Life after running away
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- Опубліковано 8 вер 2024
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your family reminds me a lot of mine. pushy and disrespectful of boundaries in the name of "protecting" you. when actually their interference is doing more harm than good. and being around them makes you doubt yourself. it's so stupid. keep trusting yourself. you know whats best for you better than anyone else. no wonder you need so much space from toxic people like that. theyre not a match to the confident and free person you're becoming because they just want to control you for their own emotional gratification and throw fits when you don't comply.
Deevaani I’m so glad things worked out for you and that you have your husband! May God continue to bless you
Thank you so much!
I ran away at 18. I’m 29 now and haven’t looked back.
So Proud of you ❤
Your from??
Ur 18 u could have just left right?
@@lillesavage9950 Not really. Even when you turn 18 you can still be forced into things by your parents.
@@asteroscope yeah, that’s what I’m scared of. I don’t want my parents forcing me to stay
Hi dear, im muslim, and I love how your iman (faith) in God is so strong, keep going like that. And I wanted to say that it is amazing how God puts a lot of hard obstacles, for us to be strong and overcome them and finally meet him, God has chosen you among a million and has guided you towards him because he wants to see you by his side on judgment day (I know you are christian but we believe in the same god:). You really made me cry when you said that you will make sure you provide your family what you always wanted😭. Stay strong sister, and I hope that God make all your wishes come true if they have good for you and your loved ones, and if not and they would harm you, he keep them away.
bro stfu god doesn't love anyone
Nada, beautiful comment
I am Muslim Indian and my family are super-conservative. I have not ran away legit way but I did plan 2yrs to move out for my master studies . I took student loan and this country is in EU different continent. 8 years now since time I left and one of the toughest and best decision of my life. Now I live life on my own terms, set boundary with my family members and dont give shit to tradition that does not serve me. I am still religious disoriented and finding way i know I would be totally abandoned with my religious decision but I am fine now. Its my life and I am done living other way.
Omg same. I wish to go for EU one day in my late 20s. I am still doing my undergrad, and I hope I will be happy if I leave that toxicity behind.
Thanks for sharing your story. Each and every person has their own untold stories. Some are painful some are not. God bless you
You will. Its not cliché but 'just beiieve in yourself and your decision'
Share JUST with people you can trust.
I will start my YT channel soon to encourage woman like you :) also my solo travelling journey to 22 countries.
I have lots of questions ... so I am so sorry for so many >-<
1. How did you deal with the fear of your parents?
2. What did your budget look like? How did you save up to move out? (I live in Cali, Cali expensive as heck, haha)
3. What advice do you have? I still live with my parents and I am very scared to leave still and I'm about to turn 19 years old.
4. My parents are very controlling, verbally and emotionally abusive; How do I deal with that and also pray about that?
5. How did you have the confidence to leave?
6. Was there guilt? and if so, how did you deal with the guilt?
Thank you for making these videos, they are really helping !! 💗♥💓💗♥💓
Thank you for all the questions!!!! and don’t apologize I’m happy to answer whatever I can!!!! Love you ❤️
Please talk about guilt feelings in your next video!!!
@@DeevaaniWilliams Please answer these questions. I have need them answers.
I don't know how your video just popped up randomly, but I'm glad it did. I'm from Africa, in my 30's, also from a conservative family and I too ran away from home many times. Eventually, I was raised by other family members. My parents changed a few years later and we became very close. I regret missing out on the many years I spent away because my dad passed away. I became very successful in my career, but always regretted some of my actions in the past. I don't know what I'm going to tell my kids someday, but I know that being on my own gave me enormous strength and grit. The problem is that even as an adult sometimes my go-to reaction is to pack my bags and leave, I can't have running away become the theme of my life anymore. I wish you peace and a very happy life.
Your parents sound very narcissitic and glad you got free of them. I can relate to some of what you said in your videos and having to set yourself free from the trauma. Glad God got you free of it all and I pray to be free of it all after I graduate college in 2023.
Pls plan how to run away, I'm happy for u that u have the chance to run away this year, meanwhile i have to wait 4 years
@@BlackSky_111 You got this! You will make it! It isn’t done in vain! God got you! You will be successful and look back on how far you have come also be able to share your story helping others as well. ❤️ I wish you all the best!
Same here am graduating next year with a degree l didn't sign up for but l promise myself l will be free afterwards.
I ran away when I was 12 and now I'm 23 and happy🎉
Omg 12 how did you do that I’m 17 and I want to run away from my emotionally abusive parents for my mental health but I need help
How did you graduate from school?
What is your job. Turning 13 and running away but scared for my future wanted to know what jobs I could get
Any tips on how to move out/run away? I'm already in my 20's but I'm stuck with my toxic family
If your in India then I can move out with you!!
Get your documents together, set goals, get everything/every document you need to have your own affordable living space, start college/university nearby, get a driver's license for work and more freedom, and build mutually strengthening friendships
She has videos about this too
@@sukanyaag2518hey I'm from India wanna move out?? Idk where you from tho
😢 getting older all we want is peace of mind from a chaos I wanted to run away so bad and help myself
It broke my heart to hear of your experience. I know what us third culture kids have to experience with our Indian descent parents - I am happy you have a godly man and Jesus with you. May He richly bless you for your faith and obedience.
I have very toxic family you know the type that does not care what age you are all they care about is control . I just want you to know I watch your videos and I’m a Christian too Jesus is my life and even when I feel so alone he is always there I’m planning to move away and cut off toxic family forever because they say all I will be is an easy rape target because I was sexually abused by own father and older cousin . You are such a light
I’m so sorry 😕 I’m so happy you have Jesus keep following him and he will lead you the right way. ❤️ keeping you in my prayers Sidney
@@DeevaaniWilliams thank you little miracle I ran away back In April with twin sis and we only were gone until July and now we are doing the right steps to move out . Like building credit getting birth certificate and all documents and just learning . Like back then when we ran away we were living in hotels and we didn’t have birth certificates because my family would keep all important things in a box with a lock and now they know my plans but they don’t know exactly where I am gonna live and they don’t know I’m gonna change my last name to my mom . I have a little sister she is my half sister . I know I’m 23 and it’s not my fault for being kept inside all the time . Like you I was never allowed to have real friends or sleepovers or a job for the longest time . I was told this world was an evil place that the only person that cared for me was them . Like everything I did now to get prepared I did on my own after learning from past mistakes of how to live on the outside world . Like you I was always watched over I couldn’t go out past a certain time I be threathen I was told so many things . But this year I’m breaking free for good . I couldn’t do anything I see so much of myself in you . I’m mixed and the sad part is my family here doesn’t want to acknowledge the fact I’m 3 different races because my skin tone is very light but I am Native American Samoan and white . Even when I was an adult I was physically abused by grandpa and now he is dead and gone .
What I appreciate about you is you understand that there are some people out here that don’t care what age you are they want to control every single aspect of how you dress who you talk to don’t share to much information anything about the outside world you have to learn by yourself .
Stay strong
I don’t get why immigrants parent’s always spill the most nasty or untrue rumors about their kid whenever they leave a household the find toxic. 🙄
I am 19 my parents will not allow me to hangout with friends keep my mobile with them at night there is no freedom I wanna run away I am not doing well in my academics also
Where are you from
@@samiha_humayra_ am from India
@@Creative_girl199 I'm form Bangladesh. If you were in my country, we could run away together.
@@samiha_humayra_ yes
Hey girlie, I just found ur channel. I relate to how your parents treated you. My parents try to control my every little action. I am 17 and I have never gone anywhere except school. I recently had my highschool farewell and they fought with me and didn't let me go and call me a whore for gng anywhere. Hope it gets better soon. Wishing u the best too.
Now I think about it you are realy realy strong!
🥲❤️💪🏾 Awh thank you
You are such a light ❤️❤️❤️
You’re too sweet friend ❤️
What a beautiful story and what a courageous woman you are ❤ Thank you for sharing !
Hey
I have a pretty controlling family
They always say it's for my best and i understand that . But I should have freedom to decide what my further studies and my career are going to be . Cause Im the one who is going study and if I don't like what I'm studying how am I going to get a good job and if I get a job i defenetly won't enjoy it .
Right now I don't have any friends cause my parents never let me go out to hang out with them
They slowly forgot me . I stopped getting invited for things and I just feel so bad about myself
Cause I can't share this with anyone i just feel alone but I need to get used to it cause I know my
Parents won't let me go out for sleepovers and even my friends house . Cause they already told me
About it . They literally said it to my face that i can't go to hang out with my friends outside and if
I don't go outside how will I find friends im in High school and I know 1 person in my whole class
Who would talk to me .
Your videos are really helping me u have a beautiful life now 💕
As you said it won't be safe for everyone . I need to plan
Cause my dad is abusive( mentally and physically)
(I deleted my comment from my other account)
That’s exactly my story. And this video really comforted me.
Same 🥺
Stay strong,good luck with everything
We're pretty much situation i just did running away and i dont know what to do but i have definitely my goal and i dont know if it is work. May God help me 😭
You ran away?
Same 😭😭
You ran away??
@@sukanyaag2518 i think you like run away ? Mai know reason ?
update?
this made me cry i love this for u sis x
I am running away because my parents are not being nice to me when I am doing things
If you actually run away I hope you know what to do and have a plan cause if you go head in without a plan something bad could happen I hope life gets better cause I know what it's like I'm planning on running away but right now I'm planning and questioning if I should leave or not so I guess I relate 😅
Join me
I think her parents even turned her away from hindu religion cause like if you're parents are that crazy and strict anything they forced you to do and anything related to them might feel triggering. I was born in india and to me hindu culture and pujas,festivals are the most fun and beautiful thing ever. Hindu religion is so less restrictive, forgiving, very feminist (and a woman goddess is seen and worshipped as the most powerful than all gods) and no threats of hell that i just love participating in it. My parents never forced any thing religious on me and maybe that's why i enjoy it so much. And maybe she missed out on the fun cause Hinduism was forced on her.
I am curious about how you would graduate from school and leave
I’m trying to run away tonight my parents are abusive but I don’t know what the cops will do to me if I run away
if ur a minor then they'll put u in a mental health hospital u won't get arrested or sit like that btw hope ur ok n good luck im gonna do it too soon!
Good luck! Im planning on escaping in 2 days.
@user-oq1nt4li3r did you run away?
@@kookiebts2030 Yes, i’m stayed at my boyfriends house for a month but my mom begs me to come back home, so im going back. But I’m not sure if im making the right decision right now. But im feeling guilty for leaving my boyfriend behind now 😭
@@user-oq1nt4li3r plzz don't go back home. If your parents are narcissistic, you may go through everything again and feel like escaping again. Rather than stay where you are and live a life you wish you had. Don't read your books backwards, i think you shall go through the next chapter❤️ hope so you make a good decision for your future.
i want to run away Eather
but, i don't have the confidince
i live in hell and i cry everynight..i just need to talk to some..and help me
I feel the same way. My parents won’t accept my boyfriend because he’s mixed and I’m Albanian. The only thing they’ll accept is if I marry within our culture. I wanna be with him and the only way I can do so is by leaving home. I don’t have confidence to leave and I need it desperately.
@@doooooo567 do they treat you well?
@@zeinabelkholyThey do, but recently it’s been a little rocky. My brother doesn’t even talk to me anymore and my parents heavily do not want me to be with the boy I’m dating. They don’t even know I’m dating him, however I do believe they suspect something going on- they just don’t know the extent of it. I just don’t know what to do. What I do know is that I want to be happy and live a life with him. We’ve gone through so much together, but at the same time it’s scary because the only way my parents will approve of me is if I choose someone within our own ethnicity. Since my boyfriend is mixed, they don’t like that. Despite everything, him and I have been together for a year and 4 months and I want to experience more life with him. I’m 21 years old and I’m tired of the control my parents think they have over me. The circumstances really suck right now, but we are strong and together and we both believe that if we want it bad enough, then god will make it happen for us. Love always wins and it’s unfortunate some people have to seek so much approval or get disowned in order to love who they choose.
My love, neither I have same family.
But I’m 16 yr old
Getting into his mind by expertly knocking down his psychological walls and making him tingle with feelings of pleasure, means you're doing it right. There are many so called "canned phrases" to make it happen, for example go’ogling something like Celestine Dessike's Words of Desire was the perfect formula for me
What? 👀
@@DeevaaniWilliamsit’s a bot, dw
My parents don't trust me they want me to study in a country I don't fit in so I v decided am going to run away even though I have no friends no where to go but am tired of every1 telling me its my fault for being a failure yet am in a bad school from the beginning I have tokd them to take me back to my home country bad they refused so I they only wana blame me when I fail it's best if I just leave then my success an my faliour will be only mi business I won't have judges who r weating to blame me thanks for for enlightenment
Same here
You are going to be an amazing mom!
Go girl!
How do you runaway without cops noticing you. Im 16 and dealing with a bunch of problems, my step dad literally hates my guts because i ain't his blood and since he got together with my mom she was never the same. I ain't allowed to do anything unless i go to school and the worse part is that they got people watching me in school to da point where i cant do anything. I love them but they hate me for no damn reason i tried talking to them but nothing works
I'm sorry. I'm sure you know this but if you do decide to run away....devise a solid plan for transportation, food, shelter, income, hygiene, education, etc. try to get a part time job to save up for if/when you leave, it'll keep you out of their sight and occupied. (motels are typically cheaper than hotels, maybe you can couchsurf or rent a room for a while, it may not be ideal but just something to consider). Keep a TIGHT lip about this. No one should really know about this. The 311 phone number (or self service number if there is a help desk online so you can avoid calling) can be used to inform authorities about your departure in nonemergencies. I would give them some of your information and tell them that you are not missing. Your parents may call for a search. If they ask, explain that you are running away in brief. Lastly, have copies of important documents with you. Social security cards, medical records, school transcripts, passports, birth certificates...I don't know you and I don't expect a response back but I wish the best for you.
Hi I’m 13 years old and I want to run away because I ever since my now stepdad came into the picture my mother hasn’t been loving or mother figure in ways, she would threaten to hit me, yell at me for no reason such as for not wanting to wear something she wanted me to wear and to be honest before my step dad came into the picture my mother shown me love but had her hateful moments and I still talked to my dad but once my step dad came into the picture she forced me to delete my dads number because she didn’t want me talking to him and for the people who say talk to her about how I feel, I tried. My step dad bad mouths me all the time and my mom knows that, one time I heard him talk about me and I told my mom that I don’t like the way he talks about me and I don’t feel comfortable around him and she told me to be quiet and don’t talk about him like that as I cried because she won’t listen to me but I don’t know how to make a plan or even leave the house when she won’t even let me get a summer job. Also I tried so hard to be perfect but my siblings always got the good side of her and also she doesn’t like my dad at all (I’m the middle child and she hated my dad because he would never date her and I look just like him). Please comment if you can help me please.
Yeah, I'm running away for the sake of my mental health. My mom is a jehovah's witness very much a bible thumper. I'm a closeted nonbinary and bisexual. I don't trust coming out to my parents. They watch youtube videos of lgbt people like me and laugh and call us freaks. They're baby boomers they don't listen to reason. But first I need a job for money and a vehicle so I can take off. I want to be able to get away from toxic family and be myself out in the open for once and not have to be afraid to tell anyone who I am for once without worrying what my parents would do if they found out. There's no way they would let me transition under their roof so, saving money and getting a vehicle is the best way for me to get out then I can start transtiioning so fingers crossed
I hope u can get out soon, im planning on running away too. Im 24 and they treat me like a 14. They’re so strict and toxic and threatening to murder me.
@@user-oq1nt4li3r Omg we are in the same age but also we have in the common story for this one
Hey I’m 13 and I need to run away but since I’m so young idk where I can go
You need to pack clothes, jackets, shoes, socks, underwear, and food and money and you need to turn off your location so u don't get tracked deactivate your tiktok account and do not tell anyone and tell your close bestie if she or he is gonna run away with u and then you need to find somewhere to go for a lil also pack blankets and then bring your charger and use a bike to ride away but if you are walking run as fast as u can and be careful bring toothpaste and toothbrush do u can brush your teeth and be careful if you are staying at a friends backyard don't be there to long because someone can find u and then also change your identity
@@Alyssaplays854 thanks
@juststrangeuser im from Germany but sure where are you from
@@Im-Not-Leo Is it possible to run away with anyone, for example, from a non-European country? I'm from an African country and I really want to escape, but I don't want to do it alone. I'm only 14 years old, but I'm tired of living with my parents, beating, humiliation, humiliation, bullying, and narcissism all the time, and I can't do anything, even put them in prison, because I really love them. I just want to run away.
@juststrangeuserIs it possible to run away with anyone, for example, from a non-European country? I'm from an African country and I really want to escape, but I don't want to do it alone. I'm only 14 years old, but I'm tired of living with my parents, beating, humiliation, humiliation, bullying, and narcissism all the time, and I can't do anything, even put them in prison, because I really love them. I just want to run away.
Did the same thing 4 months ago
Wait how?
Hey there
So how would you manage your funds when u r out of money 💰
For me personally I work so I’m not sure what you mean by when I’m out of money.
I think you meant budgeting finances
hi, i wonder what you studied or like did you go to college after you ran away from your house?
i apologize if this was too personnel
Hey! I decided not to go to college after I moved out and started working for the public school system!
Hlo mam!…i just watched ur video ..now I’m 22 …I’m a sikh girl!…and i want to move out from my home!…bcuz of my toxic family!.it feels like suffocating while living with them!!!..but sikh families do next level dramas whenever their daughters run away!!!…i just want to know that from u is if i run away from my home without telling them ..will they be able to get me back home either legally or illegally?…(im 22 years old!!)…can they ever get me back to home without my willingness???
Still willing to run away, we have a team let's go together
Why not get a job n leave?
@@Chick0714 do you want to join us we are a team wanting to run away
@UmangSingh-zd5hy yup, but I want to leave my house with a job, tq 🔅
@@UmangSingh-zd5hy yes i wanted to
❤Hey..I'm isha i wanted to run away from my toxic family.. I'm 15..i live in india uttar pradesh.. Plz suggest me..
Hey I’m running away and will be going to India but I’m not Indian tho
You ran away?@@Anonymousperson__
Hey wanna run away ?
Do you wanna run away
I want too run away from my family nd I m from up india
I want run away form my house someone please help me
wanna runaway tg?
@@shelly_qxx yes I want please let me out form this hell I want complete my dreams
@@meesamkhan9064I'm also planning the same, wanna go?
@@Rohit.rohit.111 CAN I GO PLSSS!!!
@@Rohit.rohit.111if ur still there om planning as well!
What do you do for a living now? If you don’t mind me askung
Anyone else still seriously planning to run away from Maharashtra India girls'? If yes please drop your Instagram handle?!
utsav31177
Not girl but boy
Not from Maharashtra but Punjab patiala......kxur_31
@@trishneevkaur6086me too zaraaa_1612
xien__1111
i am a girl
Anyone from Philadelphia?
Have you read Rifqa Barry's book? Similar testimony ❤️ might be encouraging to read :)
Where to find?
It's not called running away you were 18 so you got out legally
It is running away from home if you live in a culture that is extremely restrictive regardless of the laws of the land you live in….. this is a very common situation in south Asian cultures … the power and control of the parents til the day they marry you off to someone you don’t know or like…. You have no life ….
Anyone from Mississippi
History
I read some of the comments below and I came to a conclusion that running away from parents is not a good idea in some of the cases specially when you are thinking that idea when you are in teens. I know Indian parents are too pushy. They always think about their kids. They slog their life for their children. But only unbearable thing is their tiger paws…….! It’s like they are protecting the kids with those paws😂😂. Sorry if I hurt anyone but in some cases it reaches the kids to success and in some cases it’s not, specially in Islamic background
Your view is fine from your perspective no judgement here but I know many many Indian kids who do not like this so-called 'tiget paw'. This paw is basically VERY HIGH EXPECTATION set to prove to themselves and society that they are doing good parenting but there is no perfect parenting everywhere its flawed even in west I seen and met many westeners.
I always say get to know yourself 'know thyself' in jesus word and once you do that. You know whats right for you and whats not. You are not burden by societal and parent expectation. There are adult who just not 'engineer' or 'doctor' or 'IAS' but still are doing great in life especially on humanity level and thats for me is most important.
At the end,this is my view and yours is yours there is no right or wrong.
@@nashsh you are right. Thank you
Are you adopted?
no wtf
❤✝️
I run away at the age 8 but now am back with my mum a again am 12 -13 now😢 i be thinking to run away a again 😅 ok at the age 8 me and a friends i will call her j ok story time me and j was talking about idk it was with i was 8 so i can't remember but i remember a bit will was do it for fun ok we was walking 🎉 and mum kill me😶😶😶😶💧💧💧 now i will not do it for fun i will do it for freeing now i can't say more
Am sorry that i was not see the video because god is fake for me 🚩🚩🚩
NO hatE Okay 🎉🎉
what's your current age🥺
24 💕