How To Talk To People You Like
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"BE COME UR CRUSH" IS THE HARDEST THING IVE HEARD ALL DAY
what do you like about yourself? start with that, it may just be what you want in your partner. what do you admire in a person? if you have friends or classmates or acquaintances, what are things you admire about them? try to embody that, you're young and you should explore yourself. what are things about yourself that you think attract people (not just romantically but also platonically)? what are things about yourself you want people to notice and like about you?
I needed to hear this 😭💖💖💖💖
@@xxnebula_voidxx9351I have trouble knowing what I actually look for in a girl.
But I know when I like a girl. I haven’t been able to pick up on a pattern besides I find them attractive and I enjoy their personality.
Actually now that I think about it, personality wise I do really like girls that are super talkative. Though I feel like most people like that because it makes them feel like that person is actually interested in them 🧐
but don’t be someone you’re not. be yourself. know the limits
I AM NOT MY TYPE
Bro I saw the thumbnail and immediately said to myself “ I trust this man”💀💀
FOR REAL
FOR REAL
I didn't see the thumbnail on another one of his videos, but the first 2 sentences immediately caught me
ur gay
The halo effect
open them up
- learn there interest
- ask meaningful questions
- have stories
- tease
- duality (push pull)
- show interest but not needy
- stop appealing to all
:)
I opened them up....but now they won't tell me what their interests are....
It's starting to stink a bit too
😢?
repeat that first step bro?
@@Shinsseicmon now
@@potatowarrior747you’re supposed to preserve them first or they’ll lose interest bro, keep them below 41 degrees F and then they’ll be comfortable to start talking
@@pokaay3163 yea thanks man! I checked another tutorial a few days back and my new one isn't completely blue and black anymore.🥰🥰
The beginning lol
😔😔💔🤣🤣🤣
he solved our problems with that one😂
Had to make sure😂
He aint wrong at all 😂
Which was the only honest part of the video lol
“If you wanna attract your crush, then become your crush” is the most unique and deeply helpful advice.
Hell no
Would be sick if i was bi. I've always been so jealous of em
@@sloppygoobeing bi is kinda hard😅not gonna lie😭
@@BonelessBuffaloWings4271how you gonna have DOUBLE the options and STILL be single
This is a joke 😎
@@rioriorio17 well your joke😂 sucks ass. It can be hard, but not impossible after you get the swing of it
as a girl, the things you say about what girls want or just your advice in general is so spot on. it’s really a breath of fresh air to see a person who makes vids like this who ACTUALLY knows what they’re talking about. def subscribing.
yesss!! i agree. makes me believe that we're not doomed lol and there are guys that think this way and are not trying to get your attention just because they're bored, okay. I've BEEN a victim, I don't want this anymore ahahah
same here babes he’s so right
same
bros my fukin psychiatrist
Girls are all playing, y’all don’t even know what you want, if you attracted to a guy n he’s is genuine asf, gives you attention all that y’all get bored, it’s just facts, why do you think „red pill“ and „fuck boys“ are so popular right now?
ngl the presence of subtitles alone could make me fall in love dfghjfdfghj
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Just heard someone say: "People find it attractive when they see someone with a trait they have repressed in themselves. But they repressed that trait for a reason and if they can't learn to appreciate [The behavior they repressed within themselves] it will become uncomfortable to be around that person." So in other words the way that opposites attract is when they can meet in the middle, or respect each other despite their differences. (So if you aren't compatible, don't force it and play it off saying opposites attract because thats gonna turn toxic.)
Also ngl this was probably the best relationship advice video I've seen in my life and it's reminded me of a lot of important things I was missing
Then how would you know though? If you guys are compatible? Can i be compatible with someone even if i feel like they’re from a totally different world?
@@saltNpepper952 Yes, I think that what makes people really compatible is having similar values and sense of humour. You can't really get along with a person who never gets your jokes or your life values, simple.
That’s definitely something I’ve noticed with some of my closest friends. Like they talk about things or have traits that I suppress around most people but it feels so cool to talk to them about stuff like that.
This is top tier advice, he actually teaching the science behind it and how you can be the best version of yourself. Most “dating coaches” and youtubers will teach you how to be like them, since their own behaviour is what worked for them.
If he didn't have that love for himself he couldn't put out these awesome videos. I respect him a lot. The way some of those coach people act is so against.... humanity?... for lack of a better phrase.
@@hobosnake1 Right? Their whole additude is “fuck being yourself, be more like me since I get hoes and you don’t” Plus all that overthinking is so stupid, the “If she doesn’t respond in 5 minutes she don’t want you” type shit is what made dating so goddamn hard nowadays
fart on me
he actually respects women as well. There's so much misogyny in these kinds of spheres
This guy won’t stop till he fixes my life I s2g. Shimon man ever since I started watching your videos around 2 weeks back I can’t express how impactful each and every video has been to me. The thing about fixing your mind and loving myself has resonated so deep with me. I’ve been so harsh on myself for 10+ years , viewing my failures as disgraceful and undermining my successes, but you made me realise how important it is to tell yourself that you are worthy you are enough. Much love to you brother you are an inspiration
At least you didn't wait 20 years like me. GL
Praise God for everything small or big
😊😊o😊
@@JakeyWakey shit happens mane
@@dagimhaileselassie3472 it's all good mane
He teaches you such an important lesson of not trying to force things that you know wont work, and to not be fixated on a person that doesn't hold interest in you. You two could be very compatible but if one side doesnt hold interest please dont waste your energy and move on because there will be so many people out there you will get to know and give you that energy back with even more appeal.
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i needed to hear this!
I feel like you’re a blend of a philosopher and Jimi Hendrix reincarnated 😂 Keep doing your thing g amazing content.
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I see it definitely. I was just learning “Little wing” when I saw this comment
@@Lucas-dm7xothe shirt really brings it home lmao
😂😂😂😂
get off of it
Shimon is helping me solve my biggest social problems one video at a time ❤
The reason there are social issues, anxiety , lack of communication skills today is because of social media.
@@KevinNordstromtotally agreed
@@KevinNordstromeven before sms people had anxiety, but I agree it adds to it a lot by making people insecure and reducing the "need" for in person interaction
your voice is so calming, im super restless these days but rn i sat down listened to you and im just chilling, thank you brother
bro tried the videos method on the him and think we wouldnt notice 😭😭😭😭😭😭
@@CMJiyu what
2:22 "I like to serve but I'm afraid of water"
Surf
Just imagine working in a restaurant and you ask for a water and your server just runs away crying
@@tobyv6087 LMAOOO WTF
@tobyv6087 😂😂😂
@@tobyv6087 BUT TEARS HAVE WATER IN EM TOO
Sometimes I can't believe how I've almost burned through my 20s without knowing these things. Being insecure with myself, being way too needy and desperate, not taking the lead...I hope 29 is still a valid age to start applying these things.
Better now then never my friend
This video is what i needed my entire life long.. i am orphan so no social skillz but after this i think i got the full confidence abt myself
that's good bro, all love❤
good luck, you got this.
Just started watching this video on my home page and I couldn't look away. It shocks me how accurate and helpful this information really is. Over the last 2-3 years especially I've learned a lot about how to interact with people I like and I've arrived to a point where everything you said in this video is my exact perspective on things, word for word. I'm starting to really try and get my identity together as I enter into my 20s and one thing you mentioned really impacted me; am I full enough, complete enough, worthy enough, or ready enough to give to someone else? Currently, the answer is no. And I'm sure it will continue to be no for quite some time until I figure who the hell I am and how to be a decent human being. Thank you for reassuring me. It's nice to know that other people with this perspective on life still do exist.
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This year I’ve learned that in order to have peace with yourself, you need to be comfortable with the idea that what you “should” or “shouldn’t” be is *impossible* to fulfill. Everyone has preferences and they are infinitely different, take a moment to consider that.
You just cannot treat changing yourself in order to appeal to someone’s view as an improvement of character; YOU are the character, if it’s not an improvement of YOU then it’s worthless.
Find the things you want in yourself: fitness, smarts, conversational ability, etc. and work on those.
Amazing vid, you speak eloquently. 💪🏽
As a Bi guy, it’s hard to really talk to anyone, like how straight men have a hard time talk to women. But this really helps! Thx dude! I really want to be like you, with my own style of course.
same as a bi girl hahaha
@@fabihaalam7565 shits hard for us 😔
I feel so geeky for having to watch this💀😭😭😭
Onb😭
Ik Watchu mean bro lmao I'm anti social af but in tryna break out of it
ong😭
Bro, it's okay to look for help, htf is that shi geeky lmao
Man this is such genuine advice. Like something a good father would tell you. Even though this advice is obvious, I think most people watching this just need guidance. You are such a perfect person for this role bro, and that despite being so young. Massive respect
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This voice is magic. So calming and cozy. I want to stay for it. Grateful for the info too.
Hes not lying when he says the most important thing is being truly interested in the other person. Problem is that for some people its the hardest thing. (for me lol)
Focusing your energy into a tunnel is a good way of putting it. When you want someone you really gotta go for it.
These videos are genuinely some of the most impactful I've ever watched, no wonder you're growing so quick. Keep it up man!
This mans got me attached to the screen even though I don't need the advice. Great guy to listen to!
Your tips on connecting with people you like resonate with my lifecoach Lisa Haisha's emphasis on genuine communication. At her recent retreat, she highlighted the importance of building meaningful connections. Your advice aligns perfectly with her teachings.
this felt like a conversation with a good friend, thank you so much!
I'ma comment here so more young men can hear this dude's words.
Respect brother.
Hey Shimon, love your channel and what you put out there for people, it’s really helped me a lot the past few months with all these helpful ways to improve myself and my surroundings, and how to take care of my health and soul.
There’s this book that’s been on my mind recently in regards to my self-improvement path though, and it’s called Franny and Zooey. In it, the main character Franny uses self-improvement through religion and school in order to get closer to God. Her brother Zooey helps her realize though that, in her path of growth, she is outgrowing her loved ones and is in turn “leaving God behind…”
From this, I’m left with this struggle on how to balance self-improvement with acceptance. If you get the chance to read this (or of course anyone else!), I’d love to hear your thoughts :)
Wait , what? The takeaway is to not improve yourself because no one else in your life did?
@@JakeyWakey it’s more about performing self-improvement out of love instead of ego. It’s easy to grow out and away from others, and sometimes it’s good for that to happen, but it isn’t good for you to leave everybody behind just for your own personal benefit. Depending on the circumstances, it’s better to sacrifice your own growth for the growth of the people around you for instance
10:13
@@channie3169 haha, good response friend!
I’ve been really in the self-improvement mindset since last fall and there’s been a lot of ups and downs since then. I’ve struggled with alcohol dependency among other things and I’ve recently been really trying to put all of that behind me and look forward. I just found this channel today and I’m really glad I did.
The quality and calmness of this video hit my soul
Bro the advice is so amazing and even as a single person who’s scared to talk to girls the advice resonated with me so much
Thanks for this, it's on point and so positive. It just explains my situation. All these dating coaches have become so toxic and telling all these weird strategies it's frustrating. Finally someone giving good advices
this new format is the way. I subbed off this video alone and am diving into the catalogue. Gotta say, this upload right here will make this channel. great audio. great framing. and dude also speaks mad truth.
bro when you said "am i complete enough to give to someone else" that really hit me man
I've seen a few of your videos and you're always so authentic. They way you speak is so confident and knowledgable!!
This vid got reccomended to me at the right point in my life and I can honestly say that this is one of the only non clickbait straight to the point no BS video on this subject that I have seen
Shimon, I iust asked a girl for her number about an hour or two ago and got it. thank you bro, you’ve been awesome with these vids. and maybe, if you haven’t already, make a vid on texting girls? im on stage two now lmao. anyway thanks Shimon
🤣❤️I’m proud of you g and jobs not finished … I got you !
Hows it going big man
@@AskShimon pls make a video like this for girls approaching boys 😭
@@nalbinalbii888please do i’d love that ❤
@@nalbinalbii888”You can never learn to catch a fish from a fish, you ask a fisherman”
Ain’t no way man, you have to be spying on me! I was literally thinking about how to talk to a foreign girl that I have a crush on in my university and you dropped this, great timing.
My whole day I was thinking how am I going to do this, as I was about to give up I saw this. Thanks man ❤
Have you ever fucked up by being too clingy? I fucked up in my last relationship, because when it was over, instead of letting go, i feel in love again. I practically forced her to interact with me. I kept texting her all day and night. I forced some trust issues and clingyness onto myself, which are now showing up with new people.
I would advise that you work on your security and self love. This is not to be mean but something I struggled with as a teen that I had to actively work on. Get comfortable with being alone. Only when you feel comfortable alone, can you seek somebody to be an ADDITION to your life, not the focus of it. Nobody wants to be on a pedestal because it's too much pressure. Security in yourself will naturally bring you confidence and a stronger, unique personality that will attract people. People will come to you like a magnet when they see that your expression of self-love doesn't take into consideration how others might perceive you because no matter how many people deny it, we use trends as a way to bot stick out too much and stay with the herd, but we all secretly wish we could express ourselves in a more raw way. Not giving a shit is the biggest step to getting anything else you want in life. Not in the sense of "whatever happens, happens", but more like "I'm going to pursue this thing with intention and show my effort regardless of success". Idk when trying became uncool, but truth is only the losers live with that mentality. True unique individuals who draw the attention of others do it effortlessly because people crave that security in themselves but won't openly say that. They'll observe you and want to be close to you to find what makes you special so they can feel that themselves. Good luck friend 🙏🏽
I love your videos man. I love how genuine you are, it really makes me feel better about how my life is going. It really reinforces my belief that I’m doing the right thing, it just take a bit of time. :))
Keep up the good work
you make the best podcasts bro, and I’m not a podcast guy
man needs a podcast 😁 this content is soothing to the ears!
BROOO!!! YOU MADE 100K SUBS! BRO WHAT WHEN WAS THIS, IM FR SMILLING, I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU GANG! SHOWING THE WORLD ANYTHING POSSIBLE WHEN YOU PUT YOUR MIND TO IT. NOTHING TO REACH BUT THE SKY NOW MY FRIEND. I WISH GREAT THINGS FOR YOU GANG.
why am i getting rizzed behind the screen thas how i know this guy is trust worthy
Love your energy brother, keep spreading
i trusted this man immediately, and y'know what?
i tried some of this while she was mad.
made her smile & giggle. i think i cheered her up a little ngl
This dude is awesome man no other person on the internet gives advice as real as him man fr, all this videos give you a fall since of confidence but you really give genuine advice ❤️
This dude has peak energy
Love your channel man keep up the hard work, these videos are helping me realize things I need to work on and overall keeping my peace.
Shimon thank you, my girlfriend wants space because she’s in a great moment of her life, when you said about attract the dime, I will thanks you, continue the work man, your videos are really incredible thank you 🙏 and God bless you bro
I would love a video on conversation starters because sometimes the hardest part about getting a fire is lighting the match
Just say anything i swear it works
Best advice I ever got was to open with anything. Of course, don’t make it sexual or use a crass joke, but comment on the person’s shoes, glasses, or some other object they have in hand.
You can ask them what time it is then tell them that you have some minutes to spare and would like to talk to them. You can even ask them out of the blue if they speak another language. Whether they do or don’t, you can start a conversation from there.
What I’ve noticed is that most people are pretty open and friendly. Some might have a serious or intimidating look to them but are really nice once you start talking to them.
Just maintain a natural flow and you can make a conversation about anything last a while.
Don’t fall into the trap of wanting to sound intellectual or profound within the first 30 seconds of meeting them. Just establish a basic connection and remember details they tell you about themselves for your next conversation. It will make them feel appreciated.
If you talk to them often enough, higher quality conversations where you reveal your worth will come. Just have patience and confidence. That’s literally it.
literally love you, you made my day from bad to good and changed my mindset completely
"if you want to attract your crush, become your crush" holy shit dude. you just solved my life "would you be friends with yourself" "you have to love yourself before other people will love you" damm.
Thanks man. Wish more people learn social skills like that. Thank you for sharing your failures and may our creator God bless you , confess sins to Him and He can cleanse.
Ur voice is sooo soothing man
Nothing like the weekly dose of wisdom and the best honest advice from my boy Shimon
Bro i just want to be honest with you this is the best explanation i have ever got in this topic . Thank you man
These video was actually really interesting, thanks!
I love your voice it’s so soothing and calm and I rlly think you just give the best advice ❤pls keep up the good work !
Bro how did you blow up so fast!!! That's crazy fam congrats to you! 🙌🏾
2:10 every response as the woman i thought to mu self what i would say and every time it was to forget i started the conversation because i don't know what to say. "Just flow" doesn't really mean anything to me other than what everyone else says about" just relax" "just be yourself" well damn it if i could just be confident i wouldn't have the problem in the first place. Great video tho😭👍👍
He so good at talking one on one I feel like he directly addressing me I don’t know how he’s doing that
i love your videos so much i feel like im having a genuine conversation and getting real advice. you help me a lot. your amazing please dont stop making videos
Thanks for your advice Jimi Hendrix.
I Love & Enjoy those vids to be Listening to, Shimon.
Keep Diving Us Into The World Of Self Improvement 💫
dawg your so goated
Man i can talk to this man all day
Timestamped Highlights
00:18
🗣 Be upfront, honest, and truthful about your intentions.
01:28
🤔 Ask yourself if you love and value yourself before pursuing a relationship.
02:56
📝 Make the other person open up by asking about themselves and showing genuine interest.
04:28
🔄 Seek compatibility and don't waste time if there is none.
06:05
🎭 Play a role and embrace your role confidently, taking the lead in planning and inviting the person out.
07:46
💪 Focus your energy on attracting the person you truly want, rather than seeking validation from everyone else.
09:32
💬 Sprinkle conversation starters and ice breakers in your interactions.
Key Insights
- 💡 Being upfront and honest about your intentions is crucial in building a genuine connection with someone you are attracted to. It helps avoid wasting time and ensures both parties are on the same page.
- 💡 Self-love and self-worth are essential before pursuing a relationship. It's important to evaluate if you are ready to be a complete and fulfilling partner to someone else.
- 💡 Making the other person open up by showing genuine interest and asking thoughtful questions creates a positive association and builds a deeper connection.
- 💡 Compatibility is a key factor in successful relationships. It's important to assess if you align with the other person's values, interests, and goals to avoid future conflicts or heartache.
- 💡 Taking the lead in planning and inviting the person out demonstrates confidence and assertiveness. It allows for a smoother progression in the relationship.
- 💡 Focusing your energy on attracting the person you truly want, rather than seeking validation from multiple sources, increases the chances of building a meaningful and fulfilling connection.
- 💡 Sprinkling conversation starters and ice breakers in your interactions can help initiate engaging conversations and make the other person feel comfortable opening up.
this guy knows holymoly 🔥🔥🔥
the intro taught me how to say “dior sauvage” properly at 0:04
No matter where you are in life shimon is always there. Much love gang.
Such clear skin for no reason
I have to say I’m kind of a player myself and this video is completely right listen to this man
"would u want you?" wow, bro hardest shi, Im gonna ponder on this for hours.
Been following you since bruh you a big inspiration to me
ive been following him since bruh too
@@pyro4888 swears he knows how to do his thing and he has impacted me for good
Same brah
been following since bruh as well, now every time bruh comes, i come.
You are like a big brother that I never had
1:18 hit hard and ngl is helping me get to and pass the talking stage, thanks brother… it also helped me get motavatoion to get a better lifestyle and physique all I can say is thank you
Man I subscribed when you had less than 1,000 subscribers. I love all your videos, keep them coming
That was Like 10 days ago 😭😭
@@AlextheInvestor you are right, I meant to say one thousand. But I guess that was still not long ago
Yeah bro… you just helped me realize something I been doing wrong for a minute now 😭
I love your videos. Your videos are helping me a lot at the moment. Thank you very much from Germany!
W video g and imma need that convo starter vid asap😭
Bro’s videos are way better than therapy sessions
I've never really been a person to put myself into a lot of people, until the internet, but luckily I only did that for a short period of time. Now loving myself was something I haven't realized until recently as well, when I head about a crush I had was doing all these things, I'm like dang, i'm not really doing anything to make myself worthy. So I've been taking myself seriously day by day, and I can see a difference. Anyways video was super helpful loved everything he explained.
ion know what it is fr but js watchin bro makes me feel smoother and more confident
Honestly, just be yourself, if you like each other great. If the other person doesn´t like you, but you like him it's okay. Don't be with a person who doesn't like you, and don't change yourself. If you will be yourself, you automatically will start talking about each other interests, and so on. Anyways, anyone who read this, have a great day!
man gives perfect example at the beginning
This is such a good video, Perfectly executed. I wanna watch more
Captions make everything so better for my low attention span i can watch videos easier and longer
I wish I could have watched this 25 years ago lol.. Great video bro!
"if you were the opposite gender would you date yourself" sums it up for me okay goodbye I'll fix myself
thank you sm for helping me in my life ily man you really saved my realationship between me and my dog thank you sm! very helpfull and fast!
you know man you hit deep saw your prn video and I related and it really helped thx man we need more of you people
You have a really soothing voice. Like an older brother giving me advice
dude, not even one minute in and i fucking love you. Subscribed.
I heard a quote from someone that really stuck with me. "If you can't love yourself, your not ready to love someone else."
damn, bro damn near rizzed me up😳