Story time on how I found out I have syphilis while pregnant!
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- Опубліковано 28 січ 2024
- This was definitely a difficult video to record. I had been thinking about making this video for awhile now but I never had the guts to do it. I think it is finally time to share my story and hopefully help others who are going through a similar situation. I just want everyone to know you are never alone even when it feels like it. I am so grateful for my husband that stood by my side and never judge me. I thank God for my two beautiful children and for protecting them from this horrible experience I had to go through. We hope this video reaches people and starts conversations. I am still learning to not be embarrassed by this. I know it wasn't my fault and I'm just glad I caught it in time. Thank you for watching. Love you all.
This is about the most selfless video I have ever seen. You’re so kind. Thank you for being a good person
Thank you 🫶🏽
I totally agree!
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I took care of a woman who got syphillus and ended up in a mental hospital from dementia and blindness caused by the disease she caught decades before. Be more proactive in finding out from a doctor about all the details instead of going to google or UA-cam.
Years ago I worked in a nursing home. This one man came to see his wife (dementia patient) every week like clock work. I told one of my coworkers how sweet I thought it was and she told me that actually the guy was a nasty cruel human being. He had caught syphilis way back in their marriage and had gotten his taken care of but never told his wife. So essentially, she was at the end stages of the disease and he was guilted into visiting her because it was his fault. I never looked at him the same and it scared the crap out of me. Anyone who has a disease that is transferable to your partner(s) needs to be up front and tell them BEFORE sex. With HIV, AIDS and syphilis out there, everyone needs to get tested. When I got divorced the doctor tested me since he was a slime and had had multiple partners while we were married, including an HIV scare which is how I found out. Thank you for sharing your story. I'm sure people will have their own opinions, but you are doing a good thing here by talking about it openly. Hopefully those who need to see it will take your advice and see their doctor. It never hurts to check no matter how much you believe your spouse is faithful, or your partner.
There are 4 stages of syphilis: Primary, secondary, latent, and tertiary. Primary and secondary are the contagious stages. She describes these stages as they happened to her. When the rash on the hands went away, she entered the latent stage, where there are no visible signs or symptoms as the bacteria literally bores into your body. The final stage, or tertiary, affects many different organ systems, including the heart and blood vessels, and the brain and nervous system. The tertiary stage is very serious and occurs anywhere from 10 to 30 years after the initial infection began. Weakened organs, heart attack, changes in vision or even blindness, hearing loss, and dementia can occur. Syphilis is curable with the right antibiotics; however treatment might not undo any damage that has occurred from the advancing infection. Follow up with your healthcare provider, or local health department, for confirmation of successfully ridding your body of the infection. Since her syphilis has advanced to the latent stage, she must have her blood titers checked at least once a year until given the ‘all clear’ from her doctor.
Yes! Thank you for explaining it so well. That is exactly right. When my kids were born their doctor said the titer level was at 1 .
You are really brave to make this video. Thank you for shedding light. I didn't know much at all about Syphilis before. By sharing this I know you are helping many. You here that Syphilis is out there, but no one ever talks about it.
Yes exactly no one ever talks about it. I wish there was more informational videos when I was going through this and just needed hope.
Good God!!!! Is she ever!!!!
Thank you so much for bringing awareness to the issue. Syphillis is on the rise nationwide.
Especially Florida and mostly the elderly because they don't worry about getting pregnant, so they have unprotected sex and spread their diseases all around
Please don't be embarrassed sweetheart❣Telling your story straight from your heart was so brave and so courageous and I'm sure you have helped so many others who are going through the same and are too afraid to speak up and ask questions!! Blessings to your wonderful husband for standing strong right beside you❣ I wish you both and your precious babies much love & happiness!~Lisa from Virginia❤
Thank you so much. This means a lot. I wanted to share my story so other parents going through this had information or even just a connection.
You were blessed to get pregnant! He did indeed save your life!
Yes! I truly believe this 100%
Please don't feel embarrassed.. you've done a very helpful thing for everyone. This info needs to be put out there. Well done... both of you. 🙏
My first husband infected me with gonorrhea. I was only 16. It thought he must have got it from his first partner as i had never slept with anyone before. We got thru it and after 4 years he infected me again. Needless to say...divorce time.
you're never too old to learn. I learned from your openness. thank you for sharing your experience. blessings to your family
They used to do a blood test for stds for your marriage licence.
They stopped that a long time ago!
Very brave of you to talk about this subject. I'm so glad you both stayed together and that your baby is OK. You are very sweet. Well done
Thank you 🥰
You’re so awesome for making this cel, this is going to help so many people. ❤
It definitely took courage. I was putting it off for a long time but finally decided it was time to share my story.
Thanks for making this! Alot of people assume that the person has been cheating. My husband and i got married a month after meeting and i got pregnant after 7 months. But For the past couple years since we got together ive had recurrent Bacterial vaginosis and couldnt figure out why it kept coming back. I went to a new doctor this past friday and turns out i have an STI called Trichomoniasis (a parasite) which was throwing off my ph causing the recurrent BV. Every time id treat the BV (the meds also treat trich) id be with my husband and get it again. Thankfully my husband knew and believed id been faithful. They told me since I had a c section nothing would have affected my baby and apparently if babies get trich from birth it resolves on its own. Its crazy that this day and age they missed yours though! With my second pregnancy 3 years ago they "forgot" to tell me i had hypothyroidism and i passed it to my daughter that now has to take thyroid medicine for the rest of her life. I actually didnt know once you have syphilis youre always positive! Good info and Im glad everything worked out for you
I also dealt with bacterial vaginosis when I was with my ex husband. I haven't had it in a very long time but definitely know the struggles. I'm sorry to hear about your daughter. I can't imagine what you all went through. Thank you for your comment. I wish you the best in your future.
Do you also trust him 100%?
As a kid in the 70s I always heard penicillin would cure it. Unless you let it go on too long. Then it was forever.
Hypothyroidism is an auto immune disease, you can't catch it
@@gracehall9199the writing is on the wall. Idk how she missed it.
You are very brave to share your experience…you are helping others with your story ❤
Thank you. All I want from this video is to help other parents women and men.
I love your cat! So adorable! Sorry you guys are going thru this. I never knew that it would always remain in your body like that. 🇨🇦🤔🤔🇨🇦
Thank you because some of us are the faithful wife who believe everything is OK in there home 🏡 and its not, we get the rug pulled over us.
Thank you for sharing your helping others so much.
Thank you :)
I didn’t know if you tested for it once you always test positive for it. I learned that today at 61yrs old
You are opening your self up and helping so many younger people. Syphlllis is one of the oldest STD. If your titer rises it means that for some reason it is multiplying , which means it could be reactivated, then you have to be treated again. For your kids you can get a form that say congenital syphilis non reactive. What it means is they were born with it but have not had active disease. I am suprised that you dont know about it, but they dont do detailed sex ed like they used to. You can get it from oral sex also. It is not as uncommon as you think
Sometimes if someone is positive they can go get treated at the health department,.or planned parent hood. Now I don't know if you know it but syphilis is kind of like gonorrhea , the men dont usually know they have because they may have a little pain or burning,maybe discharge but it doesnt last long.. if you want to know more about there is a really good but sad book on war time medical research. During WW Ii the government did testing on black service men ,they would infect them.during a physical, some were treadted some were not. This is like when they did steralization of indigenous people of the US and Canada and did not tell anyone. If you are interested look in books about history of medicine. You will learn a lot. Just a little bit of info measles, mumps and rubella they thought this illness was gone no longer.active in the US.but suprise, there are cases popping up in a lot of places in the US. A lot of them are kids that were not vaccinated. Or no vaccination and have been to another country.such as India,Africa ect countries that do not vaccinate kids. Yes I do know about these things I have been in medicine for 40+ years. At the end of my carrer my speciality was infection prevention. You are great for doing this. Sending prayers,blessings,prayers to your family
It can be reactivated !!!! What?!? I wasn’t sure if it could but that definitely is scary. So far when I get it checked it has been low
God bless you … it happened to me with my husband .. today life is better …
This was really informative. Thanks for sharing this.
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you for sharing. That took a lot of courage from both of you. ❤️😇
So sorry tp hear sis. You are a good person❤
Thank you for making this Video. You are openin
You are so brave. Congratulations on your healthy babies. May God Bless you both in your marriage , and as parents.
You are both brave!
There are lessons you you and everyone you share your difficulties and obstacles with.
It’s great to have the ability to learn this type of lesson from someone else’s story as opposed to learning it from personal experience.
It’s really sad this topic and many others in life are considered “taboo” and we can’t even have a healthy adult conversation/discussions.
I’m sure you will help many people sharing your story.
They say everything happens for a reason 🤷🏽♂️
Be proud of yourself and your strength to move forward and focus on the future!
Thank you so much. We appreciate your comment. I know how difficult it is for people to talk about these kinds of things. I hope I can help someone who is going or went through a similar situation.
Good for you both sharing such open honest personal story i am sure it will help others ❤ i am so glad your children were fine its a challenge for them as they get older but i am sure your love as parents will help them bless you xx❤
I applaud you both for your courage and selflessness in sharing your experience and knowledge!!! Much light, love and positive energies 💚
They teach about ALL Stds In health class in both middle and high school. I distinctly remember learning about this in middle and high school.
I didn't listen too much in school.
You guys are so very very brave to share this with the world - none of this is 'your fault', it's just something that could (but hopefully won't) happen to the vast majority of us...and by raising awareness, you may actually save lives. Thank you, & best wishes to you all!
You are very brave and thankfully you could save lives. Thank you. So
Very brave and illuminating video! Bravo!
Thank you!
Thank God you found out ❤
Very brave to share. Peace and light to you and your family ✌️🌞❤️
Love your beautiful cat
Thank you 🥰 we love our cats. We have 2 💖
I understand, my ex husband gave me a STD, and you are right it is very embarrassing. You are faithful and try your best to do good in your marriage. Mine makes me sick till this day, and it can make you bitter and angry if you let, I try so hard not to let it affect me.
My mother assisted a midwife with a delivery ( full term) She said the girl was only 16 and was screaming horribly the whole time. After the baby crowned mom said there was a horrible smell. Like somethin dead and rotting. After the head was delivered the baby stopped coming and the midwife had to manually help the baby deliver. It had been dead for awhile and it literally came out in pieces. She was transferred to hospital and stayed a really long time. The health officials came out and tested my mom and the midwife and the rest of her partners. She said it was so sad.
How horrible! Your poor mom!
Congratulations on your beautiful baby, he saved you!
You have NOTHING to feel embarrassed or ashamed about. I applaud your transparency!
One quick question…Did they warn you about kissing your babies, while newborn?
Thankful for your happiness!
Thankfully your gonna be okay? Congratulations on the bebe!
Wow, thanks for sharing
It’s kinda sad that your ex doesn’t admit to anything so that he can tell other partners . THANK U FOR TALKING ABOUT THIS! It seems with drugs on the forefront… STD’s are not really talked about that much anymore. DON’T FEEL EMBARRASSED!!!❤
Gorgeous kitty😊
As I watch this story and I listen to the names of the children, how often do you hear the names of your grandchildren in the story. My oldest grandson’s name is Josiah and his sister’s name is Anastasia. Beautiful names. I have four grandchildren and Anastasia is the only girl so she’s special. Sorry for your journey with such a dreadful desease. You are so brave. May God bless you and your children and your understanding husband. Shame on your ex for not taking responsibility. His day will come.
Oh pretty kitty!!
You mentioned the children have Syphilis in their blood, does that mean their children in the future will have it too? What about Cameron, is he ok? May l ask, did your ex get tested?
I hope your video helps others to be aware of STI's, that they're still very much around. May you, Cameron and your children be blessed.
A PAP smear doesn’t check for STD’s or ovarian cancer. Both gonorrhea and syphilis can be treated with different antibiotics. Get checked after treatment to be sure the right kind and amt of antibiotic. A person can have more than one STD at a time. I am a retired FACS educator. We taught about STD’s as part of education about birth defects.
It is a SHAME to be MARRIED and have to WORRY about CONTRACTING STDs! Celibramcy is really the safer option.
*celibacy
Beautiful cat 🐈 ❤
Thank you very much!
Even when the wife still shows positive is she still contagious?
Don’t feel dumb. I’m 54 years old and I’m actually dumb because I thought it had been eradicated😬
Each pregnancy I had a false positive syphilis test. Three times I tested positive but they said they ran it again and it was a false positive. They never told why or what might result as a false positive test.
I thought I had read online years ago that you can also get syphilis from cats by handling them and their litter tray although it was not very common. This was as well as toxoplasmosis, but I can see nothing online about it now. It caught my attention at the time because I had cats. It this were true that might explain why the sores were on your palms. It might be worth getting your cat tested. Apparantly it can be treated in the cats.
Toxoplasmosis is clearly from the Cat littler box. It’ll thought you were joking about Syphillis coming from Cats. That must been an old wives tail or something.
I’m blown away that once you get it, you’ll always test positive for it as well. Then I read after you’ve been treated for it, you’re still able to transmit it for up to a year after treatment.
@@lisajeter9511No definitely not joking. It was back around the year 2017 when I was doing a lot of searching online because no vet was able to figure out an unrelated issue with my cat and I came across that. It was supposedly not very common. You could be right that it may be an old wives tale.
I have had cats my whole life. My dad was a doctor. I have NEVER heard of cats/cat litter transmitting syphilis.
Nooooo! Don’t believe those myths and old wives tales!
Thank you for sharing your story their was a big outbreak among pregnant woman in our area about a month ago today having syphilis is treatable with antibiotics years ago people died Al Capone was one of them
It’s a shame that people don’t have affordable healthcare
But Planned Parenthood and the Health Department will help you with STDs. Testing and treatment
The cases of syphillis are greatly increasing
Yes I’ve seen that. Especially when I had to call the health department so they could take record. It’s pretty scary but after this experience I now talk to my nieces and people that I know about getting tested no matter if you have a significant other.
so is having babies...but condom use is down
Gonorrhea also. Be safe out there
If you had to register with your health department wouldn't they request that your ex also be required to provide a blood sample since you are saying that you "got it" feom him? Just curious
Yes you are correct. I gave them his information and do not know what happened after that.
🤔something is off with this story
This is off topic but your husband looks Exactly like my oldest grandson. So much so that it kinda freaked me out lol
Wow really! That’s crazy. We do all have doppelgängers.
I am negative for all STDs thank god.
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How aren’t u not checking . Is the baby ok ? Will be ok 👍
The baby was ok. He was not affected by syphilis although it will be in their bloodstream. Both my son and daughter.
After my ex husband and I separated the last thing on my mind was sex. I was single for a whole year and a half. Once I met my now husband and father of my children , it happened so fast and I ended up pregnant with in 2 months of dating. Right before I got pregnant we were actually going to both get tested and I was going to get on birth control. But I was already pregnant and found out a week later after we had discussed doing that.
This is slightly misleading- there isn’t one test for syphilis. There are a series of tests prior to giving a diagnosis as even people who are simply pregnant or who have Lyme’s dz, or other medical issues can have false positives to certain parts of the tests. In treated syphilis also, only certain parts of the tests remain positive. That is why they measure several things in the blood- to tell if a false positive, a”remnant scar of treated syphilis ”, an untreated case, or a new case. There are 4 stages, and the first 2 stages are the most contagious though transmission can occur during 3rd stage (possibly what you were) rarely. Unsure if any documented transmission during 4th stage. Immediately after birth, there may be some tests that are positive, but unless, like your first baby, they were infected in utero, I can’t find any info that shows they will always have a positive “syphyllis test.
I think you are getting your titers checked to make sure you haven’t been re-infected or have had treatment failure, especially if you were considered latent stage. Since they didn’t check std first time, I’d be concerned that you got a thorough eval neurologically, including CSF(spinal fluid) testing if any Neuro abnormalities? There are antibiotics in short supply only used in those cases. Assume they tested for HIV as well? Not to be a bummer, just both being transmitted together is on the rise and you really dodged a bullet with this! Thank you for sharing this so others can avoid hurting their children, partners and themselves.
So,true I was told had it when I was pregnant . They were pretty sure it was a false positive which it was. I have auto immune diseases which causes the false positive
You and your husband are very brave. Thank you for sharing your story and your courage. God bless you and your family.
It is so easy, for woman to get diseases from men, than a man to get something frome a women. Glad babies are ok. You are so brave. God bless you.
Of course he knew wjat it was.he was told he had it 1st.
Like like like like. This word is taking over our conversations! However all the very best you and family.
After being fully treated for Syphillis you can still give it to others for up to a year after treatment. Can you believe that?
so who cheated ?? that can be dangerous for the baby....
EXACTLY!!!! The witch cheated while pregnant with a random guy. You think they're going to forget to test at the very first intake appointment when the clinics bill for all that? NO! They gotta make their money. Nurses would get fired over forgetting to do procedures that are supposed to be billed. I used to work in the Fiscal Department and saw all that paperwork. Patients had to match the requirements. If something is missing that looks bad on the Department because it's lost money. That adds up.
@@solangelalebron1348 Departments make mistakes all the time. My office billed an office visit for me as a child's appointment.
And she has other kids ???? But don’t know this … husband run
??? What other kids do I have ? I’m curious.
Pulease, it is way easier to contract STI's from men than the other way.
Syphilis is a very common STD. It’s one of the biggies. 🤷🏻♀️
How do u not know u have syphillis for two years? You had to have had symptoms..vaginal discharge, rash…
I’m not buying this. People sleep around in marriages a lot so this is questionable
You keep saying “I don’t know, I don’t know why” etc. Familiarise yourself properly with your condition, not only via internet but ask the dr questions!
You are lucky that you got anphone call...In my home town, the health department would show up at your door and all the neighbors would know that you had a STD...😒😒😒
Did you have twins? You say babies
No I had my babies 2 years apart. But they both have syphilis in their blood. It’s just not active. They cannot pass it on to anyone.
@@TheMDFam7 oh ok. Thank you for your reply.
Thanks for being brave enough to share this…you are helping others with your story❤
@@TheMDFam7That doesn't make sense because syphilis is curable. So if they treated you for your first child, there is no way your second child would have it. That's like saying your children all have Inactive Chlamydia or gonorrhea. That they have it in their system but can't pass it. It doesn't make sense.
@@solangelalebron1348 when I had my daughter her doctor said her titer level was at 1 . So she has it present in her blood. You can treat syphilis but you will always have it present in your blood. I got treated when i was about 18 weeks pregnant with my first born. and my husband now (the father of my kids) tested negative. i never said my ex husband tested negative.
Right even a man knows what it is …. Sir this is. Lady ur breeding w who doesn’t even know what that is is very common and how long did she have it before ? this . Men choose better
So what happened u were just having sex never and getting checked up before ur husband after him in-between relationships u know stds cervical cancer is a thing and sphyllis u can go years ….. and that will damage ur fertility scar ur tubes etx . Hmmmm syphillis is very very main one it’s been around u always hear about it .. what school u go too ?? Go back to modern day sex prostitution etc
I was with this guy for almost 10 years on and off. Married for 4 years. I had papsmears I just didn’t like going to get them. Before we got married I would get them once a year. After that we started trying to get pregnant. In 2015 was when I had my last papsmear. I miscarried. Felt depression for a long time. After that I didn’t have a positive test. I thought my husband at the time was faithful enough to not have sex and especially unprotected sex but clearly I was wrong. We had a very toxic relationship which I learned so much from. I set my standards high after that failed marriage. But to answer your question to the fullest I trusted my husband to not cheat on me. As to every woman who is married I’d say… of course I take responsibility and should have still had my papsmears but I failed to. I moved to night shifts at work and that’s when it all unfolded. He cheated. Got syphilis and gave it to me. I don’t remember much from middle school high school years but I don’t remember learning about syphilis. I didn’t have many people in my life teaching me these things especially when it came to sex and stds. I grew up in a very Mexican household that meant we kept everything to ourselves and didn’t speak about uncomfortable situations. Should I have gone to the doctor when I first got the symptoms of syphilis. Yes but if you stayed to watch the whole video I did say I did not have health insurance and as you know in America we get screwed over to pay lots of money. I hope this clears something up and answered your questions. Main reason I did this video was for pregnant women who found out they had an std and how scary it is that it can affect the baby.
@@TheMDFam7they test for syphilis using a blood work usually. Not a pap smear. Please learn about your body more. So you can care for yourself better.
@@allywolf9182 yes they would do the papsmear and all the testing for std because I would ask for it.
so HE cheated ?? and you stayed?@@TheMDFam7
There is no way that her ex gave it to her if her ex husband tested negative. She probably cheated with some random guy just like my so called friends used to do. Random one night stands. Smh