I Stopped Talking to My Mother Because I Love Her
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- Опубліковано 11 тра 2024
- Jerry Banfield friends this chapter of my autobiography discussing how I Finally Set Boundaries with My Mother and I Stopped Talking to My Mother Because I Love Her. Join our community at jerrybanfield.com
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Thanks for being so open about this, I’ve had struggles with my mom and cut her out for about 6 months,
It took that to get her to go to an Al anon meeting and start to actually learn about addiction
Good for you! It's not an easy thing to do. The more you love someone, the harder it is to set boundaries and enforce them. I hope it makes the future better for you both. 💙💙💙
There are zoom aa meetings I go to all the time from my home, maybe she can start with those and hearing those will ruin her addiction that’s how it worked for me, I would go to meetings but still be uaing and eventually I couldn’t do both because I heard too much truth about my condition in the meetings. Maybe that can be a transition and compromise that you will see her if she at least goes to meetings and works the steps even if she is using and then she will come to her own conclusion about it. I don’t know just a suggestion. Keep up the videos Jerry! I’m starting my channel here in a couple weeks!
Thanks for sharing Jerry🤗
Im going to offer another possible explanation here. Consider that she may have an undiagnosed developmental disability. You say shes a narcissist, i bet she hasnt been diagnosed formally. Thats just what you think it is because you percieve her to be self focused.
Autism and adhd, for example, run in families and show up differently in "high functioning" women.
They are extremely more likely to have all manner of negative life outcomes, including drug addiction, chronic unemployment, stormy relationships, suicide, kids taken from them. Ect.
You can be hurt and upset. But if im right, you should consider that "normal" is not possible wether drugs are part of this or not. And that is nobodys fault.
Not sure what you try to achieve sharing this. Your mother has major depression, she can't break her routine, obviously. I'm sorry to hear that and I guess you have some feelings of guilt to cope with. Without hearing her perspective, the listener can't really get the whole picture. For example, I think it's very inappropriate to assume she broke her hip on purpose to manipulate you as that would be very extreme. And after all she gets this pain medication prescribed, so if at all, the doctor behind this appears to be the actual problem.
Yeah I thought that was inappropriate too. That's a pretty narcissistic thought process honestly.
OMG.
First, I appreciate you setting your boundary with your mother. Good for you.
But I'm also uncomfortable with how you express your need to avoid people who have addictions. It sounds judgmental and controlling.
The boundary you should set is FOR YOU and should have NOTHING to do with what the other person chooses to do or not do. Your boundary is to protect you from falling back into your addiction. It sounds also like it keeps you from feeling the anger you feel when you observe their lives and the things you don't like about them.
Do you have any compassion for the Jerry who struggled with addiction? I'm thinking maybe not, because I think if you did, you'd have more compassion for the addicts in your life.
This doesn't mean you should hang out with them. What it means is that like in AA, you need to focus on your own self, your own life, and as in Al-Anon stop trying to control others.
And the way you address your staying away from others sounds more controlling and judgmental than it does any desire to let them make their decisions and choose healing if/when they do.
I could be wrong. I hope so. But something about this feels strange.
I do hope the best for you as you continue in your own path of recovery, because if I understand recovery correctly, it's an ongoing process, not one and done. Blessings.