Handling an angry child. The first step. | Parenting - 105
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- If you are the parent of a teenager who's frequently angry and shows temper tantrums, it can be very distressing. I discuss one of the first steps in tackling the problem. Apply this as soon as possible.
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This is probably the best advice I've come across.. throughout my teenage years I was still very intimidated by my mother, so I never really pushed back unless I felt absolutely suffocated,
but over those as you said there is so much resentment built up in me towards her that I have no peace of mind.. it's a horrible feeling. I always feel angry and hopeless.
My parents never realised this and I think many others don't either.
It affects our self esteem, and the way we view the world and other people around us...
I am 22 and personally I find it very hard to trust people, I have almost no confidence to do anything and horrible self esteem...
I overthink everything and always question even simple things.. I find it very hard to be assertive and stand up for myself even today... this has cost me a lot of time, unnecessary worry and even money in cases where I have to charge clients .
Worst part is even when I know that only I can fix myself now, I can't help but blame my mother for the way I am today.
I am trying as hard as I can to be self aware now and fix myself before I become a mother someday, so that I don't have to repeat the mistakes she made with me.
Please take this advice your children will thank you someday.
When I argue with my mother now I subconciously say some things that she says to me or has said to me growing up and I don't even notice it till she tells me " not to repeat her dialogue back to her " xD..
It's quite funny now when I'm not angry because if she feels bad because of what I say why did she tell me the exact same thing ?
Karma is real xD
Annu I understand you completely. I am 44 now and suffering with the same issues of anger. Destroyed most and all of my relationships with people. Still working towards it.
Dear Sridhar , I was introduced to your videos by my wife , a gynaecologist who truly admires your knowledge and skill.
I am a practicing psychiatrist and I would like to congratulate you for the wonderful work that you do. I’m impressed by your depth of knowledge, I truly wish that all parents listen to your talks and follow your advice.
God bless you
I am 22 years old now. And this video made me cry. I am still scared to show this to my parents because I have always feared them and till date I do so.
It has affected my personality on such a deep level. I felt unworthy of everything. Had serious confidence issues. I had to face a lot of trouble getting a job and making any friends. I have never been to a friend's party even if the party was at the daytime at her own house!
All these things seem petty now and I have learnt to grow up from them. But I wish I could talk fondly about my childhood.
So to all the parents watching this video! Thank You for watching it! Even your thought to change for your children will mean a lot to them I am sure!
Jagruti Thakkar don't be.. ur strong
Can relate ! I hope you're better now. :)
God bless u dear
I always keep in mind what things I used to hate or get irritated about my parents and how I felt when they scolded without understanding me and my feelings. This helps me in understanding my child psycology and dealing with him.
I can't believe he gives such great advices, where was he when I was a teenager
I am very late to see Ur videos...as a mother....I have to change a lot...lots of change is needed...thanks you bro...may God bless you
Really I to
Anna Math we are all not perfect . There is no graduation in motherhood . You are just fine . Keep improving .
I too
Yet not too old....keep learning
I was so dissappointed with myself as a parent when I wached this video.. I realised How badly I was treating my child.. From now on I will start respecting my child and always see him as an individual with his own thoughts and likes.. M so grateful that UA-cam recommended me to watch this video🙏
Level of aggression my son has at this moment, though he is 7 yrs old, is I guess 5.. Becos he reciprocates angrily to us and mainly when it comes to school related.. He doesn't like to study at all but he is with a good brain that I know.
Wow. Your comment is how I feel. My daughter is 6 years old with so much aggression toward me. Also, at school she have a behavior problem at school but she is so smart and get good grades.
I know its been 3yrs with your son. How is he doing?
Thank you for explaining the practical scenarios in a very brief understandable way... Parenting is inshort learning to grow together and I should start listening to the child just as you said 🙏
I loved this guy. He gives great advice so many adolescent changes and have better home. Because of behaviour from parents there r children who have that side effects in later part of their life. I am one of them.
You have acknowledged all the problems I have been facing as a child all these years. I have been facing all these problems since my birth but when I share with somebody they never understand, tell that parents are God, they brought you to this World so they have full right to do anything and call me disrespectful. So I stopped sharing my pain and that has accumulated in me and has turned into frustration. I become very aggressive whenever someone asks me about my parents. For the first time someone has viewed the problem through my perspective.
I request all the parents to learn good parenting otherwise not to give birth. 🙏
Baishali Das thanks for sharing your views as a child,truly sympathise with you...will surely apply ur feedback as a parent 👍but not all parents are literate enough to understand what they are doing(though educated)I mean the understanding level...and most of them just follow a trend ...a repetition of what they see around,the way some of the relatives or friends might be asking them to treat their kids,be strict etc...or a repetitive behaviour of things being said to them as children...that’s sad of course and children do become a victim to it! I would urge you to look beyond what you view them as...being a victim to all such trends of the society and Forgive them unconditionally for they r humans after all...u are mature indeed for which you cud pen down ur feelings so well,try speaking to them whenever u get an opportunity to...anytime in life...season ur words with salt be gentle and explain them ,if they don’t understand you...it’s their choice....You be the change you want to see😄👍All the best dear!
@@nancypimenta9388 I try to explain them but I always fail and end up with anger and consequently crying. I try to forgive and forget but they keep repeating the negative things. The things that hurt me a lot, more than a break up because they are my family members, the closest. I cannot even escape from this anyway.
I just can't explain how much your video has affected me. I had never been so introspective about my own behaviour towards them. It's like I had been wanting someone to tell me what to do where to get help from. I am so very thankful to you. Keep posting videos on child rearing.God bless you.
Thank you so much for the video.i saw the video at the right time when I was going through the same issue of handling my kid and you have undoubtedly open my eyes.i would say in my case 95%i was wrong in my way of tackling.thankyou once again
Very nice information Shridhar.. Looking forward for more topics like how to prevent child from flighting with siblings or cousins..
I wish ur counselling was there when I was bringing them up single handed for my husband was in the field most of the time, being in the Army .I am only filled with remorse when my loving children complain me of their childhood. I sincerely wish if I could only relive that period with my most treasured children. No matter they love us so much but I feel the void.
I also thank the creator of u tube which is reaching every household to help them in bringing up their children in the best way for all the parents love their children
When your cute little child transitions into this weird unpredictable creature called teenager 😂😂😂😂
Didn't expect it to be teenager....
An eye opener video for most of the parents sir... Thank you very much... Please make a video on dealing with tantrums of preschool child and some ideas of positive way to inculcate good behaviour in a publi place...
Very informative and educational video. A lot of people need to listen to this and learn how to deal with their kids. Thank you!!
Thank you my brother. I m loving my children by now more than countless times I did. Keep going. God bless you always..... God send angels n ur one among them.
Hello sir.. first of all thanks a million as ur video is an eye opener for every parent like me.. further I would request for a link if any for how a parent should behave with a 2-3 yrs old child so as to develop good things in him..teach him..
Yes please... please make a video for a 2-3 year old child and how a parent should behave with them
My parents are destroying me ,i feel no future ,he does every harsh and unwise step to make my life as miserable as he can,he doesn't receive my calls,he doesn't reply to any, instead he doesn't even care about my study and results rather he keeps breaking my motivation I asked him to allow me to pursue learning coding and let me go through a better learning process but he just keeps on criticizing me in front of my other family members,I don't understand what to do next,he was never such a weird person ,in past 3-4 years he has turned out to be the most difficult person in my life, somebody's please tell me what to do...
@@_idkwho4975 please seek a motivational guru. Keep your aim high. If he doesn't support you might he have more problems then you have. Forgive him as a human. Keep taking physiologists help. You definitely find a path. Right now no need to tell any one about physiologists appointment.
Good information to all parents. By Knowingly or unknowingly every parent does the mistake that you listed. Thank you very much for your open speech. All the best and wishes you to put more videos
Sir, I liked your English. I'm impressed the way you guide 👌
Sir this was exactly my mirror image of me and my son . Before my son I think I need counseling for the happier relationship with my son
Thank you so much..ur video is like a God's gift for me. I'm making all that mistakes with my son..he is only 5year
Sir, thanks for the video. It's an eye opener. My children are of 5 & 8 years old. I impose lot of rules to make them more disciplined, this is first thing which irritates them. Secondly talking on phone instead of concentrating on them.
The most beneficial video. According to me, Even parenting is itself an art which should be handled with patience. From here, from this video I just want to correct myself were I have gone wrong. And I wish all the parents Good luck for a successful parenting.
You are correct. Thank you so much. I will follow you, I will fix myself. ☺
Awesome lesson. Thanks a lot for such a great life lesson and parenting tips. Keep guiding and keep up the good work.
Wow! YOU ARE JUST AMAZING! So thankful to you. No, we are very grateful.
Absolutely found this helpful and an eye opener👍👍 Keep it up I think you are helping a lot of people!!
You were awesome on this particular topic it would really help many parents to reconsider their behaviour towards their children.
Very useful message.. I'm hearing you as if you see everything what's happening around me ... Very useful I will change to change my child I will respect him unconditionally with all words and body language too really helpful.. Thank you for making this video
Atleast there is someone who understands
I wish my parents watch this video
I cant even recommend them
Amazing!! may Allah reward you for the amazing informative videos . I just dicovered you and I will share with everyone I know. Thank you so very much!
I can only say THANK YOU 🙏 I
Tqq so much sir....u r an eye-opener in parenting...😍😍My daughter is 7 years old. .. it's really helpful for me to change myself as a mother... I ll definitely control my gestures and anger......I love her so much...
Really I love your videos. I am very thankful to you tube because I got great messages for parenting. Your parents are so lucky to have a son like you.
Psychologists are known as wounded healers.
Sir ur videos are eye-opening , exactly I have done all the mistakes as a parents ,I will try to change myself hereafter,but the problem with me is I am not able to think I react immediately
Hi...all the comments below ..are my feeling to Express you...so well spoken...my God...I have a child of 3 yrs and unknowingly am showing my anger for some reason becoz she does not eat....and go to school...or the simple things like this...but yes ...those are not imp than my child and her relationship with me to her...thanks a ton...definitely implement the takeback....
Nicely putted Shridhar keep going. All these are very simple ways and very small moves but it will change our life.
Bravo sir what a speech. Wish all parents listen to this. Very good work sir.
Sir!! U r guiding us for better tomorrow 👌👌I realise...What I am???& my child.?..what to set in... Thanks a lot... Really super...
Last part was gem. Do the same to your partner too show respect.
True and clear explanation for managing situations while raising a kid.. 👍🙏
Hi the suggestions or advice given by you is perfect as parents we do mistakes but blame our own children first we should correct ourselves. Thank u
Sir ur video is a eye opener to me . I will definitely work on it iam confused how to handle my elder son he is 11 yr old after seeing ur video I made a blunder mistake in parenting I will change myself to get my little one back to me. Now I realise my mistake thanks a lot sir
A good and well explanation. A very good beneficial massage for all the parents...
Very well define, after listening this, I got so many answers and got to know my mistakes and the ways to proceed further. Child nourishment is a huge responsibility specially in this age of competition and technology. Thank you so much. Stay blessed brother...
Thank you Shridhar ji. Like all your videos and found them very educational.
Thanks i learnt so much from ur video. Yes ur right my bad attitude is rubbing off on my children. They are so innocent so I need to change first. It’s all my fault. Carry on the lifesaving job.
My son is 15 yr old..sometimes we r going through a very rough time .my mom says it is just teenage tantrums and i am finding it difficult to accept the change. Came across ur channel today ..really God sent :) thank u so much
I am a very bad mom.. i did everything you have listed.. my elder son is only 5, he is acting more like an adult.. I don't feel the connection we used to have before my second son was born... I am very hard on him and I don't know how he is putting up with me. Crying like a fool now.. waiting for my son to return from school so I can hug and kiss and say sorry for my bad parenting. I will genuinely try my best to correct myself. Thanks for the video. It was much needed.
Very nice and useful video which i really wanted to see thanks Sreedhar
great. I found your videos at right time. I am changing for good of my son. thanks Sridhar. you are an enlightenment.
I am so wrong! Thank ever so much for opening my eyes. Forever grateful.
I've tried to change my behavior for my son in so many ways. Nothing has worked. In order for him to behave I have to let him run the house hold. I have another teenage who is the exact opposite, humble, loving, kind and understanding.
I have stopped nagging, allowed him to grow in the direction he wants to go. Fulfilled his personal agendas. And still he hates me and disrespects me.
I can't get to do anything without him running away or cursing me out. He's been blessed with everything in life but only chooses to blame others for his issues. I feel hopeless. I'm to the point of release. Nothing has been working. I pray he finds his way.
I feel I have failed him as a parent. And I want to show him so much love & happiness, but when you have a child who can't see them selves objectively,,, what are you to do? I dont beat him, curse, blame, or shame him.
He's a grown man in a child's body. With so much anger. I want to love my son & show in every thing good in this world. But he hates me. I believe he needs therapy. People speak on narcissistic, but what if you have a narcissistic child. With sociopath issues. It's to the point that I'm in fear of my life & his sister's life. That he may hurt us in spite. I live in fear & stress. That's why I said I'm at the point or release. He's 15 and he can't be mental reached. Mine you he has both of his parents in his life. Nothing works... He's currently run away from home. His father & I are know considering putting him in job corps when he turns 16. I want to continue raising my son, however I just don't see how it's possible.....
How do you live with a child with such a strong fuck it mantality???
Ur guidance is very helpful. I m really grateful to u.
THANK YOU SO MUCH, you are the best one!
It was really really really useful video I ever felt. Thank you sir.
It is a very helpful video to meet my present situation with my teenage kid will implement all the suggestions and see that my child is happy.
Truely an eye opener.Thanks a million times.
I shall try this sir,you are right, I am such. a parent , I will surely try to change my behaviour. As you said it has happened by mistake I will respect my child, thankyou so much for such. a wonderful video. thanks once again sir.
Very beautifully explained sir.. I can just recall my day tantrums of my kids.. Thanks alot for sharing this.
Thank you so much sir iam always compire.my child others even sometimes i beat him but your vedeo realize me iam wrong inshallah i will change my behaviour towards him..
You are too good. My friend is not knowing how to deal with his 22 year old daughter who sometimes ill treats her mother and and feels so bad about it.
My son is 10 he already has all that irritating list of theirs you said in the beginning. This is exactly the time I wanted some advice on this I need to change. Thank you.
Thank you for your advice I love to listen to you your advice helping me a lot i have two kids,when they do not listen to me for sure I am going to use your technique
sir really this message was really an eye-opener,I THOUGHT PARENTS SHOULD BE STRICT AND WAS STRICT.But after watching your video I came to how harsh was I to my children . Really I should change from this moment.Whatever points u told ,all I've done ,Many days I'll be thinking why my children are not closer to me,like others without knowing that all because of me.Really I should change myself and be friendly with my children. But whatever I've done I because of my parents ,they were strict me and I that habits I reflected the same.Thanks for the video and expecting more videos on parenting.
My son's anger level is 8. He's 5 now and of late is see there's lots of increase in anger. He usually gets angry whenever he loses a game, when we turn off TV after timer rings to which he agrees before we start. As soon as he gets angry he starts crying, shouting and beating.
Excellently explained
Nice content, nice voice....useful...we all know but such videos refresh which we forget all the time...
Totally agree with u...these r all the mistakes we have been doing as parents...my kids r small..so i think we all have hope here to be happier...and yes Respect is the most important thing to be given to each other...
Thank you sir for the good explanation.
Sir your words have helped me immensely in dealing with my children.thankyou so much
Such a beautiful speech.. Learnt more from u... It will enhance our lives in many ways.. Helpful... Much interactive... Keep doing 👍👍👍👍
Thanks a lot I will change my self I have tooooo...
i have 12 years old whos is distante from me know i know i have to fixed my self ty bro
we all think we r doing whats best for our kids but we r doing the other way i hope my daughter see that im trying to chenge
My parents hv nvr hurt me by hitting or verbal..i was so happy growing healthy and harmony.But i like to hurt my son😭. I just dont know from whr i learn all that.What ever u hv shared is what exactly happening with me and my son.Will do my best to repair it.My parents always say that my son is very good..so the mistakes is from me...over stressed.I wil try my level best to manage it and become a best mother for my beloved son😍.tq
Uma Annita
I am so sorry.
We are all in the same boat.
Very brilliant discussion.... Thank you for the enlightenment
Nice video you had done enough research on the subject,
This video made me realise that majority of my child anger is triggered by me....so sad....God plz.... help me fix myself.
same here...really sad and bad on my part
Thank you so much your videos are valuable for us.as a mother I have change alot ....my daughter's age 12 years
Thank you so much.actually I was facing same type of problem with me ,(I think my behaviour with my younger son 4th Std)..I will change myself
Thanku so much, i make few mistakes,, but
As u said i ask my 6yr daughter same question what makes u angry n i try to change it,or tell her to point out -mom ur making the mistake again
I thought this must be a better idea
But thanks a lot its a super cool idea
Wow, thanks a lot 🎉
Hello Sir..Thanks a ton for an real real eye opener...My child is 13 yrs old.....he gets angry nowadays for evrythng related to his studies.he studies only wen he feels..We are vry much worried for his future...He Has vry casual attitude..Kindly pls help dealing with him.sir..
Good video pls make a video on how to stop teenagers from over usage of mobile phones and games
When it comes to learn a particular subject which they don't like but it is really necessary to learn .
I also shout at my kids a lot.i know I am wrong but when they argue I feel bad.my daughter is in her teens and my son will be entering his teens.ur video is an eye opener for me but very difficult to follow.i will try to impliment one by one
Priya Sivakumar same here. I’ve a teenager and one under 12. But this video made me realise that if I don’t fix myself soon I’ll have a bigger problem on hand. The way I speak with my children if I was to talk to others in same manners I would have no friends left and will be thrown out of my job. If we can be flexible and tactful with others surely we have it in us to apply the same at home. I am determine to take the first step for a peaceful home. God help me!
Very useful tips sir thank s a lot ,we do many things deliberately aware of the results
I just saw 3 min of the video nd got solution to my problem... actually I am too strict nd micromanage is the rt word...starting brush ur teeth to have your bf to go to bed,I am behind them....thanks for the great video
Very nice information. Thank you💐
Wow ur way of expressing rolling eyes its just wow i am so impressed sridhar really good job 💓lots of respect n love frm unknown angel waiting for u 😜🙈
When I watched your video. I felt ashamed of myself bcz as a parent v usually do that. Immediately shared to my husband too. Tnx for making such videos I was totally in a confusion how could I make my son to b focused towards his goal. His aggression n anger sometimes made me to loose my temper. As for ur suggestions I will put them into practice. Tnx agn Shridhar.
I totally agree wht u say....I think before kids parents needs counselling......n i vil try to focus wht u said regarding parenting...thanxs alot .
Wow those are exactly the things my parents did till I locked up myself in my room and distanced myself from them.. They think the problem with me was that I never communicated properly.. But they failed to build a parental relationship with me.. And I was stuck with them. And due to the things that they did to me, can be hitting me with everything they found to all kinds of comparisons and making me feel worthless and making sure I always feel dependent on them, I still feel I might be worth nothing.. And I don't feel the need to live. But in the end I just breathe.. Knowing that my parents were never there for me... And I just live on my own.. And since i didn't communicate much, because when your own parents aren't there to talk, whom else to talk to.. I didn't have any friends all my life.. As i lacked communication skills and I didn't know how to talk.... No one taught me what's right or wrong.... The only thing my parents were worried was about my marks.. As they thought that was life. And I'm still affected due to my childhood even after 23yrs.. And it still hurts to know that I had no one.. And i had to fight battles with my own parents who were all I had
This is touching ...hope u r strong and happy now...
REASONING IS A GUD WAY TO SOLVE LIFE.
The best session i ever heard
Very informative 👍👍good job bhai
I wish I had him as my mentor when I was young 🙏
Thanks sir.. You are giving so good points in each video... Thanks
Mr Maheswari. Your advice are very valuable and correct according to the Psychology Book. For example if the child is excessively addict to the phone and the parents has warned him or her several time and still not listning. Is it harmful to punish the child ?