As someone who suffers with extreme severe anxiety I can totally relate to her. I would stop eating for days at a time as a punishment. I worry a lot about my life, everyone around me and pleasing everyone. It's absolutely crippling, so glad she got the help she needed, lovely young lady it's so sad that society has 1 in 3 people suffering mental health issues. I hope everyone seeks help
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about how mushrooms and psychedelics treats anxiety, but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, doctor Greg mushroom I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I relate to this so much… I have been traumatized all my life.. I am 71 and it has come up like a horrible nightmare. After learning all this I have come to the realization that I traumatized my oldest Son. The pain is beyond me…I am in so much grief, pain.. I cannot escape.
I know exactly how that feels. Once I told a therapist that I just didn’t want to BE here. She asked, well, where do you want to be? She really didn’t get it. I don’t WANT to be anywhere. I’m just HERE. Goodness. I hope you can find something or someone to help you. Wish I had better advice! But it must feel a little good to know that others have these same feelings -
Wow... I have every single one of these signs. I feel so burned out and I used to be a person who could feel deep joy and felt everything deeply. Now I feel like a ghost walking around. Thank you for the helpful information.
I don't know your situation, but I do know I was a caregiver for my mother for 10 yrs. I was so burned out I thought I would die. What helped, breathing exercises, meditation, acupuncture, massage therapy, walking, going to the beach, spending time in nature, stay away from sugar as much as possible, get rid of caffeine, eat a good diet. Lastly take magnesium supplements. I'm still fighting to come back making good progress. See a therapist If need be.
@@doug3819 Thank you for the advice. I'm doing most of these, except for massage therapy and acupuncture which I can't afford. I had a forty year trauma bonded marriage that left me mentally, physically, emotionally and financially ruined. Trying to recover from the C- PTSD that all of that left me with as I go through a divorce at 65. Thank you for your kindness and caring. 😊
@@debbiesday8270I thought it was a coincidence, when you replied, I'm 65 also. A couple other things I will tell you, I was tired when I wrote up my first post. I had rode my bike too far, I guess I'm out of shape. Have a lot of patience, it took you yrs it sounds like to get into the condition you are in you will probably not get over it overnight. My mother passed away 7 months ago. I'm still tired and dealing with anxiety and miss her immensely ! The thing I wanted to tell you something that helped me to no end for a few yrs. There is Dr named Dr Daniel Amen, he is a master helping people deal with stress. He's written many books on depression, anxiety and Ptsd. If you go to GNC they sell amino acids, one is l tyrosine taken with B6 it can do wonders for depression, they also have GABA another amino acid taken with taurine and B 6 it does wonders for anxiety. Lastly get on a good fish oil omega 3. Super mood booster. Don't get the cheap stuff at Walmart, it's no good I tried it. Nature's bounty at krogers is good. Lastly I know you said you can't afford a massage, I implore you try to just get one they can do wonders. I hope you are seeing a therapist !
@@debbiesday8270I sent a reply to you earlier with helpful hints but you tube deleted it. It's difficult to send anything any longer. So I will tell you I got a lot of good information from a book called the mood cure by Julia Ross. Be patient with your situation it may take a little time to get where you want to be. My sister has MS as she always says laugher is important. It's funny I am 65 also. I hope this goes through.
The dead inside feeling.. I have it. That joy and thrill of living is gone. Not even a good roller coaster can bring it out anymore (I loved them, the bigger the better). I cant feel deep happiness or joy anymore. It a flat feeling. So unlike me and so sad
I have never been able to understand stand that either but what I have found very helpful is when I encounter or have to deal with that kind of person I acknowledge that that is their limitation for whatever reason, and change my expectations of said person. It saves my from what I refer to as my "beating my head against a brick wall" syndrome. Hope this helps. I truly feel your pain ✌️🫶😊
Sweet pea ,I think, maybe in a very sad way,God has blessed us in giving us knowledge of how very evil people are... because we all can see, everywhere in the world how evil is the prevailing situation.. each day we see worse and worse things... some poor individuals are totally freaking out, some suicidal..fear is a word we are all carrying.....but because we have lived it up close we know many of the ways evil narcissist play ,so we know about trickery deception manipulation...so we know in the game we have to make our moves very planned out with caution....but all of us servivors have an invisible badge called Courage....
You are describing me. I need help. Feels so hard to find outside of social media. Therapists aren’t seeing patients in person which I feel I need. Thank you for your work 🙏
All of these symptoms all of a sudden popped up for me about 6 months ago and I've been deeply struggling ever since. It's like I was living behind a veil and all of a sudden reality has hit. Feels like my whole body is shutting down on multiple levels.
That was me last year. After 55 plus year all of a sudden I started remembering my childhood. Before that I recalled two or three things. It’s been hell since. In counseling and not moving very fast but I suppose it took a long time to get to here getting better will probably take a long time too. Good luck
That happened to me..at age 70 all the trauma DONE to me flooded back..I just started to remember it. Being told that I was living in the past! Some of the trauma changed my life…not for the better. I feel so hurt that I went to someone two different times 2 different traumas , for some kind of help..they didn’t help me one bit. All they would have had to do was get me some help, compassion,understanding,lead me in the right direction, instead turning a blind eye to it. Instead my family nourished their relationship with the two different people, who did the trauma. Right now I have no fight left in me…I have decided to NUMB my feelings..just to survive in my family relationships. I have NO desire to continue a relationship with that person, my family thinks highly about that person, I don’t care I know their reaction or non reaction CAUSED me horrible unnecessary pain.
Go check out the Workout Witch here on yt. She makes amazing videos on how to release stored trauma with simple exercises . She has taught me so much . I just did some of her somatic releases ❤
This video resonates with me soooo much. I’ve struggled with anxiety but also suffered from fatigue, bad acid reflux and even abdominal pain. Now that I’m older I realize those were physical manifestations of trauma. I’ve been in therapy since 2021 and it’s helped a lot.
Thank you for this awesome validation. You just described my 52 yrs of existence. You are helping so many people with your videos. I think so many of us spend years feeling " crazy " because we can't explain our behavior, our reactions. It is amazingly powerful to watch this video and for me to feel seen and understood. As messed up as my Mom was, she taught me knowledge is power. These videos make me feel powerful, thank you ❤
Places that are triggering - I've been systematically trying to revisit places that are triggering to try and reclaim them for me, to actively overwrite the negative memories and triggers with positive memories and experiences. Hardly an exact science but it's been working so far! It changes the focus from the past to the here and now if that makes sense. Some of the other points on the video made me want to hide behind a cushion however! One step at a time. Thank you for posting this.
I hope someday you share your experience. Thank goodness I found you. My father was an abusive, mentally ill attorney and my mother was loving but histrionic and very self focused. I also have a masters in psych.. I was determined to marry and give our child and his three from his 1st marriage a safe and beautiful place to grow up. We had the “perfect” life until he went to prison for 10 years for bank fraud. He was the VP of an institution during the housing crisis. I was suddenly a single parent of a 7 year old with no child support. I cried for 4 years. I have every single symptom you talk about. I do feel like I have social anxiety.. and I’m a very social person! I’m trapped in a nervous system that is just frayed to bits. Thank you for your work. I did not work in mental health but went back and got a masters in teaching to be able to be with my daughter and so I had interaction in my work with people (children) that satisfied my need for human connection. Otherwise I’m paralyzed in my life
My children’s father went to prison and I found myself a single parent and massively traumatized. We survived and at times thrived. The kids had a huge trauma losing their father to prison on top of it all. Hugs to you sister.
You just helped me connect something else for me. I had attached huge meaning to the city of Toronto here in Canada. It was the place my birth father was before he came back here to Vancouver and died 3 days later. I believed that Toronto killed my dad. (Even though in my adult brain, I knew he was already really ill and would have died had he had not gone to Toronto.) I don't know why I didn't realise that as a trauma response. Thank you, Dr. Kim. New healing just happened. You are a blessing. ❤
I know all about this PTSD sadly. I have panic attacks all day and now weird phobias from a life of abuse. Now my body is hardcore falling apart so I'm slowly dying. Horrible. If only people had been kind, especially with me being high in empathy......
I totally can relate - every single thing. I do go see doctors and dentists - but all the rest 100 percent. I feel like family and love is truly "too good for me"
I know I have childhood trauma as well as adult trauma. I have been in some form of mental health treatment since I was 17 when I first started to spiral. Well, 20 years later and thinking I know it all when it comes to trauma, I surprise myself when I learn something new like today, when watching your video. I have been diagnosed with C-PTSD, borderline personality, OCD, depression including Dysthymia with major depressive episodes along with SAD during the winter, all different sorts of anxiety (social anxiety, health anxiety, generalized anxiety, separation anxiety and phobias, dissociation and a variety of addiction, substance use disorder, alcoholism, excessive shopping, shoplifting, eating disorders and self harm (cutting and burning) The point is I'm VERY familiar with mental health. Today while watching your video, a memory came up when you started talking about one of the 10 signs, avoiding trauma reminders. Ever since I moved across town (which is pretty small, compared to LA or Portland) I rarely go to the south side of town and I have been purposely avoiding moving back even when people tell me it's safer as far as crimes go. I never really thought about why. But I just realized it's because it's all connected to my childhood and early adulthood traumas. I grew up in South Salem and I lost my son to adoption in South Salem. I also run into people of my past way more in South Salem. People from the church I grew up with, (which I don't attend) or perhaps run into my parents or my son's adoptive parents. Thank you so much for your videos!! Will be looking for more! ❤
I don't know how you managed to be so strong. Your videos help me to understand and your own challenges, including raising 4 children and qualifying as a psychologist, really inspire me. Thank you
Appreciate your vulnerability so much, I'm always inspired by hearing your story and really relate to your experiences. Despite the pain of your past and how that impacts the present, you continue to grow, learn, share and be the best mum to your children - such beautiful strength ❤🙏
OMG. Thank you for sharing this! I became aware of CPTSD as a result of my past three relationships with men who had trauma since childhood- emotional and physical. I’m realizing now that since my divorce 12 years ago and raising 3 boys in the aftermath- I too have my own trauma! I was not aware of it at all! Thank you for your work 🙏❤️
Ah man I’ve had this in my watch later for a while. Every word you spoke from the first one has been spoken straight to my heart and my experiences. I’m honestly kind of scared to watch this. I’m In the middle of a nightmare as we speak, imo.
10 for 10 😢 Very helpful descriptions of these experiences and how they're linked to traumas both from childhood and adulthood. Very helpful, thank you.
Love your videos and content. You speak exactly to me. Childhood neglect and abuse going on through 2 marriages. I was blamed in all instances. I'm now 60, and taking full control of the time I have left 🎉❤
Dr. Kim I really need a video on family members who deny me..give me their uneducated opinions..that are so hurtful.. I need them to STOP 🛑..it’s harming me, my spouse does not understand..I have no one to talk to besides my therapist once a week. Name calling from family members..the PAIN is so horrific ❤️🩹
I am just starting to get to grips with the concept of traumas post childhood becoming complex and accumulative. I feel that I need to gain more insight and take steps, to gain better mental health. I tend to bond with PTSD and CPTSD partners and this has added so many layers of harm. Thank you.
I live with developmental trauma, which pre-disposed me to CPTSD. Then I have experienced a wide range of single event traumas over young adult years, then in middle age, where I am at now. I really believe there are a range of PTSD's. I can differentiate the time I was off work on a claim for work related psychiatric injury, from the baseline CPTSD. They are utterly different experiences. My special interest is figuring out PTSD, so yeah.
Ty Dr Kim. This was excellent. It totally describes me. I’m looking into HRT to help also. My depression has been paralyzing. I have zero motivation to do anything. Picking up mail is even so stressful. I’m a mess.
Omg this is EXACTLY what I needed to hear! My childhood had no abuse, but in adulthood I have a few single events that caused ptsd, and relationships with my mother and kids that cause so much pain, but every counselor or therapist I've seen all asked if I had any childhood trauma and when I answered no, nothing about trauma was ever brought up again, so I thought maybe ptsd is only caused as a child and I must not have it. I don't know why I never asked about it, I think I was too embarrassed and humiliated to talk about anything. Now I know that's not true and I'm not alone in my past/present experiences and trauma, but just hearing how close some peoples experiences are to mine still shocks me And while I would NEVER wish anything bad on anyone, sometimes hearing similar pasts as mine is almost...idk if comforting is the right word, but being reminded I'm not alone and it's not only me is something I need to know sometimes. Im 40 now and i have heart failure, my heart was weakened by grief and pain( I was told it is called broken heart syndrome) and now i am scared and i never thought this could cause something so serious, but idk what will happen and how long my heart will last. But now I'm rambling, I really only wanted to say Thank you and it turned into a whole thing, so ill stop now, But thank you for what you do!😊
@DrKimSage Yes, that’s me to all of it and just now realizing after years of “resiliency” that I’m drowning in the impact of many experiences that layered one on top of the other while I just stayed strong and kept going. It took me forever to find my current therapist and I don’t think that she understands where I’m coming from. Wishing that you had a clone in Florida. Thank you for understanding me better in this video than my actual therapist.
This explains so much and knowing I’m not the only one that checked 10 out of 10 symptoms helps me understand why I feel the way I do 24/7….especially in the past year. I feel nothing, empty and tired. I can’t even cry.
In Romania, where I'm originally from, narcissism is in power. You can imagine how traumatic it is to live in a society where violence is encouraged and where the justice system blames the victim. I learned to shutdown when dealing with sociopaths. 😔 I also died for a few minutes (heart stopped) and was lucky being resuscitated by a neighbor (thanks to another neighbor who carried me to the paramedic neighbor) in childhood. There's so much corruption due to its communist past in that country that your chances of dying when going in that country rise sharply to alarming levels. All this compounded by having had two very abusive parents and one abusive sibling. 😔
@@SomeAngryGuy1997Soviet Union was truly evil. There was no sense of human worth and dignity. Most post-Soviet countries are still dealing with the psychological effects of that sense of upbringing. The generations who are born after the fall of the union are also suffering, because any kind of pain, physical or emotional, expressed to a parent is met with “well, so what, guess what I went through”. And so many of us went through so many things, even after the collapse of the Soviet Union. E.g., rotten and swollen wisdom tooth was ruthlessly pulled out of my jaw without any anesthetic. The dentist told me, “open your mouth”, the next thing I know a nurse shows up holding my head, and he just kept moving that instrument side to side holding my tooth until he yanked it out of my jaw. I was 10. Honestly not really traumatized by that, as others have worse stories to share. But wanted to write this so that you have a sense of how bad and corrupt communism is.
Although continent apart, those pressures we grow up with: financial, physical abuse, sexual abuse; you're living with damaged people, who relish the opportunity to dominate. It's corrupt. So, we carry that damage. I can now see the effects on my parents, and forgive them, or at least try to. It's the only way out from bitterness and blame. All the best friend.
I’ve experienced major traumas one after the other my whole life with the majority of them in adulthood. Now at middle age and health is declining. I find myself feeling completely drained and wanting to give up.
You are doing such important, beautiful and life changing work. I found your videos last week, and they have been exactly what I needed at this point. This is one of the most helpful things I could have stumbled on.
I get the negative association to a city or town. I left my hometown for the last time when I was 23 years old after 5 years trying to get away from it because there were just so many traumatic experiences there. I couldn't see myself coming back, but finally did after 37yrs. The catalyst for the return was another traumatizing experience of finding my husband dead in the livingroom from a stroke. I stayed in that house for 3 years and decided that I just couldn't stay there anymore as it was really contributing to my depression. I had nowhere else to go but back to my home town where I had friends. It took another 3 years after making the decision to move back in order to do home repairs and save some money to make the move until the house sells. I've been back nearly 4 years and while much has changed dramatically since I've been gone, there are still areas of town that I avoid because they look the same as when the traumatic events occurred. I eventually bought a place just outside of town in order to keep a little "safety buffer".
Thank you, Dr. Kim. This is a topic I've been looking for for a long time. I know this will explain a lot about some issues in my life as an adult. God bless, Doc.
I’m fairly new to ur channel but your style/demeanor & attitude resonates with me more than any therapist I’ve had in person or here on YT. Ty so much Dr Kim.
I have all 10 of the PTSD signs and they have become much worse after a series of losses in my adult life. The statistics here in Canada show that women are 70% more likely to be poor after a failed marriage. I lost interest in living for a long time. But through it all, I learned that yoga and walking are really helpful for good health and that physical movement becomes more important as we age. A decent diet is really important too. I enjoyed this video as it confirmed so much of what I do and so much of what I think about. It has been difficult to get help but I am going to have to figure out a way. I can't spend the rest of my limited time on earth wishing my parents were different. They suffered from generations of loss and trauma too. I have started a hobby in genealogy to get closer to the family I didn't know. This has helped me in surprising ways. It is really interesting, especially when you can link your relative to historical events or to particular places that still exist today. I am a 5th generation Canadian. Before that, my ancestors lived in Europe.
I went through trauma as a young girl with no father to protect her. And a working single mom who needed attention from men. A girl child is not safe without her father.( i realize there are always exceptions). That being said, when i learned to truly forgive both parents, i stopped taking other people's bad behavior personally. I only thought about what I learned and could have done differently. I forgave myself for the things i did to cope. After becoming a wife and mom, I owed them to face that hurt little girl and teenager, and tell her goodbye. I told her, "You are not that girl anymore." God is my father. He was there the whole time, i only needed to learn my worth that was not taught to me.
A girl child isn’t safe without a father….gee, you should have had the monster I and so many other girl children have had to survive. As Alice Walker wrote: “A girl child isn’t safe in a family of men.”
Learning the words, HSP, c-PTSD, when I was 50+ years, found a way to survive until that point, finally understanding, being able to put words on situation. In the meantime, being some kind of an introvert intellectual, I was perceived as a "wise" person, meaning: people with problems comes to me for advice not realizing I was struggling to, because when you are a wise person, of course you are self sufficient, how could someone imagine "I" could need ...help? Am I not the wise guy with the answers?
I’m 44 and I’m SURE, and several of my doctors agree, that I have medical trauma. I am now finding myself needing to schedule my 33rd surgery that was very unexpected. And it is spine surgery, so it’s nothing simple, without risks. I’m Dx with BPII, but I’ve tapered off almost all my BP meds with help. So now I’m looking at ADHD and C-PTSD, as well as BPD…it is overwhelming!!!
I really needed to hear this. I just happened upon you. I've been dealing with so much for over 25 years with no end in sight. For Real. I meet all on your list. I've got several diagnoses... mental, physical, neurological. I'm 50 and, I've only been existing, surviving. What is living?
Dr. Kim Sage , hello! No better and valued teacher than the one who has experienced it. Always helpful. Sometimes more than others. But that is common. Always grateful. Also fan and always rooting for you! Please don’t feel creeped out. I just love you and wish the best for you. Had a quick recommendation, I believe it would be a good idea to look up THERAPY IN A NUTSHELL with Emma McAdams you might learn something from her. Maybe you’ll be able to collaborate with her if you wish.
It was not only trauma and retriggering trauma, it was also a deep, unshakable feeling of failure and an inability to alleviate the retraumatization. What was worse was that no one could recognize your deep struggle to navigate qn uncaring world. They hand you a pill, and somewhere the sunshine may break through.
Thank you. I was so wrongly diagnosed and over medicated for nearly two decades. CPTSD is my diagnosis now after a lifetime of trauma and abuse, followed by grief and depression. I’m grateful to know the truth now so I can focus on healing 🙏🏽 ❤️🩹
I would not fall for any strangers in comments you don’t even know that might lead you down other paths……. Just some stranger danger internet safety advice
This is so so correct …. The Cpstd was all adult days of NPD marriage and then 2 of the adult children becoming , golden and invisible child and daughter scapegoat. Yes traumas in childhood but they were not destroying me . 🙏 the same with my father due to betrayal to him and my daughters medical needs , all her life yet until 43 she is .
Unfortunately I live in El paso Texas and I have tried to get help but they don't believe cptsdd exists I hope my new counselor helps but I fear the same thing again. I have repeatedly been signing papers to keep from being committed and told I'm crazy 😢😢😢😢😢 I decided to suffer on my own.
I am the same but opposite - in that I attach my 'challenges' with having cptsd and no pre-trauma personality (neglected infant) to the extent that I 'forget' I had a violent partner at one point in my life, twice divorced, etc, etc. and the ptsd trauma those adult experiences caused.
So true about not knowing where to place former native teaching? As of lately I've been remolding my sister home and so thankful She's agreed to accept some help. Her four children are awesome being involved with activities pertaining to school study's sports and curious what brings me to this place. Music all about music. We play as loudly life permits us to. My new hobby with buying conceal firearms reassuring for a better night's rest. Hate on hate crimes happening within our surrounding towns an communities. I'm thankful to say my life had been spared because one week ago three individuals attacking and point blank range my body took blasting round. Recovery going well enough to see other day
This is me because even though I had a great childhood, my dad suddenly became an alcoholic when I was 13 and I was in a very abusive relationship in my teens and a string of abusive relationships since then. And this is my current husband because he was very emotionally neglected as a child by his parents.
OMG ... ME, ME, ME, ME, ME, ME, ME, ME, ME, ME ... I Identify with ALL 10 ... Bipolar 2 / Borderline Personality Disorder / Peripheral Neuropathy in my Feet / IBS / Asthma ... All related to a Lifetime of Trauma! Then, on 15 Feb, I had the Most Traumatic Experience From Drs & Nurses on my Discharge from Hospital after my Admission for a Head Injury caused by a Blackout. I was so Traumatised that I will never go back there. It resulted in my Worst Mental Breakdown & Burnout ever in my 56 years. Luckily on Friday I had my Monthly Session with my Psychiatrist, but I am still Very Mentally Frail. All I can do now, is take it 1 day at a time.
The tangle of problems in adulthood are created by the tangle of problems in childhood. It is is very, very intricate, interconnected web. It is next to impossible to detangle the mess. Make a list of things that happened and things should have happened but didn;t and that you didn't learn about until in therapy or by listening to UA-cam. Did anyone tell you about people, about how hard life is and how to deal with it? Did anyone ever tell you could always go home, that mom would always love you and be on your side? Was there medical illness, poverty, abandonment that you didn't recognize? Did someone tell you about puberty and how to understand and cope with it? Did a parent die? Did you have friends? Did you have grandparents that valued you? Did you live in a house that was never finished? The list goes on and on and on. Were you held back in school? Did you have physical deformities? Were you a nerd? Add to the list, people. Did you act out in school and no one at home knew it? Why did you act out in school? We all have different stories. If only one or two things happened or didn't happen, we would problem have been okay. Our lives were like the Chinese torture drip, drip, drip. You take all these problems into adulthood and then add more because your childhood didn't prepare you for adulthood. You don't know social graces or simple rules for getting along. You are realllllly ignorant about people. You are too needy, too giving. This list doesn't begin to near completion. Add to it.
I told someone about this video and got slammed and how this interferes w/HIM and blah blah blah - someone I trusted and now I feel betrayed. How do I handle this?
How to I get my mind to except and knowledge the abuse ..get it to understand it did happen and was indeed above cruel and yes I was traumatized from a tyrant ??? 66 year old grandma ...in a divorce...lost my kids because of lies......
I had a 41 year marriage and 4 kids. I woke up and realized alcohol was destroying the narcissist so I could see who he really was. It was scary. I escaped and started over. I plan on sticking it out until the money runs out.
I just got a new counselor but I'm afraid I'll run her off if I tell her I'm just a crap person. Idk, I'm 60 and feel I've served a 50 year sentence. It started at 10, idk what to tell her????
A toxic relationship is not allways including a toxic partner. I find it hard to accept the word toxic about a relationship since it stigmatise the partner that may not be a toxic person.
I have nothing now that my kids are happy within their own lives and moved on. They don't need me anymore so there is no motivation to exist. I feel like a waste of air.
As someone who suffers with extreme severe anxiety I can totally relate to her. I would stop eating for days at a time as a punishment. I worry a lot about my life, everyone around me and pleasing everyone. It's absolutely crippling, so glad she got the help she needed, lovely young lady it's so sad that society has 1 in 3 people suffering mental health issues. I hope everyone seeks help
People need to realise that people with anxiety disorders have oversensitised nerves, it's not a simple case of manning up and getting over it.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about how mushrooms and psychedelics treats anxiety, but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, doctor Greg mushroom I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Please, how do I reach doctor Greg?
Is he on the internet?
I relate to this so much… I have been traumatized all my life.. I am 71 and it has come up like a horrible nightmare. After learning all this I have come to the realization that I traumatized my oldest Son. The pain is beyond me…I am in so much grief, pain.. I cannot escape.
Omg, this is so spot on. I just don't want to be here. I gave up on everything. I am so affected that now my health is affected.
I am with you on this.. I feel beyond repair.. and my actions led to more pain in myself and others.
I've found ways to deal with my trauma exercise Prayer, walking Staying Away from negativity, Music and Therapy❤
I know exactly how that feels. Once I told a therapist that I just didn’t want to BE here. She asked, well, where do you want to be? She really didn’t get it. I don’t WANT to be anywhere. I’m just HERE. Goodness. I hope you can find something or someone to help you. Wish I had better advice! But it must feel a little good to know that others have these same feelings -
Wow... I have every single one of these signs. I feel so burned out and I used to be a person who could feel deep joy and felt everything deeply. Now I feel like a ghost walking around. Thank you for the helpful information.
I don't know your situation, but I do know I was a caregiver for my mother for 10 yrs. I was so burned out I thought I would die. What helped, breathing exercises, meditation, acupuncture, massage therapy, walking, going to the beach, spending time in nature, stay away from sugar as much as possible, get rid of caffeine, eat a good diet. Lastly take magnesium supplements. I'm still fighting to come back making good progress. See a therapist If need be.
@@doug3819 Thank you for the advice. I'm doing most of these, except for massage therapy and acupuncture which I can't afford. I had a forty year trauma bonded marriage that left me mentally, physically, emotionally and financially ruined. Trying to recover from the C- PTSD that all of that left me with as I go through a divorce at 65. Thank you for your kindness and caring. 😊
@@debbiesday8270I thought it was a coincidence, when you replied, I'm 65 also. A couple other things I will tell you, I was tired when I wrote up my first post. I had rode my bike too far, I guess I'm out of shape. Have a lot of patience, it took you yrs it sounds like to get into the condition you are in you will probably not get over it overnight. My mother passed away 7 months ago. I'm still tired and dealing with anxiety and miss her immensely ! The thing I wanted to tell you something that helped me to no end for a few yrs. There is Dr named Dr Daniel Amen, he is a master helping people deal with stress. He's written many books on depression, anxiety and Ptsd. If you go to GNC they sell amino acids, one is l tyrosine taken with B6 it can do wonders for depression, they also have GABA another amino acid taken with taurine and B 6 it does wonders for anxiety. Lastly get on a good fish oil omega 3. Super mood booster. Don't get the cheap stuff at Walmart, it's no good I tried it. Nature's bounty at krogers is good. Lastly I know you said you can't afford a massage, I implore you try to just get one they can do wonders. I hope you are seeing a therapist !
@@debbiesday8270I sent a reply to you earlier with helpful hints but you tube deleted it. It's difficult to send anything any longer. So I will tell you I got a lot of good information from a book called the mood cure by Julia Ross. Be patient with your situation it may take a little time to get where you want to be. My sister has MS as she always says laugher is important. It's funny I am 65 also. I hope this goes through.
The dead inside feeling.. I have it. That joy and thrill of living is gone. Not even a good roller coaster can bring it out anymore (I loved them, the bigger the better). I cant feel deep happiness or joy anymore. It a flat feeling. So unlike me and so sad
Help us to understand how people can be so selfish and mean ..on purpose...with zero remorse ....self centered to the core....
I have never been able to understand stand that either but what I have found very helpful is when I encounter or have to deal with that kind of person I acknowledge that that is their limitation for whatever reason, and change my expectations of said person. It saves my from what I refer to as my "beating my head against a brick wall" syndrome. Hope this helps. I truly feel your pain ✌️🫶😊
@@sweetpealee056 thanks sweet pea !!! I do tell myself that it is actually a very disordered mind....
@@Soul-On-Fire-4-Truth yes! Now just change your expectations and you'll be amazed at how much lighter you'll feel!
Sweet pea ,I think, maybe in a very sad way,God has blessed us in giving us knowledge of how very evil people are... because we all can see, everywhere in the world how evil is the prevailing situation.. each day we see worse and worse things... some poor individuals are totally freaking out, some suicidal..fear is a word we are all carrying.....but because we have lived it up close we know many of the ways evil narcissist play ,so we know about trickery deception manipulation...so we know in the game we have to make our moves very planned out with caution....but all of us servivors have an invisible badge called Courage....
It has to do with the brain being wired differently. I forget which part of the brain isn't functioning normally for psychopaths.
Life is simple when you don’t have to deal with People..
And no fun with people too
Isn’t life like that too?
I just filed my divorce papers after 51 years… I feel like I have wasted most of my life… I am beyond sad ! ❤️🩹
And people wonder why we isolate.
You are describing me. I need help. Feels so hard to find outside of social media. Therapists aren’t seeing patients in person which I feel I need. Thank you for your work 🙏
I walk this to the T. I am 63 years old trying to work through this. Thank you for your informational video.
All of these symptoms all of a sudden popped up for me about 6 months ago and I've been deeply struggling ever since. It's like I was living behind a veil and all of a sudden reality has hit. Feels like my whole body is shutting down on multiple levels.
That was me last year. After 55 plus year all of a sudden I started remembering my childhood. Before that I recalled two or three things. It’s been hell since. In counseling and not moving very fast but I suppose it took a long time to get to here getting better will probably take a long time too. Good luck
That happened to me..at age 70 all the trauma DONE to me flooded back..I just started to remember it. Being told that I was living in the past! Some of the trauma changed my life…not for the better. I feel so hurt that I went to someone two different times 2 different traumas , for some kind of help..they didn’t help me one bit. All they would have had to do was get me some help, compassion,understanding,lead me in the right direction, instead turning a blind eye to it. Instead my family nourished their relationship with the two different people, who did the trauma. Right now I have no fight left in me…I have decided to NUMB my feelings..just to survive in my family relationships. I have NO desire to continue a relationship with that person, my family thinks highly about that person, I don’t care I know their reaction or non reaction CAUSED me horrible unnecessary pain.
Go check out the Workout Witch here on yt. She makes amazing videos on how to release stored trauma with simple exercises . She has taught me so much . I just did some of her somatic releases ❤
This video resonates with me soooo much. I’ve struggled with anxiety but also suffered from fatigue, bad acid reflux and even abdominal pain. Now that I’m older I realize those were physical manifestations of trauma. I’ve been in therapy since 2021 and it’s helped a lot.
Subconscious Internal rage, as described by Dr John Sarno and Steve Ozanich it's in their books.
My acid reflux caused me to lose my teeth…
Thank you for this awesome validation. You just described my 52 yrs of existence. You are helping so many people with your videos. I think so many of us spend years feeling " crazy " because we can't explain our behavior, our reactions. It is amazingly powerful to watch this video and for me to feel seen and understood. As messed up as my Mom was, she taught me knowledge is power. These videos make me feel powerful, thank you ❤
I know this may not be relevant, but I have to say how much I LOVE the room you're in! Its so dreamy! I especially love the de Gournay wallpaper!
Places that are triggering - I've been systematically trying to revisit places that are triggering to try and reclaim them for me, to actively overwrite the negative memories and triggers with positive memories and experiences. Hardly an exact science but it's been working so far! It changes the focus from the past to the here and now if that makes sense. Some of the other points on the video made me want to hide behind a cushion however! One step at a time. Thank you for posting this.
I hope someday you share your experience. Thank goodness I found you. My father was an abusive, mentally ill attorney and my mother was loving but histrionic and very self focused. I also have a masters in psych.. I was determined to marry and give our child and his three from his 1st marriage a safe and beautiful place to grow up. We had the “perfect” life until he went to prison for 10 years for bank fraud. He was the VP of an institution during the housing crisis. I was suddenly a single parent of a 7 year old with no child support. I cried for 4 years. I have every single symptom you talk about. I do feel like I have social anxiety.. and I’m a very social person! I’m trapped in a nervous system that is just frayed to bits. Thank you for your work. I did not work in mental health but went back and got a masters in teaching to be able to be with my daughter and so I had interaction in my work with people (children) that satisfied my need for human connection. Otherwise I’m paralyzed in my life
My children’s father went to prison and I found myself a single parent and massively traumatized. We survived and at times thrived. The kids had a huge trauma losing their father to prison on top of it all. Hugs to you sister.
You just helped me connect something else for me.
I had attached huge meaning to the city of Toronto here in Canada. It was the place my birth father was before he came back here to Vancouver and died 3 days later. I believed that Toronto killed my dad. (Even though in my adult brain, I knew he was already really ill and would have died had he had not gone to Toronto.) I don't know why I didn't realise that as a trauma response.
Thank you, Dr. Kim. New healing just happened.
You are a blessing. ❤
Toronto kills everyones soul. its so dark here.
@@anikomiles4260 Wow. What a kind thing to say.
I’m in Toronto as well ! ❤❤ wish I could move out of here
Thank you, so much cPTSD resources are childhood related, which has been really unrelatable for me.
I know all about this PTSD sadly. I have panic attacks all day and now weird phobias from a life of abuse. Now my body is hardcore falling apart so I'm slowly dying. Horrible. If only people had been kind, especially with me being high in empathy......
I feel you. And I hope things start to get better for you 💗
I totally can relate - every single thing. I do go see doctors and dentists - but all the rest 100 percent. I feel like family and love is truly "too good for me"
Your videos have helped so much with my healing. I used to have a lot of these symptoms but now feel so much joy, I feel emotionally bullet proof ❤
Thank you for this platform.
I know I have childhood trauma as well as adult trauma. I have been in some form of mental health treatment since I was 17 when I first started to spiral. Well, 20 years later and thinking I know it all when it comes to trauma, I surprise myself when I learn something new like today, when watching your video. I have been diagnosed with C-PTSD, borderline personality, OCD, depression including Dysthymia with major depressive episodes along with SAD during the winter, all different sorts of anxiety (social anxiety, health anxiety, generalized anxiety, separation anxiety and phobias, dissociation and a variety of addiction, substance use disorder, alcoholism, excessive shopping, shoplifting, eating disorders and self harm (cutting and burning)
The point is I'm VERY familiar with mental health. Today while watching your video, a memory came up when you started talking about one of the 10 signs, avoiding trauma reminders. Ever since I moved across town (which is pretty small, compared to LA or Portland) I rarely go to the south side of town and I have been purposely avoiding moving back even when people tell me it's safer as far as crimes go. I never really thought about why. But I just realized it's because it's all connected to my childhood and early adulthood traumas. I grew up in South Salem and I lost my son to adoption in South Salem. I also run into people of my past way more in South Salem. People from the church I grew up with, (which I don't attend) or perhaps run into my parents or my son's adoptive parents.
Thank you so much for your videos!! Will be looking for more! ❤
I LOVE the background! Such a lovely green and wallpaper.
I have every symptom you mentioned. Thank you for this video. Very helpful!
Thank you so much these videos help me learn so much about myself and in general psychology
I don't know how you managed to be so strong. Your videos help me to understand and your own challenges, including raising 4 children and qualifying as a psychologist, really inspire me. Thank you
Thank you for these free sessions
Thank you Dr. Sage. 💯
Appreciate your vulnerability so much, I'm always inspired by hearing your story and really relate to your experiences. Despite the pain of your past and how that impacts the present, you continue to grow, learn, share and be the best mum to your children - such beautiful strength ❤🙏
Thank you for being so generous with your content that helps so many. Your insight is appreciated.
OMG. Thank you for sharing this! I became aware of CPTSD as a result of my past three relationships with men who had trauma since childhood- emotional and physical. I’m realizing now that since my divorce 12 years ago and raising 3 boys in the aftermath- I too have my own trauma! I was not aware of it at all! Thank you for your work 🙏❤️
Ah man I’ve had this in my watch later for a while. Every word you spoke from the first one has been spoken straight to my heart and my experiences. I’m honestly kind of scared to watch this. I’m In the middle of a nightmare as we speak, imo.
10 for 10 😢
Very helpful descriptions of these experiences and how they're linked to traumas both from childhood and adulthood. Very helpful, thank you.
Love your videos and content. You speak exactly to me. Childhood neglect and abuse going on through 2 marriages. I was blamed in all instances. I'm now 60, and taking full control of the time I have left 🎉❤
Dr. Kim I really need a video on family members who deny me..give me their uneducated opinions..that are so hurtful.. I need them to STOP 🛑..it’s harming me, my spouse does not understand..I have no one to talk to besides my therapist once a week. Name calling from family members..the PAIN is so horrific ❤️🩹
I am just starting to get to grips with the concept of traumas post childhood becoming complex and accumulative. I feel that I need to gain more insight and take steps, to gain better mental health. I tend to bond with PTSD and CPTSD partners and this has added so many layers of harm. Thank you.
I live with developmental trauma, which pre-disposed me to CPTSD. Then I have experienced a wide range of single event traumas over young adult years, then in middle age, where I am at now. I really believe there are a range of PTSD's. I can differentiate the time I was off work on a claim for work related psychiatric injury, from the baseline CPTSD. They are utterly different experiences. My special interest is figuring out PTSD, so yeah.
Glad I found this as my trauma is all as an adult. I’m glad you’re speaking on it.
Ty Dr Kim. This was excellent. It totally describes me. I’m looking into HRT to help also. My depression has been paralyzing. I have zero motivation to do anything. Picking up mail is even so stressful. I’m a mess.
Omg this is EXACTLY what I needed to hear! My childhood had no abuse, but in adulthood I have a few single events that caused ptsd, and relationships with my mother and kids that cause so much pain, but every counselor or therapist I've seen all asked if I had any childhood trauma and when I answered no, nothing about trauma was ever brought up again, so I thought maybe ptsd is only caused as a child and I must not have it. I don't know why I never asked about it, I think I was too embarrassed and humiliated to talk about anything. Now I know that's not true and I'm not alone in my past/present experiences and trauma, but just hearing how close some peoples experiences are to mine still shocks me
And while I would NEVER wish anything bad on anyone, sometimes hearing similar pasts as mine is almost...idk if comforting is the right word, but being reminded I'm not alone and it's not only me is something I need to know sometimes. Im 40 now and i have heart failure, my heart was weakened by grief and pain( I was told it is called broken heart syndrome) and now i am scared and i never thought this could cause something so serious, but idk what will happen and how long my heart will last. But now I'm rambling, I really only wanted to say Thank you and it turned into a whole thing, so ill stop now,
But thank you for what you do!😊
Dear Dr Kim, thank you for sharing this video with us. It helps to know that we all, counselors and patients, are learning and growing. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻😍😍😍
@DrKimSage Yes, that’s me to all of it and just now realizing after years of “resiliency” that I’m drowning in the impact of many experiences that layered one on top of the other while I just stayed strong and kept going. It took me forever to find my current therapist and I don’t think that she understands where I’m coming from. Wishing that you had a clone in Florida. Thank you for understanding me better in this video than my actual therapist.
This explains so much and knowing I’m not the only one that checked 10 out of 10 symptoms helps me understand why I feel the way I do 24/7….especially in the past year.
I feel nothing, empty and tired.
I can’t even cry.
you are our therapy!
In Romania, where I'm originally from, narcissism is in power. You can imagine how traumatic it is to live in a society where violence is encouraged and where the justice system blames the victim. I learned to shutdown when dealing with sociopaths. 😔 I also died for a few minutes (heart stopped) and was lucky being resuscitated by a neighbor (thanks to another neighbor who carried me to the paramedic neighbor) in childhood. There's so much corruption due to its communist past in that country that your chances of dying when going in that country rise sharply to alarming levels. All this compounded by having had two very abusive parents and one abusive sibling. 😔
Thank your capitalist present for that.
All of us from post-Soviet countries can relate :(
@@SomeAngryGuy1997Soviet Union was truly evil. There was no sense of human worth and dignity. Most post-Soviet countries are still dealing with the psychological effects of that sense of upbringing. The generations who are born after the fall of the union are also suffering, because any kind of pain, physical or emotional, expressed to a parent is met with “well, so what, guess what I went through”. And so many of us went through so many things, even after the collapse of the Soviet Union. E.g., rotten and swollen wisdom tooth was ruthlessly pulled out of my jaw without any anesthetic. The dentist told me, “open your mouth”, the next thing I know a nurse shows up holding my head, and he just kept moving that instrument side to side holding my tooth until he yanked it out of my jaw. I was 10. Honestly not really traumatized by that, as others have worse stories to share. But wanted to write this so that you have a sense of how bad and corrupt communism is.
Although continent apart, those pressures we grow up with: financial, physical abuse, sexual abuse; you're living with damaged people, who relish the opportunity to dominate. It's corrupt. So, we carry that damage.
I can now see the effects on my parents, and forgive them, or at least try to. It's the only way out from bitterness and blame. All the best friend.
@@SS-ty6xg Sure, keep that narrative 😂
I’ve experienced major traumas one after the other my whole life with the majority of them in adulthood. Now at middle age and health is declining. I find myself feeling completely drained and wanting to give up.
You are doing such important, beautiful and life changing work. I found your videos last week, and they have been exactly what I needed at this point. This is one of the most helpful things I could have stumbled on.
Hi Dr Kim could you explore childhood trauma, or parental neglect and whether there is a link to OCD? Is there a cause and effect happening?
Yes. Lots of research out there
This is so me….I could expound, but there’s soooooo much..
I get the negative association to a city or town. I left my hometown for the last time when I was 23 years old after 5 years trying to get away from it because there were just so many traumatic experiences there. I couldn't see myself coming back, but finally did after 37yrs. The catalyst for the return was another traumatizing experience of finding my husband dead in the livingroom from a stroke. I stayed in that house for 3 years and decided that I just couldn't stay there anymore as it was really contributing to my depression. I had nowhere else to go but back to my home town where I had friends. It took another 3 years after making the decision to move back in order to do home repairs and save some money to make the move until the house sells. I've been back nearly 4 years and while much has changed dramatically since I've been gone, there are still areas of town that I avoid because they look the same as when the traumatic events occurred. I eventually bought a place just outside of town in order to keep a little "safety buffer".
Knowledge is the key
Thank you, Dr. Kim. This is a topic I've been looking for for a long time. I know this will explain a lot about some issues in my life as an adult. God bless, Doc.
I’m fairly new to ur channel but your style/demeanor & attitude resonates with me more than any therapist I’ve had in person or here on YT. Ty so much Dr Kim.
This really hits hard. 😢
I have all 10 of the PTSD signs and they have become much worse after a series of losses in my adult life. The statistics here in Canada show that women are 70% more likely to be poor after a failed marriage. I lost interest in living for a long time. But through it all, I learned that yoga and walking are really helpful for good health and that physical movement becomes more important as we age. A decent diet is really important too. I enjoyed this video as it confirmed so much of what I do and so much of what I think about. It has been difficult to get help but I am going to have to figure out a way. I can't spend the rest of my limited time on earth wishing my parents were different. They suffered from generations of loss and trauma too. I have started a hobby in genealogy to get closer to the family I didn't know. This has helped me in surprising ways. It is really interesting, especially when you can link your relative to historical events or to particular places that still exist today. I am a 5th generation Canadian. Before that, my ancestors lived in Europe.
Wow! You just described my life to a tee! I'm going to start listening to all your videos!
I went through trauma as a young girl with no father to protect her. And a working single mom who needed attention from men. A girl child is not safe without her father.( i realize there are always exceptions). That being said, when i learned to truly forgive both parents, i stopped taking other people's bad behavior personally. I only thought about what I learned and could have done differently. I forgave myself for the things i did to cope. After becoming a wife and mom, I owed them to face that hurt little girl and teenager, and tell her goodbye. I told her, "You are not that girl anymore." God is my father. He was there the whole time, i only needed to learn my worth that was not taught to me.
A girl child isn’t safe without a father….gee, you should have had the monster I and so many other girl children have had to survive. As Alice Walker wrote: “A girl child isn’t safe in a family of men.”
Luckily, all of us girl childs have the BEST Father - YHWH
@cindyhoover9116 yes! ☺️🙏
I resonate with every bit of this video completely. Thank you ✨
Learning the words, HSP, c-PTSD, when I was 50+ years, found a way to survive until that point, finally understanding, being able to put words on situation. In the meantime, being some kind of an introvert intellectual, I was perceived as a "wise" person, meaning: people with problems comes to me for advice not realizing I was struggling to, because when you are a wise person, of course you are self sufficient, how could someone imagine "I" could need ...help? Am I not the wise guy with the answers?
I start emdr tomorrow and I'm hopeful for the first time in awhile.
I am going to do EMDR…how did you like it? I don’t have much faith in the concept right now, but I will give it a try.
@@katherinemnusa I had two sessions of emdr. I just works so quickly. The healing after a session can be tiring but so worth it.
I’m 44 and I’m SURE, and several of my doctors agree, that I have medical trauma. I am now finding myself needing to schedule my 33rd surgery that was very unexpected. And it is spine surgery, so it’s nothing simple, without risks. I’m Dx with BPII, but I’ve tapered off almost all my BP meds with help. So now I’m looking at ADHD and C-PTSD, as well as BPD…it is overwhelming!!!
Wowwwwwww 33 surgeries??? Holy shitttt .I'm soo sorry😢😢😢😢😢😢stay strong ❤❤❤❤❤
9:10 I can SO relate to that "passive": i would never get in front of the train, but I JAYYWALK like you wouldnt believe!
I really needed to hear this. I just happened upon you. I've been dealing with so much for over 25 years with no end in sight. For Real. I meet all on your list. I've got several diagnoses... mental, physical, neurological. I'm 50 and, I've only been existing, surviving. What is living?
Dr. Kim Sage , hello! No better and valued teacher than the one who has experienced it. Always helpful. Sometimes more than others. But that is common. Always grateful. Also fan and always rooting for you! Please don’t feel creeped out. I just love you and wish the best for you. Had a quick recommendation, I believe it would be a good idea to look up THERAPY IN A NUTSHELL with Emma McAdams you might learn something from her. Maybe you’ll be able to collaborate with her if you wish.
It's soo tough. It's like you know something isn't right.
What an amazing video! Thank you for having me feel "normal" !
This session hit hard. This is definitely me.
I can really relate to your story about the adult trauma
It was not only trauma and retriggering trauma, it was also a deep, unshakable feeling of failure and an inability to alleviate the retraumatization. What was worse was that no one could recognize your deep struggle to navigate qn uncaring world. They hand you a pill, and somewhere the sunshine may break through.
Thank you. I was so wrongly diagnosed and over medicated for nearly two decades. CPTSD is my diagnosis now after a lifetime of trauma and abuse, followed by grief and depression. I’m grateful to know the truth now so I can focus on healing 🙏🏽 ❤️🩹
I would not fall for any strangers in comments you don’t even know that might lead you down other paths……. Just some stranger danger internet safety advice
Happy I came across your channel. Keep doing what you're doing 🙏
Stop the War! Then ask for help- for a permanent fix for this situation- please!
This is so so correct …. The Cpstd was all adult days of NPD marriage and then 2 of the adult children becoming , golden and invisible child and daughter scapegoat.
Yes traumas in childhood but they were not destroying me . 🙏 the same with my father due to betrayal to him and my daughters medical needs , all her life yet until 43 she is .
Unfortunately I live in El paso Texas and I have tried to get help but they don't believe cptsdd exists I hope my new counselor helps but I fear the same thing again. I have repeatedly been signing papers to keep from being committed and told I'm crazy 😢😢😢😢😢 I decided to suffer on my own.
I have the same trauma going back to San Diego for depositions! Thanks for this video.
I can so relate to this. Thank you
I am the same but opposite - in that I attach my 'challenges' with having cptsd and no pre-trauma personality (neglected infant) to the extent that I 'forget' I had a violent partner at one point in my life, twice divorced, etc, etc. and the ptsd trauma those adult experiences caused.
So true about not knowing where to place former native teaching? As of lately I've been remolding my sister home and so thankful She's agreed to accept some help. Her four children are awesome being involved with activities pertaining to school study's sports and curious what brings me to this place. Music all about music. We play as loudly life permits us to. My new hobby with buying conceal firearms reassuring for a better night's rest. Hate on hate crimes happening within our surrounding towns an communities. I'm thankful to say my life had been spared because one week ago three individuals attacking and point blank range my body took blasting round. Recovery going well enough to see other day
This is me because even though I had a great childhood, my dad suddenly became an alcoholic when I was 13 and I was in a very abusive relationship in my teens and a string of abusive relationships since then. And this is my current husband because he was very emotionally neglected as a child by his parents.
You are always so spot on with things. Thank you for these videos
I don't like being around people much. I alway feel this barrier where i can't relate to others
OMG ... ME, ME, ME, ME, ME, ME, ME, ME, ME, ME ...
I Identify with ALL 10 ...
Bipolar 2 / Borderline Personality Disorder / Peripheral Neuropathy in my Feet / IBS / Asthma ...
All related to a Lifetime of Trauma!
Then, on 15 Feb, I had the Most Traumatic Experience From Drs & Nurses on my Discharge from Hospital after my Admission for a Head Injury caused by a Blackout. I was so Traumatised that I will never go back there. It resulted in my Worst Mental Breakdown & Burnout ever in my 56 years.
Luckily on Friday I had my Monthly Session with my Psychiatrist, but I am still Very Mentally Frail. All I can do now, is take it 1 day at a time.
This explains why I do what I do ❤
I have expose to extreme trauma and this is me.
I think most of my PTSD comes from my school days. And how my teachers were towards me. Very poor and badly supportive
I have had people fail me
Thank you
The tangle of problems in adulthood are created by the tangle of problems in childhood. It is is very, very intricate, interconnected web. It is next to impossible to detangle the mess. Make a list of things that happened and things should have happened but didn;t and that you didn't learn about until in therapy or by listening to UA-cam. Did anyone tell you about people, about how hard life is and how to deal with it? Did anyone ever tell you could always go home, that mom would always love you and be on your side? Was there medical illness, poverty, abandonment that you didn't recognize? Did someone tell you about puberty and how to understand and cope with it? Did a parent die? Did you have friends? Did you have grandparents that valued you? Did you live in a house that was never finished? The list goes on and on and on. Were you held back in school? Did you have physical deformities? Were you a nerd? Add to the list, people. Did you act out in school and no one at home knew it? Why did you act out in school? We all have different stories. If only one or two things happened or didn't happen, we would problem have been okay. Our lives were like the Chinese torture drip, drip, drip. You take all these problems into adulthood and then add more because your childhood didn't prepare you for adulthood. You don't know social graces or simple rules for getting along. You are realllllly ignorant about people. You are too needy, too giving. This list doesn't begin to near completion. Add to it.
Thank you I can not find squat on adult trauma and it makes it VERY hard to heal or relate to anyone. My trauma started at age 19. What do I do?
I told someone about this video and got slammed and how this interferes w/HIM and blah blah blah - someone I trusted and now I feel betrayed. How do I handle this?
Dr Ramani on You Tube talks all about dealing with Narcissists (hint: you actually cannot deal with them)
Hi Dr. Kim, just now watching; (July), have a question - What if everything you describe is how I am, but I can’t pinpoint any trauma?
About halfway through, and all signs are there. I'm 66, so not likely to change much..
The traumas get strung together because lack of respect runs through all traumas.
How to I get my mind to except and knowledge the abuse ..get it to understand it did happen and was indeed above cruel and yes I was traumatized from a tyrant ??? 66 year old grandma ...in a divorce...lost my kids because of lies......
I had a 41 year marriage and 4 kids. I woke up and realized alcohol was destroying the narcissist so I could see who he really was. It was scary. I escaped and started over. I plan on sticking it out until the money runs out.
I just got a new counselor but I'm afraid I'll run her off if I tell her I'm just a crap person. Idk, I'm 60 and feel I've served a 50 year sentence. It started at 10, idk what to tell her????
Wow!!! 💯 Thank you❣️
A toxic relationship is not allways including a toxic partner. I find it hard to accept the word toxic about a relationship since it stigmatise the partner that may not be a toxic person.
I have nothing now that my kids are happy within their own lives and moved on. They don't need me anymore so there is no motivation to exist. I feel like a waste of air.
I have all 10 of those symptoms.
Thank you Dr Kim ❤🙏