Honestly, teaching your child emotional skills is such an important concept because there are a lot of adults that don't know how to regulate there own emotions and have mental break downs (like me and anxiety). It's a thing I have to learn with my child, were both learning. I let her know when Im angry and need some space so I don't take my anger out on her. She asks for hugs after a meltdown it's a beautiful thing you learn from one another.
Being a mum is the most thankless and thankful job ever. Most of the time, because we as mums spend most of the time with our kids, dads are usually the "fun ones". You have to find a balance between mum and friend. Having watched Azalea grow I can tell you are doing a great job with her. She is kind, loving, opinionated and joyous, what more can you ask for .
The absolute best parenting advice I ever received was to make sure I always validated, empathized and sympathized my son’s feelings no matter what he was feeling. Of course if his feelings weren’t rational then I would work to lovingly point him in a healthy direction. Also, it’s still vital for me to take responsibility for my wrongs with my almost 25 year old. I do everything humanly possible to right my wrongs with him as well. I am in my 40’s and still healing from my mother’s invalidating and dismissive parenting. Parenting is truly the hardest job we’ll ever do, if one takes it as seriously as I did/do. God please bless everyone here!!
This was so sweet to watch. I loved seeing the little clips of you and your daughter while you were explaining your journey. I feel like it’s not a super common thing to have so many beautifully recorded clips of your journey of life together
It's all a balance I am a mother of three children it's all waves and they are not our possessions. She is blessed to have you both! Remember to remind her that all three of you are constantly growing 💗
You won’t always get along. Remember you are the parent. You’re not her friend. You’re her guide. Y’all do great with her. She’s already had so many wonderful life experiences that some grown adults haven’t even experienced yet. I have 3 kiddos and two are ADHD. The world is making it harder for us to raise our kids OUR way. You’re doing great!
When my only would have meltdowns after school, I quickly realized that dealing with peers all day was stressing to her. So we implemented a woosah moment where immediately after school she comes in and has alone time in her room. When she feels ready, she can come out and engage again. The attitude change has been magical! Hugs Mama! You got this!
Please make a podcast! You have such a way with words and I always learn so much from your Tea Times! I'm not a mother myself but after watching this I definitely feel more grateful for the things my mother helped me through, including the smaller day to day struggles that have shaped me! Looking forward to your next video ✌️🌺
I found that very fascinating & I was trying to remember when my kids were young. They’re in their 40’s now. Maybe I just got lucky, but we didn’t experience any of that. The one thing I know for sure is that you’re a great Mom & Zae will always love & appreciate all of the amazing experiences you guys have provided for her.
Mum of 5 here, 4 years old is similar to 14 years old.. a lot of changes and challenges but I find the years in between are more settled like you say. Extracurricular activities are great, I am taking my 5-year-old to dance classes and it is our daughter-mum time each week. It is a cool thing to then work on during the week as she loves getting in her dance outfit and leaping around the house : )
Also my daughter will be 16 in July. We have always been super close. We’re navigating driving, high school and boys. We aren’t getting along right now. First time in our relationship. It’s been rough but I think we’re both doing pretty well despite. One day we won’t be this way. The best way I’ve been able to navigate it to imagine how I was at this age and my struggles, at the same time understanding we’re two different people and her generation is much different than mine. I try to walk in her shoes in my mind. Support is everything.
My children are grown up now,but I remember my daughter going through this ,when children are small and can't regulate their emotions and often feel overwhelmed,what I found worked was saying do you need a hug I could do with a hug and that hug we both shared somehow broke the moment and ended the outburst ,every day is different and it will get better,you are doing great always remember that,be kind to yourself darling ❤
I love this I am totally like that with my kids and my niece and nephew and everyone always tells me I'm giving too much information and they may not even remember it but I like answering questions the best way I can
The other day I came across a video of a little girl screaming outside in the garden, and then knocking on the doors when she was done, and coming back Inside the house smiling and happy. Hahaha was so cool radical and funny. Turns out there was a rule of screaming only outside hahahah 😂🎉❤ Sometimes we just need to let it out. 🙂🙃
This is so much me going through the same phase, I have a 3 n half year old son. By far this is my favorite video of yours. Thank you so much. Stay blessed. 🥰😊
My daughter is 5 and we are both experiencing similar situations. You're not alone mama and it is very supporting knowing I am not alone either. Thank you as always for sharing your vulnerabilities, break throughs, joys, etc. It makes a difference. Deep love to you!
You're incredible. As a mother of 5...been through so many ups and downs. We are incredible as Mothers and we do such great service to Love all our littles. So much Love to you.
Thanks Juby! My Mother always said that kids get wildy just before a big shift in growth. You're right just be patient, breathe and watch the change. Podcast would be rad!
Exactly🪶 you’ve got this! and are such a great teacher in life~ a natural✨ instilling such mindfulness if you will..is a gift for future generations. It is never too late to nurture and grow together with your children and even make those amazing changes within your own family that one may not have experienced for themselves growing up🌱
It sounds like Ze would be an awesome leader/teacher, she would be an amazing big sister ❤️ I know having more kids isn’t always an option, but it’s hard feeling like you have to be the one to constantly entertain her and her feeling like you’re the only one who can. I was about her age when my sister was born and let me just say, becoming a big sister changed me forever 🥹
I feel so renewed and rejuvenated after these tea times I like the way they are filled with Useful content….. but also visually stunning. Well done you ❤❤❤❤❤❤look forward to your videos every week 🌻🌻🌻🦋🦋🌻🌻
Growing up in the fifties, we did as we were told. There was no compromise for me and my friends. Our feelings were not taken into account. We survived. Mind your own business was a phrase used frequently.
Thanks Juliana! Love this much needed informative mom content. You're my favorite "online" mom I've looked up to since I stumbled on your content when your daughter was just a baby. You really seem to be so loving and nurturing both on-camera/off-camera. You remind me a lot of my mom.
I love your earnest and good desire to always give the most of yourself Juby. Motherhood brings us into a deeper and richer womanhood with all its joys and sorrows; all its triumphs and tribulations; its an arc of life itself in which you learn and grow together. Sometimes we just need to be still and surrender to the not- knowing so that we can become assured in receiving a new quality or building a new block in our character. God bless your lovely family always
When the going got tough ( my kids are grown up now) I always said “That’s why there’s Mothers Day “. It just lightens the mood. Raising kids always works out and you’re on top of it. She’ll be fine.
I recently cried on the phone to my mom expressing my extreme gratitude for all she has done for me in my life and how much I am so sorry for all the hardship I put her through. I know it will come full circle one day 💞
Super helpful & informative, really inspiring & makes me feel more prepared for changes with my own daughter in the future, thank you for your honesty & guidance, advice & encouragement xx
Your doing great!! Its really tough age. My oldest is 3.5 yrs old and i really feel you on EVERYTHING from the amazing imaginative moments, the drama, the bossiness... lol.... I think the work you guys are doing to help her learn to self regulate and the work to regulate yourselves is the best thing you can do!! Lol... count down.... patience! Its so hard but I can tell you, having had issues regulating myself as a child (and God love them, my parents didn't handle that well and it caused ALOt of underlying issues into adulthood) taking the time and effort to understand her rather than just be annoyed by her behavior is going to make all the difference in the world as she grows into a beautiful confident woman!! Keep at it. And I k ow you know but, losing it from time to time is normal and even healthy as long as there is repair afterward. I think its good for our kids to see that we're humans. I've actually seen my daughter tell me she's angry and then talk to me about taking deep breaths and doing it to help her calm down!ol. It make me laugh, it makes me proud of her and of myself. Your a great mom! ❤❤☮
You are an amazing mama! You are doing a great job. And just watching you over the years with Justin and Azalea y’all’s health and wellness is so awesome. Like just watching the videos of Azalea trying new things, new food and not being afraid is incredible. I am seriously struggling with getting my little boys to pick the healthy choices even though I am now doing things in a more healthy fashion. But the things I have showed them in the past is hard to snatch from them now. Bad habits have some deep roots.
Such an amazing video and definitely reached me when it was needed. Thank you Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing. Please do a podcastttt. That'd be amazing!!!
Even though our children are different ages, this is right on time I’m dealing with 16-year-old girl right now living the dream😳🙄😩….. we will come around and be close again I know but right now it’s very challenging. I wish you the best we are super heroes 🦸♀️ Fo sho!!!🫶🏽🫶🏽💗
Great book, the strong willed child.. I highly recommend it.. I to have now an adult daughter, and it was tough… Stay strong , and stay true to your words…. This too shall pass❤
Placing your hand on her chest and looking into her eyes as you are talking calmly to her to calm her down really really helps. The hand on the chest is very grounding and helps to focus on breathing
The mother/daughter relationship is so very close when your daughter is small. Then as she grows, girls try so hard to be independent. It's a struggle , and even a butting of heads between mom and daughter for a few years then, I think from about age 5 to age 18! 😉. But , never fear mothers, your daughter will come back to you and be even closer than ever when she has her own ❤️. It's a beautiful cycle of life ladies. So , just hang on and enjoy the ride. It really does go by too fast 😢. God bless 🙏 you all.
Excited to watch! I don’t have kids but I have been a viewer since 2019 and always admired how your family values and how you are raising your daughter! It’s so inspiring I wish I can do something similar if I have kids one day❤
Hey Juby! I can relate so much to this. I still struggle with my relationship with my mom. I lost my dad at age 11 and my kids recently lost their dad at age 13 and 7. Thank God they have a great step dad in their life who has fathered them for 6 years. We find it important to talk to our kids everyday. My daughter is the 13yr old and she's really struggling right now. I try and take life one day at a time with her. Girls are tough to raise! Thanks for sharing your story. I too have guilt for how I was as a teen, but there was always a deeper meaning to it all and big reasons why I acted out. My mom always told me she hopes I have 10 girls just like me hahaha Hang in there, and you are so blessed to have a supporting husband by your side to help you get thru these trying times raising kiddos. A Strong family unit will get you thru anything. Love and patience. Good luck! ♧♧♧♧
This is just what I needed. My daughter is 4.5 and I've been watching azalea grow along side her. Like azalea she is very dramatic. Loves to roll play and has major melt downs. I am so bad at dealing with this and was actually wondering how you deal with it. I will try to sit calmly until she calms down as I feel I just make it worse. X
Ocd tendencies? Things need to go in a particular spot when they have this. Just something to keep in mind ❤ sending much love to you and your family! You will figure this out. You are definitely not going to wrong this girl in any way, not intentionally anyway. I’m a mom of 2 and the first child unfortunately learns as we do. We all are experiencing this parenthood/childhood as a first for all of us. My second child definitely got more bc I learned what I did wrong with my first. She is 14 now and a beautiful girl but has trouble expressing her emotions. She has Rejection Sensitivity Disorder and she developed this early. I remember in preschool if she was told NO in a elevated tone she would cry. And I never helped to dig deeper into why! Now if we have even a small disagreement she will literally go MUTE. Like she can not explain what’s happening! This is the hardest quest ever but the most rewarding as well ❤
Oh God yes of course we mothers are struggling I have a three-and-a-half-year-old son and am having the same situations at home as you described. He gets very upset if I move his toys when cleaning or if I place his stuff anywhere else that he doesn't like. It is a big problem and he gets majorly mad and it's very frustrating. I think if we didn't have problems as Mom's then we wouldn't be good mom's ☺️ the fact that we are shows we are there and present and problems are part of life. I am not alone and no mom should need to feel alone. Let's show support and encouragement, it's definitely not the easiest task in the world to be a full time single mom. Love ya 💕😘
Azalea needs to have her relationship with Daddy. Daddies are our first male love and teach us so much about relationships for future. You are a loving and caring mommy, but daddy will be the one. Don't be jealous. Be grateful that she gets to have daddy. So many children, sadly, don't get the precious gift of dad. My dad has passed. Many of my memories of him are from when I was a little girl.
Thanks Juby! Motherhood is the best hood but it's tough. I have a 14m old girl and it's the best thing ever but I am starting to see the tantrums start and I know I will just take it one day at a time.
It only gets worse 😂 but can get better how to handle it all!. My youngest is nearly 10 and it’s always the outside influences like friends in school or something she may watch .. it’s forever evolving! But just don’t be hard on yourself! Take it day by day and forgive yourself every night before you sleep!
And I don’t mean “it’s only gets worse” in a bad way!. It’s just ever evolving! I do find my daughter starting to understander her emotions more.. and I always tell her it’s a safe space to let out how she’s feeling (even if I disagree because we’ve butted heads over something) I find that she feels heard and seen in her feelings and opinion.. it’s helped a lot!. But the biggest thing I have to remember is they’re not young forever and we wish their lives away till it’s not “difficult anymore” gotta trust and enjoy the journey!. Much love, from brisbane Australia ❤️
As a Mama of 3 who are all not neurotypical extreme sensory issues. I just want to say, of course, as a parent, we needed to work to be our best to help our children. But not fall into the trap. You're not good enough. For our family, I had to just slow everything down. We are the boring family, I think. Cutting out screen time to almost nothing helped on child. Unschooling and being in nature helped another one. Just please acknowledge that you are a wonderful mom doing your best. That is a beautiful, wonderful thing.
I'm 10 minutes in and I have an observation to share. This is just an opinion and of course I could be way off. But she is acting out what is going on between you and Justin underneath the surface of your relationship. No matter the friction right now she has an invisible emotional connection to you - mother, you won't be able to ever hide that from her. Her soul is in her breath and her breath is just a bit revealing fear. She is a bit insecure about the direction her life is going. When she got mad at you about not reading her mind and putting what ever item in the place she wanted, she is basically telling you - mom, I wish that when I come home I find my life to be the way I wish for it to be and no unpleasant surprises please....
One key important factor, I had realize when it came to raising my daughter and her becoming a very well rounded successful adult, is discipline. Making them aware and responsible of there actions. She needs to understand that it's consequences that can be positive or negative with how she decides, how she's going to react. Juby you have to put your foot down , she needs to learn you are the adult and she is the child. It really bothered me hearing you say that you sometimes feel you can't do anything right for her. You are a great mom and don't ever forget that. Last but not least spare the rod spoil the child.
I also belive you can be her friend..the person who said your not her friend is wrong.! I wish my mom And Myself could of been more of friends. If your friends you talk about anything. I didn't have that Kind of relationship. Sad
Juby you and Justin are doing a awesome job with Azealia...Why dont you schedule a time every day, at the dinner table and ask everyone how was there day n how they feel and what made him/her upset/happy today. Maybe Azealia will open up more..Don't waiti until she gets upset or if she is wait till dinner time n talk. She probably dont like to be treated like a baby...she wants to be a big kid...Keep up the good work..Remember patience..set boundaries...also discipline when there in the wrong...Love n Light Jonah
She is a smart and beautiful little girl' Wait until she is a teen oh boy this is minor compare to that. I am a mom of 4 3 girls 1 boy. and now grandma to 4.
How's life at school for Azelia? Mothers often blame themselves for everything, however, sometimes other issues can bring chaos. Try to stand back a bit and explore the possibility that something other than you could be causing the rift. Believe it or not, only loving mums get backlash from thier children. Because you're safe. God bless xx 🙏
Hey Juby! Just a sidebar - I may have missed a vlog where you explained certain things, but, I was wondering where Justin is? Does he no longer want to be on the videos? Or are you guys in some separation? Just curious as to what is going on with the channel now?
I think it's not too nice asking a couple if they are in a separation... They spoke about Justin not liking to be in the videos too often a few weeks ago.
Girl threw a bottle at your mom i acted out to and pushed my mom cause she took my arm and i got kicked out to my Grandmothers at 14 my mom just was like get out
Juby, I will tell you what I think is behind the reason for Zey to get strukture into her little life to find it latter on and why she is so radical in using that example, just as example of one bottle, or item, why she freaks out when it is not there. Imagine getting a room and the room then being taken. All your stuff is suddenly one floor lower then before. This is just one exampel, but she lost the bus area too. I don't say, it wasn't for her best and yours all best, but there are to much inputs and she can't diggest it as fast as grown up people do. I think you should redirect some stuff and just let her be a child and don't look at her as perfect role model what you didn't have as child. Don't cry while reading this, but it could be you need support as coaching therapy sort of. I would say Zey is very reflective to your emotions and she can't say it, but feel it, so there is my advise. Don't make her your little version of yourself. Allow her to be just Zey Zey. I hope you understood and please don't make her your little therapist and tell her stuff, which are not meant for her to understand in that young age. I hope you understand the meaning behind my comment. You need a lot of understanding from your childhood and reflexion, so you don't reflect your unsolved emotional projections on her. Ok? And, you are to logical, while Zey is total emphatic, that's why the clashes are the most high expressions as solutions of mixed emotions from all sides of life, by grown ups and little ones. Aloha
Honestly, teaching your child emotional skills is such an important concept because there are a lot of adults that don't know how to regulate there own emotions and have mental break downs (like me and anxiety). It's a thing I have to learn with my child, were both learning. I let her know when Im angry and need some space so I don't take my anger out on her. She asks for hugs after a meltdown it's a beautiful thing you learn from one another.
Being a mum is the most thankless and thankful job ever. Most of the time, because we as mums spend most of the time with our kids, dads are usually the "fun ones". You have to find a balance between mum and friend. Having watched Azalea grow I can tell you are doing a great job with her. She is kind, loving, opinionated and joyous, what more can you ask for .
The absolute best parenting advice I ever received was to make sure I always validated, empathized and sympathized my son’s feelings no matter what he was feeling. Of course if his feelings weren’t rational then I would work to lovingly point him in a healthy direction. Also, it’s still vital for me to take responsibility for my wrongs with my almost 25 year old. I do everything humanly possible to right my wrongs with him as well. I am in my 40’s and still healing from my mother’s invalidating and dismissive parenting. Parenting is truly the hardest job we’ll ever do, if one takes it as seriously as I did/do. God please bless everyone here!!
This was so sweet to watch.
I loved seeing the little clips of you and your daughter while you were explaining your journey. I feel like it’s not a super common thing to have so many beautifully recorded clips of your journey of life together
It's all a balance I am a mother of three children it's all waves and they are not our possessions. She is blessed to have you both! Remember to remind her that all three of you are constantly growing 💗
You won’t always get along. Remember you are the parent. You’re not her friend. You’re her guide. Y’all do great with her. She’s already had so many wonderful life experiences that some grown adults haven’t even experienced yet. I have 3 kiddos and two are ADHD. The world is making it harder for us to raise our kids OUR way. You’re doing great!
When my only would have meltdowns after school, I quickly realized that dealing with peers all day was stressing to her. So we implemented a woosah moment where immediately after school she comes in and has alone time in her room. When she feels ready, she can come out and engage again. The attitude change has been magical! Hugs Mama! You got this!
The baby clips, so sweet. Loved hearing your honest experience here.
Please make a podcast! You have such a way with words and I always learn so much from your Tea Times! I'm not a mother myself but after watching this I definitely feel more grateful for the things my mother helped me through, including the smaller day to day struggles that have shaped me! Looking forward to your next video ✌️🌺
I found that very fascinating & I was trying to remember when my kids were young. They’re in their 40’s now. Maybe I just got lucky, but we didn’t experience any of that. The one thing I know for sure is that you’re a great Mom & Zae will always love & appreciate all of the amazing experiences you guys have provided for her.
I admire your transparency, thank you! Being a mom is the best and at times the most challenging role I have ever had to do and be.
Mum of 5 here, 4 years old is similar to 14 years old.. a lot of changes and challenges but I find the years in between are more settled like you say. Extracurricular activities are great, I am taking my 5-year-old to dance classes and it is our daughter-mum time each week. It is a cool thing to then work on during the week as she loves getting in her dance outfit and leaping around the house : )
Also my daughter will be 16 in July. We have always been super close. We’re navigating driving, high school and boys. We aren’t getting along right now. First time in our relationship. It’s been rough but I think we’re both doing pretty well despite. One day we won’t be this way. The best way I’ve been able to navigate it to imagine how I was at this age and my struggles, at the same time understanding we’re two different people and her generation is much different than mine. I try to walk in her shoes in my mind. Support is everything.
Yes to the tea time podcast! Long time listener from Ireland💚 sending love & light
My children are grown up now,but I remember my daughter going through this ,when children are small and can't regulate their emotions and often feel overwhelmed,what I found worked was saying do you need a hug I could do with a hug and that hug we both shared somehow broke the moment and ended the outburst ,every day is different and it will get better,you are doing great always remember that,be kind to yourself darling ❤
I love this I am totally like that with my kids and my niece and nephew and everyone always tells me I'm giving too much information and they may not even remember it but I like answering questions the best way I can
The other day I came across a video of a little girl screaming outside in the garden, and then knocking on the doors when she was done, and coming back Inside the house smiling and happy. Hahaha was so cool radical and funny.
Turns out there was a rule of screaming only outside hahahah
😂🎉❤ Sometimes we just need to let it out. 🙂🙃
This is so much me going through the same phase, I have a 3 n half year old son. By far this is my favorite video of yours. Thank you so much. Stay blessed. 🥰😊
My daughter is 5 and we are both experiencing similar situations. You're not alone mama and it is very supporting knowing I am not alone either. Thank you as always for sharing your vulnerabilities, break throughs, joys, etc. It makes a difference. Deep love to you!
P.S. podcast would be wonderful!
You're incredible. As a mother of 5...been through so many ups and downs. We are incredible as Mothers and we do such great service to Love all our littles. So much Love to you.
Thanks Juby! My Mother always said that kids get wildy just before a big shift in growth. You're right just be patient, breathe and watch the change. Podcast would be rad!
Exactly🪶 you’ve got this! and are such a great teacher in life~ a natural✨ instilling such mindfulness if you will..is a gift for future generations. It is never too late to nurture and grow together with your children and even make those amazing changes within your own family that one may not have experienced for themselves growing up🌱
Absolutely!!
It sounds like Ze would be an awesome leader/teacher, she would be an amazing big sister ❤️ I know having more kids isn’t always an option, but it’s hard feeling like you have to be the one to constantly entertain her and her feeling like you’re the only one who can. I was about her age when my sister was born and let me just say, becoming a big sister changed me forever 🥹
Children love consistency, routine and boundaries. You guys sound like you are on the right path, keep up the great work!
I feel so renewed and rejuvenated after these tea times
I like the way they are filled with
Useful content….. but also visually stunning.
Well done you ❤❤❤❤❤❤look forward to your videos every week 🌻🌻🌻🦋🦋🌻🌻
So nice of you 💓
Growing up in the fifties, we did as we were told. There was no compromise for me and my friends. Our feelings were not taken into account. We survived. Mind your own business was a phrase used frequently.
yes please tea time podcast! love for you guys you're so inspiring
Thanks Juliana! Love this much needed informative mom content. You're my favorite "online" mom I've looked up to since I stumbled on your content when your daughter was just a baby. You really seem to be so loving and nurturing both on-camera/off-camera. You remind me a lot of my mom.
thank you for such kind words ♡
I love your earnest and good desire to always give the most of yourself Juby. Motherhood brings us into a deeper and richer womanhood with all its joys and sorrows; all its triumphs and tribulations; its an arc of life itself in which you learn and grow together. Sometimes we just need to be still and surrender to the not- knowing so that we can become assured in receiving a new quality or building a new block in our character. God bless your lovely family always
thank you 🫶🏽
When the going got tough ( my kids are grown up now) I always said “That’s why there’s Mothers Day “. It just lightens the mood. Raising kids always works out and you’re on top of it. She’ll be fine.
I recently cried on the phone to my mom expressing my extreme gratitude for all she has done for me in my life and how much I am so sorry for all the hardship I put her through. I know it will come full circle one day 💞
I love how honest you are about your experience as a mother. 😊 I personally think your an inspiration.... 😊
Thank you so much!
Super helpful & informative, really inspiring & makes me feel more prepared for changes with my own daughter in the future, thank you for your honesty & guidance, advice & encouragement xx
Glad it was helpful!
Your doing great!! Its really tough age. My oldest is 3.5 yrs old and i really feel you on EVERYTHING from the amazing imaginative moments, the drama, the bossiness... lol.... I think the work you guys are doing to help her learn to self regulate and the work to regulate yourselves is the best thing you can do!! Lol... count down.... patience! Its so hard but I can tell you, having had issues regulating myself as a child (and God love them, my parents didn't handle that well and it caused ALOt of underlying issues into adulthood) taking the time and effort to understand her rather than just be annoyed by her behavior is going to make all the difference in the world as she grows into a beautiful confident woman!! Keep at it. And I k ow you know but, losing it from time to time is normal and even healthy as long as there is repair afterward. I think its good for our kids to see that we're humans. I've actually seen my daughter tell me she's angry and then talk to me about taking deep breaths and doing it to help her calm down!ol. It make me laugh, it makes me proud of her and of myself.
Your a great mom! ❤❤☮
You are an amazing mama! You are doing a great job. And just watching you over the years with Justin and Azalea y’all’s health and wellness is so awesome. Like just watching the videos of Azalea trying new things, new food and not being afraid is incredible. I am seriously struggling with getting my little boys to pick the healthy choices even though I am now doing things in a more healthy fashion. But the things I have showed them in the past is hard to snatch from them now. Bad habits have some deep roots.
Such an amazing video and definitely reached me when it was needed. Thank you Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing. Please do a podcastttt. That'd be amazing!!!
I love this so much. I admire your transparency. y'all rock
Beautiful advice you are a calm and caring woman. Azalea is lucky to have you guys as parents. Keep up the good work love your videos Juby 💜
As a mom of a 13yr old girl, I resonate with this video so much. ❤️
Even though our children are different ages, this is right on time I’m dealing with 16-year-old girl right now living the dream😳🙄😩….. we will come around and be close again I know but right now it’s very challenging. I wish you the best we are super heroes 🦸♀️ Fo sho!!!🫶🏽🫶🏽💗
Great book, the strong willed child..
I highly recommend it..
I to have now an adult daughter, and it was tough…
Stay strong , and stay true to your words….
This too shall pass❤
I appreciate your content and perspective so very very much ❤
Placing your hand on her chest and looking into her eyes as you are talking calmly to her to calm her down really really helps. The hand on the chest is very grounding and helps to focus on breathing
will give this a go next time 🙏🏾
The mother/daughter relationship is so very close when your daughter is small. Then as she grows, girls try so hard to be independent. It's a struggle , and even a butting of heads between mom and daughter for a few years then, I think from about age 5 to age 18! 😉. But , never fear mothers, your daughter will come back to you and be even closer than ever when she has her own ❤️. It's a beautiful cycle of life ladies. So , just hang on and enjoy the ride. It really does go by too fast 😢. God bless 🙏 you all.
Excited to watch! I don’t have kids but I have been a viewer since 2019 and always admired how your family values and how you are raising your daughter! It’s so inspiring I wish I can do something similar if I have kids one day❤
You are a great mom.🌷
I don’t think you need a podcast. I enjoy watching tea time 🖤. My daughter is 19… we are still trying to figure it out. Loved this 💙
Hey Juby! I can relate so much to this. I still struggle with my relationship with my mom. I lost my dad at age 11 and my kids recently lost their dad at age 13 and 7. Thank God they have a great step dad in their life who has fathered them for 6 years. We find it important to talk to our kids everyday. My daughter is the 13yr old and she's really struggling right now. I try and take life one day at a time with her. Girls are tough to raise! Thanks for sharing your story. I too have guilt for how I was as a teen, but there was always a deeper meaning to it all and big reasons why I acted out. My mom always told me she hopes I have 10 girls just like me hahaha Hang in there, and you are so blessed to have a supporting husband by your side to help you get thru these trying times raising kiddos. A Strong family unit will get you thru anything. Love and patience. Good luck! ♧♧♧♧
Doooo it! Tea Time Podcast! I love these videos. Thank You :)
You are doing a great job, mom. Keep trying.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and you are a great mom ✌️❤️😁
Introducing visual aids like cards, pictures could help with communication in those tough emotional moments.
great idea!
Your a great mum!!!!
Have a beautiful day❤
You are a amazing beautiful person Juby thank you Enjoy much love and blessings
This is just what I needed. My daughter is 4.5 and I've been watching azalea grow along side her. Like azalea she is very dramatic. Loves to roll play and has major melt downs. I am so bad at dealing with this and was actually wondering how you deal with it. I will try to sit calmly until she calms down as I feel I just make it worse. X
sending supportive vibes your way!
Ocd tendencies? Things need to go in a particular spot when they have this. Just something to keep in mind ❤ sending much love to you and your family! You will figure this out. You are definitely not going to wrong this girl in any way, not intentionally anyway. I’m a mom of 2 and the first child unfortunately learns as we do. We all are experiencing this parenthood/childhood as a first for all of us. My second child definitely got more bc I learned what I did wrong with my first. She is 14 now and a beautiful girl but has trouble expressing her emotions. She has Rejection Sensitivity Disorder and she developed this early. I remember in preschool if she was told NO in a elevated tone she would cry. And I never helped to dig deeper into why! Now if we have even a small disagreement she will literally go MUTE. Like she can not explain what’s happening! This is the hardest quest ever but the most rewarding as well ❤
so much good advice & support - thank you!
Oh God yes of course we mothers are struggling I have a three-and-a-half-year-old son and am having the same situations at home as you described. He gets very upset if I move his toys when cleaning or if I place his stuff anywhere else that he doesn't like. It is a big problem and he gets majorly mad and it's very frustrating. I think if we didn't have problems as Mom's then we wouldn't be good mom's ☺️ the fact that we are shows we are there and present and problems are part of life. I am not alone and no mom should need to feel alone. Let's show support and encouragement, it's definitely not the easiest task in the world to be a full time single mom. Love ya 💕😘
Maybe let your son help you clean. Most kids love to help. Make it a fun game that way he's the one cleaning his stuff away the right way🙂
@@rikkemeek1506 like any child they all have their rebellious streaks. We try that daily sometimes it works most times it does not.
sending you love & support through these tough times 💞
I really related to the part when you talked about Justin and the jealously you felt. 💙 loves this tea time and would LOVE for you to do a podcast!
Azalea needs to have her relationship with Daddy. Daddies are our first male love and teach us so much about relationships for future. You are a loving and caring mommy, but daddy will be the one. Don't be jealous. Be grateful that she gets to have daddy. So many children, sadly, don't get the precious gift of dad. My dad has passed. Many of my memories of him are from when I was a little girl.
Lovely lovely video ! Thank you for sharing ❤
Thanks for watching!
Thank you for this motherhood content juby. Xx
Any time!
Thanks Juby! Motherhood is the best hood but it's tough. I have a 14m old girl and it's the best thing ever but I am starting to see the tantrums start and I know I will just take it one day at a time.
It only gets worse 😂 but can get better how to handle it all!. My youngest is nearly 10 and it’s always the outside influences like friends in school or something she may watch .. it’s forever evolving! But just don’t be hard on yourself! Take it day by day and forgive yourself every night before you sleep!
And I don’t mean “it’s only gets worse” in a bad way!. It’s just ever evolving! I do find my daughter starting to understander her emotions more.. and I always tell her it’s a safe space to let out how she’s feeling (even if I disagree because we’ve butted heads over something) I find that she feels heard and seen in her feelings and opinion.. it’s helped a lot!. But the biggest thing I have to remember is they’re not young forever and we wish their lives away till it’s not “difficult anymore” gotta trust and enjoy the journey!. Much love, from brisbane Australia ❤️
lol - I know what you mean 😉
You are a great mom ❤
thank you 💗
I see your Calethea & fiddle leaf fig in the back.! ❤❤
would love a podcast!! love from Ireland 🇮🇪 xx
Podcast sound great!
Tea-time podcast would be great
Thx you 🙂
When she’s having some big emotions.. maybe asking the question.. is this a big problem/issue or a smaller issue? Can WE work on this together?
definitely been helping her find words to express her emotions! Love this tip
As a Mama of 3 who are all not neurotypical extreme sensory issues. I just want to say, of course, as a parent, we needed to work to be our best to help our children. But not fall into the trap. You're not good enough. For our family, I had to just slow everything down. We are the boring family, I think. Cutting out screen time to almost nothing helped on child. Unschooling and being in nature helped another one. Just please acknowledge that you are a wonderful mom doing your best. That is a beautiful, wonderful thing.
I would love a podcast!
Mothers are the species that secret a space in their hearts, for storage sins that they never really committed!
Juby you a fabulous Mother...Wait until she wants to front a rock band, brings home all the funky band members..
Hey girly, back from your girls trip…
Next time, I expect my invitation…..
Long time viewer, and NC GIRL…❤❤
Well said!
I'm 10 minutes in and I have an observation to share. This is just an opinion and of course I could be way off. But she is acting out what is going on between you and Justin underneath the surface of your relationship. No matter the friction right now she has an invisible emotional connection to you - mother, you won't be able to ever hide that from her. Her soul is in her breath and her breath is just a bit revealing fear. She is a bit insecure about the direction her life is going. When she got mad at you about not reading her mind and putting what ever item in the place she wanted, she is basically telling you - mom, I wish that when I come home I find my life to be the way I wish for it to be and no unpleasant surprises please....
How rude from you going that far with your divorse future projection onto this lovely family and little Zey!
@@leonorawatkins2756 Interesting...divorce? I didn't even consider that.
@@tundeterez they're separated?
One key important factor, I had realize when it came to raising my daughter and her becoming a very well rounded successful adult, is discipline. Making them aware and responsible of there actions. She needs to understand that it's consequences that can be positive or negative with how she decides, how she's going to react. Juby you have to put your foot down , she needs to learn you are the adult and she is the child. It really bothered me hearing you say that you sometimes feel you can't do anything right for her. You are a great mom and don't ever forget that. Last but not least spare the rod spoil the child.
I also belive you can be her friend..the person who said your not her friend is wrong.! I wish my mom And Myself could of been more of friends. If your friends you talk about anything. I didn't have that Kind of relationship. Sad
pls a podcast!!!!
Getting older is scary sometimes to some people.
This was lovely
Juby you and Justin are doing a awesome job with Azealia...Why dont you schedule a time every day, at the dinner table and ask everyone how was there day n how they feel and what made him/her upset/happy today. Maybe Azealia will open up more..Don't waiti until she gets upset or if she is wait till dinner time n talk. She probably dont like to be treated like a baby...she wants to be a big kid...Keep up the good work..Remember patience..set boundaries...also discipline when there in the wrong...Love n Light
Jonah
we do the rose, thorn & community at dinners = something good, something bad and something for someone else that we did/experienced today
I also think you communicate very well..what ever it is..
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She is a smart and beautiful little girl' Wait until she is a teen oh boy this is minor compare to that. I am a mom of 4 3 girls 1 boy. and now grandma to 4.
How's life at school for Azelia? Mothers often blame themselves for everything, however, sometimes other issues can bring chaos. Try to stand back a bit and explore the possibility that something other than you could be causing the rift. Believe it or not, only loving mums get backlash from thier children. Because you're safe. God bless xx 🙏
she has a blast & loves being at school ♡
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Hey Juby! Just a sidebar - I may have missed a vlog where you explained certain things, but, I was wondering where Justin is? Does he no longer want to be on the videos? Or are you guys in some separation? Just curious as to what is going on with the channel now?
They did an Q&A about 2 months ago where they explain all your questions.
Look back at a few last video's, they did a Q&A together that explains everything.
I think it's not too nice asking a couple if they are in a separation...
They spoke about Justin not liking to be in the videos too often a few weeks ago.
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Girl threw a bottle at your mom i acted out to and pushed my mom cause she took my arm and i got kicked out to my Grandmothers at 14 my mom just was like get out
Did you guys split up?😮😮😮
Juby, I will tell you what I think is behind the reason for Zey to get strukture into her little life to find it latter on and why she is so radical in using that example, just as example of one bottle, or item, why she freaks out when it is not there. Imagine getting a room and the room then being taken. All your stuff is suddenly one floor lower then before. This is just one exampel, but she lost the bus area too. I don't say, it wasn't for her best and yours all best, but there are to much inputs and she can't diggest it as fast as grown up people do. I think you should redirect some stuff and just let her be a child and don't look at her as perfect role model what you didn't have as child. Don't cry while reading this, but it could be you need support as coaching therapy sort of. I would say Zey is very reflective to your emotions and she can't say it, but feel it, so there is my advise. Don't make her your little version of yourself. Allow her to be just Zey Zey. I hope you understood and please don't make her your little therapist and tell her stuff, which are not meant for her to understand in that young age. I hope you understand the meaning behind my comment. You need a lot of understanding from your childhood and reflexion, so you don't reflect your unsolved emotional projections on her. Ok? And, you are to logical, while Zey is total emphatic, that's why the clashes are the most high expressions as solutions of mixed emotions from all sides of life, by grown ups and little ones. Aloha
I love hearing your insights as a mother, honor your transparency and celebrate your relationship with Azalea 💕