). Anyone still reading wants to learn more go to EOnutrition UA-cam channel, saved my ass.
Thank you. My own research is leading me down a similar path. Much appreciated.
Thinking of you every day and Praying for your well-being. Blessings to sweet Rebecca. 🙏🏼🤍🕊
I hope you are well, Rebecca.
I've had another idea for you to perhaps explore. I would bet many of us, of we don't fall for narcissists, choose emotionally unavailable ones. I know I've had both.
Miss you Rebecca, hope you’re doing well. I’m sorry to hear you’re ill.
Dr. M, I’m saying a rosary just for you. Please get well we need you, you are the scapegoats arc angel.
Thank you. I look forward to being able to resume making videos, once I am able!
That's beautiful 📿
Oh no, I'm really sorry to hear this. I hope that you recover and get back to the fullness of health. Your book and your videos have helped me so much. I know I'm not crazy. Thank you. Xx
Hey Rebecca sending you all the love and healing to you ❤💜 take care...🥰❤
❤❤❤ please please rest up and take all the time you need. We'll be here when you're ready! I appreciate you and all that you do. Thank you!
So sorry to hear that you had a serious medical emergency 😞Please take very good care of yourself. Send you lots of love 🩷🩷
Take all the rest you need. We’ll still be here when you get back. Hope you get better soon
Get well soon! Your work is so important! But do take care of yourself, first.