A very important topic addressed in a very tasteful way... Well done. Side note - I do think men should let women know what size they are, so that most women could avoid this problem. From my experience it's very important for a woman to feel full and stretched.
Please do not advocate to leave a man hanging once he has penwtrates you. I highly rwcommend you let him finish and do what it takes to make him release instead of stoping him midsex? Some men can get very violent towards a woman. So...
You know what, Kelsey you got some balls. It takes a lot to talk about something like this even in a very open country like America. I hope this video goes out so someone who needs to see it. You’re also saying it on the internet to an infinite amount of people risking your face for the sake of educating others. That’s admirable.
@@thebluetrain6797 the whole point of the video is that kelsey speaks about her own experience and then gives advice on how to get out of an uncomfortable situation. she didn't even mention his name just spoke about her own story
your transparency talking about taboo topics is very refreshing! we need more female empowering content like yours. please continue making such videos. I would love it if you made a video on developing self confidence as well. much love x
it might be traumatizing for a man when the woman leaves in the middle, but it's definitely traumatizing to be forcing yourself to participate in a sexual act when you no longer want to
There is a way to go about it. Instead of telling the guy he sucks and his dick is so small etc. You can stay with yourself, say, I am not feeling it, I am not in the mood anymore or I changed my mind, sorry. You don't have to make it traumatising.
how is it traumatizing for the women???? guys kill themselves over this shit, guys rape women over this shit, guys kill multiple women overt this shit. let me guess though the women saying "his dick was not big enough I was so disappointed wish i walked out sooner" is traumatizing right?????!!!! it's so easy for women to get some and yet they complain so fucking much about nothing, where as for an Average man ( not models ) they have to go through hours of hard work blood sweat and tears ( litereally ) just to get some, and even then it's not a guarantee cause then you have to worry about your 🍆SIZE 😂 save the traumatizing act for some other feminist bull shit
Omg I love you 😂❤❤ also as a 29 year old woman, this is such an important video. We have been conditioned to just accept whatever situation and not stand up for ourselves so thank you for making this video
Thank you for spreading awareness about the "nice girl syndrome". And it can transcend to every interaction not just duting sex. For example i have always been nice to people bc they were nice as well. But one time i was just like a normal day nice to a guy and then he thought i was flirting with him and he started doing ans saying stuff that i was not liking at all. And EVEN IN THAT MOMENT the first thing that went through my mind was just be nice but no i was wrong. I had to basically escape him and yeah ihave learned that a person or a female can choose when and where will she be nice and that not being nice doesnt mean a girl is a bitch or anything(which one guy told me after the accident).
I think what people don't realize is that alcohol consumption actually prevents guys from getting hard.... So guys, if you wanna have meaningful sex, don't drink!
THIS is true equality! You’re doing really good and important work by sharing this message Kelsey. Good on the guy for being a mature human being as well ✌️
You are fortunate that he allowed you to leave before he finished, a lot of guys wouldn't have. By the sound of it, he probably wasn't that into it either.
You’re totally right about the “good girl syndrome” I had the worst sex experience with a guy who only thought about his own pleasure and on top of that had such a small “friend” for real, I didn’t even feel it when we were doing it and it was my first time having sex!! Still, I couldn’t say anything to him since I had no experience and didn’t want to hurt his feelings so I just laid there waiting for him to finish. I’m the same age as you but I didn’t have the courage to stop the act midway. I admire you a lot Kelsey!!
Kelsey, I’m not a young woman, just turned 30, but I only had one partner before. I was with my ex-husband for 10 years including dating years. So these kinds of conversation are so interesting to me as someone who has to jump back into the dating pool as an adult. As embarrassing as it was, thanks for sharing your experience.
As a man who has been married 15 years, I would recommend to NOT follow her advice (unless you want to sabotage all relationships with men). She is very sincere, but gives her insight from a 100% young female perspective. The only females I would accept advice from regarding men are from women over 50 and still married. Not allowing a guy to finish is incredibly insulting to a man (you can find a way to make it happen). You are basically telling him to cheat on you (and he will). I always find it interesting how women judge men based on things they can't control (height, penis size, etc), but men judge women on things they can control (body count, obesity, attitude). Just imagine a counter-response video from man who was with her and complained about how wide her vagina was from all her past experience. "Neither one of us could climax.. even though I'm well endowed, it was like flying a 747 through the Grand Canyon. I just decided to stop and give up. She was real cool about it though". I don't think that would go over too well, right?
@@sonofsarek your comment is a roller coaster of nope. The point of the video is about doing this from a woman's perspective. But whatever, thanks for sharing your story I guess? 😂
I think the problem is that he wasn't hard enough to be pleasurable for you rather than it being a size issue. I'm glad you were with a guy who was understanding and willing to listen to you and your needs. You both have a great deal of sexual maturity and willingness to communicate. 👏🏾
Iam a man subscribed to this channel for maybe a year and a half, and i like kelsey doing videos like this cause i always learn something interesting or new about sexual education that i had to look up to learn it, especially on the what to do and not do. Learned from both women AND men mostly from youtube that werent afraid to talk about this and help teach the "uneducated" like me who want to know more so they can be confident in both themselves and what to properly do when with a partner P.S iam a year younger than Kelsey so that should say not only how much respect i have for her but also admiration in being comfortable to talk about sex-stuff along with other youtubers who do the same for teaching me SO SO much about how little i know
Hi, do u happen to know of channels that openly give advice to women about sex? Cuz like you, i would like to learn also from both MEN and women. I'd appreciate it, thanks
As a guy I've heard of these situations from my friends (women and men) penises for women and vaginas for men and the respect or lack thereof towards each other. Not a simple situation but I have to agree that your conduct was exemplary. And refusing to continue is such a taboo for both. Many men go through life demoralized by women and same goes with women by men. We just need to have that openness in communication to ease the tension and prevent any and all shaming (which you did flawlessly, congrats). Society as a whole must stop peer pressure of any kind; they must be instilled at a young age to stop certain behavior or activities as these groups do influence others. My best example is when guys used to say (growing up in my teenage years):" When a girl says no after she says yes, it still means yes".
I really appreciate you being so open Kelsey. As someone who grew up in a conservative family I find your videos so helpful. Thank you so much for making this
This is actually so important. I’m so glad you made this video. I hate how we women are raised to take all the shame. According to societal standards, we can’t let men feel bad because it’s rude and unladylike etc. but why is it ok for _us_ to feel bad instead? I’ve covered for many guys when others ask, saying “oh yeah, it was great!” because I don’t want them to feel bad. It’s not fair at all, and I wish more people would realize that society IS STILL SEXIST.
It's a good video. There is nothing better than a woman being honest in an uncomfortable situation. Everyone has a fear of being rejected. It feels a lot worse when you realize you were lied to about the reason. I've never been rejected for this topic but I have been rejected before.
Thanks for talk about this topic Kelsey. It's so important for women to understand that we have the rights to enjoy sex and spoke out for our needs, and that doesn't make us mean or bitches. Love you, take care
No I don't think y'all understand how much I love Kelsey and her ability to talk about these topics AND share her own experiences on the internet, especially since SK is not as liberal as the west with these things 😬 Moreso for this specific video cus nobody ever wants to broach this specific issue, ANYWHERE. I have so much respect!!
I don't now about SK But interesting in Sweden and West we learn that Nord Korean have the smallest dic It's not troth that Western are open in this subject And Howe we nov about NK dic There are the worlds oldest repetetion Sex worker and the oldest lie
I'm trying to get the health care affority to make sense in this I want them to ask man like me about how or my experience about video like this And sex experts answer to this question Because I don't think my small Dick brother like all leir layers I think the most with small dick like me This video make my life isier
Fantastic video, I'd just like to add a tip for anyone reading - it's not uncommon for men to become physically and/or emotionally violent after being rejected, so bear this in mind and lie if you have to avoid damaging his ego. Of course it's not ideal to lie but do it if you feel you need to - your safety comes first. And for any men reading, just know that a small size is not an issue for some women. Don't let it get you down, you can still do a great job - size isn't everything!
Good advice. Many men dont take rejection well so women still have to be wise about their partners mental state. So just figure how to extact yourself and leave without engaging them
I love your honesty Kelsey, it’s so refreshing 😂👏 Also, I totally agree about girls being too nice; as the ones being penetrated(lmao) it’s messed up for us to be expected to prioritise the guys pleasure if we’re not enjoying it. We’re the ones risking pregnancy ffs 🤦🏻♀️
@@d4e_gaming838 Well then that's very concerning. I hope you heal whatever it is that's rooted your way of thinking before it's too late. Like I promise you nothing good comes out of being this cynical and combative towards women for simply sharing experiences and living.
@@luvrwrld5396 now that I’m in college I see sex dolls like this all the time and trust me they shouldn’t be viewed as individuals until they’re done sleeping around. I swear on my life if a girl did this to me I’d hold her down and finish specially if she’s in her hoe faze, why should I feel bad about it if she’s just gonna sleep with another dude who is better after she’s done with me?
As someone who has never had sex before, I'm taking notes. Sex is not always about pleasure; it's also about making sure the other person feels good too.
As a man i just can gove a thumbs up for this video. I k ow that there are some guys who just see sex as a means to get trophies and don't care about the woman. I also know of several men who upon getting undressed called it off in a really hurtful manner shaming the girls body. But i believe that most will be glad afterwards if you tell them right awax if you're not into it no matter the reason because they will get a really bad conscience if they let you literally suffer through it. I don't want to know how many of my past girlfriends in the beginning of my sexual activity didn't say anything because they were nice to me. Now i have the luxury of having a girlfriend who told me right of the bat when there were things she didn't enjoy. We as men have to learn and every woman feels sex different. I guess such a video is imoprtant for both sides so this should be seen from men as well.
Girrrl I did this a couple of times! If I'm not getting satisfied I'm out! Whether it's sex or oral (especially oral) I try to direct them to what I like but I guess their so into it they weren't listening! So I got up & said "I'm out! Gotta go!".....also u said "he let me go" as if u were a prisoner. I really hope u didn't feel like u were! This is how men make some woman feel & it is so unacceptable!! Especially in the SK where woman aren't suppose to speak up!! Kudos on u! I think & hope u made him realize not all woman are doormats!!
Thank you for sharing such an intimate and important experience Kelsey! While I've gone through something similar a couple times, I'd always be afraid of how the guy would react, fortunately for me it there were no issues. Also, I loved the way you two approached sex talk before and after. Definitely took some pointers from this. 💕
It sounds like it was problematic also that it was a little floppy too but i guess the title would get too long. Of course this title is classically smart/strategic/ great in terms of getting views, not saying that's where you're necessarily coming from; but it actually the issue is actually very real and applicable to any time a woman changes her mind which can be for a lot of reasons. A very serious, deep issue around an area where a woman can feel/ be very vulnerable bc the result can have so many different endings all dependent on the maturity/evolution/ morality/strength of the guy
It’s so hard to find someone you mentally click with that I would have given him 3 or 4 more changes, on different occasions. That said I wouldn’t continue for too long if I feel like we aren’t compatible in that way. Glad you’re safe and that it wasn’t too horrible
We truly haven't progressed much as a society if what goes through a woman's mind just sharing her opinion of wanting to leave and being dissatisfied with sex (sth that does happen and it is normal) is her being murdered or harmed in some way.
I'm really happy you are talking about sexually related topic, because most people don't and we all end up clueless about what to do in these situations.
I feel like you should never have to be convinced to have sex. Even if its good arguments that make you curious or whatever, I feel like any sexual interaction that begins with one party having to be verbally convinced, never goes too well..
I don't think he's really emotionally intelligent since you said you don't want to have sex and he still tried to convince you. Like really he should take no as a no. And you've waited for like whole 10 minutes while not having any fun... Doesn't feel like an ideal situation at all
More people NEED to be honest with their partners in general. If YOU don't like it, how will they know if YOU don't tell them? I never did get people expecting others to read their minds. If you aren't mature enough to have the conversation, then maybe you shouldn't be having sex.
@Aero Man sure, baby. leave anybody who has kids, ages and does not maintain a teenager's body for you into their 40s. take my advice, leave them before having kids, you shouldn't really procreate. ps: i bet you're at least at brad pitt level, right? :)
@Aero Man size isn't everything. he was not hard enough but was hoping that he could fake it till he made it... the sex was not pleasant. i imagine for neither one, beyond what he was saying. the title is click baity, but the issue still stands: a woman/girl should not accept continuing intercourse if it's unpleasant, only to protect the man's ego. we have done that for thousands of years. things can get worked out if you are in a couple, but this is not the case. she did well. they did well. and she does well raising this topic. the title, once again, is unfortunate and not descriptive of the actual content. i see it's a sensitive topic for you, but trust me, there is life for penises of all sizes and shapes out there ;)
My recommendation would be to break off early, because it's much nicer to think you may have missed out than knowing you had a bad experience - and that goes for both sides.
Idk, I don't like when guys don't take the initial "no" as an answer... Not saying he violated you, but it's part of the mentality that leads to non-consent. You should never try to convince someone imo. Even if you changed your mind, it was still coerced? I hope this isn't offensive to you, Kelsey! Not your fault regardless. x
I agree. I've had the experience where even though I said no he kept trying to convince me. They should take no as the final answer and move on, that's proper consent because you're not trying to change someone's mind.
This! Coercion is a huge problem when it comes to the topic of consent. It's mainly just brushed over a lot of the time. Especially if the person eventually does say yes.
Thank you for speaking up on the topic to break the universal culture norm of women having to satisfy their partner first or that their own pleasure isn't a factor in the sexual experience.
This is such an important video Kelsey!! I recently had a similar experience where I also broke it off midway, thankfully the guy was also understanding about it, but I remember leaving with a feeling of relief but also guilt for some reason? I guess we all have a lot of unlearning to do regarding nice girl syndrome, but at the end of the day, isn't it also nicest when both parties fully and wholeheartedly want and enjoy the sex? Isn't that the goal of sex in the first place?! So makes a lot of sense, thank you for sharing your story :)
I never had a nice feedback from guys when i said no to sx. I was forced 2 times by my korean ex actually, one when sleeping and other mid sex when I wanted to stop and he just wouldnt stop. And the others had an angry reaction but I managed to slip from the situation... anyway I assume that your sense of chosing men is more accurate.. I suck at choosing men.
I'm sorry you were assaulted by someone who should have had your best interests at heart. I hope you're recovering from something so traumatic (cause it was basically r*pe once you said no and he continued anyway) :( Finding good people in general is a hard time but I'm wishing you luck in discerning who will be good to you in the future. You didn't deserve anything that happened to you.
This is so bold to discuss and I love you for it. From the stories I heard, usually girls just don't say anything because there's this sort of performance pressure being constant and talking about it would risk crushing the other person's ego (usually guys) for not "being good at it".
me personally I don’t see why you can’t let the guy enjoy himself cause after all it is really hard for a man to even get to the point of having sex a women can get it whenever guys can’t, so I mean kinda selfish on the women part
@@d4e_gaming838 She's not a sex doll, she is a human. "Can't see why you can't let the guy just enjoy himself".? Because it wasn't feeling right for her, there are TWO individuals involved, not one. Otherwise its not mutual. I hope this statement came from an inexperienced point of view, not a callous view of women.
@@kathleensouthern9997 now that I’m in college I see sex dolls like this all the time and trust me they shouldn’t be viewed as individuals until they’re done sleeping around. I swear on my life if a girl did this to me I’d hold her down and finish specially if she’s in her hoe faze, why should I feel bad about it if she’s just gonna sleep with another dude who is better after she’s done with me?
Most guys « ego » (typical statement from females who don’t even get approached by dudes) are an oxymoron they would like it more if you told them what you wanted or how you felt
Respect to you for approaching for approaching that situation in a kind and mature way and respect to him for respecting your choice and taking that big confidence cut with maturity. This situation is a testament to both of your guys emotional intelligence.
Yo, my message got deleted , I wrote a whole paragraph about how she was body shaming. I was speaking truth and facts and she couldn’t handle the truth. I guess she didn’t want to be embarrassed. I wish people could see what I wrote.
Has anyone noticed she changed her video title haha I guess she was getting a lot of hate but at the end of the day trashy women will always be trashy. No class whatsoever
I love the video and that you're talking about this! So important. However the title of the video is really uncomfortable... Let's not bodyshame people! :)
Thank you for talking about things like this so honestly!! Women and girls need to know that they don't need to stay in any sexual scenario that they don't want to be in, they don't need to try to spare their partner's feelings.
me personally I don’t see why you can’t let the guy enjoy himself cause after all it is really hard for a man to even get to the point of having sex a women can get it whenever guys can’t, so I mean kinda selfish on the women part.
@@d4e_gaming838 "a woman can get it whenever" is such ignorant thinking. Men aren't entitled to an orgasm no matter how "hard" it is for them to find a sexual partner, why should she have to just lie there if she isn't enjoying herself? A man has the same right, he can end things whenever he wants if he isn't enjoying some aspect of it. Why should only women suffer sex that they don't want to have anymore? If a man consented to having sex with a woman with her penetrating him with a strap-on, but decided in the middle of it that he wasn't enjoying it, should he have to just let the woman enjoy herself even though he isn't enjoying himself? Of course not. No one should feel the need to stay in a sexual situation that isn't enjoyable to them, no matter what the reason.
Hey it's just facts nothing more to it ,No one has an obligation to anyone women or Men . Be mindful & Respectful of the other that's all one can do . Really Appreciate your courage to speak about your experience ✌🏾.
Based on your history it can be presumed that alcohol was involved in the situation. Perhaps it is not that your friend had it small but because of the alcohol it was not 100% functional. You should not judge a person for your first sexual experience with him/her. On the other hand, I agree that if you don't feel comfortable in a situation, the best thing to do is leave.
@@bleach2618 what's with the name calling? OP seemed to be giving a reason for the way things transpired. Kelsey said during the story that they were both drinking both outside and when they got to the guy's home. Alcohol usually causes ED in men, so it might well have been a factor.
And this poor guy was probably sweating away and thinking to himself, "My god, this girl is loose, it's like dipping it in a bucket of warm water!" lol.
I stopped mid-sex. He's fit & handsome also nothing wrong with his peen.. We did everything and I didn't enjoy it. I excused my self and left. He was shocked but didn't stop me walking away. I just said sorry this isn't working out for me. He's a rebound and unfortunately I just not feeling it.
Why do you think the guy didn't understand? If the member isn't hard, happens a lot to people at 40+, rather than 28, then it will not work. He knew fully well it is not working more than you. All that can be done on the day is to give up and try later, if possible. There is nothing the woman can do, she has the same thing. Wetness can be made up with lubrication. Condoms are lubricated anyway. Women sometimes feel they aren't hot enough if the man loses his firmness, but it is not the case. It can be the case, if the woman smells really bad.
Wow Kelsey, Impressive work! and yes, very much needed. _I hope you are feeling good these days_ I could not face this behaviour of mine. It was always the guy's fault for not reading my mind ^^ I guess I have been enduring uncomfortable family or work situations, so sex is just another variation of my passivity/complicity in another area of my life? Be assured that I am seeing a psychologist now ^^ I have never worked on my partnerships and sex. I really have an attention problem! LOL Relationships are work, achieving good sex with a partner is work. I was ready to have fun, I was not ready to work. I guess, for me, sex was going to be great with the "right" person? No idea... I have slept with lots of guys and felt little, it was an internal massage of sorts. I also think I was ignorant : I did not know that the clitoris also had to be erected, I do not ask for what makes me aroused. Plus, I have been shamed by my mom and by selfish guys for having a clitoris or something? I still cannot "talk about sex" (I loved the Salt'n Pepa track as a teen! go figure) I did not masturbate or have orgasms ever until I was 32... (in my sleep, my body finished the job?!). It is also work for me to satisfy myself sexually and I usually pass (hydromassaging my clitoris is efficient though ^^). For the time being, I am not engaging in sex (not going out at night and not drinking helps) and I am learning about sex: so many great ressources are available! Thank you Kelsey!
Your honesty is truly refreshing. I prefer the honest truth to a comforting lie. If there's a problem, I'd like to know rather than have people lie to me to protect my ego.
Being selfish in bed, (he should have realized you weren't aroused) has nothing to do with penis size. And quite frankly, how many times has a man/husband not satisfied the women/wife and gets up and leaves afterwards because he is done (I suspect this is a major cause of divorce. I call these men throw backs). Speak your peace with a man from the get go. If you settle for less in the beginning you will always get less than you need, want or deserve. If more women would put an end to this bullshit and hold men to a higher standard this entitled attitude that some men have would end. Also, rule number one, do not have sex with someone you don't know. Sounds like the guy talked a good game without knowing how to play it. After more dates, his true abilities or lack there of, would have become obvious.
I'm sorry to say that but in many cases absence of pleasure in women is partially caused by junk food diet, sedentary lifestyle and inproper contraceptive pills. And male erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation is partially related to glucose intolerance also related to bad diet, sedentary behavior and excessive smoking. Good luck to everyone. Eat healthy, work our regularly and enjoy your private life. Girls, eating enough protein and not skipping the leg day at the gym can really help.
Yo! This chica seems like a pro, man. Like.. she knows what she wants. I hope that person doesn't feel like he's being attacked or being ridiculed at. He handled the situation well. I appreciate that. This is an informative video.. (Yeah AK.. that is why she put it up. DUH! ^^)
I have to agree with you that it was more hurtful to the guy for the girl to just ‘hold it in’ and let him finish despite feeling uncomfortable/pained/unenjoyable. If he cares, the guilt he’s going to carry for hurting you is going to be heavier than any ego-slight for the experience ending early.
@@galacticguardian2783 what disrespectful? wanting to be able to make choices for her body? tell the same thing if your mom was forced to let a guy continue and then well see
For the guys, I mean what can you do? you was born the way you was born, just live your life, have fun and cherish the memories you make with others. I know you guys will get hurt by this video but try to take it and maybe learn how to handle a situation like this in the future to avoid doing something you’ll regret down the line.
Small size is NOT usually an issue with most partners as more than likely , the guy usually has great techniques that arouses both. So its inportant for small sized men TO LEARN how to please a partner instead of going around with low self esteem each time the size discussion is had.
@@rosean374 technique can only get you so far with women if you’re a small sized male. Not even saying this to be mean, it’s just that most ( some will ) won’t settle for just technique. That’s what most of my friends say, and I would say there’re pretty confident, only reason they get a lot of it. I Don’t expect everyone to be like that though 😅
@@rosean374 lol it’s gonna get there especially with the new brainwashed generation, pretty sure there will be very few marriages or few successful marriages in the world. And forget about men experiencing sex, these women standards are in the few percentage, few years ago it was not this bad. Next generation is gonna be filled with brainless bitches and lonely men.
THANK YOU FOR TALKING ABOUT THIS I REALLY APPRECIATE YOU AS AN HONEST PERSON DISCUSSING YOUR EXPIERIENCE AND TELLING US ALL YOUR STORIES. THANK YOU 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯 PLEASE CONTINUE
OMG this isn’t something that I ever actually thought about 😳🤷♂️ And I guess I would be concerned for my/any girl’s safety in these circumstances. Provided you are safe, I think you are right, and it’s a good thing to be honest (but still kind) - it’s never a good idea to be doing things with a person that you can’t actually talk to about the things you are doing…However, if you are having sex wi5 a guy and it is painful, you have to stop it and explain - that’s that. But if you just aren’t feeling it or enjoying it, please be sure (especially if it’s a man you don’t know well) that he isn’t the type to force you or hit you if you are honest and tell him you aren’t enjoying sex. I fully agree, we aren’t here to pander to mens egos. But some men are unpredictable, and if you are having sex, you are probably somewhere very private - so please be careful and guard your safety. I know you don’t hate men, and I agree with you that we should absolutely be able to do what you did. I am just concerned that not everyone can judge character the way you did (and even you were worried for a minute that he might punch you), and I just don’t want any woman to find herself in a dangerous situation 💜🙏 Love you Kelsey 🤗🥰
So much love for this! 💯 More women really need to realise this n ofcourse it's not a negative thing. I appreciate the emotionally mature attitude of the guy too, so refreshing. I believe this is a good example of how we can all learn to be more respectful to ourselves n each other! Thanks for sharing💛
me personally I don’t see why you can’t let the guy enjoy himself cause after all it is really hard for a man to even get to the point of having sex a women can get it whenever guys can’t, so I mean kinda selfish on the women part
can you also share your experiences and advices for first sex?! I'm so nervous about this topic like i know it will happen someday and I just don't know what to do. even thinking about it make me anxious. (also love your UA-cam) ❤️
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A very important topic addressed in a very tasteful way...
Well done.
Side note - I do think men should let women know what size they are, so that most women could avoid this problem.
From my experience it's very important for a woman to feel full and stretched.
Am embarrassed 😳 but not embarrassed at the same time hearing you telling this story. 😅
I would like to hear more of your stories 😅🤣
Please do not advocate to leave a man hanging once he has penwtrates you. I highly rwcommend you let him finish and do what it takes to make him release instead of stoping him midsex? Some men can get very violent towards a woman. So...
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You know what, Kelsey you got some balls. It takes a lot to talk about something like this even in a very open country like America. I hope this video goes out so someone who needs to see it. You’re also saying it on the internet to an infinite amount of people risking your face for the sake of educating others. That’s admirable.
Incredibly admirable, Kelsey you are very great person
Yeah that's true
Kelsey is talking about and addressing life issues that our parents. and schools dont teach us. Bravo!
It doesn't take "balls" to body shame people on the internet behind the safety of a computer screen.
@@thebluetrain6797 the whole point of the video is that kelsey speaks about her own experience and then gives advice on how to get out of an uncomfortable situation. she didn't even mention his name just spoke about her own story
I'm glad you're safe and he was emotionally intelligent enough to understand that you weren't enjoying yourself.
Yes it was the most mature ideal result i feel!
your transparency talking about taboo topics is very refreshing! we need more female empowering content like yours. please continue making such videos.
I would love it if you made a video on developing self confidence as well. much love x
Whats taboo nothing is taboo,however im pretty sure this poor guy know its him.
it might be traumatizing for a man when the woman leaves in the middle, but it's definitely traumatizing to be forcing yourself to participate in a sexual act when you no longer want to
There is a way to go about it. Instead of telling the guy he sucks and his dick is so small etc. You can stay with yourself, say, I am not feeling it, I am not in the mood anymore or I changed my mind, sorry.
You don't have to make it traumatising.
how is it traumatizing for the women???? guys kill themselves over this shit, guys rape women over this shit, guys kill multiple women overt this shit. let me guess though the women saying "his dick was not big enough I was so disappointed wish i walked out sooner" is traumatizing right?????!!!! it's so easy for women to get some and yet they complain so fucking much about nothing, where as for an Average man ( not models ) they have to go through hours of hard work blood sweat and tears ( litereally ) just to get some, and even then it's not a guarantee cause then you have to worry about your 🍆SIZE 😂 save the traumatizing act for some other feminist bull shit
Omg I love you 😂❤❤ also as a 29 year old woman, this is such an important video. We have been conditioned to just accept whatever situation and not stand up for ourselves so thank you for making this video
Yes i thought so too!!
Share this video to ur girlfriends who needs to hear the message of the video! 👏🏻👏🏻
Thank you for spreading awareness about the "nice girl syndrome". And it can transcend to every interaction not just duting sex. For example i have always been nice to people bc they were nice as well. But one time i was just like a normal day nice to a guy and then he thought i was flirting with him and he started doing ans saying stuff that i was not liking at all. And EVEN IN THAT MOMENT the first thing that went through my mind was just be nice but no i was wrong. I had to basically escape him and yeah ihave learned that a person or a female can choose when and where will she be nice and that not being nice doesnt mean a girl is a bitch or anything(which one guy told me after the accident).
Ok!!! Got much to learn !!!!!damnnn. No one talks about this topics we need to be more open enough to discuss all this underated topics.
Yes i feel like young women need to hear this story❤️
I think what people don't realize is that alcohol consumption actually prevents guys from getting hard.... So guys, if you wanna have meaningful sex, don't drink!
Facts👏🏼😁!!! Sober4sex🤣!!! Not sure if that's already a hashtag🤷🏻♀?
I agree. Also in this case it sounds like he just wasn't that turned on by her.
THIS is true equality! You’re doing really good and important work by sharing this message Kelsey. Good on the guy for being a mature human being as well ✌️
You are fortunate that he allowed you to leave before he finished, a lot of guys wouldn't have. By the sound of it, he probably wasn't that into it either.
You’re totally right about the “good girl syndrome” I had the worst sex experience with a guy who only thought about his own pleasure and on top of that had such a small “friend” for real, I didn’t even feel it when we were doing it and it was my first time having sex!! Still, I couldn’t say anything to him since I had no experience and didn’t want to hurt his feelings so I just laid there waiting for him to finish.
I’m the same age as you but I didn’t have the courage to stop the act midway. I admire you a lot Kelsey!!
@@rbmma1883 incel
Kelsey, I’m not a young woman, just turned 30, but I only had one partner before. I was with my ex-husband for 10 years including dating years. So these kinds of conversation are so interesting to me as someone who has to jump back into the dating pool as an adult. As embarrassing as it was, thanks for sharing your experience.
30 is very young
You're as young as any 20 something woman 💯
Woman, you're young!!!!
As a man who has been married 15 years, I would recommend to NOT follow her advice (unless you want to sabotage all relationships with men). She is very sincere, but gives her insight from a 100% young female perspective. The only females I would accept advice from regarding men are from women over 50 and still married. Not allowing a guy to finish is incredibly insulting to a man (you can find a way to make it happen). You are basically telling him to cheat on you (and he will). I always find it interesting how women judge men based on things they can't control (height, penis size, etc), but men judge women on things they can control (body count, obesity, attitude). Just imagine a counter-response video from man who was with her and complained about how wide her vagina was from all her past experience. "Neither one of us could climax.. even though I'm well endowed, it was like flying a 747 through the Grand Canyon. I just decided to stop and give up. She was real cool about it though". I don't think that would go over too well, right?
@@sonofsarek your comment is a roller coaster of nope. The point of the video is about doing this from a woman's perspective. But whatever, thanks for sharing your story I guess? 😂
I think the problem is that he wasn't hard enough to be pleasurable for you rather than it being a size issue. I'm glad you were with a guy who was understanding and willing to listen to you and your needs. You both have a great deal of sexual maturity and willingness to communicate. 👏🏾
Iam a man subscribed to this channel for maybe a year and a half, and i like kelsey doing videos like this cause i always learn something interesting or new about sexual education that i had to look up to learn it, especially on the what to do and not do. Learned from both women AND men mostly from youtube that werent afraid to talk about this and help teach the "uneducated" like me who want to know more so they can be confident in both themselves and what to properly do when with a partner
P.S iam a year younger than Kelsey so that should say not only how much respect i have for her but also admiration in being comfortable to talk about sex-stuff along with other youtubers who do the same for teaching me SO SO much about how little i know
Hi, do u happen to know of channels that openly give advice to women about sex? Cuz like you, i would like to learn also from both MEN and women. I'd appreciate it, thanks
As a guy I've heard of these situations from my friends (women and men) penises for women and vaginas for men and the respect or lack thereof towards each other. Not a simple situation but I have to agree that your conduct was exemplary. And refusing to continue is such a taboo for both. Many men go through life demoralized by women and same goes with women by men. We just need to have that openness in communication to ease the tension and prevent any and all shaming (which you did flawlessly, congrats).
Society as a whole must stop peer pressure of any kind; they must be instilled at a young age to stop certain behavior or activities as these groups do influence others. My best example is when guys used to say (growing up in my teenage years):" When a girl says no after she says yes, it still means yes".
I really appreciate you being so open Kelsey. As someone who grew up in a conservative family I find your videos so helpful. Thank you so much for making this
This is actually so important. I’m so glad you made this video. I hate how we women are raised to take all the shame. According to societal standards, we can’t let men feel bad because it’s rude and unladylike etc. but why is it ok for _us_ to feel bad instead? I’ve covered for many guys when others ask, saying “oh yeah, it was great!” because I don’t want them to feel bad. It’s not fair at all, and I wish more people would realize that society IS STILL SEXIST.
What if the guy isn’t enjoying it and wants to stop? I feel like girls would get so pissed 😭
It's a good video. There is nothing better than a woman being honest in an uncomfortable situation. Everyone has a fear of being rejected. It feels a lot worse when you realize you were lied to about the reason. I've never been rejected for this topic but I have been rejected before.
_"It feels a lot worse when you realize you were lied to about the reason."_
This.
Thanks for talk about this topic Kelsey. It's so important for women to understand that we have the rights to enjoy sex and spoke out for our needs, and that doesn't make us mean or bitches. Love you, take care
What's your Instagram?
No I don't think y'all understand how much I love Kelsey and her ability to talk about these topics AND share her own experiences on the internet, especially since SK is not as liberal as the west with these things 😬 Moreso for this specific video cus nobody ever wants to broach this specific issue, ANYWHERE. I have so much respect!!
I don't now about SK
But interesting in Sweden and West we learn that Nord Korean have the smallest dic
It's not troth that Western are open in this subject
And Howe we nov about NK dic
There are the worlds oldest repetetion
Sex worker and the oldest lie
I'm trying to get the health care affority to make sense in this
I want them to ask man like me about how or my experience about video like this
And sex experts answer to this question
Because I don't think my small Dick brother like all leir layers
I think the most with small dick like me
This video make my life isier
I'm literally ace and romantically into girls, but a candid and open discussion of consent is always good! And it all conceptually still applies.
Fantastic video, I'd just like to add a tip for anyone reading - it's not uncommon for men to become physically and/or emotionally violent after being rejected, so bear this in mind and lie if you have to avoid damaging his ego. Of course it's not ideal to lie but do it if you feel you need to - your safety comes first.
And for any men reading, just know that a small size is not an issue for some women. Don't let it get you down, you can still do a great job - size isn't everything!
Good advice. Many men dont take rejection well so women still have to be wise about their partners mental state. So just figure how to extact yourself and leave without engaging them
It’s an issue, and where are your fuck stats on men will get violent if you reject them
I love your honesty Kelsey, it’s so refreshing 😂👏
Also, I totally agree about girls being too nice; as the ones being penetrated(lmao) it’s messed up for us to be expected to prioritise the guys pleasure if we’re not enjoying it. We’re the ones risking pregnancy ffs 🤦🏻♀️
Take this down, this should be private. Your young right now you're going to regret how you put yourself out there and your reputation.
same person who talks about body shaming right????
Are you a child?
@@luvrwrld5396 I’m 21 in college so no I’m not a child, when I made this account I was a child.
@@d4e_gaming838 Well then that's very concerning. I hope you heal whatever it is that's rooted your way of thinking before it's too late. Like I promise you nothing good comes out of being this cynical and combative towards women for simply sharing experiences and living.
@@luvrwrld5396 now that I’m in college I see sex dolls like this all the time and trust me they shouldn’t be viewed as individuals until they’re done sleeping around. I swear on my life if a girl did this to me I’d hold her down and finish specially if she’s in her hoe faze, why should I feel bad about it if she’s just gonna sleep with another dude who is better after she’s done with me?
@@luvrwrld5396you’ve literally said nothing
As someone who has never had sex before, I'm taking notes. Sex is not always about pleasure; it's also about making sure the other person feels good too.
As a man i just can gove a thumbs up for this video. I k ow that there are some guys who just see sex as a means to get trophies and don't care about the woman. I also know of several men who upon getting undressed called it off in a really hurtful manner shaming the girls body. But i believe that most will be glad afterwards if you tell them right awax if you're not into it no matter the reason because they will get a really bad conscience if they let you literally suffer through it. I don't want to know how many of my past girlfriends in the beginning of my sexual activity didn't say anything because they were nice to me. Now i have the luxury of having a girlfriend who told me right of the bat when there were things she didn't enjoy. We as men have to learn and every woman feels sex different. I guess such a video is imoprtant for both sides so this should be seen from men as well.
This was classic. He was mature. I left mid sex one time and got hurt 😢
Girrrl I did this a couple of times! If I'm not getting satisfied I'm out! Whether it's sex or oral (especially oral) I try to direct them to what I like but I guess their so into it they weren't listening! So I got up & said "I'm out! Gotta go!".....also u said "he let me go" as if u were a prisoner. I really hope u didn't feel like u were!
This is how men make some woman feel & it is so unacceptable!! Especially in the SK where woman aren't suppose to speak up!! Kudos on u! I think & hope u made him realize not all woman are doormats!!
Kelsey was very very lucky that he was a nice guy. A lot of men would have just held her down and finished anyway.
he doens't care if you are not liking it. he got it, you gave it up. Of course he was "understanding"
Thank you for sharing such an intimate and important experience Kelsey! While I've gone through something similar a couple times, I'd always be afraid of how the guy would react, fortunately for me it there were no issues.
Also, I loved the way you two approached sex talk before and after. Definitely took some pointers from this. 💕
Very mature and honest, great topic,
Thank you from Brooklyn, New York
You should absolutely feel either a man or woman can stop in the middle. But you need to communicate cause it can be devastating.
You should refund the money.😂
It sounds like it was problematic also that it was a little floppy too but i guess the title would get too long. Of course this title is classically smart/strategic/ great in terms of getting views, not saying that's where you're necessarily coming from; but it actually the issue is actually very real and applicable to any time a woman changes her mind which can be for a lot of reasons. A very serious, deep issue around an area where a woman can feel/ be very vulnerable bc the result can have so many different endings all dependent on the maturity/evolution/ morality/strength of the guy
It’s so hard to find someone you mentally click with that I would have given him 3 or 4 more changes, on different occasions. That said I wouldn’t continue for too long if I feel like we aren’t compatible in that way. Glad you’re safe and that it wasn’t too horrible
He had to have known something was off.
We truly haven't progressed much as a society if what goes through a woman's mind just sharing her opinion of wanting to leave and being dissatisfied with sex (sth that does happen and it is normal) is her being murdered or harmed in some way.
You are such a legend for sharing this. You were kind and did what needed to be done. He sounds like a cool guy.
I'm really happy you are talking about sexually related topic, because most people don't and we all end up clueless about what to do in these situations.
Thank you for this💞
as a teenager this is really helpful for the future 😄💞
I feel like you should never have to be convinced to have sex. Even if its good arguments that make you curious or whatever, I feel like any sexual interaction that begins with one party having to be verbally convinced, never goes too well..
I don't think he's really emotionally intelligent since you said you don't want to have sex and he still tried to convince you. Like really he should take no as a no. And you've waited for like whole 10 minutes while not having any fun... Doesn't feel like an ideal situation at all
Exactly
I find it hard to be direct or honest on the first meeting so I have a back call me for an emergency 😅
if a girl do this and im swinging full force i dont care
More people NEED to be honest with their partners in general. If YOU don't like it, how will they know if YOU don't tell them? I never did get people expecting others to read their minds. If you aren't mature enough to have the conversation, then maybe you shouldn't be having sex.
@Aero Man sure, baby. leave anybody who has kids, ages and does not maintain a teenager's body for you into their 40s. take my advice, leave them before having kids, you shouldn't really procreate. ps: i bet you're at least at brad pitt level, right? :)
@Aero Man you can leave someone for any reason but at some point you might not be able to find anyone who meets your standards and wants you too
@Aero Man it sounds like you haven't watched the video
@Aero Man she is clearly body shaming him IN THE TITLE, not in the video. stop wasting my time pls
@Aero Man size isn't everything. he was not hard enough but was hoping that he could fake it till he made it... the sex was not pleasant. i imagine for neither one, beyond what he was saying. the title is click baity, but the issue still stands: a woman/girl should not accept continuing intercourse if it's unpleasant, only to protect the man's ego. we have done that for thousands of years. things can get worked out if you are in a couple, but this is not the case. she did well. they did well. and she does well raising this topic. the title, once again, is unfortunate and not descriptive of the actual content. i see it's a sensitive topic for you, but trust me, there is life for penises of all sizes and shapes out there ;)
My recommendation would be to break off early, because it's much nicer to think you may have missed out than knowing you had a bad experience - and that goes for both sides.
Me being an asexual+virgin watching this video because I like you!!! 💜
Idk, I don't like when guys don't take the initial "no" as an answer... Not saying he violated you, but it's part of the mentality that leads to non-consent. You should never try to convince someone imo. Even if you changed your mind, it was still coerced? I hope this isn't offensive to you, Kelsey! Not your fault regardless. x
I agree. I've had the experience where even though I said no he kept trying to convince me. They should take no as the final answer and move on, that's proper consent because you're not trying to change someone's mind.
This! Coercion is a huge problem when it comes to the topic of consent. It's mainly just brushed over a lot of the time. Especially if the person eventually does say yes.
Kelly being our teacher
Spelling error : kelsey 👩🏻🏫(stern teacher face)
I was not ready for that intro
Thank you for speaking up on the topic to break the universal culture norm of women having to satisfy their partner first or that their own pleasure isn't a factor in the sexual experience.
This is such an important video Kelsey!! I recently had a similar experience where I also broke it off midway, thankfully the guy was also understanding about it, but I remember leaving with a feeling of relief but also guilt for some reason? I guess we all have a lot of unlearning to do regarding nice girl syndrome, but at the end of the day, isn't it also nicest when both parties fully and wholeheartedly want and enjoy the sex? Isn't that the goal of sex in the first place?! So makes a lot of sense, thank you for sharing your story :)
I never had a nice feedback from guys when i said no to sx. I was forced 2 times by my korean ex actually, one when sleeping and other mid sex when I wanted to stop and he just wouldnt stop. And the others had an angry reaction but I managed to slip from the situation... anyway I assume that your sense of chosing men is more accurate.. I suck at choosing men.
I'm sorry you were assaulted by someone who should have had your best interests at heart. I hope you're recovering from something so traumatic (cause it was basically r*pe once you said no and he continued anyway) :( Finding good people in general is a hard time but I'm wishing you luck in discerning who will be good to you in the future. You didn't deserve anything that happened to you.
Sometimes it can be a little easier just to let him finish.
@@odettedellage8021 but that shouldnt be the case....!!!!!!
@@odettedellage8021 stop with the rape apologia
@@odettedellage8021*Typical Incel Virgin Response Experience From A Male. Never expect any less from a "MALE." ALWAYS THE SAME SPECIES.*
This is so bold to discuss and I love you for it. From the stories I heard, usually girls just don't say anything because there's this sort of performance pressure being constant and talking about it would risk crushing the other person's ego (usually guys) for not "being good at it".
me personally I don’t see why you can’t let the guy enjoy himself cause after all it is really hard for a man to even get to the point of having sex a women can get it whenever guys can’t, so I mean kinda selfish on the women part
@@d4e_gaming838 She's not a sex doll, she is a human. "Can't see why you can't let the guy just enjoy himself".? Because it wasn't feeling right for her, there are TWO individuals involved, not one. Otherwise its not mutual. I hope this statement came from an inexperienced point of view, not a callous view of women.
@@kathleensouthern9997 she is a sex doll when she decides to sleep around with men😑 when it’s so easy for her.”individual”my ass.
@@kathleensouthern9997 now that I’m in college I see sex dolls like this all the time and trust me they shouldn’t be viewed as individuals until they’re done sleeping around. I swear on my life if a girl did this to me I’d hold her down and finish specially if she’s in her hoe faze, why should I feel bad about it if she’s just gonna sleep with another dude who is better after she’s done with me?
Most guys « ego » (typical statement from females who don’t even get approached by dudes) are an oxymoron they would like it more if you told them what you wanted or how you felt
Respect to you for approaching for approaching that situation in a kind and mature way and respect to him for respecting your choice and taking that big confidence cut with maturity. This situation is a testament to both of your guys emotional intelligence.
Communication is vitally important but remember it goes both ways.
Yo, my message got deleted , I wrote a whole paragraph about how she was body shaming. I was speaking truth and facts and she couldn’t handle the truth. I guess she didn’t want to be embarrassed. I wish people could see what I wrote.
I’m wondering why there’re almost no hate comments on this video 😅 like I saw a guy do a similar video and he got hell from all the women🤦♂️
@@d4e_gaming838 What's the link to that vid?
Has anyone noticed she changed her video title haha I guess she was getting a lot of hate but at the end of the day trashy women will always be trashy. No class whatsoever
@@alexandermontufar497 Yep.
It might not have been her. UA-cam itself censors stuff.
Yay Kelsey is back! Love u girl!!!! 🥰
Hell yeh!! Back on yt grind👍🏻
I love the video and that you're talking about this! So important.
However the title of the video is really uncomfortable... Let's not bodyshame people! :)
I love how straight forward you are 😍 I literally started becoming courageous just like you😍😍😍😍😚
Thank you for talking about things like this so honestly!! Women and girls need to know that they don't need to stay in any sexual scenario that they don't want to be in, they don't need to try to spare their partner's feelings.
me personally I don’t see why you can’t let the guy enjoy himself cause after all it is really hard for a man to even get to the point of having sex a women can get it whenever guys can’t, so I mean kinda selfish on the women part.
@@d4e_gaming838 "a woman can get it whenever" is such ignorant thinking. Men aren't entitled to an orgasm no matter how "hard" it is for them to find a sexual partner, why should she have to just lie there if she isn't enjoying herself? A man has the same right, he can end things whenever he wants if he isn't enjoying some aspect of it. Why should only women suffer sex that they don't want to have anymore? If a man consented to having sex with a woman with her penetrating him with a strap-on, but decided in the middle of it that he wasn't enjoying it, should he have to just let the woman enjoy herself even though he isn't enjoying himself? Of course not. No one should feel the need to stay in a sexual situation that isn't enjoyable to them, no matter what the reason.
That was a really good video, Kelsey!
Honestly it sounds like it wasn't completely working for him either so I think you did a favour for both of you.
Hey it's just facts nothing more to it ,No one has an obligation to anyone women or Men . Be mindful & Respectful of the other that's all one can do . Really Appreciate your courage to speak about your experience ✌🏾.
Omg I'm faster then my internet 😂and the thumbnail 🤝🌚 btw love you❣️
Lmaoo🤣🤣🤣🤣
Based on your history it can be presumed that alcohol was involved in the situation. Perhaps it is not that your friend had it small but because of the alcohol it was not 100% functional. You should not judge a person for your first sexual experience with him/her. On the other hand, I agree that if you don't feel comfortable in a situation, the best thing to do is leave.
I caught an incel guys!
@@bleach2618 It seems that I caught a simp!
@@bleach2618 what's with the name calling? OP seemed to be giving a reason for the way things transpired. Kelsey said during the story that they were both drinking both outside and when they got to the guy's home. Alcohol usually causes ED in men, so it might well have been a factor.
The title made me cackle so much 😆😆 Congrats on 100k subscribers Kelsey!! 💕
Thank you 😍😍 silver button on the way!
And this poor guy was probably sweating away and thinking to himself, "My god, this girl is loose, it's like dipping it in a bucket of warm water!" lol.
Omg girl i love your videos. They are so true
It's really brave of you to share all of this but i think it is necessary to talk about. Thank you and congrats on being so brave about it! 💜
Love this girl omg ❤ I love that she makes the taboo less taboo
I loveeeed this video 😂
Thank you for sharing. I truly think this is helpful information!
Fucking legend Kels. You're a true pioneer!
It’s the intro for me 😂😂
Thanx 4 this guidence 😃 n its really amazing 2 have such guy instead of d guy who only care abt him n not abt d girl
That guy's soul is leaving his body when he's watching this video, which I'm sure he has.
Thank you so much for sharing! This opened my eyes so much.
I stopped mid-sex. He's fit & handsome also nothing wrong with his peen.. We did everything and I didn't enjoy it. I excused my self and left. He was shocked but didn't stop me walking away. I just said sorry this isn't working out for me. He's a rebound and unfortunately I just not feeling it.
Why do you think the guy didn't understand? If the member isn't hard, happens a lot to people at 40+, rather than 28, then it will not work.
He knew fully well it is not working more than you.
All that can be done on the day is to give up and try later, if possible.
There is nothing the woman can do, she has the same thing.
Wetness can be made up with lubrication.
Condoms are lubricated anyway.
Women sometimes feel they aren't hot enough if the man loses his firmness, but it is not the case.
It can be the case, if the woman smells really bad.
These kind of cideos were the reason i subscribed you
Wow Kelsey, Impressive work! and yes, very much needed.
_I hope you are feeling good these days_
I could not face this behaviour of mine. It was always the guy's fault for not reading my mind ^^
I guess I have been enduring uncomfortable family or work situations, so sex is just another variation of my passivity/complicity in another area of my life? Be assured that I am seeing a psychologist now ^^
I have never worked on my partnerships and sex. I really have an attention problem! LOL
Relationships are work, achieving good sex with a partner is work. I was ready to have fun, I was not ready to work. I guess, for me, sex was going to be great with the "right" person? No idea... I have slept with lots of guys and felt little, it was an internal massage of sorts. I also think I was ignorant : I did not know that the clitoris also had to be erected, I do not ask for what makes me aroused.
Plus, I have been shamed by my mom and by selfish guys for having a clitoris or something? I still cannot "talk about sex" (I loved the Salt'n Pepa track as a teen! go figure)
I did not masturbate or have orgasms ever until I was 32... (in my sleep, my body finished the job?!). It is also work for me to satisfy myself sexually and I usually pass (hydromassaging my clitoris is efficient though ^^).
For the time being, I am not engaging in sex (not going out at night and not drinking helps) and I am learning about sex: so many great ressources are available! Thank you Kelsey!
just off the title lol if you didnt want to why wouldnt you just not bother to start with? its cruel to tease like that
Your honesty is truly refreshing. I prefer the honest truth to a comforting lie. If there's a problem, I'd like to know rather than have people lie to me to protect my ego.
1:41 Yas queen 👸 spread the message 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽#NoDickShaming
Now this is the content we subscribe for! Lol 😂
Being selfish in bed, (he should have realized you weren't aroused) has nothing to do with penis size. And quite frankly, how many times has a man/husband not satisfied the women/wife and gets up and leaves afterwards because he is done (I suspect this is a major cause of divorce. I call these men throw backs). Speak your peace with a man from the get go. If you settle for less in the beginning you will always get less than you need, want or deserve. If more women would put an end to this bullshit and hold men to a higher standard this entitled attitude that some men have would end. Also, rule number one, do not have sex with someone you don't know. Sounds like the guy talked a good game without knowing how to play it. After more dates, his true abilities or lack there of, would have become obvious.
I'm sorry to say that but in many cases absence of pleasure in women is partially caused by junk food diet, sedentary lifestyle and inproper contraceptive pills. And male erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation is partially related to glucose intolerance also related to bad diet, sedentary behavior and excessive smoking. Good luck to everyone. Eat healthy, work our regularly and enjoy your private life. Girls, eating enough protein and not skipping the leg day at the gym can really help.
Yo!
This chica seems like a pro, man. Like.. she knows what she wants.
I hope that person doesn't feel like he's being attacked or being ridiculed at. He handled the situation well. I appreciate that.
This is an informative video.. (Yeah AK.. that is why she put it up. DUH! ^^)
I have to agree with you that it was more hurtful to the guy for the girl to just ‘hold it in’ and let him finish despite feeling uncomfortable/pained/unenjoyable. If he cares, the guilt he’s going to carry for hurting you is going to be heavier than any ego-slight for the experience ending early.
That is just stupid. No guy thinks like that. This is nothing but mental gymnastics to justify the woman's disrespectful action towards the man.
@@galacticguardian2783 what disrespectful? wanting to be able to make choices for her body? tell the same thing if your mom was forced to let a guy continue and then well see
@@galacticguardian2783 hoy dog holler
@@galacticguardian2783Her body her choice Incel
For the guys, I mean what can you do? you was born the way you was born, just live your life, have fun and cherish the memories you make with others. I know you guys will get hurt by this video but try to take it and maybe learn how to handle a situation like this in the future to avoid doing something you’ll regret down the line.
Small size is NOT usually an issue with most partners as more than likely , the guy usually has great techniques that arouses both. So its inportant for small sized men TO LEARN how to please a partner instead of going around with low self esteem each time the size discussion is had.
@@rosean374 technique can only get you so far with women if you’re a small sized male. Not even saying this to be mean, it’s just that most ( some will ) won’t settle for just technique. That’s what most of my friends say, and I would say there’re pretty confident, only reason they get a lot of it. I Don’t expect everyone to be like that though 😅
@@d4e_gaming838 if thats the case half the worlds population of men would not be married or experience sex
@@rosean374 lol it’s gonna get there especially with the new brainwashed generation, pretty sure there will be very few marriages or few successful marriages in the world. And forget about men experiencing sex, these women standards are in the few percentage, few years ago it was not this bad. Next generation is gonna be filled with brainless bitches and lonely men.
THANK YOU FOR TALKING ABOUT THIS I REALLY APPRECIATE YOU AS AN HONEST PERSON DISCUSSING YOUR EXPIERIENCE AND TELLING US ALL YOUR STORIES. THANK YOU 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯 PLEASE CONTINUE
OMG this isn’t something that I ever actually thought about 😳🤷♂️ And I guess I would be concerned for my/any girl’s safety in these circumstances. Provided you are safe, I think you are right, and it’s a good thing to be honest (but still kind) - it’s never a good idea to be doing things with a person that you can’t actually talk to about the things you are doing…However, if you are having sex wi5 a guy and it is painful, you have to stop it and explain - that’s that. But if you just aren’t feeling it or enjoying it, please be sure (especially if it’s a man you don’t know well) that he isn’t the type to force you or hit you if you are honest and tell him you aren’t enjoying sex. I fully agree, we aren’t here to pander to mens egos. But some men are unpredictable, and if you are having sex, you are probably somewhere very private - so please be careful and guard your safety.
I know you don’t hate men, and I agree with you that we should absolutely be able to do what you did. I am just concerned that not everyone can judge character the way you did (and even you were worried for a minute that he might punch you), and I just don’t want any woman to find herself in a dangerous situation 💜🙏
Love you Kelsey 🤗🥰
I love you kelsey... You go girl keep going be bold and fierce always... ❤🤗
So much love for this! 💯 More women really need to realise this n ofcourse it's not a negative thing. I appreciate the emotionally mature attitude of the guy too, so refreshing. I believe this is a good example of how we can all learn to be more respectful to ourselves n each other! Thanks for sharing💛
me personally I don’t see why you can’t let the guy enjoy himself cause after all it is really hard for a man to even get to the point of having sex a women can get it whenever guys can’t, so I mean kinda selfish on the women part
can you also share your experiences and advices for first sex?! I'm so nervous about this topic like i know it will happen someday and I just don't know what to do. even thinking about it make me anxious.
(also love your UA-cam) ❤️
Yeees honey I agree I wanna this video too
Sameee