This is one of the best parenting video I have ever watched. I always thought how to handle the labelling issue as conversations would not be complete without the usage of adjectives. But yes , now I can follow the 'for now' approach.
This is so true... The singing example is exactly what happened to me. I love singing, but I've always been labelled as "shy", "quiet", "introvert", etc... It was extremely difficult for me to get used to sing in public. It took years! And I still can only sing on certain situations and not just spontaneously for no reason, like "outgoing" people do. We owe nothing to the person we used to be. But damn, it's so hard to change!
Wow what a great insight thank you for sharing that! Interestingly I was lovingly labelled an extrovert, my parents always told me how I loooooved being around people, having lots of friends around me and other things that typically go with being an extrovert. Looking back I can totally see how I played that role completely, I thought that was who I was! This label definitely confused me since it took me a long time to realise that actually I'm have more of an introverted nature than an extroverted nature, although I do have an easy time meeting people and I'm definitely not shy. But it was more about realising that actually I need to recharge by myself and to be balanced and stay grounded I need to nurture my introverted side. I didn't realise this huge element within myself until so much later because I was blinded by the label of being such a big extrovert! Phewww! Even the positive labels will get you off track more than they help!
This is one of the best parenting video I have ever watched. I always thought how to handle the labelling issue as conversations would not be complete without the usage of adjectives. But yes , now I can follow the 'for now' approach.
This is so true... The singing example is exactly what happened to me. I love singing, but I've always been labelled as "shy", "quiet", "introvert", etc... It was extremely difficult for me to get used to sing in public. It took years! And I still can only sing on certain situations and not just spontaneously for no reason, like "outgoing" people do.
We owe nothing to the person we used to be. But damn, it's so hard to change!
Wow what a great insight thank you for sharing that! Interestingly I was lovingly labelled an extrovert, my parents always told me how I loooooved being around people, having lots of friends around me and other things that typically go with being an extrovert. Looking back I can totally see how I played that role completely, I thought that was who I was! This label definitely confused me since it took me a long time to realise that actually I'm have more of an introverted nature than an extroverted nature, although I do have an easy time meeting people and I'm definitely not shy.
But it was more about realising that actually I need to recharge by myself and to be balanced and stay grounded I need to nurture my introverted side. I didn't realise this huge element within myself until so much later because I was blinded by the label of being such a big extrovert! Phewww! Even the positive labels will get you off track more than they help!
So well said. Thank you!