As a woman who grew up with an abusive father who did not protect, provide or teach. I really appreciate that there are good responsible fathers like you, sir. Thank you.
Agreed. I also didn’t have what this beautiful young lady has. I was blessed to find a strong, supportive, loving husband in spite of the abusive father I had. Thank you, Sir for putting out standards of respect to the young man you’d like as a son in law. The young men in this country need to see standards raised in what is expected of them from their future father in laws. When is comes to being a husband, you don’t get a trophy use for the title. It’s lots of work & dedication.
When my daughter started dating the guy had to meet me face to face and ask if he could take her out. This ran through college. It embarrassed her at first then she understood. My son had to ask the parents too. He realized quickly how much that meant to the parents. The day I have her away was the hardest day of my life, even though he is a great guy. Get the book “Strong Fathers Stong Daughters”. There is also a Sons version.
@@appleswithpeanutbutter609 you fail to take into consideration that the daughters with abusive fathers run not walk as soon as they are 18 & able. I did. Girls with abusive fathers have a 50/50 shot to get out & get into stable relationships or abusive ones. Either way, they usually don’t consult their fathers & their fathers don’t ask.
And where exactly is the "honor" here? If she dates a guy seriously enough to consider a wedding, he should already know him, if he is a present father. Asking to interview the guy when he asks for her hand is at best useless, at worst dishonorable for the father.
@@mezzbI think there's a healthy balance between being a responsible Father and letting his daughter make her own choices. Having these values is not a bad thing in itself. His daughter makes a choice of a potential husband and he looks out for her by taking his time to study their character and confidence to know if they're good or not, then informs his daughter of his findings. That in itself is good. He didn't mention imposing on her what he wants for her. You mentioned that he doesn't take this approach with his son. He has made videos about teaching his son to be a responsible young man that treats the women in his life properly. He has made videos about communicating effectively with your partner and his son learns from that. The same way he doesn't choose for his daughter but helps her see some things that she have missed (good or bad) in a person she's considering is the same way he would help his son. Being an African who lives in a country where child marriage and child betrothal is prevalent, this Father is being responsible, not imposing what he wants on his daughter because it is still her choice and he is there to help her as she makes that choice
@@petrmaly9087This is how I know you have never been in a true relationship. If they had dated seriously, the interview process would have taken place over the years they dated.
I’m so sorry. Can’t imagine the deep seeded hurt that comes with that. While I don’t know you, chances are it’s not because you’re not worthy of love, it’s because of issues your dad has. God’s love for you is unconditional and never ending. God bless✝️
True that. There are so many families today who are without a dad so a girl has no idea what to look for in a husband to be. And some of the guys are definitely questionable. You don’t know if someone’s doing drugs, what kind of character they have.
It breaks my heart that my dad didn't get to walk me down the aisle. But I thank God for giving me a big brother to instead. And I thank my husband for not thinking he didn't need to ask for my hand just because my dad is no longer here.
@@HeatherJSNI'm sorry for your loss! I'm so grateful that you still have a wonderful male family member that you can count on and rely on. God Bless You
Me. My first husband asked my father because he wanted to be respectful to my father. My father didn't care (and my stepmom went on to tell the whole family he was abusing me all because he said he wanted me to be a stay at home mom). My father never made and effort to see him or anything, we had to pay for dinner just for him to show up. He maybe saw the man 3 times before my late husband passed. When I started dating again, he showed no interest in knowing who I was with and who was the stepfather of his granddaughter. He's never met my youngest child, it's been years and he still has never made and effort to get to know this dude. Thankfully I have an uncle looking out for me, but it still sucks my own father doesn't care enough
@@theknittinkitten2954 I'm so sorry! For the loss of your husband and how your dad is. As the daughter of an absent father, it hurts not feeling loved and cared about. But treat me like crap? Ok fine. But not care about my babies?! That's just cruel! I'm so sorry, my heart goes out to you and your family 💕
@@whitescar2 A daughter is infinitely more precious than any item or trinket. You do not consider the well-being and emotional support of your items and trinkets you hand over. If you cannot recognize those facts, I fear for your children.
@@ujiltromm7358LMAO the fact that you can say that while actively comparing a child to TRINKETS is hilarious and makes me fear for YOUR children. My Dad looked out for me by sharing his opinion with me and allowing me to make my own decisions. I learned from the bad choices I made that he stayed out of and that's how life works, THAT is what being a good parent is; preparing your children to make their own decisions and giving them the space and freedoms to do so while offering a safe space in case they chose wrong.
@@jessieBird96 he just explained how children are not remotely property, and you still being unable to comprehend it really says more about how mentally stunted you are than about his parenting ability.
My daughter is 12 and I'll tell u what. I don't no how I will react to these things. The first boyfriend and being asked. I guess it depends on the man.
I told my then boyfriend that if he asked anyone for my hand but me, it wouldn't matter what the other person said, my answer would be no. Next year, we'll be married 32 years, have 2 children and live happy lives full of love and support. A woman doesn't need to subjugate herself in order to be loved or happy.
“She will always be my little girl” I felt that. My dad has always told me that I could have gray hair and grandchildren and I will still be his baby girl
As a married man I will say this….. I asked for permission from both of my wife’s parents in a private sit down at their home prior to proposing. Showing transparency and a willingness to want to be part of their family shows that you respect the parents and your willing to put it all on the line for the women you love. To me when I asked, it was like I spilled my heart out to them and explained what my true intentions were with their daughter. I am now not only a husband, but also a father to 2 beautiful kids my wife has given me. I expect the same level of respect and similar situation to when my daughter has a man in her life (many years from now)
I was my Daddy's little girl for 39 beautiful years. My husband asked his permission to marry me. He and my father then sat in my father's "office" (aka our back porch) and talked for hours over a congratulatory bottle of bourbon. They sat out there talking late into the night. I don't know what they spoke about and I didn't ask; I figured my father was laying out a plan or he was setting a few ground rules, either way they were great friends for many years. Before my father died of a terminal illness he told my husband it was up to him now to take care of me until I was old and gray. He promised he would..so far...he has kept his promise to him and to me. I wouldn't have had it any other way.
I wish I'd had the chance to have that with my fiancée. Unfortunately, nearly two years into our relationship (not yet married, but engaged) she passed after a tragic car accident, which I witnessed. I don't want to get into too much detail, but that broke me. I've never really been able to recover. Now I have lung cancer, and I refuse to fight it even at only 27 years old. I just want to see my Regina again. I just want to come home to her. Never take what you have for granted. It can be ripped away from you by life, cruelly and viciously. Love each other, take care of each other. Feel happiness that I'll never possess myself. Treasure every single moment you have with that person. They're all you've got, and vice versa.
“If you’re uncomfortable with those questions, you need not apply.” Perfectly sums it up. If you can’t stand up to me and honestly tell me you will provide for my daughter’s physical and emotional needs, walk away.
And what are you gonna do if she picks someone you don't like? You don't control or own your daughter. She's not properly. Once she's 18 she's an adult, it's her choice and you have no right to make that choice. Fkin men thinking they can control women's and actions and who they are with. Misogynistic af!
@@boojon2 I never said anything about having to like her partner, only that they will have to be an adequate provider and companion. My daughter knows that any less is a recipe for heartbreak down the road. There is nothing misogynistic in seeing that my children’s emotional and physical needs are met both now and in the future.
@@boojon2I agree. If my husband of 38-plus years asked my father, my father would have said something like, "Why are you asking me? My daughter is an adult." He would have said it politely but I know my father would have been disgusted and thought less of my husband. 😬
@@boojon2did you not watch the video? It's not a matter of giving her away to whoever he wants. It's the fact that if he is a good father then he has spent the last AT LEAST 18 years providing for his daughter and showing her how a man should treat her. At the end of the day it is the daughters choice but any man who wants to marry a girl like this man's daughter should be able to look him in the eyes and say that she will be well taken care of in every way.
@@stewiesaidthatNot select but approve. He doesn't choose, she makes the choices and he decides whether or not to give his blessing. Selection is what happens in many places in the world where child marriage and betrothal is prevalent
I have been blessed with a godly earthly father that taught me this. So grateful. My husband taught our daughters and son as well. We're not perfect, just forgiven by grace.
The world would be a better place, if we had more dad’s like you! I would most likely be a different person if I had a dad, and if he was like you! You’re awesome
My son married a girl whose father had passed away. He went to the cemetery in another state and knelt down next to his grave and asked her father for his blessing to marry his daughter. That’s the actions of a real man.❤️
I’ve been there and my daughter’s suitor was polite, promising but to my mind determined. It was his determination that struck me to the heart. Because if he could demonstrate that determination to me, no small feat, he had the ability to care for and protect my “ little girl” because that is what she will always be! Now we have two Grandchildren, one his “ little girl “!
I'm so grateful that I was raised by loving parents, including a dad like this. I was picky about who I dated. I accepted my husband's proposal knowing that he had my dad's approval. I married a wonderful man and he is now a strong, caring, devoted dad, like my dad and like Nick. Dads are important ❤️
I asked my father in law for his permission, then after we talked he gave me his blessings. I then asked him for his advice. Been married for 8 years now and I still seek his advice on things to this day.
I remember the video well. People took issue with my comment because I said I didn’t want my husband asking my fathers permission. What I got from your video was that you’d done your job right enough so that your daughters WANTED him to ask your permission. That’s beautiful. I hope my daughters have that. Trust me - no one grieves the fact I didn’t have that more than me. Except perhaps my dad. I love my dad and we are good now, but there are situations where asking permission would be absolutely toxic. There are dads who didn’t take care of their daughters physical or emotional needs. As I said at the time - if you cannot relate you should be grateful for that. My dad would now say I made an excellent choice. But it took a few years and the breakdown of his own marriage to see that wealth of character and Godliness is worth more than bank balance.
Thank you for this! I'm one daughter with a father who didn't understand the entirety of a father's role in his daughter's life and abdicated. Over the years we each tried separately to make amends but sadly he died before healing could win out. Now there is an emptiness/unresolvediness lingering. I hope to heal my hurts now without him.
As a girl without a father, I can say that I would have loved having a dad like this to help me determine if a man had what it takes to be a good husband and father. Would have saved me years of heart aches.
My mom did this for me. I think she would have known better what would make a good husband for a woman than a man anyway, right? One of her gems, while I was dating a player I was head over heels in love with, was "Can you see him taking care of you if you got truly sick?" That was a huge lightbulb moment. Because, no. I now have a husband who has in fact taken care of me after a surgery and serious health issue. I don't know if a father would have thought to ask THAT question, they'd probably be more focused on employment type, protectiveness, etc. Things that I'm not nearly as concerned about and wouldn't have as much of an impact on the happiness of my marriage as a man who is thoughtful and caring.
My father passed away when I was a teenager and my husband, before asking me to marry him, went to my father's gravestone to ask for his permission. It was the most respectful thing and I am still grateful to this day. ❤
Nick, I truly appreciate your shorts. From what I have seen you are good father, husband and human. Praying God continues to bless you and your family.
I'm a fairly new father myself and I'm definitely taking these words for wisdom keep doing what you're doing brother there are some of us out here that do listen cuz that's exactly what I want for my daughter
How about you raise her to be her own person capable of taking care of herself? Instead of this "I will never accept that my child will become an adult"-paternalistic nonsense? Raising her to always NEED a man to protect her is raising her to be helpless when life goes wrong. Make her able to protect herself, to provide for herself, then any man will be just a nice extra instead of a must-have. Raising the bar for what kind of guy is worth spending her time with ... 🤷♀️ 😉
@@lt3746 Do you understand that there is a difference between "paternal" and "paternalistic"? And that teaching a daughter "you will always need someone else to take care of your physical and emotional needs because you will NEVER be adult enough to do it yourself" is stealing her freedom and HARMFUL?! You don't need to work so hard to keep your children small and incompetent to be a father, you can actually raise them to be grown adults in their own right and be a GOOD father.
My lady’s father had passed away prior to my asking her to be my wife. I STILL went to her mother and asked. I was a Marine. I had always had a sense of honor and I was honored that her mom gave an enthusiastic answer that was, “it’s about time!” Property had ZERO to do with any thing. And yes, we have a daughter. We shall see how that goes.
Exactly! It's not an exchange of property, it's an exchange of responsibility. A father needs to make sure that the man who marries his daughter will do a worthy job of protecting, loving, and providing for her for the rest of her life, just as her father did from the beginning of it.
Thank you for saying this. I am a 37 year old woman, previously brainwashed by feminism to believe that the idea of getting permission / giving away a woman was because the father “owned” her. NO ONE ever explained that it was about a father being primarily charged with her protection (which I obviously did not have or maybe I would have figured this out sooner). The biggest problem in our society is fathers not being present and not providing and protecting their families….so thank you for educating people. 😊
Fathers are pushed away from their families, prevented from being in their lives, by the states enforcing the capricious vindictivness of mothers who have been encouraged to throw dad away. The laws all favor mom, and punish dad, supposedly not in the letter of the law, but certainly in the application
Jenna, you actually DO have a Father like this, but only BETTER!! Your Father in heaven. As you say, God. He loved you enough to give His only Son on the cross for you and me😊
@@SirGroggExactly 100% I was an adult when engaged 40 years ago. I was no longer, "Daddys little girl." I was my husband's of 38-plus years partner and he was and still is THE most important man in my life.
Kaboomski! Mic drop! Amen Nick! I have 4 daughters and 4 gentlemen came to me to ask permission and my blessings for my daughters. I pretty much knew at that time that they were worthy of my daughters. I’m a very blessed man. Keep up the great work Nick!
i asked my wifes father first, he broke down in tears and told me he never thought his little girl would have a man with a high enough character who would love her enough to ask his permission to marry her. He was proud of me, but more importantly, he was confident that I would take care of his little girl as good as he had her whole life simply because i had enough integrity to come to him first.
@Lulee Tomas should have a gander at this comment section lol. There are hundreds if not thousands or even 10s of thousands on just this showing just how many of us there are.
Logic and reason? This is just emotion disguised as stoicism. He FEELS uncomfortable with a stranger becoming important to his grown daughter because he still FEELS like she's still his young child - something he literally said. It's not logical. It's purely emotional. Which is fine, but don't try to act like it's not.
@@michaelscott3174 you're not wrong however your thoughts process is faulty. You can make logical decisions even if the root is based in emotions. Just because emotions are involved does not mean logic and reason are magically deleted. It's people's weakness that allows emotions to consume reason and stoicism is the practice of harnessing your emotions instead of allowing them to control you.
@@angramainyu4599 His emotions *are* getting in the way of his logic, though. He straight-up says that until she's married, he feels like he's responsible for her emotional well-being because in his mind she'll always be his "little girl". Tell me how that's not emotions getting in the way of rationality?
@@michaelscott3174 that is a difference in world view. He views it as his responsibility as a father to be the shield and sword that defends his daughter and until someone else is worthy of that responsibility he will carry it. You may view being a father differently and that is entirely your call. His emotions are not getting in the way of his logic they are the energy behind his logic which is formed from his life experience.
"because he has to be worthy of my little girl" this says it all in my opinion. It's not that he needs "permission" he needs a reality check of what he's signing up for and whether or not he's ready to live up to being the man that she needs him to be.
My younger daughter got married several years ago. About 1 year prior, they were visiting us and I had to run out on an errand and boyfriend came with me. During the ride, he asked me for permission to marry my daughter. Absolutely blew me away. Very good guy, loves my daughter with all his heart.
Dang, that's a good point, when you've been responsible for someone's emotional well-being for years and someone else wants to take that over, you should ask some tough questions. After all, you know what she needs in terms of emotional support as again: you've done the job for years. You are a qualified interviewer.
My Fiancee's mom and dad died when she was young. Her "Father" is the man who mostly raised her. I had to get his allowance to marry her. It was so sweet and nerve wracking.
Respect for ushering healthy, emotionally stable, and successful young women into this world. It’s the fathers not doing this who are the cause of sooooo much suffering (both for their daughters and everyone else).
I used to blame men primarily for this. But with how insufferable modern women are, plus the court system, my opinion has changed somewhat. Women are initiating nearly 80% of all divorces, so if there are homewreckers it’s overwhelmingly women. That number should be roughly 50/50 assuming there are equal numbers of good and bad partners of both sexes, but it’s not even close. Women also select who they procreate with, they have the sole power of who comes into the world. There will always be a small number of scumbag men. Women didn’t used to sleep with them at the rate they do now, which leads to all the single motherhood.
@@maskofsan1ty again, it’s not that she’s his property. It’s that he loves her and has provided for her her entire life and if you respect her and her father, you’d want his approval. She can still legally marry him, it’s just a matter of her deciding if a man so disapproved of is worth possibly splitting the family apart.
@@Bullzeye1000yds autonomy is the ability to self govern, not isolationism. The two aren't mutually exclusive. In this case it means someone with autonomy can make decisions for themselves, without the permission of others. Obviously there are nuances here regarding legalities.
Mr. Nick, This may be your best yet!! Even better, seeing how many people agree! Keep praying America, there's hope for us yet!! God Bless All of us, SY, gg
@@maskofsan1ty First off, what do you mean by controlling? Are you thinking of the overprotective helicopter parent? Assuming a yes, I would say this. Here you have a father-- using Nick as an example, not all fathers are like him though -- who loves his daughter, who is competent and can probably see through any immature boy looking to marry her. If he says no, how the man responds is going to tell the father and his daughter a lot about his character. If he wouldn't respect her father, why would he respect her? I don't think it's as controlling as you think if the daughter has agreed with him on it and sees the value in his role. If she doesn't well, okay then, good luck to them both. It's more wanting to help make sure she has found a good man more than anything. See it as giving advice, she's free to accept or discard it.
As a woman who was raised with her father utterly absent..THANK YOU for stepping up, thank you for recognising the necessity and responsibility of your position as her father and as the father of your son/s too!
What "goodness" is there? Just because he says he doesn't see her as property, does not mean jack when he goes on to describe exactly how he treats her like property. If he wants to protect her, he will realize that she is an individual who has to grow and learn. He should thus be interested in her relationships and boyfriends, not expect the boy to come to him. He should connect with the potential groom and learn what he is like and why she thinks he is great. There is no genuine interest to do that shown here. Only a desire to control property. Replace "my babygirl" with "my Jaguar S-type" and the entire rant would sound perfectly reasonable.
@@whitescar2they are his child. Of course he will want to protect her from other people. That’s not treating them as property that’s trying to be a parent and protecting your child from marrying a horrible person
Have so much respect for u Sir! Amazing father! she's blessed to have u as a father. Love ur channel and ur values u are sharing w men out there! They need this!
The world needs more dads like you! Then maybe we would be in a little less of a mess that we’re in now. The problem is… you have a bunch of dads (and moms) who just don’t care enough. Say it louder for the people in the back! 👏🏼
Amen!!!! I 💯 agree. As a daddy’s little girl, I wanted my future husband to ask my daddy for my hand in marriage. It showed me that he was going to be a real man and respect my father who was my protector who put the time in loving me, raising me, showing me what a real man should be and to have his approval of the man I was going to marry meant the world to me.
Daughters, Lord willing they have good fathers, should utilize a great asset. I told any guy that wanted to go out with me to ask my dad first. We agreed that they would ask him and I would tell him if I actually liked the guy or not. Took all the pressure off me. There was only one man that called and asked. 14 years later, it's been a ride to remember.
“Ride to remember.” Maybe a poor choice of words… 😅 Sorry. Huge respect for such a healthy father daughter relationship. If he’s still around, give him a hug next time you see him.
I’m glad your father honored that agreement. That’s such a comfort to have as a daughter. Sadly, my father and I aren’t on the same page, it’s exhausting having to do the screening of my future spouse and know that my parents wouldn’t approve if it was Jesus himself.
?? Umm, r u saying that there's only been 1 man who showed interest in u and he approached ur dad b4 u and I've been together ever since, for 14 years? The way u worded it isn't clear enuf for my brain to follow, sorry.
No, unfortunately, we all don't. But it is truly a blessing (even at 52 yo) to imagine what it would have been like with a father like him. I don't think he knows how special these videos really are. ❤
Some girls get a fine grand-daddy to make up for it though. And it doesn't have to be second best, coz the ol'timers sure do have a whole lot of wisdom and time too for their second time around little girls🥰
@@michellekozaczok8201 yes they do. Studies have shown that kids who grow up in a 2 parent household are better off than the kids who didn't grow up in a 2 parent household.
My stache has turned grey. My youngest daughter wondered why. I told her I had daughters. She didn't understand, I wake up everyday wondering what am I going to do today to protect my daughters and my wife from the nastiness of our world.
@@glenncase3659 l hear you brother.... with sons you spend most of the time protecting the from their own stupidity, because we were all brave and stupid when we were young....lol
Well I am immortal so I got my work cut out for me if I ever have a child. My evidence is my birth mother drowned me to death but I came back. I got sucked out to sea in 2004 and brought myself back to life. In 2007 I had a 4 foot in diameter lightning blast go threw my body and obliterate a tree that was 15 foot in diameter short but really fat tree. In 2012 I was in a hot tub that had its boiler over heat causing the hot tub to get to 248 degrees. It felt nice. One guy had to go to the hospital when he tested the temp with his finger and got second degree burn from a tiny drop of the water. Fire is useless to use against me. I do not really like cold weather so that might be my one and only weakness but no way in hell you are going to get me to Antarctica especially not easily. So good luck. :)
EXACTLY! 1st one was in rebellion and ended horribly... then later married guy Dad wanted me to talk to and I'm happier despite our issues from previous relationships.
@@BeRightBack131 which is why I said they only know best when they have your best interests at heart! 🥺 I know some dad are not good but others did the best they could and turned out to be pretty good.
Wise words! A bad spouse can ruin many lives- a real dad would know his daughter best and should be there to help her especially in such life changing choices
Not only does it show a sign of respect for her dad, but also a sign to her of how much respect you have for her family and wanting to become part of it. To go a step farther, ask both parents for permission, and now you show respect to her mom also. She had a part in raising her and giving her values that you may or may not like. I chose both and have been married for over 20 yrs.
i didn't ask my wife's parents. i don't give a fuck what he thinks. we are starting a new family, i am not trying to become part of them. her dad was upset that i didn't ask, he got over it. or not. don't care.
I asked for her parents' blessing, but it didn't go how I'd imagined it would. My future wife had flown overseas for a conference and I finally had a chance to approach her parents without her knowing. When her mother opened up the door she burst into tears because she thought her daughter had died in a plane crash because I'd never visited by myself before. And then I just had to blurt out that I was asking permission to marry their daughter. More tears but happy tears.
There was a guy I dated for a little while and he got to meet my parents. He never once looked my dad in the eye, not even when saying hello. I kept that in mind when other problems crept up. Glad that relationship didn't last long and thankful for what I learned.
Goosebumps!!! I saw that video. I’m a girl and I can honestly say that your daughter is very lucky to have you as her daddy! You are unequivocally the sweetest and most badass daddy EVER! ❤
Dead on. "Now, let me clarify something for you..." and "You need not apply." Well said.🎯🎯🎯. Of course your daughter's not your property; she's far more precious than that!!
PREACH! My little girl is married and having her first little girl. Her husband and I had great conversations while they dated about his role in her life, respect, honor, how he intended to love and care for her. I don't worry about how those 2, soon to be 3, are doing. I know they are focused on the right things.
I’ve always been a daddy’s girl. My dad never coached me or told me what to look for in a man, only what to see as red flags and that I needed to have self respect. I knew from the moment I started thinking about “liking” boys, that they would need to get my dad’s permission before we dated. Not because he demanded it, but because I wanted them to respect my family and myself to know that they were making a serious commitment. I did not stick to this belief as much as I should have (rebellious phase, did not end well), I eventually came back to reality and have now been happily married for 4 years to an amazing man that did ask my dad first. :)
You go, dad! You're correct. Your daughters are blessed to have you. And he would be blessed to have you as a father in law. Better to have you on his team then on the opposing team.
Thank you for showing the best way! I certainly wish my father could've shown me the same love and caring but he only understood and therefore cared about his sons.
I am 70 years old and would love to have had a father like you who loved, protected, honored and cherished his daughters. God bless you. I pray she knows and is aware how blessed she is to have you for a father.
I have a lot of respect for this man. And I hope to have a child one day so I can understand the feeling behind "she's my little girl, and that's what she'll always be to me."
I lost my dad when I was 22, and I was primarily raised by my mother. I wish I had a dad like you. I can tell you, I have had so many men treat me wrong because I had no blueprint for how they should act. I respect you. Lucky girls, that is what your daughters are.
I prefer the terminology “blessing” rather than “permission”. For me, it shifts the focus from “allowing” your daughter to do something to showing her your support and affirming you believe this is the right choice for her. Just a thought 🤷🏻♀️, no controversy intended. I wish more girls had dads that care about them as much as you obviously care about your daughter!
Approval also works, could also think of it is as earning his respect. I think Nick mentioned this in the previous vid on this but it's not about a father deciding who his daughter marries, it's about raising her in such a way that she seeks his approval. In part out of love and respect, but also there are likely going to be traits in her father that she seeks in a husband - it makes sense that she'd want her father to like the man she marries.
@@MGShadow1989 I like the idea of framing it as "earning his respect" too. That's a great way of looking at it. I totally agree that it's about raising your child in such a way that they seek their parents' approval, and when I think about it like that it also can apply to both genders and both parents. If I had a son, as his mother, I'd also hope to build the kind of relationship in which he would seek my approval of his future wife. Great perspective.
@@brunonaccarato6219 YES, thank you. As a woman I approve of this. The only reason this isn't it is if the dad is a loser/crapweasal/a**holes. If you have an ok or better dad and you don't want your future husband to get your dad's permission then that says more about you than anyone else.
As a woman who grew up with an abusive father who did not protect, provide or teach. I really appreciate that there are good responsible fathers like you, sir. Thank you.
Agreed. I also didn’t have what this beautiful young lady has. I was blessed to find a strong, supportive, loving husband in spite of the abusive father I had.
Thank you, Sir for putting out standards of respect to the young man you’d like as a son in law. The young men in this country need to see standards raised in what is expected of them from their future father in laws. When is comes to being a husband, you don’t get a trophy use for the title. It’s lots of work & dedication.
Which brings up the point that not all dads have the best judgment.
When my daughter started dating the guy had to meet me face to face and ask if he could take her out. This ran through college. It embarrassed her at first then she understood. My son had to ask the parents too. He realized quickly how much that meant to the parents. The day I have her away was the hardest day of my life, even though he is a great guy. Get the book “Strong Fathers Stong Daughters”. There is also a Sons version.
@@appleswithpeanutbutter609 you fail to take into consideration that the daughters with abusive fathers run not walk as soon as they are 18 & able. I did. Girls with abusive fathers have a 50/50 shot to get out & get into stable relationships or abusive ones. Either way, they usually don’t consult their fathers & their fathers don’t ask.
@ApplesWithPeanutButter But thats an entirely different issue. An abusive person is abusive in whatever they do.
Amen! Asking IS NOT about Property, It’s About Honor.
Apparently that guy didn’t have much!
And where exactly is the "honor" here? If she dates a guy seriously enough to consider a wedding, he should already know him, if he is a present father. Asking to interview the guy when he asks for her hand is at best useless, at worst dishonorable for the father.
And making friends with your future father in law 😅
@@mezzbI think there's a healthy balance between being a responsible Father and letting his daughter make her own choices.
Having these values is not a bad thing in itself. His daughter makes a choice of a potential husband and he looks out for her by taking his time to study their character and confidence to know if they're good or not, then informs his daughter of his findings. That in itself is good. He didn't mention imposing on her what he wants for her.
You mentioned that he doesn't take this approach with his son. He has made videos about teaching his son to be a responsible young man that treats the women in his life properly. He has made videos about communicating effectively with your partner and his son learns from that.
The same way he doesn't choose for his daughter but helps her see some things that she have missed (good or bad) in a person she's considering is the same way he would help his son.
Being an African who lives in a country where child marriage and child betrothal is prevalent, this Father is being responsible, not imposing what he wants on his daughter because it is still her choice and he is there to help her as she makes that choice
@@petrmaly9087This is how I know you have never been in a true relationship.
If they had dated seriously, the interview process would have taken place over the years they dated.
Not his property but definitely his responsibility. And as a woman who loves her dad but wishes he felt this same way, I approve this message.
As a woman who's father passed away when she was 18, I concur
Lost mine at 11 completely agree with you
Me too
Wish my dad was like that
The problem is they have no idea what responsibility means.
I’m so sorry. Can’t imagine the deep seeded hurt that comes with that. While I don’t know you, chances are it’s not because you’re not worthy of love, it’s because of issues your dad has. God’s love for you is unconditional and never ending. God bless✝️
This made me emotional bc so many females needed/still need a father like this. His children are so blessed.
True that. There are so many families today who are without a dad so a girl has no idea what to look for in a husband to be. And some of the guys are definitely questionable. You don’t know if someone’s doing drugs, what kind of character they have.
It breaks my heart that my dad didn't get to walk me down the aisle. But I thank God for giving me a big brother to instead. And I thank my husband for not thinking he didn't need to ask for my hand just because my dad is no longer here.
@@HeatherJSNI'm sorry for your loss! I'm so grateful that you still have a wonderful male family member that you can count on and rely on. God Bless You
Me. My first husband asked my father because he wanted to be respectful to my father. My father didn't care (and my stepmom went on to tell the whole family he was abusing me all because he said he wanted me to be a stay at home mom). My father never made and effort to see him or anything, we had to pay for dinner just for him to show up. He maybe saw the man 3 times before my late husband passed.
When I started dating again, he showed no interest in knowing who I was with and who was the stepfather of his granddaughter. He's never met my youngest child, it's been years and he still has never made and effort to get to know this dude. Thankfully I have an uncle looking out for me, but it still sucks my own father doesn't care enough
@@theknittinkitten2954 I'm so sorry! For the loss of your husband and how your dad is. As the daughter of an absent father, it hurts not feeling loved and cared about. But treat me like crap? Ok fine. But not care about my babies?! That's just cruel! I'm so sorry, my heart goes out to you and your family 💕
This man said it perfectly. It's not about "her being your property," it's about your father looking out for you.
I agree
Yeah, "You're not my property, I just hold final right to say whom I will hand you off to." Totally not what you do with property. Nope...
@@whitescar2 A daughter is infinitely more precious than any item or trinket. You do not consider the well-being and emotional support of your items and trinkets you hand over. If you cannot recognize those facts, I fear for your children.
@@ujiltromm7358LMAO the fact that you can say that while actively comparing a child to TRINKETS is hilarious and makes me fear for YOUR children. My Dad looked out for me by sharing his opinion with me and allowing me to make my own decisions. I learned from the bad choices I made that he stayed out of and that's how life works, THAT is what being a good parent is; preparing your children to make their own decisions and giving them the space and freedoms to do so while offering a safe space in case they chose wrong.
@@jessieBird96 he just explained how children are not remotely property, and you still being unable to comprehend it really says more about how mentally stunted you are than about his parenting ability.
There's nothing like a bit of intestinal fortitude when someone tells it like it is. God bless this man!
Amen!
You mean testicular fortitude?
@@amihere383 both are accurate.
I had to read that twice to know what you actually meant because when it comes to dads, both apply 😂😂
I'm not a father, but this man is speaking nothing but the truth
I'm a black brother living n the inner city of Chicago n I luv your content. Keep it up. We need more masculine men like u. Blessings
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The fact that my husband asked my dad for my hand in marriage made me love him even more.
Same here. He asked my Dad as well!
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My daughter is 12 and I'll tell u what. I don't no how I will react to these things. The first boyfriend and being asked. I guess it depends on the man.
@@dont-touch-mepg1392 True. If he has the balls to even ask is a good sign
I told my then boyfriend that if he asked anyone for my hand but me, it wouldn't matter what the other person said, my answer would be no. Next year, we'll be married 32 years, have 2 children and live happy lives full of love and support. A woman doesn't need to subjugate herself in order to be loved or happy.
The world needs more dads with these values
“She will always be my little girl” I felt that. My dad has always told me that I could have gray hair and grandchildren and I will still be his baby girl
As a married man I will say this…..
I asked for permission from both of my wife’s parents in a private sit down at their home prior to proposing. Showing transparency and a willingness to want to be part of their family shows that you respect the parents and your willing to put it all on the line for the women you love. To me when I asked, it was like I spilled my heart out to them and explained what my true intentions were with their daughter. I am now not only a husband, but also a father to 2 beautiful kids my wife has given me.
I expect the same level of respect and similar situation to when my daughter has a man in her life (many years from now)
I was my Daddy's little girl for 39 beautiful years. My husband asked his permission to marry me. He and my father then sat in my father's "office" (aka our back porch) and talked for hours over a congratulatory bottle of bourbon. They sat out there talking late into the night. I don't know what they spoke about and I didn't ask; I figured my father was laying out a plan or he was setting a few ground rules, either way they were great friends for many years. Before my father died of a terminal illness he told my husband it was up to him now to take care of me until I was old and gray. He promised he would..so far...he has kept his promise to him and to me. I wouldn't have had it any other way.
I am crying reading your comment 😭😭😭😭 thats so sweet and touching. God bless you marriage and your wonderful father!!!
@@luleetomas2108 Thank you!!! I sure do miss him!!
@@AdventuresOfBoxyBooAndFriends i miss mine too covid took him from me 😭😭😭😭
I wish I'd had the chance to have that with my fiancée.
Unfortunately, nearly two years into our relationship (not yet married, but engaged) she passed after a tragic car accident, which I witnessed.
I don't want to get into too much detail, but that broke me. I've never really been able to recover.
Now I have lung cancer, and I refuse to fight it even at only 27 years old.
I just want to see my Regina again. I just want to come home to her.
Never take what you have for granted. It can be ripped away from you by life, cruelly and viciously. Love each other, take care of each other. Feel happiness that I'll never possess myself.
Treasure every single moment you have with that person. They're all you've got, and vice versa.
@@Eye_Of_Odin978 wow 😮 so sad to hear that 😭😭😭😭 you been through so much and yet so young. Don’t give up.
“If you’re uncomfortable with those questions, you need not apply.” Perfectly sums it up. If you can’t stand up to me and honestly tell me you will provide for my daughter’s physical and emotional needs, walk away.
And what are you gonna do if she picks someone you don't like? You don't control or own your daughter. She's not properly. Once she's 18 she's an adult, it's her choice and you have no right to make that choice. Fkin men thinking they can control women's and actions and who they are with. Misogynistic af!
@@boojon2 I never said anything about having to like her partner, only that they will have to be an adequate provider and companion. My daughter knows that any less is a recipe for heartbreak down the road. There is nothing misogynistic in seeing that my children’s emotional and physical needs are met both now and in the future.
@@boojon2I agree. If my husband of 38-plus years asked my father, my father would have said something like, "Why are you asking me? My daughter is an adult." He would have said it politely but I know my father would have been disgusted and thought less of my husband. 😬
@@boojon2did you not watch the video? It's not a matter of giving her away to whoever he wants. It's the fact that if he is a good father then he has spent the last AT LEAST 18 years providing for his daughter and showing her how a man should treat her. At the end of the day it is the daughters choice but any man who wants to marry a girl like this man's daughter should be able to look him in the eyes and say that she will be well taken care of in every way.
Thank you. Your daughter is so fortunate to have a father like you.
Damn. That was so deep he didn’t even drink any coffee
This is the most important task a father has. To select the right man for his daughter. Of course he takes it seriously.
@@stewiesaidthat Ok thats what I said we aren’t arguing
Thinking the same. Don't think I've ever seen a clip without the sip.
The mug😢 😂
@@stewiesaidthatNot select but approve. He doesn't choose, she makes the choices and he decides whether or not to give his blessing.
Selection is what happens in many places in the world where child marriage and betrothal is prevalent
I have been blessed with a godly earthly father that taught me this. So grateful. My husband taught our daughters and son as well. We're not perfect, just forgiven by grace.
Beautiful!!
God bless your family in Jesus almighty name, God knows we need more families like yours.
The world would be a better place, if we had more dad’s like you! I would most likely be a different person if I had a dad, and if he was like you! You’re awesome
As a Mom of a teenage daughter, all I have to say is...Thank you.
Stop flirting
@@ricksomething dunce
My son married a girl whose father had passed away. He went to the cemetery in another state and knelt down next to his grave and asked her father for his blessing to marry his daughter. That’s the actions of a real man.❤️
Good job momma👍
Nah I don't talk to dead people. Something about them being dead and unable to respond seems to be an issue for me.
Sorry Hexi but great way to show the utter disrespect and rudeness of your generation. Congratulation’s on making a huge point so easily seen.
So, he's still waiting or did he have an epiphany?
Indeed
Thank you for being a strong man, husband and father to the ladies in your life.
I’ve been there and my daughter’s suitor was polite, promising but to my mind determined. It was his determination that struck me to the heart. Because if he could demonstrate that determination to me, no small feat, he had the ability to care for and protect my “ little girl” because that is what she will always be!
Now we have two Grandchildren, one his “ little girl “!
Wholesome 🥰
I'm so grateful that I was raised by loving parents, including a dad like this. I was picky about who I dated. I accepted my husband's proposal knowing that he had my dad's approval. I married a wonderful man and he is now a strong, caring, devoted dad, like my dad and like Nick. Dads are important ❤️
I asked my father in law for his permission, then after we talked he gave me his blessings. I then asked him for his advice. Been married for 8 years now and I still seek his advice on things to this day.
You are very blessed!!
@@dawnstonerock4253 and very wise.
My dad felt the same way. I agree with this idea. It may seem old fashioned but it is one of the traditions we should keep
As a 48yr old Man with 3 daughters and 4 granddaughters... I like the way you talk brother 👍🏿👏🏿💯
I remember the video well. People took issue with my comment because I said I didn’t want my husband asking my fathers permission. What I got from your video was that you’d done your job right enough so that your daughters WANTED him to ask your permission. That’s beautiful. I hope my daughters have that. Trust me - no one grieves the fact I didn’t have that more than me. Except perhaps my dad. I love my dad and we are good now, but there are situations where asking permission would be absolutely toxic. There are dads who didn’t take care of their daughters physical or emotional needs. As I said at the time - if you cannot relate you should be grateful for that. My dad would now say I made an excellent choice. But it took a few years and the breakdown of his own marriage to see that wealth of character and Godliness is worth more than bank balance.
Thank you for this! I'm one daughter with a father who didn't understand the entirety of a father's role in his daughter's life and abdicated. Over the years we each tried separately to make amends but sadly he died before healing could win out. Now there is an emptiness/unresolvediness lingering. I hope to heal my hurts now without him.
@@Marianne-kk1jnI am in that boat as well. But, I was fortunate to have a father like Nick in my mom's business partner.
I'm sorry for that but something to understand there is a difference between a dad and a father.
As a girl without a father, I can say that I would have loved having a dad like this to help me determine if a man had what it takes to be a good husband and father. Would have saved me years of heart aches.
My mom did this for me. I think she would have known better what would make a good husband for a woman than a man anyway, right? One of her gems, while I was dating a player I was head over heels in love with, was "Can you see him taking care of you if you got truly sick?" That was a huge lightbulb moment. Because, no. I now have a husband who has in fact taken care of me after a surgery and serious health issue. I don't know if a father would have thought to ask THAT question, they'd probably be more focused on employment type, protectiveness, etc. Things that I'm not nearly as concerned about and wouldn't have as much of an impact on the happiness of my marriage as a man who is thoughtful and caring.
My father passed away when I was a teenager and my husband, before asking me to marry him, went to my father's gravestone to ask for his permission. It was the most respectful thing and I am still grateful to this day. ❤
Nick, I truly appreciate your shorts. From what I have seen you are good father, husband and human. Praying God continues to bless you and your family.
Thank you! I’m trying!
@@NickjfreitasYou're doing a fantastic job! Keep up the great work!
I'm a fairly new father myself and I'm definitely taking these words for wisdom keep doing what you're doing brother there are some of us out here that do listen cuz that's exactly what I want for my daughter
You gotta be firm while they're very young then the teen years are easier.
How about you raise her to be her own person capable of taking care of herself? Instead of this "I will never accept that my child will become an adult"-paternalistic nonsense? Raising her to always NEED a man to protect her is raising her to be helpless when life goes wrong. Make her able to protect herself, to provide for herself, then any man will be just a nice extra instead of a must-have. Raising the bar for what kind of guy is worth spending her time with ... 🤷♀️ 😉
@@lt3746 Do you understand that there is a difference between "paternal" and "paternalistic"? And that teaching a daughter "you will always need someone else to take care of your physical and emotional needs because you will NEVER be adult enough to do it yourself" is stealing her freedom and HARMFUL?! You don't need to work so hard to keep your children small and incompetent to be a father, you can actually raise them to be grown adults in their own right and be a GOOD father.
My lady’s father had passed away prior to my asking her to be my wife. I STILL went to her mother and asked. I was a Marine. I had always had a sense of honor and I was honored that her mom gave an enthusiastic answer that was, “it’s about time!”
Property had ZERO to do with any thing. And yes, we have a daughter. We shall see how that goes.
Exactly! It's not an exchange of property, it's an exchange of responsibility. A father needs to make sure that the man who marries his daughter will do a worthy job of protecting, loving, and providing for her for the rest of her life, just as her father did from the beginning of it.
Thank you for saying this. I am a 37 year old woman, previously brainwashed by feminism to believe that the idea of getting permission / giving away a woman was because the father “owned” her. NO ONE ever explained that it was about a father being primarily charged with her protection (which I obviously did not have or maybe I would have figured this out sooner). The biggest problem in our society is fathers not being present and not providing and protecting their families….so thank you for educating people. 😊
Fathers are pushed away from their families, prevented from being in their lives, by the states enforcing the capricious vindictivness of mothers who have been encouraged to throw dad away. The laws all favor mom, and punish dad, supposedly not in the letter of the law, but certainly in the application
My father chose not to be in our lives after he remarried. He was not pushed out by anyone.
It saying I will protect her from the world so won't need to...as much..and it is respect.god bless
So the biggest problem in society is primarily caused by women.
Got it.
Amen.❤ This is a man and a Father. Be thankful they still exist.
Oh God this makes me wish I had a dad like this. Every single girl and boy deserves this kind of love
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Amen 🙏 Same
Jenna, you actually DO have a Father like this, but only BETTER!! Your Father in heaven. As you say, God. He loved you enough to give His only Son on the cross for you and me😊
Truth - wish the same! 😔
Yes sister..
Every little girl needs a father like this.
If she’s ready to marry. She’s not a little girl……
@@SirGrogg she is ALWAYS his little girl, no matter her age. That's how a good parent feels
@@SirGroggExactly 100% I was an adult when engaged 40 years ago. I was no longer, "Daddys little girl." I was my husband's of 38-plus years partner and he was and still is THE most important man in my life.
Kaboomski! Mic drop! Amen Nick! I have 4 daughters and 4 gentlemen came to me to ask permission and my blessings for my daughters. I pretty much knew at that time that they were worthy of my daughters. I’m a very blessed man. Keep up the great work Nick!
i asked my wifes father first, he broke down in tears and told me he never thought his little girl would have a man with a high enough character who would love her enough to ask his permission to marry her. He was proud of me, but more importantly, he was confident that I would take care of his little girl as good as he had her whole life simply because i had enough integrity to come to him first.
We need more good men like you
@Lulee Tomas should have a gander at this comment section lol. There are hundreds if not thousands or even 10s of thousands on just this showing just how many of us there are.
@@jacobjordan6406 that’s awesome 👏
Gigachad
@NeocrimsonX is that supposed to be an insult or are you just a beta?
I love hearing logic and reason coming from this man. It fills me with hope not everything has been lost and destroyed
Turn to Jesus
Logic and reason? This is just emotion disguised as stoicism. He FEELS uncomfortable with a stranger becoming important to his grown daughter because he still FEELS like she's still his young child - something he literally said. It's not logical. It's purely emotional. Which is fine, but don't try to act like it's not.
@@michaelscott3174 you're not wrong however your thoughts process is faulty. You can make logical decisions even if the root is based in emotions. Just because emotions are involved does not mean logic and reason are magically deleted. It's people's weakness that allows emotions to consume reason and stoicism is the practice of harnessing your emotions instead of allowing them to control you.
@@angramainyu4599 His emotions *are* getting in the way of his logic, though. He straight-up says that until she's married, he feels like he's responsible for her emotional well-being because in his mind she'll always be his "little girl". Tell me how that's not emotions getting in the way of rationality?
@@michaelscott3174 that is a difference in world view. He views it as his responsibility as a father to be the shield and sword that defends his daughter and until someone else is worthy of that responsibility he will carry it. You may view being a father differently and that is entirely your call. His emotions are not getting in the way of his logic they are the energy behind his logic which is formed from his life experience.
"because he has to be worthy of my little girl" this says it all in my opinion.
It's not that he needs "permission" he needs a reality check of what he's signing up for and whether or not he's ready to live up to being the man that she needs him to be.
Yes!! Praise God for Godly men.
My younger daughter got married several years ago. About 1 year prior, they were visiting us and I had to run out on an errand and boyfriend came with me. During the ride, he asked me for permission to marry my daughter. Absolutely blew me away. Very good guy, loves my daughter with all his heart.
Dang, that's a good point, when you've been responsible for someone's emotional well-being for years and someone else wants to take that over, you should ask some tough questions. After all, you know what she needs in terms of emotional support as again: you've done the job for years. You are a qualified interviewer.
As a father of three daughters, I approve of this message.
Bravo !!
Stated by you with love, caring, protection and adoration.
Every girl should be so lucky !
My Fiancee's mom and dad died when she was young. Her "Father" is the man who mostly raised her. I had to get his allowance to marry her. It was so sweet and nerve wracking.
Respect for ushering healthy, emotionally stable, and successful young women into this world. It’s the fathers not doing this who are the cause of sooooo much suffering (both for their daughters and everyone else).
I used to blame men primarily for this. But with how insufferable modern women are, plus the court system, my opinion has changed somewhat.
Women are initiating nearly 80% of all divorces, so if there are homewreckers it’s overwhelmingly women. That number should be roughly 50/50 assuming there are equal numbers of good and bad partners of both sexes, but it’s not even close.
Women also select who they procreate with, they have the sole power of who comes into the world. There will always be a small number of scumbag men. Women didn’t used to sleep with them at the rate they do now, which leads to all the single motherhood.
The only kind of man who would complain about asking a good father's permission is one who isn't worthy in the first place.
Or one that respects a person's autonomy...
@@maskofsan1ty again, it’s not that she’s his property. It’s that he loves her and has provided for her her entire life and if you respect her and her father, you’d want his approval. She can still legally marry him, it’s just a matter of her deciding if a man so disapproved of is worth possibly splitting the family apart.
@@maskofsan1ty Autonomy,... such a strange word to be associated with people.
"No Man Is An Island."
@@Bullzeye1000yds autonomy is the ability to self govern, not isolationism. The two aren't mutually exclusive.
In this case it means someone with autonomy can make decisions for themselves, without the permission of others. Obviously there are nuances here regarding legalities.
@@dibsdibs3495 if he has a son you can guarantee he wouldn't have these requirements. It's about controlling women.
Mr. Nick, This may be your best yet!! Even better, seeing how many people agree! Keep praying America, there's hope for us yet!! God Bless All of us, SY, gg
Ii hope all girls has an upstanding dad like this. They all need to know how worthy they are and to be treated like they are priceless!!!!
That is how you know this man loves his children.
Because he wants to control them?
@@maskofsan1ty no
@@maskofsan1ty 🤦♂😂 are you freaking serious
@@Swiftninjatrev explain how it's not controlling.
@@maskofsan1ty First off, what do you mean by controlling? Are you thinking of the overprotective helicopter parent?
Assuming a yes, I would say this. Here you have a father-- using Nick as an example, not all fathers are like him though -- who loves his daughter, who is competent and can probably see through any immature boy looking to marry her. If he says no, how the man responds is going to tell the father and his daughter a lot about his character. If he wouldn't respect her father, why would he respect her? I don't think it's as controlling as you think if the daughter has agreed with him on it and sees the value in his role. If she doesn't well, okay then, good luck to them both.
It's more wanting to help make sure she has found a good man more than anything. See it as giving advice, she's free to accept or discard it.
🥹🥹🥹 so beautifully said!!!! If only all daughters had a father like this.❤❤❤
You are such an Amazing Father! May God bless you and your family always🙏😊
As a woman who was raised with her father utterly absent..THANK YOU for stepping up, thank you for recognising the necessity and responsibility of your position as her father and as the father of your son/s too!
Well said and clarified. Respect and real love are essential. That means respecting who she is to her own father and mother.
You are such a refreshing “cup of goodness” in fatherhood. Thank you for being who you are, and for setting another man’s head straight.
What "goodness" is there?
Just because he says he doesn't see her as property, does not mean jack when he goes on to describe exactly how he treats her like property.
If he wants to protect her, he will realize that she is an individual who has to grow and learn. He should thus be interested in her relationships and boyfriends, not expect the boy to come to him. He should connect with the potential groom and learn what he is like and why she thinks he is great.
There is no genuine interest to do that shown here. Only a desire to control property.
Replace "my babygirl" with "my Jaguar S-type" and the entire rant would sound perfectly reasonable.
@@whitescar2they are his child. Of course he will want to protect her from other people. That’s not treating them as property that’s trying to be a parent and protecting your child from marrying a horrible person
Have so much respect for u Sir! Amazing father! she's blessed to have u as a father. Love ur channel and ur values u are sharing w men out there! They need this!
Bravo Dad! She will always be your little girl. Any Dad that cares already knows that!
THIS!! YOUR DAUGHTER IS SO BLESSED AND LUCKY TO HAVE A FATHER NOT ONLY IN HER LIFE, BUT ONE THAT CARES. SO MANY OF US DIDN'T. WELL DONE SIR!!
If all dads was that passionate about their kids the world might be a little better adjusted
Outstanding SFC, well stated and excellently verbalized
The world needs more dads like you! Then maybe we would be in a little less of a mess that we’re in now. The problem is… you have a bunch of dads (and moms) who just don’t care enough. Say it louder for the people in the back! 👏🏼
Spoken like a man who achieved the ultimate title, father. 👏
Yessir!
Amen!!!! I 💯 agree. As a daddy’s little girl, I wanted my future husband to ask my daddy for my hand in marriage. It showed me that he was going to be a real man and respect my father who was my protector who put the time in loving me, raising me, showing me what a real man should be and to have his approval of the man I was going to marry meant the world to me.
God bless you Nick. You are my Brother from another Mother😊
Daughters, Lord willing they have good fathers, should utilize a great asset. I told any guy that wanted to go out with me to ask my dad first. We agreed that they would ask him and I would tell him if I actually liked the guy or not. Took all the pressure off me. There was only one man that called and asked. 14 years later, it's been a ride to remember.
“Ride to remember.” Maybe a poor choice of words… 😅 Sorry.
Huge respect for such a healthy father daughter relationship. If he’s still around, give him a hug next time you see him.
I’m glad your father honored that agreement. That’s such a comfort to have as a daughter. Sadly, my father and I aren’t on the same page, it’s exhausting having to do the screening of my future spouse and know that my parents wouldn’t approve if it was Jesus himself.
?? Umm, r u saying that there's only been 1 man who showed interest in u and he approached ur dad b4 u and I've been together ever since, for 14 years? The way u worded it isn't clear enuf for my brain to follow, sorry.
@@tracytracy1030 but someone liked your comment.
@@tracytracy1030 lol. Co try to say something intelligent some time.
A good and competent father whom truly loves his daughter.
Every little girl needs a father like this one. ❤️
Sadly; Most don’t have a father like this. 😢
No, unfortunately, we all don't. But it is truly a blessing (even at 52 yo) to imagine what it would have been like with a father like him. I don't think he knows how special these videos really are. ❤
Some girls get a fine grand-daddy to make up for it though. And it doesn't have to be second best, coz the ol'timers sure do have a whole lot of wisdom and time too for their second time around little girls🥰
@@michellekozaczok8201 yes they do. Studies have shown that kids who grow up in a 2 parent household are better off than the kids who didn't grow up in a 2 parent household.
Or, they do have a father like that and are forever single.
@@tiredman99 ❤️
Amen!!! You will always be her #1 too. Such a great Dad. We need more men like you.
Thank you for demonstrating the way a man should stand up for his daughter. My husband does the same thing. We need more of yall in this world!
A real man, a real father protects his children for as long as he breaths, no matter what the cost.
My stache has turned grey. My youngest daughter wondered why. I told her I had daughters. She didn't understand, I wake up everyday wondering what am I going to do today to protect my daughters and my wife from the nastiness of our world.
@@glenncase3659 l hear you brother.... with sons you spend most of the time protecting the from their own stupidity, because we were all brave and stupid when we were young....lol
@@chefsam4760 Thanks. I came from a family of brothers, no sisters. This house full of females was something on a new level, but I embraced it.
Well I am immortal so I got my work cut out for me if I ever have a child. My evidence is my birth mother drowned me to death but I came back. I got sucked out to sea in 2004 and brought myself back to life. In 2007 I had a 4 foot in diameter lightning blast go threw my body and obliterate a tree that was 15 foot in diameter short but really fat tree. In 2012 I was in a hot tub that had its boiler over heat causing the hot tub to get to 248 degrees. It felt nice. One guy had to go to the hospital when he tested the temp with his finger and got second degree burn from a tiny drop of the water. Fire is useless to use against me. I do not really like cold weather so that might be my one and only weakness but no way in hell you are going to get me to Antarctica especially not easily. So good luck. :)
My dad told me not to marry my ex husband, I did it anyway. Always listen to your dad
EXACTLY! 1st one was in rebellion and ended horribly... then later married guy Dad wanted me to talk to and I'm happier despite our issues from previous relationships.
YES!! Your Daddy knows best when they have your best interests at heart!! ❤️
Not everyone has a decent dad, though. I sure didn't.
@@BeRightBack131 which is why I said they only know best when they have your best interests at heart! 🥺 I know some dad are not good but others did the best they could and turned out to be pretty good.
@@BeRightBack131 More chance of having a decent dad than the guy you dating is decent though
Man, i'm so glad i find your channel, you literally are changing my view on life
We need alot more loving Dads like you. Your daughter's are so lucky! God's Blessings!
As a father of two girls….. AMEN brother!!!
That's literally what walking her down the aisle is. It's handing over responsibility for her protection.
As a fellow veteran and father of two adult daughters, I couldn’t have said it better!
You are a great dad and protector for your little girl.
Wise words! A bad spouse can ruin many lives- a real dad would know his daughter best and should be there to help her especially in such life changing choices
In the end he will ask anyways and if you raise her right she’ll think for herself not what daddy thinks and sometimes daddy is the one who’s wrong
@@wolf2966truth!!!
Not only does it show a sign of respect for her dad, but also a sign to her of how much respect you have for her family and wanting to become part of it. To go a step farther, ask both parents for permission, and now you show respect to her mom also. She had a part in raising her and giving her values that you may or may not like.
I chose both and have been married for over 20 yrs.
i didn't ask my wife's parents. i don't give a fuck what he thinks. we are starting a new family, i am not trying to become part of them. her dad was upset that i didn't ask, he got over it. or not. don't care.
I see where you're coming from, but if the mom is a good one, her involvement will be whether or not the lady says yes. 😊
Amen! May God bless this man! 🇺🇸⛪🙏🕊
I asked for her parents' blessing, but it didn't go how I'd imagined it would. My future wife had flown overseas for a conference and I finally had a chance to approach her parents without her knowing. When her mother opened up the door she burst into tears because she thought her daughter had died in a plane crash because I'd never visited by myself before. And then I just had to blurt out that I was asking permission to marry their daughter. More tears but happy tears.
That's a rollacosta ride
Aw man lol poor mom.
Horrible & Yet Hilarious‼️
Blessings of ✨🤍✨Life 🫠
not funny at the time, but certainly funny after. LOL
There was a guy I dated for a little while and he got to meet my parents. He never once looked my dad in the eye, not even when saying hello. I kept that in mind when other problems crept up. Glad that relationship didn't last long and thankful for what I learned.
That’s called Godly discernment. Glad you were aware!
I totally agree. Thank you for protecting your little girl!
My Dad had my future husband help him clean his guns while watching a hunting show. We’re still happily married 37 years.
Lol🙂 your daddy's a smart man
Spoken like a real father
Exactly 💯 it's an unwritten law 😊
Goosebumps!!! I saw that video. I’m a girl and I can honestly say that your daughter is very lucky to have you as her daddy! You are unequivocally the sweetest and most badass daddy EVER! ❤
Dead on. "Now, let me clarify something for you..." and "You need not apply." Well said.🎯🎯🎯. Of course your daughter's not your property; she's far more precious than that!!
Property can be replaced.
PREACH! My little girl is married and having her first little girl. Her husband and I had great conversations while they dated about his role in her life, respect, honor, how he intended to love and care for her. I don't worry about how those 2, soon to be 3, are doing. I know they are focused on the right things.
As it should be!!❤❤
I wish every little girl had a dad like this! 💗
Sir, MUCH respect! This is so well articulated, and exactly how I feel about that subject with my daughters.
I’ve always been a daddy’s girl. My dad never coached me or told me what to look for in a man, only what to see as red flags and that I needed to have self respect. I knew from the moment I started thinking about “liking” boys, that they would need to get my dad’s permission before we dated. Not because he demanded it, but because I wanted them to respect my family and myself to know that they were making a serious commitment. I did not stick to this belief as much as I should have (rebellious phase, did not end well), I eventually came back to reality and have now been happily married for 4 years to an amazing man that did ask my dad first. :)
You go, dad! You're correct. Your daughters are blessed to have you. And he would be blessed to have you as a father in law. Better to have you on his team then on the opposing team.
Thank you for showing the best way! I certainly wish my father could've shown me the same love and caring but he only understood and therefore cared about his sons.
I am 70 years old and would love to have had a father like you who loved, protected, honored and cherished his daughters.
God bless you. I pray she knows and is aware how blessed she is to have you for a father.
I wish my father was not an absentee father. God bless this man.
As a father, I approve this message.
I have a lot of respect for this man. And I hope to have a child one day so I can understand the feeling behind "she's my little girl, and that's what she'll always be to me."
I lost my dad when I was 22, and I was primarily raised by my mother. I wish I had a dad like you. I can tell you, I have had so many men treat me wrong because I had no blueprint for how they should act. I respect you. Lucky girls, that is what your daughters are.
I prefer the terminology “blessing” rather than “permission”. For me, it shifts the focus from “allowing” your daughter to do something to showing her your support and affirming you believe this is the right choice for her. Just a thought 🤷🏻♀️, no controversy intended. I wish more girls had dads that care about them as much as you obviously care about your daughter!
Approval also works, could also think of it is as earning his respect.
I think Nick mentioned this in the previous vid on this but it's not about a father deciding who his daughter marries, it's about raising her in such a way that she seeks his approval.
In part out of love and respect, but also there are likely going to be traits in her father that she seeks in a husband - it makes sense that she'd want her father to like the man she marries.
The father grants blessing to his daughter. The man needs permission to pursue the engagement.
@@MGShadow1989 I like the idea of framing it as "earning his respect" too. That's a great way of looking at it. I totally agree that it's about raising your child in such a way that they seek their parents' approval, and when I think about it like that it also can apply to both genders and both parents. If I had a son, as his mother, I'd also hope to build the kind of relationship in which he would seek my approval of his future wife. Great perspective.
@@clw87 - I suspect I speak for many men that I hope my mum likes who I eventually marry, lol
@@brunonaccarato6219 YES, thank you. As a woman I approve of this.
The only reason this isn't it is if the dad is a loser/crapweasal/a**holes.
If you have an ok or better dad and you don't want your future husband to get your dad's permission then that says more about you than anyone else.