I went back and found your video from 2022 “when you are stuck, get unstuck.” These 2 videos are so great. I’m stuck but…getting out paper and pen is helping me move forward. There is so much I didn’t see, didn’t know about this topic which has impacted my life. I think I just didn’t want to see what I was actually seeing. Tried to explain it away. I can’t now. That’s a good thing. And time is precious. Thank you and this community for helping me believe I can move forward and try to live my best life.
They are so envious and jealous of people who have the ability to connect and actually love, they literally can’t stand to see anyone happy, so they fool us into believing their mask, drain every once of enthusiasm and hope, and want to keep people trapped as emotional punching bags . Horrible poor excuses of a human
You describe my narcissist family to a T… a life sentence of being worn down and devalued under their thumbs until the light bulb moment…will never be stuck in that toxic mixing bowl again. 💜
So true. I might have picked this description up from something I heard or a video I've seen, but rings so true- " They are an entity ( probably from childhood) of intense fear and anxiety covered with a 'shell' for protection. This shell is impenetrable and has all the manipulative weaponry and retractable barbs? That entity can't be reached to learn, improve their ability to show remorse, introspect ... and the deal breaker for you having hope, is that they get worse as they age.
@@Divinely_Guided444 with alcohol obscuring consciousness they feel less the damage they do. I don’t need the hurt They must be seriously damaged people. Don’t allow them to use their insecure projections to hurt you. Demonds are real
This happened to me when I had surgeries. My husband, mother etc were too busy to pick me up. I was stuck at the hospital while the nurses kept telling me I needed to find someone as I was taking up space. They wouldn’t let me take a Lyft. These are the times that gave me the huge red flags that something was deeply wrong with them.
I had a similar experience after surgeries. It is so hurtful, when you cannot count on your own family to help out. I live alone and I was hungry, called my mom, she said, don't you have soup in your house? I wanted a meal. another time I needed something urgent from the store, she brought it over grudgingly, threw it at me while I was in bed recovering from a hip replacement. walked out without a word.
You deserved to be picked up and treated like you really matter! That's awful. And the nurses were awful too! I worked in the healthcare system and there were always the bullies... Toxic people. Nobody should've told you you're taking up space. You deserve space. I can't imagine saying that to someone. Life shouldn't be like that
@@truthseeker2391 moms aren't supposed to be like that!! I drop everything, even if I'm sick, to run to help my kids if they need it. I know what love is, and that tough love crap isn't it! I'm sorry she wasn't there for you. 😢
Growing up with parents or siblings who are narcissistic but not knowing about narcissism is so toxic. I hope schools educate children on narcissism 101
My narc mother tried like hell to sabotage my college years. She HATED that I was young and beautiful. She tried to ruin every single opportunity that came along. She tried to crush any of my own interests. After the miserable childhood she provided me with, I still stuck around in the narcissistic fog for another 20 years. My “no contact” anniversary is this week. 3 years! I wish I had gotten that delusional, self-absorbed, childish, selfish witch out of my life 30 years ago, but she used my family as hostages to keep me stuck and trapped in her control. She finally managed to wear my father snd sister down so much with her smear campaign and triangulation, that they treated me almost as badly as she did. I finally had enough. I’m still trying to wrap my head around how I was treated…
@@jswan312 It’s painful, I’m sorry you had to live in that pain and confusion. Similar ‘set up’ for me. I had a talent and a passion as a kid, studied daily, and she took it away. Too much lost at the hands of these people; they failed in their role. Our lives are ours, not theirs to steal. We are on a better path now! 💜✨
It's brutal the level envious family will go deliberately distracting while imposing themselves to influence lives that are not theirs to manipulate.. intended like they care. Totally insidious rotton to the core undeserving beings.. I'm sorry what happened to you - it resonates greatly !!! ❤
When I first married my husband, he didn't want me to work. At first I thought that was very generous and kind. Later I found out he didn't want me to work because he was afraid I would find a "significant other."
Same he had a cabinet making business and I worked in that and did everything. When I applied for something else he was not happy about it. It was because he was insecure about me meeting someone else.
@@nolaparker9574BE honest would you have left him if things started going incredibly well for you.. I believe most people in the comments are victims but not everyone lol
Okay Andrew! Guess what? I got a hoover today. I actually got a hoover. It was from a number I did not recognize. And so since I'm HOOVER PROOF, I applied all of the wisdom today that I've learned on the channel to handle the hoover. And now, I'm having coffee and listening to today's video. From what I learned handling today's hoover, it cemented everything we learn on the channel. They don't know how strong we are. They don't know we made it to the Mountaintop of Indifference. They'll never be able to figure it out. They still think we are down in the muck with them. Little do they know....
@@StacyMurphy-y5o mountain of indifference beautiful. I had a good meditation before seeing him Wednesday. He love bombed me. I did not open up. For the first time in 32 months he did. I held my ground centered in self care. Then he betrayed me telling a stranger something he shoukd not have. I got unglued stuck up for me. I realized the pattern. Rinse n repeat. He’s a drunk. I wonder if he gets sober will he ever come to the childhood hurt that percipated the behavior. I been praying for us all.
I remember the dark days with my narcissistic mother. Her eyes would go dark & her voice would change almost like a demon. What a performer she would become of front of an audience ( like butter wouldn't melt her mouth ) she changed just as fast as the wind blows. As a very young child. This was confusing to me & my mother had already set me up for more narcissistic abuse thinking this is my self-worth, so deal with it, she would say. Nothing could be further from the truth! Dont fall into these's evil traps of the narcissistic. We are all beautiful, bright shining ✨️ lights ✨️ ❤🎉and we do matter 💜 🙌 🙏
I betrayed myself by allowing him to treat me like a side of mashed potatoes for months. When he finally discarded me, it felt awful. There was that sting of pining for the shame. But eventually it faded, and life went on. Then one day, driving into town, I caught sight of him walking up the street. He had that same look of utter contempt frozen on his crumbling face, and it made him look so old and tired. I felt a shiver of revulsion at the thought that I had been with him, however briefly. Funny how feelings change.
You hit the nail on the head about being stuck. I couldn't understand why after a few months if they turned up on the door step I thought we were just staying friends to be nice and thought could manage that. They still want the control.
So true Andrew...... they will either use you quickly and be done with you. However if you have much to offer, then they'll beat you down emotionally enough (abusive passive/aggressive guilt tactics) to serve them. Then you will feel unfulfilled, stuck in hopelessness, confused, drained and weakened in faith with everything but them. Here is another dirty secret, they destroy relationships with everyone and there is no real prize at the end because they don't really care about anyone else.
My daughter’s narc dad promised to pay for her uni education if she went to one at the other end of the country. And yes, he didn’t even buy her 1 single book! His life is a mess now. We survived and are both thriving now! Karma pays ❤️
1 month free from a 17 year relationship. Not a single second thinking that I made the wrong decision, while still concentrating on the kids and the future.
My Mom. I was in the hospital recovering from surgery. She came into the room, asked how I was doing, and then stated, "I wish you would hurry up and get well so you can do this work." She at 83 decided to go back to college to get a degree. However, guess who did her work?
When I met my former husband he said his aim was to get me to flower, to blossom. I had been going through some difficult times and I thought that was a sweet and loving thing to say. Little did I know. After 18 years I was like a dying plant who'd been left unattended to wither away while fighting to stay alive, all buds having fallen off, not flowering once. These people literally aim to distinguish the love and light in you while pretending that they're doing the opposite. They want you to suffocate slowly, over years, and they enjoy watching you wither away. It's sadism, pure and simple. Get away from them while you still have some life left in you! And no, he didn't care about me when I was in hospital to have operations (nothing serious but troublesome and very painful). Me not being able to move around, cook, clean and walk the dog for a while was very frustrating for him and he was extremely passive aggresive during my recovery. Well, tbh he always were. I didn't know what passive agressive was, just as I didn't know what NPD was. I could feel it, in my body and in the air, but I didn't have a word for it. I was lost in the fog, in the hall of mirrors. It was so confusing, so painful, so exhausting. But I'm free now. The nightmare is over. And I'm taking care to nourish myself. Thank you for telling it like it is, Andrew. ☀️🌻🫶🏼
I was trapped long after my divorce. Not knowing he was a narcissist and I was still trying to help him at certain times! I was just trying to be the helpful person still! NOT ANYMORE! Now I know the truth, NO CONTACT, BLOCKED! 🙂🙏🏻
When you see the mask slip or the red flags popping you, you have two choices- stay and get dragged down or leave..a person who won't can't and doesn't fill their cup will use others...very toxic situation. If you spend enough time with them its clear they're the stuck ones...
This is all now known post discovering about Narcs. My son would ask if he could go on a skiing school trip, of course I'd say I couldn't afford it. He would go straight to my mom, this happened three consecutive years total. A few days later, he would come home from school after paying a deposit for the trip. Guess who had to pay the rest? Yes, me, I was a single parent, and I just used to cry and cry in dispare. I had no spare money. Mom liked watching ME live in poverty. I spent every dime on my son, and keeping house bills paid. And just like the video I didnt/ couldn't get any money out of Narc ex husband. My grown son is now fully paid up member of the Narc club.
Thank you, Andrew. I divorced and left money on the table to make sure I got out. It was the price I paid for freedom. I'm healing and starting to feel good. I look forward to a bright future.
He wanted me stuck to feed his ego off me by manipulating me with provocations so he could get negative energy to feed his ego thinking by devaluating me he is smarter than me. I put up with it because I felt sorry for him. Not anymore. He is now one month completely blocked and all he can do is mirror me on his public posts thinking that would lure me back in. It is pathetic and dumb. He is welcome to it. I got my revenge by leaving him in the dust of my joy and happiness from being free of him. Thank you Andrew for showing us the path. Love you for it. 😀😁💗💚💛💯👍💪🙏
@@marieeakin8534 This was only a short friendship. Before that years ago I was in a long-term marriage so I knew about narcissism but still fell for the mask and thought this guy was an empath. He affection and trauma-bombed me for 4 months till I realized who he was. I went into a shock. It took me 4 months before I could block him. I was crying every day also healing the past. I lost 40 lbs, all the weight I gained during the pandemic so that is positive. It was a horrible ride. Yesterday I had a bad day, today I seem to be on a cloud 9. Who knows if something will trigger me and I will end up crying again but today is a good day. Thank you, all the best to you too. ❤💚
The charm made me sick. Always acting like he had champagne taste but was really on a beer budget. Forget the restaurants and night clubs, he ogled women, in front of me, even at the grocery store. It was relentless but I was "seeing things!" He couldn't help himself and that is sick, sad, and will never change no matter who he's with. Good luck to his future victims.
That's what's sad, you want to have a good time and have them around friends and family. The whole time, they're looking for a new supply. It's all a game to them.
My spirits lifted when I got the notification, thank you for the consistency! Been stuck in a bad state since a call from a "flying monkey" earlier today. I don't want to block the person as they have good qualities, but it brings back memories I've finally mostly suppressed. 🖖🌌
It helps to chatter about silly stuff when you have to talk to a flying monkey. I would chatter about enchiladas in the oven and the ingredients. The fire alarm would go off, so there was also a noisy interruption. After the phone call, I laughed and laughed. It is a skill that one can build. Talk about absolutely anything, but what they want to talk about.
Is it possible there are people (man or woman) who are sort of narcists. Not always but some actions trigger their behaviour and their mood changes in a second. I've experienced love bombing, devaluation, and beeing ignored and smeared at. Accused of stealing etc. I did not see it for a long time. So I wonder if I triggered the behaviour by beeing too empathic. Or maybe those people are just looking for that and wait for the moment to uncover their true face. What you said about them beeing nice when someone is coming in is so recognizeable. I never saw that person as evil until the end. Lucky for me some of that persons family knows about that evil person so I was not isolated. Thanks.
2024 was truly a year of being taken advantage of by my grandkids' legal guardian( "help me out or you'll never see them again!") and a good friend who turned out to be not so good( beware the altruistic narcissist); honestly...I feel like with that first one I faced the devil himself...and survived. But I am done with the extortion...and healing once again.
i am thinking about cinderella how she was stuck fairy godmother came and saved her cinderella’s mother was an evil narcissist and so were her sisters thank you andrew for today’s video see you tomorrow handsome man 😅😊
Emotional vampire.I used to call her when i have my aha moment learned no more food done dark side gone keep my energy sic of exhausting stress out cortsil stuck full throttle cut the cord 21 months NC Andy
Narc boss, has reduced my hours to 9 hours a week, for the last 3 months. And Im now starting to think that its not a surprise she's a widow. Also, have noticed other past employees driven to desperate things (client credit card theft, past employees quitting or being fired before claiming company reward carrots, company recommending employees get a second job such as Uber or Walmart, forcing employees to go on godvernment welfare system, etc., etc.). It's like dying a slow death with this sinister woman boss. Yes, I wonder about the voices of those who went before me. The corpes in her wake. Andrew, another EXCELLENT VIDEO!!! 🙂❤️Thank you.🙏
You are so right, everything you say. Sometimes when you talk, I finish your sentences!! I love your videos of truth! Great job, Andrew. Keep sharing your experiences of this type of relationship and that people are not helpless. People can and do leave these relationships and have a chance to regain self respect, peace and a new life .
Yes, they made sure that they thwarted any dream or ambition you may have had….and for that time…they got away with it…..,Such cruelty… Thank You Andrew for the Love Badges…..so lovely to receive them.
They’re also stuck believe it or not. They want you there thinking 24/7 of the good times with them. The narcissist want you stuck because misery loves company!
Changing is believing. Stay intelligent and always be kind. Would you rather have someone say about you, "Oh, she's nice" ot would you want them to say "she's kind and good?""
They are ALL IMPOSSIBLE PEOPLE!! My Narc evil.sister,,, SO full of Jealousy ,,,Her thinking is For myself & husband,, Out of sight out of mind,,, Since finding out My Own / our Mother's death, , What kind of person does this?? EVIL,, HOLLOW & TO keep us stuck,,, 🇫🇷🙏💜🦋but we are NEVER STUCK !! WE are full of LOVE,, TRUTH,, ,& MOVE ON , , enjoy life to the mountain tops🙏💜🇫🇷
Just wow Andrew, you are describing my ex to the T such a handbook for these people. I can’t believe it Xbox they’re all playing Xbox. They must be because mine sure was not lifting a finger and playing games ha ha with a spaghetti stained shirt. 😢😢😢❤❤❤❤❤❤
THIS video👆It is so eery how narcissists all use the aame playbook. I thank God that I escaped. Sometimes I reflect back to the years when I was in my darkest times and I cannot believe what I tolerated. Narcissists groom you to tolerate their abuse. Once you get away, STAY away and you will heal and your life will become yours once again.
Im tired of their games and I'm at the pint where nice people Finnish last abd people actually think I'm.stupud ...well I'm done..not bitter just done.. I've done enough food r others my entire life ...no one us doing for me except my sister
This is exactly what I needed to hear today! As I finally begin to truly cut ties with my father et al, he is trying a hoover, and I'm not buying it. Hearing your reminders, Andrew truly helps to fortify my resolve and determination to do whats right for me and not let them play the guilt card etc
where were you some 40-45 years ago?///😄😃🙃 --- when I needed to learn all this?... well, ok... if you weren't born then yet, or had to attend kindergarten... then alright:) Your videos are amazing, thanks again; stay blessed
Im going to get out of this place, if its the last thing i ever do. Im going to get out of this place cause theres a better life. Words changed, but i mean those words more than i can ever say. Live small in a beautiful place. If i croak before i manifest, ill let u know.😂😅 keep laughing.
Lol! He won't move near me. He lives in moderate weather in a city. I live in the tundra on a desolate Indian Reservation. The first cryptonite is, it's desolate. He needs lots of people around him. He's left either stalking me online.
Andrew, you should make T-shirts with that face that you make after each introduction. This one, in particular, was epic. I bet you'd sell one or two. Shit man, that's why I'm here. For that epic smirk of reality.
Mom kept me stuck. I’ll pay your tuition this semester. Register. 2 days later. I need the $325.00. Oh I changed my mind. Drop out of college. Go to work. It took 7 years for a 4 year degree. Before student loans. She did it twice. Undergrad. grad school never asked. Anytime I needed anything it was second hand. If if if. She was so tight if I took food for lunch she denied me lunch money. I was stealing from the house. She do anything to keep hers. We were not poor. My dad in 1963 made $70,000.00 a year. Over $500,000 now. No mortgages. She deprived us of just kids food.
Start saving some of your grocery money or whatever. Get a separate bank account. Check with friends and family for possible exit points preferably as far away as possible. If you're young join the military. Safe and sound.
I went back and found your video from 2022 “when you are stuck, get unstuck.” These 2 videos are so great. I’m stuck but…getting out paper and pen is helping me move forward. There is so much I didn’t see, didn’t know about this topic which has impacted my life. I think I just didn’t want to see what I was actually seeing. Tried to explain it away. I can’t now. That’s a good thing. And time is precious. Thank you and this community for helping me believe I can move forward and try to live my best life.
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They are so envious and jealous of people who have the ability to connect and actually love, they literally can’t stand to see anyone happy, so they fool us into believing their mask, drain every once of enthusiasm and hope, and want to keep people trapped as emotional punching bags . Horrible poor excuses of a human
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You describe my narcissist family to a T… a life sentence of being worn down and devalued under their thumbs until the light bulb moment…will never be stuck in that toxic mixing bowl again. 💜
So true. I might have picked this description up from something I heard or a video I've seen, but rings so true- " They are an entity ( probably from childhood) of intense fear and anxiety covered with a 'shell' for protection. This shell is impenetrable and has all the manipulative weaponry and retractable barbs? That entity can't be reached to learn, improve their ability to show remorse, introspect ... and the deal breaker for you having hope, is that they get worse as they age.
Exactly. Terrible jealousy
Only someone truly evil would want to see you hurt, whether it be physically or emotionally.
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Hope your keeping well @Divinely,Guided444,lots love and good Vibes Sent, 💐💜🤗✨💜
@flowerpower4944 I am well, thank you. Hope you are too, beautiful Flower. ✨️💜✨️
@@Divinely_Guided444 with alcohol obscuring consciousness they feel less the damage they do. I don’t need the hurt They must be seriously damaged people. Don’t allow them to use their insecure projections to hurt you. Demonds are real
This happened to me when I had surgeries. My husband, mother etc were too busy to pick me up. I was stuck at the hospital while the nurses kept telling me I needed to find someone as I was taking up space. They wouldn’t let me take a Lyft. These are the times that gave me the huge red flags that something was deeply wrong with them.
I had a similar experience after surgeries. It is so hurtful, when you cannot count on your own family to help out. I live alone and I was hungry, called my mom, she said, don't you have soup in your house? I wanted a meal. another time I needed something urgent from the store, she brought it over grudgingly, threw it at me while I was in bed recovering from a hip replacement. walked out without a word.
You deserved to be picked up and treated like you really matter! That's awful. And the nurses were awful too! I worked in the healthcare system and there were always the bullies... Toxic people. Nobody should've told you you're taking up space. You deserve space. I can't imagine saying that to someone. Life shouldn't be like that
@@truthseeker2391 moms aren't supposed to be like that!! I drop everything, even if I'm sick, to run to help my kids if they need it. I know what love is, and that tough love crap isn't it!
I'm sorry she wasn't there for you. 😢
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So sorry! You deserve good treatment ❤❤🙏
"They perform for audiences and their mask is directly related to who they're trying to impress" Spot on 💯
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Don't keep watering a dead flower 😊❤🎉
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Love that way to say it!!!!!
What a good way of wording it 👍♥️🙏
This applies to family too!!! I wish we would talk about narcissistic families more!!!!!
Growing up with parents or siblings who are narcissistic but not knowing about narcissism is so toxic. I hope schools educate children on narcissism 101
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My narc mother tried like hell to sabotage my college years. She HATED that I was young and beautiful. She tried to ruin every single opportunity that came along. She tried to crush any of my own interests. After the miserable childhood she provided me with, I still stuck around in the narcissistic fog for another 20 years. My “no contact” anniversary is this week. 3 years! I wish I had gotten that delusional, self-absorbed, childish, selfish witch out of my life 30 years ago, but she used my family as hostages to keep me stuck and trapped in her control. She finally managed to wear my father snd sister down so much with her smear campaign and triangulation, that they treated me almost as badly as she did. I finally had enough. I’m still trying to wrap my head around how I was treated…
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Be proud of yourself for getting free.
Had a similar mother..she was able to triangulate and destroy one of my children…so sorry you had this experience as well but healing is possible
@@jswan312 It’s painful, I’m sorry you had to live in that pain and confusion. Similar ‘set up’ for me. I had a talent and a passion as a kid, studied daily, and she took it away. Too much lost at the hands of these people; they failed in their role. Our lives are ours, not theirs to steal. We are on a better path now! 💜✨
It's brutal the level envious family will go deliberately distracting while imposing themselves to influence lives that are not theirs to manipulate.. intended like they care. Totally insidious rotton to the core undeserving beings.. I'm sorry what happened to you - it resonates greatly !!! ❤
It was totally like being trapped in time,,,,Now my Time is Completely Mine,,!!!,🎉🎉💜🦋🤗
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This is very true. Sucked in by the love bombing at start
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When I first married my husband, he didn't want me to work. At first I thought that was very generous and kind. Later I found out he didn't want me to work because he was afraid I would find a "significant other."
Same he had a cabinet making business and I worked in that and did everything. When I applied for something else he was not happy about it. It was because he was insecure about me meeting someone else.
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It's not beneficial to women if he doesn't provide the salary you're giving up for him.
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@@nolaparker9574BE honest would you have left him if things started going incredibly well for you.. I believe most people in the comments are victims but not everyone lol
EVERY narcissist I've encountered has (in one way or another) met this description. Selfish, vile, evil, and totally devoid of empathy or compassion.
Okay Andrew! Guess what? I got a hoover today. I actually got a hoover. It was from a number I did not recognize. And so since I'm HOOVER PROOF, I applied all of the wisdom today that I've learned on the channel to handle the hoover.
And now, I'm having coffee and listening to today's video.
From what I learned handling today's hoover, it cemented everything we learn on the channel.
They don't know how strong we are. They don't know we made it to the Mountaintop of Indifference. They'll never be able to figure it out. They still think we are down in the muck with them. Little do they know....
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Stay away stay strong and live in peace. Virtual hugs to you , we all know what you have lived through . ❤❤❤
@@StacyMurphy-y5o mountain of indifference beautiful. I had a good meditation before seeing him Wednesday. He love bombed me. I did not open up. For the first time in 32 months he did. I held my ground centered in self care. Then he betrayed me telling a stranger something he shoukd not have. I got unglued stuck up for me. I realized the pattern. Rinse n repeat. He’s a drunk. I wonder if he gets sober will he ever come to the childhood hurt that percipated the behavior. I been praying for us all.
I remember the dark days with my narcissistic mother. Her eyes would go dark & her voice would change almost like a demon. What a performer she would become of front of an audience ( like butter wouldn't melt her mouth ) she changed just as fast as the wind blows. As a very young child. This was confusing to me & my mother had already set me up for more narcissistic abuse thinking this is my self-worth, so deal with it, she would say. Nothing could be further from the truth! Dont fall into these's evil traps of the narcissistic. We are all beautiful, bright shining ✨️ lights ✨️ ❤🎉and we do matter 💜 🙌 🙏
You are high value humanity. They the narcissist would not admit it, but they admire you and want to have your progressive source energy. Thank you❤😊
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High value humanity indeed. 😊 I like that!
They would lick there chops if they saw the light around you now. But it's like a positive magnet 🧲 with a negative one they don't match
Yes exactly
I betrayed myself by allowing him to treat me like a side of mashed potatoes for months. When he finally discarded me, it felt awful. There was that sting of pining for the shame. But eventually it faded, and life went on. Then one day, driving into town, I caught sight of him walking up the street. He had that same look of utter contempt frozen on his crumbling face, and it made him look so old and tired. I felt a shiver of revulsion at the thought that I had been with him, however briefly. Funny how feelings change.
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You hit the nail on the head about being stuck. I couldn't understand why after a few months if they turned up on the door step I thought we were just staying friends to be nice and thought could manage that. They still want the control.
It gives them a high 👍💥🙏❤
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So true Andrew...... they will either use you quickly and be done with you. However if you have much to offer, then they'll beat you down emotionally enough (abusive passive/aggressive guilt tactics) to serve them. Then you will feel unfulfilled, stuck in hopelessness, confused, drained and weakened in faith with everything but them. Here is another dirty secret, they destroy relationships with everyone and there is no real prize at the end because they don't really care about anyone else.
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@@edwardspriggs5076 they can’t allow themselves to care. They are damaged children
My daughter’s narc dad promised to pay for her uni education if she went to one at the other end of the country. And yes, he didn’t even buy her 1 single book! His life is a mess now. We survived and are both thriving now! Karma pays ❤️
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Changing my life for good and for real. Thank you.
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No problem being alone! ❤
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1 month free from a 17 year relationship. Not a single second thinking that I made the wrong decision, while still concentrating on the kids and the future.
Keep shining
My Mom. I was in the hospital recovering from surgery. She came into the room, asked how I was doing, and then stated, "I wish you would hurry up and get well so you can do this work." She at 83 decided to go back to college to get a degree. However, guess who did her work?
👋 Uplifting & reaffirming, thanks so much. A lot of times I go along thinking I'm okay, not realizing a downward slide - these help me readjust. 🙏💙❣️
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When I met my former husband he said his aim was to get me to flower, to blossom. I had been going through some difficult times and I thought that was a sweet and loving thing to say. Little did I know. After 18 years I was like a dying plant who'd been left unattended to wither away while fighting to stay alive, all buds having fallen off, not flowering once. These people literally aim to distinguish the love and light in you while pretending that they're doing the opposite. They want you to suffocate slowly, over years, and they enjoy watching you wither away. It's sadism, pure and simple. Get away from them while you still have some life left in you! And no, he didn't care about me when I was in hospital to have operations (nothing serious but troublesome and very painful). Me not being able to move around, cook, clean and walk the dog for a while was very frustrating for him and he was extremely passive aggresive during my recovery. Well, tbh he always were. I didn't know what passive agressive was, just as I didn't know what NPD was. I could feel it, in my body and in the air, but I didn't have a word for it. I was lost in the fog, in the hall of mirrors. It was so confusing, so painful, so exhausting. But I'm free now. The nightmare is over. And I'm taking care to nourish myself.
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When you see the mask slip or the red flags popping you, you have two choices- stay and get dragged down or leave..a person who won't can't and doesn't fill their cup will use others...very toxic situation. If you spend enough time with them its clear they're the stuck ones...
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This is all now known post discovering about Narcs.
My son would ask if he could go on a skiing school trip, of course I'd say I couldn't afford it. He would go straight to my mom, this happened three consecutive years total. A few days later, he would come home from school after paying a deposit for the trip. Guess who had to pay the rest? Yes, me, I was a single parent, and I just used to cry and cry in dispare. I had no spare money. Mom liked watching ME live in poverty. I spent every dime on my son, and keeping house bills paid. And just like the video I didnt/ couldn't get any money out of Narc ex husband. My grown son is now fully paid up member of the Narc club.
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@@JanTe007 sad. For them. They miss the greatest of life. Empathy compassion and kindness. Self care they never learned it. Too crooked as chikdren.
So needed this today…thank you!
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Stuck so the manipulation could continue. I now see so many ways he deceived me if only I knew back then and wasn't so loved up lol
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Thank you Andrew and tribe. Your understanding is fabulous. We've lived through it.❣️
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Thank you, Andrew. I divorced and left money on the table to make sure I got out. It was the price I paid for freedom. I'm healing and starting to feel good. I look forward to a bright future.
He wanted me stuck to feed his ego off me by manipulating me with provocations so he could get negative energy to feed his ego thinking by devaluating me he is smarter than me. I put up with it because I felt sorry for him. Not anymore. He is now one month completely blocked and all he can do is mirror me on his public posts thinking that would lure me back in. It is pathetic and dumb. He is welcome to it. I got my revenge by leaving him in the dust of my joy and happiness from being free of him. Thank you Andrew for showing us the path. Love you for it. 😀😁💗💚💛💯👍💪🙏
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@@marieeakin8534 This was only a short friendship. Before that years ago I was in a long-term marriage so I knew about narcissism but still fell for the mask and thought this guy was an empath. He affection and trauma-bombed me for 4 months till I realized who he was. I went into a shock. It took me 4 months before I could block him. I was crying every day also healing the past. I lost 40 lbs, all the weight I gained during the pandemic so that is positive. It was a horrible ride. Yesterday I had a bad day, today I seem to be on a cloud 9. Who knows if something will trigger me and I will end up crying again but today is a good day. Thank you, all the best to you too. ❤💚
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The charm made me sick. Always acting like he had champagne taste but was really on a beer budget. Forget the restaurants and night clubs, he ogled women, in front of me, even at the grocery store. It was relentless but I was "seeing things!" He couldn't help himself and that is sick, sad, and will never change no matter who he's with. Good luck to his future victims.
That's what's sad, you want to have a good time and have them around friends and family. The whole time, they're looking for a new supply. It's all a game to them.
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I went through that as well exactly the same
My spirits lifted when I got the notification, thank you for the consistency! Been stuck in a bad state since a call from a "flying monkey" earlier today. I don't want to block the person as they have good qualities, but it brings back memories I've finally mostly suppressed. 🖖🌌
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It helps to chatter about silly stuff when you have to talk to a flying monkey. I would chatter about enchiladas in the oven and the ingredients. The fire alarm would go off, so there was also a noisy interruption. After the phone call, I laughed and laughed. It is a skill that one can build. Talk about absolutely anything, but what they want to talk about.
Is it possible there are people (man or woman) who are sort of narcists. Not always but some actions trigger their behaviour and their mood changes in a second. I've experienced love bombing, devaluation, and beeing ignored and smeared at. Accused of stealing etc. I did not see it for a long time. So I wonder if I triggered the behaviour by beeing too empathic. Or maybe those people are just looking for that and wait for the moment to uncover their true face. What you said about them beeing nice when someone is coming in is so recognizeable. I never saw that person as evil until the end. Lucky for me some of that persons family knows about that evil person so I was not isolated. Thanks.
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2024 was truly a year of being taken advantage of by my grandkids' legal guardian( "help me out or you'll never see them again!") and a good friend who turned out to be not so good( beware the altruistic narcissist); honestly...I feel like with that first one I faced the devil himself...and survived. But I am done with the extortion...and healing once again.
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i am thinking about cinderella how she was stuck fairy godmother came and saved her cinderella’s mother was an evil narcissist and so were her sisters thank you andrew for today’s video see you tomorrow handsome man 😅😊
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Exactement Cendrillon 🥴 et les perverses narc...
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So happy to see you smile Andrew!!! You are saving lives. Much Love!
They are energy vampire. A money vampire. A positive vibe vampire.
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Emotional vampire.I used to call her when i have my aha moment learned no more food done dark side gone keep my energy sic of exhausting stress out cortsil stuck full throttle cut the cord 21 months NC Andy
Another 100% Andrew, every single word! Also, your setting amongst nature is also very healing as I take it all in. THANK YOU.
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Thank you, Andrew, for your big smile at the end of the video! Bless you!
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Narc boss, has reduced my hours to 9 hours a week, for the last 3 months. And Im now starting to think that its not a surprise she's a widow. Also, have noticed other past employees driven to desperate things (client credit card theft, past employees quitting or being fired before claiming company reward carrots, company recommending employees get a second job such as Uber or Walmart, forcing employees to go on godvernment welfare system, etc., etc.).
It's like dying a slow death with this sinister woman boss. Yes, I wonder about the voices of those who went before me. The corpes in her wake.
Andrew, another EXCELLENT VIDEO!!!
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You are so right, everything you say. Sometimes when you talk, I finish your sentences!! I love your videos of truth! Great job, Andrew. Keep sharing your experiences of this type of relationship and that people are not helpless. People can and do leave these relationships and have a chance to regain self respect, peace and a new life .
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It’s cold Andrew but invigorating..
Ohhh god they know ‘exactly' what they are doing! YES INDEED..
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Yes, they made sure that they thwarted any dream or ambition you may have had….and for that time…they got away with it…..,Such cruelty…
Thank You Andrew for the Love Badges…..so lovely to receive them.
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They’re also stuck believe it or not.
They want you there thinking 24/7 of the good times with them.
The narcissist want you stuck because misery loves company!
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Andrew, you say it, exactly how it is
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Absolutely word for word was my experience thank you for another great video Andrew ❤
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Changing is believing. Stay intelligent and always be kind. Would you rather have someone say about you, "Oh, she's nice" ot would you want them to say "she's kind and good?""
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I sometimes still feel stuck
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Time passes, and that helps. Healing takes time, and that is okay. Inch by inch.
They are ALL IMPOSSIBLE PEOPLE!! My Narc evil.sister,,, SO full of Jealousy ,,,Her thinking is For myself & husband,, Out of sight out of mind,,, Since finding out My Own / our Mother's death, , What kind of person does this?? EVIL,, HOLLOW & TO keep us stuck,,, 🇫🇷🙏💜🦋but we are NEVER STUCK !! WE are full of LOVE,, TRUTH,, ,& MOVE ON , , enjoy life to the mountain tops🙏💜🇫🇷
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Just wow Andrew, you are describing my ex to the T such a handbook for these people. I can’t believe it Xbox they’re all playing Xbox. They must be because mine sure was not lifting a finger and playing games ha ha with a spaghetti stained shirt. 😢😢😢❤❤❤❤❤❤
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Hey Andrew love the channel!❤
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5 yrs he drug out our divorce. Then filed an appeal😢
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THIS video👆It is so eery how narcissists all use the aame playbook. I thank God that I escaped. Sometimes I reflect back to the years when I was in my darkest times and I cannot believe what I tolerated. Narcissists groom you to tolerate their abuse. Once you get away, STAY away and you will heal and your life will become yours once again.
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Thank you Andrew ❤
He does live near me....its difficult, but I'm learning to deal with it ....slowly 😊
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SO TRUE
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Im tired of their games and I'm at the pint where nice people Finnish last abd people actually think I'm.stupud ...well I'm done..not bitter just done.. I've done enough food r others my entire life ...no one us doing for me except my sister
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This is exactly what I needed to hear today! As I finally begin to truly cut ties with my father et al, he is trying a hoover, and I'm not buying it. Hearing your reminders, Andrew truly helps to fortify my resolve and determination to do whats right for me and not let them play the guilt card etc
where were you some 40-45 years ago?///😄😃🙃 --- when I needed to learn all this?... well, ok... if you weren't born then yet, or had to attend kindergarten... then alright:) Your videos are amazing, thanks again; stay blessed
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😢yes, thank you Andrew. ❤ Nameste
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Control in everything pay attention humans common sense ❤🎉🎉🎉run for your sanity
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Im going to get out of this place, if its the last thing i ever do. Im going to get out of this place cause theres
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Words changed, but i mean those words more than i can ever say. Live small in a beautiful place. If i croak before i manifest, ill let u know.😂😅 keep laughing.
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Stay strong and forge on ,best wishes.
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Lol! He won't move near me. He lives in moderate weather in a city. I live in the tundra on a desolate Indian Reservation. The first cryptonite is, it's desolate. He needs lots of people around him. He's left either stalking me online.
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Love is a buffet not a breadcrumb!
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Andrew, you should make T-shirts with that face that you make after each introduction. This one, in particular, was epic. I bet you'd sell one or two. Shit man, that's why I'm here. For that epic smirk of reality.
Love to listen to these with some lofi. Thank you sir.
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Yes all the time, everyday every waking hour it's always something.
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Mom kept me stuck. I’ll pay your tuition this semester. Register. 2 days later. I need the $325.00. Oh I changed my mind. Drop out of college. Go to work. It took 7 years for a 4 year degree. Before student loans. She did it twice. Undergrad. grad school never asked. Anytime I needed anything it was second hand. If if if. She was so tight if I took food for lunch she denied me lunch money. I was stealing from the house. She do anything to keep hers. We were not poor. My dad in 1963 made $70,000.00 a year. Over $500,000 now. No mortgages. She deprived us of just kids food.
How can i leave without job?
Start saving some of your grocery money or whatever. Get a separate bank account. Check with friends and family for possible exit points preferably as far away as possible. If you're young join the military. Safe and sound.
@@user-rq4nk4ir6b Also reach out to your local authorities, sometimes they have shelters that you don't have to save up any money for.
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Hey Andrew love the channel! You have to be cold, come on...:)
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They are incapable of real love
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