This just wasn’t working...

Поділитися
Вставка
  • Опубліковано 16 бер 2023
  • This just wasn’t working...
    Etsy Shop:
    www.etsy.com/shop/EquineHelper
    Other videos you might like:
    Non-Equestrian HORSE DARES Challenge
    • Non-Equestrian HORSE D...
    Tucker’s Very First Horse Show
    • TUCKER’S VERY FIRST HO...
    Tucker’s First Jumper Derby Show
    • Horse’s FIRST Jumper D...
    Riding My Crazy Childhood Horse
    • Riding My Crazy Childh...
    Testing VIRAL Equestrian Life Hacks (so you don’t have to)
    • Testing VIRAL Equestri...
    DIY Cross Country Jump Challenge
    • DIY Cross Country Jump...
    Merch
    My Equestrian Winter Morning Routine
    • Winter Morning Routine...
    My Husband Buys Me WEIRD Horse Accessories!
    • My Husband Buys Me WEI...
    - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - -
    Instagram:
    / equinehelper
    My training courses:
    shop.equinehelper.com/
    My equestrian blog:
    equinehelper.com/
  • Домашні улюбленці та дикі тварини

КОМЕНТАРІ • 324

  • @gossamerabba
    @gossamerabba Рік тому +54

    "I realized I was the problem and had to fix me first" to a lot of people sounds like a cliche but with horses it is 10,000% true.
    They are so perceptive and can pick up on something so small we wouldn't even think it was a "something".
    Uber kudos to this young woman for being so open about her journey, I hope it helps someone (or many someones) else.

    • @blixten2928
      @blixten2928 Рік тому +2

      All animals. Dogs too. Dog trainers don't train dogs, they train people. And, you can get into a vicious circle where your own anxiety that, say, a dog will try to attack (say) other dogs consistently triggers such attacks. That lies behind alot of unsure and therefore "aggressive" dog behavior out there -- stressed, anxious owners. Our poor animals, it's not easy for them!

  • @lacouerfairy
    @lacouerfairy Рік тому +259

    Love your honesty! It's so refreshing for us less experienced horse owners to hear.

    • @MayinaAWA
      @MayinaAWA Рік тому +11

      Not only for the less experienced! I would say I'm a bit more experienced (18 years of being an equestrian) and I still make mistakes and I still need an advice from a trainer sometimes so it's reassuring to hear it's normal and even the more experienced equesrians can ge to a situaion the need help with:))

  • @KWPerformanceHorsesOffical
    @KWPerformanceHorsesOffical Рік тому +11

    Love all the honesty! My mom always tells me “Don’t be nervous, the horses sense when your scared or nervous. You feeling scared makes them scared. Remember, trust your horse.”

  • @vesperlarten204
    @vesperlarten204 Рік тому +13

    I am beyond proud of you. To admit that you were the problem, is the biggest step, trust me. You and your horse are already halfway there, just by admitting it. I had an amazing cowboy trainer who told me. "90% of the time when your horse acts up it's you not the horse". You two are going to have a much stronger bond now and I am so proud of you both. It is a journey together, sometimes it's not so pretty but other times it can be the most magical experience.

  • @judithn4u555
    @judithn4u555 Рік тому +87

    Very open words - thank you so much for sharing this difficult period with us! Maybe from time to time we all go through such thoughts with our horse... Before we recognize that the problem is founded in ourselves and wouldn't change with a new horse. Happy to hear that you keep Tucker. We should thank the horses for teaching us something about ourselves 😊

  • @horsesoverpeople
    @horsesoverpeople Рік тому +80

    You scared me so bad! But I do think we all need to hear this thank you for this❤ I hope you know that you know how much we appreciate you filming though these hard times. Tucker is going to be an amazing horse

  • @rosie3568
    @rosie3568 Рік тому +5

    I asked my husband, "was it after your third world championship title, or after winning World Equestrian Games or the second European champion title.. was THAT when you stopped needing a Coach?"
    He replied, "Never. You never stop needing coaching"
    So this^^ this is awesome. It shiws your amazing character, heart of a champion.
    (Hes multiple time world/european/french champion for Vaulting)

  • @shilohteta2701
    @shilohteta2701 Рік тому +42

    I'm having the exact same problem with my horse. We almost sold him, but we decided not to. We gave him a break for a bit, and now he's doing way better now. I think we both needed a break too, because I would get frustrated with him. Obviously it's not the same for every horse. I'm glad you didn't let go of Tucker, you guys are great! I can't wait for what's coming!

  • @EvilFleesBeforeMe
    @EvilFleesBeforeMe Рік тому +70

    Thank you for your honesty, it helps those of us who are afraid of horses, like myself. Im in my 40s now but used to have horses when I was a child. Bad experiences with the horses linked to other abuse gave me terrible PTSD which I never dealt with but just ignored.
    I was terrified of horses and just stopped riding. 30 years forward and we were given Poppy. A rescue 12 hh pony.
    The first thing that happened when I held her on the lead one day, was all the body memories coming flooding back and I just stood there sobbing uncontrollably.
    PTSD is invisible but it is real! I dont know if I ever get over it, but Poppy is very forgiving even though she is a madam LOL
    Hope you too will heal from your PTSD, take your time and be gentle with yourself and your horse. And pray to Jesus, because He is the only one who can really get rid of our fleshly fears.
    All the best and God bless

  • @goldenyearsacres9163
    @goldenyearsacres9163 Рік тому +43

    Carmella, thanks for your transparency. I'm sure it must have been difficult to be so vulnerable on this platform. Especially since you create training videos & your channel name is equine helper. How brave of you to put yourself out there like this. How awesome that you sought out the help from an outside source. You didn't allow the english/western riding to get in the way of helping yourself help Tucker. That, young lady, shows maturity and humility. Two REALLY good character traits to have. I watch your channel for not only the horse content, but also your personality. I love how you aren't afraid of being a little "goofy," like dressing up in a horse costume, to share some insight on horsey antics. You are genuine, which is what I was looking for in a horse tip channel. One of the 1st videos I watched of yours was you demonstrating how to put a rope halter on a horse. I think it might have been Bella, coat was white, if my old lady memory is working. Anyway, she took off on you before you could get the shoot finished. Instead of editing it out, you left it in. That video played a big part in me subscribing. You're genuine & down right funny at times. There are TONS of horsey channels out there, but few who speak to my needs. I'm not tuned in to see horses & trainers getting it right each & every time. I like the levity. When we can laugh at things that don't turn out like we invisioned, it allows us to take a breath & try again. Sorry for the novel here, just hoping to encourage you like you have encouraged me as a 50+yr old newbie horse owner to not be afraid to try & I see from your own examples that if it doesn't happen on the 1st try, I can allow myself freedom to try again, & laugh at myself when I or my horse aren't perfect in execution.

  • @WebOfTwilight
    @WebOfTwilight Рік тому +47

    Aww, I’m so glad that you’re working things out with Tucker. He seems like such a sweet boy. ❤

  • @fliecegates112
    @fliecegates112 Рік тому +5

    This kind of honesty is so needed in the horse world. I've had horses in my life for over 50 years now, with time out for college, marriage and family. I have learned a great deal from your videos, especially about ground work. I'm working with a new, green horse, havo g lost my mount of 24 years in 2021. I can so relate to your experience of getting anxious and, frankly afraid, of a horse. I will hold onto your story of working on you to work on your horse. Thank you.

  • @debbiejames5670
    @debbiejames5670 Рік тому +6

    Just when I thought I couldn't possibly have more respect for you....I watched this video. You have been such a tremendously practical and helpful horse person to me. "Along life's journey, those souls entrusted to our care will become our greatest teachers."

  • @lisafraser7446
    @lisafraser7446 Рік тому +9

    Learning to keep your body without tension and hold your hands soft when your scared is hard. Especially after a bad fall ! But it's true our horses reflect us like a mirror. If we reflect fear, our horses react to that. Getting over the first week is a hurdle maybe even a mountain emotionally. But definitely worth it in the end ❤️

  • @greygryphon6881
    @greygryphon6881 Рік тому +15

    Thank you for posting such an honest video. One of my biggest Ah HA moments with my own horse journey was realizing I was causing my horse a lot of stress by constantly thinking what I wanted *her* to do. A mindset shift of focusing on myself and what *I* needed to be doing in that moment made a world of difference. It's truly amazing how they can essentially read our minds
    One of the best things about being an equestrian is that it IS a journey, a life long journey, and I look forward to continuing to grow and learn as the decades go by!

  • @jolenejolene95
    @jolenejolene95 Рік тому +17

    Huge props to you for putting this out there. I have a handful of a horse myself that got worse before it got better. It took years of me finding trainers, vets, etc. to make sure I'M being the better horseman and he's feeling the best he possibly can. It's been a long journey but between me getting myself right, him finding the treatment he needs, AND him being home now - major difference in our partnership and in his temperament. I was exactly in your shoes and many said "sell, sell, sell" but I dug my heels in knowing deep down I hadn't exhausted all my options yet to make that call. Luckily, all that time, effort, money, etc. was the answer as it has paid off. There are times to sell (especially when it becomes dangerous) and there are times to find other solutions. It's important the community know that there is no shame in either. I'm happy for you and Tuck, good job!

  • @jodysweeney9181
    @jodysweeney9181 Рік тому +2

    Thanks for being so transparent with your struggle. My mare does well in the ring, but when we go on trail, she gets super anxious. It has taken me a while, but I am realizing that yes, she does get more “up” on trail, but I do too. I am not helping her anxiety. Your video reaffirmed this for me. I will be working on myself in this area! Thanks for all your videos and helpful advice!

  • @mk6945
    @mk6945 Рік тому +3

    Nice Job. Your horses are lucky to have you. We are all life long learners; be proud that you have learned something about yourself and your horse. Wishing you the best 🙂

  • @kathyberger6650
    @kathyberger6650 11 місяців тому +2

    This was an awesome video! Very real! Loved it. Every horse owner should hear this message! So glad you kept Tucker. He’s amazing! 💙🐴❣️

  • @dardenyerkes5757
    @dardenyerkes5757 Рік тому +5

    I was about to start scraping my pennies together and race to VA to buy Tucker. I am so glad that you got some outside help and things are back on track. It is a very important message, be sure there isn't a horse health issue, don't blame it on the horse, get the help you both need. Something we should consider in all of our relationships.

  • @nozee77
    @nozee77 Рік тому +3

    Huge respect to you for sharing that story, for not sugarcoating the dark parts of beeing an equestrian.
    Very touching story.
    I'm glad you made it and are still a team!

  • @constanceaverman4364
    @constanceaverman4364 Рік тому +6

    Glad to learn that you don't blame your horse or call him names or punish him. Many dog owners fail to look at themselves and the effect their attitude has on their best friend too. Best wishes!

  • @cairafeddema8752
    @cairafeddema8752 Рік тому +2

    Thanks for being willing to get vulnerable about the struggles in horsemanship sometimes 👍

  • @deannemagruder4588
    @deannemagruder4588 Рік тому

    Bless you and your journey with Tucker and all the horses and people whose lives you touch. Including mine!

  • @paigemontague4022
    @paigemontague4022 Рік тому +2

    I'm so glad you've shared this! It makes me feel a lot better to know that such experienced riders can still have some super tough times in their riding journey. ❤

  • @tjjurake3506
    @tjjurake3506 Рік тому +7

    Thank you for making this video. There have been so many times when I have felt that my horse just doesn't like me. I realized that If I was frustrated, nervous or angry that I needed to leave those emotions outside the barn and not near him. He is super sensitive and so am I. He also turns into a jerk if he gets sugared up on grass. Any relationship requires patience and understanding. There never seems to be a shortage of "well meaning" people telling me what to do with my horse.

  • @TPWK216
    @TPWK216 Рік тому

    My horse changed with age, he is an lipizzan. He is very trustfully in human and safe. Lipizzan as breed as veŕy slow in development both psysicall and mentally. He is sensitive though and scared as a chicken but as long he has his human his safe. With age he has changed though, from his slow head and body he has become more of taking more in charge if he may and he is more energetic and explosive in his body. He is still the same nice horse, very nice to whoever but his development in personality is really fun. He has become older, but his body and mind tell him othervise. He is only 13 and I hope he keep his spirit for many years to come.
    I am glad you decided to keep tucker and that things has worked out for you 🙌

  • @user-jk5ur9dh5h
    @user-jk5ur9dh5h Місяць тому

    Thank you for being so humble.❤

  • @nataleerobinson569
    @nataleerobinson569 Рік тому +1

    Hi!! I love this vlog!! I had been jumping my 12.2hh pony about 6-8 weeks ago and she spooked and threw me plus on her way out she kicked me in the back. This wasn't like her at all because she is usually super calm and trust worthy. I am not a jumper I am actually and barrel racer/team roper so I am not experienced in jumping either. I just was able to get back on her a few days ago! I have another horse of mine named Fiona, and she is to dangerous for me, she doesn't respect space, she is dominant, charges me, and doesn't want to learn. I have tryed training her for a year now and I get the same results unfortunately. I am sad that I have to sell this mare but my safety is not worth risking. Great job on Tucker, he really seems to be a awesome horse!!!

  • @ln6455
    @ln6455 Рік тому +1

    So glad you took the time with yourself and Tucker working together. We never stop learning, and growing together. Not many owners do. I couldn't believe you could give up on dear sweet Tucker and glad you were able to find some trainers that could help you figure this out. Yeah!!! You and Tucker have such a bond.

  • @KM-lu7nh
    @KM-lu7nh Рік тому +1

    I'm so glad you reached out for help with Tucker and that you're able to recognize the issues and work to self-improve. That takes humility, strength and courage. So glad things are working out!

  • @kristynfedich8926
    @kristynfedich8926 Рік тому +1

    As a new rider, this was a beautiful video to listen to and watch. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability and honesty ❤

  • @carmenpreciado2486
    @carmenpreciado2486 Рік тому +1

    Never give up on Tucker ok❤

    • @carmenpreciado2486
      @carmenpreciado2486 Рік тому

      Don’t sell tucker because you will be super sad you still never give up Tucker OK

  • @barbvanee3788
    @barbvanee3788 Рік тому +2

    It’s so good to know that someone as experienced as you who has had this horse for so long can be going through this and understand there is always more to learn. I’m glad you guys figured it out and I hope to see you guys as a team for years to come. Take care Carmella

  • @JH-qi7fz
    @JH-qi7fz Рік тому +6

    Very interesting to hear the benefits of seeking out trainers of a different discipline.

    • @dmm8890
      @dmm8890 Рік тому

      Did you move back to Virginia? Glad it's working out. ❤

  • @krishnachaitanyajagadam3601
    @krishnachaitanyajagadam3601 7 місяців тому

    Thank you for sharing your short tough journey - At the moment I am reading a book named " Building a Truly Accountable, High-Performance, High-Growth Life for Yourself and Your Organization" , listening to you connected many dots for me understanding it better. Thank you once again :)

  • @shannandesh
    @shannandesh Рік тому +1

    The EXACT same thing happened to me! I bought my gelding Jan 2022 and the first 7 months were fantastic, making progress together. Then, last July I started getting really fearful and my horse must have picked up on that and he got more fidgety, spooky, and less predictable and my confidence was gone. It’s been a viscous cycle the past six months. I can’t say I’m back to 100percent but getting there. I’ve grown so much emotionally as a rider during this time that I’m almost grateful for my fear backsliding because he caused me to reflect on myself so much more and grow as a person and a rider. Hearing your story makes me feel a lot better so thank you for sharing that!

  • @Kevin-jb8do
    @Kevin-jb8do Рік тому +2

    Thank you for having the courage to share this with all of us! I am so happy you and Tucker have made it through a tough time.

  • @GospelTestimony
    @GospelTestimony Рік тому +2

    this just confirms what i always thought about you as a owner and a trainer- you are so amazing. honestly, i do not know many people who have the patience to keep going .....i do not think that I would. your such an inspiration. i pray you and tuckers relationship only improves with time.

  • @poppileepopp
    @poppileepopp Рік тому +3

    You’re amazing - no one is ever a true master at horse training because horses always have something to teach us. Your transparency is real talk and thank you for being a great example to other equestrians. As an English rider and horse owner, I also learned that the western world has a lot to offer horsemanship-wise. Western riders don’t tend to seek us for horsemanship training, it’s typically us seeking them if anything.. 😅 All humbling, as was your video, and glad you and Tucker are doing better! ❤️

  • @alixgray6038
    @alixgray6038 Рік тому

    I really appreciate this video. I have had a very similar journey with my pony. It is so nice to hear that someone else has stuck with it and had success!

  • @paulinafranchini1908
    @paulinafranchini1908 Рік тому +1

    Awwww! I love it! I'm so glad you two got through that! You and Tucker are a great team!

  • @sacreahbecerra8595
    @sacreahbecerra8595 Рік тому

    Thanks so much for your honesty and sharing your journey. 🤩

  • @nicolecermak238
    @nicolecermak238 Рік тому

    Happy you two are still a team.

  • @sofiasingh4812
    @sofiasingh4812 Рік тому +1

    I'm so sorry, you looked so good together

  • @Pippa_Love
    @Pippa_Love Рік тому +3

    What a beautiful heartfelt video. Thank you so much for sharing! 💖

  • @christinamuller1741
    @christinamuller1741 Рік тому +1

    First, I am so sorry that there was a break in your relationship with Tucker. Life is pretty crazy. When you look at your horse you always have to step back and into a different zone because it’s not their fault that life is crazy. I’m glad you did a moment to self reflect. I am also very happy to hear that Tucker and you have made amends and are starting a new. Huge fan!

  • @kitty941
    @kitty941 Рік тому

    It is amazing to see this vulnerable, truthful, and humble video about horse ownership! I am 44 and don’t own a horse and I watch your videos because you are an awesome human being and your videos make me learn the good and the bad. And you are funny and such a down to earth person and I like real people! I have taken lessons in the last year and still dream of owning a horse one day. And you inspire me and keep it real for someone like me who has never owned one to know how tough the journey can be. That is important. It’s so good for people of all ages to see stuff like this that shows the ups and downs and real struggles. But it’s also one of the reasons I am drawn to horses…look at what Tucker has taught you, and what you have taught him. Wow…and I feel now that your bond will be even stronger now and that is what is beautiful! Thank you for doing what you do and sharing it with us…and the best to you and Tucker. I’m so glad you were able to work through it and both get to a better place 😄

  • @starrpena763
    @starrpena763 Рік тому

    Thank you for the transparency ❤
    I’m new to the horsey world and I love your content, thank you for being here. Forever learning with this big loves 🐴

  • @yawnfam914
    @yawnfam914 Рік тому

    Aww! Love that you shared this! So real and personal! Thank you for letting us in on this struggle that I’m sure everyone has or will go through at some point! ❤️
    Look forward to seeing what’s next with you and Tucker!!

  • @traceylamping8979
    @traceylamping8979 Рік тому

    Amazing story. Everyone has been through this - thanks so much for sharing the story. ❤

  • @alexxxm9757
    @alexxxm9757 Рік тому

    So happy you guys were able to work thru the issues!! ❤

  • @loutalksabouteverything2575

    I'm so happy you are keeping Tucker.

  • @Marta-df2hs
    @Marta-df2hs Рік тому +1

    Thank you so much for finding it within yourself to do some reflective work. As you mentioned, oftentimes we blame the horse and we fail to look within ourselves. Horses are a reflection of us and by being open and search what we contribute to the relationship, we learn to be better partners and our relationship improves. Horses are masters at reading body language. They are also wonderful teachers if we allow them to be and get past our ego. So glad you gave Tucker the opportunity by looking deeper. Thank you for seeking help as oftentimes others may see what we are missing. Our horses deserve it.

  • @hejjmumper4659
    @hejjmumper4659 Рік тому

    Thanks for this, really admire your honesty and really like this series.

  • @TaraWCohn
    @TaraWCohn Рік тому

    Thank you for your pure honesty. ❤

  • @Katerina_Alexandra
    @Katerina_Alexandra Рік тому +1

    I love this video and how candid it is. I'm not ready yet - but in a few years I plan to get my own horse for the first time. In the meantime I'm soaking up information like a sponge! I like videos like this that present real problems and possible solutions, and that having a horse isn't always sunshine and rainbows.

  • @kms0387
    @kms0387 Рік тому

    What a beautiful video. So proud of your honesty and progression! Can't wait to see whats next for you both!

  • @cabincreekhomestead761
    @cabincreekhomestead761 Рік тому +1

    Your honesty makes me feel so much safer and gives me the gentle nudge I need to work on myself.
    Thank you so so much for this important message

  • @stephaniegurrola9683
    @stephaniegurrola9683 Рік тому

    Thank you so much for showing us what was going on behind the scenes and being so open with your struggles. I am so glad things are going well with Tucker. We love him and love all your content.

  • @miagennaios9344
    @miagennaios9344 Рік тому

    Thank you for being open and honest about your journey and struggles. I admire your humility and honesty. 😊I too know the struggle that we as horse girls go through. I had a difficult challenge with my first horse where he was an aggressive Alfa to me. It was my actions that he responded to. I first had to learn how to control my emotions and grow in confidence in order to work with him. My current horse is the polar opposite of my first horse and this has been a huge learning curve for me. I needed to and am still working on learning to relax and trust him so that he can relax and trust me. We are working better as a team but it has been a challenge for both of us. I also understand the frustration and stress you have gone through, and it is tough to keep those emotions under control when working with horses. Lord knows I have ending many training sessions in tears! I am glad that things seem to be working out with Tucker 🥰 It was also good for me to hear that I am not the only one dealing with this!!!! Again love that you keep things real, this video was admirable. loved your words! ❤

  • @zentherapist1
    @zentherapist1 Рік тому +1

    You & Tucker are true partners--teaching & learning from & with one another.

  • @margiesmith8912
    @margiesmith8912 Рік тому +1

    Thank you for your honesty & insights! I'm lucky enough to have an amazing trainer who tells me I'm the reason my horse is doing a,b,c...LOL! It's a good mindset to have as I'm riding, I think "what do I need to be focusing on regarding my positioning/communication to change the horses response." I assumed everyone had this knowledge, but the more I'm learning the more I'm realizing I have an awesome trainer!!

  • @HanaTheRussell
    @HanaTheRussell Рік тому

    Yes!! ❤ I love this message. When I first got Hana, it was HARD. She was a rescue puppy. My dog from growing up was a rescue too but she had been rehabbed by a foster before I got her and Hana hadn’t. So I really didn’t know what I was getting myself into. (Through no fault of her own) she was so terribly behaved the first couple weeks, and none of the training techniques I used with my dog from growing up were working. I was literally crying in my room every night like “wtf is happening why isn’t this working?”
    So then my friend told me that Petco does free initial consultations for online dog training (this sounds like an ad lol it’s not) and so I signed right up. And immediately the trainer understood what was happening and empathized with my feelings and we made plans on how to train Hana.
    And just as you said it was lots of desensitizing and adjusting things on my end. It’s been constant constant work.
    We still practice things everyday like how to walk away from barking dogs without panicking etc.
    Good on you!

  • @zbar19
    @zbar19 Рік тому +1

    Wow that's amazing to share your honesty, Infront of the whole world. And it's okay to have some hard times when riding because no one will ever be perfect at it. Great job! 👍🐎

  • @Faeyeful
    @Faeyeful Рік тому +1

    Huge respect on my end. It is always hard to start looking at yourself when something doesn't work out and it is in our nature (sadly) to most of the time look for the cause of problems in others first. This is a big step for you guys as a team and your deveopment and your journey will be a great one, even though it is not an easy one. My now 5yr old mare and I did a 180° turn in our training and handling when we went from negative reinformcement to positive reinforcement after I had a really bad accident, was scared and she was also not happy. I was always a careful person around horses, tried to be as horse friendly as possible till one day I broke down looking at her working with a trainer and pressure and here eyes were so empty, she stood there, nothing of herself left. The trainer was happy, the bystanders were happy that she was reacting so well... I started crying and broke inside. We never went back. We clicker everything now, work with hay cobs as treats and her character came out soooo much. We now have a real bond, she is happy with me, greets me everytime and just wants to learn more and more and actually enjoys it (and I do to), the good and the bad days. Still fighting with my fear here and there, but I give us all the time we need and riding is no focus till he is all grown up (with 6 1/2 to 7, back fused) so we have some time to do everything from the ground and more. :) She is moving way closer to me in 2 weeks so I can see her 5 times a week easily instead of 2-3 times, can't wait.
    You go! I bet you will become a great team again!

  • @momtaylor3169
    @momtaylor3169 Рік тому +1

    I’m glad it all worked out for you too, it actually quite inspirational! I have a chestnut mare who is so fun on the ground sometimes and in the saddle she’s a pain in the but sometimes. I will work hard to get her to a better level, just as you worked out your difficulties with Tucker. Best of luck!❤❤

  • @brigidnewton5939
    @brigidnewton5939 Рік тому +1

    Awesome video, thank you ☺️ you show a great level of maturity. I enjoy your videos because you are about your relationship with your horse, not about chasing ribbons. Keep it up and give those ponies a hug and a carrot from me in NZ! 🇳🇿🐴🍏🍎

  • @Phoenix13Rose
    @Phoenix13Rose Рік тому

    Thank you so much for being so real. I'm sure many riders can relate to your recent struggles with Tucker. I only recently discovered you but you've been tremendously helpful to me on my recent journey of independence. Blessed be!

  • @kellyhopchin2922
    @kellyhopchin2922 Рік тому

    Thank you for being so honest

  • @deborahzieno8905
    @deborahzieno8905 Рік тому +3

    A friend shared this video with my today. Your message in this video hit home and is exactly how I’m feeling at the moment. What you say is truth and I know this but as I got older I forgot what I needed to do. I’m just finding that with my age, it’s harder to rid myself of the anxiety I’m feeling. I just need to watch this before every ride ❤

  • @lotusflowerart
    @lotusflowerart Рік тому

    Love your honesty. Thank you.

  • @darlenemassey6161
    @darlenemassey6161 Рік тому +1

    I don't own a horse but I used to ride when I was younger. Really love watching and learning from your videos. This one has lessons for more than working with a horse. It shows how to be humble and what you might be doing something that stops your forward progress in life. Thanks so much for sharing such an intimate lesson.

  • @mydragonknits
    @mydragonknits Рік тому +2

    Thank you for sharing this with us. It's so important for everyone to remember that horses are a reflection of their humans. I volunteer at a lesson program, we are always telling the kids it's not the horses fault. Someone put that problem into that horse, it's our job to take it back out. Love that you were able to figure out how to repair your relationship with Tucker.

  • @deplorable-kn4gl
    @deplorable-kn4gl Рік тому

    Oh my! Thank you so much for sharing this. ♥️ I am going through a similar situation with my horse. Can’t wait to see more videos with you and Tucker.

  • @83annak
    @83annak Рік тому

    Thanks for your honest message. It means a lot. I wish you a really great time with Tucker. He is a beautiful horse and I‘m very glad you two found common ground again. ❤ And for the record, I had some really difficult times with my mare as well, but I also came to the conclusion that first of all I have to work on myself before getting all frustrated about my horse. She had always tried her very best and in the end it‘s really often enough the human that has to change aka do things differently to make it work. 😊

  • @applewood_breyers9883
    @applewood_breyers9883 Рік тому

    Thank you for this video! I have been feeling stuck with my horse. I have had thoughts of what if he was better off without me. But I love him to much for me to not change how I am. I get frustrated with him at times like you said. This has helped me feel a lot less alone.

  • @shinymoon.digitalart9475
    @shinymoon.digitalart9475 Рік тому

    Thank you for this video. I love the way you reflect about all that, trying to find a solution without giving up, always open to learning new things and accepting that the horse is not the problem. Wich I know is really difficult. You are great 😊❤️

  • @sylvielefebvre6271
    @sylvielefebvre6271 Рік тому

    Thank you soo much! 🙏❤

  • @joannokane8533
    @joannokane8533 Рік тому

    So glad you worked it out 💜

  • @empienaar
    @empienaar Рік тому

    What a lovely video. I find so much value in your videos. Started riding 3 years ago after a 27 year break an your videos guided me all the way. Got my own horse a few weeks ago and I am studying your groundwork videos like crazy. You made a big difference in my life and I am very grateful for the time you put in.

  • @andymcmanus2191
    @andymcmanus2191 Рік тому

    I really needed to hear this today...Thank you for sharing your story it really hit home with me...I'm super happy it worked out for you too🙂🐴❤

  • @marcimarczyk6468
    @marcimarczyk6468 Рік тому

    Aww, thank you for sharing. I'm sure it was tough on you to realize you had to change. I'm so happy you and Tucker are doing so good together again!!!

  • @randiwebb4771
    @randiwebb4771 Рік тому

    So glad u shared this with us!

  • @isabellefrittum1459
    @isabellefrittum1459 Рік тому

    Thank you for thatching. I am just realising the same thing with my mare. I can work on the ground with no problems but due to accidents in my youth and not been so young now I am the one with the problem to get on her back. After watching this I am going for riding lessons.

  • @cailagrace1002
    @cailagrace1002 Рік тому

    Thank you for sharing your story 🧡 I had a similar experience with my horse, Bailee. Bailee was given to me by my sister. She was a green horse and I was a green equestrian. It did not go well. I was frustrated with her almost all the time. She is high strung and anxious, which I didn’t know how handle at the time. I realized I needed help when she started getting aggressive. A friend came alongside me and I learned about the relationship I could have with her. I learned to control my anger and to remain calm.

  • @Pepper20312
    @Pepper20312 Рік тому

    Thank you for posting this I struggled in the fall of 2022 with my horse where our connection was tested. He was alway anxious. I felt like I had run through a million options. I was having no fun riding or being with him. Than I decided to switch barns and get a new trainer to get a different perspective and I swear these last two months while slightly stressful from the move but it has been such an improvement is our riding in our relationship and we aren’t full back to where we were but we are getting there.

  • @irenecoermann2439
    @irenecoermann2439 Рік тому

    Thank you so much for sharing your story! Incredible for a young person like you. Going into adulthood and trying to figure out how to make a living is very stressful and your horse sensed that stress and reacted. I am also just learning to build connection thru horsemanship which we don't do much in English riding. I am sure you have come across Warwick Schiller's methods. Very cool stuff. Not reacting emotionally to your horse is a big part of this. It's hard to do.

  • @jennifersteiner5777
    @jennifersteiner5777 Рік тому

    Very strong video!
    Never blame yourselfe for not knowing things. As long as you're willing to learn, everything is perfect :)

  • @equineabi1
    @equineabi1 Рік тому

    I love this video. Can totally relate with feeling frustrated and anxious then seeing it play out in the horse. I love how you explained everything too!❤

  • @Artemesia_
    @Artemesia_ Рік тому

    Such an important message. Thanks so much for sharing this.

  • @chris_versi.403
    @chris_versi.403 Рік тому

    I have a 11 yr old quarter horse gelding. When I first got him he was fine, but maybe a year into owning him, I gained many of the signs you developed with Tucker! I thought he didn’t like me anymore and what we had was through so I truly was going to sell him and if it weren’t for my mom (who later turned out to be his person lol), I would’ve. I made the extra step to let my trainer know what was going on and that I was really in a slump. She worked with me for a good while on the skills like you learned and now he and I are good again! Made me sad that I thought selling would be the best way to go, and while I don’t use him as my head honcho any more (he’s now a kids/leaser type horse), we still have a good bond!
    It’s great that you shared this experience, I’m sure so many have gone through the same dilemma and we as horse people definitely hit those slumps! You and Tucker make for an awesome team and I definitely can’t wait to see what else you guys will do!

  • @carencrisp4907
    @carencrisp4907 Рік тому

    Thank you so much for this video. It’s encouraging to hear! Keep up the great work & fun helpful content.

  • @lacyimes8091
    @lacyimes8091 Рік тому

    Thanks for this video. It helped me right now. I just bought a horse 3 months ago, a little 4 year old mare, to finish its training. She just seems like she has gotten worse since I bought her. I thought I was a good rider. I thought could train a new horse. I am working with a trainer and this has given me hope to keep going forward and to work through the hard times. I think the move was really hard for this horse and I just need to give her space to settle in, not get mad at her, and just be calm. Thanks for being vulnerable to help others also struggling!

  • @Mystikk89
    @Mystikk89 Рік тому

    Sooo happy u2 are reconnecting ❤❤❤

  • @Like_andsub597
    @Like_andsub597 Рік тому

    I am so sorry. I am glad you shard this time of your life with us. we are hear for you!!!!!

  • @tatielester6871
    @tatielester6871 Рік тому

    Thank you for sharing! It helps to know that I am not the only one struggling!

  • @starwalkerranch
    @starwalkerranch 6 місяців тому

    Made me cry. Thank you!

  • @deirdrepratte9231
    @deirdrepratte9231 Рік тому

    Great video. Thanks for being so honest!!

  • @annettemcnabb3033
    @annettemcnabb3033 Рік тому

    Love your honesty!!! I too ( i have to think most horse people) have experienced what your taliking about. My horse is tb cross and we have had our times!! but i realized he was my best teacher!!!!! He mirrored everything! From my anxiety to if i did or did not execute and exercise correctly i would really look at myself and try and figgure out what i did wrong-it was slow going for a few years but i wouldn't quit and because of that willingness to look at myself he and i are still together-best horse ever! and he's now 22 yr.'s old:)