I feel the pain in that letter, too. Made me very angry, and sad, and hurt! One rule I always have about the woman I am with is that I will build her up as often as possible...I don't have anyone right now, but when I do get someone she's gonna know that I value her! (Time for me to calm down, now...omg...)
Thank you Susan. In my late 40’s following a divorce I had this happen to me but he was soooo subtle and covert in his methods I had NO IDEA it was a manipulation game at the time. I was constantly an emotional train wreck for our three years together and was so confused by the constant triangulation. He would never compliment or express adoration of me but would go ON AND ON about exes. When I would speak up about the discomfort of that he would viciously point at me and say “you are crazy, you are a jealous woman” when in reality he orchestrated the whole thing. I had never known myself to be jealous but he had me doubting myself. Now I understand he was trying to CONTROL ME as you have explained. Was soul shattering at the time because I believed him. I loved him dearly and had him on a pedestal. I see it so clearly now after walking 4 yrs ago. I saw him recently at a party and quickly noticed what I never saw when I was with him; insecure, blank, empty, shallow. IT WASN’T ME AT ALL. IT WAS HIM ALL ALONG! I was used and played and what a blessing that I escaped. Appreciate your permission to ghost and that I have done, yeahhhh! That is hard for me to do because I’m an empath. Got my power back baby!! So grateful for your wisdom and comfort!! You GET IT, thank you!!
Susan, i am so glad i kept watching your videos for all this time. I hope you remember me, lol. About two years ago i was dating a man nine years older than me. At first he made me feel amazing, even though he never told me i was beautiful. Two months into the relationship he started staring at other women. This of course made me feel horrible. Believe i am not an ugly woman, i can tell you i am attractive and smart but his behavior made me feel ugly, so ugly. We were together on and off for about a year until i finally had it and let him go for good. I still missed him but this video has changed my mind for good. It’s not me, its him the insecure. He did not appreciate the gem 💎 that i am. This video is a gift and i am thankful i watched it. Thank you 🙏🏼 for being so amazing and for helping so many people feel good. Life is so precious, we cannot waste it with mediocre people. Love you, Susan! 🌸
"Two months into the relationship he started staring at other women. " I don't think it has anything to do with your being ugly. you don't look it. If he considered you ugly to begin with he would not have approached you in the first place. I think he lost interest, but he should have been honest with you. I think if he was you two could have sparked something. He lost an opportunity in personal growth. Susan Winters and her videos are a real gem.
Once you overcome this you will realize it’s a tactic by an insecure and hurt individual who was taught wrong, who likely has had many a failure as a result of this tactic but doesn’t associate it with the tactic, seeks to dominate because they neither know love nor feel they’re worthy of it. Don’t be a relationship prop for someone who doesn’t deserve one but wrangles you into looking like he can be partnered by belittling you.
It’s time to stay awake and realize the wow about it . “The kind of partner who wants you to shine next to them.. “ bam, Susan you called it again! This is a good reminder to us all.
If a man tries to break you down like that , why you not running out the door immediately? No man or woman , no matter how you feel is worth your self esteem, self value etc etc . That kind of behaviour is narcissistic abuse , run for the hills already . Listen to Susan 🙏🏻💖💖💖
POWERFUL:"we don't need to control and put down somebody who has no power". this is SO TRUE. and also applicable outside love relationships. i am going through the same thing with my boss currently who gaslights me, puts me down, never appreciates efforts made, always a snide comment, etc. and i have noticed how he sees himself as inferior to me because i managed more than he did in just 2 years. he thought he was getting rid of me but i landed a contract in the company after my apprenticeship and i was ECSTATIC to rub it in his porky hairy face.
We need a love button on UA-cam ☺️ I also think some people with avoidant attachment LOOK for flaws in you to find an excuse to push you away. It’s like their subconscious defence mechanism. Still not cool by any means!
After you told him how bad his behavior made you feel and he still continued? He's not worth the dirt under your feet. Tell him to watch your dust as you walk away or ghost him and block him. Not worth the pain!!
Look at the visual composition, Susan is so good at it, the white of the seating, the green foliage out the window, the color of the pink flowers and how it all works with Susan’s complexion and wonderful dress, it’s all put together with a warm and healing consciousness that perfectly delivers a great message.
I'm 47, woman I'm dating is 54. She is amazing. Smart, beautiful, successful. And more importantly, we make each other so happy. She's the total package. In my opinion, she is more successful than me and I've told her that. I love bragging about her. She just got promoted (again) and I'm behind her 100% and would never think of getting in her way. She knows I support her and we have a beautiful thing because I'm not intimidated or jealous of her success. The fact that this amazing woman wants to be with me is a testament to who I am as a man and partner. I'm so lucky to have her.
Listen to what she is SAYING! I've been in this situation and Susan is soooooooooo right 100% This has nothing to do with you its the other person. I know you may think its crazy but susan is soooooo right. I learned the hard way.
Its that normal, that 'dating game' is an appropriate a term. As 'Crime Stoppers' commented just above you. Its entirely normal for women to do these things, 'for fun'. I don't know about men doing the same to women so much, but then I've never seen a TV audience roar with laughter at the sexual assault, physical assault and attempted murder of a woman. I have for a man, on western mainstream media.
@Karen Alden Not normal as in by moral standards or likely frequency of experience? It is not normal for all people. It perhaps never used to be normal. On the other hand it never used to be normal to pretend that women are not sexual or that they didn't do what now is considered sexual assault - as plenty of old timers who know what a country full of factories and real economic development is like to live in, pre feminist take over, can and could still tell anyone who cares to ask. Women are not recorded as frequently as being abusive. However that doesn't mean women are less abusive, and anyone that actaully wants to find out will find that women are incredibly abusive and that it is far far too frequently ignored. You think my comment is disgusting I think people with your mind set are incredibly disgusting. Covering up and demanding silence from those that will speak out exposing what huge numbers of women do and are continuing to do. Initially I was going to respond you personally more politely but there is no need to do that with someone that treats men and boys as inhuman.
@Karen Alden Oh and cut the BS you are just another feminist that would bomb and kill to suppress the truth about female domestic and sexual violence, with your attitude. Just like those feminists that attacked Erin Pizzey. The founder of shelters. You want to claim she said similar to the nonsense you just spouted about women not being abusive? People like you are terrifying.
Hi Susan! Fantastic video. Some people has asked you why is to be with a such insecure person with controlling behavior. The point is that until the person takes a pausa in relationships they do not find a truth. The truth is that there is nothing wrong with them. While we live with such person we donot realise it until we end to depression or other situasjon where we have to act or ask for help. The question is why to come back to such person or whether they will change. They change only if we set up boundaries and show that we know the truth about ourselves. But this is not only private life situasion. It can be boss-employer situation, parents-child. Anywhere. This is important. To set boundaries.
Wow. This hit home. I've experienced this as well with the ex-narcissist. While he didn't attack my appearance, he would always compare me to his ex who was very active physically. He was also very insecure of the university I went to (even though I never brought it up) and he would throw the multiple degrees he obtained in my face and tell me he was smarter. Once you are away from someone like this, you stop listening to their poisonous words and realize that you were worthwhile all along. This is why- when we ran into each other a few years later- I knew that I would NEVER give this man another chance to make me feel small.
Best video ever! I went through this all under the flag of friendship. First he got to know my weak points then he used my insecurities against me. Never again. My power comes from within and I am content with it. I don’t need another’s approval. I know who I am and what I want to become now, but had to put quite a lot of work in it. The funny thing is he crawls back to you at the end because noone wants to put up with his shit. Work on yourself and surround yourself with people who lift you up. People can change if they want to, but you can’t help him. He has to be able to face his issues and grow. If he is able to grow.
Wow!!! I was in a narcissist relationship for three years. He gaslighted me throughout the whole thing I can't tell you how much this video resonated in me. I am still learning to love myself but what you said was extremely powerful thank you ❤️💗💜
That’s too sad .It was tried on me for years . When I left I realised it was abusive .I got my groove and confidence back by changing my hair ,styling etc and chose to be exactly Me .I never permitted any man to do this again .
Wow, I so desperately needed this. I left 5 weeks ago and the reality of how disturbingly sick and horrible our relationship was is finally hitting me and how he is truly a souless heartless human human being and he eroded a part of me away he chipped away at who I am as a person as a human being and as a woman and to hear you explain it like that it just gives me so much closure, you have no idea and I thank you so much, by the end of our 14 months I felt like an ugly worthless fat disgusting putrid piece of crap that didn't knowno up from down anymore. thank you and I'm so glad you were a suggested video for me to watch I have subscribed and I look forward hearing and learning more from you. Thank you so much
Thank you for this Susan! This was my ex, everything you explained was what he tried to do to me. In the end I left him and walked away, never came back and now being 10 months of no contact I realized I was better off without him lol. Love your videos!!
This was so insightful. I've been feeling/thinking that i was the only person going through this. Its comforting to know im not crazy and imagining this. This shed a lot of light for me.
Honesty is the best antidote to game players. They can't stand it and quite frankly fear it. Call them out on their behaviour in a joking manner and see how they react...it is always an amusing thing to see.
☀️🎉🌟🧨🎉🌟🧨🎉🌟🧨🎉💫✨ Great Power 💥☄️ does !!! 02:23 ‘mn flok ‘ 03:33 Obviously u r attractive and desirable to this man... otherwise he wouldn’t need u not to know ur worth and play such complex games 😒😌 “ a secure comfortable person would be proud of their mate “ but insecure 😟 person “ will never want u to know how great u r...so that u don’t leave them “ 05:34 These case and such ppl r legibly of ghosting 👻 bcoz of the toxicity they r spreading... 07:09 They only error we had was to put them on a pedestal and let them lead u on
This has every woman i liked thrown in my face even before first date. It results in me ignoring them and i never talk to them again. If you women wanna get ignored by somebody you like, this is master class how to get rejected in warp speed. It seem to be boosting your ego´s at the time, but when you realize that you actually just lost him, it´s no fun no more!? Someone that plans harm or misfortune for others may also inadvertently be the recipient of that same misfortune.
Spot on Susan. Had a boyfriend like this college, dated for 4 years. Now midde aged and didn't realize until recently it had effected my recent relationships. Abuse in any form is destructive years after it is done to you. Get out asap and kick their arse to the curb and don't look back.
@@SusanWinter Hey Susan it looks like you accidentally have Capslock on again :/ I was surprised when you said that you only learnt to type recently. You could have been typing on some oldschool IBM or Apple system. You walk around with a clipboard lol but if your workflow includes a lot of typing then learning proper keyboarding technique may make your work flow more enjoyable. You could also try a mechanic keyboard with say Cherry MX blue switches for more tactile feedback than a chiclet style keyboard. You only have to press the keys halfway for them to register. If you want to make typing more enjoyable for yourself and step up your typing game you could get *Johnny make it work* to have you try different keyboards XD
This totally resonated with me. He had made me feel so worthless; but I allowed it- over and over again. Even a random compliment from a stranger would move me to tears; I felt so low about myself. The perfect storm allowed a strong, grounded individual like me to become involved with this energy. It was a tough lesson but it changed me, completely, for the better. So, to Amna, hang in there! Feel our love and positive vibes and know that your next guy.... he'll thank this one for being such a jerk and cutting you loose :)
Elsa B i agree! Didn’t know it at the time but after researching it after the fact realized what I was dealing with. Doing the happy dance that I escaped.
When they know there is nothing attractive about themselves they try to make you feel bad about yourself in every possible way they can but the scariest thing is they are closest to your heart so even if they aren't true even if you leave them it's gonna leave a permanent mark But remember you're the strongest bcoz you didn't punched them in face they should thank you for it🙂
This happen to me last person I dated he said he doesn’t like giving out compliments, told me I don’t speak soft enough to appeal to him, didn’t like me having certain hairstyles or certain colour make up, he was very fussy, eventually I got fed up and left as I started to feel very heavy and insecure around him and I knew what he was saying was nonsense ☹️ now I feel so much better he’s out my life and the irony is he now blames me why it didn’t work 👎🏾👎🏾 I said good bye and wish you all the best.
My EX Avoidant Dissmissive....almost as bad as a narcissist......he disagrees and says it's his ADD.......never had a real long term relationship his entire life at 53........
Thank you for mentioning "straight or gay". I LOVE your videos and have been a subscriber for over a year now. I've found so much useful and healing information from you but I'm a lesbian and sometimes I wonder if the same things apply to me and dating women.
Susan my ex telling me about the dates hes dating, I said he has issues. 59 yrs old divorced ex gf left him cause he not ready to marry her she left. He knows I am dating others. He got mad because I'm spending time with another guy. Its business only. So he emailed me this morning saying we need to part ways. I said okay. I'm like god I did not ask for this. He says hes attracted to me. But we want different things not true. Susan. Another one bites the dust!.. I told him I will continue to date others. You are. Is he playing the jealous game. ? He stated I should have told him I was going to chicago to visit.i felt like it was none of his business.
I just love when I hear about guys like this because it is balanced all out :)))))) She stays with him, she enjoys the thrill, if she was respected and loved she would have lost interest and would have ran a long time ago, but no :))))))
Hi dear, If she broke up with me at 2nd time within 6 months....and i completed no contact of 45 days still she could not came back and did't unblocked me social media ...last time she came back on my birthday but now no such special days I try to reach out by sharing songs in youTube there also she blocked me there also..help out please...Thank you
1.The good news is I'm still attracting good looking men at 60;2. the next good news is this so called good behavior lasts at most x 3 -4 max dates, sadly the Fake Good Man behavior disappears and a cruel made up rude man appears, the next day the 2 minute moment of " my personality sinned in his eyes" which we discussed I bring it up in jest to test a conflict or not;he is 9 times out of ten seriously yelling over the phone again. So I just did this again uncovered a cruel jealous man in 72 hours. I will not date a liar, cruel, mean , friend so why would I depend on this behavior for my life partner. Hope that made sense. Next! Is very important for a 60 year old . There is no time for time wasters!!!
I honestly am not sure if he is creating jealousy or what. I have been with this guy and we have been so close and romantic. He travels a lot and has a few different jobs. A year ago this woman showed up in his work circle first. So I didn’t think much of it. She is 8 years older than him and divorced. He has never been married. But she is seemingly rich. So he usually is alone when he wants to take a break and I cannot be there but every now and then there is this woman in a picture with her hands around him. He chats with me everyday when he is away. Multiple times a day and every night till post midnight but then again, one picture or another is bothersome. He knows I don’t like her and he doesn’t talk about her or post anything about her on the social media but she posts a picture here and there. In the past whenever another woman showed up in my relationship, I left. I don’t want to do that anymore. I don’t want to let go of a hearty relationship that still keeps me happy for a woman who has decided to barge in my life. Any advice, Susan? Thank you!
I have had 2 men do this to me my ex husband and a man I went out with years ago he would buy women drinks when I went to the toilet and said I was insecure! They were both narcissists I know now.
My ex, would never do that...only one time...I had called and he was over this date he had...(I called to get him back) but he was into this other one....
I’m certain he is a hillbilly so I wouldn’t let it get to you YOU NEED TO LEARN TO THANK GOD/ THE UNIVERSE/ YOUR GUARDIAN ANGELS FOR SHOWING YOU THIS! YOU ARE WORTH IT! YOUR EVERYTHING HES INSECURE! You are a beautiful soul! He’s insecure probably has mommy issues! Smile beautiful!🙏🏼💜🦋 1111
Can you do a video on why an ex boyfriend or someone you used to date exclusively would try and hurt you and how to react? Mine sent me a video of him having sex with another woman so I blocked him and then he text me the next day from another number saying it wasn’t him in the video. I’ve dated some assholes in my life but never at this level.
"Here is where I approve of ghosting"...Susan you rock!!!!!
M. Thompson yes loved the permission to do this!! Hard for me because I want to be kind.... but f**k that shit with game players
Pop smoke and ghost em
There are other reasons to ghost:
Abuse
Neglect
Exploitation
Cheating
Breadcrumbing…
You end up finding out how small that person is after they've tried to break you down. What a shame. Thank you, Susan, for your wise words!
I feel the pain in that letter, too. Made me very angry, and sad, and hurt! One rule I always have about the woman I am with is that I will build her up as often as possible...I don't have anyone right now, but when I do get someone she's gonna know that I value her! (Time for me to calm down, now...omg...)
And I find it hard to believe that someone tried that on Susan Winter - but then again, based on the explanation, I get it...(she's a foxy momma!)
Thank you Susan. In my late 40’s following a divorce I had this happen to me but he was soooo subtle and covert in his methods I had NO IDEA it was a manipulation game at the time.
I was constantly an emotional train wreck for our three years together and was so confused by the constant triangulation. He would never compliment or express adoration of me but would go ON AND ON about exes. When I would speak up about the discomfort of that he would viciously point at me and say “you are crazy, you are a jealous woman” when in reality he orchestrated the whole thing. I had never known myself to be jealous but he had me doubting myself. Now I understand he was trying to CONTROL ME as you have explained.
Was soul shattering at the time because I believed him. I loved him dearly and had him on a pedestal. I see it so clearly now after walking 4 yrs ago. I saw him recently at a party and quickly noticed what I never saw when I was with him; insecure, blank, empty, shallow. IT WASN’T ME AT ALL. IT WAS HIM ALL ALONG! I was used and played and what a blessing that I escaped.
Appreciate your permission to ghost and that I have done, yeahhhh! That is hard for me to do because I’m an empath. Got my power back baby!! So grateful for your wisdom and comfort!! You GET IT, thank you!!
Susan, i am so glad i kept watching your videos for all this time. I hope you remember me, lol. About two years ago i was dating a man nine years older than me. At first he made me feel amazing, even though he never told me i was beautiful. Two months into the relationship he started staring at other women. This of course made me feel horrible. Believe i am not an ugly woman, i can tell you i am attractive and smart but his behavior made me feel ugly, so ugly. We were together on and off for about a year until i finally had it and let him go for good. I still missed him but this video has changed my mind for good. It’s not me, its him the insecure. He did not appreciate the gem 💎 that i am. This video is a gift and i am thankful i watched it. Thank you 🙏🏼 for being so amazing and for helping so many people feel good. Life is so precious, we cannot waste it with mediocre people.
Love you, Susan! 🌸
If he truly loved you, he would leave his wife and put his ALL into being
You sound like a lovely person Vivana, I hope you are in a happier place now.
Hi from the UK 👋.. I stumbled on this channel, soooo glad i did!
@@summertime1875 My name is Badr Khaloush I would like to share and talk to you
"Two months into the relationship he started staring at other women. " I don't think it has anything to do with your being ugly. you don't look it. If he considered you ugly to begin with he would not have approached you in the first place. I think he lost interest, but he should have been honest with you. I think if he was you two could have sparked something. He lost an opportunity in personal growth. Susan Winters and her videos are a real gem.
Insecurity on their part? Absolutely! Definitely about them not you. Get away from them,and don't look back!!
Ok, on my way to you lol
Watching Susan cry makes me cry.
Thank you for creating a more empathetic world
Once you overcome this you will realize it’s a tactic by an insecure and hurt individual who was taught wrong, who likely has had many a failure as a result of this tactic but doesn’t associate it with the tactic, seeks to dominate because they neither know love nor feel they’re worthy of it. Don’t be a relationship prop for someone who doesn’t deserve one but wrangles you into looking like he can be partnered by belittling you.
Thanks for that, triangulation is what it is and it sucks. Especially when I left a narcissist.
It’s time to stay awake and realize the wow about it . “The kind of partner who wants you to shine next to them.. “ bam, Susan you called it again! This is a good reminder to us all.
If a man tries to break you down like that , why you not running out the door immediately? No man or woman , no matter how you feel is worth your self esteem, self value etc etc . That kind of behaviour is narcissistic abuse , run for the hills already . Listen to Susan 🙏🏻💖💖💖
I had this told my counselor about and he said he was a narrsisist. I dumped him.
POWERFUL:"we don't need to control and put down somebody who has no power". this is SO TRUE. and also applicable outside love relationships. i am going through the same thing with my boss currently who gaslights me, puts me down, never appreciates efforts made, always a snide comment, etc. and i have noticed how he sees himself as inferior to me because i managed more than he did in just 2 years. he thought he was getting rid of me but i landed a contract in the company after my apprenticeship and i was ECSTATIC to rub it in his porky hairy face.
We need a love button on UA-cam ☺️ I also think some people with avoidant attachment LOOK for flaws in you to find an excuse to push you away. It’s like their subconscious defence mechanism. Still not cool by any means!
After you told him how bad his behavior made you feel and he still continued? He's not worth the dirt under your feet. Tell him to watch your dust as you walk away or ghost him and block him. Not worth the pain!!
Annie Portier - What I had to do.
Look at the visual composition, Susan is so good at it, the white of the seating, the green foliage out the window, the color of the pink flowers and how it all works with Susan’s complexion and wonderful dress, it’s all put together with a warm and healing consciousness that perfectly delivers a great message.
Susan, thank you so very much for all your wise comments...you are helping me thru a relationship that I should of left along time ago.....
This is profoundly liberating. I had tears all the time i watched. Lots and lots of love to you Susan... You're a blessing for us all!!
Yeh who are u have met
I'm 47, woman I'm dating is 54. She is amazing. Smart, beautiful, successful. And more importantly, we make each other so happy. She's the total package. In my opinion, she is more successful than me and I've told her that. I love bragging about her. She just got promoted (again) and I'm behind her 100% and would never think of getting in her way. She knows I support her and we have a beautiful thing because I'm not intimidated or jealous of her success. The fact that this amazing woman wants to be with me is a testament to who I am as a man and partner. I'm so lucky to have her.
Listen to what she is SAYING! I've been in this situation and Susan is soooooooooo right 100% This has nothing to do with you its the other person. I know you may think its crazy but susan is soooooo right. I learned the hard way.
Not a dating game. Cluster b behaviour. Run as fast as you can!
Its that normal, that 'dating game' is an appropriate a term. As 'Crime Stoppers' commented just above you. Its entirely normal for women to do these things, 'for fun'. I don't know about men doing the same to women so much, but then I've never seen a TV audience roar with laughter at the sexual assault, physical assault and attempted murder of a woman. I have for a man, on western mainstream media.
@Karen Alden Not normal as in by moral standards or likely frequency of experience? It is not normal for all people. It perhaps never used to be normal. On the other hand it never used to be normal to pretend that women are not sexual or that they didn't do what now is considered sexual assault - as plenty of old timers who know what a country full of factories and real economic development is like to live in, pre feminist take over, can and could still tell anyone who cares to ask.
Women are not recorded as frequently as being abusive. However that doesn't mean women are less abusive, and anyone that actaully wants to find out will find that women are incredibly abusive and that it is far far too frequently ignored.
You think my comment is disgusting I think people with your mind set are incredibly disgusting. Covering up and demanding silence from those that will speak out exposing what huge numbers of women do and are continuing to do.
Initially I was going to respond you personally more politely but there is no need to do that with someone that treats men and boys as inhuman.
@Karen Alden Oh and cut the BS you are just another feminist that would bomb and kill to suppress the truth about female domestic and sexual violence, with your attitude. Just like those feminists that attacked Erin Pizzey. The founder of shelters. You want to claim she said similar to the nonsense you just spouted about women not being abusive?
People like you are terrifying.
Hi Susan! Fantastic video. Some people has asked you why is to be with a such insecure person with controlling behavior. The point is that until the person takes a pausa in relationships they do not find a truth. The truth is that there is nothing wrong with them. While we live with such person we donot realise it until we end to depression or other situasjon where we have to act or ask for help. The question is why to come back to such person or whether they will change. They change only if we set up boundaries and show that we know the truth about ourselves. But this is not only private life situasion. It can be boss-employer situation, parents-child. Anywhere. This is important. To set boundaries.
Wow. This hit home. I've experienced this as well with the ex-narcissist. While he didn't attack my appearance, he would always compare me to his ex who was very active physically. He was also very insecure of the university I went to (even though I never brought it up) and he would throw the multiple degrees he obtained in my face and tell me he was smarter. Once you are away from someone like this, you stop listening to their poisonous words and realize that you were worthwhile all along. This is why- when we ran into each other a few years later- I knew that I would NEVER give this man another chance to make me feel small.
Best video ever! I went through this all under the flag of friendship. First he got to know my weak points then he used my insecurities against me. Never again. My power comes from within and I am content with it. I don’t need another’s approval. I know who I am and what I want to become now, but had to put quite a lot of work in it. The funny thing is he crawls back to you at the end because noone wants to put up with his shit. Work on yourself and surround yourself with people who lift you up. People can change if they want to, but you can’t help him. He has to be able to face his issues and grow. If he is able to grow.
Wow!!! I was in a narcissist relationship for three years. He gaslighted me throughout the whole thing I can't tell you how much this video resonated in me. I am still learning to love myself but what you said was extremely powerful thank you ❤️💗💜
That’s too sad .It was tried on me for years . When I left I realised it was abusive .I got my groove and confidence back by changing my hair ,styling etc and chose to be exactly Me .I never permitted any man to do this again .
Wow, I so desperately needed this. I left 5 weeks ago and the reality of how disturbingly sick and horrible our relationship was is finally hitting me and how he is truly a souless heartless human human being and he eroded a part of me away he chipped away at who I am as a person as a human being and as a woman and to hear you explain it like that it just gives me so much closure, you have no idea and I thank you so much, by the end of our 14 months I felt like an ugly worthless fat disgusting putrid piece of crap that didn't knowno up from down anymore. thank you and I'm so glad you were a suggested video for me to watch I have subscribed and I look forward hearing and learning more from you. Thank you so much
Thank you for this Susan! This was my ex, everything you explained was what he tried to do to me. In the end I left him and walked away, never came back and now being 10 months of no contact I realized I was better off without him lol.
Love your videos!!
This was so insightful. I've been feeling/thinking that i was the only person going through this. Its comforting to know im not crazy and imagining this. This shed a lot of light for me.
Healthy comfortable people dont make you feel uncomfortable . Yesss susan
Fantastic video, makes me see things soo clearly now, You are a blessing in helping us !
Im in total agree with you and thank you for good common sense and have control&real truth-have a very good day to you too.
Thank you for sharing that moment of vulnerability Susan. That was powerful..
Honesty is the best antidote to game players. They can't stand it and quite frankly fear it. Call them out on their behaviour in a joking manner and see how they react...it is always an amusing thing to see.
Thank you for this beautiful message. I figured he was trying to make me leave and so I did. But O M G I was so very in LOVE with that man.
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Great Power 💥☄️ does !!!
02:23 ‘mn flok ‘
03:33 Obviously u r attractive and desirable to this man... otherwise he wouldn’t need u not to know ur worth and play such complex games 😒😌
“ a secure comfortable person would be proud of their mate “ but insecure 😟 person “ will never want u to know how great u r...so that u don’t leave them “
05:34 These case and such ppl r legibly of ghosting 👻 bcoz of the toxicity they r spreading...
07:09 They only error we had was to put them on a pedestal and let them lead u on
Gold Medal 🥇 wear it proudly,
Dear Susan!!!!
First video of yours I have listened to and maybe the best piece of advice in weeks.
This has every woman i liked thrown in my face even before first date. It results in me ignoring them and i never talk to them again. If you women wanna get ignored by somebody you like, this is master class how to get rejected in warp speed. It seem to be boosting your ego´s at the time, but when you realize that you actually just lost him, it´s no fun no more!? Someone that plans harm or misfortune for others may also inadvertently be the recipient of that same misfortune.
It’s great to see a mature woman giving dating advice! So tired of seeing young woman telling mature woman how to date, that just does not work!
Thank you, I love your perspective on these topics! I was in this situation for many years and I’m glad I was able to leave it.
Keep it going Susan!
Keep focusing on self esteem, with the BS we are dealing with. I believe it’s your nitch!
Well said, thank you!!
Spot on Susan. Had a boyfriend like this college, dated for 4 years. Now midde aged and didn't realize until recently it had effected my recent relationships. Abuse in any form is destructive years after it is done to you. Get out asap and kick their arse to the curb and don't look back.
Love your videos, very insightful - Thank you
HI ADVENTURE TUBE!! THANK YOU
@@SusanWinter Hey Susan it looks like you accidentally have Capslock on again :/ I was surprised when you said that you only learnt to type recently. You could have been typing on some oldschool IBM or Apple system. You walk around with a clipboard lol but if your workflow includes a lot of typing then learning proper keyboarding technique may make your work flow more enjoyable.
You could also try a mechanic keyboard with say Cherry MX blue switches for more tactile feedback than a chiclet style keyboard. You only have to press the keys halfway for them to register.
If you want to make typing more enjoyable for yourself and step up your typing game you could get *Johnny make it work* to have you try different keyboards XD
From the movie Blast From The Past...good manners are so others feel comfortable around you...and he learned that from his parents...
Thank you Susan beautifully put!❤️
Wow! Really makes sense...
Thanks Susan 🙏 from WA🇦🇺
I love your strength and eloquence
I was late but I was enjoying this video beacuse exactly happened on me .....
wow, don't you love the synchronicity?
Thanks, Susan! I recognized myself.
Hi, and Thank You Susan!!!!!!!
Awesome video so easy to understand !!!!!!!!!💜💜💜
This totally resonated with me. He had made me feel so worthless; but I allowed it- over and over again. Even a random compliment from a stranger would move me to tears; I felt so low about myself. The perfect storm allowed a strong, grounded individual like me to become involved with this energy. It was a tough lesson but it changed me, completely, for the better. So, to Amna, hang in there! Feel our love and positive vibes and know that your next guy.... he'll thank this one for being such a jerk and cutting you loose :)
Very glad you survived and became a better version of yourself. Much love and continued success and happiness.
Another well done video. Thank you Susan ♥️
Just discovered you, your advice and presentation are great. Real, authentic, true. So able to reach us out here. Thank you!
Priceless advise , thank you Susan always❤️
Perfectly put. Absolutely LOVE your videos. You have helped and are helping me so much! Continue doing what you do. Your a true gift. ❤
Nicely done, Susan. Very nicely done.
You nailed it, Susan!! ❤❤❤
Thank you for your great videos
You're so right !!! Sounds like a Covert narcisisst!!
Elsa B i agree! Didn’t know it at the time but after researching it after the fact realized what I was dealing with. Doing the happy dance that I escaped.
I cant tell you enough how good in sheeps clothing by George k Simon is when it comes to picking off manipulative people
@@peace4mefinally114 chk it out
Joe c thanks I will!
They absolutely aren’t up to our level.
When they know there is nothing attractive about themselves they try to make you feel bad about yourself in every possible way they can but the scariest thing is they are closest to your heart so even if they aren't true even if you leave them it's gonna leave a permanent mark
But remember you're the strongest bcoz you didn't punched them in face they should thank you for it🙂
Fantastic video thanks Susan! X
This happen to me last person I dated he said he doesn’t like giving out compliments, told me I don’t speak soft enough to appeal to him, didn’t like me having certain hairstyles or certain colour make up, he was very fussy, eventually I got fed up and left as I started to feel very heavy and insecure around him and I knew what he was saying was nonsense ☹️ now I feel so much better he’s out my life and the irony is he now blames me why it didn’t work 👎🏾👎🏾 I said good bye and wish you all the best.
Susan you’re a legend
I loved this video! This was so uplifting, thank you xx
My EX Avoidant Dissmissive....almost as bad as a narcissist......he disagrees and says it's his ADD.......never had a real long term relationship his entire life at 53........
Thank you for mentioning "straight or gay". I LOVE your videos and have been a subscriber for over a year now. I've found so much useful and healing information from you but I'm a lesbian and sometimes I wonder if the same things apply to me and dating women.
Susan my ex telling me about the dates hes dating, I said he has issues. 59 yrs old divorced ex gf left him cause he not ready to marry her she left. He knows I am dating others. He got mad because I'm spending time with another guy. Its business only. So he emailed me this morning saying we need to part ways. I said okay. I'm like god I did not ask for this. He says hes attracted to me. But we want different things not true. Susan. Another one bites the dust!.. I told him I will continue to date others. You are. Is he playing the jealous game. ? He stated I should have told him I was going to chicago to visit.i felt like it was none of his business.
I just love when I hear about guys like this because it is balanced all out :)))))) She stays with him, she enjoys the thrill, if she was respected and loved she would have lost interest and would have ran a long time ago, but no :))))))
This is gold and so are you!❤️👌🏼
Hi dear, If she broke up with me at 2nd time within 6 months....and i completed no contact of 45 days still she could not came back and did't unblocked me social media ...last time she came back on my birthday but now no such special days
I try to reach out by sharing songs in youTube there also she blocked me there also..help out please...Thank you
She's not interested in you. Be kind and let her go!!
1.The good news is I'm still attracting good looking men at 60;2. the next good news is this so called good behavior lasts at most x 3 -4 max dates, sadly the Fake Good Man behavior disappears and a cruel made up rude man appears, the next day the 2 minute moment of " my personality sinned in his eyes" which we discussed I bring it up in jest to test a conflict or not;he is 9 times out of ten seriously yelling over the phone again. So I just did this again uncovered a cruel jealous man in 72 hours. I will not date a liar, cruel, mean , friend so why would I depend on this behavior for my life partner. Hope that made sense. Next! Is very important for a 60 year old . There is no time for time wasters!!!
Beautifully said.
Great video thank you! ❤️
Thank you once again ❤
Thank you Susan.
Susan its the onlyone really worth listening
Hi, and many thanks for the kind words
Infinite Warrior very much so!! I loveee her!!
I honestly am not sure if he is creating jealousy or what. I have been with this guy and we have been so close and romantic. He travels a lot and has a few different jobs. A year ago this woman showed up in his work circle first. So I didn’t think much of it. She is 8 years older than him and divorced. He has never been married. But she is seemingly rich. So he usually is alone when he wants to take a break and I cannot be there but every now and then there is this woman in a picture with her hands around him. He chats with me everyday when he is away. Multiple times a day and every night till post midnight but then again, one picture or another is bothersome. He knows I don’t like her and he doesn’t talk about her or post anything about her on the social media but she posts a picture here and there. In the past whenever another woman showed up in my relationship, I left. I don’t want to do that anymore. I don’t want to let go of a hearty relationship that still keeps me happy for a woman who has decided to barge in my life. Any advice, Susan? Thank you!
I wish I could give a thousand thumps up!
Word!!! Sharing this on Facebook =)
Suzan this is wonderfull it really make sens to me
I have had 2 men do this to me my ex husband and a man I went out with years ago he would buy women drinks when I went to the toilet and said I was insecure! They were both narcissists I know now.
For men, the juice is no longer worth the squeeze. Unfortunately women have priced themselves out of the market.
Phoenix Rising Good for them.
Misery loves company. Have to leave those people alone...
Good video thanks Susan
My ex, would never do that...only one time...I had called and he was over this date he had...(I called to get him back) but he was into this other one....
thank you so much ！susan！
Amen Sister!!
Hi... Your website is very difficult to navigate? I can't find contact and the buttons or in Chinese.
You Rock!
Get rid of him. I didn't watch the video further than the first minute to know the obvious answer.
Susan... You are dead on the money ❤
I'm going through this now!
Question to the ladies. How would you respond to a guy simply saying they are excited to hang out?
Very true!
I’m certain he is a hillbilly so I wouldn’t let it get to you YOU NEED TO LEARN TO THANK GOD/ THE UNIVERSE/ YOUR GUARDIAN ANGELS FOR SHOWING YOU THIS! YOU ARE WORTH IT! YOUR EVERYTHING HES INSECURE! You are a beautiful soul! He’s insecure probably has mommy issues! Smile beautiful!🙏🏼💜🦋 1111
Can you do a video on why an ex boyfriend or someone you used to date exclusively would try and hurt you and how to react? Mine sent me a video of him having sex with another woman so I blocked him and then he text me the next day from another number saying it wasn’t him in the video. I’ve dated some assholes in my life but never at this level.
He sounds like a narcissist... in the book "When the truth hit us" there is a chapter describing similar behaviour by narcissists, worth a read.
I would notify authority.
I love you Suzan❤
HI Susan, could you do a video on how to handle seeing your ex all the time at work/university?
Yeh areu in the mood
If he truly loved you, he would leave his wife and put his ALL into being
U are sow verry well come der
Sounds like a NARC