Asking My Husband About Denver's Birth & NICU Stay + How Our Relationship Has Changed & More

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  • Опубліковано 17 вер 2024

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  • @isabellajoyy
    @isabellajoyy  6 місяців тому +14

    its a long one but in case there is a part that you want to skip to:
    01:18 How We Met
    03:00 Alex's Experience The Day Denver Was Born
    09:26 Nicu
    13:00 Thoughts & Emotions
    16:07 Relationship
    18:54 Finding Some Positives
    22:15 Advice to Fathers Going Through Similar
    Thanks for your kindness ❤

  • @susanrichardson8035
    @susanrichardson8035 6 місяців тому +27

    "We chose this life." Alex hit the nail on the head for sustainability. What a phenominal couple you are.

  • @carolhyduck4063
    @carolhyduck4063 6 місяців тому +18

    A special couple that God chose to take care of two wonderful boys.

  • @kimcheek8027
    @kimcheek8027 6 місяців тому +18

    Draven & Denver are blessed to have you as parents! 💙💙

  • @claudiacrossland
    @claudiacrossland 6 місяців тому +16

    What a nice guy! You can tell his job made him extremely perceptive, a lot of men (and women) would have missed those nuanced details. He is easy to listen to!

    • @isabellajoyy
      @isabellajoyy  6 місяців тому +2

      Oh definitely, I did not sense anything wrong & he did instantly ❤️ thank you very much! he is the better talker & he can often find the words for the emotions and feelings I’m trying to convey.

  • @karigiles8605
    @karigiles8605 6 місяців тому +6

    "He's happy, he wants to be here"
    This!! So many people who don't have medically complex kids, and see these kids, they think the parents are selfish for bringing these kids into the world! They think these kids should have not been...the parents know though! They will bring their child into the world, and they know, their kids will let them know if they want to live or not!
    And for the parents, like you, who get diagnosed after birth...it's no different. If that kid wants to live, they will let you know! They will let you know! And Denver, he wants to live! He's so happy and bubbly! He wants to be here, wants to learn!
    If they want to let go, they will let you know! I'm glad Denver is here! ❤
    And if people ever tell you that he should have just been "let go", don't listen to them! You know your kid!! Love you guys!! Love your relationship!

    • @jacintasalt8731
      @jacintasalt8731 6 місяців тому

      Denver has blessed our lives. He makes me feel hopeful for this stupid crazy world. He couldn’t have asked for better parents.

  • @laurie8617
    @laurie8617 6 місяців тому +15

    beautiful couple with two beautiful boys. Loved to hear his perspective! You’re both great parents.

  • @melissaw6446
    @melissaw6446 6 місяців тому +4

    I can only imagine what having a medically fragile child can do to a marriage. My first daughter was very premature and was in the NICU. She did well, and even without any major problems, it was so hard on my marriage. This seems odd to say, but I'm so proud of you and your husband for how you are dealing with this new life you never expected to be living. I pray you two will always choose each other in the hard times.

  • @marsharobertson9416
    @marsharobertson9416 6 місяців тому +6

    I appreciate your candor. My husband and I have experienced having a child with special needs. We were blessed to have her for forty one years. Our love and commitment carried us through every trial. Stay strong in your relationship with each other so you can give the boys a stable foundation. I would recommend that as Draven gets older he be encouraged to express his feelings about having a special brother. I wish we had done more of this. ❤

  • @archib3692
    @archib3692 6 місяців тому +10

    You have each other's back. Most important part. Your kids know they are loved. One day at a time is a recipe for success. Thanks for the video. Enjoyed it very much.

  • @hixxyted1244
    @hixxyted1244 6 місяців тому +8

    Nice to see your partner Isabella! ❤

    • @isabellajoyy
      @isabellajoyy  6 місяців тому +3

      Thank you! I love to have him here🥰

  • @cynthiabishop3836
    @cynthiabishop3836 6 місяців тому +3

    I agree about “ wanting to be here”. My granddaughter was a fighter from day one. The NICU nurses commented on it several times. Even though she had two cardiac arrests, she came back each time. And she has always been a happy, funny child. Also, this has always been her life, and she has never known any different. At nine years old, she recognizes that she has some differences from other kids, but we have always explained that people are all different from each other.

  • @peggygreeby5065
    @peggygreeby5065 6 місяців тому +5

    Denver's situation has made you stronger as a couple, and as a family. It's brought you closer together as a team, working towards a common goal, Denver's, (and Draven's), wellbeing.
    You're both doing a great job.

  • @nancyt.pasour7658
    @nancyt.pasour7658 6 місяців тому +9

    You are both such sweet and wonderful parents!!!

  • @bettygann
    @bettygann 6 місяців тому +4

    Denver is such a sweet boy he makes me smile,I am so glad he has great parents he is a blessing

  • @mamatee5042
    @mamatee5042 6 місяців тому +4

    Hi 👋🏼 Denver's daddy && Mommy
    First time hearing about Denver's birth 😢 but now Denver is doing his thang ( he's a big boy now) God is GOOD! ALL day EVERYDAY!! 💙💙💙

  • @julierowles6429
    @julierowles6429 6 місяців тому +3

    You are a wonderful and caring couple,Draven and Denver are so lucky to have you both as their parents.It must be hard having a little guy with so many things going on for him but you are very supportive of each other , I love how Draven has started to include Denver in his playtime sharing toys and pushing him around he’s a very sweet little boy.x

  • @tamimaher6092
    @tamimaher6092 6 місяців тому +4

    What a great video. God certainly picked you folks out to be Denver's loving parents. I have a son with epilepsy and it brought my husband and I closer together. Keep up the good work and God bless you both. You have 2 beautiful angels ❤

  • @laurarivera8136
    @laurarivera8136 6 місяців тому +2

    Love your honesty. Especially the fear part. I personally feel lucky to have "meet" Denver and watch him get stronger and what I have come to learn in my life is that the time you have with the people you love is so special and you don't know when that day will come so as Cliche as it sounds enjoy everyday like it's your last

  • @bluekatgal7300
    @bluekatgal7300 6 місяців тому +2

    Nice to hear the father’s perspective. Parenting is not for the faint hearted and you both have the right stuff even if you are not always certain how to deal with new health issues.
    Your husband is correct in knowing you can only resolve issues as they arise. Anyone can see his boys love him. Draven depends on him and Denver always gives huge smiles for him. Can’t fake that. Kids are usually honest.
    Really enjoy your videos and hope for best outcomes. You are stronger than you know. Thank you for sharing and Bless you all.

  • @amandavm
    @amandavm 6 місяців тому +3

    What a lovely husband and father. Your boys are truly blessed to have you both as parents. And as parents you are truly blessed to have your two gorgeous boys. Denver is beautiful and he gets stronger and makes progress with the upload of every video. Keep going mum and dad ... you got this ❤❤❤❤

  • @CindyKinney
    @CindyKinney 6 місяців тому +3

    Hi IsabellaJoy and Alex. I want to thank Alex so much for allowing us into such an intimate place in your family.

  • @Hanid-ij1kp
    @Hanid-ij1kp 6 місяців тому +2

    I am new here, but immediately love this family. Denver and Draven are so blessed to have you both as their parents.

  • @sharonowen
    @sharonowen 6 місяців тому +3

    You two are awesome, as long as you are always on the same page you can get through anything. Your beautiful little boys are so lucky to have you. Take care of each other ❤

  • @carrieghosen4011
    @carrieghosen4011 5 місяців тому +2

    You guys are great parents,one of the best I’ve ever seen and I’m almost 60 years old. Don’t feel guilty about anything.Denver is such a happy boy and that tells everything. That’s why I watch it’s so amazing how happy the boys are. You guys are great and everyone wants a family like yours.you’re the best

  • @lynneharrill9570
    @lynneharrill9570 6 місяців тому +2

    The two of you make such a lovely couple and the best parents ever for Draven and Denver. These little boys are absolutely gifts from God. I hope your family will stay strong in your faith and love for each other. Also, I pray that little Denver continues to beat the odds and will grow stronger each day. Thank you for sharing your family with us.

  • @sasharix8685
    @sasharix8685 6 місяців тому +4

    You and your husband are great parents and make it work through tough times thats all you need great kids whateva they are yours and filled with love xx😊😊❤😊😊

  • @Lt.852
    @Lt.852 6 місяців тому +4

    I imagine you had to just be in survival mode a lot of the time. That can be taxing at times. You’re the best parents Denver could ever have been blessed with. ♥️🧚

  • @abrahamxraytech78
    @abrahamxraytech78 6 місяців тому +3

    You both are a beautiful couple ❤

  • @becca603
    @becca603 6 місяців тому +2

    So happy to be introduced to Denver’s dad! What a blessing you all are for Denver! Hope to see more blogs of you two and the kids❤

  • @Angela-zp2gy
    @Angela-zp2gy 6 місяців тому +3

    Hes adorable!!! What a beautiful couple! You guys really work well together ...awesome to see

  • @MandaLynn5346.
    @MandaLynn5346. 6 місяців тому +2

    You guys have an extraordinary life. You never know how strong you are until you don't have a choice. And for you to share it with all of us is amazing. It's a great idea to do this for another family that might be going through something similar. And Draven is a great big brother and then Denver is a miracle baby. He is a trooper for sure and is thriving in the situation he is in. Thank you so much. And as always #DenversArmy

  • @debrawake1023
    @debrawake1023 6 місяців тому +3

    Great job bringing your spouse in to answer questions from his perspective! Really enjoyed that vblog. ❤ To your family

  • @GeorginasJourney
    @GeorginasJourney 6 місяців тому +1

    I keep noticing how much you both look like your children in this, I see a lot of Draven in his dad & a lot of Denver in you, but also a lot of each of them in each of you too 🫶🏽

  • @njsmkmmsthatsit3518
    @njsmkmmsthatsit3518 6 місяців тому +2

    I have to say "meeting" Alex just made my day. Now I know Denver has an amazing mother as well as an equally amazing father. He is so lucky to have you both as parents, imo thats a major part of his battles fought and won.
    It must be awful to be given a diagnosis by genetics and then not see them at least as often as his other specialists. It must be nigh on torture to even talk about it but if Dr's gave you a prognosis they need to be updating it at least more often than once in a life time. I'd be asking them fairly frequently about Denvers prognosis. Part of their job is talking about hard things with the parents of very ill children. Asking more questions might help them to realise they have left all of the stress sitting on your shoulders with not a clue if any of the care he's had so far has improved his prognosis. I think for most people the not knowing is one of the hardest things to deal with.
    All the best with it.

  • @beckyd1469
    @beckyd1469 6 місяців тому +3

    Thanks for sharing your heart with us Alex. Your both outstanding parents ❤

  • @kathyowens6563
    @kathyowens6563 6 місяців тому +2

    You two are awesome. What a wonderful perspective you have for life, love and parenting.

  • @kerrydavies6189
    @kerrydavies6189 6 місяців тому +2

    What loving caring strong parents you are. Whatever the future holds you are an amazing family and wonderful parents to both your boys x

  • @karenligus8224
    @karenligus8224 6 місяців тому +1

    You guys are a beautiful couple. You're so supportive of each other and your boys. Denver thrives because of your love. Always take time for yourselves! Much love from Pennsylvania!! ❤

  • @YoussefMohamed-wo9mc
    @YoussefMohamed-wo9mc 2 місяці тому

    What a great couple! Denver and Darven are the sweetest little boys. Every time I watch your videos, it leaves a smile on my face. God bless you!

  • @ginaaugenstein9454
    @ginaaugenstein9454 6 місяців тому +1

    It is so nice to see loving parents. I really appreciate your honesty.

  • @ellenkennelly7827
    @ellenkennelly7827 6 місяців тому

    Thank you for sharing your NICU experience. I know it must have been very hard. My daughter was in the NICU for 2 months, and it is truly something that people can only understand if they have been through it. The fear was so overwhelming at times, but it made me so grateful for the moments I have with my baby now. I find your channel to be such a comfort.❤

  • @mariagogan9885
    @mariagogan9885 6 місяців тому +1

    Y'all are great!! Your love for each other is visible. It's great he calls you momma. ❤. Those boys are well loved and taken care of. ❤❤

  • @LeftOfToday
    @LeftOfToday 6 місяців тому +3

    It's unfortunate that Denver's birth was traumatic, and undoubtedly more so since neither of you were prepared given your prenatal care team didn't notice anything off. I got emotional just hearing you both recap that timeframe and your fears about him making it.
    I never thought about it, but it must be particularly wild working in a NICU unit.. You could go home after a shift and come back the next day to find a little Denver ❤
    I don't think he could ask for better parents (or a sweeter big brother). You guys are clearly a great team, and these were great questions.. Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing!
    (As a TOTAL aside.. Is that a carveit/wood phone case? 😅 cause if so, I have one, too haha okay, all done dorking out!)

  • @juliemachin737
    @juliemachin737 6 місяців тому +1

    It was so lovely to see you Isabella and Alex together. You both are such amazing parents. It would be so easy to fall into a negative mindset, however all you have to do is look at your 2 beautiful boys, and with all your positivity know that Denver will accomplish so much, when he is ready. ❤

  • @Shiryone
    @Shiryone 6 місяців тому +1

    TY so much for sharing this guys. It's true that once you go through something it makes you more compassionate. These tough life circumstances either make you or break you. I am so very glad that you are the "make you" kind. And yes, Denver is an inspiration to us all.

  • @emmasgrandma1
    @emmasgrandma1 6 місяців тому +2

    God Bless you all! Thank you for sharing your lives with us! ❤️😊

  • @lindamarie6574
    @lindamarie6574 6 місяців тому +2

    Great couple with wonderful children!❤

  • @heathermauldin4951
    @heathermauldin4951 6 місяців тому +1

    You guys have been through the trenches, as they say. I think that you''re both amazing and so strong. Such a sweet video. Thank you for the interview. I really enjoyed it. Those boys are truly lucky to have a set of parents like the two of you. Keep on rockin.'

  • @sherry8894
    @sherry8894 6 місяців тому

    So glad to finally meet Alex. You both are such wonderful strong parents,and also a beautiful family! Two gorgeous little boys and surrounded by a house full of love. ❤

  • @crazylife834
    @crazylife834 5 місяців тому +1

    BRAVO making this particular video with your husband! This was fantastic to view and to get your husband's point of view, feelings and everything that goes into from Denver's birth through today. I watched your videos after Denver's birth and told us his story. So, it's was very interesting to hear how you BOTH felt. AND, BTW, YOU'VE come along way since those first few videos! Your boys are indeed blessed.

  • @juliewheeler2139
    @juliewheeler2139 6 місяців тому +1

    What a wonderful couple you guys are! Thank you for sharing your story with us! Your husband did a great job. I know a lot of people are uncomfortable sharing their life. I’m sure this will help other couples in a similar situation.

  • @didisalyers4460
    @didisalyers4460 6 місяців тому +2

    This was wonderful to hear Dads perspective. I enjoy your videos and your precious boys.

  • @gloriajuarez5131
    @gloriajuarez5131 5 місяців тому +1

    Beautiful couple 🥰 Blessings to you and your family Hubby, Draven and Denver 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽❤💙

    • @isabellajoyy
      @isabellajoyy  5 місяців тому

      Thank you very much Gloria!! ❤️❤️

  • @celiadonnelly162
    @celiadonnelly162 6 місяців тому +1

    So interesting and informative about your complex lives as parents.thank you Alex great for you to share.

  • @micheleclay442
    @micheleclay442 6 місяців тому +1

    Very honest and loving question and answer session ❤

  • @janicemilligan4610
    @janicemilligan4610 5 місяців тому

    So lovely to meet Dad! Communication is the key to life and no different for your family. Denver will teach you and especially Drayven about compassion for others. My 24 year old son has grown up to be a very compassionate human and I say because of my career path of having medically complex special needs children in our home. Denver has woven his little fingers around my heart already with his sweet strong precious personality. Take each step forward and enjoy him for who he is, don’t worry about the what if’s and why’s, just love him and let him grow❤❤❤

  • @suzybausch8587
    @suzybausch8587 6 місяців тому +2

    Great to hear dad‘s perspective. Thank you so much for sharing.! I’m curious- given that you are a police officer and see people in a variety of difficult situations, had you thought about the possibility of having kids with complex medical needs? is that something you two talked about before you had kids?

  • @christinesmith7810
    @christinesmith7810 6 місяців тому +1

    Good looking couple! Thanks for opening up

  • @amyb2646
    @amyb2646 6 місяців тому +1

    Very nice interview! You guys are amazing! Thank you for sharing this with us. Sending you all my love and hugs ❤️🤗🙏

  • @doriskrieger9263
    @doriskrieger9263 3 місяці тому

    Im so sorry you guys had to go through that really hard time. Thank God hes doing ok. Yall seem like wonderful parents and have a wonderful marriage. This is my first time watching your videos. After watching the first one I enjoyed it so much and i will try to watch them all. Thank you so much for sharing. God Bless you.

  • @justmejo9008
    @justmejo9008 6 місяців тому +1

    Great sharing guys. Thanks for your knowledge and time

  • @johnniejennings3325
    @johnniejennings3325 5 місяців тому

    God gave you a special gift. Cherish that beautiful precious cutie pie. God knew you were special and would be the perfect parents for him. God Bless you and your beautiful children.

    • @isabellajoyy
      @isabellajoyy  5 місяців тому

      Thank you very much ❤️ He was meant to be in our family absolutely ❤️

  • @debcokinis
    @debcokinis 6 місяців тому

    Blessings to you and your beautiful boys!
    You both have strength and love! 🙏❤️

  • @mildreddampier5579
    @mildreddampier5579 6 місяців тому +1

    You are awesome parents & both your boys are very lucky to belong to you.

  • @Snakedad1991
    @Snakedad1991 6 місяців тому +1

    🎉 You guys are doing such a good job! ❤

  • @river8760
    @river8760 6 місяців тому +1

    Alex is a great guy.

  • @constanceblair6625
    @constanceblair6625 6 місяців тому

    Enjoyed watching this tonight👍

  • @jillipepper5353
    @jillipepper5353 6 місяців тому +3

    Thank you for sharing .🥰

  • @laurarivera8136
    @laurarivera8136 6 місяців тому +1

    We love Denver too! 😊

  • @BunnySarah
    @BunnySarah 6 місяців тому +1

    Love this video. Will be sure to show this to my partner. Xx

  • @LeslieZaragoza
    @LeslieZaragoza 6 місяців тому

    Thank you both so much for being so open in this video and sharing with us. I can see the love you have for one another and your boys and I admire y’all 😊
    Also LEOW 🤗

    • @isabellajoyy
      @isabellajoyy  6 місяців тому +1

      Awe thank you very much ❤️ I had to google was LEOW is 😅 you are one also? ❤️

    • @LeslieZaragoza
      @LeslieZaragoza 6 місяців тому

      @@isabellajoyy yes ma’am 🥰 20 years and 2 kids! We are in Seattle

    • @isabellajoyy
      @isabellajoyy  6 місяців тому +1

      @@LeslieZaragoza awe lovely! It’s nice to chat with others! I love Seattle!! I’m from Victoria, BC but lived in Vancouver for a time and we would go often as a child, haven’t been back since 2016 but I want to take the kids to see the ocean this summer if it can work out ! It’s something I miss living where we do 🥲

    • @LeslieZaragoza
      @LeslieZaragoza 6 місяців тому

      @@isabellajoyy I haven’t been to. Canada since I was a kid, but I definitely want to get back up there. It’s beautiful in Seattle during the spring/summer and when you come down, I would love to hangout, meet the boys and show you some new things around here. I was just at the airport can last weekend for a convention, but the weather was rainy unfortunately. Still beautiful.
      Sending hugs and prayers your way 🤗

    • @isabellajoyy
      @isabellajoyy  5 місяців тому +1

      Hopefully summer brings better weather ! I’m waiting out also so I can start planning ❤️

  • @teresavega7400
    @teresavega7400 6 місяців тому

    Bella y Alex son una pareja Increíble!!! Muchas gracias por compartir sus sentimientos y experiencia. Son unos excelentes papás para Denver . Gracias a su apoyo Denver ha podido superar tantas cosas. Muchas Felicidades por ser como son!!!

  • @empret7704
    @empret7704 6 місяців тому +1

    Thank you 🫂👣👣

  • @lindavinci492
    @lindavinci492 6 місяців тому +1

  • @seaslife60
    @seaslife60 Місяць тому

    How terrifying for you both. Did the anatomy scans ever reveal anything of Denver's condition? Seems surprising with all the technology, etc. today. Wishing you continued bravery and grace on this journey. God bless you all.

    • @isabellajoyy
      @isabellajoyy  Місяць тому +1

      @@seaslife60 absolutely nothing that flagged anything: they missed the clear signs unfortunately and it was a complete surprise at birth. Thank you for your kindness and compassion ❤️❤️❤️

  • @user-sq7jc1ys5q
    @user-sq7jc1ys5q 5 місяців тому

    ❤❤❤

  • @monicabjorkman708
    @monicabjorkman708 6 місяців тому +1

    hello from Sweden

    • @isabellajoyy
      @isabellajoyy  5 місяців тому

      Well hello Monica! I have family in Sweden , I’ve always wanted to make my way and visit ❤️

  • @susansollee1839
    @susansollee1839 5 місяців тому

    🌻❤️👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

  • @lauriewromar5478
    @lauriewromar5478 6 місяців тому +1

    I think you are the most beautiful women I have ever seen.

  • @celiadonnelly162
    @celiadonnelly162 2 місяці тому

    How is Denver doing now?

    • @isabellajoyy
      @isabellajoyy  2 місяці тому

      As far as abilities like moving and talking the best I’ve ever seen him. ❤️ His heart is categorized as severe since march so we have monthly monitoring until they decide to do another surgery

  • @bettygann
    @bettygann 6 місяців тому +1

    what do you mean medical dad?

    • @kathyjohnson560
      @kathyjohnson560 6 місяців тому +1

      Having a child with complex medical needs

    • @isabellajoyy
      @isabellajoyy  6 місяців тому

      Thank you! ❤️ yes exactly

  • @lisasampson5314
    @lisasampson5314 5 місяців тому