7 Stages of a Long Distance Relationship
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- Опубліковано 27 вер 2020
- Long-distance relationships are extremely common. An estimated 75% of college students will be in a long-distance relationship at some point during university. While some long-distance relationships start out that way when couples meet online, this video focuses on the transition from close-distance to long-distance relationships. That being said, the last three stages apply to any type of long-distance relationship. So, here are 7 stages in a long-distance relationship.
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Writer: Carley Swanson-Garro
Script Editor: Rida Batool
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Storyboarder: Yi Lin
Animator: Ben Carswell
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Can you make a ved on maladaptive daydreaming most people don't think it as serious or know it at all
@@habibaamir2450 Please, please, and we need translation.. ♥️Thank you very very much
i know this isn't the best video to say this but you have help me and my friends through depression and bad friends thanks so much
Just reading this comment make me laugh a little. xD
If you're in long distance relationship, remember: PewDiePie and his wife were in LDR too, and now look at them
No one wants to be compared to pewdiepie and his wife..
dirty pricey lmaoo
@@greaterthings5652 well, i'm not saying about the people, I'm saying that they were so long together far away from each other. Now they're husband and wife living together and happy.
Not all of us will end up like that me and my girlfriend (bisexual btw) got break up because of my jealousy 👁👄👁👍🏻
@@syirox you should be watching videos on controling your emotions or how to better manage your jealousy. Haha. Its hard trust me i know. Especially when youre apart and they have many friends that you dont know.
Who else is in a long distance relationship just miss her or him so much and watches this video ?
Not me bc my partner is non binary lmao
@@jesscompton9903 you are sad
@@joshm4179 i-
How??
6 months apart, her phone's been off or WhatsApp not working for 3 weeks, I'm worried incase something is wrong, but most of all, I just want to be able to hold her, physically I mean 😥
@@j_wolf_0277 I feel u dude I feel u so fckn much, don’t u tried to hit up some of her friends ?
If you’re feeling doubtful, here are some pros of LDR:
1. You learn to really cherish moments together because they are rare - every time you see each other feels like a vacation
2. You get to focus on yourself and build up your life knowing you have their support whereas it can be easy to get lost in a traditional relationship and lose sight of your life separate from theirs
3. You learn to communicate really well because sometimes communication is all you have when you’re apart
you should *** now
Damn thank you
This is actually super true. My bf and I go to different colleges so we’re pretty far apart. Anytime I get to see him I will not leave his sides and there’s always so much to catch up on, and I’ve built up my joke repertoire so I can make him laugh. Communication was really important for us, we used to call everyday, and now we do date nights once a week (virtually). I had really bad jealousy problems when I was with really bad roomies that were bullying me and he and his friends kept posting pictures of them having fun. Yet once I actually focused on myself and stayed busy and got a life? I felt a lot happier. We support each other in everything and it really is rewarding. But at least we both move back home in the summer so I can annoy him in person :)
Me: you fool, communication is everything to me with EVERYONE
@@kirstinweber3250 that's so nice, happy for u. Look up , I made a similar comment
Funny how i overcame my long distance realtionship challenges. We were about to breakup. Both of us held grudges. But then i accidently found this couple quiz game. I think its called lovify. Its a 2 round game, first you answer then your partner has to guess. Got to know my partner well. Maybe sometimes we are just finding reasons to break it and not to save it. All LDR couples, trust me when you finally get to meet, Its gonna be awesome :)
Meeting mine for the first time in a month!
Long distance is even harder when you have no friends 😞 All I want is a hug from my bf 🥺
Me too😭...Long distance relationship will be a bit better if friends are there to help you. I really hate my friends for this...PS: I don't have friends too :-( ....
I'm waiting and hoping for that day when I become an independent and drive my own car to my bf's🥰
@@trial6186 people can be really shady I’d rather have none than any at all.
@@allysondelaguila9010 yeah... that's why I'm better off alone than staying with those who gives me mentally ill 🥺🥺
Same here :(
Same..
To give someone some hope: My husband and i started out long distance and next May will be 10 years since we been together.🥰🥰🥰
I just feel like he gave up already, before i even dreamt of doing that..
Me and my girlfriend have been in a long distance relationship for going on 4 months and we've been through all these stages but we keep choosing each other over and over again like the video said. Its tough but we both are working towards living together in the future at some point. We both fell in love without ever seeing each other in person which most people probably think is impossible but I'm here to tell you its not and it can work if both people are committed 100% 100% of the time
Update:
It’ll be 6months on Dec. 13th and still going strong. Still haven’t met in person due to COVID but we’re planning on buying her a plane ticket cause she’s from Canada and they’re allowed to fly to the US and then we’ll move in an apartment together by Jan 2021 ... We’ve talked about marriage and kids and the whole nine. We’re very much still in love and wanting to be together. Still talk everyday/night and still have an argument about something stupid every now and then 😂
I can´t wait till i marry mines
Needed this
Are you still long-distance?
Me and my boyfriend met online about almost 2 years ago. We lived on different continents so we never thought dating was an option. We were like best friends and talked all day.
A year later we decided we want to be together despite the distance. Although it’s been hard, we made it work. I think it was a good thing because we fell in love with each other before we even entered a physical relationship.
I moved to the same continent 3 months later for college. We were still in different countries but same time zone and it wasn’t as far.
It’s been almost a year of us dating. Next month he’s flying here to meet me for the first time.
If you really want it, great things can happen :))
Did you meet? How was it?
What an intercontinental love😍
@@mounahaddouch1401 we did!!!! He is still here he’s leaving tomorrow :((( but it’s been like a fairy tale. I got sick in the last few days and he took such great care of me. He’s perfect 🤍🤍🤍
Girl this me I met my boyfriend online to him in West Virginia me in New Hampshire in the US he and I have been together for about 2 and half years he has come up to where I live about 4 times 5 times in June he's coming again for my birthday he has never wanted me to come down to visit him cus where he lives it's not the safest place and he doesn't want me to get hurt but hopefully soon he will be able to move to where I live soon
@@joannawyand2703 omg this is so cute I'm so happy for you guys!! We still haven't figured out our living situation, I'm still in college and I can't move to the US because I don't have citizenship. Sometimes it stresses me out lmao but we will figure it out.
I'm in a long distance relationship with the man of my dreams. At first it was extremely difficult for both of us because we didn't really know how to communicate well to each other but we figured it out. We always spoke on the phone whenever we had free time, tell each other about our days, talk about any doubts we had and reassured each other. Another thing that surprisingly helped was getting each other small gifts so the other person knows you're thinking of them or even sending letters! We would also visit each other once or twice a year if we could. Now we're both getting married and I feel like our relationship couldn't be stronger. Long distance relationships teach you to be vulnerable with each other and give that extra attention
I am so happy for you ❤
Don’t lose hope me and my boyfriend have been in a long distance relationship for 4 years we finally met this year.. it was the best.
@Max Roonie how were you able to keep the relationship strong
And how far apart were you
@@noodlezwish6968 Japan to Texas, and we had a schedule to follow
congrats. We are almost 9 months already
@@MusicalJourney__ just know we are all supporting you! No matter what.
I'm currently in a long distance relationship...i love him a lot. :) He's a great guy and I hope we stay together for a long time.
😇🙌👏🙏💙
Same with my girl
i wish the best for you! ♥︎
@Nikolai bruh, you dont say that. My bf and I have been together for over a year and no cheating on either side. We met online too.
@Nikolai Hey, not all cheat. Don't generalize it.
I met my girlfriend through the internet back last year. We dated for 6 weeks until she decided that she couldn't do this long distance relationship thing. We started dating again back in January and I can tell a lot of stories about it. But the thing that makes our relationship so special is how proud we can be of each other if we genuinely reach a point in the future where we can wake up next to each other every morning one day. I've already visited her twice. And I'm going again in October and she is coming over in December for christmas.
If you, who is reading this right now, are in a long distance relationship, then always think of how proud you can be of yourselves for committing to such a thing that requires lots of determination.
Me and my current girl have known each other for going on 9 years now. For 8 of them we had not EVEN seen each other in person. After going through my share of relationships I had tried LD relationship before but nothing has compared to this!! That feeling of being in person, weather its different cities, different states (my case) or even different Countries!! Seeing your beautiful and loving significant other is one of the best feelings I have ever experienced. After all the time of listening to her voice and imagining how'd it feel to hold her in my arms I finally got the chance. That bus ride to her took FOREVER!!
Now though, 9 years in the making, we will be finally be residents of the same state! (may sound corny but so what ;)). No more of "how is the weather there?" "I wish you were here..." or "you should have seen what happened!!" To all who took this approach to love I salute you because just as I've experienced, when you are truly in love distance is just a state of mind.
Update?
@@zoomy7488 I just got myself a new job nearby where she lives and my parents going to be giving me a ride up to meet her (their first time) in person!! It is so nerve wrecking but, as I will be on the 18th (move out/move in date) I am soo utterly excited for what is to come.
@@jasonprechtl8182 that’s amazing to hear dude! I’m proud of you.
May God bless you both and watch over you love birds 🥰🥰❤️❤️
Actually that sounds sweet and romantic .
"There they are going out with friends when can't even eat properly because you miss them so much" that really hits different 😭
Okay i wanna hit likes button a thousand times actually but i cant. Just like the possibility of meeting up soon. Its nonexistent.
for real
I felt that part so hard 🥺🥺🥺
so many emotional peole here!
what's wrong with them going out with friends or so?
Did long distance for 19 months and it was never easy. If you have enough love for that person and strong will you can make it through. We constantly were reminding each other that the distance was temporary and we would be together soon. We ended up marrying each other and now almost two years later we’re happily spending our lives together. To all those out there with long distance relationships, stay strong and focus on the finish line❤️
Awwww you guys are married so happy to hear that
Wow this is beautiful me and my girlfriend are not giving up on each other we’ll be meeting up in November can’t wait to see her
Hey, thank your for this! I needed to read this right now. 💙 So happy for you!
Not all long distance stories have a happy ending ☺️
We have been together my gf in 8yrs and now shes in germany its really really hard. But were in love each other. Were facing a hard ldr right now. But i know this is all temporary. We will be together soon.
I recently found myself in a long distance relationship. In a way, this video was comforting to see that what I am feeling can be felt by many others in LD relationships. My boyfriend and I have been together for about four months now and we have definitely went through our ups and downs. We met in person last month and it was honestly the best two days I could have asked for. But as an overthinker, I tend to get in my head when something feels off or when we get into small arguments. I am afraid i developed codependency being in our relationship and it makes me scared. I just wish I could stop overthinking and feeling this pain in my chest :( This is my first relationship and everything feels so new and overwhelming sometimes.
omg i'm in my first real relationship too and it is long distance! you explained everything i'm feeling, but me and him haven't met yet. we've been talking for 6 months now and its crazy how time flies by but sometimes i get really overwhelemed just in general because he's kinda far away and just the pressure of it all, wanting things to be perfect, idk.. but i hope your relationship goes well ! it's not easy but glad i can relate to someone.
Omg I total understand I feel the same way sometimes and the constant arguments is just too much. Because all we av the phone to keep the relationship together omg this is so hard sometimes I feel like giving up.
Hey there,
Your fears and insecurities are very normal and honestly very relatable too.
This is my first relationship too and that is a long distance.
I faced the same issues, fear of codependency, losing him and us.. It's a scary feeling. That person is your home, and suddenly it's not.
That feeling is terrible indeed, especially in LDR! Where you are living your parallel lives in different time zones. Jealousy, insecurity, uncertainty is at peak
People often ask me, is LDR tough?
Well, of course it is!
But the question here is..
Is it worth it?
Is it worth facing all those tough times?
And if the answer comes soo obvious to you, then take that call and be responsible for it no matter how hard it's gonna get!
Be there, consistently, patiently, face and tackle all the hurdles together, when the answer is yes, 'it's worth it!'
Just hang in there buddy! Your love will find a way ❤
all of this is exactly the situation I’m currently in… overthinking all the little texts like what if he’s getting bored of me? it doesn’t help that he’s not a very expressive Texter, and we are both so busy with uni. but when we meet in person, it’s so so special and it just feels like it’s meant to be, so i just remind myself of that and count down to our next meeting
Touching to hear this.. 4 months later are you guys still doing well? 😌
My girlfriend and I have been long distance for over a year after we had been in a close-distance relationship for six months. Through this experience, I've found that although I miss being able to physically meet up with her, I feel like both of us have learned a lot during our time apart. One of our biggest challenges was during a time when she began feeling unsure about our future and despite these doubts, which I had at times as well, we talked about it and worked through it. I'm saving up money to visit her before the next academic year and we're planning on going camping!
Im in a LDR and the most heartbreaking part is the parting. I'm so tired of being separated with him everytime. It sucks but after LDR you'll be the toughest couple ever❤️
Parting is seriously painful ik how it feels parting everytime
Felt that
I had to part from my s/o today, and it was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. It was our first time meeting after 9 months, but most certainly not the last 😁.
I had to access my partner's device including video calls & the rest because she was acting suspicious now I've got full proof of everything thanks for keeping to the non-disclosure agreement cyberlogics_ on IG
A long distance relationship is super hard to maintain, but if you do manage and ultimately find a way to live together, it’s the best test that any couple can go through. We started dating long distance with my boyfriend, it was hard for months, but when he finally could move to my country (France) we were SO IN LOVE and knowing each other SO MUCH for having spent countless hours on the phone talking… that nothing could break us apart. Now we’ve been happily living together for more than 3 years and I still love him more than I ever loved anybody, and feel loved the same way ❤️
Sending force and courage to every couple going through that hard trial, believe me… it’s worth it ❤️
Edit: 6 years together tomorrow, and counting ❤️ hold on to your special someone everyone!
*i pray for the universe grant your heart desire I know of a great man in USA🇺🇸 that can help you manifest your ex back without any delay. he just help me restore my relationship of 2 years back with law of attraction manifestation last week............*
Thanks so much for the story!
I am going through the same situation right now, it almost seems like the world is against our relationship. But I know everything will work out, even until the next year I see her:)
the whole idea and story wre amazing, i hope your relationship lasts and grows even stronger if possible and i wish you guys the best of luck!
Thank you for sharing your beautiful story. Hope same thing will happen to me too. Can't wait to meet him💔 we re 6 months apart now, but I believe in this relationship and am patient ♥️
u can bear it girl! Hope your LDR works well! and u and your bf can be together soon! I'm in an LDR too and this looks awful 😪 but I'm still having faith that he and I can face the problems that this type of relationship has 🤞🏼 best of luck! 🙌🏼
Currently in a LDR! I never thought it was going to be so hard. Because we both supported each other emotionally and physically. I have felt all of these stages and I can say it’s worth it when the two of you stay committed to each other regardless of the distance.
To those of you starting out on this journey, don’t let the break up rates and statistics discourage you. Communicate with your partner, trust them and you stay committed on your part. Spice up your relationship too, dates night, movies or even read something etc., it’ll make your bond stronger and make you fall in love all over again! Sending you all my love!!!❤❤❤❤❤
Hope you're still together
@@applepeel1662 yes we are! He surprised me this summer by traveling home to see me and his family! This summer was so much fun because of this trip! And I’m so excited we are closing the distance next year 🤭
The line about jealousy hit hard, especially because a general routine is important to me and on the (albeit rare) occasion they spend a weekend or longer with friends, I get slammed with a mix of jealousy and anxiety, an end up realizing how important they are in my little routine, which always makes me feel awful because I haven’t had to deal with jealousy a lot.
Nonetheless we’ve been properly in a relationship for 5 months and best friends for 3 1/2 years!
You’ve almost described my same story best friends for almost 4 years and dating for just under a year ldr since September
Then you obviously don't trust them and should end it if you get that jealous over hanging out with friends.
💖.........................💖
"Distance is just a test of how far love can travel"
:-)
Awww
Until either one finds someone nearby 🤭
Love is not magic. It's not sustainable in any and every situation.
Very true 😌
What if your relationship started long distance...
My relationship started long distance too
Mine did too
Same
Same
Me too...! Been with him for over a year so just maybe it’s not ALL doom and gloom... If we started off long distance, things will only be better when we meet, right?
The 7 stages of a Long Distance Relationship:
1. Decision
2. Parting
3. Transition
4. Realization
5. Jealousy
6. Doubt
7. Validation
Thank you!
Holy shit, this is so accurate. As someone who lost on steps 5 & 6 and broke up with my partner. Our distance came with us being open, and it hurt me so terribly.
Times
Dead on !!
I ended mine on doubt because she lives on the other side of the world and we both have ran out of money. I just don’t see how it could have worked moving forward. It’s such a shame and we’re both heartbroken
watching this while i just broke up with my ldr partner of 2 years. we spent 85% of our time together doing long distance. even though it didn’t work out, it’s a bittersweet memory and i will never regret starting this relationship. to those who’re trying to make it work, hang in there❤️
who else here gets triggered when your friends say, "actually you've been PHYSICALLY TOGETHER xxx many days" ... dude. we are together, talking, laughing, debating, learning about each other, every day, for hours. are you even doing the same with your partner whose "physically" there? love and support can be felt though thousands of miles. reaching inner peace and confidence in your partner and your relationship, feeling that validation, and choosing each other over and over again even though its "inconvenient". every. day. counts.
ive been struggling to realize this, your comment helped out a lot
I've had friends tell me my long distance relationship is not a real relationship since we're not physically together and it's so stupid of them to say that. So I completely agree with what you said. Just overall spending time together learning about each other and sharing moments together even if it isn't in person is something you and your significant other can cherish together each day.
if one of my friends ever said this to me, im not sure i would consider them a good friend
oh my god i hate those friends, they are just jealous....
Oh YEAH TALK TO EM
This video hits different when you're actually facing this right now.
Update:
Hey everyone, first of all, I would thank you so much for all the support you gave towards me and each other in the comments. I was hesitant at first to give some updates about it, but I figured this would help you guys who had the same experience like me. After being in a LDR for almost two years, I finally had the chance to met him two months ago, until today. It wasn't easy for us to reach this point together, but we were quite happy that we finally beat the distance together.
For you guys that are in a LDR right now, it might be hard and crazy, especially when it's full of uncertainty of when you guys will meet each other again. But believe me, you and your partner are both strong enough to do it. Distance might not be easy, but always know that distance is what makes us stronger and grow both as an individual and a partner.
For you guys who didn't make it, I'm so sorry. It must've been hard to deal with all that especially in the middle of the pandemic itself. But know that there are wonderful things waiting for you ahead. You're strong enough to get over that and move on.
That said, thank you so much for reading until this point, and I hope you guys have a wonderful day.
RIGHT😭😭
I totally agree especially in the craziness of life right now and the uncertainty of seeing each other any time soon. I was honestly crying by the end of it.
I see! Which stage are you in right now?
Yup especially during this pandemic..
yep definitely hit hard because the stages are so accurate :(
My boyfriend and i just broke up yesturday from the distance. We dated through college and moved away for work. This video was comforting :) We really grew up without eachother and in the end it was incredibly mutual. We realized we were acting more like friends than anything more, and when we saw eachother in person it felt weirdly like our boddies couldn’t connect with how we felt when talking with eachother on the phone. Anyway, I am really grateful for my time with him and every relationship is worth a try!!
I met him at work. He was on “vacations” in my city, but he lived in another city. We started dating, and just clicked, we knew he had to go back to his town, but we didn’t care, we decided to keep messaging and talking in the phone, because he told me he’d get back. I’ve just seen him once, last year. Right now we are choosing each other everyday, wishing one day we see each other again.
"If love cannot stand the test of time, then it has failed the test of love". Bernard Byer🙏❤️selfhelpchampion
Sadly
I see that now different. Love can be for short Times. Then we Both have another padh, we keep the love in our hart, we take it with but respect that we Both have to walk out own way.
While this can be very true, sometimes relationships (especially ldrs) can last for way longer than they need to. Just because you last for years does not mean it is set in stone. As a relationship can go very well, but last a very short amount of time for long distance reasons it is always up to the people to 1. decide which path to take, though that doesn't mean they "failed the test of love". It's just important to communicate no matter how long or short the distance and no matter how long or short the relationship.
Thing is love we share with humans is fake. Unless its your kid pifft.
Love is just a chemical reaction. That typically lasts about 6 to 12 years varys P2P which is roughly the time it takes to raise a child.
OTOH True love imo is that you show your dog.
I care about my dogs far more then any of my relatives.
And while i love my gal id have to pick my dog if it came down to it.
Dogs dont cheat yo. Unless its for dem snacks
@@colewilder7353
If you genuinely think love is merely a chemical reaction, I feel bad for you. And your girlfriend for that matter
My parents had an 8 year long distance relationship in their 30s between Berlin and San Francisco. Eventually my mom moved to the US and they got married at 40 and had me at 43. They're in their mid 70s now and still married.
This was in the 80s, without internet and with very expensive phone calls. They'd visit each other twice a year for a few weeks and otherwise send each other snail mail letters.
It's definitely possible, stay in there whoever needs to read this!
My boyfriend and I started out long distance. We met online. Were in two different states so we live 6 hours away from each other. While that’s not terrible it’s still really hard at times. Communication is what will make or break the relationship. You’re phone is your best friend. If you’re not a good communicator I would not recommend LDR. I have really bad separation anxiety so it can get hard at times. It’s been a little over a year and I couldn’t be happier. He was built in a factory specifically for me. We’re always going to be together and I wouldn’t want this with anyone else ♥️
My guy and I are 6 hrs away too and we see eachother about once or twice a month. When both are invested it makes it sooo worth it. Saying goodbye til next time and driving away hurts so much 😢
@@hiscanvasofgrace3391 yes! That is the hardest part. It feels like the movie Dumbo. You’re apart most of the time and then reunite. It’s really emotional 🥲 but I’m happy to do it with him ♥️
Ahhh me too. You got this girl. When it's meant to be, nothing can stop it or quench that fire 🔥 🤗
@@hiscanvasofgrace3391 thank you ❤️ you got this. It’s day by day. What’s meant to be will. Thank you for your kind words 🤗
It's not just one of the stages at a time. I can feel all those stages in even a single day. Sometimes I feel how much we are having is great, sometimes I doubt it, sometime I feel jealousy. It's kind of a mixture of all those feelings.
it's different when you STARTED long distance from the beginning vs being close distance and then go on long distance. the odds of failing are higher in the latter.
damn
True
me and my boyfriend have started out in long distance and we've only met up once so far and we've been together for a year and our relationship isn't healthy at all right now and we're both scared that we won't be able to do this but we can't lose hope because i know that once we both turn 18 then we will be so happy together:)
@@lilylol1515 awe, i’m so sorry honestly, but you guys will get through this! you can do it!! i’m wishing you both the very best
I'm currently in one and honestly, this is not something I wanted to hear.
Been with my boyfriend for over 8 years in a long distance relationship. We never lose hope we can meet someday face-to-face, but we love each other, we devote time and resources, use photos, webcams, videocalls and most importantly, we keep everything realistic and honest. That's how we survive.
Eight years? That's incredible, keep it up!
Cg 👌
GODDAMN, thats brave
Wowww i hope you can meet in person one day, please please let me know when you do, i want to congratulate you 💖
I can feel that..
Here completing 5 years..
Nd it hurt sometimes
my bf and i went from close to LDR. i started with an anxious attachment style for a whole year before LDR. Now i have a very secure attachment style and was forced to deal with my personal issues. we’re still together and I see him in two days. Creating a goal for our relationship and having a plan for when to close the distance was very helpful as well. It can be very hard sometimes though because at times I just want a hug!!!!
Reading comments about everyone with hopes and wishes is heartwarming. Hold onto them before it gets too late. May all of your relationships succeed.
Mine didn’t…..
7 stages of a long distance relationship:
1. Desicion.
2. Parting.
3. Transition.
4. Realization.
5. Jealousy.
6. Doubt.
7. Validation.
Yeah 😭 I miss my bff so much
@@sephorapatricia4832 Where is him Sephora?
@@lauravaldez3282 Pardon?
@@sephorapatricia4832 I mean, where is your boyfriend?
Me and my bf skip 6, we are in a ldr for almost 6 mouth now. The comunication is key
Just realized that if you died your online girlfriend won’t know just wonder why you disappeared
😂😂😂
probably thinking your "ghosting" them literally
😂😂
this is my BIGGEST fear
Quirky sense of humour but true😂😂🙁😯
I must admit, I'm in the jealousy and doubt stage. I love my partner dearly but the distance kills me, especially when they are busy and hardly ever text. this curiosity took me to seek assistance cause my conscience won't let me sleep to be very honest.
when you seek help, what did you seek help with and how did this help your relationship and also help your conscience ?
my friend shared detail of a programmer, and he helped me spy on him. *TRUERTRUSTEC*
ooh really, and he did that perfectly ? i think i will be interested in this too. I'm feeling skeptical about mine too
put the name on google. you'll find the page.
I am in this stage too
me and my bf just started long distance a month ago. every day feels harder than the last but we talk through our problems and help raise each other up. i have very high hopes we’ll get through this. remember to stay strong and keep your end goals in mind to keep you going. everyone else in ld you guys got this!!!!
Success story to give someone out there hope:
I met my now husband online, I lived in Missouri, he in New Mexico. We flew back and forth for small visits here and there, we dated LD for a year and were engaged LD for another year before getting married and me moving to New Mexico. We've now been back in Missouri for over a year. We've been married for over 3 years now ❤
Thank you so much for your success story! I'm sure it would be really inspiring for those who are in an LDR right now! What other advice would you give to those who are still far away from their partner?
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plot twist:
she's married to Walter White without realizing it
I met my lover online during lockdown and he's the centre of my world
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This is really sweet, I'm starting to feel that I've found something similar too
Pog
I feel the same way
@@Parisxoxxo aww good x
This video is so helpful, and what every LDR need to know...
When I first get into a relationship with my bf he told me we have to make it work by working on it. It reminds me how long distance relationship need a lot of effort from both parties. Tbh It's hard and there's a time we just get frustrated and argue, but communication and being honest for whatever you feel at the moment is important because you can't see,and be in each other arms.Now we're still living miles away from each other but we planned to get marry next year❤️ wishing all the best to anyone who in a long distance relationship!🥰
Well its different in my case...i was the one working..well i was a student 2nd yr of degree it was during covid when i met her, we both got close to eachother, fell for eachother she wanted to meet and we had some future plans together like marry travel and made lot promises "infact she used to say that i never leave her" , we used to be on calls, video calls for 24 hrs literally gave alot time to her we were there for eachother she did the same she helped me alot mentally and emotionally we literally talked abt everything, i also used to tell her that "there will be people and times that won't be in our favour and i want you to stay strong and trust me coz i won't leave you" tbh i really wanted to take care of her look after her uno... but yeah covid got over, i was in my final year i had to work hard clear my exams.. focus on to do something so that i can get to her and meet and work on our plans and dream...well didn't get enough quality time as i used to with her b4, tho i would update what im upto and ofcourse ask abt her health made calls during nights make her laugh feel loved and do as much as i can... yeah sometimes i would feel low too she never was trying to help or understand me, she was possesive or attention grabber in which i wasn't able to pay attention to her at those days , but yeah i had hope & it was her...and she got fed up said i dont give enough time to her i wasn't there much as i used , i don't make her feel loved, she cutted herself (ik she was lying) says i used her 😂🤚🏻(like frl & how), she wants to breakup, even tho i explained her and she knows what i was going through like it was strange to see her change all of a sudden , she asked for space alot of things ik of her were just changed but anyways i tried not to contact her but failed kept messaging her calling her begged her to come back i was worried abt her, she said we broke up (from her side and i didn't even agree and i told her)...but yeah i found out she was talking to some other dude, just coz he spent more time with her and i was working hard for her for us...and shattered the hell out of me, no trust , no loyalty, disbelief heartbroken crying, all the promises.. she started say "our relationship was shit", "he is a better man than you" and even tho i satisfy her, i started to Shake lot of grief and i am still going through it ..and as soon as we officially broke up the hour she went to this new dude... we were together for almost 3 years....we were in LDR was going to meet her this month Dec 2022 but 2 days b4 booking the flight this happend... and yeah she in LDR too with her new partner....it was love not a casual realtionship she knew it but she still went to him, sometimes i can't accept the fact that she is gone, i miss her, i immensely loved her alot....im really low and help?
@@matrix9046 I'm so sorry for what you've been through😭 even just by reading your comments makes my heart aches 💔it must be still really really hurt and shocking for the memories and the bond you shared already deeply rooted in your life, You've done a lot of things to save the relationship and I can tell you really love and care for her.
Love meant to be last but we need two to make the love lasts . And sometimes, it sad but it's true we do have to let go when we already try everything we can but it just can't works anymore. And sometimes it's also when we realised our partners stop and don't want to paddling anymore. I believe everyone that view relationships seriously knows that it's not just about " I want to be the receiver" but it's when both parties giving and taking, to create a healthy and balance relationship. The stereotype of its always the man that have to gives and care for women is not it.
But I know a nice person like you deserve to be happy! And happiness can be found in many things too. Like doing things that'll make you happy and make yourself busy with things,etc. As time goes by you'll find yourself completely moving on and even stronger than before. You have to, and I believe one day when the time comes they'll be someone out there somewhere, that'll treasure and loves you the way you do! So it's okay to being sad but please be strong for yourself! But hey you are amazing because I can tell you are amazing! Haha😁
@@cozymarshmallow_6650 oh she loved me 100% i can say that she had her efforts, you know we can feel it right, same as u guys in beginning we would argue fight talk it out forgive alot of times love and laugh she would cry when we used to fight., it showed how geniune she wanted " us" to happen, it melted my heart, i couldn't let this girl down, i had a vision she was in it and every step i thought abt the future she was there in it and i had a strong mindset ... but this year for past 6months as i said sometimes due to my tight schedule (excluding my friends and my own entertainment) i couldn't spend enough time with her like max 5-6 hrs, our timezone were different... sometimes I would feel distant tbh, sometimes i didn't feel loving her due to personal problems and yeah i would discuss it with her at some extent(not all problems) coz i didn't want appear a cry baby infront of her..she knows it...and this is darkest phase of any relationship trust me this is were ppl get lost or fail to understand.. it is crucial to understand its just a bad time (sometimes our partners don't feel it, its common, the best thing we can do is be calm relax and understand and support).... sometimes i would tease her when she used to be sad try to distract her encouraged her to study do anything in my power to love her (and boii she didn't like it, she said during our Brk up)...ig she found this new dude in mid of Sep she started to act diffrent in Oct & Nov , i found abt him in Dec she claimed he is just a friend from Norway and yk the rest...yk the hard thing is when they change act like they never knew me it hurts, like never anything happend ...like all of this time i gave everything re-assured u was it all fiction wasn't it enough..yk what she said b4 going "atleast he treats me like a princess"(aka new guy)...and i kept her like a queen, can't even hate her frl lol, im just worried if he will hurt her...me being a positive & optimistic person abt life never knew i would be in this situation....is this how depression/sadness feels like?...im sorry for all who are facing it .
@@cozymarshmallow_6650 and thank you so much your words helps alot tbh ...it really does make me calm thank you for ur support ❤️
And im genuinely happy for you gyz... I really wish you gyz a happy and good future together
Only stage I go through is the realization that we will be together one day. I don't worry about all that other drama or getting jealous.
I felt so relieved that jealousy is totally normal and common in this type of relationship because I face it a lot. And it’s this kind of jealousy where you aren’t jealous of the other gender but the life the other person is living, that he’s having fun with other people and they have so much time with him. And I felt really bad because I thought I need to be happy that he’s happy but it’s just so difficult when you’re not having as much fun :/
i feel you! my bf has a lot of friends and i just feel really lonely sometimes
Dw, you’re not alone..My bf just got his first ever job 3 months ago and he’s made a bunch of new friends at work and ngl I feel the same way, cause he spends hours with these ppl every day, but I have no one else besides him and it makes me sad that they get to see him every day, but I don’t..And I just feel super alone when he’s gone for hours. :(
@@vi.2838 İ feel you. Can't stop feeling that he'll meet someone new and will be over me 😔
@@alectakaewa9364 I know the feeling, but I’m sure he loves you a lot and won’t leave you. Stay strong !
Me too i just hated the fact that his classmates are able to chat and play and have fun with him while i cant... i thought its my fault too being too jealous... until i saw this vid
Anyone else can’t go to their boyfriend country because Borders are closed 😪
Yaaas, and this is was our annual time🤦🏻♀️💔
Me 🥺
Same...
I just dont wanna go to america to see my gf, that's why i dont visit her
Yes, unfortunately
Did it for 4 years.. at one point didn’t see eachother for a year. Luckily have been done with the distance for 9 months now. Was worth it 🥰
my boyfriend and I had been together for 5 years since we were 14.... against all ods, our relationship has survived. now we are in college and he might be leaving our home country forever. seeing this video hits hard when youve grown together with your partner, you spend every single day with them, you lived your first relationship, your first kiss, your first brand new car, everything. the thought of him leaving kills me inside. but love is love, even when theres distance between it.
It’s 4AM, im on a call with my LDR girlfriend and she’s asleep we’ve been together for 3 years almost 4 in December and I love her so much. I get to see her next year and I’m not giving up! She’s the loml and I won’t let others tell me otherwise. I love you Ari ☹️💗
Edit: We broke up 💀
Yes I know a very unfortunate turn of events. She’s still my best friend. 4 years was a long time and I’m still healing but I’m getting better now. We don’t talk anymore sadly and I miss her but I think it was for the best. I did love her very much and I still do. I wasn’t the best girlfriend but I made sure I loved, cared for her and protected her in the best way I could. For the others out there in long distance relationships, don’t give up and don’t let others tell you that it isn’t real love. It is real love and it’s a special kind of love. And I’m proud of you for sticking through it together🤍
I hope everything works out for you too😊
God bless both of you ❤️
how’s it going
Oh my God 😭😭❤️
We have been together for 3 years too and we see eachother once a year. But now she is going further away for her studies and will have to wait another 3 years to see her. I miss her so much.
My boyfriend’s been busy because of his own problems, so he hasn’t been there, connected to me in a way, these past month. I overthink a lot, there’s just not a day when I don’t. Sadly it’s getting harder for me to hold on, but I keep clinging onto him just because I trust him, even tho it hurts dealing with the negative thoughts. Idk what to do I just feel hopeless.
Trust me i am having the same issues...communication has dropped drastically...fighting to get over the negative thoughts...but not happening...
I thought I wrote the comment.. same for me too 🥺 and it makes me so tired, changes my mood so quick in a day.
Same thing happening with me, talking has been reduced so much, it hurts, it hurts a lot, I need his hug
I feel the same. I know she's busy but I can't help these negative thoughts, overthinking is killing me. It helps a lot knowing that we'll finally see each other in two weeks, but I'm still wondering how I'll manage to talk the "we barely talked these past few weeks" topic. I don't want to make it awkward for us, I just want her to know that I want our communication to be fluent.
Same here, it helps to talk to them about what you’re feeling and it gets better, I promise! Sending all of you virtual hugs 🤗🖤 you’ve got this
My husband went to college out of state. I was so lonesome and felt neglected and worried that he would find someone else. He felt pressured and mistakenly thought that I wanted him to quit. He moved back home and we got married and he transferred to a local school. He finished school with honors but without accumulating any debt since I continued to work. We’ve been married for 50 years.
This video really opened my eyes: I’m currently in a LDR and in stage 5 and 6 interchangeably. I’m really glad that it’s not just me who’s an emotional wreck and that it’s just the situation that’s rough. He’s currently making new friends as he just moved to Scotland (closer to me by a lot now but I live in England), and I haven’t seen him had so much fun going outside before. This was obviously a massive change and I’ve realised I need to just accept it and trust the process. I really want to overcome this because I know our relationship will be stronger than ever, but I do have to be patient. Here’s to happy, healthy and strong LDRs that last forever
PLEASE UPDATE ME!
@@lovermorales5091 I complete forgot about making this comment, but I’m more than happy to give an update. It has been around 8 months later, and things are a lot better. He realised that the friends he made in Scotland weren’t that genuine, so he’s stopped talking to most of them apart from a few (who were the ones I thought were genuine anyway so I fully trust his judgement). Through this process, I found that I was only really jealous of the fun he would have with his friends because subconsciously, I didn’t trust them and knew he could do better, but now that the friends he does hang out with are ones I find trustworthy, I don’t feel at all envious of them. But that’s not to say you should tell your partner to stop hanging out with their friends because you don’t like them. If your judgement is similar to one another’s and they’re mature, they will realise at some point, but you just have to be patient. I think our relationship now is a lot stronger, and we don’t have as many major issues anymore. I was lucky enough to also travel to Scotland to see him for nearly two weeks, where we celebrated our 1 year together. It was the best two weeks of my life. So be patient, and to make a relationship stronger, you have to work through problems together. But obviously, still have some sense to you. If they’re constantly not working with you on the relationship, that’s a major problem.
@@ball_gargler thank you soo much for the update! ❤️ hope you have a good day
After 6 months of distance relationship I'm finally moving close to my boyfriend and I'm so proud of us and excited about my new life coming 😍😭
Pifft i cant imagine dating someone ive only known u months let alone just met.
I love the "friend zone"
6 months is a very short amount of time to know someone trust me
@@fdtyler thank you for your comment
Wishing you guys the best ♥️
so exciting
The fact this channel always happens to post a topic I need to hear or whenever I need reassurance on something is nothing short of incredible!
so true it’s actually crazy
Me too, it seems like they guess what I'm going through! Lol
Yea... it's been happening over a year for me now...it's kinda creepy but it's cool at the same time
We hope this video has helped you in some way :) Are you in a long-distance relationship right now?
Yesssss
Yes. I’ve been in a few. One of them didn’t work out because I already knew I didn’t want to live a life with her. Another one ended because I was afraid of what it took to be with someone from another country, and my current one, there’s a severe lack of communication and understanding of the other persons emotions.
The part where you spoke of setting boundaries, and I believe something about checking in with each other. Those two things are whats lacking in mine, and the cause of my doubt. It’s indeed important af to have that.
The distance between me and my girlfriend is about 18 hours flying . we love each other sooo much. guys pray for us to meet each other soon
Currently in a long distance relationship and have been for 4 years we've been doing great don't let others tell you it won't work if it's meant to be you'll power through just fine 💕
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any of u ever cheated ?
This is about partners that started out as close distance. A lot meet on line these days. Some don't even live in the same country.
My current partner and I. I'm Canadian, he American. It's been hard to say the least.
My fiance lives in a different country than me I've known him since I was young he used to live in the USA but moved when he was in his teens
@@DobermannDaze it is hard really hard
@@DobermannDaze yeah its been hard for sure. I'm American my girlfriend is Canadian. The Canada borders are closed to the US so that makes it double challenging but we found out she can fly over here to California though so we're planning that trip soon. The US borders are not closed to Canada flights so you should be able to fly here and see him
@@b1essfulTV I did last July. The problem is the mandatory 2 week quarantine when I get back. I'm glad you'll get to see her soon. I don't know when I'll next be able to head to Utah ☹️
I’ve been in a long distance relationship for about 7 months. It’s honestly been pretty strong and stable as we met during our darkest times. We met online and instantly got close as we began to play games with each other. Now she is in college and honestly we had our thoughts and hoped that the option would never happen due to us being limited by our time and my job. Now it’s is like a miracle is happening, I’m getting a promotion meaning I work day shifts and will have more time to talk to her. To anyone here reading this comment, the best way to stay close to your partner and keep that strong connection is to be there for them. Support them and show them that you love them.
My boyfriend started out long distance too and still are, because he’s active military, but I feel like he and I have a strong bond that will carry us through to being in a close distance relationship inevitably. It helps to have laid out plans for the future, like times when we get to visit each other in person. It gives us something to look forward to. There was no initial separation because we started out this way and chose to make it work from the very beginning ❤️ in just a year’s time I’ll be moving an hour away from him and he has the option to move off base and we can get an apartment together 🥰
This is just about relationships that became long distance. What about all of us in relationships that have been long distance from the start!
Exactly
Hello Rachael
@@allensmith8198 Hello
How are you doing Rachael?
@@allensmith8198 I'm okay. Is there a reason you are sending the same messages to lots of women on here today?
Long distance relationships definitely hurt when u went through so much with that person but then they leave u for somebody else saying "she lives few blocks away from me so bye"
Omg, that would be so cruel 😥
I felt this on a whole new personal level 😬
Just went through this today, and what do ya know! This video pops up in my feed 🥲
You know, my dad was like this. He said he had a long distance girlfriend, but then he met my mother and fell in love with her. The LD girlfriend broke up with him and never spoke again.
I, do not want to be like my father in this sense. I'm going to prove to him and my bf that long distance relationships definitely works ❤️
Well I'm in a scenario something like that. I'm talking to a girl since last 3 months. We were friends but now she's in love with me and wants me to court her 😅. I'm (19) from India and she's (17) from Philippines.
Now my mentality is that she's too far from me and we'll never be able to get together as we want. So i tried distancing myself from her for her sake because she'll suffer like this longing for me while we never meet. This made her get mad at me and she's now hurt on the fact that I'll leave her and get together with someone else. She feels heartbroken. What should I do in this scenario ? It's like the first time in something like this so idk much.
About to hit 2 years long distance. It hurts so incredibly much. I so badly want to be able to hug her. 😔
He was the one who helped me restoring back my ex 3 days ago without delay🌹🌹
Whatsaap him"**
I'm going on 4 🙇
I didn't expect to see a video like this when I'm starting a LDR, it's great to see something like this to get my hopes high so both my partner and I can make things work out.
Yeah Im facing the same thing right now. But I truly feel in my soul he is the right one for me.
@@Lilith_Asmodeus94 I'm already 3 months in with my partner, and this has been the most beautiful time of my life, hope everything is going smoothly with yours too!
Hey!
Everything still going smooth at y’all?
any updates?
@@hajarlak5524 well, we were tgtr a long time, but we broke up due to inconviences between us and family, but we end up in good terms and we are still talking and hoping the Best for the both of Us.
1. 0:52 Decision (the decision to try to make Long-Distance work)
2. 1:37 Parting (time together before Long-Distance)
3. 2:02 Transition (Start of Long-Distance)
4. 2:33 Realization (Adjusting to life without partner nearby)
5. 3:12 Jealousy (Jealous of people spending time with partner)
6. 3:55 Doubt (Doubts about relationship)
7. 4:21 Validation (Used to and accepting of Long-Distance)
Good luck fellow Long-Distance Relationship gang! :D
This was posted half a minute ago how do you have the timestamps
This comment shows "2months ago".... Time travel!
@@harshpatel5100 Lol this person hit time distance relations
Thank you :’)
Was looking for this. Thanks very much. :)
I've known my girlfriend for nearly 11 years and have been together for roughly 9 years ( with some breaks in between ). We started online and have met a total of 4 times, but with the 4th time, I had moved over to her side for half a year, however due to circumstances we're apart again, but on the bright side we're currently working to get a home for ourselves so we'll be able to be together proper and end the long wait once and for all! We're dead set and serious and we'll get our future together.
LDR is definitely possible. Very, very difficult, but possible.
Good luck and a wonderful day for you all!
Awww so cute you two! I know its gonna work out I aspire to have what you have. Personally me and my girlfriend have known each other for 10 years since we were childhood friends, unfortunately we moved states but because of my parents divorce my dad still lived there, for years after I moved I couldn't find her but then I remembered where her grandmothers house was and over the summers with a long distance friendship in between we started to catch up when this year I decided to move back to my hometown we shortly started dating after I announced it to her and we started long distance until I went for the summer as usual currently I am not in my hometown because I need to pack and carry stuff over to my fathers house so we are back at it in long distance but I return this weekend and i'm very excited
Its harder when the person u love is giving up and constantly thinks that the best option is to break up..
@@azazelc.9306 That's very nice to hear you'll be able to see each other again! Be sure to make the absolute most of your time together. Perhaps try and make an unforgetable memory or two or just something really nice! I wish you both the best of luck in your relationship!
@Ema S. That does sound tough.. It's difficult for me to offer any specific advice as I don't know your situation :/ But do hang in there! They say something along the lines of "Relationships go through things. Real relationships get through things." or something like that. I don't remember exactly how it went.
@Cassandra Asencio Do have hope! There's a happy ending ( or perhaps beginning is the better word ) waiting for everybody :)
did you guys have ups and downs? like have you guys broken up because of distance?
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Been in an LDR since COVID shut down my state in March 2020 and I moved 14 hrs away later that year, so almost two years. We’ve got at least four more years until being together in person is feasible.
While being apart makes me feel unsure and alone sometimes, I wouldn’t trade us for anything. The time we have together is so rewarding and reassuring, and even though I sometimes find myself doubting while I’m away, I always come back to him and we take that opportunity to grow as a couple every time. It takes trust and understanding, and can no doubt be high maintenance, but if a couple of teenagers can do it, so can any one of you. Don’t give up because of your own insecurities, and the most important advice I can give is to be open with your partner.
It's really hard but it's worth it The feeling, emotion and love is not just based on physical attraction but spiritual, emotional and mental attention and connections also. Always keep it real
I'm in a LDR between Germany and Japan for almost a year now. I was planning to go to Japan in summer but most likely the travel ban won't be lifted. T.T
Here are some things I've learned:
- trust is really important and you should open up to eachother, open up yourself first, if the other person is not someone who does it often
- just tell about your worries and what bothers you without accusing eachother
- staying positive is the most
important thing
- be there for eachother/support eachother, if its just a virtual hug before an exam :)
- call frequently and create time for eachother, it still makes you feel close
- it doesnt matter if you are talking or not, its also great to do nothing together while being on videocall or zoom, at least this way you feel kinda close
- maybe you can watch series together, play video games, take videos for YT or just listen to music
- just do something together you both enjoy, so that you can relax and take it easy :)
- don't loose hope and keep trying to make plans to meet
- talk about the dreams you have together
One more thing when you start doubting: it helped me to see it as test for the relationship. If it doesn't work its also okay, then it was not supposed to be. But if you keep dreaming of a future together then its proof your relationship is strong and its worth doing your best to keep it.
I hope this helps someone :) I wish everyone all the best!
I definitely needed to read this. I'm in a LDR between West Coast USA and Poland with my boyfriend. It's been difficult and there were times when the worst of my thoughts or friends tried to tell me that it wouldn't work out, but we've been alright so far. We both have lives and obligations outside of our messaging but we still try to make time for one another everyday or every time we can. Thank you for your advice. I hope the relationship between you and your partner will be prosperous and happy. :)
Thanks for this
From me an indian and my gf Indonesian)
Hope we all meet our loved ones
Im from Russia and I have long distance relationship with a girl from Philippines. We been friends since beginning 2020. We both are from diffrent cultures and have diffrent values in life. But I still like her and I cannot wait to meet her in real life. I feeling it is true love between us.
@@anomyous1518 don't worry, everything will be fine)
I'm a malaysian dating an austrian for half a year now. Everything seems uncertain but we're doing our best to make it work. Hoping to see him once the travel ban lifted.
From someone who's had close partners and long-distance partners, I must say that the most important part of any relationship is to find the right one. It sounds corny but once you have found someone who understands you easily, shares similar values etc, the long-distance factor shouldn't be a problem. good luck to all of you
I agree. Bcs my BF is long distance but I still cling to him and know we are gonna meet each other and live a life together full of happiness and joy cus he really makes me feel special and nobody else could do that.
I am in a relationship where not even a month into it we found out he has to move because he’s in a military family. Considering this is my first relationship and it’s going extremely well we figured we can make this long distance thing work. I have been really stressing about this lately and when I found this video it brought me a level of comfort that will definitely make the transition easier. I’m hoping all of those who came here to look for advice in sustaining a LDR will have the comfort knowing that everything happens for a reason and if it’s meant to be then it’s meant to be.
Have been doing LDR for over 4 years. My partner and I were in the same class from grade 2 until my parents moved abroad after grade 8. We already liked each other but made things official after I moved. Ever since, we’ve only been getting stronger as more time goes, as we work in the same capacity towards a united goal. We work on ourselves for each other when we need to, and communicate about every issue no matter how little it may seem. Most importantly we never stopped prioritising each other and making each other laugh until our cheeks hurt everyday. Consistency is very important. We never stopped going above and beyond for each other like we did in the initial stages. As we are both anxious people, we always reassure each other about everything and I believe that is essential for a healthy relationship. We focus on the pros of LDR rather than the cons.
LDR is rough, but knowing that my mom gets just as excited as me when he comes in town definitely makes things a little nicer < 3
That's adorable
Im in LDR for 2 years and i experience all this stage. We met online and i never meet him..meybe next year (2021) i will meet him😊 i think i choose the right person. Never ever regret about our relaltionship❤ *edit We broke up in 2021: (reads reply to know why)
Good luck with that! Hope you both find happiness
That's exactly same with me.. Same pinch to u.. 😆
I wish u good luck in your relationship and may u both always be together forever and find your successful life with each other.. 🤗
😇🙌👏🙏💙
My experience too
Hope it works out
I can promise you that meeting up for the first time is one of the most knee shaking and nervous yet exciting moments ever. I still remember when I first met my fiancé who came all the way from UK (I live in South Africa so it's very far away) to see me, and boy was it one of the most anxious yet heartwarming experiences I ever had. Fun thing is, I feel that way every time we pick him up at the airport. I hope that you have it as fortunate as I was able to, and that you two will end up together physically in the long run, I know that's the goal I'm working towards 👍
When I started a long distance relationship I didn't truly know what I was getting into but my long distance relationship taught me:
Communication: Expressing yourself and what bothers you is NOT a bad thing. With the right partner, they will acknowledge and validate your concerns. They will do anything to reassure you in the relationship.
Cherishing your Partner: Due to the limited time we have together, we are less likely to be bothered by the petty insignificant things
Trust: We trust each other 100%
We choose each other everytime!!
I am in a long distance relationship since july 2020. My advice is to communicate often, our boundaries are text throughout the day and talk before bed and it works great. I am very jealous person, but with talking, listening and doing actions, compromises from both side you will nail it, but for that is required both 2 people to be committed. I miss her and i can't wait to see her again❤️
I met my girlfriend on Snapchat this past February. It was so unexpected because nobody ever inboxes me on there when I add them lol, so we started talking on Facebook messenger to better communicate and surprisingly we clicked. She's from Liberia which is in west Africa and I'm from the USA (Chicago). We been together for 8 months now and we're waiting to see each other. We've had our bad days with disagreements, people's criticism and the circumstances but we still overcame it all. I'm planning on seeing her in February 2021 after a whole year of planning this trip so we're praying on it and we're really excited. I never ever met a woman like her in my life. She makes me happy.
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I've recently entered an LDR with a girl over snapchat too. We've been talking/flirting for just over a week almost any time we could, and on boxing day when she was feeling sad we talked all day, but when I was talking about what we could do on our date that night, when lockdown is over, she got freaked out. For the past few days she seems to have detached almost completely and isn't putting effort in when I try to create conversation/banter with her. I feel a lot of heartache and worry about the relationship. Do you have any advice on how to continue it? Seems weird because it's the strongest connection I've ever felt with anyone and seems to have changed so suddenly.
@@TheSm1thers Well communication is definitely one of the strongest foundations in a relationship, especially long distance so it's highly recommended she contributes that same amount of energy you are putting in as well. It shows you that she's also staying committed to reaching out. When you mentioned "freaking out" maybe she's fearful about something and can't really tell you. Again, she has to communicate that with you💯. If she's really isolated herself from you, it sounds to me that she's breaking away from you. I understand you feel good about her and you don't want to get disappointed, but if she's not even trying to talk to you then you have to save yourself from deeper pain and disappointment by ending it. U don't want to put too much into something that somebody is not even considering so be cautious of that. I been through quite a few long distance relationships to realize when the right one was coming. Hope this helps and best of luck💪
@@Professor_James Thank you very much for your response. I appreciate it. We have talked about it yesterday and she said although the connection was amazing she got scared that it was moving too fast and now she doesn't know how she feels. I asked if she wanted to call and talk about it cos it's difficult to properly understand each other through messaging. She said she had no idea when she'll be available but I think it's bullshit cos even the busiest person can make time for a phone call at some point. We haven't communicated at all today and I'm starting to move on. I think she might just not be ready for a relationship, especially a long distance one, which is a shame cos she was so open to me and I felt I could share anything with her too until she freaked out. If she's not putting in the effort anymore though I suppose there's no point in continuing.
Thanks again for your response 🤜
Soooo, did you guys meet? 🥺
I entered a long distance relationship in a different manner. I was introduced to my hair stylist’s sister-in-law’s sister who was living overseas in Vietnam. This was in November. She didn’t have internet, so we wrote a few letters back and forth. I decided to visit her. This was in April.
After I landed and met her for the first time at the airport on a Wednesday night, I had about 6 days to settle whether to marry her or not, who wants a long distance relationship to just drag on? I decided by Saturday morning, but told her on Sunday. No need to rush things.
After the proposal, I flew back to Canada and mailed her a few thousand dollars to get the wedding preparations done. We were married in September, and she flew here in May of the following year once the immigration paperwork was processed.
In hindsight, I might have naively rushed things. haha
BTW, we’re still happily married 14 years later.
That is wonderful! I don't believe anything is too fast when there is real love there. I met my son's father 30 years ago at a Christmas party. I saw him across the room. My friend I was with went over to get him and brought him back to meet me. I told him that night that I knew we were going to get married one day and have children. He laughed. We danced and talked all night then we went to breakfast. The next day we went on a day and we were never again apart.
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my girl lives like 4 hours away it isn’t to long buts it’s inconvenient but she makes my day every minute of the day and changed my mood in a snap and we just connect any advice please 😊🥺
THAT'S A WIN, DANIEL
I love love stories like this that didn't take too long to decide. 😅
I remember watching this at the beginning of the year and reading the comments and being so hopeful...lol he left. But good luck to everyone in this situation. You are so strong and I hope you continue to have faith in your love 🦋
I was in LDR with my boyfriend for 2 years now and.. we broke ends. It was the most painful thing because I love him so much, and thought if we could stay as friends. We didn’t though. I wanted to watch some videos that might help me move on from the pain until I saw this video. It helped a lot and started to watch much more videos regarding LDR and how to recover it. Your channel helps me a lot and helps me continue moving on from the pain that happened long ago. Thank you
My boyfriend and I met when we were 14-15 online now we are 20-21 we haven’t met yet in person but we are 5 years and 4 months together and we have a really healthy relationship, it gets hard but we never give up ♥️♥️
omfg im 14 rn and he's 15 and we're so in love. he's coming to my state in 3 years and ahh im really hoping we'll last
Do you guys talk every single day ?🥺
give tips please! we are in 6 months now, the conversation is hard, and now there is doubt
@@fortunescarlet2883 its fine to not to talk every single day! i used to feel obligated to give constant updates to my long distance bf through text, but the thing is, we all have our own lives outside of a screen, and its exhausting to talk to one every single night all the time, especially if you guys are feeling doubtful. regardless, talk about it with ur significant other and set boundaries; communication is key!
How do u guys maintain it ?
Someone: "Cries because they can't see their partner once a week."
Me: "Pathetic. "
Now I am in my first ever relationship, and it is long distance. Here are some things that I have learned.
1)It is important to manage your time at school or work, so that you can have enough time for them.
2)Playing videogames together is amazing. I only bought GTA V bc my bf plays it and I am happy that I did so. I spend my whole birthday evening and night with him.
wow..nice advice...especially number 4
thx your advice are helpful
Number 4 hits home right now
Number #4 is my problem right now😔.
Even though I want to chat with my Bf whole time, I just don't have the idea of what topic to talk to him.
And by that time, he'll be bored and focus on his video games🥺
@@trial6186 if you want to talk to him but have nothing to say, send him memes, it always works ^^
In a long distance relationship, we finally met during our anniversary and he stayed here for 10 days and travelled 25 hours just to meet me. My family loves him and his too! He went here even if it is his first ever solo trip and first time riding a plane, he just turned 19 and he is only 3 months older than me. Did I mention that we only met in discord? Never lose hope, once you meet genuine people- you will recognise them anywhere. I love him so much, more than words can ever explain ❤
I'm here after having years of experience in LDR and i can say it's pretty addictive when you get creative about trying something new together everytime u could call / video call / play / watch things together / talk limitless about everything u could literally share ur life together except the physical existence you just have to endure this fact and live with it till u make it reachable which would make the relationship reach a whole new level .
However you have to be careful of failing the other side down by quiting after he/she trusted u so bad that he was trying to do anything for it to survive doesn't matter what happens just don't quit u will regret it and you wouldn't be able to get into any other relationship for so long since u gave so much energy in the last one
I don't know why I'm even watching this, I'm not even in a relationship.
It just shows up in recommended I just go with the flow and write some nonsense because I want to.
I'm just like my namesake right now, bored, nothing going on.
same. I'm too young for relationships, but I just watched it. IDK, I had no idea.
Bro high five 🖐️
Maybe it's so that when you do find yourself in one it's not ldr. And if it is, at least you'll know what to expect and how to deal with it lol
I know this isn’t the same but I’m in a long distance friendship and it equally sucks :( all my closest friends are geographically super far from me
Same, my only friend which I don’t feel like I have to change myself with, lives 2 hours away from me. I don’t have a license and I only see her about 2/3 times a year. But after all, when we get to see each other, it’s like I never left.
@@amilkshake3843 omg i can relate!! I have a license but I dont have a car so I only see her once a year when she comes back to visit her family :(
Same.
@@ahmedbokhari7048 it really sucks :(
same here:/
I’ve been in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend for 10 months, and we’re together for the 3rd time since we met. I’m really beginning to understand how much I cherish every moment we share with each other. It’s really nice
I’m likely going to pursue an LDR sometime this year with someone I met who lives 6 hours away from me. This video helped me realize what exactly that would mean for our relationship with each other. Thanks Psych2Go, I feel reassured :) I think we can make it work
How did it go?
I’ve been long distance from my boyfriend for four months and today’s the day I finally see him again. 🥺❤️
what about the long distance relationships that start online and stay online for years
Yes, I’m currently in a long distance relationship. It’s very hard especially in this time of pandemic. But both me and my partner are willing to wait for the right time. We love and trust each other. Hopefully we get to see each other next year. 🙏
My partner and I had to extend our LDR 4 months longer than expected, so I’m a bit sad, but this video helped! I love my person more than words can express, and being together, even long distance, adds so much happiness to my life. Who knew phone calls could be so nice??
I’m in a LDR going on three years. We’ve Both not been able to meet up because of money (we both live in different countries), and more recently because of our flights being canceled do to sars. I’ll say while it’s hard and hurts to be apart everyday, that we don’t regret anything. We both put in 100% effort into our relationship and communicate to each other about everything. She knows me better than anyone else. She’s perfect! I can hardly wait to see her!!
@Shelly Brooklyn just wtf ;-;
Like I'm happy that u got ut husband back but-
A spell caster rlly helped you out?;-;
Wow
@@kuro9445 This person is just making up lies look at the others comments, she copy and paste this post in other replies.
kaito kun it’s a scam
@@mentalbanana736 😂😂😂😂
Yea, maybe she is trying to make money out of it
That's so sweet!! Totally understand u bro 😢
Others: Commenting about their LDR stories.
Me: Just scrolling and reading comments from them 😎
i just got into a long distance relationship two weeks ago. i wont be seeing my partner for 10 months. it's been a huge rollercoaster of emotions. and at times i think i will never survive this mentally. but videos like these help me a lot and i feel more and more confident that we can make this.
hey, hope u r good! can i ask how that went?
@@aylen-cg9xx hi, we’re doing really good! it’s been 9 months since our long distance ended and i can say that every part of it was worth it. i can’t believe we made it! soon we’ll be together for 2 years :)
What really hurts is the goodbye after you visit them. That's what I'm struggling with right now
Ever since the pandemic hit us all, long distance relationships has been the most common thing ever nowadays..
i almost cried watching this.
I cried ,my bf broke up w me after 1.5 years long distance relationship.and he blocked me everywhere...
me too and i'm not even in a long distance relationship
I cried. I miss my bae.
it wasn't a coincidence that you guys' video was in my feed haha my love and i have been in a long distance relationship for almost a year, and we went through all these stages. what really hit me though was when the video mentioned how partners who go through the bad time either give up entirely or analyze the problem together. i thought "wow, we've gone through the overthinking and doubts and we still always come back together." it just made me very happy, but i think the overall lesson is if you truly care and love for your partner, you will always come back together and talk it out. reminder for everyone out there, remember that it is not you vs. your person, it is you two vs. the problem! one love internet, stay rad :)