What Is Sexual Fluidity? | PRIDE.com
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- Опубліковано 14 чер 2018
- PRIDE.com writer Taylor Henderson explains the ins and outs of sexual fluidity.
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I'm in tears. This explained what I've been struggling with.
SAME
Ongg
I know right
SAME! Except I’m not in tears and more on having my mind blown and thinking of people I probably can’t say this to unless I’m ready for a full on court case about my sexuality.
Okay this helped me soo much, for the past 2 years i have thought myself as bi but lately I don’t feel comfortable with that and I’ve been trying to look for a new term( i don’t like labelling things but need it to be able to come out)
Same☺️
SAME WHY IM WATCHING THIS RIGHT NOW
Sleep with boys and girls? You are bi.
Coming out is overrated. Be true and keep your sexuality between you and your partner. Be discreet but not ashamed. The more others know about you, the more they can turn it around. ❤❤❤
I don't understand fluidity completely. I still wanna do more research but from this video, especially when the guy said "You can't help who you fall for; its always changing and evolving" that really felt like thats how I've been feeling. I don't feel like pansexual or bisexual fits me either. Surprisingly, I had identified as a lesbian up until now but I felt like that wasnt quite right. I'm in no rush to define my orientation or label it so quickly. I'm still growing
This helped me so much
I've been labeling my sexuality this and that for years, I've never been able to pin it down. There's been long periods in my life where I've identified as a lesbian because I had no attraction to men at all, this can go on for a year or more. Then I start to be attracted to men, and sometimes I stop being attracted to women all together. I used to think that maybe I had a problem with being bi or pan, but these identities don't work for me because I can go through long periods of being only interested in one gender. It's actually quite rare for me to be interested in more than one gender at the same time, it tends to happen in a kind of crossover. It's pretty humiliating as I've come out as bi, lesbian, straight, pan, and then have to revoke it by either my actions or actually saying it, I have to go through the humiliation of people thinking I was lying or repressing. I got a lot of gossip about my sexuality, and I'm a naturally flirty person so that made it worse. I like being the way I am, but I wish people would be more tolerant. I've decided not to update anyone on the situation anymore, or talk about my orientation to anyone who isn't a close friend because the ammount of shit I've got from people about it is awful. I'm fed up of people thinking I'm confused or a mess, though I must admit I've thought the same things about myself because society had a very solid view of what sexuality should be.
I’m gay and PROUD ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Same here! I know what I am and I stand by it!
This helped a LOT, I've been labeling myself as pansexual and I've been contemplating my sexuality for my lack of attraction to guys, I've also heard stories from lesbians who have liked men once in a while, and also I've had an extreme attraction to women for a while now.
I identify as bisexual but sometimes it changes from being attracted to guys then girls back and forth for no reason and its starting to worry me that my pass as a bisexual is changing or becoming straight and i like being different and the thought of being straight is scary to me
omg same, i’m scared i’m entering straightness again, suddenly male gen!tals and looks attract me , after 6 months of not…-
How about being a fluid bisexual, going through phase of being more attracted to one gender than the other and and forth?
...you are more attracted to the pictures in your mind and their change.
One can sex oneself up - without being attracted to anybody...not even to oneself...only the feeling o e has (which is a mix of neural structure, neural processes, exception of hormones and their activity around the body).
I'm not sure but just to let you know you can bisexual and have a preference.
@@tararosabelle7368 And to add on to what Tara said here, your preferences as a bisexual can change over time. When I was a teenager I was very heavily attracted to girls, I’d say it was 80% girls and 10% guys. In my early and mid 20’s it was more like 65% girls and 35% guys. Now it is a little bit more balanced by a small margin, 60% girls and 40% guys. The way I’d describe it, your preferences age with you. They can change, they can stay the same, it is normal for either.
@@elliefuller3667 yeah it's totally valid to have a preference and it doesnt have to stay the same! ^-^ have a nice day and I am also bi
@@tararosabelle7368 You too! 😊💜
There is a lot of survey data to support this. People aren't fixed one way sexually for their entire lives. But sadly many people hold onto this belief, manly because they think if they adopt this belief it's anti gay, but it's not an anti gay belief, it's a belief that accepts all sexualities
Thaks man! You helped me so much! Fluid... i can get use to this term
I used to identify as gay because I used to be only interested in men. Now I'm also interested in women but I'm still a little more interested in men. Now I identify as bisexual with a preference for men. If you still want to tell me "you're still gay" I don't care that much.
God I finally understand myself now, thank you so much
This is how I know I’m gay
In the bar situation I’d be sexually attracted to the the guy and the only reason I’d look at the girls it’s to admire how stylish her outfit is
I feel like this helped a lot. When I came out as genderfluid to my close family members I’ve been struggling to find the right term or words to describe my sexuality other then the fact that for me, although looks are nice and pleasing to the eyes, someone’s personality can make anyone beautifully in my eyes. I originally thought I was bi until my niece told me that I might be pan because of how I described my sexuality, but after a while and some researching it kinda didn’t feel right. At some point I thought I might be demi or grey-sexual since some descriptions and experiences kinda fit but at times it was also uncomfortable. I do still feel attraction/interest in someone’s looks and gender but not all the time.
I’m a genderfluid and mostly sees myself as a man or someone who’s just very masculine, so sometimes I see myself as gay since I also like men but I also feel like I’m just more comfortable with men/masculine people and find them interesting. But to me, my attraction to men is just a preference not a requirement. I just know I am capable of being attracted to different types of people if I get to know them better and spend more time with them.
Generally speaking I identify as bi, and I'd only explain the following to someone who asked: I feel like some periods of time (years at a time) I'm much more interested in guys and a girl would really have to catch my attention for me to want to be with her, and viceversa other times. Generally I'm also more sexually attracted to girls and more romantically attracted to men. And I have been labeled by many people as sapiosexual - I kinda refuse the label cause it sounds so edgy wannabe, but I can't deny I'm often very attracted to conventionally very unattractive people if I hear them talk for an hour or two and feel that they're very smart. I'm famous in friends groups for having really weird sexual fantasies about professors they deem as ugly and old hahaha.
So yeah, sexuality is fluid people, and it's so much fun.
Hi, anyone have some references for sexual fluidity?
What other "categories" have fluidity?
OMG THIS HELPED SO MUCH!! But what is our flag
I don’t think we have one 🧐
manningeli.tumblr.com/post/183224512999/i-decided-to-design-a-fluid-sexuality-flag-fluid
Here!
You’ll find our flag (it’s not really official tho) and the explanation of the colours that are used😉
Gaby Henríquez Thank you so mych
You’re very welcome😉
accually I don’t think we have a flag, that’s for gender fluidity not sexual fluidity :(
thank you
Love this video. 😀
I have a question. Isn't it equal to "abrosexuality"? I feel like I am, and I have been doing some researches about it and now I'm confused. Can somebody help me? I want to know if there is any difference between these two-
omg thank you so much !!! i was searching for this term 🥺🥺
@@vittells257 You're welcome! :)
I saw somewhere that abrosexuality lies on the asexual spectrum (cos some experience periods of asexuality) whereas sexually fluid doesnt
Edit: google says “Someone who is abrosexual has a fluid sexual orientation”
So I’m guessing being abrosexual is the same as being sexually fluid, abrosexuality is just the label??
@@rice_wife ooh
Then I'm definitely Abrosexual, thx!
HOLY SHIT IM ONLY THIRTEEN BUT AHHHH THANK YOU SO MUCH
So can I be on the asexual spectrum and fluid? I thought I was bi/ace but I have periods where I'm into guys and girls and others it's nobody and like right now I'm only into girls again 🤷♂️
okay I like this guys he definitely made my whole life much easier
Thank you gay black man, this was very informative and helped me with my assignment
That actually helped a lot lmao
So can I identify as Bisexual and fluid?
👍
So I’m abrosexual? Awesome!
OK so does this also apply with asexual folks? Because for me sometimes I feel sexual attraction and other times I don't. And it can change on whether I'm attracted to men or women.
I think so. I didn’t know there were different types of asexual until last week or so.
you could be abrosexual, it’s like being fluid but instead of having periods more attracted to men and women you have periods more atttacted men and women and sometimes nobody at all (abrosexuality is on the asexual spectrum)
You're bi, which is pretty much the exact opposite of asexual.
Yeah that.
This is probably not the right place to ask but what defines/controls sexual fluidity? Is it hormone levels, thoughts or feelings? I personally find this term wrong because I don't believe sexuality cannot be molded within a short amount of time like a "week" 1:27- 132 but I really want to understand this and hey who knows, maybe I'll change my opinion about this.
It's actually hard to explain, it's more something we feel and it changes over time.
Sorry for the poor explanation
There's no clear cut answer to "why?" for almost anything in human's nature. We can speculate and make educated guesses on probability and whatnot but we won't be able to really know why. It can be hormones, genetics, exposure, experiences, mood. Literally anything. Guess we gotta accept it as one of many mysteries of human beings. You might not believe it or understand it just accept it.
Many experts believe it's a mix of genes and exposure to sex hormones in the utero. They have done studies on animals and they found changing the hormones level that the animals are exposed to in the utero changes whether they are interested in same sex or opposite sex mates. These hormones also determine gender traits. They cannot do the experiments on humans because it would be unethical.
From the research on male sexuality many experts believe it's biological, innate, fixed trait and stable throughout the lifespan. Some scientists don't actually believe you can get a true bisexual orientation in men because studies on arousal patterns in bisexual men usually show they respond to one sex much stronger than the other, although they respond slightly stronger to their less preferred sex than do heterosexual or homosexual men who usually only show strong arousal to their stated sexual orientation and preferred sex. They have found cross-sex differences in the brains of homosexual people that are different compared to heterosexual people of the same sex which they believe is due to sex hormone exposure in the utero. Gay men have similarities to straight women and can be more female-typical in some gender traits compared to heterosexual men and lesbians have similarities to straight men and can be more male-typical than straight women.
They did do a study over some years not so long ago on fluidity in sexuality on both sexes of all sexual orientations- self reported and arousal patterns- to see if anyone claiming to have change sexual orientation whether they showed different arousal patterns. None of the heterosexual or homosexual men said they'd changed, but a few bisexual men said they did with more self reported change in women( mostly bisexual women). None of their arousal patterns had changed though, and the bisexual men who had a much stronger arousal to one sex still had the exact same arousal patterns. So sometimes sexual identity doesn't always align with sexual arousal and sexual attraction which seems to be more stable than sexual identity.
I am gender fluid and also sexual fluid. It's an amazing thing but most people don't understand it.
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Are you sexually fluid if you have same sex once?
Actually, I must say I am totally confused.
I just have hardly any interest in real relationships
Well, I am interested in relationships but not the kind where you love each other or something like that.
I imagine a good relationship more like this: with someone who is nice and open. And the relationship would be more like a mixture of friendship+ and open relationship.
Because I have quite many and opposite interests and I don't think you could unite that in one person. So it would have to be possibly also several. So rather polyamory (relationship with several) but that would also be strange for me. So maybe more of an open relationship where you trust each other and so and talk about it but also where you can do „things“ with someone else. So if I am Switch and my partner is consistently top, then I can also do something with someone who is bottom or so. Of course, the partner can also be Switch but that somehow does not excite me so. So I would rather have a relationship where you belong to each other and there would also be an option to marry. But without all the romantic love stuff and without such stupid unspoken rules like "you are not allowed to have something with someone else" and "you are not allowed to text or look at anyone else".
I'd hate that.
But it's only been like this for a few days. Before that I was often in love and so on and I had nothing against relationships. Either I'm still in a phase of finding or I'm... what's that called where the sexuality changes?
I had thought that before. But I forgot how it is called
The gender matters to me 100%, although I'm attracted to some drag queens, but only if I seem the as a 'man' first.
I’m sexually fluid but not romanticly cause I am always romanticly attracted to women
I am a tree
Sexual fluidity...well...it is more like taboo fluidity...something regarded as a taboo (that gave one the sexual drive) lost it's attractiveness and therefore one moves on.
You can also claim a sexual age difference fluidity...where you sometimes like to have sex with people who are the same age...but then with people who are older...and then with people who are younger (under 18...and you are a pedophile...and the government has to take care of you going too far).
So I as a non-practicing heterosexual ask you: what's new because there are more different kinds of sexual constellations than there are chemically named and described elements.
Also: sex isn't so much about the act than it is about the brain. To learn to phantasize and self-restruct leads to the highest sexual pleasure possible...regardless of your sex, gender and what degree of fluidity you have regarding all kinds of characteristics.
Haha...it seems the world is trying to find more ways to spoiling the sinful world further...now its not even enough to be homosexual...
Sexuality isn’t a spectrum, it’s multiple spectrums lol. Sexual fluidity even exists on the Asexul-allosexual spectrum.
Many ace identities such as demi-sexual or ace flux are specifically defined by being something that changes.
Yall are sad, you're just swinging for whatever you can hit ain't ya.
I know right?! Same thing that was going on in the 70s! Not much has changed.
I see no difference in fluidity and bisexuality. Its just excuses. You are not a homosexual. You are bisexual if you like it or not.
tobi tito but being bisexual is homosexual uh-
@@cricketwolf230 I guess you know you what homosexual means. Have some Respect! Happy Pride.
For real
Lol no
I’m just gg to ignore how u are trying to tell ppl what they are and explain it to u nicely. Bisexual ppl are bi throughout their life and it’s constant but sexually fluid ppl might experience infrequencies in their attraction. For example a sexually fluid person may be attracted to mostly the same gender for a while, but then one day be attracted to mostly the opposite gender for another period of time, and after that be attracted to two or more genders equally, and these changes in attraction continues to happen
lol gay men aren't fluid we're just gay no if and's or buts about that
Eric W94 I can I be a straight female who is fluid and so I believe a gay man can be fluid also
@@picantesalsa1088 - well you better start believing in something else, gay men know who they are girl but nice try
Eric W94 You sounds like one of those people who call a gay person “fake gay” if they enjoy hooking up with the opposite gender once in a while. Sexuality is fluid, people can have sex with whoever and identify however they please
Astro Boy That is a fake gay lol, that’s a bisexual my dude.
@Arjun Tomar Hey, dont talk to people like that. Don't call people freaks. It pains me to see people comment on others like this, we are all human no matter how we identify ourselves. Stop being homophobic because sexually fluid people generally have a hard time finding someone who accepts that they will have different preferences at different times. I am sexually fluid and trust me I know how it feels to be pinned to a wall and beat up by the opposite gender because I'm a "freak" what if it was normal to be gay and you had to come out to people as straight? Would everyone call you a freak? Stop being a homophobic prick and realize that you wouldnt like to be treated like this yourself.
Sexual fluidity means your confused. Period. How one week you like men and the next you like women. You either like both(BI) or like who you like (PAN) stop making things confusing for these generations. Stop making shit so complicated let people be who they want without labeling.
STFU. It’s not your place to tell someone who to be.
@@dejstoney I identify as a Bobcat, my pronouns are “HwhHHwh” if you don’t use it your a bigot!
😂😂 You morons need help.
Tony you’re reported