#1 Weird Way to Get Him Back (or Get Over Him Faster) - Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy

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  • @taygreen5686
    @taygreen5686 5 років тому +10550

    I just want to understand how they fall out of love so fast while we’re left hurting & crying all the time ...

    • @abeer3686
      @abeer3686 5 років тому +61

      Is everything okay now ?!

    • @taygreen5686
      @taygreen5686 5 років тому +56

      @@alphagideon6973 thank you love i didn't know you responded to my comment

    • @taygreen5686
      @taygreen5686 5 років тому +103

      @@abeer3686 no it's not it's worse than ever

    • @taygreen5686
      @taygreen5686 5 років тому +10

      @@abeer3686 I posted a video just venting about it i guess

    • @taygreen5686
      @taygreen5686 5 років тому +6

      @@alphagideon6973 did you have to pay him for his help ?

  • @pizzapreet2422
    @pizzapreet2422 6 років тому +3463

    All the hopes.. All the dreams.. All the promises.. Everything flashing around inside your head. It hurts cause it's all gone.

    • @miadesima8454
      @miadesima8454 5 років тому +7

      Right

    • @MARIECHANYT
      @MARIECHANYT 5 років тому +12

      its hurt a lot 😭

    • @subconsciousmind1907
      @subconsciousmind1907 5 років тому +1

      In 4 dayes only
      Very powerful
      i can bring her or he back to you
      u as his soul If u want contact me phone or whatssaap Tel : 00201008882131 or 0020100882131
      I can make her or he thinking about u all day and night I can make him or her love

    • @heyitsana2964
      @heyitsana2964 4 роки тому +6

      subconscious mind actually idk..... bc I kinda want him back but doing this I would look crazy and he is happy now !! He calls me weirdo and annoying af yeah it’s impossible now

    • @irishlavigne13
      @irishlavigne13 4 роки тому

      I feel u

  • @karenelizabeth7534
    @karenelizabeth7534 6 років тому +3531

    I'm too scared that if I break all contact he wont ever reach out again. But maybe that would be for the better. I find that talking to him, when I do, I'm in this extremely happy mood and I cant stop smiling, but then afterwards when he's no longer talking to me, I feel miserable. It's feeling of low self worth that no one deserves to ever feel

    • @DavidnTenesha
      @DavidnTenesha 6 років тому +335

      It is the problem we think they will leave or wont talk to us if we are doing the no contact.
      "People always want what they cant have"
      If u wont talk and starting working on yourself... Believe me they will comeback, and if not... Lucky you
      . you evolved yourself and became a better you:)

    • @alexismattox6952
      @alexismattox6952 6 років тому +30

      :( I feel the same

    • @keithcuarteros9844
      @keithcuarteros9844 6 років тому +80

      Same here... But then it was clear he was giving up on us. So I "walked away". The reasons for the breakup was complicated. We were long distance and his Indian family wanted nothing to do with me. So he gave into the pressure of his family's plan to arrange his marriage 💔 I still care about him and in my mind I understand the situation. But my heart hurts because I wasn't good enough for him to fight for us. I want to reach out and still be his friend but I know that's just for the "high" I know I'll end up crashing when he "seen zones" me. It's so hard to let go 💔

    • @keeganbarclay7990
      @keeganbarclay7990 6 років тому +31

      i’m going through the same thing and what i feel works for me is to wait if i can, don’t message him even if i’m feeling down about us not talking, try things that will take your mind off texting him, watch fun videos or speak to someone who makes you laugh i find it better to wait until he texts me if he does therefore i know he genuinely wants to talk to me and i feel less on edge during the conversation if he doesn’t message you and feel like you desperately need to text him or want to check up on him i don’t think you should fight that or at least i don’t if it’s what you feel like u need to do. it’s always going to be hard to break that habit so just do it one step at a time, only speak when u desperately need to- this is all what worked for me with the situation i’m in with my ex x

    • @briarrose5360
      @briarrose5360 6 років тому +71

      I can relate to this. My boyfriend broke up with me yesterday over text message. We had been dating for over a year and I thought he was so special. I know that I deserve so much better, for the last months he did not treat me well even though I did nothing but love him. He told me that he didn’t love me anymore and even though I saw it coming it was still a shock. We’ve been talking and it makes me feel better like the breakup never happened and I want to move on and cut him off but I’m scared that he’ll never reach out again and there’s a big part of me that wants him to change his mind and regret it.

  • @ashwildee
    @ashwildee 6 років тому +2486

    i’m really sad, crying, watching this. i really miss him and our story is quite long but i just wish he’d come back home. i’m falling apart and he doesn’t care. he’s just mean to me. i wish i didn’t feel anything anymore

    • @kathydobney6549
      @kathydobney6549 5 років тому +80

      Let him go. No contact works!

    • @dominickw4363
      @dominickw4363 5 років тому +107

      You got this! I'm going through the same thing. We don't need the people who neglect us. Takes time to understand...

    • @billcarsonasmr5022
      @billcarsonasmr5022 5 років тому +4

      Ashkey wilde .. im moroccan

    • @alexandracadena8567
      @alexandracadena8567 5 років тому +37

      I’m with you...mines is mean to me and doesn’t care either...it’s hard letting go

    • @potteryasmina4673
      @potteryasmina4673 5 років тому +42

      Same with me.. I don't understand those people... you give him love and he treats you so bad... why !? Dude nowadays you cant find someone to love you truly..and when u find that person so keep that person safe and love her even more....

  • @NeonBloodyMary94
    @NeonBloodyMary94 6 років тому +3353

    Don't write the letter. You owe them nothing more. Leave them in the dark like they left you.

    • @SUwayoo
      @SUwayoo 6 років тому +168

      You're not supposed to give/send them the letter. It's something you do for yourself, to let it all out and let go of the emotions. It actually kind of helps

    • @barbarariley3488
      @barbarariley3488 6 років тому +19

      Judas Yes writing.my feelings out helps. I keep a journal.

    • @mioyui4831
      @mioyui4831 6 років тому +10

      NeonBloodyMary94 i'm about to write a letter to him. 😔

    • @goutamighosh1396
      @goutamighosh1396 6 років тому +3

      Exactly...NeonBloodyMary94 if he doesn't want anything to do u...why wud u chase dem???

    • @taay_thegreat2057
      @taay_thegreat2057 6 років тому +1

      Amen sister

  • @honeyvee2158
    @honeyvee2158 4 роки тому +3566

    This is absolutely true and something I've tried teaching my girls.
    Whenever I've had A break up, I immediately get into NO CONTACT mode and EVERY. SINGLE. TIME they come back. Problem is, when they do, I no longer want them. If you're leaving, you need to STAY gone because there's no going back on my part.
    7.5 billion people on this earth... nobody has time to be crying over some fool that does not recognize your worth! 7.5 billion people... Remember that!

  • @beinguniqueisbeingu
    @beinguniqueisbeingu 3 роки тому +456

    I hate how emotionally dependent I am on him.

    • @estherraymond174
      @estherraymond174 3 роки тому +1

      Hi, I recommend you to (Dr Steve). He can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance, ever since he helped me, I have b e e n enjoying a perfect Relationship with my ex. I will advice you seek his help thanks.

    • @estherraymond174
      @estherraymond174 3 роки тому

      Send him a message on Whatsapp

    • @estherraymond174
      @estherraymond174 3 роки тому

      +2347030894892.

    • @estherraymond174
      @estherraymond174 3 роки тому

      +2347030894892🙏🏾 🙏🏾

    • @judithjulie4267
      @judithjulie4267 3 роки тому

      Hello lovely I can Introduce you to the same powerful relationship restorer who helped me recover back my ex. He can also help you to get back with yours with much love .

  • @maddyG7414
    @maddyG7414 7 років тому +3372

    To everyone watching. This is 100% the truth. I cut my ex out because I wasn't going to be his friend while desperately hoping for something more. I never wanted him back...I wanted to get over him and forget. But months later he came back...and is more reliable then ever. Funny thing is...I realized I deserve better and I no longer want to date him.

    • @reemhosam6061
      @reemhosam6061 7 років тому +209

      Maddy Harvey My ex texted me a few hours ago after 3 months of no contact, luckily I have come to that same realization of yours. I don't ever want him back, and even thinking of blocking him everywhere on social media so I can have a smooth moving on process. I had to comment on this because I could relate to it on a great level, I hope you find someone great for you girl 💓

    • @drsabahat1
      @drsabahat1 7 років тому +53

      Maddy Harvey happened to me the same. seriously...i also felt i needed someone better than him n i actually found one. so no more dating my love!

    • @khadijasistar
      @khadijasistar 7 років тому +23

      waw I hope to be like you one day
      bravooo !!

    • @veero8130
      @veero8130 7 років тому +11

      Maddy Harvey good for you :) hope you ll meet your True Love soon

    • @khadijasistar
      @khadijasistar 7 років тому +3

      thank you so sweet from you Hope so :)))

  • @magdatweet
    @magdatweet 7 років тому +1749

    Perfect time for this... I miss him so much, and I want him back but I am keeping my distance from him. If you love someone, let him go. If he comes back he's yours, if not he never was.

    • @jasminepark5554
      @jasminepark5554 7 років тому +54

      maggie Villanueva i believe it's real if they never left.

    • @JCFrigid
      @JCFrigid 7 років тому +30

      Jasmine Park You need to rethink your belief system :)

    • @legslipsandlashes9831
      @legslipsandlashes9831 7 років тому +73

      Jasmine Park Not really. Some people stay to use and manipulate you.

    • @WDLDrider
      @WDLDrider 7 років тому +14

      I'm on the other end of this. I broke it off with my Ex over a week ago. She does not make time for me to meet her family. And i dont feel valued. Waiting and in pain

    • @DianeCrystal
      @DianeCrystal 7 років тому +2

      maggie Villanueva me too😭👏 but so true

  • @robdandapani9303
    @robdandapani9303 6 років тому +1768

    Unrequited love is the worst kind of rejection. It feels like I'm dying. No appetite for food, no sleep, stomach feels full all the time, all I can think of is the beautiful memories. Please help.

    • @halloweenteen116
      @halloweenteen116 6 років тому +55

      I'm in the same boat, and looks like it started about the same time as you. So unfortunately I don't really have any advice for you other than *not* to contact him, like Matthew said. I already did, promising to do better and asking to get back together, and I'm sure it just made matters worse in his mind. He blocked me on social media before I really said anything, so it's not like I was harassing him to cause that. I left him a voice-mail since he blocked my number too, and leaving that message is how I pleaded with him. I left that same message in our dating app chat, and then he left the chat room. There are other platforms I could contact him on, but I won't. I made it clear in my last message that he wouldn't be hearing from me again if he didn't want to. I acknowledged his feelings, promised to do better (even though I didn't realize I did anything wrong) and said I knew after that I would have done everything I could. So since he ignored those I'll have to be moving forward, as much as it hurts. The relationship was very brief, but we quickly learned almost everything about each other, and had SO much in common, and seemed to connect very deeply. I thought I had found my soulmate, although what I told him was that he was the most amazing guy I'd ever met, and he said he'd never felt this way about anyone. I really would give anything to turn back time, I just wish I knew where I could have done better..

    • @Mammatin007
      @Mammatin007 6 років тому +7

      Same

    • @vlashe24
      @vlashe24 6 років тому +48

      How long since the break up? I also react to stress like that and 7 yrs ago I had the worst break up, with someone I considered to be the love of my life. I litteraly needed 2 and a half years to ever think of a relationship with someone, i barely had a desire to see a man. It affected my health and I am still trying to fix the health issue i got afterwards. So take care of yourself. It is hard, but believe me, you'll feel strong and happy again, unfortunatelly the process is not easy. I am also going through another break up now, but I already had my big break up in life so kinda know I'll be alright... It hurts but I can handle it. And I am on my 18 days no contact... I have ups and downs but i try to control the pain when it comes. I have mixed feelings and i am mostly doing the no contact for myself. I am going through the most difficult period of my life, with mum cancer patient, my work, my master thesis... I dont need a selfish asshole in my life, that has no basic human sense and makes me feel worse during difficult time. Stay strong and focus on things that make you feel good... Make a change :)

    • @ltaurus2105
      @ltaurus2105 6 років тому +58

      You will be alright....the only thing that heals hearts is time....give it time...there's a movie called Swingers...waTch it....there's a scene in there where a guy tells his heartbroken friend how he'll get over it...He tells him, "it hurts everyday, hurts alittle less everyday, then one day you wake up and it doesnt hurt at all..."...trust me, you'll get over it...stay strong...

    • @umangagga
      @umangagga 6 років тому +23

      @@halloweenteen116 that's my story. Gave this guy everything, deepest love and affection, and still ended up hurting. That's what's miserable, knowing you have loved the most love and yet got blamed.

  • @agee7777
    @agee7777 5 років тому +1857

    every day that goes by, you think of them less. distract and improve yourself.

    • @corrines4270
      @corrines4270 5 років тому +37

      I’m sorry but this isn’t entirely true. I thought time would “heal all wounds” but it’s been over a month and I still think of him everyday, if not more and more.

    • @sweetietorus87
      @sweetietorus87 5 років тому +1

      That's right

    • @sweetietorus87
      @sweetietorus87 5 років тому +6

      U have to focus you yourself and cut ties with them. When u do that u just feel stronger and u get your power back. It took alot of strength from God but I said enough and got to the point when I said I'm done and I have been. I hang out with friends, I go out, I'm looking into new things etc. When u do that you realize your worth.

    • @westcoastbred7745
      @westcoastbred7745 5 років тому +3

      Great advice and yes it's hard but it works. I threw myself into work and my kids. I'm actually pissed this person wasted my valuable time of 3yrs

    • @loveyouuu5092
      @loveyouuu5092 4 роки тому +2

      @Adam G until he comes back and you answer him thinking your finally strong enough to not fall for him again but instead he does everything all over again and the cycle repeats and your left there not knowing how to stop it 😔

  • @MsThebeMoon
    @MsThebeMoon 4 роки тому +1505

    If he isn't thinking about how he's getting ME back, there's no reason for me think about getting him back.

    • @favourglory6447
      @favourglory6447 4 роки тому

      Hello Thebe, I'm very sure that the great man who helped me get my husband back to me after separation can also help you

    • @favourglory6447
      @favourglory6447 4 роки тому +1

      😍😍😍😍Text him on whatsapp😍😍😍

    • @favourglory6447
      @favourglory6447 4 роки тому

      +234,811,913,2200.

    • @MADZOUA
      @MADZOUA 3 роки тому +9

      True..but how can you know what he is thinking except if you are a mind reader🙂

    • @jaidenoutofcontext7290
      @jaidenoutofcontext7290 3 роки тому +2

      Beautiful insight

  • @JessicaHeartsMakeup
    @JessicaHeartsMakeup 7 років тому +790

    When I was single or heart broken I spent so much time trying to convince guys that I was perfect for them, chasing guys, and wondering on how to get him to commit to me. I wish someone could have told me "He's just not that into you." It would have saved me so much pain. I'm now in a relationship with an amazing guy who loves me and for the first time I'm not insecure in our relationship, he's everything I've ever wanted. We're getting married in September💕Ladies please set your standards high and wait on the guy who puts you on a pedestal and treats you like the princess you are. Don't waist your time on a guy who's just not that into you. You'll never have to make any excuses for your soulmate, he's going to be everything you've ever wanted and so much more💜💍

    • @CiNdyO3
      @CiNdyO3 7 років тому +19

      Congrats!! I am happy for you! Story's like yours make me so happy and give me that extra strength to move on from a guy who didn't treat me the way I deserved to be treated. Thank you for sharing! (:

    • @JCFrigid
      @JCFrigid 7 років тому +4

      Jessica Trasvina Prince charming is a pretty cool guy, but he's not interested in a 40-year old couch potato. Make yourself worth his time without making yourself into his toy.

    • @sabsays4091
      @sabsays4091 7 років тому +5

      I'm curious to know where are you getting "40-year old couch potato" from?? Jessica was only talking about not entertaining or going after guys who are ultimately a waste of time and energy.

    • @JCFrigid
      @JCFrigid 7 років тому +2

      Sabrina Sainte "Wait for a guy to put you on a pedestal and treat you like the princess you are"

    • @JessicaHeartsMakeup
      @JessicaHeartsMakeup 7 років тому +20

      For your information, I'm 20 and my fiancé is 21. I'm clearly not a 40-year old couch potato. My advice to women was to not date guys that are not worth it. "Waiting" for the right guy to come along doesn't literally mean to sit at home all day, it simply means to date quality type of guys who have their life together and who want a serious commitment that will lead to marriage which is was every women ultimately wants.

  • @ms8211
    @ms8211 3 роки тому +55

    After 23 days of no contact, she reached out to me today. The worst 23 days of my life, lost my job and 15lb. I decided not to answer her and continue my healing process. It is hard and tough, but you can do it. Every time I wanted to break the no contact rule, I watched this video and I told myself to just survive for today and don't think about tomorrow. Anyone who is going through a breakup now, I know you are in a great pain but you can do it and remember tomorrow will be better. Stay Strong.

  • @Delopezav
    @Delopezav 7 років тому +508

    I broke up a 2 years toxic relationship and I turned all my pain around into losing 100 pounds... Turn your pain into something beautiful, I did it, you can do it too and Matthew is here ti support us...

    • @CleverandClassy
      @CleverandClassy 7 років тому +10

      how? I want to lose about 10 pounds and it seems so difficult 😐

    • @WDLDrider
      @WDLDrider 7 років тому +9

      Something very good came out of that! I too broke it off with my ex. She just kept me on the side while keeping another man.... I'm down 10 lbs just from walking!

    • @iyouwetubeit
      @iyouwetubeit 7 років тому +1

      How? the remedy is written all over: get into a toxic relationship. Get your heart broken, then put the pain into something positive like losing weight. It does work.

    • @firesign4297
      @firesign4297 7 років тому

      Angela V 👏👏👏👏

    • @shimonarashi6451
      @shimonarashi6451 7 років тому

      Angela V proud of you 😍

  • @Dismyhandleok
    @Dismyhandleok 7 років тому +304

    I got broken up with 5 hours ago. The first person I loved. I have cried non-stop and I have felt so empty and lost.... then I saw this. First video I saw when I came onto UA-cam for a distraction. I believe I was meant to see this. I believe it because 20 minutes before watching this I was planning all the ways I could get down on my knees and beg him to come back to me. This has given me some strength in fighting this addiction. Whether he comes to his senses or not, I need to take care of myself and take that no contact rule into immediate effect. Thank you, Matthew.

    • @Cathee45
      @Cathee45 7 років тому +20

      You can do it! Getting down on your knees begging for his love will not make him respect you. Finding and working on yourself will. xoxox

    • @Sirenamia777
      @Sirenamia777 7 років тому +1

      Cass Em you are so beautiful!

    • @Babzzmusic
      @Babzzmusic 7 років тому +2

      I can totally relate hope you are feeling better now.

    • @thetokenvamp
      @thetokenvamp 7 років тому +4

      I’d love to know how you are present day

    • @mayqueen943
      @mayqueen943 7 років тому +4

      Did it work out?

  • @lsmit003
    @lsmit003 7 років тому +318

    My ex broke up with me in January and got married in April to his "really good friend." We were together 10 years. The pain was unbearable for a few days but he made it easy for me to move on and I realized he did me a favor! He still called me afterwards
    but I did the no contact period;a period that will be implimented for life. Keep your heads up my broken-hearted girls it gets better, life gets better! #allthingshappenforareason

    • @madhurichauhan3455
      @madhurichauhan3455 7 років тому +6

      Lisa B you should go and slap in front of ur common group
      realise him how it feels

    • @littlemisssunshine874
      @littlemisssunshine874 7 років тому +1

      Good girl!

    • @NS-tw8et
      @NS-tw8et 7 років тому +2

      Lisa B oh my gosh you just wrote about me, 🙁

    • @Babzzmusic
      @Babzzmusic 7 років тому +2

      Thank you for sharing this it's very encouraging.

    • @nikki-kq6ul
      @nikki-kq6ul 7 років тому +5

      How did you move on. How hard was it

  • @NanciaRueben
    @NanciaRueben 3 роки тому +88

    I’m starting it today, this afternoon! I am moving on this time, forever. Sitting in my office and feeling the feels today. It’s going to be okay.

    • @comfortekong9129
      @comfortekong9129 3 роки тому

      Hello I tried no contact numerous times and it didn't work for me until I met this great man, his name is Doctor oko's who helped ME restore my ex husband back to me few days ago after 12 months of breakup

    • @comfortekong9129
      @comfortekong9129 3 роки тому

      You can text the love specialist
      on Whatsap if you truly need
      help to get your ex back...

    • @comfortekong9129
      @comfortekong9129 3 роки тому

      +1( 6 2 3 ) 2 5 0 3 9 6 6

    • @lovelynpeterson5601
      @lovelynpeterson5601 3 роки тому

      I pray the Universe grant your heart desires with more love and commitment from your ||Ex|| through the help of the same Great and Powerful man •Dr Steve• who helped me restored my Broken Home. He can make your |ex| beg you for a second chance. I will advise you seek out his help thanks...)

    • @lovelynpeterson5601
      @lovelynpeterson5601 3 роки тому

      Send him a message on Whatsapp 💕

  • @dovelove4439
    @dovelove4439 7 років тому +463

    Been together for a year and a half. He's been doing this for the last three months, maybe even more. My no contact started yesterday. He called tonight three times and I didn't answer. My mind and heart was doing flips. A couple minutes later I received this notification. Angels working over time. Thank you Matthew, you're my Angel.

    • @anasofia4068
      @anasofia4068 7 років тому +8

      You can do it :)

    • @dovelove4439
      @dovelove4439 7 років тому +3

      Thank you, I'm not a person who speaks of a broken home to others in my daily life or on FB. This is my first time ever posting anything on UA-cam, but as Matthew said, I'm not going in this alone. I have downloaded his links but they do not speak of the No Contact. They speak of other topics. Does anyone know where there is more info, from Matthew, on the No Contact topic. I'd think that would help me stay strong. Namaste

    • @legslipsandlashes9831
      @legslipsandlashes9831 7 років тому +11

      Dove Love Everyday that you take not talking to him is a day for yourself. It's alright to love him but you have to completely back off and get into yourself. It's gonna hurt but this is for you.

    • @legslipsandlashes9831
      @legslipsandlashes9831 7 років тому +7

      Dove Love Chazz Ellis is another good one on UA-cam. His videos helped me so much. Keep following and do exactly as he says. I am now busier than ever and it doesn't matter is my ex wants me or not. To hell with him. I'm busy. Everyday is a day for you to live your best life. Also try Derrick Jaxn on UA-cam.

    • @Chizuruchibi
      @Chizuruchibi 7 років тому +6

      +Dove Love there's a great book called "it's called a break up, because it's broken". They have a whole chapter on the no contact thing, as well as wonderful other advice. Regarding the no-contact, they write there should be no contact whatsoever for at least 60 days straight.

  • @ryna176
    @ryna176 5 років тому +649

    my boyfriend said he fell out of love with me a few days ago and honestly i dont miss him, its the memories and having THAT person in my life i will miss

    • @annysaandrews7447
      @annysaandrews7447 3 роки тому +12

      yesss mine was let’s just say toxic but the memories is what’s killing me

    • @lush1276
      @lush1276 3 роки тому +2

      The saddest part is the memories uve left with

    • @Randomperson-up4yl
      @Randomperson-up4yl 3 роки тому +1

      Same How are you feeling now ?

    • @richgaard8438
      @richgaard8438 3 роки тому

      I can recommend you to a man who helped me to get my ex back to me 48hours

    • @richgaard8438
      @richgaard8438 3 роки тому

      Hello it's works I can't believe am with my lover again contact him

  • @ssjdjshsjsj1913
    @ssjdjshsjsj1913 5 років тому +1599

    funny how forever lasts about 4 months

    • @DrNiloufarhayath
      @DrNiloufarhayath 5 років тому +14

      zara hates you 2 months ? Lol

    • @subconsciousmind1907
      @subconsciousmind1907 5 років тому +5

      *I can bring her or he back to you*
      *I can make her or he thinking about u all day and night*
      *In 4 dayes only*
      *By subconscious mind and angels*
      *I can make him or her love u as his soul*
      *Very powerful*
      *if u want contact me phone or whatssaap*
      *Tel : 00201008882131* *or 0020100882131*

    • @ssjdjshsjsj1913
      @ssjdjshsjsj1913 5 років тому +13

      subconscious mind no

    • @karthikaray5627
      @karthikaray5627 5 років тому +1

      subconscious mind how ?? Is dat possible

    • @subconsciousmind1907
      @subconsciousmind1907 5 років тому

      @@karthikaray5627 contact me at tell or whatssaap : 00201008882131

  • @michellemeuleman385
    @michellemeuleman385 3 роки тому +80

    Worse part is the withdrawal feelings. The panic and anxiety that goes with it. And yes I am addicted to him. And yes I know that’s not healthy. But it’s an human emotion we all have to get over .. and only time can help.

    • @AndreaGomez-nv4dq
      @AndreaGomez-nv4dq 3 роки тому

      Hi get help from The relationship restorer Dr Steve who helped me to reunite back with my ex... He can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance, ever since he helped me get to back with my ex I have been enjoying a happy and a peaceful relationship with him. I will advise you seek out his help thanks....

    • @AndreaGomez-nv4dq
      @AndreaGomez-nv4dq 3 роки тому

      Send him a text message on Whatsapp 💓

    • @AndreaGomez-nv4dq
      @AndreaGomez-nv4dq 3 роки тому

      +2 3 4 7 0 3 0 8 9 4 8 9 2.

    • @AndreaGomez-nv4dq
      @AndreaGomez-nv4dq 3 роки тому

      Send him a text message on Whatsapp 💓

    • @michellemeuleman385
      @michellemeuleman385 3 роки тому +1

      @@AndreaGomez-nv4dq don’t have that app. And what is so special about that app. I don’t get it. We chat on phone , the good old fashioned ways

  • @antoniamariaabboud7714
    @antoniamariaabboud7714 6 років тому +455

    I’ve done the same thing before watching this video in my first break up with my first boyfriend and it worked. But when he came back I didn’t want him anymore. I’m going through my second breakup today and now I’m assured that this is what I have to do. Ladies, take care of yourself. If someone is worth it and actually wants you and is good for you, they would never make you doubt yourself and put you through pain. This type of men don’t love you, they love the love you give them, and they don’t find it anywhere else which is why they come back. I hope you all find someone that will never make you question your worth.

    • @sharybaum2115
      @sharybaum2115 6 років тому +4

      Thank you, for writing this!

    • @lucarin8191
      @lucarin8191 6 років тому +1

      I havent seen it that way before.. thank you for writing this sm :)

    • @tinat9909
      @tinat9909 6 років тому +1

      Amen. Thank you for this 😊

    • @wunderland2763
      @wunderland2763 6 років тому +1

      This is amazing! Thank you

    • @GoSummitSolo
      @GoSummitSolo 6 років тому +1

      thanks for this comment, that is very true

  • @anonymousanonymous176
    @anonymousanonymous176 4 роки тому +208

    I went no contact initially which lasted about 2.5 months, until he reached out. I took the bait so hard because I had been waiting and waiting for this moment. But I was all too quick to forgive him and come running to his doorstep. I think even he was surprised, he even said that he ‘can’t believe I am so forgiving’... I clearly wasn’t ready at this point to approach him with a clear, strong mind, but I didn’t know that at the time. I was still very much addicted.
    2 months goes by and he basically used me again as his secret affair, despite always finding the words and answers that seemed to satisfy my questions. I finally had the courage to walk away and say I deserve better. It took a moment of strength to send that message, even though I spent weeks after going back and forth on whether or not I should’ve sent it. Either way, I stuck with it. He said he couldn’t be ‘that person right now’, and that would always be his answer, it was obvious to me then.
    A few more months go by, and I gave in a few times where I’d send a message letting him know I’m thinking of him or saying something kind. I thought about him every single hour of everyday. I tried to keep my distance but I’d always relapse slightly and feel I’d have to start again when I received such an average response back.
    Finally, November 2019 I sent my last ‘nice’ message, knowing I was about to leave for Japan for 18 months and start a whole new life. He didn’t even finish the conversation and just left me hanging. So I decided. This was it. I didn’t sent a Christmas message, or a Happy New Year message (which I would always do), and then Valentine’s Day rolls around. I didn’t send anything to him either. But low and behold, at 7pm at night a message comes through and there’s his name staring at my screen. It says, ‘Still think about you a lot! Where are you? I hope you’re having a good time! I trust you are.’ Now, as I clutched my heart and almost fell to the ground hyperventilating, it took the entire force of universe and some very caring friends for me not to reply. I’d been waiting for a message from him for so long. I’d cried and cried, I’d dreamt of him, I would still catch myself staring at his pictures, but still, at this point I’d gone 3 months of no contact and was feeling quite good about the future. When I decided that I wouldn’t reply, and I let it sink in for a few days, after about 2 weeks I felt really powerful! I had ignored him for the first time in my life. I knew what was better for me and my well-being, and whilst ignoring him felt unnatural and unkind (in my mind), the anxiety and uncertainty I would feel if I had messaged and fell back in that loop just wasn’t worth it. I wanted to keep the high ground I’d spent so long fighting for.
    His birthday passed a few weeks ago, and I also refrained from messaging him. I’m now feeling very strong, and him reaching out actually helped me with my healing process because it gave me a chance to ignore him. It gave me the choice to do so after some healing.
    I am feeling really quite good about it all now, and after blocking him off everything and making sure my settings are all private, it really goes help you think about them less each day, because reminders don’t just ‘pop up’, as you go about your day.
    Still healing, but making progress!

    • @beatak-f9764
      @beatak-f9764 2 роки тому +13

      Im sure many of us is or was in this exact situation… stay strong!!

    • @IamFayeMackynzie
      @IamFayeMackynzie 2 роки тому +9

      It’s been a year since you posted this.. I am wondering how are you feeling right now? I am very much in the same situation as you i don’t know how much will power and determination i’ll be needed to not contact him and give in if he contact me.

  • @millyjane8202
    @millyjane8202 6 років тому +633

    All I know is my heart is broken and it feels just like an actual pain

    • @meowyellen
      @meowyellen 5 років тому +8

      Mil djane Celebs ok same it actually hurts in my chest

    • @priyas8659
      @priyas8659 4 роки тому

      @Elizabeth Thomos what

    • @priyas8659
      @priyas8659 4 роки тому

      @Elizabeth Thomos who is he? How can he help?

    • @sammyfield7680
      @sammyfield7680 4 роки тому +1

      This is how I’m feeling. Like my heart actually hurts. 😢

    • @richgaard8438
      @richgaard8438 3 роки тому

      I can recommend you to a man who helped me to get my ex back to me 48hours

  • @Toralynne_TV
    @Toralynne_TV 3 роки тому +242

    Just passed day 5. Every day has been excruciating... but I know I have to carry on and this video just re-enforced that feeling... thank you.

  • @AnnMTL
    @AnnMTL 7 років тому +164

    This is so true. I was in love with a man who was emotionally unavailable and I was willing to do anything for him. When he dumped me, it broke me and I tried to get him back...it backfired. I was miserable...but now I've come out from the other side. I've cut off all contact and moved on, I start taking care of myself, loving myself, cherishing myself. I wouldn't care if he comes back. I've found someone who treats exactly the way I'm meant to be treated: respect and kindness. To all those suffering, take care of yourself, love yourself and you will survive and thrive.

    • @KaliKali-hv9bt
      @KaliKali-hv9bt 7 років тому +2

      Ann Tung I will try to remember your words.

    • @edenmodomo9550
      @edenmodomo9550 7 років тому

      Ann Tung im on this situation now with a man hu was emotionaly unavailable and dumped me. It hurtz a lot and i dont know wer to begin

    • @Babzzmusic
      @Babzzmusic 7 років тому +2

      eden modomo i experianced the same thing, block him on everything and relax do anything that makes you feel happier within reason lol. Write down all the reasons why they were wrong for you. Think about all of your good qualities and just love yourself.

    • @charinamoreno6012
      @charinamoreno6012 6 років тому

      Ann Tung Yass preach!! 👏👏

    • @nevaehm3886
      @nevaehm3886 6 років тому

      *MyExLove. info* helps me to get my ex back this program will helps you also
      This Program is for both male and females….

  • @lensbeautyhub
    @lensbeautyhub 6 років тому +371

    You don’t need to get him back. Just worry about your health, wellbeing, and happiness ❤️

    • @tinat9909
      @tinat9909 6 років тому

      Yassss preach 👌👌

    • @gabbydecker679
      @gabbydecker679 5 років тому

      that's a really good saying thank you

  • @Ladycouture99
    @Ladycouture99 6 років тому +315

    When he said addiction, my heart pushed my chest .. and screamed ....

  • @Nancy2551-g6i
    @Nancy2551-g6i 2 місяці тому +19

    Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.

    • @Mia1827
      @Mia1827 2 місяці тому

      It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.

    • @Nancy2551-g6i
      @Nancy2551-g6i 2 місяці тому

      Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?

    • @Mia1827
      @Mia1827 2 місяці тому

      His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

    • @Mia1827
      @Mia1827 2 місяці тому

      he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.

    • @Nancy2551-g6i
      @Nancy2551-g6i 2 місяці тому

      Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
      Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤

  • @25ttaylor
    @25ttaylor 6 років тому +347

    My boyfriend informed me that he fell out of love for me months ago and since then has been secretly seeing another girl
    my pain is unbearable

    • @barbarariley3488
      @barbarariley3488 6 років тому +44

      He is nothing but a cheater be glad you found out he is a jerk now and not when you could have been married with kids.

    • @misssuslik
      @misssuslik 6 років тому +10

      I’m so sorry

    • @brainscrambledeggnothinkin3897
      @brainscrambledeggnothinkin3897 6 років тому +10

      Same things happened to me 3 days ago, we're not that exclusive though. He told me that he is going to date someone else. I cried all the night and now I'm trying no contact method but not to bring him back, just to move on in life and to never ever see him in life not even as a friend. He never loved me the way I loved him and that's fine also, you can't force anyone to love you. But the fact is that I don't want to invest in someone who doesn't feel the same. It would be good if I could stay as friend with him, but it's only going to hurt my feelings and sooner or later I'm going to be heartbroken again.
      If he treats you like an option, leave him like a choice. Bid them goodbye. All the best.

    • @jackiea.7971
      @jackiea.7971 5 років тому +3

      Tara Roebuck that is the worst! I’ve experienced cowards like that who don’t have the backbone and compassion to call things like they are and speak their truths. You deserve better.

    • @jackiea.7971
      @jackiea.7971 5 років тому

      john smith bring on the love spell. Next bring in Cupid and have him shoot everyone with arrows. Then bring in the dragon and lock her up so that a gallant man can rescue her. We’re listing ideas for fantasy movies aren’t we?

  • @wesercole
    @wesercole 7 років тому +677

    In short: the less you want them the more they want you

    • @manypathammavong
      @manypathammavong 7 років тому +10

      A girl has no name so trueeeeee

    • @catherinesdiary2928
      @catherinesdiary2928 7 років тому +48

      In indeed every man has such low self esteem. The more you love the faster they leave. If you treat them the worst they love as they think they deserve that. Girls, we should be strong. The lesson learnt. No matter what relationship we are in, just focus on ourselves and our own love. Never need to say to man i love you. Leave all this stuck done by them. We are princess. We deserve the best. We are so strong every moment. Any weaknesses from man cant hurt us. If he leave let them go. The best man now can come in. If they stay, treat them the worst for whole life. You will amaze how good thing unfold to you in whole life. All in all, man is all weak guys. If you are stronger than them, they can never hurt you but respect you! The real love will stay even you treat them the worst

    • @kadianbrown4007
      @kadianbrown4007 6 років тому +2

      So true 💯

    • @beatv4942
      @beatv4942 6 років тому +17

      A girl has no name but why is it like that? I don’t understand what’s happening to the world? If you show how much you love a person wholeheartedly it’s not a weakness it’s actually a strength coz not all people can do that. But why I felt like it’s only been taken for granted all the time. for all failed relationships I’ve been through, I always ask myself, am I not pretty enough? Did I show my love too much? Am I not deserving to loved the way I showed it? Am I not worth fighting for? 😢💔

    • @alyascarden5624
      @alyascarden5624 6 років тому +1

      A girl has no name
      OMG. THAT IS A GREAT IDEA. THANK U SO MUCH. ILYSM😵😵
      SORRY😁 IM OVER REACTING😂😑😂 IT IS JUST THAT IM SO HAPPY

  • @britbrithey
    @britbrithey 7 років тому +55

    So true! Relationship was bringing in a lot of stress and miscommunication, so he broke up w me. Did a clean break and talked off and on for a few weeks, he was back and forth w his feelings about me (i still loved him but not more than I love myself) so I got sick of him and told him to get the rest of his shit and get out of my life. He freaked and said that's not what he wanted. 🤷🏾‍♀️ Two days later he's at my door wanting to start over bc he didn't want to be without me...so yes raise the stakes, focus and fall madly in love with only yourself, and he'll come around or someone better will

  • @ananigma7
    @ananigma7 Рік тому +9

    Literally sobbed watching this because it feels like you were talking right to my heart. Thank you for guiding through the next step of this agonising journey 💔😔

  • @thilosh
    @thilosh 7 років тому +113

    The best advise ever.. thank you Matthew for the video. My no contact rule is still going on.. 1 year 5 months later... Ended a relationship with my then bf of 1 year, who just didnt know what he wanted.. I got tired feeling in libo.. .and walked out.. This time for me has been about just focusing on myself ..my career.. my family..my health... its been an amazing time of self discovery.. I know my worth and know I wouldnt settle for anything less.. Surprisingly he contacted me last month... after all this time.. via email .. stating he has regret for letting me go and apologising for never appreciating me..I never replied..thats validation enough no contact does work... I have moved on .. and for him.. his finally realised what he wants.. albeit quite late.. Lol.. but he now realises what he wants or will value in a woman.. no regrets.. love and happiness only to him and everyone out there reading this.. in an extremely selfish world out there.. we must practice self love..

    • @cookieesncream5350
      @cookieesncream5350 7 років тому

      I was on mo contact for 1 yr. Bumped into my ex accidentally and had a pleasant chat. Unfortunately when i messaged him later he replied but then stopped. He has made no effort in reaching out

    • @janaejackson9683
      @janaejackson9683 7 років тому

      thilosh inspiring

  • @beatv4942
    @beatv4942 6 років тому +223

    The hardest part is not knowing whether you will stay and hope for a miracle or you will just let go and move-on. 😢💔

  • @nadiadahbani7804
    @nadiadahbani7804 7 років тому +211

    u cannot imagine how the timing of this is perfect... thnx

  • @Alyssanonii
    @Alyssanonii 2 роки тому +18

    I'm going through a separation/
    divorce right now & this video really made me feel better. Thank you!

  • @elle_studies_law
    @elle_studies_law 5 років тому +568

    Tried the no contact method after weeks of fighting with my ex over ridiculous things. Just over two weeks later he was asking me what he could do to make this work. I'm very happy. Thank you so much

    • @yoyo5836
      @yoyo5836 4 роки тому +4

      Congrats!

    • @elle_studies_law
      @elle_studies_law 4 роки тому +63

      Unfortunately, it did not work out. But yes. It was good advice

    • @jjj555
      @jjj555 3 роки тому +8

      Mine got a new girlfriend 🙂

    • @elle_studies_law
      @elle_studies_law 3 роки тому +14

      @@jjj555 don’t worry. He left me two weeks later

    • @ighalo0do629
      @ighalo0do629 3 роки тому

      @@elle_studies_law
      getting your lover back shouldn't be a problem I got my ex back with the help of Mr osekhametalor

  • @TheresSomethingAboutSherry
    @TheresSomethingAboutSherry 7 років тому +175

    If I can do this, anyone can! I was in the "addiction" cycle with my ex for a long time. About 2 months ago, I decided I'd had enough and decided to start the no contact period. I'm currently on day 59 and I'm so much happier, stronger and I feel like the ball is in my court; I feel like I'm in control. For me, the first 3 weeks were the hardest, but it gets easier. For anyone going through a breakup, I promise you can do it! Thank you Matthew. This video has motivated me to keep going!

    • @TheresSomethingAboutSherry
      @TheresSomethingAboutSherry 7 років тому +5

      When you're serious about wanting a different outcome to the situation that you're in, nothing can stop you. You are so much stronger than you think! I promise you can get through it!

    • @edenmodomo9550
      @edenmodomo9550 7 років тому +1

      TheresSomethingAboutSherry it hurts a lot i dont know wer to start again

    • @av-jt4ny
      @av-jt4ny 7 років тому

      second month of no contact period and still its hard as it was in the start👐

    • @dinahmite425
      @dinahmite425 7 років тому

      Does he contact you? And are you done are do you want him back

  • @angelaohene67
    @angelaohene67 7 років тому +423

    The no contact rule works like magic.... My ex is back with speed but the truth is I'm completely over him and I don't want him anymore..... Thanks so much

  • @tommartin1870
    @tommartin1870 4 роки тому +51

    The best way is to never have any contact with the person ever again... Just move on and think of yourself

  • @emmajenna6600
    @emmajenna6600 6 років тому +91

    I’m back to this place every couple months. Ugh, exs are diseases. Please don’t expect to be back with them. Trust me, they will come back. They always do but it’s still not going to work. He’s still who he was and you’re just setting yourself up for heartbreak again. Ladies, don’t give them more opportunities than they deserved like I did. You will be alright again

  • @dianaficarrotta2460
    @dianaficarrotta2460 5 років тому +111

    I believe that if someone does not have the same feelings for you, let them go. Love cannot be forced! I feel for anyone with a broken heart (been there), take your time and I believe love will find you, good luck!

  • @princesskimme3
    @princesskimme3 7 років тому +105

    I started the no contact period months ago and ever since I feel myself remembering who I was single. It's crazy. I can't lie that I miss that feeling of having someone there but it's not as urgent as before. I feel amazing. Mathew knows what he's talking about

    • @Cathee45
      @Cathee45 7 років тому

      Did your ex try to come back?

    • @princesskimme3
      @princesskimme3 7 років тому +4

      Cathee45 as soon as he broke up with me we talked for months after. First he wanted to be friends then he wanted a relationship, then he wanted to be friends again. After I started the no contact period cause I was tired of that he did reach out to me asking to be friends. So to answer your question yes he did but he hasn't reached out since. I admit I cheated once and contacted him but it was a one day weakness. Never did again. Btw he contacted me one month after I started the no contact period.

  • @ghoulofficial007
    @ghoulofficial007 Рік тому +8

    No matter if this might work or not . I think you are the first person who motivated me to move on

  • @shank2644
    @shank2644 5 років тому +1015

    Just be patient. Make yourself busy & socialize with other ppl. And time will heal you ⚘🌹

    • @westcoastbred7745
      @westcoastbred7745 5 років тому +3

      Facts

    • @chelseaparagsingh9620
      @chelseaparagsingh9620 4 роки тому +10

      It's really hard

    • @mariafernandezfernandez651
      @mariafernandezfernandez651 4 роки тому

      @@chelseaparagsingh9620 Hello dear, get your ex back within 48hours, inbox father spiritual right away without wasting much time and get your ex back

    • @mariafernandezfernandez651
      @mariafernandezfernandez651 4 роки тому +2

      @@chelseaparagsingh9620 He helped me few weeks ago to bring back my ex husband who left me over two years, now we are living happily together again with our kids

    • @mariafernandezfernandez651
      @mariafernandezfernandez651 4 роки тому

      @@chelseaparagsingh9620 message him now via whatsApp, explain your situation to him and get your relationship restored

  • @emmakleiner8470
    @emmakleiner8470 7 років тому +124

    i am thé only one running to Matthew's vidéos every time i feel like giving up on realtionships with thé world ?

  • @msvanitycharm4406
    @msvanitycharm4406 5 років тому +562

    9 years ago, I was so in love with a guy while he only wanted to be friends with benefits. We dragged on for over a year on and off so finally I moved out of country and we were on no contact period for 7 hours years. Now after 9 years later since we’ve first met, we are seeing each other again. He cares about me so much more than ever and wants to spend time with me everyday. If it’s meant to be, he will chase you back. I gave him the gift of “missing me”.
    I use to cry myself to sleep every other night because of how he was treating me but moving away and focusing on myself growth for many years, I present myself in a different light. So, for those of you who feels lost, lonely and abandoned, the darker the tunnel, the easier to spot the light.

    • @lifewiths.6204
      @lifewiths.6204 5 років тому +3

      So are you guys back together now ?

    • @resanprince628
      @resanprince628 5 років тому +1

      Thank you, I needed this

    • @Glamyougirl17
      @Glamyougirl17 4 роки тому +1

      MsVanityCharm awwwl i don’t want Nunez back but I am so happy thinking about the light and happiness again after healing from this break up

    • @arielthemermaid953
      @arielthemermaid953 4 роки тому +16

      I don’t wanna wait 7 years tho

    • @devyanikhachi8358
      @devyanikhachi8358 4 роки тому +2

      My relationship is on end point😑😑....he Everytime says that he is with me forever ..he will never leave me and fights are the part of relationship...he is changed now ...I caught him many times with other girls ...😭😭but he always come to me...he had never left me alone but now I caught him with one girl 4-5th time😓😓..he had never left me ..but now he is totally Changed😭😭

  • @jahwiadventures
    @jahwiadventures 2 роки тому +55

    Had me crying at “ but I’m with you” 🙏🏽❤️

  • @Itsmeyourdad666
    @Itsmeyourdad666 5 років тому +125

    You give me hope that I'll either get him back or get over it. I'll be happy with either one.

  • @micahofcaferoberto
    @micahofcaferoberto 6 років тому +302

    It is not satisfying it is not happiness it just comfort. This is true thats why after all these years I always go back to him even after he hurts me physically, verbally and emotionally. I am addicted and its not healthy anymore. This has to stop. Thank you for guiding me when no one has. This is a slap of reality. This advices are the things we need yet our friends and family didnt say it. But thanks to you. You woke me up.

    • @jezreellanceta1156
      @jezreellanceta1156 6 років тому +3

      Same here 😔

    • @hanaizzuddin6499
      @hanaizzuddin6499 6 років тому +5

      My story is the same as yours. How do you cope with the situation? I am trying my best to let go, but deep down I know I can never love anyone else anymore. It has been almost 4 years now, but I still love him, every day.

    • @bienavousxo1066
      @bienavousxo1066 6 років тому

      Me too except we had a baby after 4 years she only 10 months :(

    • @zizaboti6308
      @zizaboti6308 6 років тому +3

      @@hanaizzuddin6499 u can forget him easy trust me...u just have to bilive that u can...n deletes his pics..numbers..everything n try to enjoy life with familly.friends..we forgote our familly who dead so how can we not forget bad peoples! We can we can

    • @hanaizzuddin6499
      @hanaizzuddin6499 6 років тому +1

      @@zizaboti6308 Thank you dear. May God bless you, love! ♡

  • @sarahsilverstone9164
    @sarahsilverstone9164 6 років тому +70

    I have been rejected by four guys, still I'm living and fighting on! still waiting for Mr. The One 💃💪

  • @netcountryside518
    @netcountryside518 2 роки тому +3

    I broke up last night. In the morning I try to text him and call him 10 times , finally I talked to him, he didn’t want to talk with me, but I begged him to stay, I asked him, do you still love me? He said “ I am no longer love you anymore “. I still beg him to stay. I just can’t accept it. It hurts so bad and I know I never get his respect. He use bad words to me..😢😔 still I keep listening and talking to him 🥺 I said I was a negative virus and a trash 😖 .
    After I watch this, I will love myself and move on. I have to accept that my love is over. Thanks 🙏

  • @veraj3828
    @veraj3828 6 років тому +153

    My boyfriend broke up with me because he said I’m boring. That was the stupid excuse. I was a good woman but I hope he can find a fun woman but what goes around comes around.

    • @jolisa3325
      @jolisa3325 5 років тому

      Opeyemi Joseph what happened? Did he try to comeback

    • @madeliiine8035
      @madeliiine8035 5 років тому +2

      You are a good woman. And that doesn't change because some arsehole did something stupid to you. He is not worth grieving over.

    • @subconsciousmind1907
      @subconsciousmind1907 5 років тому

      *I can bring her or he back to you*
      *I can make her or he thinking about u all day and night*
      *In 4 dayes only*
      *if u want contact me phone or whatssaap*
      *Tel : 00201008882131* *or 0020100882131*
      *By subconscious mind and angels*
      *I can make him or her love u as his soul*
      *Very powerful*

    • @destanieayala9342
      @destanieayala9342 5 років тому

      Opeyemi Joseph he broke up with me bcs I said let’s play a game to see who knows me better u or my best friend

    • @karthikaray5627
      @karthikaray5627 5 років тому +1

      Same in my case also

  • @nadiasrec
    @nadiasrec 4 роки тому +170

    I just dont understand why someone would ghost on me after promesing me the world. I cant help but crying everytime i think about him, he was so sweet and so nice to me i felt so lucky . It hurts alot

    • @Liz-dragon-street.
      @Liz-dragon-street. 3 роки тому

      How are you 2day Princess? Still not seeing that man?

    • @nadiasrec
      @nadiasrec 3 роки тому +5

      @@Liz-dragon-street. yea, havent heard from him since I commented this. I feel better and moved on with my life but I miss him sometimes

    • @Angiebee.
      @Angiebee. 3 роки тому +1

      The same thing happened to me. He promised me the world, he told me I was his queen and that he wanted to do whatever he could to make me happy. Maybe it wasn’t as good as I thought. After discussing if we wanted a relationship and trying to be clear with what we wanted. About a few days later he let me down and told me it wouldn’t work because he was too busy. I felt broken inside and angry because he knew that I had been assaulted when he came back and he treated me so well compared to the other guy. He told me he felt lucky to have me in his life and that everyone should know that I should be treated like a queen. And now feel like a joke, like I’m cursed. The only reason he came back was because he was fucking lonely. I was fucking lonely too and depressed from being sexually assaulted by the last guy but I never go back to other people for my own selfishness because I want something real, disagreements and all…. I’m angry because I really believed everything he told me. I feel broken because I’m constantly hurt when I try to find love. Right now I want to stay away from it because nothing good has come out of it for me. I’ve just become more depressed. Relationships probably aren’t as great as we make it out to be anyway so what’s the point of wasting my life away on someone who doesn’t care. It’s like men only care about my looks and that’s it. I have such a amazing personality and I just wish people would take the time to truly get to know me. I just don’t understand why someone would tell me they like my personality plus all this other stuff and still disappear. How do I believe the words lovers tell me if most of the time they don’t mean it? Sometimes…. It feels like some people just have it easy. For example my sister went through a few idiots and got over involved and angry but after a month of searching fucking Tinder, she found her boyfriend. There are people my age who are in long term relationships even the people who have been, are, or use to be insecure. They are perfect. I thought that maybe if I was perfect all around then I would find a lover and then it became difficult to achieve but I avoided dating until I realized I didn’t need to be perfect. I stopped obsessing about my weight and worked on trying to just become stronger. I wanted to approach dating in a different way by dating for the fun of it just to be entertained but still hang out with people and get to know them like a friend because I’m a very social person but then I would end up getting ghosted before I could ever get to go out because all they wanted was sex and I just wanted to hang out and do activities and that’s it. Maybe I should just make more friends and just travel a bunch and not even think about dating. It’s broken me so much that I just want to avoid it all together.

    • @Angiebee.
      @Angiebee. 3 роки тому

      This is also why I don’t believe in soulmates.

    • @margelee3483
      @margelee3483 3 роки тому

      I can recommend you to a man who helped me to get my ex back to me within 48hours

  • @maddyG7414
    @maddyG7414 7 років тому +147

    I want to add another comment here since I see that my inital one was liked a lot. I really truely think that the circumstance of getting back together with someone who dumped you is rarely a good idea. You deserve someone who wants you no questions asked. You don't deserve to be taken for granted..or to have to adopt some grand plan to convince someone to be with you unless you did something unfair to them. If they just made up their minds to go, then let them live with that décision. I truly think that there is only a 0.01% of people who get back with their ex that left and find it works out. I think the only way exes can work is if the breakup was mutual and to do with outside forces. But if the person just lost interest in you...respect yourself enough to say goodbye forever. I wasted too much time..even when my ex first came back, trying to make it work out. Don't make the mistake of saying emotionally attached to people and relationships that are fickle and leave you drained.

    • @snailgirl1484
      @snailgirl1484 6 років тому +1

      Maddy Harvey my ex broke up with me because he was going to university + was working full time and felt that it was unfair that I was putting in more effort when he couldn't... I don't care, I want him more than anything in the world. I'm on day #2 now.

    • @charinamoreno6012
      @charinamoreno6012 6 років тому

      I loved your comment 👏👏

    • @micahofcaferoberto
      @micahofcaferoberto 6 років тому

      this is so true

    • @_alemz
      @_alemz 6 років тому

      My bf broke up with me yesterday because we argue too much. I’m in so much right now. He is too. We both love each other but he’s the only one who thinks we should separate. I love him and want to get him back but i don’t know if it’s good for me. So my question is, is it good for me to get back with him or move on?

    • @pinkypentertainment792
      @pinkypentertainment792 6 років тому

      Maddy Harvey thank you

  • @aimeeyoncerd
    @aimeeyoncerd 7 місяців тому +5

    I broke up with my bf because I thought that was the right thing to do and now I am suffering.I want him back but he doesn’t like me anymore

  • @Lilmama7002
    @Lilmama7002 6 років тому +262

    I finally told him not to contact me because he asked to remain friends and he was perfectly fine with the decision he just said ok and that was that. I think that made the break up even worse. His nonchalant attitude about it is driving me insane and I’m not the type to get in a relationship if I don’t see forever with them.

    • @janeswurld
      @janeswurld 5 років тому +22

      How’s it going with you? I’m barely 3 weeks in. Shit hurts. I’ve never rode a break up al the way. I’ve always relationship hopped but this time I’m older and wiser: I’m done hurting people

    • @User-qv3wz
      @User-qv3wz 5 років тому +29

      I seriously went through this same thing he was just so cool with it and it really bothered me

    • @CuteSpade
      @CuteSpade 5 років тому +10

      Going through it right now as well. It’s been a week. We’ve been together for almost two years, but one day he finally tells me he isn’t feeling fulfilled in this relationship. We both agreed to stay friends. But he was also so chill about it as if the breakup didn’t affect him at all. Not only that but he wants to stay friends yet I always have to be the one initiating conversation as I always did when we were together. I don’t know if it’s wise for me to stay friends with him. I’m hurting so badly.

    • @MegaSebr
      @MegaSebr 5 років тому +7

      @@CuteSpade Don't stay friends. Do you really need a texting buddy?
      But always show your cheery side.

    • @CuteSpade
      @CuteSpade 5 років тому +1

      MegaSebr The main problem is that he would still want to hang out, and matter of fact he surprisingly texted me first just a couple hours ago! I’m doing well so far with the healing process despite it only being a couple of weeks as we were not in contact with each other for the past 2 weeks until now. It seems as he still genuinely wants to be friends. I’m still unsure whether or not I sure say friends. I don’t think he intends to just be texting buddies though, maybe he really wants a friendship.

  • @MaskedViolinist07
    @MaskedViolinist07 4 роки тому +220

    I can fall hard for someone, but I’m also extremely proud and don’t let a guy think he has the upper hand. A guy told me once he knew I was so hooked on him that I’d never let him go. He never heard from me again. It still is the most empowering and liberating feeling.

    • @margelee3483
      @margelee3483 3 роки тому

      I can recommend you to a man who helped me to get my ex back to me within 48hours

    • @margelee3483
      @margelee3483 3 роки тому

      +14122387259⏯⏯💕💕

    • @margelee3483
      @margelee3483 3 роки тому

      +14122387259⏯⏯💕

  • @emmapedersen9542
    @emmapedersen9542 5 років тому +1750

    It just feels like us girl are more sad than boys…

    • @hailiejade3800
      @hailiejade3800 4 роки тому +38

      C00lkid Number #1 some reason guys can get over a relationship faster than us 😩😭

    • @ricardogomez4136
      @ricardogomez4136 4 роки тому +217

      Not true girls. We just suffer in silent.

    • @Ns14142
      @Ns14142 4 роки тому +15

      Women and men are physiologically different. Theres no way around that.

    • @eddieramos9966
      @eddieramos9966 4 роки тому +19

      N S yes but it always depends on the person after a year and a half my ex is talking to another guy a week after we broke up meanwhile I’m here helpless looking for any way to take this pain away

    • @luciasugan4426
      @luciasugan4426 4 роки тому +17

      Eddie ramos it’s okay I’m in the same boat but my relationship was 2.5 years and we lived together and he dumbed me a week ago I haven’t ate slept or anything and I knows he’s fine without me and it hurts be we can get through this we just need to heal and believe in ourselves! ♥️

  • @Rosa-ql8in
    @Rosa-ql8in 2 роки тому +9

    I have go through multiple break ups, none hurts more then the first one, but the following have been bad too. The pain is indescribable, the worst. Worst than physical pain.

  • @iimoonlightdreamii7009
    @iimoonlightdreamii7009 6 років тому +109

    My heart feels like it's literally hurting..

    • @rileyl5538
      @rileyl5538 5 років тому +1

      I found the best website that helps me to get my ex back…This program is both for male and females….All you guys should try this website *MyExLove. info*

    • @subconsciousmind1907
      @subconsciousmind1907 5 років тому

      *By subconscious mind and angels* *I can make him or her love u as his soul* *Very powerful*
      *I can bring her or he back to you*
      *I can make her or he thinking about u all day and night*
      *In 4 dayes only*
      *if u want contact me phone or whatssaap*
      *Tel : 00201008882131*
      *or 0020100882131*

  • @michelleshin3088
    @michelleshin3088 6 років тому +133

    You used the term 'addiction' that breaks my heart cause that was supposed to be love before the break up

  • @booth9553
    @booth9553 7 років тому +85

    Wow. It’s like you’re talking directly to me. This stuff is so crazy painful.

  • @faffinoodle
    @faffinoodle Рік тому +14

    Thank you for this. I have been in the loop for over a year and decided today it needs to stop. When you said you can do this even after years, I felt strong 💘

  • @livealifeIRL
    @livealifeIRL 7 років тому +170

    I'm about 18 months into 'no contact' and it changed my life - for the better. Without the overthinking about whether he would call me, whether I should call him, should I accidentally on purpose show up where he is so we bump into each other etc. I've allowed myself to move on just being....me....and doing life without him. I know if we had stayed in our cycle of dipping in and out of contact I would have been stuck forever holding on just a little bit to a man who wasn't right for me.

    • @omar-tl2ku
      @omar-tl2ku 7 років тому +4

      RetrolyzeHD ️️
      wtf! 😂😂😂

    • @Pr_Bh
      @Pr_Bh 7 років тому +1

      livealife been through the same shit myself...and hated how I always ran back to him even when he was wrong...uggh!

    • @hindaadan3442
      @hindaadan3442 7 років тому

      livealife ... Well done u will find someone who loves u better x

  • @user-qi3mm1tv7p
    @user-qi3mm1tv7p 5 років тому +114

    reading the comments make me feel better after a breakup... :')

  • @ptrsrfns
    @ptrsrfns 7 років тому +72

    " I promise you this, better time lie ahead if you can give yourself a genuine period of breaking away from that person. Because you will either move on and find someone better or you will give him a genuine opportunity to come to his senses and decide that you are what he really wants ". I could not have heard it said any better. This guy Matthew Hussey brings me so much comfort when i need it the most. Thank you Sir!

  • @ornellatougouri2016
    @ornellatougouri2016 4 роки тому +11

    I haaaate chasing people. I actually don't know if I've ever been in love myself cause no matter how appreciate you, if you mess around it's over.

  • @honifit
    @honifit 7 років тому +45

    A while ago I practiced the no contact rule with somebody who dumped me. It was hard but became easier and just 8 weeks later he wanted me back. As long as there was no bitterness said between two people the last time they spoke, the no contact rule works.

  • @janetdexplorer88
    @janetdexplorer88 4 роки тому +757

    He really broke my heart but I still Love him

    • @Admin-zc6zb
      @Admin-zc6zb 4 роки тому

      Hello Jenny. I know someone who can help you get him back and restore back your relationship with him.

    • @Admin-zc6zb
      @Admin-zc6zb 4 роки тому

      You can contact him on WhatsApp/text +2348151442248(BABA OJO). Good luck

    • @emilylopez4371
      @emilylopez4371 4 роки тому +1

      Jenny s, this is his new whatzappp number +2349072897962

    • @lourdesmaghanoy6028
      @lourdesmaghanoy6028 4 роки тому +4

      me too still love him, very hurt to me

    • @lourdesmaghanoy6028
      @lourdesmaghanoy6028 4 роки тому

      @Vanessa Lorena can you hepl me pls

  • @b3a3n3a3n3a3s
    @b3a3n3a3n3a3s 5 років тому +229

    As someone who’s been through addiction before it’s shockingly accurate how similar it is. I couldn’t stop because I was scared and I got comfort from my addiction. I never walked away because when we were together I felt so secure but I knew I knew I was just clinging on to my fantasy of what could be instead of seeing it how it really was. Finally ready to move on.

    • @fan-jc3vg
      @fan-jc3vg 2 роки тому +6

      How is it after two years?

  • @kathieflower519
    @kathieflower519 Рік тому +12

    This really helped and made me feel better. I broke up with an amazing man 16 days ago, because we had an issue he couldn't overcome about something in my past, (that happened to me - not that I did). I miss him so much and haven't contacted him since I ended it, he hasnt contacted me either. I've been working, been out with friends, been to see family and yet I can't keep my mind occupied all of the time, so the sadness hits at weird times without warning. I hope he'll be able to see his reaction was over the top, and he'll miss me enough to try to get his head around what happened and fix things. If not, well then that's the best decision I could have made, even though it hurts.

    • @No-ng2hs
      @No-ng2hs Рік тому

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      @No-ng2hs Рік тому

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      @No-ng2hs Рік тому

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    • @bekind3050
      @bekind3050 Рік тому +3

      It will hurt for a while. Cry, walk, and be with nature. It will be hard, but you will overcome it. 🙏

    • @No-ng2hs
      @No-ng2hs Рік тому

      @@bekind3050
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  • @om.m9845
    @om.m9845 5 років тому +481

    UA-cam knows that I got dumped in 2019
    Well recommended youtube

  • @xoxrazzyxox
    @xoxrazzyxox 6 років тому +95

    So this actually works. I thought I was doing this correctly by ignoring him for a few months, I thought that was ‘raising the stakes.’ But we kept ending up where we were at the beginning. I sent him a message telling him I’m cutting him off, blocked him on everything. I spent a few months doing things I’ve always wanted to do, learning to ride, go on holiday and generally learn to have fun on my own again.
    He spent months trying everything to get in contact with me and he’s now trying so hard and putting in more effort. I’m so happy and proud of him.
    Thank you Matthew 😊

    • @lifewiths.6204
      @lifewiths.6204 5 років тому

      Any update? Are you guys back together ?

    • @xoxrazzyxox
      @xoxrazzyxox 5 років тому +18

      @@lifewiths.6204 I cut off contact with him March 2018 and we eventually got back into contact in September 2018. After he worked really hard to prove he wanted to commit we got back together in December and we've now been together for seven months. We're looking at moving in together at the end of this year and I literally have no complaints about our relationship now. Could not recommend this enough!

    • @gemainekennedy4512
      @gemainekennedy4512 5 років тому

      I went down to the comments to get advice and your "ex" has the same name as mine and hit

    • @xoxrazzyxox
      @xoxrazzyxox 5 років тому

      Gemaine Kennedy Pardon?

  • @charinamoreno6012
    @charinamoreno6012 6 років тому +417

    This advice totally works. When my ex and I broke up months ago, I was completely broken inside, I was in pain, but one thing that I knew for sure was that although I loved him so much I didn't want to get him back again. So I stopped talking to him, I deleted him on social media, I totally got away from him and now I'm moving on. I mean It is not easy to do that when you really love that person and the thing you want the most is to be by their side, but he never loved me so I have to stand up for myself, and the good thing is I feel happier and I know I deserve better. Now I know I did the right thing 😀👌

    • @vicaro676
      @vicaro676 6 років тому +10

      This really the exact thing I did.. Reprogram your mind that you are given a chance to improve and love yourself. By doing that, you can enjoy the feeling of being at peace. Peace of mind and peace of heart. Prayers also, plays major role of overcoming broken heartedness.

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      @ProIlo 6 років тому

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    • @aishajubairou7513
      @aishajubairou7513 6 років тому +1

      Charina Moreno u inspire me

    • @peachyyp5126
      @peachyyp5126 6 років тому +1

      This is so encouraging. Thank you

    • @lolitsajoke77
      @lolitsajoke77 6 років тому

      That’s amazing news congrats

  • @rahmakawtar394
    @rahmakawtar394 2 роки тому +3

    Watching this video after he pulls away made me realize I was giving him way to much attention I'm definitely starting no contact period tonight no letter he doesn't deserve it at all. Thank you so much Matthew

  • @donzkiea4639
    @donzkiea4639 5 років тому +127

    Been watching videos like this since day 1 of the break up. And it somehow helps me feel better and realized a lot of things.

    • @margelee3483
      @margelee3483 3 роки тому

      I can recommend you to a man who helped me to get my ex back to me within 48hours

    • @margelee3483
      @margelee3483 3 роки тому

      +14122387259⏯⏯💕💕

    • @margelee3483
      @margelee3483 3 роки тому

      +14122387259⏯⏯💕💕

    • @margelee3483
      @margelee3483 3 роки тому

      +14122387259⏯⏯💕💕

    • @sweetnewsghana3776
      @sweetnewsghana3776 2 роки тому +1

      Same here 🤗

  • @AK-dh2mu
    @AK-dh2mu 4 роки тому +65

    Older lady at work taught me something cool.. agree to the breakup.. like “yeah you’re right this will never work..” then GO NO CONTACT! Watch how they react 🤣😂

  • @lisaandmat
    @lisaandmat 7 років тому +20

    I don't know how your videos seem to always post in sync with what I'm dealing with, but I'm feeling so grateful for your continuous guidance on how to navigate this maze of life and love. I work daily to manage my addiction to finding love and hope that one day I can graduate to simply loving, but for now will give this list a go in order to get past my current withdrawals from "almost love". I may not comment often Matthew, but your channel has truly changed my heart for the better and I'm so thankful for your gentle soul. 💝 Lisa

  • @Butterfly-tc6in
    @Butterfly-tc6in 2 роки тому +4

    I actually started my no contact with him 5 days ago & it’s going better than I thought it would. I’m trying my best to move on.

  • @translatorsafy
    @translatorsafy 6 років тому +118

    He left me because of his father.I got cancer after that and he wanted to be with me but troubles continued. I needed him but he let me down. I pretend that I'm okay before everyone but I'm completely broken to pieces. I just wonder how can somebody sleeps while other one is dying of pain because of him. Depression kills me slowly. God help every broken heart

    • @menas6009
      @menas6009 6 років тому +3

      soso ahmed, ANIMAL LOVER work on being productive, doing something for YOU.

    • @translatorsafy
      @translatorsafy 6 років тому +3

      i do many things externally.i save animals, work hard, studying master.. but internally still in pain

    • @lasetteestrada8705
      @lasetteestrada8705 6 років тому +1

      soso ahmed, ANIMAL LOVER same

    • @alfulhazarika-0516
      @alfulhazarika-0516 6 років тому +3

      Love love and love to you dear...more prayers for you.stay strong ❤❤

    • @andreeacameliaandrei4639
      @andreeacameliaandrei4639 6 років тому +2

      Sending love

  • @YasmSpasm
    @YasmSpasm 7 років тому +953

    perfect timing for this video. im currently going through a break up that is tearing me apart right now. this video is spot on. thank you!!!

    • @johncajahuaringa2326
      @johncajahuaringa2326 7 років тому +7

      Yasmin Hernandez where is the double like button.

    • @YasmSpasm
      @YasmSpasm 7 років тому

      John Cajahuaringa 😊 thank you John

    • @ginakim9502
      @ginakim9502 7 років тому +3

      Me toooooo 😢

    • @jessicasantz3649
      @jessicasantz3649 7 років тому +5

      me too haha.. He kept talking to me. But I said I need to stay away from him, because I need to clear all the negative emotion.

    • @aleciaharmon
      @aleciaharmon 7 років тому +6

      If you care about your heart do it a favor and cut them off immediately no contact. There is no possibility that you can get better and heal until you do.

  • @haydeemagnabijon8430
    @haydeemagnabijon8430 5 років тому +149

    I just texted him but he never text back. Im so pathetic. I will follow your advice. I will never contact him.

    • @andjelatodorovic3158
      @andjelatodorovic3158 5 років тому +33

      Dee Alim You are no pathetic, you just love him and that is fine. It’s not about him, it’s about you. You give love without return and some people accept, some don’t but people who don’t give love have cold heart. So don’t say about yourself that you are pathetic just because you gave love to someone. It’s not pathetic, it’s blessing. :)

    • @cocowhite2854
      @cocowhite2854 4 роки тому +1

      did it work?

    • @beatavaino7749
      @beatavaino7749 4 роки тому +1

      Tears

    • @mariafernandezfernandez651
      @mariafernandezfernandez651 4 роки тому

      @@cocowhite2854 message him now via whatsApp, explain your situation to him and get your relationship restored

    • @mariafernandezfernandez651
      @mariafernandezfernandez651 4 роки тому +1

      @@cocowhite2854 +2348029067161

  • @basraabdi9479
    @basraabdi9479 2 роки тому +1

    Last time I listened to this video, I was in so much pain because I was just going through a heart break, nothing made me feel pain, watched all kinds of videos on break ups to make me feel better but nothing worked...
    It was an addiction...a few months later, I got over the addiction and thank God for the break up because now more than ever I realized he was not right for me, I now realize that I wasn't even attracted to this person and that he wasn't my person. Guess what? He shows up saying he loves me after I was already over him. I never went back to him and am so grateful for the rough times that I went through with heartache because it made me so strong and u have learned to never be addicted to anyone or anything

  • @mj3evr
    @mj3evr 7 років тому +46

    It's hard at first but please ladies do not contact them at all. Yes you miss them and you want to be with them but give it time and you will begin to move on. I've been in this position so give it a couple of months for you to heal .

    • @wahidah0110
      @wahidah0110 7 років тому +1

      mj3evr does instagram applicable?

    • @sarakhan8969
      @sarakhan8969 6 років тому

      im trying it too it seems hard but remember girls we need to do that to make these guys understand that we can live without them....gud luck

  • @Valkiria625
    @Valkiria625 6 років тому +205

    He broke up with me, said he didn't love me anymore, not enough for a relationship. I lost my boyfriend and my best friend the same day and I can't think of a world where we're not friends.
    Even if I told him I won't talk to him anymore, we still are going to see each other, cause we both are taking the same classes at college. It's just hard

    • @amymc1199
      @amymc1199 6 років тому +28

      I’m going through the exact same thing now. We’re at uni together and I feel like I’ve lost my best friend. I’m in so much pain

    • @Valkiria625
      @Valkiria625 6 років тому +41

      5 weeks have past. Just talked to him for the first time since we broke up, we were alone waiting for a class and I had to say hi (i told him i wouldn't speak to him, only being polite by saying hello and goodbye cause I'm not 5 years old). Went ok. I'm getting better and better. We didn't broke up on good terms, he went full jackass and for 3 weeks we were mad at each other, I asked him countless times if he wanted to brake up, if his feelings for me had changed, he basically made a fool of me (the question was simple, yes or no, he never answered either) he told me not be ridiculous, that if we were still together it was for a reason. Then we finally talked face to face (we were at exam fase at uni, he his from the area, i live in another city and I went to my hometown) . The talked was hard, I really was in a bad place (depression and the stress from the exams), I was crying, we made peace, he went sweet on me, took me in his arms, and we lay down in bed, then he started kissing me and we got sexual (he started it, I wasn't expecting anything since the fight was still recent and we might still be hurt, but I had missed him so much I just wanted to be with him, I let myself go) after we did it, he dugged his way into my arms and fell asleep. He was so sweet to me but even then, he didn't smile once when he was with me. Anyway the next day he was still acting weird and distant, I asked him if he was alright, if we were alright and he said he didn't know. I was ready to grab a cab and go to his house to make a last big romantic gesture to save our relationship (LOL) but first I called him, and I asked him if he still loved me. He replied no. I broke down and cried, hearing that, it hurted so much... After we only talked through menssenger and we basically oficially broke up by menssenger. I know I told him I didn't want to ever talk to him again, but if I was important to him, if I ever meant anything to him, he would have had the decency to talk to me in person after that. He said he wanted us to be friends lol, sure, treat me like a fool for 3 weeks, sleeps with me the day before he tells me he doesn't love. Even funnier than that, I discoverd he used twitter to vent our relationship. Basically exposed me and our relationship and made me look like a bad girlfriend and a crazy jealous bitch. Eye opening, helped a lot to take him of the pedestal I put him on.
      I made my fare share of mistakes, I wasn't perfect and because of past traumas, fears and insecurities I helped, in a way, sabottage our relationship, but i always treated him with so much love and tried to give him everything I could... He made me feel so small, even if he would say the opposite, he made me feel like my opinion and my feelings didn't really matter, he would invalidate them with logic and "arguments", even when he would fuck up, his apologies ended making me feel like it was my fault.
      He is such a good guy and that is why I fell for him and why I love him, but he is also a fucking egocentrical asshole and he gave up on us because things got a little hard. You know, I thought of breaking up too when we where mad at each other, but I asked myself why I wanted to stay with him. Comfort? Fear of being alone? Neither, I didn't want to lose him because I loved him and even if we were arguing more latelly, I wanted this to work. He didn't, he ran. He gave on us and on me, when I was at my worst, its funny cause he went through hard times and I was always there for him.
      Anyway, there is a lot more to say but I already said too much. I am not that angry anymore, not that sad, you have to take those and make it a strength. Allow yourself to feel pain and sadness, cry when you need to. But don't give up on yourself and your life and keep going through, it will get better and you will get better. These videos helped me a lot, reading stuff about breakups, self-esteem ect, too. Listen to music, a lot of it,IDGAF by Dua Lipa, Make Me Your Queen from Mckenna and Green Light by Lorde, helps me a lot too. You are not alone and you'll be ok, I know it's hard but things will get better.

    • @sunnsyne
      @sunnsyne 6 років тому +16

      Kate Chaney WOWWWW your story sound like I'm looking in the mirror at myself. It's been 4 weeks and it's still so hard but I'm determined to move on.

    • @piadas8999
      @piadas8999 6 років тому +4

      Kate Chaney ohh god, i totally can relate myself here.

    • @d.2542
      @d.2542 6 років тому +5

      I went through the exact same things this year. Lost my 5 years friendship, one close friend and the guy i love(and was planning to get married) for a year. I cried for months, every single night before sleep, just for us to be back, even when we were ending this he told me he loved me, until today someone showed me how he moved on and texting with a girl.
      Everything about this year sucked, ruined me, but that message he sent to some random girl was the last drop.

  • @cherrycakes2866
    @cherrycakes2866 7 років тому +8

    Just wanted to say how much your videos have helped me up to this point in my life. I recently with through a break up ("what he's thinking when he breaking up with you" video was amazing) this video is a sweet reminder of genuinely moving on wheter or not he does "come back " I had a freind tell me to start posting pictures and etc to not have him think I'm depressed or etc. (I'm not depressed btw lol) I'm just not exactly fully ready yet/ pretend / put a on show for him or anyone! It's about me and being genuinely happy just being with myself and living life. From the bottom of heart.... Thank you so much. You have changed my life in ways you may never know. Blessings.

    • @paigec7975
      @paigec7975 7 років тому

      cali starlet omg your going to make me cry girl.. I watched the same video after going through a breakup and it changed my whole perspective. But I agree you should get back on social media because “you” want too and your ready. Don’t put on no fake show. Because it’ll be that much empowering when it’s you just being “you” genuinely happy😊

  • @susiiii1
    @susiiii1 2 роки тому +3

    It hurts so bad when you meet the right person at the wrong time and you both get overwhelmed with each other. We're still friends and promised to get back together when we work on ourselves but I'm so used to being with him I want to text him call him I really miss him. He told me he needs some space and I understand but it hurts so bad I want him back as fast as possible

  • @theodoreroosevelt7471
    @theodoreroosevelt7471 7 років тому +28

    Unrequited love case: no contact rule always works, but not the way you wanted it to. They will not miss you the way you miss them. I stopped showing up and completely disappeared from my unrequited love, and she actually texted me first... but I kept answering with one word per text. And then she's got worried about someone... not me but herself. She feels like losing power and that freaks her out. « No contact » will not make the other person love you but they will not be on a pedestal anymore. Wether you are 17 or 62, no one has the right to treat you like an option when they were everything to you.
    Update : we’ve cut ties since eight months now, it still hurts the same everyday.
    Update: 1,5 year, still damaged

  • @helenalori74
    @helenalori74 6 років тому +153

    Didn't work for me. He got himself a new girl and they are now 1 year together and I'm still heartbroken...

    • @barbarariley3488
      @barbarariley3488 6 років тому +42

      Do some self love affirmations. Even though he is out of your life you are spending too much time thinking of him. He is not worth it girl. Focus on other things. Crying over a man who no longer loves you is a waste of.your precious life.

    • @agnes-juliemartin7030
      @agnes-juliemartin7030 6 років тому +1

      :'(

    • @CatCatCaat
      @CatCatCaat 6 років тому

      ...

    • @laurendaniella5443
      @laurendaniella5443 6 років тому +9

      Bless you love, you’re gonna meet someone way better ❤️

    • @eliselavander3047
      @eliselavander3047 6 років тому +8

      I totally understand what you're going through. That happened to me too....i am a mess and i don't know how to move on with my life...

  • @naomipattavina5579
    @naomipattavina5579 6 років тому +27

    This is amazing advice!! The thing is, because of the breakup I feel very vulnerable and less confident then i did before so i want my ex to come running back to me but i don't actually want him back, i just want the validation of knowing that if i DID want him back, i COULD have him back. But i realize that those are very malicious thoughts so i should just move on without that validation...

  • @Wittylee8828
    @Wittylee8828 Рік тому +1

    This time around we broke up and I have cried just one night, I don't know how I am feeling anymore , am not hurt even , God thank you

  • @diamantdaughter1978
    @diamantdaughter1978 6 років тому +151

    Never ever try to get him back if he dumped you girls!!!! I got him back after no contact and I was soooo happy BUT the truth is that he had power over me after that and tried to control me all the time. If I could only say something against that he said : I gave you last chance,if you don't do that,I am going to break up with you again... and he did!! Left me for the second time. So girls,never lose your dignity. Never get your ex back,just move on.

    • @angelaz1851
      @angelaz1851 6 років тому +4

      Diamant Daughter this exact thing happened to me a couple weeks ago. I know he loved me a lot and being apart from me was hard for him and I but I feel like after I gave him the satisfaction of running back to him, it made it easier for him to move on this time. We haven’t been in contact since and it has been so difficult for me and I am trying to move on for good.

    • @barbarariley3488
      @barbarariley3488 6 років тому

      You took a chance had you not you may have always wondered but now.you know he is not the man for you. You deserve better.

    • @Chanelmargauxyael
      @Chanelmargauxyael 6 років тому

      This is so true😢

    • @tinat9909
      @tinat9909 6 років тому

      Preach girl 👌👌

    • @Krodri7229
      @Krodri7229 6 років тому

      The reason they act and feel that is because they know that they can treat you how ever they want and they know you will still stay there for them and not care about how they treat you. It's like they have power over you

  • @iheartkeita
    @iheartkeita 6 років тому +24

    I thought I found the right guy - we both knew we liked each other, were similar in personality and experienced situations we could both empathize with. The relationship was wonderful- and then he suddenly broke it off because he developed stronger feelings for another girl - “I don’t know how it happened, but I need to pursue it with all my heart” he told me. I was heartbroken as it dawned on me that he clearly didn’t like me as much as I liked him. Reality kicked in hard.
    I do trust in this no-contact rule as, while it was difficult to do at first, it has helped me get back on balance and cleared the rose-color from my eyes. Although, I went one step further and just straight up deleted him from my contacts - some people may not (and that’s fine) but for me it was to just make the clean break and avoid the temptation to reach out again - ladies (and gentlemen!) there is someone out there for you and whether your find them sooner or later, know that you all deserve to be happy!

    • @salinasolis631
      @salinasolis631 5 років тому

      If I can just find someone else that I connect with or even something to do else in my life that really makes me feel alive, excited and like I’m making something happen or change for the better, I know I will be able to move on. Also wonder whether this advice applies to all age groups. I truly thought that by this point in life and by dealing with men in their mid 50s and up, I would have better experiences and outcomes in relationships!

  • @gaibree-ellenevin1923
    @gaibree-ellenevin1923 7 років тому +56

    This is perfect. I did exactly this when I split with my ex. Immediately after the split, blocked any form of him being able to contact me. Was the BEST thing I did. My own happiness sky rocketed, and was immediately unblinded by this addiction. Thank you Hussey! Hit the nail on the head! 👌

    • @mentormalak7317
      @mentormalak7317 7 років тому +1

      Gaibree-elle Nevin same! It's best to distance our selves from that person!

    • @Babzzmusic
      @Babzzmusic 7 років тому

      Same I did the same thing it totally works

    • @catherinesdiary2928
      @catherinesdiary2928 6 років тому

      I feel happy too. I dont want him back

  • @a.a.8769
    @a.a.8769 2 роки тому +1

    I didn't even realise that i was being addicted FOR MONTHS. Like, i only felt good when i was with him, and as soon as he leaves, i'm miserable and it's a never-ending circle. I love him, i depend on him and that's the point- you should NEVER give someone so much power to have over you! Thank you for this video, it's eye-opening!

  • @erikaslifestyle713
    @erikaslifestyle713 4 роки тому +18

    Its so true that a person whom we love the most hurts us the most...its never too easy to be left...🌼..

  • @catsfeel8223
    @catsfeel8223 5 років тому +28

    The best thing I've ever heard about what to do when you're going through a hard time with broken heart... Your message is brief and clear. Thanks a lot Matthew. You don't know that you saved me today. Hugs!!!!