Maintaining Mindset After a Bad Night Sleep
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- Опубліковано 28 вер 2024
- Maintaining Mindset After a Bad Night Sleep
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I’ve never slept through the night since childhood because I had to be continually on guard and vigilant. I struggle to get to sleep and sleep for no more than two hours straight.
On the days I work, I have an energy drink to get me through the morning - not good for my body. When I used to wake during the night I would get so angry, but now I say: Thank you for waking me up, Heavenly Father - I’m so glad I can have some time to talk to you with no interruptions. I thank Him for the things I remember to be grateful for, and I also tell him my worries. This may happen several times during the night, but I usually fall asleep during our chats. 😊
I do the exact same thing 🙏🏼
I usually have no problem sleeping, but I frequently have very traumatic nightmares (often related to pain, fear of certain diagnoses, etc.) and wake up in a panic attack. I have started to remind myself that "it's just a dream. Even as a kid, you've had scary dreams that seemed real but never came true."
It happens to me too. Especially if I take melatonin to help me sleep. Otherwise, it doesn't happen as often.
@@alexandrecouture2462 melatonin might not be the best thing in the long run. Andrew Huberman has some good videos on sleep.
Yes I have the nightmares early in the morning - and it makes me exhausted when I wake up. - I never used to have nightmares only on ocasson - the nightmares started 3 months ago.
I’ve had an appointment with a homeopath who gave me a remedy for the terrifying nightmares I had several times a night for years, working with my particular set of symptoms/personality. It was a very thorough interview with seemingly irrelevant questions but the remedy has worked. I used to be too frightened to go to sleep. My sleep isn’t perfect, but so much better.
I feel like Dan is reading my mind...today my symptoms(dizziness) was flaring up because not getting enough sleep.
Thank you for this video!!
Sleep for me is the last bastion of mindbody that I still working on. I'm going through year 4 of TMS and I still get the fear creep. I think it's partly due to the fact that I am still fearful at the subconscious level, which is where my mind is in the semiconscious state of falling asleep. I will say that my sleep has improved from insomnia from experiencing it every night in the beginning to about 2 nights a week now. So the subscious is slowly started to get it. It does help to keep reminding myself that there is nothing wrong when I am awake, even through I know the emotions of fear and physical symptoms are there.
I remember hearing that as well “it’s ok if you don’t go to sleep” and it’s true.. it’s annoying but the body WILL sleep when it needs it not wants it. and it’s always when you’re not trying
I had the worst sleep last night. It’s like you knew! You really are keeping me sane in the madness of vestibular migraine and PPPD. Thank you! I love you too 😊
Glad to show up at the right time.
Thx to the user with vestibular migraine...me too. I will try this
I agree 100% that inability to fall asleep is due to a perceived danger. I can't sleep if I know that I have to get up early to drive my child to school tomorrow. And it doesn't matter if I have 6 or 10 hours for a sleep. I would just lay dormant in bed for hours until I lose patience and go for a sleeping pill. But when my kid is on vacation and I don't need to get up early, I don't have any issues and fall asleep easily. My brain apparently thinks that having limited time to sleep is a threat and resists turning off. What an absurd situation. It lasts for years and I havent found a solution. I bring my kid to school after a sleepless night, then sleep half a day, and then work in a hurry till night. Have no time for myself and my family.
I thought I was the only one with that anticipatory anxiety type insomnia if i have something to do early. Then my body wants to finally fall asleep at 6am. How stubborn the brain can be.
@@user-dianejcml, insomnia is one of the unpredictable and stubborn symptoms. Mine started with back pain. It was triggered by exercise - if I put any type of training - this night no sleep. Then I started fear sleeping, that I won't be able to work without a night sleep - insomnia became chronic. When back pain was gone with TMS approach insomnia shifted to anticipatory type. Anyway, Dan's advise definitely works. I tried to relax and enjoy my bad without worrying that I would be crushed in the morning and I actually got a few hours of sleep that night without pills. It's not enough and it was a rough day after that - but it's a good start. I'm on sleeping pills for years and it would be great to finally get rid of them.
@@user-dianejcmlI have the same problem.
Set two alarms, so you know for sure you will not be late. And you can relax. All is well.
@@tnt01 Will try that. Thank you! "All is well" brain, relax! 🙂
I needed this so much. I get tired and flip out.
I’d love to see a video on how catastrophic thinking about the future can damage your today. I constantly have thoughts about what could go wrong with my health instead of what could go right. I’m hardwired to think negatively.
I don't like the term "thinking can damage". Surely catastrophic thinking can steal your present day peace of mind and joy. But it's not damaging. I would also encourage you to change the "hardwired to think negatively" to "I have a habit of thinking negatively, but I am changing that." Nothing is permanent. This video on Health Anxiety may give some insight. ua-cam.com/video/U6L8T4_63j0/v-deo.html
And my fast start playlist may help in general: DansFastStart.com
Thank you. After I got covid, I started thinking that I have memory problems because the stories people have shared about their long covid. It’s been over a year since I had it, and now I’m convincing myself I have problems from it. I’m forgetting well known actors names, and I’m constantly testing myself to prove to myself that I do in fact have memory problems which only seems to make my memory worse.
Its crazy how strong the brain is and how it will give you the problems you're searching for, It also can give you the positivity and health you’re looking for too. It just depends how you want your mind to see things.
❤ thank you very much I have a problem every single night staying asleep I wake up multiple times in the middle of the night I finally learned not to stress about it I just lay there and do a meditation or pray the next day I feel tired but I rely on God for strength
This video really hit home with me. Not specifically the sleep issue, but how the stories we tell ourselves create our experience. We have control over our stories. It may be challenging to write over what we usually tell ourselves, but it’s exciting that we’re have that potential.
#MindsetIsEverything
I was working in banking when i started having sleep problems, showing up at work like a zombie functionning at 10% of my abilities. I was performing poorly at my job and was made redundant as a result. These were tough times.
Tough times make for tough people. Time to create safety and rebuild.
I watch a cheesy hallmark movie before bed. I always know it’ll end happy.
Excellent content, Dan! Mindset is the key, a lesson that I learned after about 9 yrs of frustration.
You videos and advice are the best ,thankyou
448 views and only 71 likes. Come on, give Dan some love ❤️
Thanks Tina
Yes. Just laying. Hoping the pain doesn’t wake me up.
Love this video Dan, so pleased you are covering this. So many people unnecessarily "suffer" their mindset over sleep, past self included! As Inge said I also read so much scary literature about sleep over the years too...eventually I found some research that said it's very common for individual sleep patterns/cycles to change throughout our lives & it varies from person to person. For many reasons, some people even intentionally set their alarms to wake themselves up at intervals during the night (religious, creative inspiration, dream record). My father who was a stickler for "Must get 8hrs sleep per night" (drummed into him by his mother & passed on to me) now at 91 only sleeps in cycles of 1.5 hrs waking to pee, then returning back to bed... & he has been like this for at least 30yrs!! I have always my own unique sleeping pattern & have finally accepted it is so. I wish this for everyone. Thank you Dan as always.Xxx💜
I truly believe when we are not so stressed and dysregulated, we will have better sleep too! That’s my wish for you sweet Josie ( and everyone)❤️
Bless you dear Inge...of course I wish this for you also.@@Inge508
I wish this for you also. I cannot reply to your other message for some reason. I'm so sorry to hear about the troubles with your neighbour, I do hope your husband is ok. I also hope the neighbour gets the help they need. You take care of you & give yourself what you need for the shock. Sending you all love & healing blessings.
@@Inge508
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I have the same wish for you dear Inge. I keep replying to your messages but they don't show up!! Try again. I was so sorry to hear about your neighbour I do hope they receive the help they need...& of course I wish your husband well & time to recover from the shock. Sending you all healing & loving blessings.@@Inge508
Great topic and such good advice. This works for sure, I know, I relax and enjoy if I wake, and I also breath into my tummy. Don’t even need any natural sleeping tablets - I sleep better without them.
Wonderful!
I must mention that as I enjoy breathing into my tummy, I so often just fall asleep again. It’s quite wonderful ♥️
Wow, this is exactly the video I need. I just found your channel recently and I'm dealing with a whole bunch of TMS fun myself. All sorts of symptoms, but anxiety is number one (thank you for your videos on that by the way, incredibly insightful). I've been waking up between 2:00 to 4:00 a.m. every night since July, so this will be of great benefit.
I have a rather weird video request, and I don't really know if this can even be made into a video. You mentioned living from your authentic self, what happens if you.... Kind of forgot how to live? I'm not sure if it's a freeze response or if I just don't know how to reengage with life, as sad as that is to say.
Thanks again for your videos, I really appreciate them and your time!
Write out a list of things you like to do or might like to do. Pick one that is within your current limitations and begin. Baby steps. We can't go back to a full life all at once.
Instead of saying I don't know how to live...instead ask yourself "How can I begin to do more in life?"
With a 5 month old in the house this video hits home 😂
Very good video!
Thank you very much!
Dan, what if it isn’t just one night but a few in a row? How do we cope without being fearful when we’re already fatigued and fogged. Help
I have just found your work and very happy I have! I wanted to know what you think about neuropathy- confirmed from B6 toxicity. Can I live a pain free life from this through mind work alone where there was actual damage? Will it heal? It has been 2 years already.
I am not a doctor so it is tough to tell you specifically. However, I do know for certain that a brain that believes "nerve damage from B6 toxicity" will keep symptoms going. I'm curious what would happen if you began teaching your brain that you were actually okay and whatever happened has already healed. Often, fear and attention on the symptoms are enough to keep them going, long after the physical issue has healed or resolved. There is no downside to this work. To learn how: DansFastStart.com - it can only help. Change the "damage" story to "it's healed but my brain is still scared".
Why does lack of sleep increase our symptoms ?
Being tired can feel like a danger to the brain. Or, the story we think about not getting enough sleep can too.
But also, it’s true that if we don’t sleep it releases stress hormones like cortisol but it’s okay we can always learn to relax to fall sleep anyway
How would you apply indifference to a symptom like urine leakage after peeing and frequent urination?
Not sure. I am assuming you have been checked out by a urologist. If there is no medical reason for this, then it may be TMS. Have you taken noticed any correlation between fear and stress and this symptom?
Yeah it’s definitely TMS. I’m only 20 and it flares up during stressful times
Thank you! Being told I have sleep apnea compounded insomnia. I cannot sleep with Cpap. So I don't use it and worry all night and this increases pain. Are there success stories on ending sleep apnea or improving?
I don't hve an apnea success story. But it doesn't mean this won't help.
While it's not the same, when I eat a clean diet, cut out carbs and sugars and processed foods, I stop snoring. I can only imagine that a clean diet can only help the apnea.
@@PainFreeYou completely agree with you. I will be the first success story for sleep apnea. Everything can go away.
I'm wiith you on this one. I am in my 3rd week of acclimating with my CPAP. I also had a hard time sleeping. What helped me was wearing it when I wasn't sleeping to get used to it. You might also want to try out other masks to see if comfort is the issue and making sure that your CPAP settings are optimal. Good luck!
@@CP-so4hg thank you for support!
I actually had a bad sleep last night, but i just accepted it and decided that i could still have a good day, and i did!
Wonderful
Well this is good timing 🙊
As having slept bad since 2004,start of chronic illness- stuff , overload of stress.. I still have a positive mindset.
I catastrophizied real hard in the beginning but eventually just accepted it ..
A good trick is telling yourself: I’m gonna stay awake all night!
Every time I do that, I get some sleep.
There’s a lot of science that’s really scary but after 2 decades now, I’m still alive , and I trust to resolve the sleep over time.
For me it’s really just my brain being scared to be too relaxed 😄!
I had that issue during the day as well but that’s gone already..
Everything will be all right!
Thanks for addressing the topic Dan❤
IS THAT CALLED PARADOXICAL INTENTION?
@@nancyrussell6598yes you could see it that way Nancy ❤
Also helpful to change your self- talk from: I’m such a bad sleeper or insomniac to I experience TEMPORARY bad sleep or insomnia..
I didn’t sleep for several months with stress. I started to turn of my phone and iPad and read for an hour before bed a week ago. I slept the first night and every night since!
Hi Inge, so good to see you back. Always miss you! We are so similar in this...same as you I'm still here after decades of my own unique sleeping patterns!! Much love to you sweet soul.💖
I suffer from insomnia after I had fallen unconscious because of chronic fatigue. This caused nocturnal panic attacks and consequently fear of falling asleep. Been sleeping for an hour or three max. Somehow UA-cam‘s algorithm stumbled upon your videos and a miracle happened. Your soothing voice actually made me fall asleep! Now whenever I have a panic attack I play your videos in my headphones and drift to sleep calmly. My brain hears what you say and I get some ZzZzs 😊 you are a savior for me, thank you!
Omg I can't believe this. Last night 2hrs max! That was after a wonderful night the night before lol and a good day yesterday. Youngest son went into town to watch the superbowl, got home 5am, then slept all day, so last night he was up and about, that's what disturbed me 🙄
So many body aches. Onwards I go. Got out but too exhausted to walk through the rain in the park. Lots of roadworks, gridlocked everywhere.
Just realised I've been moaning about symptoms this morning 😴Definitely using my mindset to get through. Indifference, roll of the eyes.
Thanks for this today🙏
I know! How does it happen that after a great day, a bad night and not so great day. Why won’t the food says stay??!
@@nancyk6563good days if we had them everyday and along came a stressed one lol we got to learn to ride them like a surfboard. Calm waters.
Great topic Dan. Ironically after the worst nights sleep I’ve had in a month. With a snow day here in the Northeast US I might just add an afternoon nap into my day. #mindset
Dan I am a big fan and everything you say is spot on. The problem for me is applying these mindsets when there is a physiological problem. I am tapering a benzo I have taken for 23 years. There is not enough calming brain chemicals to keep me asleep. There are cortisol and adrenaline rushes that jack up the body and cause a chemical fear response that you can’t overcome cognitively. And this has gone on for months. It sounds good that the body will catch up when it needs to but not always true. Mine is the same night after night. After months of 2-3 hours of sleep a night and nocturnal panic attacks it is affecting mood, cognition and the ability to carry out my duties at work. This kind of insomnia that is not all fear is real and it is debilitating. I appreciate you taking up the topic. I’m at my wits end speaking with this every day and trying to have some kinfpd of life and working full time which I have no choice but to do.
Watching news before sleep (or any upsetting content) and when you get up puts one in fear, fight, flight or freeze and disregulates ones nervous system. I dont even watch news everyday. It does not serve me, my health or my well being.
I've had insomnia since childhood 55+ years. Have only ever slept through the night once. I remember this night sooo well😂. It hasn't had any impact on my health as far as I can tell. It's just frustrating when your brain won't switch off.
What about after 8 months of 3 hours sleep ?
Surprised you can even remember the amount of time 😂.. brain fog the worst. Wishing you pleasant night sleep. Try a camomile tea and rub oil of magnesium(organic) on soles of feet.
If it helps you diffuse the fear, this has been my norm for 3+ years. And I am slowly learning to get over it. You will be fine, I am still here :)
My husband says he doesn't sleep, but I watch him sleep.
Exercise if you can for one hour and stretch for 1/2 hour every other day. In the evening take a hot espson salt bath eat a crushed banana with cinnamon before you go to sleep and or camameal tea.
The concepts still apply. I'm not saying that 3 hours sleep for 8 months is a good thing. What I am offering are suggestions to fall asleep easier and not to panic after you realize only 3 hours sleep. Trust your body. It knows what to do. Focus on less stress and fear regarding sleep. Watch the video again for tips. You can do this.
I can sleep okay but my first thought in the morning is my symptoms and then they start. I try to redirect it but still appears I guess it takes time
change your expectations and if the symptoms arrive - choose your response. Little to no concern. Indifference. So what?
Hi Dan thanks for this ❤, Question - I have pretty much fixed my sleep (after 4 years!) and I’m no longer worried about it. The only thing I haven’t figured out is how to rewire my brain about sleeping on my back. Sleeping on my sides is absolutely fine, but if I end up on my back it usually results in waking up with back pain.. and it takes about 15 mins for the pain to start. Any advice please?
Thank you so much for your help 🥰
I'm not comfortable on my back for long periods of time. But I don't view it as a problem to solve. If I get uncomfortable, I roll to my side. No need to try and fix anything. I just don't see it as a problem.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience, it is reasurring ☺️ I wasn’t 100% it’s normal but now that you said it and I heard others too I will no longer see it as a problem! Thanks Dan ❤
Finaly i got it safety is solution