I think sooo many people especially in India have toxic parents but no one dare to speak about it in any interview because of the image that parents can never be wrong.... living with toxic parents is like taking toxic breath every second and dying from inside every second.
The way our parents compares the achievements of siblings in front of them, destroys their interpersonal relationship. Awareness to stop this is needed!
My parents never compare me and my sibling. I was always an overachiever and my sibling, just the opposite and I am grateful towards them for not spoiling our relationship. However, I am sure they would've done it if it was the other way round because my parents who are so understanding towards us used to compare me with my friends and sometimes even bodyshame me, that too in their presence.
Most unrealistic part is when the parents started to feel guilty 😂😂 they'll never accept their mistakes, they'll keep blaming their sons/daughters no matter what 😂
In reality when women like Kiara expose such people, then instead of them crying or realizing the mistake people team up and begin calling her crazy, even laugh at another person's face.
While the parents concerned in this film were neglectful and tactless, it also must be remembered that Kaira did indeed make the choice to lead a bohemian, aimless life full of bitterness for which nobody would obviously praise her and even if her parents had been supportive, they would be disappointed in her choices. Just as kids today openly diss their parents, why should parents always be expected to be supportive? Many parents hear a lot from entitled kids these days. They're even blamed for their kids' entitled demands as the result of poor parenting. This movie makes it seem that all the problems in Kaira's life is due to her unhappy childhood until the therapist reminds her that her life is her responsibility too. Don't young adult kids and teens lash out at their parents so often with a "it's my life" outburst. Do kids imbibe all the good values inculcated painstakingly by parents through childhood? Which parent in their right mind will ask their child to drink, smoke, do drugs and sleep around (something many youngsters do today to look hip or to overcome a self developed insecurity). Is parental influence the only influence on kids once they step into teenage and young adulthood? Then why pin all the blame for all the wrongs in a young adult's life on the parents alone? WHERE IS PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY? 🙄
@@vidyaarvind4458 well said!! Yes parents make mistakes but eventually you need to pick yourselves, get all the help you need if parents are toxic and move on
@@vidyaarvind4458We should definitely do our best to get help and better our lives but that doesnt mean we should not call out the toxicity that your parents treat you with. If parents see their children becoming aimless and acting out, do you think mocking their children and mistreating them is gonna set them straight or do you think paying attention to their child, helping them identify their problems and working with them through it is a better solution.
@@Maya_hee How come you have no answers to the second half of my comment? How come we can't call out those kids who fail to imbibe the good values parents have painstakingly tried to insult? A great number of teens and young adults simply don't wish to listen to their parents and routinely disregard good advice given to them by parents. Alia bhatt's troubles in the movie are not only due to her parents' neglect. I have already written a lot. Learn to read comments in their entirety.
This movie changed my view about Alia as an actress. I like how she initially ignores the comments and slowly simmers and finally snaps. This was very realistically portrayed though. You can still be rich and have everything, but when your family looks down , you truly feel unloved.
@@loganm.s.z2227And after Gangubai she has really solidify herself as one if the best main stream actress of current time. And she's just 30 , she has bright future ahead.
"How could you just abandon me?" This line hits hard...her expressions just made it more painful This movie is underrated..Alia was lit in this movie I've been loving Alia As Kaira forever 💓
This scene hits hard. Im going through the same thing and it really hurts. Parents will never realise the emotional pain that they put through their children.
@@renunair4316 at least u had ur grandparents I am a single child my parents fight like crazy all the time and both sets of my grandparents live in another city
In indian culture everyone has a mindset that parents are God ,mother is Goddess. But only kids with toxic parents know the pain. And the worst part is , no one is there to help you from the toxicity of your parents. Whom you're gonna ask for help saying that your mother is torturing you , taking advantage of your kind nature, giving you life long trauma which even years after feel like it all happened yesterday.
Bro when I went to my grandfather to complain about my father, he started PREACHING *ME* that a father is Dashrath and I should be Ram, blah blah. It's not even a culture, it's ALL EXPECTATIONS. The thing Indians call their culture only exists in their expectations, dang! So children never get the recognition the need.
The problem is many in our society doesn’t consider these toxicity as a problem but ignore it as parents right. Sadly it’s the children who carry the scars forever.
@@samanthaliang6190 true.. our society doesn't even recognise the torture of our parents. Even we have been accepting their torture whole our lives thinking it is the right of parents to treat us like that. It's only when we become mature thn we realise that It was nothing but physically, mentally, emotionally torture in the name of parenthood.
@@ENZERYN well... Even Ram left to keep the words of Dashrath. Dashrath stayed at the castle while Ram struggled in Jungle. The story needs to be revised. It needs a different perspective. The perceptive that Dashrath should have stopped Ram anyhow and let him live peacefully. How much Ram's trauma and struggle Dasrath could have avoided if he would not let Ram leave. If Ram left to keep the words of his father, he would have stayed if his father wouldn't let him go.
Not lying. My name is Saira and this is exactly me. Except my parents didn't abandon me. They emotionally abandoned all of us and barely worked on raising us. When I blame them for the psychological, relational effects, they call me crazy. Trying so hard not to be them for my kids.
same feeling when my mom overly praising my brother who literally didn't do anything for her.I did everything for my parents built house, purchase mobile phone, health treatment,paid their loans.its pain to see my parents longing to talk to my brother who didn't neither attend nor pick their calls.
I haven't watched this movie.But these dialogues made me cry , relatable.I have good parents but it hurts when they complain and compare you with others. 🙃
My mother wouldn't understand how the extra focus and love on her son impacts me till date. At 40 I have the best job and education all from the motivation and love my husband gave me, he is my God and Guardian angel🙏
I can understand dear. I too feel like my mother prefers my brother more than me. He’s allowed to make mistakes but as an elder daughter I’m not allowed to do anything that’s not correct according to my parents. The standards are extremely high for me but for him, it’s all served on a silver platter. Can’t wait to get a job soon and leave this damn hell hole
Kaira is absolutely right... Pehle parents khud apne bachhon pr dhyaan nhi dete apne aage dusro ke aage and then they say ki ye khraab hogye h.. badtameez hogye h... Blaa blaa blaa ... They don't see wrong in their actions
The day before my 10th class board result came i had a fever and my mom was sleeping with me to take care of me at night......i was feeling so uncomfortable and my tears couldn't stop because of high fever, my mom heard me and she said it's ok if you get only passing marks, nobody will ask for the marks of 10th class, she thought i had a fever because of the pressure 😅(i was a good student so expecting good results) but it really made me feel genuinely happy that my family care more about me......and now when i am 30 i have experienced many losses but still can say the care and support of my family doesn't change.......
Lucky ho.....or mujhe yad h jb mene kha ki confirm nhi h bt..shyd ek subject m graduation m back lg jayega...jb ki sure nhi tha ki esa ho hi...unka jesa reaction tha tb ..m nhi bhuli yad kr k aaj bhi Rona AATA h..vo face expression vo bate...Jo kbhi expect nhi Kiya tha..socha parents support krenge ki koi back hi to lga..or mehnt kro..bt.. reaction to... khair...bad m result aaya to PTA chla marks add nhi the or back bhi bhi lga .,...SB shi hua...bt..vo bhuli Ni aaj tk
@@loveyourself-n6y As someone who only gets appreciated on getting the best, I relate to it very much. I have been getting the first rank consecutively from last 5 examinations. And I know if just drops from first to second, I will have to hear a lot. I have my board exams this year and my mom already says the way you study you are only gonna get 90+ and not 95+. They only expect 95+ from me and I know if it is even 94, I will have to get a lecture.
Same here my mother was ill during my 10th board so I was out of station most of time after I came back everytime I got sick. I didn't score well in 10th board. Everyone expected 95%from me. But When result came out my father looked disappointed he was like its ok but he wasn't surely satisfied.. He started comparing me with other students and how they were celebrating with good marks. Soon he stopped going to PTMs and other scl functions and always taunts me. My parents r just helping me either..😢
One of the reasons why I'd be happily childfree because of childhood traumas. I've put an end to the generational curses and the cycle. No wonder why south-east Asians are highly relate to this movie because of toxic parenting. Alia, the phenomenal actress done amazingly ❤
The biggest favor you can do to your children is by not bringing them to this world... Neither I was a favorite child nor I was accepted by my boyfriend... So I decided to put an end to this cycle.. No marriage no babies..
This is the Bitter truth for Millions of Children who aren't the "Favorites" or the "Mera Ladla Beta / Beti". Parenting is tough BUT ONLY if you are willing to do it and do it right. Merely Complaining about Parenting being tough is like fishing for compliments or appreciation. Children often suffer simply because they think it is THEIR fault. It was SUCH A Blessing to have Grandparents who actually cared and put in the long hours to listen to their Grandchildren, play with them, and help them understand the weird, confusing, complex, and often hypocritical world. Parenting must be sorted out by BOTH the parents. It must be a tag-team effort. Instead, it has increasingly become a "Passing the Parcel" or "Hot Potato" game with innocent children.
Only my paternal grandpa was always there for me. Rest of them always used to compare me and my sister and making me feel disgust is every way possible. And the fact that now my parents never understand the trauma i've faced due to my skinny body and brown color, by my close relatives itself. My mother is like "Pata nhi dusro ke liye kya kya bhar ke rakhti ho apne andar" when i shared it once to her, that time i was too emotional otherwise i've been not sharing it since childhood. And, I'm decided now that no matter what i'm not going to control to not share it anyway to them coz eventually they're gonna blame me ......i'll face all my anxiety and stress until i burst out in front of everyone.
No loving parent can stop parenting, it is a life time commitment, however the type of parenting changes depending on your sons and daughters age from nurturing to teaching and discipline to guidance to letting go and observing. Unfortunately there are many who get stuck at teaching and discipline and would never allow their kids to grow up.
Being ignored as a child will haunt forever. When an innocent child believes her parents are her world and she has no idea that she is not even the last thing on their mind. If parents don't care for their child who else will. When you become an adult you realize you were never a child because you had to fight all alone for your place in your own parents life.That becomes a habit to fight to belong with people who don't care. You never lived as a child feeling like one. And when you are an adult that kid in you resurfaces wanting attention but you always pick people who don't care.
The scene that brings back my trauma is the scene where both the kids are present but every single family member talks only abt the son..they praise one child ao much and belittle the other child so much!
This movie made me a fan of Alia..... Yes, she has done a tremendous job in Gangubai but this movie will be the best for me ❤❤❤❤ It has touched my heart so deeply and let me loosen a bit of burden and breathe freely again....... An all time favourite ❤❤❤❤
When a broken heart explodes. You will not see tears falling from your eyes. This is when you realize that you have lived with this pain for a very long time This happened to me a couple of days ago
The worst part of toxic parenting is that they do a lot of things for us which we never asked for. Actually we are gratified. But that doesn’t mean we are their slaves till the end of life.
I said this to my dad. With a lot more anger and tears and screaming. My dad laughed and said that I’m imagining everything. That my life has been great and I should be grateful. 🙂
My elder brother uses filthy abusive language when he gets angry in front of parents. My dad, acting surprised asks him where did he learn all these abuses. My elder brother replies dad that since childhood you've beaten and abused us so much that it's only natural for him to pick all that up from dad. My died denied on our faces...A white lie. My mother and my siblings including me have suffered the brunt of his physical, mental and emotional torture.
1.05 this part personally hits me so hard. My brother, who's an introvert, was always welcomed and loved by my relatives and called as sidha, shant bachha while I, who was an extrovert since childhood, got labeled as mannerless, badtamiz. They even judged my character when I was merely 12 because I was from city. It hit me so hard thet I even stopped interacting and playing with thier kids like I used to still they didn't shut up, instead said that I developed bad attitude. Worst is my mom never supported me because they were from her side
Every word she spoke hit me hard!! It was a fact when she said first parents gave birth to their child then do whatever they want n whatever is convenient for them, give them life time trauma and at the end blame them for reacting 💔
Not all parents are responsible parents. You do not require any license or qualification to become a parent and thus can be taken for granted. The whole concept of “parents are my life line”, a lot of people do not resonate with this feeling at all. In fact Mother’s and/or Father’s day is just painful for them because they cannot celebrate what the entire world (normally) celebrates.
Lately my elder sister started celebrating father's day and mother's day. Father's day celebration seemed pointless to me cos I wondered what exactly were we celebrating? Years of physical, mental and emotional torture??
Nobody in real life can't react like this until and unless they felt the pain so deep.. na keh pate hai na chupa pate hai bus andar hi andar ghutte rehte hai.. and sudden outburst would be exactly like this..
I loveeeee this monologue!!!!!! It’s so powerful and the way Alia delivered it, the pent up anger and frustration was shown so realistically and in such a relatable way 💘
I went through same trauma....I didn't even know... because of selfishness of my parents .... I'll become antisocial.....that feeling riped me apart .....and the worst feeling is ..I don't hate them ...I blame them but can't hate them ... My husband has a bright childhood...I longed for the love I didn't get from my parents and my husband usually think I am chipku ..... It's a real struggle... sometimes I cry for stupid reasons and for no reason at all ...now to complain sounds foolish 😂
Couple of therapy session would ease your trauma. I promise you you'd feel much better after releasing your repressed emotions with a right therapist. Your clinginess, your inner wounds will be reduced after 2 sessions. Mental health is as important as physical health. Don't ignore it please. I wish you all the love, wishes and health. ❤
@@sumanagrawal2392 well where I live, there's one lady therapist, she's only available for offline session. I have taken sessions couple of years ago and price was only 400 per session and she provides good psychotherapy session. Unfortunately she's not into online therapy.
Agreed...... Specially if you have some kind of childhood trauma from parents which at this point I believe most south asian children of our generation have
She's absolutely right! I cannot explain how much it hurts to be cursed by your parents all the time when they're the ones who make us happen in their lives! It's like I'm just in their lives just because of them yet they blame me for everything wrong happening in their lives! I like the idea of not existing in this world.....💔
It takes a whole life , rebuilding the broken pieces of us and still stay strong to live that life which was abused, hurted and taunted and not nurtured with full love and care 😢
It all started with that uncle!! She was never jealous of her brother infact she was so proud of him.. 0:43 It was that uncle person defining that there is a correct way to live one's life n that kaira was wrong bcoz she was a cinematographer n that she was not pursuing a career which is rather mainstream. N the way he gave that look while indirectly pointing out at her
I disagree,she was not jealous. She was just angry with her parents for not paying attention towards her and abandoning her. She never ever hated her brother and was never ever jealous of him
This movie is really amazing man ! Whenever I watch it, I just can't get enough of it. Roasters have roasted almost every good and bad movie by finding out flaws in it. But I don't think so that this movie can be roasted because I don't find any flaws in it.
Parents always think that there life is tough but childrens life too is not that easy I my self have suffered due to my parents and because of that i don't have anything now not a career not any job or business no relationship i have been ended being alone 😢 99% parents thinks that they doing good to there children but 90% children life is spoiled by there own parents and due to that many children go in the wrong way like smoking drinking to dipression So my request to all the parents to the world first just accept your childrens how they r don't Change them atleast let them to leave there life in freedom that is the most simplest thing u can do 🙏
Fucking true kyonki parent banne k liye koi certificate ya qualification to chahiye ni duniya mein 80% log to is layak hi ni hote ki vo maa baap bane being a parent is a huge responsibility nd everybody is not that responsible bas sex kiya hogye bcche kbi kbi to galti se pregnent hogye to hogye bcche ab jese marzi vese paalte hai jese marzi mahaul mein rakhte hai or jab khud achi parvarish krne mein fail hojate hai to blame bccho ko krte hai
I do agree. There is no medal for creating kids. Even cats and dogs can do that. Humans are different only because they create a child with intellect. But when they don’t they’re as good as dogs and cats😂
Bilkul sahi. Sex deprived men in those days hardly knew anything about birth control and kids kept popping up, left to the mother to raise and rake care and if these kids posed even the slightest discomfort in their lives, the father would become the soul reaper.
I thought she was dragging it when I saw this a year back. Now that my mom transferred to different district, and I'm experiencing the same thing she did, I understand exactly how she felt.
The only unrealistic thing about this movie is that her parents accepted that they were wrong and apologised to her. That's the complete opposite of Indian parenting. When you open up to your parents, will laugh at you, blame you, criticize you and gaslight you but will never take a moment in their lives to understand why were in the wrong or if they were in the wrong at all and you just have to deal with it for the rest of your lives.
This movie was actually needed....i literally cried at this scene while watching the movie cuz i can relate fully to alia's character 😭😭. If you didn't watched this movie please watch it once....
most of the kids after 80 and 20 is going through trauma from parents especially elder siblings. i myself started to distanced from my family at a very young age. the day i left home was the most happiest day in my life. i never felt like going back..
After having my first kid, people often tell me I need to have another kid. I don’t want more kids. Pregnancy was annoying because I was always vomiting and sick…AND THEN! I caught COVID two weeks before labor!!! Labor was terrible and i would never put myself through that again. The months of recovery was painful because I was coughing from COVID. There’s NO ONE who can convince me to have another kid.
My grandpa said I'll be pinned by NETFLIX today 🤭❤
nahh
Can't say no to that!
@@NetflixIndiaOfficial love u too 😘
@@NetflixIndiaOfficialwow
Lucky 😊
only people with toxic parents will understand why someone becomes so bitter in life❤
So true .I feel the pain.
I think sooo many people especially in India have toxic parents but no one dare to speak about it in any interview because of the image that parents can never be wrong.... living with toxic parents is like taking toxic breath every second and dying from inside every second.
Add me in.. Have been through a lot though trying to let go but the impact is worst than Chernobyl
who the hell are taxic parents do they apply taxes on you or something?
edit: to the dear people in the replies i am not mad just a sarcastic joke
@@severalpeoplearetyping2477they probably meant toxic.
That was a typo.
Don’t be mad 😂😂lmaoo
The boy's expressions were very genuine at Alia's outburst. He really could understand what she was goinh through inside.
he is rohit saraf i guess
that was just one shot....
Yess absolutely 🙂🤌
The way our parents compares the achievements of siblings in front of them, destroys their interpersonal relationship. Awareness to stop this is needed!
Thats true. Especially in my life. I started to feel like Iam worthless. I made a crime as I was born in the family, or the world may be
True
My parents never compare me and my sibling. I was always an overachiever and my sibling, just the opposite and I am grateful towards them for not spoiling our relationship. However, I am sure they would've done it if it was the other way round because my parents who are so understanding towards us used to compare me with my friends and sometimes even bodyshame me, that too in their presence.
Thanks for saying this!
JUST DO BETTER @@arpita.talapatra2011
Most unrealistic part is when the parents started to feel guilty 😂😂 they'll never accept their mistakes, they'll keep blaming their sons/daughters no matter what 😂
Exactly because they're highly entitled. Movies mein sorry v bol dete hai lol 😂
Exactly
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Exactly.... Parents will blame u anyhow and if u complaint like this they will blame u for this too...
Yes you are absolutely right dear
In real life parents will never accept their mistakes
Rather they will blame us
In reality when women like Kiara expose such people, then instead of them crying or realizing the mistake people team up and begin calling her crazy, even laugh at another person's face.
While the parents concerned in this film were neglectful and tactless, it also must be remembered that Kaira did indeed make the choice to lead a bohemian, aimless life full of bitterness for which nobody would obviously praise her and even if her parents had been supportive, they would be disappointed in her choices. Just as kids today openly diss their parents, why should parents always be expected to be supportive? Many parents hear a lot from entitled kids these days. They're even blamed for their kids' entitled demands as the result of poor parenting.
This movie makes it seem that all the problems in Kaira's life is due to her unhappy childhood until the therapist reminds her that her life is her responsibility too. Don't young adult kids and teens lash out at their parents so often with a "it's my life" outburst. Do kids imbibe all the good values inculcated painstakingly by parents through childhood? Which parent in their right mind will ask their child to drink, smoke, do drugs and sleep around (something many youngsters do today to look hip or to overcome a self developed insecurity). Is parental influence the only influence on kids once they step into teenage and young adulthood? Then why pin all the blame for all the wrongs in a young adult's life on the parents alone? WHERE IS PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY? 🙄
@@vidyaarvind4458 well said!! Yes parents make mistakes but eventually you need to pick yourselves, get all the help you need if parents are toxic and move on
@@LBINLONDON2010 Thanks for getting the point. 🙏
@@vidyaarvind4458We should definitely do our best to get help and better our lives but that doesnt mean we should not call out the toxicity that your parents treat you with.
If parents see their children becoming aimless and acting out, do you think mocking their children and mistreating them is gonna set them straight or do you think paying attention to their child, helping them identify their problems and working with them through it is a better solution.
@@Maya_hee How come you have no answers to the second half of my comment? How come we can't call out those kids who fail to imbibe the good values parents have painstakingly tried to insult? A great number of teens and young adults simply don't wish to listen to their parents and routinely disregard good advice given to them by parents. Alia bhatt's troubles in the movie are not only due to her parents' neglect. I have already written a lot. Learn to read comments in their entirety.
This movie changed my view about Alia as an actress. I like how she initially ignores the comments and slowly simmers and finally snaps. This was very realistically portrayed though. You can still be rich and have everything, but when your family looks down , you truly feel unloved.
Same, thought oh another nepo kid, overrated at that. Become a Fan after this scene.
@@loganm.s.z2227And after Gangubai she has really solidify herself as one if the best main stream actress of current time. And she's just 30 , she has bright future ahead.
"How could you just abandon me?"
This line hits hard...her expressions just made it more painful
This movie is underrated..Alia was lit in this movie
I've been loving Alia As Kaira forever 💓
Ikr she is actually a very actress
@@sidimahaq904what's "very actress"?
Ya it is truu
Movie name??
@@yogitakashyap4248 Dear Zindagi. Read the title of this video.
This scene hits hard. Im going through the same thing and it really hurts. Parents will never realise the emotional pain that they put through their children.
The part about just as you’re getting close to grandparents the parents whisk you away!😭its like she was talking about me😢
@@renunair4316 at least u had ur grandparents I am a single child my parents fight like crazy all the time and both sets of my grandparents live in another city
In indian culture everyone has a mindset that parents are God ,mother is Goddess. But only kids with toxic parents know the pain. And the worst part is , no one is there to help you from the toxicity of your parents. Whom you're gonna ask for help saying that your mother is torturing you , taking advantage of your kind nature, giving you life long trauma which even years after feel like it all happened yesterday.
True😞
Bro when I went to my grandfather to complain about my father, he started PREACHING *ME* that a father is Dashrath and I should be Ram, blah blah. It's not even a culture, it's ALL EXPECTATIONS. The thing Indians call their culture only exists in their expectations, dang! So children never get the recognition the need.
The problem is many in our society doesn’t consider these toxicity as a problem but ignore it as parents right.
Sadly it’s the children who carry the scars forever.
@@samanthaliang6190 true.. our society doesn't even recognise the torture of our parents. Even we have been accepting their torture whole our lives thinking it is the right of parents to treat us like that. It's only when we become mature thn we realise that It was nothing but physically, mentally, emotionally torture in the name of parenthood.
@@ENZERYN well... Even Ram left to keep the words of Dashrath. Dashrath stayed at the castle while Ram struggled in Jungle. The story needs to be revised. It needs a different perspective. The perceptive that Dashrath should have stopped Ram anyhow and let him live peacefully. How much Ram's trauma and struggle Dasrath could have avoided if he would not let Ram leave. If Ram left to keep the words of his father, he would have stayed if his father wouldn't let him go.
Not lying. My name is Saira and this is exactly me. Except my parents didn't abandon me. They emotionally abandoned all of us and barely worked on raising us. When I blame them for the psychological, relational effects, they call me crazy. Trying so hard not to be them for my kids.
Same here
Me too. Grown up emotionally and mentally abandoned
Same
Same ... My parents were worst their EGO was more
Same
This one scene is enough for the movie and alia's potential in her acting
A legendary actor was born that day!
Exactly, overacting ki dukaan
@@NetflixIndiaOfficialtrue❤
@@NetflixIndiaOfficialdefinitely,,she is just awesome all around of the world ❤❤❤
Honestly highway monologue was the start. It's sad that people don't acknowledge how good of a actor she is
Alia nailed it...scene by scene...
She does it always her expressions can kill anyone ❤
same feeling when my mom overly praising my brother who literally didn't do anything for her.I did everything for my parents built house, purchase mobile phone, health treatment,paid their loans.its pain to see my parents longing to talk to my brother who didn't neither attend nor pick their calls.
I hope they will understand it someday
I couldn't agree you more... like my little sister always manipulate my parents with her sweet lie...
I would say love yourself.dont expect anything from anyone and try to have a bond with god he or she will love you immensely
Let go and don't care. They will soon start complaining.
Uff
Each and every word of her brought tears into my eyes
Same here. I cried watching the movie few years ago and i still get emotional on this scenes
I haven't watched this movie.But these dialogues made me cry , relatable.I have good parents but it hurts when they complain and compare you with others. 🙃
You should totally watch it…it’s a very good movie 😊
I strongly suggest you to watch. As I was watching the movie, I find it as my own life in a storyline, almost my childhood
Ok sure I'll watch it 😀
Movie name pls
@@parsami9895Dear zindagi ❤
My mother wouldn't understand how the extra focus and love on her son impacts me till date. At 40 I have the best job and education all from the motivation and love my husband gave me, he is my God and Guardian angel🙏
I can understand dear. I too feel like my mother prefers my brother more than me. He’s allowed to make mistakes but as an elder daughter I’m not allowed to do anything that’s not correct according to my parents. The standards are extremely high for me but for him, it’s all served on a silver platter. Can’t wait to get a job soon and leave this damn hell hole
@@unnatibhadauria5256 dear sister, I totally understand how you feel. I wish and pray that you get a job soon and build a life of your dreams.
do better with your kids
@@Als1822 of course, goes without saying
Let's be friends chandrika, we sail the same boat
Kaira is absolutely right... Pehle parents khud apne bachhon pr dhyaan nhi dete apne aage dusro ke aage and then they say ki ye khraab hogye h.. badtameez hogye h... Blaa blaa blaa ... They don't see wrong in their actions
The day before my 10th class board result came i had a fever and my mom was sleeping with me to take care of me at night......i was feeling so uncomfortable and my tears couldn't stop because of high fever, my mom heard me and she said it's ok if you get only passing marks, nobody will ask for the marks of 10th class, she thought i had a fever because of the pressure 😅(i was a good student so expecting good results) but it really made me feel genuinely happy that my family care more about me......and now when i am 30 i have experienced many losses but still can say the care and support of my family doesn't change.......
Lucky ho.....or mujhe yad h jb mene kha ki confirm nhi h bt..shyd ek subject m graduation m back lg jayega...jb ki sure nhi tha ki esa ho hi...unka jesa reaction tha tb ..m nhi bhuli yad kr k aaj bhi Rona AATA h..vo face expression vo bate...Jo kbhi expect nhi Kiya tha..socha parents support krenge ki koi back hi to lga..or mehnt kro..bt.. reaction to... khair...bad m result aaya to PTA chla marks add nhi the or back bhi bhi lga .,...SB shi hua...bt..vo bhuli Ni aaj tk
Meanwhile i got 93% and still got scolded...
After that, I've no interest to please Or satisfy then
I wish my mother was this supportive
@@loveyourself-n6y As someone who only gets appreciated on getting the best, I relate to it very much. I have been getting the first rank consecutively from last 5 examinations. And I know if just drops from first to second, I will have to hear a lot. I have my board exams this year and my mom already says the way you study you are only gonna get 90+ and not 95+. They only expect 95+ from me and I know if it is even 94, I will have to get a lecture.
Same here my mother was ill during my 10th board so I was out of station most of time after I came back everytime I got sick. I didn't score well in 10th board. Everyone expected 95%from me. But When result came out my father looked disappointed he was like its ok but he wasn't surely satisfied.. He started comparing me with other students and how they were celebrating with good marks. Soon he stopped going to PTMs and other scl functions and always taunts me. My parents r just helping me either..😢
One of the reasons why I'd be happily childfree because of childhood traumas. I've put an end to the generational curses and the cycle. No wonder why south-east Asians are highly relate to this movie because of toxic parenting.
Alia, the phenomenal actress done amazingly ❤
Exactly! Same here
The biggest favor you can do to your children is by not bringing them to this world... Neither I was a favorite child nor I was accepted by my boyfriend... So I decided to put an end to this cycle.. No marriage no babies..
2:35
@@gunjanramteke909 you are great! I wish others also could think the same way as you do.
Exactly
This is the Bitter truth for Millions of Children who aren't the "Favorites" or the "Mera Ladla Beta / Beti".
Parenting is tough BUT ONLY if you are willing to do it and do it right.
Merely Complaining about Parenting being tough is like fishing for compliments or appreciation.
Children often suffer simply because they think it is THEIR fault.
It was SUCH A Blessing to have Grandparents who actually cared and put in the long hours to listen to their Grandchildren, play with them, and help them understand the weird, confusing, complex, and often hypocritical world.
Parenting must be sorted out by BOTH the parents. It must be a tag-team effort. Instead, it has increasingly become a "Passing the Parcel" or "Hot Potato" game with innocent children.
In middle class families, children are nothing but just investments
@upasanasharma9081 I hate my parents proudly
Only my paternal grandpa was always there for me. Rest of them always used to compare me and my sister and making me feel disgust is every way possible. And the fact that now my parents never understand the trauma i've faced due to my skinny body and brown color, by my close relatives itself. My mother is like "Pata nhi dusro ke liye kya kya bhar ke rakhti ho apne andar" when i shared it once to her, that time i was too emotional otherwise i've been not sharing it since childhood. And, I'm decided now that no matter what i'm not going to control to not share it anyway to them coz eventually they're gonna blame me ......i'll face all my anxiety and stress until i burst out in front of everyone.
No loving parent can stop parenting, it is a life time commitment, however the type of parenting changes depending on your sons and daughters age from nurturing to teaching and discipline to guidance to letting go and observing. Unfortunately there are many who get stuck at teaching and discipline and would never allow their kids to grow up.
Exactly 💯
Alia put her heart and soul into this scene.
Alia truly nailed this role, such a phenomenal scene!
She said what we want to say to our parents
This is very underrated movie. Alia did amazing acting in this movie also.🌸
Being ignored as a child will haunt forever. When an innocent child believes her parents are her world and she has no idea that she is not even the last thing on their mind. If parents don't care for their child who else will. When you become an adult you realize you were never a child because you had to fight all alone for your place in your own parents life.That becomes a habit to fight to belong with people who don't care. You never lived as a child feeling like one. And when you are an adult that kid in you resurfaces wanting attention but you always pick people who don't care.
The scene that brings back my trauma is the scene where both the kids are present but every single family member talks only abt the son..they praise one child ao much and belittle the other child so much!
I really loved the performance of Alia in Highway movie and Dear zindagi. Great acting❤
i always cry in this scene...this is too real...and it is exactly my story :(
Sorry dude
Did your parents abandon you?
Who says She can't act.. She just nailed it! 😍❤
@AnonymousAlien2099 then you show how to do acting & make a video of it! We'll then judge you accordingly!! What do you say!?
The sad part is sometimes you don't even need a sibling for your parents to put you down. Parents can be toxic even to their own single child
So true
This movie made me a fan of Alia..... Yes, she has done a tremendous job in Gangubai but this movie will be the best for me ❤❤❤❤ It has touched my heart so deeply and let me loosen a bit of burden and breathe freely again....... An all time favourite ❤❤❤❤
This doesn’t seem like acting.. she is so natural.. i feel this scene .. it moved me so much .. harsh reality 😢
When a broken heart explodes.
You will not see tears falling from your eyes.
This is when you realize that you have lived with this pain for a very long time
This happened to me a couple of days ago
I agree to this!
Parental Toxicity should be made a criminal offence!
There should be a strict laws for this as well.
The worst part of toxic parenting is that they do a lot of things for us which we never asked for. Actually we are gratified. But that doesn’t mean we are their slaves till the end of life.
I said this to my dad. With a lot more anger and tears and screaming. My dad laughed and said that I’m imagining everything. That my life has been great and I should be grateful. 🙂
My elder brother uses filthy abusive language when he gets angry in front of parents. My dad, acting surprised asks him where did he learn all these abuses. My elder brother replies dad that since childhood you've beaten and abused us so much that it's only natural for him to pick all that up from dad. My died denied on our faces...A white lie. My mother and my siblings including me have suffered the brunt of his physical, mental and emotional torture.
1.05 this part personally hits me so hard. My brother, who's an introvert, was always welcomed and loved by my relatives and called as sidha, shant bachha while I, who was an extrovert since childhood, got labeled as mannerless, badtamiz. They even judged my character when I was merely 12 because I was from city. It hit me so hard thet I even stopped interacting and playing with thier kids like I used to still they didn't shut up, instead said that I developed bad attitude. Worst is my mom never supported me because they were from her side
That is so horrible. I hope you find right people in your life who brings out the extrovert in you once again without you having to be judged.
@@angelgupta9224 I actually have found right people who always complement me, call me cute and praises my art work. They are my friends
Ha to zyada Bolna bhi nahi chahiye kabhi kabhi mujhe bhi sab kehte hai ki Mai introvert hun shant hun mujhe bahut kharab lagta hai yaar
Bhai jb introvert extrovert hota hai.then uska isse bhi same hota hai
I couldn't understand why parents compare their children with other children and feel sad that their children are not like them
She is outstanding but very true reality. Of life sometime😢
This is a real situation .. and the way she handle it after the psychotherapy is also marvelous 😊
Poor Kyra she really went through a lot in her life happiness begins from home indeed thats what I learnt from the movie ❤👍🏻
Every word she spoke hit me hard!! It was a fact when she said first parents gave birth to their child then do whatever they want n whatever is convenient for them, give them life time trauma and at the end blame them for reacting 💔
Alia Bhatt her acting skills ❤ powerful monologue
Overacting 😢
@@SahilShahhno
Just like her mother
@@SahilShahhhere comes that acting star who accuse new actors can't act
2:50 Really natural
Not all parents are responsible parents. You do not require any license or qualification to become a parent and thus can be taken for granted. The whole concept of “parents are my life line”, a lot of people do not resonate with this feeling at all. In fact Mother’s and/or Father’s day is just painful for them because they cannot celebrate what the entire world (normally) celebrates.
100%
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Lately my elder sister started celebrating father's day and mother's day. Father's day celebration seemed pointless to me cos I wondered what exactly were we celebrating? Years of physical, mental and emotional torture??
Nobody in real life can't react like this until and unless they felt the pain so deep.. na keh pate hai na chupa pate hai bus andar hi andar ghutte rehte hai.. and sudden outburst would be exactly like this..
I was literally crying during this scene when I first watched the movie .
She acts really well. ❤
Very strong acting...movie was slow but was on a very realistic level
Alia is such an amazing actor 👏 Just wow 👌 It's astonishing people don't acknowledge how good she is..😮
After this that mans dialogue that she never failed any class again just angered me to another level
Too much wow that was
That's why I always try to be a loving and caring parent to my darling daughter that i never had😢
Same here.
Still it hurts the child in me
@@jeenujoy4982 it always will, I just can't shake it off
@@Shivhari2328 😩
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I don't know why, but i absolutely love these outbursts of characters, just yelling at someone after years of endurance
Exactly same feeling for my parents 😥😥😥
I can't believe this is acting 🙏❤ Alia...best ever
I loveeeee this monologue!!!!!! It’s so powerful and the way Alia delivered it, the pent up anger and frustration was shown so realistically and in such a relatable way 💘
I went through same trauma....I didn't even know... because of selfishness of my parents .... I'll become antisocial.....that feeling riped me apart .....and the worst feeling is ..I don't hate them ...I blame them but can't hate them ... My husband has a bright childhood...I longed for the love I didn't get from my parents and my husband usually think I am chipku ..... It's a real struggle... sometimes I cry for stupid reasons and for no reason at all ...now to complain sounds foolish 😂
Exactly like my life😮
Couple of therapy session would ease your trauma. I promise you you'd feel much better after releasing your repressed emotions with a right therapist. Your clinginess, your inner wounds will be reduced after 2 sessions. Mental health is as important as physical health. Don't ignore it please. I wish you all the love, wishes and health. ❤
@@yomaddy can you suggest of some good therapist, affordable ones.
@@sumanagrawal2392 well where I live, there's one lady therapist, she's only available for offline session. I have taken sessions couple of years ago and price was only 400 per session and she provides good psychotherapy session. Unfortunately she's not into online therapy.
From SOTY to Gangu Alia Acting Skills 🔥📈💥
How petty someone has to be to think that her best actress award was 'undeserving!'
Ikr
Dedicated to all the toxic parents . Strong message delivered through this video 👏👍
Abandonment feelings are painful. They make you trapped in an identity crisis. Where you actually struggle to find a place of your own belongingness.
I have not seen this movie but after this scene i am going to watch it for sure ....❤
you must. the movie is like a subconscious therapy.
Agreed...... Specially if you have some kind of childhood trauma from parents which at this point I believe most south asian children of our generation have
So relatable and felt the same so many times!!🥲🥲😶
3.43 and 3.47 the actors playing her mom and brothers expression were awestruck.. Just bring tears to eyes seeing her mother cry..,🎉🎉🎉
Dialogue writer deserves an award ❤
She's absolutely right! I cannot explain how much it hurts to be cursed by your parents all the time when they're the ones who make us happen in their lives! It's like I'm just in their lives just because of them yet they blame me for everything wrong happening in their lives! I like the idea of not existing in this world.....💔
99% childs are suffering this type of lecture & all
It takes a whole life , rebuilding the broken pieces of us and still stay strong to live that life which was abused, hurted and taunted and not nurtured with full love and care 😢
It all started with that uncle!! She was never jealous of her brother infact she was so proud of him.. 0:43 It was that uncle person defining that there is a correct way to live one's life n that kaira was wrong bcoz she was a cinematographer n that she was not pursuing a career which is rather mainstream. N the way he gave that look while indirectly pointing out at her
I disagree,she was not jealous. She was just angry with her parents for not paying attention towards her and abandoning her. She never ever hated her brother and was never ever jealous of him
@@sejalq8384that's what I said, she was never jealous of him.
Alia's acting is wonderful and realistic....💗give her hearts full of likes❤❤
I could so much relate myself to this!! Favouritism prevails everywhere.
Omg, Alia’s acting is to notch 🤯🔥
Never shame your children in front of your family or parents even in front of their friend.
This movie is really amazing man ! Whenever I watch it, I just can't get enough of it. Roasters have roasted almost every good and bad movie by finding out flaws in it. But I don't think so that this movie can be roasted because I don't find any flaws in it.
this is what all parents have to listen to and change for good
They'll change after they've been cremated.
This is what I call Bollywood......
I still remember that Alia from Highway, Udta Punjab......
NAILED EVERY SINGLE ROLE........
Parents always think that there life is tough but childrens life too is not that easy
I my self have suffered due to my parents and because of that i don't have anything now not a career not any job or business no relationship i have been ended being alone 😢
99% parents thinks that they doing good to there children but 90% children life is spoiled by there own parents and due to that many children go in the wrong way like smoking drinking to dipression
So my request to all the parents to the world first just accept your childrens how they r don't Change them atleast let them to leave there life in freedom that is the most simplest thing u can do 🙏
Don't worry buddy. Things will get better soon. There's delay in God's house never darkness.
Whenever I saw this scene I can feel it . the same thing. 😢can't get over this for the entire life.
Fucking true kyonki parent banne k liye koi certificate ya qualification to chahiye ni duniya mein 80% log to is layak hi ni hote ki vo maa baap bane being a parent is a huge responsibility nd everybody is not that responsible bas sex kiya hogye bcche kbi kbi to galti se pregnent hogye to hogye bcche ab jese marzi vese paalte hai jese marzi mahaul mein rakhte hai or jab khud achi parvarish krne mein fail hojate hai to blame bccho ko krte hai
I feel u bro
I do agree. There is no medal for creating kids.
Even cats and dogs can do that.
Humans are different only because they create a child with intellect. But when they don’t they’re as good as dogs and cats😂
Bilkul sahi. Sex deprived men in those days hardly knew anything about birth control and kids kept popping up, left to the mother to raise and rake care and if these kids posed even the slightest discomfort in their lives, the father would become the soul reaper.
Giving children to grandparents and then taking them back was a tradition in 90's. Victims are still suffering!
Alia Bhatt is such a wonderful actress.
Why the heck do i have tears in ma eyes why do i feel like crying....I too have toxic parents and maybe one day ill just Break down into tears bro 😢
Alia is definitely an actor
@AnonymousAlien2099😅
At least someone spoke in the behalf of lots of people 🕶️👍
I thought she was dragging it when I saw this a year back. Now that my mom transferred to different district, and I'm experiencing the same thing she did, I understand exactly how she felt.
The only unrealistic thing about this movie is that her parents accepted that they were wrong and apologised to her. That's the complete opposite of Indian parenting.
When you open up to your parents, will laugh at you, blame you, criticize you and gaslight you but will never take a moment in their lives to understand why were in the wrong or if they were in the wrong at all and you just have to deal with it for the rest of your lives.
Vo puri baat dhyan se sun le wo hi bhut ha unka famous dialogue tamiz se baat kro 😖
@@prachikaushik6434 true that
This movie was actually needed....i literally cried at this scene while watching the movie cuz i can relate fully to alia's character 😭😭. If you didn't watched this movie please watch it once....
Atleast she has the right to speak
My mom dad always count their favor on me😢😢😢
I did it in my school as monoact and adding some extra dialogues you know
Thanks Netflix for the english subtitle
most of the kids after 80 and 20 is going through trauma from parents especially elder siblings. i myself started to distanced from my family at a very young age. the day i left home was the most happiest day in my life. i never felt like going back..
This is absolutely right and this is the reality of our society and our families. Shame
3:37 acting dialogue❤ mind-blowing
She nailed that scene❤
trust me!!!! TH WAYYYYYYYYYYYYY THIS MOVIE HAS HELPED ME THROUGH THINGS!!!!
1:58 😢😢😢right my parents same😢😢😢
Alia bhutt always teach us the things through her movies , she give us the therapy we needed
After having my first kid, people often tell me I need to have another kid. I don’t want more kids. Pregnancy was annoying because I was always vomiting and sick…AND THEN! I caught COVID two weeks before labor!!! Labor was terrible and i would never put myself through that again. The months of recovery was painful because I was coughing from COVID. There’s NO ONE who can convince me to have another kid.
Bitter but truth..😢😢 if you choose wrong partner in life the first one to leave you is your parents..