Red Flags in a Relationship: 7 Signs You CANNOT Ignore | Relationship Advice for Women by Mat Boggs
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Do you think ignoring these red flags will lead to being a victim of abuse, provided that the partner is prone to domestic abuse, or is it considered maladaptive behavior?
i love your speches 😅😂
Just entered a new relationship and am still learning about my partner and dating occasionally so I haven't noticed any of these signs... But I see a few in myself. So I'm here to learn how to leave those bad habits behind and grow as a person so I can be the best that I can for him.
self-aware, insightful and genuine, you are a beautiful soul.
Same 😅
Looking in hindsight, a lot of these red flags were in my relationship. What few times we would be around my family and friends, he would say things to embarrass me. If someone wronged me, he would side with the other person. Many times he would say he was being an ahole on purpose. He would try to tear me down as a form of control. When I left him, it was one of the best things I ever did.
And he probably told everyone at the end it was your fault so he would look like the good person
@@jacquelyndrossart2091
Probably but at the end of the day who really cares what he says
purposely embarrassing you should be on this list!
What a jerk! Glad you're free of that.
@@shannonmcgill8206
Humiliation....why do people do that ?
Just sent this video to my daughter she's in a relationship and it falls under every single one of these I told her to leave him now before it goes to far
7 Red Flags In Relationships
1. Your partner is quick to get defensive.
2. The rules don't apply to your partner.
3. White lies.
4. He's over critical and subtly critical.
5. He's a bad sport when he's doing something you want to do.
6. He minimizes your wins.
7. He cannot be with your unhappiness.
Clearly these describe a narcissist. If you meet one, back away. Quickly or slowly, back away. No. RUN AWAY.
mine would allways suddenly claim to have a stomach ache etc. whenever he realised i was happy......however as soon as he saw something which he liked the illeness would dissapear immediatelly, it was a pattern, so glad i got away.
A covert narcissist won't show you any of these signs until he got you instead he will give you love bombing which is a red flag as well
Omg. I’ve been married 39 years and my husband is EVERYONE of these things
@@dianep3071 wow. How have you dealt with his attitudes? Are you happy?
@@dianep3071 Jesus Loves You so much May You feel His Peace which superseeds All Things. He also invites You to trust Him and speak to Him any Time about anything You want. 😘🕊
This can be used for your friendships as well.
Yea this can also apply in the family relationship too.
They can’t apologize. Or if they do, it’s not to own it and tell you how they can address it. They just say something like “I’m sorry that you feel that way.”
They run hot and cold. One moment they love you. The next they want to pick an argument and they can’t be reached. That’s usually someone who has other options they’re spending time with, whether early dating or after they claim they’re being exclusive
They don’t want to compromise. It feels like they are playing chess with you, waiting to yell, “ check mate! I win! “ it feels like they’re trying to win by not giving something you want. They will even do it with something simple. Like, you ask them to do something for you and they always to have an excuse ready.
This goes hand in hand with the previous. They don’t really seem bothered by disappointing you. The have a lot of “but” excuses. Yet they don’t honestly seem bothered or try to make it up to you.
Inability to say sorry and also the silent treatment during the pain. There’s a difference between being present with someone during times of pain, and giving them the silent treatment because it’s an inconvenience.
Deflection is another red flag in my experience. Always redirecting the conversation away from the issue they are contributing too, or have directly created due to words and actions or inactions.
I’ve just walked away from a guy after 3 months of dating because of this. He used to be late all the time (sometimes up to 3 hours) and not say sorry.’ I didn’t realise how bad things could get until he got upset about my phone being off, refused to talk to me without telling me why, ignored me on my birthday which was really hurtful for me, gave me silent treatment for 2 weeks, then called to confront me without owning up to his behaviour, evading any attempts from me to understand why he was upset. He cut the call and ghosted me! Ouch. It’s taught me just how crucial healthy communication skills are. Without it a relationship is destined to fail. It’s a shame, but the level of vengefulness and inability to say sorry/ take accountability was a deal breaker for me, I felt unsafe and it had a huge impact on me. As much as I believe grace is important and people can change, I also have to take responsibility for what is mine which is that my health, wellbeing and happiness matter greatly. I deserve to be treated well and with respect as much as I seek to treat others well and respect them
They are unwilling to compromise, so everything always has to be the way they're used to doing it or from their perspective. Also, they avoid having the difficult conversations.
You just gave huge information, saw all of this in my previous marriage. Now I know!
Thank you, Matt, this video helped me a lot! I would add two more red flags: jealousy, or basic misstrust, as well as sexual /social discrimination.
I just broke up with a guy who saw a sexual invitation in every smile I gave any male, no matter the context of the conversation. It took him some time to say anything but I could read his body language and got his negative nonverbal signs right before we had our first confronting conversation about that. And it got even worse, as soon as I mentioned a word about anythig related to any of my previous relationships. I'm almost fifty years old, and have some baggage of experience, I stand to it all, and have nothing to hide or be ashamed of. However, this man would prefer me pretending to be a blank sheet of paper.... Further more, I was shocked to hear from him in a conversation about social help networks that victims of rape were all themselves to blame. It took me almost half a year to realise that there can be no future for me with that guy, no matter how romantic and lovegiving he was. I wish I hadn't dated him that long.
These red flags SO describe my ex. Thanks for the reminder to flip these and concentrate on the green lights so we attract who we do want to share our life with. Appreciate you, Mat, and your very useful videos!
Realizing a lot of red flags about my ex that I couldn't see before
Actually finding this super helpful to figure out what I need to work on in myself before my next relationship (white lies, self-esteem, etc)
Competes with me in everything and has to be the winner.
Brilliant advice to share with people, thank you for all you do 🙏 my kids dad displayed all those traits but cloaked with smiles and fun while mirroring my values to lure me in until after i was pregnant! Life's an interesting lesson! Wish I'd received your wisdom 20 years ago but am happy to be learning now and teaching my kids (and myself!) great boundaries, self worth, kindness and healthy behaviours. Thank you
hi mat, thank you for your advice, i have been following your advice since last year, I overcame my traumatic because of my past relationship, i tried to ignore guys who gave me the red flags, now i found the love of my live, and finally I got married, and it's wonderful i believe that love is still exist ❤️ . keep doing this kindness matt, it's very important for the girl to know your channel 😊.
spread ❤️
The person who is always busy most of the times I need him most!
Sounds alot like narcissism. My ex to a T.
Mine too that's why I divorced him
Been there. Done that. Wore the t-shirt.
the perfect description of my husband 😪. Im trying to find a way to escape this craziness.
Keep working towards it! It took me a couple of years to get out and we weren't even married, it's soo worth it to being able just to find yourself again and just be! You got this! 🤗
@@Schnellanie thank you for your very kind words! I will!
Me too! 28 years
Mat...thank you so much for sharing these. I am a smart woman, a health care provider who feels so confident with helping to advocate for my patients, friends & family...but advocating for myself, especially with matters of the heart, was a strength I had not yet learned to embody. Now thankfully it is a new skillset I am evolving within myself.
My ex-husband had 3 out of these 7...and boy did they wear on me (plus a few others). I was constantly unsure whether I was seeing red flags or if I was being too 'ready to run away' from the relationship bc of fear.
-he was the ultimate bad boy, but made it sound like he was ready to grow up...which we both figured out, in time, wasn't the case. I love how you frame this...if he's willing to break the rules for small stuff he'll be willing to break the rules for big stuff also...yup, I found that out the hard way.
-he flat out lied about important questions I asked him early on...and then eventually when he did tell me the truth, I soon realized they were only half truths. In 1 phone conversation, I found him in 4 lies/half truths and each time I called him out he used another half truth to try to cover up..and on and on! And then he got pissed off at me for calling him out each time. This one took about 3 years for me to realize (while we were in the process of divorcing or getting back together) ...it's hard to know something is a lie...until you do...
-and whenever I was having an emotionally yucky day...sad, mad, etc...he would get super angry and huffy...he always said that he hated seeing the people he loved hurting...but in the end it always became about calming HIS anger and rage and my emotional needs became unimportant...even to my own self!
....gosh as I list these, I'm blown away by how I stayed so long...how I gave him the benefit of the doubt over my own gut (and boy my gut would YELL at me for some of these)...I would focus on the good, the amazing stuff and ignore the red flags...it all seemed to creep up slowly & infrequently ...and then when my heart was so attached the frequency of the red flags became more & more and eventually when I hit a wall...I threw up my own white flag and called it quits...quite in opposition to my heart.
Another red flag...
-he made major decisions about our time together/whether to fulfill my needs, based on his family's input or their needs. For example he missed my bday and bday party (my 1st bday with him) so that his sister and her kids could drop him off to be with me at my beach rental, the next day....so they could get beach time in....that was at our 6 month point...and looking back I should have turned them away when they finally showed up and said, sorry, too little too late...but I sucked it up. And this was a few months after we missed his sister-in-laws bday, bc we were away. He was freaked out that we missed it and was adamant that we'd have to make it up and take her out for dinner....!!! Yet, it was OK to miss his own partners bday...yikes, I was blinded by oxytocin, for sure!! And the final straw was during covid...my mom had stage 4 metastatic cancer and needed to be on o2 all the time. We both wanted to be able to see our families and friends...so I asked him to wear a mask around anyone who wasn't me so I could safely see my mom...I thought that was pretty reasonable...turns out he didn't think it was reasonable and lied about it for 6 months. When I called him out on it he just kept saying he didn't take my needs seriously (well, thats pretty obvious, i thought to myself...and he had no reason why except that he didnt want to make anyone ELSE feel uncomfortable)...and it wasn't until his sister told him it was OK that he wore a mask around everyone that he was ready to 'submit' (my word) to my needs...that's when I decided to sleep on my next decision...woke up the next day and told him to leave. Boy was that hard...and easy. Easy bc I felt so betrayed...but hard bc I loved him (or rather the idea of who I wanted him to be) so much and really wanted HIM to be the man I would grow old with.
The blessing and curses of the wonderful oxytocin...and...of what I've learned were so many underlying beliefs that I held about my worthiness of love...
Some days I still miss him bc there truly were A LOT of wonderful times together, shared loves, decades of knowing each other from a far, similar dreams...and then I remember the reality of our true fit, our contributions to each other and the relationship...and I realize I made the absolute right choice to MOVE ON. Now I know that next time, I need to be slower, more discerning and listen to my gut.
Thank you so much for this video & list...having a concrete list to refer to for external validation of my inner voice as I learn how to listen, is so very reaffirming and helps me to feel confident in my interperetations of the new inner language I'm growing more and more accustomed to.
With much gratitude, thank you.
Thanks for sharing this. I can relate to some points. I usually don't read the super long comments, but did this time. Wish you healing and greater insight/strength as you move forward with hard-earned lessons to create a better future for yourself.
You know, I’m learning things to be a better partner myself too, within my own marriage 😂
Thanks Mat, you present it all in such a positive, non attacking manner and it just makes sense. Grateful for what you do 🙏🏼
Insulting my intelligence, telling me they are the only person who can tolerate my "drama", using things I have shared as ammunition so my own words are thrown into my face.
When a man pays attention to other women and compliments them or comments to other guys around about other women when you are out with them it makes you feel less than. That kind of guy is insecure and signals disrespect.
Being with another person in their discomfort is difficult b/c everyone likes to be comforted/consoled in different ways. It was great to hear Matt say to ask "what do you need from me right now?".
Great vlog; how a guy makes you feel is sooooo important. He could be not a model type yet nicer and you are so much better off. I've had a first hand experience with the guy doesn't want to do what YOU want to do. Yet, when it's with his family, your expected to go. When it's something HE wants to do.
I would say "how you let a guy make you feel" . Recognizing what is healthy and that you have choices is important in not getting stuck in a relationship that does not work well.
Family member consistently gave backhanded compliments and criticism; and would not discuss making positive changes. I don't miss this relationship.
Poor communication is a serious red flag.
I would just add that sometimes is better to first make sure it's not just some misunderstanding between the two of you. It can be just an honest mistake.
Imagine a man who has just brothers and never has any female friends. It's possible he might need to learn some new communication skills first. And honestly I wouldn't blame him, he just haven't had the opportunity to learn those skills yet.
But if you explain what do you expect from him, what are your boundaries, what would you appreciate to change etc. but even after that conversation nothing really changes or you get a negative response, you're right, it's definitely a red flag.
If you on the other hand get more like an apologetic response, it's obvious he had no idea and wants to get it right asap to make you feel comfortable spending time with him and even after some time continues practicing those positive changes without making you feel bad about that, I wouldn't see that inicial problem as a red flag.
I did response to his text, I said me too, Thanks. No explanation what so ever. He just said he didn't want to go to a movie. Quote, sorry. SO I blocked him to my contacts, never talk to him again.
I’m learning a lot from your videos, thank you!
all these red flags didn't show up until I married him....10 years later I decided it wasn't for me and I left....
Good point! Why do you want someone negative!
Damn, this video is so damn good. Mat, you rock explaining the feeling that we should have and what to expect from a GOOD partner. 100% quality content. Sad that I know all that, but need the remembering. Those good men exist. People are not perfect, but if they are called to change and do not, move on.
Keep teaching amazing job.
These are some great advice. Thanks Matt!
This video was a really good one! Thank you very much! 😊❤
Wow very brilliant idea thanks
Most helpful vid ever! Thank You 🕊
Oh wow great info
This highly resonates with me…my DM has denied, delayed, blocked, ignored, pushed away any feelings he had for me for 37 years and he is still thinking about me as I have him appearing in my thoughts and dreams all day long everyday. It has only increased in the last two years. His father and God above are pushing him back towards me and a future with him.
I’ve just walked away from a guy after 3 months of dating because of this. He used to be late all the time (one time up to 3 hours) and not say sorry.’ I didn’t realise how bad things could get until he got upset about my phone being off, refused to talk to me without telling me why, ignored me on my birthday which was really hurtful for me, gave me silent treatment for 2 weeks, then called to confront me without owning up to his behaviour, evading any attempts from me to understand why he was upset. He cut the call and ghosted me! Ouch. It’s taught me just how crucial healthy communication skills are. Without it a relationship is destined to fail. It’s a shame, but the level of vengefulness and inability to say sorry/ take accountability was a deal breaker for me, I felt unsafe and it had a huge impact on me. As much as I believe grace is important and people can change, I also have to take responsibility for what is mine which is that my health, wellbeing and happiness matter greatly. I deserve to be treated well and with respect as much as I seek to treat others well and respect them.
Watching your videos, I also make sure to be that partner as well. I feel such a relief when I hear your words because they help me create a solid image of a healthy relationship, be it with friends or partners. Thank you for your time ☆
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No. 1- They can't prioritise you over their families/ job
No. 2- Doesn't find time for you even during dating stage
No. 3 Avoids discussions at all costs. Cannot handle conflicts.
No. 3
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#7 is something I am actively working on, in myself. I hate seeing people in pain but also I know it's partially selfish because someone in pain puts ME in pain. Yeh I'm an empath but just because I struggle with other people's pain doesn't mean it's ok for me to try and solve everything at my pace and not "be with them in their pain" as talked about in this video.
The analogy of them diving into the well of a feeling and being stopped halfway down was powerful. It also makes me appreciate my best friend even more, he is very good at being with me in my pain and asking what I need. This video gave me another foothold in my battle against this behavior in myself. Thank you! ♥
Thank you Mat, I really needed to hear this. This is reaffirming for me at this juncture in my life. I’ve recently filed for divorce after 10 years with someone with all of the flags!!
He says one thing..his actions do not match..red flag!
Some of the best advice from a friend of ten years "Don't be TOO understanding." Yes! ❤ Thanks, Mat for this content. So important to know going into a relationship. If I would hsve been able to see this video many years ago...😮❤
Neggimg ist an horrible stuff to Deal with and beeing offensive rigt away ist a Red Flags. Matt I really appreciate your advices. I am online Dating right now. I might have found a good Match but It ist giig to know the red Flags and also to ve aeare of my own mistakes in Former relationshio! Thank you so much. God Bless!!🌞🎉
Thank you
i experienced these red flags with my ex. he is a history. i like watching your videos.. thanks for sharing the knowledge
Am learning from all these and how to get in,Touch with the man of my own dreams, haven't been In a relationship for a while now
Amen , great Topic and A lot of important things u said in this video , most important one of the things I have noticed as well is men that can't ackoweldge you for but only what u can do for them like money in my opinion money doesn't buy love it can't be bought true love that is also , man that talks more about themselves then hearing that woman or how she feels such a turn off and red flags ! God bless you your Family and your buusness ❤
Thank you Matt for this wealth of information....❤simple concise and helpful ...I'm sending this GEMSTONE🎉to my son and daughter..25year old and 29year old respectively.This 51year old won't and cant explain this important life lesson so perfectly🙌💯👌💝
This is why I'm staying single. Had all this before and never again
Thank you for this video. Shared it to my FB page because I just lost someone because he wouldn't own his shit.
Happy relationship needs hard work from both partners.. thank you Me.Mat
I wouldn’t go on a second date with men who complain about their ex. The first date is always special and it’s time to enjoy the moment together.
Hi Mat,I love watching your dating advice,I hope you'll also advice a woman in a long distance relationship,specially on the stage of knowing each other.What are the red flags to be consider,thank uou.
Wow! No wonder I left the relationship! 💃💃💃💃
Lack of communication and inability to apologise when in the wrong.
I found out my going 2 b ex is bipolar & triggers after he eats sugar & would act just like the 1st two exactly! I'm going 2 b paying attention 2 these behaviors next time! I was with this guy for 1.5 yrs. ! I need a good guy this next time! Thank you for your video-so honest! Look forward 2 more!
I wish i would have heard & know this some years back 😂.
Another one is when they cannot stop talking about themselves and leave no room for me to share
Ignoring you and non stop on his phone. Made me feel so bad , I started crying and he never noticed it.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
That is real sad, wish you the best!
Signs I’ve noticed is the limited time he gives me in the beginning of the dating phase and how the time he shares becomes less and less as time passes by.
I hear you.
My ex did the thing with criticism/compliment a lot. One day he asked me if I could get my boobs done and wear more make-up outside. I never considered myself unatractive, so I always fought back... Another day he started picking up on my underwear, I finally got fed up and told him that the holes in his underwear aren't particular sexy neither :D It's been almost 3 years since I left and I invested all the free time and money into my own growth and deep healing. Best thing ever
Willfully insist they are right, even after given facts to the contrary.
Red flags I've experienced was a guy I recently dated who did not like PDA. He pulled away from me and was irritated because I wanted to share a kiss and hug goodbye. Made me feel awful when I left.
I have been married 39 years and I’m ready to call it quits. I’m disabled due to back surgery’s and have been on disability for 1 1/2 years. I have a hard time doing things. I do them. Just takes me longer than normal.
😮 1). No matter what I do. It’s not good enough. (He works so hard all week. ) what did you do. I’ll name a list off. Well. That should take you what 1/2 hour ? No matter what I do it’s not enough ,
2) no sex , no intimacy , no cuddles. No hugs or kisses ,
3). Very defensive if I ask him ANY thing. (I’m being to controlling)
4) no matter what it is. He makes it my fault . Never him.
5) he starts arguing just to pick a fight to make me feel bad .
6) no conversation can be about him with faults. Jus t me. , and we can’t talk about him if he brings me up being the bad guy
Never, ever being celebrated.
Never being able to do anything I like. Sabotaging activities I like.
Never acknowledging achievements.
No compliments ever.
I would like to add a man who cannot make decisions, procrastinates, is not financially stable and very passive.
Not red flegs, not standards, not high value woman, just normal human being with self- respect and self- confidence who will find someone like me.
I broke up with a guy like this and a friend said he was like this because of 'cultural differences' which is such a weird and racist thing to say.
Cultural differences never justify being an ahole, just sayin'! Might wanna reevaluate your friendship, too...
#4 ~ close that door and seal it shut, lol
Matt. In a new relationship. About a week. He says he will be home tonight and we can text all night but then we part at 6 for having dinner ( he is 3000 miles away) and three hours pass and he never comes back online. No word at all. Like I feel ignored and ghosted. I am. 75 he is 65. Never met.
My boyfriend didn't told me that he celebrated the birthday of his ex in his own house ..because he said I might be angry of course I am going to be angry ..if I ask him if me or his or ex he still choose his ex because he cannot find a friend like her
Whoa....
Red Flag- he doesn't ask about things that are important to me!
For example, I make an important presentation, but he doesn't ask about it. 😢
well I just want to say. this man I met on dating site loves rock music, I am not really crazy about it. I asked the guy if we could change station he said that we listen to your music last time but really did not I tried to do music that would be a nix of songs so we both like it how can I change that or is that a red flag
Every girl needs to be taught this when she is in high school.
All of them 😬
I don't think fibbing to your boss why you're late, is a red flag. If it's too your partner, then it is
Not chopped liver!😂😂😂😂
All of them. Why im single and not ready to mingle. 😂
My ex is all 7 flags. What was I thinking?!😫
CANT be wit their phone around u or put it down or never use ur phone around u
It is ok if they lie,and always accusing you of things,it's ok if they have friends but it's not ok for you.they are always right.its ok for them to express how they feel but your feelings doesn't count.
This is interesting to me
So my experience to this guy I went for coffee 1s meet at Starbucks, he was about 3min, late we had okay conversations, he wanted to see me again. So he called me we talked on the phone planning to see movie's he likes, I told him I'll let him know, I didn't call him right away, I got a text from him saying: he changes his mind & said sorry, that's it. So I respect to his text & I said mee too, thanks..I was thinking this a red flags, I decided to end it & block him off my contacts.
Thanks,, Mat your educated me a lot good informations..I'm still hoping & willing to try it again? I know there's a good man out there?..🤔
I really like your messages..😊
Stop playing games! Did you want to go see movie with him? Did you have a reason you said you going to think about it? If you were not sure u want to see him, he felt that and decided not to waste time! If you just said to sound like you are not that interested make him beg, well…like I said! Games! People should stop playing games…say it and if he is on the same path, he will not miss the opportunity!
"It's easier to ask forgiveness than it is to get permission". This rubbed me the wrong way from the start.
#5-#7... Don't worry, I'm trying to break up with him. He doesn't get the message very easily! 🤦♀️
Insecurity and jealousy
Me and my boyfriend we got a new house and new life together we been together almost 3 years, I started tracking him for a big reason ! Now he tells me going to back to office ok ! When I’m watching his tracking shows he’s somewhere else, front 7 am till 1:30 pm , when he comes home I asked how was your day at work in the office he’s like was very busy! Next day and next I stared watching him again 2 days in roll he was in the condo house this time I called him he said he’s at the meeting now, next day he was at the same place ! He got angry to me when I asked him you wasn’t in your office 2 days! He got nasty with me I kept it very come and slow on him , Matt please help me!!! He’s lying to me!
Honestly I've asked him to help me financially and he is still quite.... A simple no I can't would have been way better..... For me this is a huge red flag 😢
You can only ask for money from your husband! Even if he is the guy…asking for money just puts you in a bad spot! Do not ask men for money!
🤔 when I tell my husband something, every reply back is a story about himself, that may or may not be in reference to what I said. He can never acknowledge my stories- we got married May 2022, I filed for a divorce and hand delivered 2 days before Christmas. I will not tolerate his ignorance. Plus he has 2 adult kids that live with him. He won’t leave them to live with me, because he doesn’t want them to be homeless. I told him I would make his decision easy, live with your adult children. Have a beautiful life. I wish you nothing but the best! Just waiting on the judge to sign off on the paperwork.
Mat,
I enjoyed hearing of women who didn't settle and found happiness elsewhere. I would like to hear more success stories of women connecting with better, healthier, emotionally available, mentally stable, mature yet fun-loving, optimistic yet realistic men who have your back, who genuinely cares, who are authentic and supportive. Women need realistic yet positive encouragement to know that there is Hope and settling for unhappiness is unnecessary, a time waster and puts your life on hold, collecting dust, holding you back. Spinning your wheels going nowhere round and round wearing you down with clowns who frown is a real letdown. Why are women afraid to let go and Trust that someone better is out there ?! Is it a self esteem issue, lack of quality men mindset, or fomo? Is it loneliness, or not going after what really makes us happy ?
They ignore your text messages.
My husband failed 1-7 all of them 😢
Mainly #3-WHITE LIES(AKA-WASTED LIES) as I call them. Probably the back-handed compliments as well. Your signs are good ones, making it hard to pin down one. Hell, it's probably all 7 of them. Thanks for sharing with the rest of the class, Mat! 😊
He puts me last to his friends of both sexes. Over shares his past life. Makes me feel that my feelings don't matter.
Why need 7?! Be done after the first two✌🏻
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