Definitely a more important thing to be said for girls, as guys are less likely to be pushed into something by another individual. However, society still has a heavy stigma around virginity that applies to us guys as well. Because of this, lots of guys feel rushed to lose their virginity and start having relationships and sex, which can often lead to them getting into unhealthy relationships, making mistakes, and ruining their experience and their personal relationship with their own sexuality. Not important here, but I (17m) am yet to meet someone with which I've chosen to start a relationship, let alone consider losing my virginity, and my masculinity is not near fragile enough for that fact to bother me, because right now I'm working on myself, and sometime later I can let someone else in on this 17 year work in progress that is the person I've become, and am becoming... (Yes, I'm long-winded as anything.. sorry 🙃)
The only I thing I would mention about the whole “they’re ready for sex & I’m not” is, don’t make yourself do it, you’ll know if you’re ready or not. If they can’t accept you’re not ready, they’re not worth it.
Definitely never do anything you're uncomfortable with, but also keep in mind the other perspective as if you were the one who was ready. Not in a way that makes you feel rushed to do anything, just so that you realize what exactly they are experiencing and so that you can better explain yourself and not just have it seem like you're leading them on and then not following through all the time. I don't know if that made sense, but basically just don't do anything you're uncomfortable with, and be transparent about it, so that they understand your side. Cause if you can't trust your partner enough to be vulnerable to the extent of complete uncensored honesty, then you should not be anywhere close to healthy enough in that relationship to even begin considering taking that leap and making that decision. Communication is the best, and sometimes the only, way that we can really all get along and coexist in a healthy manner, especially in relationships.
PSA: Generally having sex should NOT hurt, including the first time! The reason some people may have a painful experience is that they're nervous, they might not get sufficiently aroused, they might tense up, etc. These things can make it hurt regardless of whether it's the first time or the thousandth time. If you take your time, relax, go slow and engage in LOTS of foreplay so that you're VERY aroused beforehand, that will help a lot!! EDIT: There are, however, medical conditions that can make sex painful. If you are having a problem with consistently painful sex despite being extremely aroused and fully relaxed, you should talk to a doctor.
As a guy this was actually really informative because it gives you insight into the fact that girls have all these questions as well and are worried about all these things same as us. You both are amazing role models and are amazing for answering all these questions! ❤️
Honestly this video was actually so helpful and wasn’t uncomfortable to watch, your honestly who I want to be and who I look up too. All hail queen Freya x
15:29 I would agree with this. Girls, when a boy likes you he will look at you a lot because he thinks that you're pretty and he can't take his eyes of you. He will indeed comment on your hair, clothes and maybe even your makeup if he feels confident. And don't forget he will really try to make you laugh and get you to like him. A lot of smiling comes with it girls. DISCLAIMER: I do wanna say that this does not mean that ALL guys do this. Some guys are really shy and won't comment on anything. Eventhough he hasn't commented on anything doesn't mean he doesn't like you. Look at the signs :).
Honestly, it also gives a good view of the "other side" and what happens on the other side of the curtain that girls will inevitably always refuse to tell guys about, so that we can more effectively not only be good partners or friends to them, but also just help us understand and coexist in society... Vids like this on both sides are very good windows into the understanding that we are all just people, and we all have stress, and nerves, and none of us really have it all figured out. The actual differences between people that come directly from their gender identity or sex are so incredibly minute and trivial compared to all of the experiences and traits that are shared.
i’m so glad you made this type of video!! i think girls should upload these videos more often, because i’m sure tons of women have questions like these that want answered!! also, a lot of the questions i’ve had for a while, have been answered because of you guys. now i feel a lot better about myself, so thank you💓 edit: well. freya did like my comment, but i edited it and the heart went away :( but those 15 seconds were so amazing😭
Definitely a beneficial type of video to make in both sides of the fence... Take it from me, us guys are not good at asking awkward questions, and tend to be left in the dark on a lot of things, so having this type of video for both guys and gals is very helpful insight. Guys who grow up with a sad who's alive might learn more of this stuff during their childhood, but without, channels like Alpha M, and videos in this type of format are very key
I hope your're not too rare, can only be a productive thing - but good for you anyway. I would do the same if it was made by creators I like.....i'd actually be quite interested to see a bit of YT sex ed aimed at guys in this sort of style...it's kind of impossible to imagine without Callux now since he was in the previous video with Freya.
This was absolutely awesome, great video! SO nice hearing other girls talking about these things, not just health professionals etc but actual real, sound people being honest about it
i am absolutely delighted to know this video is not clickbait and it delivers so well , usually these kinds of videos are just way boring than what the title claims.
I'm 16 and literally everyone I talk to pretty much has lost their virginity and I have never even had a boyfriend and have got bad mental health due to school. This video made me feel so much better. Thank you 💕
I went out with some friends of friends yesterday I barely said a thing I just didn’t know what to say for some reason I just couldn’t join in on conversation or be physical with anyone like my friends were with their friends, it was the first time I met them but I just felt really out of place and shouldn’t be there, the most annoying thing is that I really wanted to join in on conversation but my mind was blank and didn’t know what to say, I used to be so good around people I didn’t know before quarantine, I just haven’t been socialising at all during quarantine - and to make it worse I hadn’t been going outside much and it was at the beach and my skin was just so white and I felt so self conscious and awful about myself. So I ask how do I get back into my old social life and interact with the friends or friends I met up with because I did want to be friends with them.
I had a guy friend ask me out. We had known each other since we were 5. I told him that I valued his friendship and didn't want to ruin that because I had just gotten out of an abusive relationship and was not where I needed to be mentally. He never spoke to me after that day. :(
Cool video. I respect you for being able to talk about these things so freely. It's nothing embarring at the end of the day and many people have no to talk to about these type of things
Thank you Freya, for this series. These topics are important to discuss openly and without judgement. Can I also add tho, please do not let anyone force you or make you feel bad for not shaving your pubes. It is your choice. If you'd like more insight on this topic, you can watch a documentary on All 4 for the next 16 days called 'Bring back the bush'.
THE PILL QUESTION: the combined pill, so progesterone and oestrogen stop you ovulating whereas the progesterone only pill thins the lining of your womb so eggs can't bury to be fertilised . (i think that's the right way round but it may be the other way round idk but basically one does one thing and the other does another but both have the same outcome aka no babies)
Im so late to this but ive just subbed to freya! Shes so open about this and i love her other videos as well but shes one of my favourites now go on freyaaaaa ♡♡♡♡
Freya - wine mom
Becky- vodka aunt
Chloe May accurate.
Nah pint aunt
That's scary how accurate it is
X3
that's accurate
Imagine freya discussing these questions with JJ 😂😂😂
Mo Uddin That would be hilarious!🤣
Most of it would be censored lmao
Mo Uddin she should do tht
Fuck the Paul vs JJ fight I'd pay 10 times more to watch Freya and JJ get it on xD
shreekar durg wtf bro josh and freya are in a happy relationship and Jj has a girlfriend
seeing Freya be confident enough to not edit out her stutter is everythinggggg 💜💜
💜 ty queen
I actually love it it just shows other people who have a stutter not to be embarrassed
I haven't noticed her stutter
Havent even noticed it
I mean shes cute
we love how Becky is our alcoholic aunt
"step nephew what are you doing"
LMAOOOOO
Could just leave it at alcoholic
ya I could have left it lmao
@@liamthomas9622 then it would be "we love how Becky is our alcoholic
Get ksi on this for questions boys are too sacred to ask girls. That will blow up
Lol no
Zohaib Khalid I Hope you mean in comments sections and not real life
Pun intended?
@@alinnson3256 1.2k disagree
@@AAlrightyThenn she does only fans lmao have some respect to those who "work" hard on entering people and not those who promoteing pornography
"two pumps and their done" - Rip Josh
lolololol xdxd
Ms. Nightingale popping off this year
Jacob Gulley up the diff
Mon the diff
Jacob Gulley bluebirds!
Nice profile pic
Up the BlueBirds !!
When becky said that its josh coming to shout 2 pumps. I actually heard it and imagined it in my head with Josh's voice.
Freya is the mum of UA-cam we al needed
And Becky is the drunk auntie
Make sense since Josh is the father of UA-cam
@@ManutdChamp19ons And Sidemen
I cant be the only one who tripped when she said "my brother josh"
I could never ever date someone with the same name as my brother. It would just seem weird to me
Nikki S yea its kind of annoying. My girlfriend’s name is same as my sisters, so whenever we have sex i sometimes think of my girlfriend
@@bruhbruh7886 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@bruhbruh7886 hahahahahaha
@@bruhbruh7886 😭😭😭
I am 19 (20 this year) and still virgin, soo ladies don't rush it, do it when you feel like it not when someone push you to do it ❤
I am the same age and I had sex for the first time in december of 2019, waiting for the right person is the best for your mental health
same goes for guys aswell, no need to rush into it!
@@heggerz6659 Of course 😊
Definitely a more important thing to be said for girls, as guys are less likely to be pushed into something by another individual.
However, society still has a heavy stigma around virginity that applies to us guys as well.
Because of this, lots of guys feel rushed to lose their virginity and start having relationships and sex, which can often lead to them getting into unhealthy relationships, making mistakes, and ruining their experience and their personal relationship with their own sexuality.
Not important here, but I (17m) am yet to meet someone with which I've chosen to start a relationship, let alone consider losing my virginity, and my masculinity is not near fragile enough for that fact to bother me, because right now I'm working on myself, and sometime later I can let someone else in on this 17 year work in progress that is the person I've become, and am becoming...
(Yes, I'm long-winded as anything.. sorry 🙃)
Gg well played
I didn’t even know I needed this team up until now
bro this video had me in tEaRs freya and becky really delivering such good honest advice in a hilarious way 🥺🥺
DONT FORCE THEM TO DRINK THE TEA
That police advert goated.
Jess Ozard OMG I WATCHED THAT AT MY SCHOOL tEa cOnCeNt
Oh my god the memories
Such an underrated comment
What if I want them to have coffe
The only I thing I would mention about the whole “they’re ready for sex & I’m not” is, don’t make yourself do it, you’ll know if you’re ready or not. If they can’t accept you’re not ready, they’re not worth it.
Definitely never do anything you're uncomfortable with, but also keep in mind the other perspective as if you were the one who was ready. Not in a way that makes you feel rushed to do anything, just so that you realize what exactly they are experiencing and so that you can better explain yourself and not just have it seem like you're leading them on and then not following through all the time.
I don't know if that made sense, but basically just don't do anything you're uncomfortable with, and be transparent about it, so that they understand your side. Cause if you can't trust your partner enough to be vulnerable to the extent of complete uncensored honesty, then you should not be anywhere close to healthy enough in that relationship to even begin considering taking that leap and making that decision.
Communication is the best, and sometimes the only, way that we can really all get along and coexist in a healthy manner, especially in relationships.
AWildHumanoid simp
Vidhu Silva haha
PSA: Generally having sex should NOT hurt, including the first time! The reason some people may have a painful experience is that they're nervous, they might not get sufficiently aroused, they might tense up, etc. These things can make it hurt regardless of whether it's the first time or the thousandth time. If you take your time, relax, go slow and engage in LOTS of foreplay so that you're VERY aroused beforehand, that will help a lot!!
EDIT: There are, however, medical conditions that can make sex painful. If you are having a problem with consistently painful sex despite being extremely aroused and fully relaxed, you should talk to a doctor.
A collaboration we didn't know we needed 👀
3:47 THROWING SHADE AT JOSH
This video was so useful and very comforting to watch i love you girlies! x
becky saying foreplay reminds me of miranda saying sex 😂😂
sebbbea that’s exactly what i thought🤣🤣
Hahahahahah OMG
I love the way you didn’t make this feel awkward at all, just felt like a nice girlie chat and was really good to hear Xx
Modern society: "Be yourself, don't create a false personality just to please people in your life"
Becky: "Fake it till you make it!"
👍🏿
i would die for Becky - absolute legend
As a guy this was actually really informative because it gives you insight into the fact that girls have all these questions as well and are worried about all these things same as us. You both are amazing role models and are amazing for answering all these questions! ❤️
Simp
@@loseljukes5204 my guy you really dont get the term
@@loseljukes5204 don't use words you've seen thrown about online if you can't use them in the right context
Love this response!!
@@agressapenguin6289 he still a simp
I feel like i have my ear against a closed door and I’m listening in on a conversation that I’m not meant to hear
honestly freya’s channel and recent videos help so much
You're
EVERY GIRL NEEDS THIS VIDEO, THANKYOU
Honestly this video was actually so helpful and wasn’t uncomfortable to watch, your honestly who I want to be and who I look up too. All hail queen Freya x
As much as I thought this would make me cringe, it was actually really informative and interesting! Freya is on a roll of great videos atm
15:29 I would agree with this. Girls, when a boy likes you he will look at you a lot because he thinks that you're pretty and he can't take his eyes of you. He will indeed comment on your hair, clothes and maybe even your makeup if he feels confident. And don't forget he will really try to make you laugh and get you to like him. A lot of smiling comes with it girls. DISCLAIMER: I do wanna say that this does not mean that ALL guys do this. Some guys are really shy and won't comment on anything. Eventhough he hasn't commented on anything doesn't mean he doesn't like you. Look at the signs :).
Josh: ‘Everybody wanna steal my girl’
Im a guy, what the hell am I doing here. Still watch though cause your content is amazing :)
😂 same here , stay cause content is still good.
Honestly, it also gives a good view of the "other side" and what happens on the other side of the curtain that girls will inevitably always refuse to tell guys about, so that we can more effectively not only be good partners or friends to them, but also just help us understand and coexist in society... Vids like this on both sides are very good windows into the understanding that we are all just people, and we all have stress, and nerves, and none of us really have it all figured out. The actual differences between people that come directly from their gender identity or sex are so incredibly minute and trivial compared to all of the experiences and traits that are shared.
john lemon
My thoughts exactly
My bruda
Otis wouldve answered these questions better
Faxxx
Faxxxxxx
😂😂
Liking for the Rovers badge.
Fax
“Wrap up ladz”
- Freya
The duo I never knew I needed! The chemistry in this friendship is so good
i’m so glad you made this type of video!! i think girls should upload these videos more often, because i’m sure tons of women have questions like these that want answered!! also, a lot of the questions i’ve had for a while, have been answered because of you guys. now i feel a lot better about myself, so thank you💓
edit: well. freya did like my comment, but i edited it and the heart went away :( but those 15 seconds were so amazing😭
Definitely a beneficial type of video to make in both sides of the fence...
Take it from me, us guys are not good at asking awkward questions, and tend to be left in the dark on a lot of things, so having this type of video for both guys and gals is very helpful insight.
Guys who grow up with a sad who's alive might learn more of this stuff during their childhood, but without, channels like Alpha M, and videos in this type of format are very key
“We were very drunk”
Me: isn’t Becky always very drunk?
I love how open this video is. Much needed
*Talia has left the chat*
youre so underrated
💜 bless you thank you 🥺
I literally love these type of videos Freya and love the fact you got Becky to do it with my two fave female youtubers
Bro these videos actually bang wtf
4:37 Josh in the chat be like "milllllllll"
I love Freya’s honesty! So needed in this day and age
I feel like this was just educating Becky
I saw this pop up and acc screamed 😭 this has made my day sm better
Honestly two of my favourite UA-camrs!! Both killing the game and very underrated!
the most amazing collab yes
Crushes only last for 3 month, “don’t ask how I know that” as she’s blushing. If that’s not about josh I’m pissed
I'm dead😂
Shinichi Kudo 😅
Well they’ve been together over 9 years soooo I guess it’s true love
2 of the realest girls on UA-cam x
We need a part 2 of this, it's really helpful
I love these vids, more open conversations are really important. You’re killing it Freya this will help so many people
Love the video Freya, it’s good to see you coming out of your shell and producing great videos. Queen 👸
The NSFW Reddit’s and Discord Servers for Freya are so hyped for this video
0:04 boys 2 pumps and their done ☠️😂
They’re*
@@adamcooper4891 ^butt hurt 2 pump chump
2 pumps and an empty look is my classic
Kian Hardwick had the chance*
@@davidpaterson6658 loool legend
Actually need more videos like this Freya!!! You are killing it!
“How do I reject someone”
“Nah I’m alright love thanks for asking though”
Am i the only guy out here who just learns a lot from these types of vids?
I hope your're not too rare, can only be a productive thing - but good for you anyway. I would do the same if it was made by creators I like.....i'd actually be quite interested to see a bit of YT sex ed aimed at guys in this sort of style...it's kind of impossible to imagine without Callux now since he was in the previous video with Freya.
@@hannah6034 Hey Hannah,
thanks for the positive reaction. Just wondering: What do you mean by ´interested to... sort of style´
Have a nice day
this duo >>>>
This was absolutely awesome, great video! SO nice hearing other girls talking about these things, not just health professionals etc but actual real, sound people being honest about it
*I love these videos recently Freya!! Plus they’ve been on my recommended more recently too!!*
1. Freya deserves a bigger audience 2. I want a becky and freya podcast
Curtis seems like an absolute legend.
i actually had a lotta questions like these and I'm so glad you guys answered them (in a really simple and helpful way!!) thank you
I love how real you girls are 💕💕
This was really enjoyable. Keep it up yall!
Freya is a mad underrated youtuber
Yes mate! Best collab duo!
The second coming of girl defined
You should do a collab with clickfortaz
can we just appreciate how beautiful they both look in this
also really nice of them to do this ❤️
i am absolutely delighted to know this video is not clickbait and it delivers so well , usually these kinds of videos are just way boring than what the title claims.
I'm 16 and literally everyone I talk to pretty much has lost their virginity and I have never even had a boyfriend and have got bad mental health due to school. This video made me feel so much better. Thank you 💕
I'll be a story in your head - take care of yourself and focus on your health, i hope your mental health gets better xxx
@@mollyyy8201 aww thank you xx I hope you too are doing well 😁💕
My two favourite girl together love you both so much 😍🥰
This video is more health education
I went out with some friends of friends yesterday I barely said a thing I just didn’t know what to say for some reason I just couldn’t join in on conversation or be physical with anyone like my friends were with their friends, it was the first time I met them but I just felt really out of place and shouldn’t be there, the most annoying thing is that I really wanted to join in on conversation but my mind was blank and didn’t know what to say, I used to be so good around people I didn’t know before quarantine, I just haven’t been socialising at all during quarantine - and to make it worse I hadn’t been going outside much and it was at the beach and my skin was just so white and I felt so self conscious and awful about myself. So I ask how do I get back into my old social life and interact with the friends or friends I met up with because I did want to be friends with them.
I had a guy friend ask me out. We had known each other since we were 5. I told him that I valued his friendship and didn't want to ruin that because I had just gotten out of an abusive relationship and was not where I needed to be mentally. He never spoke to me after that day. :(
That’s horrible! I’m sorry:/
‘How do I know if a boy likes me’ get one of your friends to ask!!
Or ask one of their friends
*I fking love these two ladies*
What a helpful chat, thanks girls!
Cool video. I respect you for being able to talk about these things so freely. It's nothing embarring at the end of the day and many people have no to talk to about these type of things
wait I can't think of you as my mum's, I'm 25. That's approaching Family Strokes level.
“Wow it’s like Jurassic park” 😂😂😂
Thank you Freya, for this series. These topics are important to discuss openly and without judgement.
Can I also add tho, please do not let anyone force you or make you feel bad for not shaving your pubes. It is your choice. If you'd like more insight on this topic, you can watch a documentary on All 4 for the next 16 days called 'Bring back the bush'.
omg i wish becky and freya were my moms 🥺
THE PILL QUESTION: the combined pill, so progesterone and oestrogen stop you ovulating whereas the progesterone only pill thins the lining of your womb so eggs can't bury to be fertilised . (i think that's the right way round but it may be the other way round idk but basically one does one thing and the other does another but both have the same outcome aka no babies)
Shoot I’ve had a crush on my best friend’s sister for the past 6 years 🤦🏻♂️
Freya is killing the game this year!!💖
For all you girls another big hint that a guy likes you is that he will always try to look at you
What if he has bad eyesight and is trying to see who it is?😂
Take the risk if hes gud lookin😂
these videos are actually well good ngl
Im so late to this but ive just subbed to freya! Shes so open about this and i love her other videos as well but shes one of my favourites now go on freyaaaaa ♡♡♡♡
The two best female youtubers
Does anyone else wish they had an older sister like Freya when they were growing up?
Josh and Simon should do this for boys 🤣🤣
I wish someone made a Boy answers question you're too scared to ask your dad
You both seem so nice 🥺
I love u two sm coz use av actually answers most of my questions and built my confidence💞💞
These two are amazing!
12:33 "old man walks past 😶"
iconic duo