Quitting Extreme Minimalism | six months later...
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- Опубліковано 27 кві 2022
- in todays video I anted to give you an update on how it has been since I quit striving for extreme minimalism. I still very much plan to be intentional when it comes to purchasing and bringing new things into my life but now I am looking for a balance with minimalism and accepting the changing nature of life.
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"Having control is an illusion in general" This is SO TRUE. I think more than minimalism, mindfulness and intentionalism is the best way. With mindfulness we wont acquire clutter.
This is definitely what I am trying to do with my decluttering. I’ve found using the physical space I have is a good limit, using rule of if I love it, I use it and the number isn’t causing me stress.
I went through this transition in the last two years, I went from extreme minimalism to having two babies and being a stay at home mom. For me to be my happiest I require more things and that’s okay, I still follow my principle of having only what we need and use and that’s just a lot more these days. But I don’t obsess over having less all the time anymore and that is a relief for me! Love the outlook!
I think if we are not careful we can treat minimalism like a religion. we can worship it. I have to say each method i have tried over the years have had there pro.s and con,s, so it is a learning curve. I can relate to the obsessive nature of minimalism but life it just too short, contentment is a wonderful thing i want to embrace, and things are here for us to enjoy and bless us, not control us either too little or too much, and constantly assessing is too much. I think of my mum, she would deep spring clean and winter clean maybe twice a year, that enabled her to pass things on, and use up what she needed and to keep the mess under control, from now on i will be doing the same. Ithank you for sharing.
I think the way people do minimalism encourages consumerism.
Very mature, rational and simply realistic approach. Thank you for sharing!
Perfect words! I am not a minimalist and for now, I don’t feel like becoming one. However, everything you said should be in peoples mind. As long as we make use of everything we have, buy with responsibility and it doesn’t become a “weight” in our life’s, that is perfectly ok. We just can’t become “slaves” of our things.
I prefer essentialism now. I feel less guilty when I have to buy something.
To me, minimalism isn’t just about owning very little, but it’s about owning only what you use and need and what makes you happy. That could be 20 things or 100 things. It’s different for everyone. Minimalism isn’t a static state of being, it’s conditional based on each person's needs and is constantly evolving.
I believe that the idea of extreme minimalism is very seductive for some people. The urge to test oneself, to see just how few possessions one really needs, is at once a physical, mental and emotional exercise in self-knowledge. It’s fun to challenge ourselves, to question everything. However, as a lifestyle, extreme minimalism may only be practical if you happen to be a monk in a Zen monastery where your life is reduced to prayer, meditation, and simple chores. For those of us who are householders with homes, jobs, families and the need to go out in the world, our lives require many, many more possessions than a Zen monk requires.
For me, my level of minimalism is like the swing of a pendulum. I go toward “extreme,” get bored with it, acquire a few more things and try it out. At some level, if I start to feel overwhelmed, I cut back until I feel bored again. The pendulum then is always swinging between boredom and overwhelm. Some say Essentialism is the word to describe the balance. Some call it a Mindful Lifestyle. Whatever your level of minimalism it is soooo much better than the mindless consumerism I see in so many homes.
Good content video. Thanks for your words of wisdom.
I think this is great, I understand what you’re saying. I think it’s all about what we’re trying to achieve with minimalism - not just for its own sake, but to create space for the things we want to do, free time, financial or eco goals, or the freedom to pick up and move at any time. Ideally I think we stop counting/organizing/worrying about the stuff because we too busy living the good life we are making space for.
I have said this before and I will say it again; you are wise beyond your years. I have so much respect for you and your perspective of the world. I love how intentional and self aware you are, and how you accept that change is inevitable and are fluid with your needs for what ever season you are in. Much love from Canada.
You right about seeking a balance. I think balance is much healthier, than obsessing about details. Good luck on your journey, towards a happy, balanced life.
Ganz genau, Minimalismus ist eine Reise, bei der man ständig Sachen ausprobiert und immer wieder auch nachsteuert und eigene Wege findet. Ich finde es auch oft schwer, vor allem im Hobbybereich, schon vorher zu wissen, was genau man alles braucht, wenn man noch im Ausprobieren ist. Sehr nachvollziehbares und ehrliches Video! :)
I actually don't like to use the term "minimalism", I prefer to say "mindful consumption" :) And by that I mean only buying/renting things I need or really, really like and would love to have in my life. Thank you for your videos, Lia!
I think the message is for us to be more relaxed in our choices and that there is no one way as long we stay mindful .......
It has got to be good if you stop being so hard on yourself. I am in my sixty’s and female and have totally changed over the years - What was once important is no longer important to me. Good to see that you are “at one” with your decision making 👊
I hear that!
I think it's healthy to take a moderate position and not obsess. As your path continues, it would be interesting to see your take on how much stuff for crafts and work are a good level for you, without exploding in quantity.
I think there is a huge difference in having a closet full of clothes and nothing to wear vs pairing down to essentials then adding things to enhance your life and enjoying them. The big difference there is mindfulness. My husband has a lot of clothes and i have just a few basic items. I finally realized i dont have any nice occasion shirts. It would be nice to have a bit more elevated wardrobe as i have only your basic tshirts, long sleeve, tank tops. But it would be nice to have a few options or something nice to wear for family dinners. It is okay to make mistakes if we make an effort to notice patterns and do our best to correct things. For example i will do so good on not buying anything then i will get in a shopping mood and buy multiple things. I see that my purchases were not always necessary nor do they necesarily add as much value or happiness as i thought they would.
I also think your version of minamalism might be pretty interesting now. I would definitely relate more, as i like the idea of extreme minamalism but its just a bit too far for me in most areas of my life. So im interested to see more of what this means for you.
Your hair looking great Lia
A lovely summary... I definitely think that minimalism and extreme minimalism can become obsessive and you wind up thinking about stuff just as much as consumers - only it’s about what can I reduce? Rather than what can I buy? So finding that balance is important (and one I’m still trying to find)
Enjoyed today's video. I think everyone has a point of "enough." We just have to listen to ourselves to find that point. As you have been doing.
Yes absolutely! But I think this "enough" might also change all the time and so it is a constant search and balance for it. But it would be boring if we could find a definite answer for things in life so easily ☺
@@ecofriendlia Oh yes, you are so right about our enough changing!😉
You look amazing. I love to see the plants behind you. I enjoyed your message of intentional purchase of wardrobe and belongings. I think it’s so important that we constantly ask ourselves the questions, “how much is enough, do I need this, does it being value to my life?” Thank you for your inspiration.
I moved out of my childhood home a year ago. I almost never bought stuff for myself when I lived there bc I felt I was being "judged" for spending money on things I just want and dont need. So the last year I went ging between trying to declutter everything and being a minimalist and buying EVERYTHING I wanted. (So bad I Know, I am glad At least I bought almost everything second hand)
Now I want to stop buying things and start decluttering but in a sustainable way... has anyone ever experienced this? Has anyone advice?
I know what you mean! I grew up in a home without very defined bounderies so having things that were my own and nobody could take them was superimportant. Also we didn’t have much money for things so when I got my own money I wanted to buy stuff - sometimes just to feel that I can (as in if I want something I can get it without that weird feeling of « wanting what you can’t have ») Unfortunately, I don’t have any good advice because I haven’t managed to find a balance between these impulses and the desire to have a neat home and be flexible and mobile.
I feel like it is all about balance, especially when you have gotten to a better place in regards to “stuff”.
I believe that we need to make decisions, focus on what decision was made and follow through with it, even if it is for just a little while. It doesn't mean that it will be forever. But it means that we have figured out things about ourselves and learn from it. You have done this and now you are taking another look at your needs, priorities and wants. This means growth. Good job.
One of my favorite videos so far
You are glowing. Whatever you are doing I hope you feel that balance and peace. I noticed a bit of binge purge going on for me so stopped moving decluttering so fast and loving what I have and feel more balanced the last month.
It is a very interesting process you are going through. Knowing you can go to extreme but can alsó feel guilt free when taking an easier approach. Thank you for your reflections! Wishing you that your channel grows big as you deserve that!
Extreme Minimalism is a fun hobby for me, thats all
Just wanted to say I love your hair at this length!
What a lovely video, Lia! I totally got what you were saying and agree. This transition into "intentional" from "extreme" minimalism approach is a very cool one. It's more of an open approach to yourself and life, where the extreme approach was more of a challenge, "work," and practice, which was also cool because you could investigate your parameters, wellbeing, and personal attachments around stuff. It's been a similar experience and journey that I've been on for awhile and so have enjoyed seeing your way through it. :) Greetings from California, USA!
I came across your channel because I've been interested in the tiny home movement for some time and minimalism definitely goes hand-n-hand with living tiny...I most definitely am not a minimalist by any stretch of the imagination 🤣 because I enjoy a cozy home surrounded by warm textures and textiles; and all things that bring me joy. However, over the past few years, I have become more mindful of what I actually purchase...I like just using and taking the best care of the things I currently own...I purchase consumables, of course, and do replace well loved items that I use but they've worn out or stopped working all together...I no longer enjoy adding things just to say that I own it because it only adds to my overall collection of possessions, and will most likely rarely get used...So, while I am not a minimalist, I do appreciate the sentiments of this video.
Great insight! ❤️
Wow, this hair length suits you so well!
I so love listening to you! 🤍
I am glad! Thank you for watching ❤
That is good my friend,
I can totally understand to own more sweaters. I had a minimalist winter wardrobe by "accident" this year: I don't like shopping for winter clothes, so I only had one chunky sweater, one light sweater and a cardigan that I wore most of the time and I could not stand them anymore in the end. I bought two sweaters a few weeks ago, to finally spice up my wardrobe again. It worked, but it was not enjoyable.
Pffffffffffffffft if I have to live like that i jump!
@@patriciavandevelde5469 its different in the summer, I hate dressing in winter and although summer is shorter in germany, I have way more summer than winter clothes xD
You are worth listening too. Always a wise outlook. You need to do a TED talk
Thank you so much! we will see what happens... Maybe one day ☺
Have you shared how to minimalize family pictures and artwork?
I do like your hair at this longer version of short! Similar to what suits me. It adds 'warmth' but I minimal way (if I may say).
I agree with your position on minimalism. I now like the word Essentialism!
I come from Ireland but have had alot of contact with Europeans. I have found that they like to challenge themselves aggressively to need less, use less, ear less... I wondered if it came from the privations of WW2?
The over-strictness regarding "stuff" is a type of legalism...
I try to move items on to others if I have spares. Apart from that... it's Essentoalism for me... and the warmth of Chrustianity.
Best regards! G Ire
Apart this video content, that I really appreciate, I have to say, this hair cut suits your face very well :)
It seems that it took up a lot of your mind space. It seems exhausting. I am not trying to be rude at all. I am still new to understanding this lifestyle
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HELLO LIA , JUST TRYING BEING MINMLST FOR YEARS , STILL HAVE MANY THINGS I HAVE FROM THE TIMES I WAS WORKING AS A MUSICIAN IN YOUR ORIGINAL COUNTRY CCCCC HHHHH WICH MEANT CONSUMING AND BEING A MAD CONSUMER IN THE 70 S ; BORN IN ÖSTERREICH BUT ITALIAN PASSPORT CITIZEN AND ACTUALLY IN SOUTHAMERICA FOR
DIFFERENT WORK SITUATION S DESPITE MY AGE , I M 71 , BUT I CAN TELL YOU THAT I HAVE THE SAME CRAZY SORT OF THINGS GOING THROU MY HEAD , LIKE GETTING RID OF DING S , BUT AT SAME TIME HAVING A LIST OF THINGS I WOULD BUY ON A TRIP TO THE U.S LIKE I ALWAYS DO , LIKE LITTLE NEW NOVELTY BT SPEAKERS AND OTHER BUNCH OF
BS STUFF ; SO WHAT I RECOMMEND WOULD BE IN THE NAME OF THE GOD S JESUS BUDHAS AND WHATEVER ELSE YOU CAN BELIEVE , GETTING RID OF E V E R Y T H I N G , WE DONT KNOW WTF WE ARE DOING HERE BUT WE WANT ENTERTAINT ,
SPASS AND SO ON , REAL RIDICULOUS HUMANS 😃
I got rid of both minimalism and vegenanism
Merhaba tatlı kız ✋🇹🇷🌸
i am a record collector, so i haesome 1900(approx) LP's, as wel as some posters and guitars...so i'm not an extrememinimalist i guess
Quitter!
How long have you spoken English? Your German accent is very slight. Do you speak more than German and English?
I am originally from Switzerland so I grew up speaking Swiss German (which is considered a German dialect but it sounds very different in my opinion and has a lot of different words and Germans often don't understand it right away without practicing). So I think my accent isn't the typical German accent... Apart from German (and Swiss German) and English I also learned French, Swedish, and a bit of various other languages but I am only fluent in speaking (Swiss)German and English and I can read books in Swedish ☺ But I hope I'll be at least somewhat fluent in many more languages in the future because I love understanding how people express, see and feel different in different languages (apart from being able to communicate with more people while traveling)
🎯"But godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it. But if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that” 1 Timothy 6:6-8♥️
(Enjoy learning from her)