I learned from my neighbors' boys that time outs do work. Kids don't need to be sheltered from every type of bad emotion, sure he's going to be mad after being told off but he does learn to play more kindly. Kids aren't that stupid, after they've calmed down they're very much able to realize why it's bad.
Time outs do work. This advice may work for some children but every kid is different and there is absolutely no scientific evidence that time outs are harmful when followed by a loving teaching interaction.
This video is so calming and organised. Thank you for your effort! With us though the case os hitting his brother (as a toddler having a brother 6 months old) was of course not because he wanted to hurt him. But today, 5 years later, he can still try to hit him, maybe more as a habit. Although he knows it is not a good thing nor getting anywhere with hitting. I remember as he was 2 years old and hitting his brother or me, not being conscious about the pain it inflicts and in addition to a lot more other things that he was doing "off the charts", the tension was huge. I was so exhausted that I couldn't have possibly been able to keep so calm and try to find the reason why he would do that or try to explain it to him. Maybe it works for moms of more children and the hitting one was not the firstborn and moms were more chill or in case the hitting child didn't have a baby brother and the mom was not being split in two... All I aim to say here is that I still don't know how to keep calm in extremely intense situations. But way to go!!! I will keep trying thanks to videos and encouragements like yours!!
Me, someone who is not a mother, doesn't even have a boyfriend let alone a husband, and definitely isn't going to become a mom within the next year. Also me, watching videos on parenting because why not? Lol.
The only time I got a time out in school, it was because I was crying because I had a sliver, past my teacher’s count down to silence. Life lesson takeaway that I’ve been dealing with absolutely no ill effects from for the 24 years since (/s): (1) crying is bad and (2) pain should be ignored at all costs.
Time outs are literally just removing your kid from the situation and letting them have time to themselves to calm down. Don't see anything wrong with that...you can even offer to sit with them for a while if they want that, but technically still a time out. 🤷♀️
@@MelissaDiVarano These young kids cannot regulate themselves, they need help to handle their emotions. Time out sounds like a shut down of their emotions and doesn't Help them to Express them and why they feel this way and give them options to express them without getting anybody in danger
@@janaeiskonfektknisterpapie7004Time-outs are for bad behavior, not for bad emotions. We shouldn't punish our kids for having emotions. Time-outs do work and are non-traumatizing if done correctly.
I learned from my neighbors' boys that time outs do work. Kids don't need to be sheltered from every type of bad emotion, sure he's going to be mad after being told off but he does learn to play more kindly. Kids aren't that stupid, after they've calmed down they're very much able to realize why it's bad.
Time outs do work. This advice may work for some children but every kid is different and there is absolutely no scientific evidence that time outs are harmful when followed by a loving teaching interaction.
This video is so calming and organised.
Thank you for your effort!
With us though the case os hitting his brother (as a toddler having a brother 6 months old) was of course not because he wanted to hurt him. But today, 5 years later, he can still try to hit him, maybe more as a habit. Although he knows it is not a good thing nor getting anywhere with hitting.
I remember as he was 2 years old and hitting his brother or me, not being conscious about the pain it inflicts and in addition to a lot more other things that he was doing "off the charts", the tension was huge. I was so exhausted that I couldn't have possibly been able to keep so calm and try to find the reason why he would do that or try to explain it to him. Maybe it works for moms of more children and the hitting one was not the firstborn and moms were more chill or in case the hitting child didn't have a baby brother and the mom was not being split in two...
All I aim to say here is that I still don't know how to keep calm in extremely intense situations. But way to go!!! I will keep trying thanks to videos and encouragements like yours!!
Me, someone who is not a mother, doesn't even have a boyfriend let alone a husband, and definitely isn't going to become a mom within the next year.
Also me, watching videos on parenting because why not? Lol.
Time outs do work. They worked for my family. Good to have options though
They work sometimes for some things for some kids. She's right that they need to learn to redirect and regulate their emotions
The only time I got a time out in school, it was because I was crying because I had a sliver, past my teacher’s count down to silence.
Life lesson takeaway that I’ve been dealing with absolutely no ill effects from for the 24 years since (/s): (1) crying is bad and (2) pain should be ignored at all costs.
Cannot imagine there are people doing time outs. In what century are you living?
Time outs are literally just removing your kid from the situation and letting them have time to themselves to calm down. Don't see anything wrong with that...you can even offer to sit with them for a while if they want that, but technically still a time out. 🤷♀️
@@MelissaDiVarano These young kids cannot regulate themselves, they need help to handle their emotions. Time out sounds like a shut down of their emotions and doesn't Help them to Express them and why they feel this way and give them options to express them without getting anybody in danger
@@janaeiskonfektknisterpapie7004Time-outs are for bad behavior, not for bad emotions. We shouldn't punish our kids for having emotions. Time-outs do work and are non-traumatizing if done correctly.