It's a choice they make from the moment they first meet us. They know they are cruel, hateful and, treat us horrible bc they know they don't treat anyone else in their life like that.
Twenty eight years in marriage, slowly being chipped away, without understanding the lost of myself. Instead I wanted to believe that I could change, make this man in my heart and soul, to wait to be in love and care. I haven't fully let go of hope. I still try outside of marriage. It's what I have always done....care for others.
I have to agree with this message. Was with my husband 20+ yrs and he finally did break me. I stayed way too long and I should have left a lot sooner but I felt trapped and scared of him. It was horrible and I never felt so alone before in my whole life, no hugs, kisses, no intimacy no nothing and we slept in separate rooms or he just wouldn't come home at all. He had also lowered my self esteem so bad and would call me names and say things about my weight. When someone says negative things about you, you finally start to believe it. I realize now that when someone says something bad about you that it is a reflection of themselves, he was the one with low self esteem and hated himself. My self esteem is so much better and I refuse to be a victim. I finally one day just left him and I've never regretted that decision and it was the best decision I've ever made. ❤ Good luck to all of you and remember you are not alone.
After one year of Anger Management classes, i finally learned to literally walk away from anyone who disrespects me, but this doesn't mean i am a Welcome Mat either......😔
@@carolinewolf8334 I agree and I felt like a door mat that had been walked all over and used, unappreciated, unloved and truly disrespected as a woman, a wife and a mother. I had been called every name in the book for so long and he would never apologize for it or anything he ever did wrong.... and he always blamed me for everything. I'm so much happier now and I know I'm a good woman and person. He was the one with all the issues and trust me when I say this "You can't fix or change him".
I've never seen anything so honest and, truthful. They do it bc they don't care, they never did and, they never will. Some people matter and, some people don't.
When God says enough is enough - it’s like something clicks and Poof! You are gone. Even if you have kids it’s hard but they deserve a happy and healthy parent!
So very true, I likened it to nails in a coffin, it took 13 years for me to finally walk away. Found a wonderful man who values me the way I do him, it's night and day difference and I am grateful. ❤ PS we will be celebrating our 21 year anniversary Dec 4th.
I’m so proud of you. You will be my inspiration for the journey I’m about to embark on, the one that feels so scary yet so very necessary. Thank you 🙏 and congratulations you have given me so much hope. 💝
Thank you everyone 😊..I wish you all great resolve and inner strength, protection and love. You will find peace and happiness. Know your worth, once you do, you will find the right person too! P.s. NEVER get sucked back in, cus they'll turn on the phoney charm and try very hard, only to punish you worse, if you do. Stay strong and move on! Best, best, best wishes!!! YOU CAN DO THIS TOO !!!! ❤️🙏💪
This brought instant tears, and it’s almost as though whoever wrote these words had been watching us for the entire thirty-eight years it took for me to give up and leave. One snide, denigrating insult too many finally broke the last thread of hope I’d hung onto, and God led me to the kindest, gentlest, sweetest man I’ve ever known in my life. It was beyond night and day; it was more like hell and heaven. We had twenty beautiful years of peace together, and the kind of love you only read about in fairy tales, before cancer took him to heaven, where I know he belongs. I can hardly wait to be with him again, and in the meantime I’m trying to live my life in such a way that will make me worthy of being with him and with God our Father for the rest of eternity.
@@SusieMullins-t6i Wow, what a story. You should write your story, very powerful. I'm happy that you met a wonderful man, you truly deserved to be loved. Sometimes we stay longer than we should because we were convinced into believing the ultimate lie, that You/me are not worthy and we are! Don't ever forget this. You are loved, you are a child of our Creator and you put yourself through hell to get to the light that is YOU! Heal, breathe, Enjoy!
@@whitneytravels Thank you! And it is a lesson that we have to take a refresher course on occasionally- I am having to remind myself of it this very hour.🥰
I ended it just the other day. The ghosting, lies and indecision never stopped over the course of a year. I didn’t want to wait anymore and chose me. I contacted him and told him so while also wishing him the best for his future. No drama…no bullshit. I feel really good about my decision.
Mine just stopped talking to me on the 13th of November I had compromised so much. I thank God I’m free because if I had settled with him he would have broken me.
As someone who had a toxic relationship, Once I accepted no one can break me without my permission, I realized I’ve been hurting myself the entire time. God and therapy taught me accountability and self love and it set me free.
Being treated like an emotional punching bag, being constantly mistrusted and having my needs suspected or shoved aside, being pushed away by drama and chaos ...it broke me.
This does not apply to husbands only, but also fathers and brothers. I left and then they all claimed they loved me. I told them straight, no you don't.
I hear you. It’s the ones who say they love you, that betray you the most. Yes that includes everyone, both male and female. There comes a time when you put yourself first over everyone else, after they have all nibbled away at you, so there is little left, then that little piece rises up, it’s called SELF PRESERVATION ❤
My ex's didnt break me over a period of 38 total years although I have been severely abused physically, mentally, emotionally, verbally! I am a survivor because of the strength God gave me! I owe my life in every way to the Lord Jesus Christ!
All of us woching this, look at it; this is so many of us!! We are in this together & there is strength in it. I pray for our collective healing & happiness in our journeys ahead ✨️🙏✨️
I don’t wish this pain upon anyone else. It is comforting to know many others have taken this journey and successfully found their happiness. These courageous brave women took back their power piece by piece just like it was eroded over time. I’m so proud of all of you who have done this. I’m about to do this in my life and I promise my beautiful heart and inner child we are going to much more discerning in the future. We will take our time and see the red flags 🚩. We will see the person someone is showing us that they are and not the one we wish it to be or the healed version of them. We will value our peace above all. We will survive and eventually thrive. So many prayers and blessings to anyone else who is struggling with this pain. You are not alone. You are loved and you are more than enough to survive this pain and find your way to the other side. May your peace be restored. 🙏❤️❤️❤️
Oh.... now I understand. From what you experienced, That man tried to broke you, like trying to break bird's wing, so you can't fly/ leave. And he feels better compare with broken woman. OMG. Sober. No everybody has good intentions. You choose you And people who match you. ❤
I was married at 20 to a older man; he was a deceiver & liar Never seen Thru it(once I woke up) I was 48 yrs “I left” never to Return. Much water had been spilled over a bridge of trouble! I got a career & worked until I 70 yrs. Retired now & will never regret walking out. His bs I can just not stand him. Yah
So True. Every woman you has experienced this needs to hear this. As this is empowering. Love is a gift & alot of people forget this & take it for granted. They don't understand the true meaning or feeling of real love until after it's gone & they come to realise what they have truly loss.
This hits hard. Been in this pain for almost 3 years since DDay jan 15th 2022. But in all reality my whole relationship years of his many many infidelities unknown to me. But in my gut i knew something was wrong. Im leaving him Jan 15th 2025 seemed perfect to leave. Im done trying crying and living in his lack of accountability. Im worth so much more then being treated so badly..
Best not to state that publicly. Time to get smart. They do this to us because they enjoy feeling smarter than us (through deception, of course). Good luck and go with God.
@GracieDontPlayDat im not living in his lies. I no longer care who knows or sees this. He cant stop me and I have no need to hide in his shadow. God has brought me peace and everything hidden will come to light.
@@crystaleyes4jesusrolltide453i second that. He didn’t deserve you. My unsolicited advice to you and all us women who’ve experienced this is to find out why you didn’t believe you deserved what you were asking for? Why did you give the love you wanted to someone else instead of yourself? Good luck to you 💜
Wow.. this tells the truth to a tee‼️It’s what I experienced, word for word, in real time.. over 25yrs. ago. I have still yet to heal.. 🌺Thank you for validating my life!
I’m 85. I left a 50 year marriage last March. I’m healing. Thank you for the reassurance voiced in this video. For those of you still trapped physically or emotionally, find a way to leave. Plan. Don’t give them your life! 0:06
I did yesterday ❤ great but not great feeling wrapped in one goodbye. If you feel like he will break you please do yourself a favor and leave before that happens. Every day will be better than the last I promises ❤❤😊😊God Bless you 😊
I also overstayed my welcome ,separated too many times ,thinking I could fix it, but this time, it did not hurt me but it hurt someone love very much, so now after 56yrs I threw in the towel. Amen 🙏🙌🙏
True ! There are no accidents. When your a bad man it doesn't matter who you break because most bad men only care about themselves and no one else. A bad man dont care about a good woman's feelings at all. No ones feelings.It's true ! It's about ,me myself and I,that's all they care about. A bad man or men don't care at all about hurting a good woman's feelings because they care only about themselves.Its about there wants and needs they don't care who they hurt as long as there needs are met.
Wow...speachless....well said brother. In my case, my God pitched in to help me. HE lifted me up out of deep and set my feet upon the solid ROCKWHO IS JESUS CHRIST...halleluiah!
Absolutely true. Actions scream louder than words ever can. Inaction too is action. Avoidance is action. Deflection is action. Especially in abusive situations. When someone shows you who they are over and over again, BELIEVE THEM and decide how you’re going to deal with them and whether or not they even deserve a place in your mind, heart, spirit. Regardless, choose yourself and always operate from self respect and self love. Keep your power and agency to yourself, only you can. Sending healing energy to all ❤
O dear, i do wish my ex could hear this.. chances are he'll listen for a moment, then switch off, because no threat is allowed to his sense of superiority. But i listened, i heard, and i thank you for this validation
Glory!!! After so much struggles I now own a new house with an influx of $360,500.00 every month God has kept to his words,my family is happy again everything is finally falling into place. God bless America 🇺🇸
Hallelujah!!!! Your channel has been a huge part of my transformation, God is good 🙌🏻🙌🏻.I was owning a loan of $37,800 to the bank for my son's brain surgery (Oscar), Now I'm no longer in debt after I invested $8,000 and got my payout of $340,500 every months.God bless Mildred Evelyn Rooney 🇺🇲
Our God indeed is a covenant keeping God. Has he said a thing and not perform it? I watch how things unfold in my life, from penury to $355,500 every month and I can only praise him and trust him more. Hallelujah🙌🏻❤️🇺🇸
Exactly...trust is the most fragile thing in relationships. Once trust was broken you cannot escape from a lot of if's and hesitation and that doesn't give you peace and destroy your happiness.
Every MAN & WOMAN should see this video it is a hardcore reality, adjustment and understanding is needed by both parties. Wherever one may go astray but after realization and exaustation one long for each other and get back together. FOOTBALL ultimately returns back to the GOALPOST.
Thank you! I went too many years not understanding that his words and treatment weren’t an accident. And that my response wasn’t a failure on my part, but the breaking. 🙏🏻
Every word here is 100% true. Most often it's just the beginning of a new chapter in your life...a blessing in disguise, but it's the best thing you can do for yourself. Let the grieving have its time, then let it go and start your best life ever. ❤
Truee. This Strong Soul is Meee. I think you told what ALL MY STORY WAS ABOUTT. Thankyou so muchh! And yess, I really have walked away noww, NO RETURNING TO A NON-DESERVING PERSON EVAA!
It's sad, that they realise it when it's too late. I honestly felt like he chipped away at my soul daily. He was so insecure within himself that he took time to remind me that I was not special. I believed him for almost 5years... and then I woke up!!! Whoever is going through this, remember you are Amazing, Beautiful & Capable. If you weren't he wouldn't feel the need to diminish your light. Take your power back❤
Wow! This is EXACTLY what happened in my 15 year relationship! Thank you SO MUCH for this, for getting it! God bless you and thanks be to God that He is in the process of healing my broken heart!
I got to the breaking point but instead of leaving or blaming it on my very human husband I called out to God. He healed me and helped me to love more, to love deeper to see my own selfishness and how I was not being loving or respectful. God was my lover, my strength and when I learned on him I no longer felt neglected. I slowly began to break down the wall that my husband had built around himself and the one I had built around my own heart. It has been 7 years and I am glad I never gave up, never walked away. Our relationship is more loving, more caring more mutually submissive now than when we started 20 years ago. God did this, not me. I was broken, my husband was broken. God healed us.
The coldest chill came over my body after hearing this. Yes, it's a very accurate depiction of how it went in general terms. There's been healing to overcome the time this was a fresh wound, but closure is left to the void.
Excellent video. To all the women out there who have had the misfortune of entering into a toxic relationship and you finally found it within yourself to say you have had enough; that you value yourself more than he; that your children deserve better treatment....and you walked away, Well Done! I left my narssistic alcoholic partner of 7 years in May 2024. He nearly destroyed me with his lies, his gaslighting; and his toxic drama that surrounded him wherever he went. I left him 600 miles away. I have a lot of healing to do but I am safe, and surrounded by my loving family. I have forgiven him and I still love him but I deserve better. The pain is overwhelming but I trust the process. I value thr lessons I learned and I pray he finds healing for bis narcissim and his alcoholism. But I am done!!! I am free of his abuse. Ive learned so much about myself. Number one, I love myself, two I am enough, and three I deserve better as all of you do! Many blessings to you and yours! 🙏
Only a God fearing woman would stay to the point of breaking... Once the spirit is broken its of no use to anyone. You must walk away into the healing arms of Jesus.
For me it was 42 yrs, he passed away in January,i am free, but the pain is still in me ,i thought i was the only one who was so foolish to stay, i ask myself every day why didn't I leave ,why , i deserved better than he gave me, yet i waited ,and tears of regret and sadness of the wasted year's 💔😭🇨🇦 ues i am broken 😭😭😭💔💔
@CloudKingdom7 I am so glad that I have been a help, my pain and brokenness was not in vane,and l hope others will not do as I did ,stand tall ladies we are beautiful and must love ourselves enough to walk away 🇨🇦🙏💕 it's too late for me, but not for you.
I got broken from years of that as well. What was brought to my attention was that I couldn't keep living in the past. My life isn't back there. My life is in front of me. I can't unscramble that egg or unring that bell. What I can do is LEAVE all that gunk back there where it happened and start from right now and move forward. I will not keep rolling over in my head what he did and said to me. That's just like giving him permission to keep doing it to me. We all have woulda, coulda, shoulda's here. You know if "If and buts" were candy and nuts, we would all have a Merry Christmas.😅 God restores wasted years and everything else that was taken from us if we leave the gunk behind and move forward with Him. All of you are in my prayers. Love and Blessings to you all!
I was that man that he described in this video. I'm no hypocrite, I'm going through this right now realizing what I've lost. I myself have been growing and bettering myself mentally and emotionally. Praying to get a second chance! 😔
Its not just for women..its for all good people..they never broken by accident whatever they r men or women Realise it before it get too late...love ur good , always giver partner ✨
This rings true for me as I'm sure it does others. In the past, I've grabbed people that didn't grab me in return. It's an awful jaw clenching truth. Grab onto the people who value you and let the others fall away.
Sad but very true, my husband was never present I carried the burdens myself, brought a child up single handedly and then told it was not good enough . Broke me down so badly , should have left him a long time ago.
Whoever this is you are on point. And I have had enough the words of wisdom and understanding right here. Only if they knew. Thank you. I needed this ❤
I’m not a woman but I experienced this and it hurt being in a relationship like that. I understand what other in the same scenario may feel too. I wish this world heals instead of breaking each other. There can always be something wonderful in this world
Absolutely 💯 I am this good woman who was blind sided by the devil 😈 been physically and mentally abused for years and enough is enough. I can’t take much more, I am not getting loved, cared for, appreciated or respected as I should. I bend over backwards and do do do for him to get little in return. My voice can’t even be heard without a fight, so I stay in silence a lot. Sorry to those woman out there who are going through this! You’re beautiful, amazing and wonderful and we deserve way much more than this
It took 6 years to break me completely by him and some other, and 6 months to back myself just the basement, still the process is on going. Now I can feel something is with me who wants me to recover early as soon as possible. Thank you so much
TRUE! PRAYING FOR HEALING FOR ALL OF US WHO ARE BROKEN.😢
AMEEN
Amen ty for your prayer❤
Amen to all those who give their hearts and never stop trying to find exactly what they deserve❤
Thank you ❤
At least there is someone out there who understands a woman
Must have been a woman that wrote it! Lol 🙌💖
@@jsm777 Nothing "lol" in it.
No man breaks any woman by accident. ABSOLUTELY TRUE!
Some times it's on purpose!!
@ it’s always deliberate
It's a choice they make from the moment they first meet us. They know they are cruel, hateful and, treat us horrible bc they know they don't treat anyone else in their life like that.
@ You are so very correct. It won’t be happening again EVER!
No man breaks a woman’s heart without her permission.
“ it’s not about what he does it is what he doesn’t do “ felt that 😅
😉
So sad but so true….a good woman loves deeply and unconditionally and sometimes stays longer than she should 😢
And sometimes she gets discarded.
"Yes and Amen" 🙏
I can relate so much
Twenty eight years in marriage, slowly being chipped away, without understanding the lost of myself. Instead I wanted to believe that I could change, make this man in my heart and soul, to wait to be in love and care.
I haven't fully let go of hope. I still try outside of marriage. It's what I have always done....care for others.
This was me then but me know is knowing my worth. Powerful and unstoppable.❤
I have to agree with this message. Was with my husband 20+ yrs and he finally did break me. I stayed way too long and I should have left a lot sooner but I felt trapped and scared of him. It was horrible and I never felt so alone before in my whole life, no hugs, kisses, no intimacy no nothing and we slept in separate rooms or he just wouldn't come home at all. He had also lowered my self esteem so bad and would call me names and say things about my weight. When someone says negative things about you, you finally start to believe it. I realize now that when someone says something bad about you that it is a reflection of themselves, he was the one with low self esteem and hated himself. My self esteem is so much better and I refuse to be a victim. I finally one day just left him and I've never regretted that decision and it was the best decision I've ever made. ❤ Good luck to all of you and remember you are not alone.
Good too hear you left. Nothing is worth misery. Nothing ❤
@privacy9175 Thank you so very much and yes misery loves company.
After one year of Anger Management classes, i finally learned to literally walk away from anyone who disrespects me, but this doesn't mean i am a Welcome Mat either......😔
@@carolinewolf8334 I agree and I felt like a door mat that had been walked all over and used, unappreciated, unloved and truly disrespected as a woman, a wife and a mother. I had been called every name in the book for so long and he would never apologize for it or anything he ever did wrong.... and he always blamed me for everything. I'm so much happier now and I know I'm a good woman and person. He was the one with all the issues and trust me when I say this "You can't fix or change him".
Thank you
I've never seen anything so honest and, truthful. They do it bc they don't care, they never did and, they never will. Some people matter and, some people don't.
When God says enough is enough - it’s like something clicks and Poof! You are gone. Even if you have kids it’s hard but they deserve a happy and healthy parent!
It's funny how these videos pop up right on time.
You have no idea.
Algorythm?
Right!? I just ended a 9 year relationship with a Narcissist. So brutal. 😢
Right!
Eerie also
😢I'm going through this now. 24 years of pain. I waited too long for things to change. I finally walked away
Me too. 24 years of pain neglect rejection so much
Hugs to you both ❤️
Better late than never!!!
It's better late than never!
Me to 26 years
When I walk away, it's over. It can never be fixed.
So true!
So very true, I likened it to nails in a coffin, it took 13 years for me to finally walk away. Found a wonderful man who values me the way I do him, it's night and day difference and I am grateful. ❤ PS we will be celebrating our 21 year anniversary Dec 4th.
Congratulations on your loving marriage and all the inner work you have done to create a better life for yourself!
I’m so proud of you. You will be my inspiration for the journey I’m about to embark on, the one that feels so scary yet so very necessary. Thank you 🙏 and congratulations you have given me so much hope. 💝
Congratulations 🎉❤🎉
Congrats!!!
Been married for 14 years with one child, known each other for 23 years.
I am finally walking away.
Thank you everyone 😊..I wish you all great resolve and inner strength, protection and love. You will find peace and happiness. Know your worth, once you do, you will find the right person too! P.s. NEVER get sucked back in, cus they'll turn on the phoney charm and try very hard, only to punish you worse, if you do. Stay strong and move on! Best, best, best wishes!!! YOU CAN DO THIS TOO !!!! ❤️🙏💪
This brought instant tears, and it’s almost as though whoever wrote these words had been watching us for the entire thirty-eight years it took for me to give up and leave. One snide, denigrating insult too many finally broke the last thread of hope I’d hung onto, and God led me to the kindest, gentlest, sweetest man I’ve ever known in my life. It was beyond night and day; it was more like hell and heaven. We had twenty beautiful years of peace together, and the kind of love you only read about in fairy tales, before cancer took him to heaven, where I know he belongs. I can hardly wait to be with him again, and in the meantime I’m trying to live my life in such a way that will make me worthy of being with him and with God our Father for the rest of eternity.
@@SusieMullins-t6i Wow, what a story. You should write your story, very powerful. I'm happy that you met a wonderful man, you truly deserved to be loved. Sometimes we stay longer than we should because we were convinced into believing the ultimate lie, that You/me are not worthy and we are! Don't ever forget this. You are loved, you are a child of our Creator and you put yourself through hell to get to the light that is YOU! Heal, breathe, Enjoy!
Don't ever expect anyone to love you more than you love yourself. ♥️💪
Such a beautiful and true statement ❤
@@whitneytravels Thank you! And it is a lesson that we have to take a refresher course on occasionally- I am having to remind myself of it this very hour.🥰
Beautiful 🕊️
@@sayusayme7729 🙂
@@sayusayme7729 🥰
I ended it just the other day. The ghosting, lies and indecision never stopped over the course of a year. I didn’t want to wait anymore and chose me. I contacted him and told him so while also wishing him the best for his future. No drama…no bullshit. I feel really good about my decision.
Good for you!!!! I'm proud of you; that takes strength❤
Mine just stopped talking to me on the 13th of November I had compromised so much. I thank God I’m free because if I had settled with him he would have broken me.
You’re lucky you’ve only wasted a year
As someone who had a toxic relationship, Once I accepted no one can break me without my permission, I realized I’ve been hurting myself the entire time. God and therapy taught me accountability and self love and it set me free.
Being treated like an emotional punching bag, being constantly mistrusted and having my needs suspected or shoved aside, being pushed away by drama and chaos ...it broke me.
I agree. A man should treasure you and treat you right from the beginning. That's how you treat a good woman.
From the beginning💯
This does not apply to husbands only, but also fathers and brothers. I left and then they all claimed they loved me. I told them straight, no you don't.
I hear you. It’s the ones who say they love you, that betray you the most. Yes that includes everyone, both male and female. There comes a time when you put yourself first over everyone else, after they have all nibbled away at you, so there is little left, then that little piece rises up, it’s called SELF PRESERVATION ❤
@@blacksorrento4719 well said
The Beginning of Healing when YOU finally walk away ✨️ 🙌 💛 🙏 ♥️
My ex's didnt break me over a period of 38 total years although I have been severely abused physically, mentally, emotionally, verbally! I am a survivor because of the strength God gave me! I owe my life in every way to the Lord Jesus Christ!
I agree completely. I feel that when someone does that to anyone they have underlying issues of their own they need to deal with.
All of us woching this, look at it; this is so many of us!! We are in this together & there is strength in it. I pray for our collective healing & happiness in our journeys ahead ✨️🙏✨️
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These words were so beautiful and at times you can't put your pain into words . But this was spot on.
Yup. 20 years plus some hoping he would realize he was losing his family. But I finally had enough. I was tired of fighting for nothing.
I just walked away and I am now reclaiming my heart, life,and spirit God is ALWAYS faithful ❤
I stopped caring , I'm slowly preparing for my exit. I me back.
Stay strong... I did the exact same thing early October..... healing takes time
Slowly planning mines and staying still for God to give me an exit,stay strong you're not by yourself!!❤
@@latoyasavage7961 Sugar, I wish you the best stay safe. Blessings
The sooner, the better. We are good women!
I don’t wish this pain upon anyone else. It is comforting to know many others have taken this journey and successfully found their happiness. These courageous brave women took back their power piece by piece just like it was eroded over time. I’m so proud of all of you who have done this. I’m about to do this in my life and I promise my beautiful heart and inner child we are going to much more discerning in the future. We will take our time and see the red flags 🚩. We will see the person someone is showing us that they are and not the one we wish it to be or the healed version of them. We will value our peace above all. We will survive and eventually thrive. So many prayers and blessings to anyone else who is struggling with this pain. You are not alone. You are loved and you are more than enough to survive this pain and find your way to the other side. May your peace be restored. 🙏❤️❤️❤️
Unfortunately I have 🐝 broken on purpose twice..now I have given me to God and I'm confident that I am perfectly loved
And when she walk away she takes the protective shield of God alongwith her,leaving him to face all the bad things in life.that is great.
Wow❤ true what your saying that is off god.
Mine experience is this 😊
Give it all to God. Vengeance is mine, saith the Lord
My then husband did everything he could have done to break me without considering that I would have stopped caring for him.
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Oh.... now I understand. From what you experienced,
That man tried to broke you, like trying to break bird's wing, so you can't fly/ leave. And he feels better compare with broken woman.
OMG.
Sober.
No everybody has good intentions.
You choose you And people who match you. ❤
I was married at 20 to a older man; he was a deceiver & liar
Never seen Thru it(once I woke up) I was 48 yrs “I left” never to
Return. Much water had been spilled over a bridge of trouble!
I got a career & worked until I 70 yrs. Retired now & will never regret walking out. His bs I can just not stand him. Yah
I felt humiliated and betrayed but 15 years on my own has brought peace of mind and harmony.I say we need to redefine marriage for the futures sake.
ACCOUNTABILITY, RIGHT!!!❤
So True. Every woman you has experienced this needs to hear this. As this is empowering.
Love is a gift & alot of people forget this & take it for granted. They don't understand the true meaning or feeling of real love until after it's gone & they come to realise what they have truly loss.
I m a good woman, I break, I will heal myself, no ifs r buts , m just a GOOD WOMAN...I SERVE GOD, I LOVE GOD!!!
This hits hard. Been in this pain for almost 3 years since DDay jan 15th 2022. But in all reality my whole relationship years of his many many infidelities unknown to me. But in my gut i knew something was wrong. Im leaving him Jan 15th 2025 seemed perfect to leave. Im done trying crying and living in his lack of accountability. Im worth so much more then being treated so badly..
Best not to state that publicly. Time to get smart. They do this to us because they enjoy feeling smarter than us (through deception, of course). Good luck and go with God.
3 yrs is a long enough time and it can go very deep. Remember who you are, and how you are worth so much more, take your power back
@GracieDontPlayDat im not living in his lies. I no longer care who knows or sees this. He cant stop me and I have no need to hide in his shadow. God has brought me peace and everything hidden will come to light.
get all your ducks in a row and ready ! wishing you all goodness ❤
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31 years from the beginning ...💧😢💧
This video is perfectly correct. Perfectly .
He never cared .
Yep, same here. Have long forgiven myself.
@suebotchie4167 💝
I wish you the very best. Thank you for your comment.
Hugs 💗
If he didn't care, that's cause he wasn't good enough for you darling
@tammy5938
Wow. Thank you. So much. Hugs. May your days be full of joy and your worries few. 💗
@@crystaleyes4jesusrolltide453i second that. He didn’t deserve you. My unsolicited advice to you and all us women who’ve experienced this is to find out why you didn’t believe you deserved what you were asking for? Why did you give the love you wanted to someone else instead of yourself? Good luck to you 💜
I completely agree.This hits home for me. ❤
Doesn’t understand what he’s done till it’s too late…..exactly. These tests are over.
Wow.. this tells the truth to a tee‼️It’s what I experienced, word for word, in real time.. over 25yrs. ago. I have still yet to heal..
🌺Thank you for validating my life!
Having lived this, I can attest to the truth contained in this message.
I agree that it goes both ways.
And that actually sucks right now, because my second oldest daughter is going through this situation as well
You said everything I felt for 25 years. I did leave
I'm speechless, u hit 🎯 the bull's-eye to the dot with those words of wisdom
I’m 85. I left a 50 year marriage last March. I’m healing. Thank you for the reassurance voiced in this video. For those of you still trapped physically or emotionally, find a way to leave. Plan. Don’t give them your life! 0:06
This is amazing insight. I haven't broken yet or walked away.😮all you said is true.
I did yesterday ❤ great but not great feeling wrapped in one goodbye. If you feel like he will break you please do yourself a favor and leave before that happens. Every day will be better than the last I promises ❤❤😊😊God Bless you 😊
I also overstayed my welcome ,separated too many times ,thinking I could fix it, but this time, it did not hurt me but it hurt someone love very much, so now after 56yrs I threw in the towel. Amen 🙏🙌🙏
True ! There are no accidents. When your a bad man it doesn't matter who you break because most bad men only care about themselves and no one else. A bad man dont care about a good woman's feelings at all. No ones feelings.It's true ! It's about ,me myself and I,that's all they care about. A bad man or men don't care at all about hurting a good woman's feelings because they care only about themselves.Its about there wants and needs they don't care who they hurt as long as there needs are met.
Amen to everything above. I agree totally after 26 years of marriage and 3 years before that. Why am I still hanging in???
That's something you will have to find out, maybe you have some thick armour on girl, you must be tough!
Just make sure ,that you become a priority in your life and love yourself, you deserve that
Yeah , why are you ?
Wow...speachless....well said brother. In my case, my God pitched in to help me. HE lifted me up out of deep and set my feet upon the solid ROCKWHO IS JESUS CHRIST...halleluiah!
And no regrets after walking away, either. Other than the fact that I ever gave him the time of day in the first place.
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Absolute truth...no words can describe those feelings with such perfection as these...god bless u
Absolutely true. Actions scream louder than words ever can. Inaction too is action. Avoidance is action. Deflection is action. Especially in abusive situations. When someone shows you who they are over and over again, BELIEVE THEM and decide how you’re going to deal with them and whether or not they even deserve a place in your mind, heart, spirit. Regardless, choose yourself and always operate from self respect and self love. Keep your power and agency to yourself, only you can. Sending healing energy to all ❤
Thanks for putting up this, a lot of young girls do not understand this reality even after going through this kind of experience... Sad but true fact.
O dear, i do wish my ex could hear this.. chances are he'll listen for a moment, then switch off, because no threat is allowed to his sense of superiority. But i listened, i heard, and i thank you for this validation
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I am good woman....... described here 🔥
Exactly...trust is the most fragile thing in relationships. Once trust was broken you cannot escape from a lot of if's and hesitation and that doesn't give you peace and destroy your happiness.
Every MAN & WOMAN should see this video it is a hardcore reality, adjustment and understanding is needed by both parties. Wherever one may go astray but after realization and exaustation one long for each other and get back together. FOOTBALL ultimately returns back to the GOALPOST.
Thank you! I went too many years not understanding that his words and treatment weren’t an accident. And that my response wasn’t a failure on my part, but the breaking. 🙏🏻
I know someone who I'm concerned is in the middle of breaking
I'm deeply concerned for her
This so true I walke way from my husband with 3 children rising by my self never look back thanks God to give me the strength
Every word here is 100% true. Most often it's just the beginning of a new chapter in your life...a blessing in disguise, but it's the best thing you can do for yourself. Let the grieving have its time, then let it go and start your best life ever. ❤
This goes for both people in a relationship
You got that right!!! It takes two!!!
Yes,it can happen to a woman or a man.Some people invest more in a relationship than others.
This is about women! Damn. We can’t have nothing’
Well, duh.
@@zzbutler517 That's ridiculous.
Truee.
This Strong Soul is Meee.
I think you told what ALL MY STORY WAS ABOUTT.
Thankyou so muchh!
And yess, I really have walked away noww, NO RETURNING TO A NON-DESERVING PERSON EVAA!
It's important to NOT stay when you need to leave.........
It's sad, that they realise it when it's too late.
I honestly felt like he chipped away at my soul daily.
He was so insecure within himself that he took time to remind me that I was not special.
I believed him for almost 5years... and then I woke up!!!
Whoever is going through this, remember you are Amazing, Beautiful & Capable.
If you weren't he wouldn't feel the need to diminish your light.
Take your power back❤
Wow! This is EXACTLY what happened in my 15 year relationship! Thank you SO MUCH for this, for getting it! God bless you and thanks be to God that He is in the process of healing my broken heart!
I hope to meet one someday ,have got fooled a couple times .I once thought for sure good woman did exist, now I try to remain hopeful they do.
They do.
We do exist and we want to meet you too..... ❤
I feel like this was definitely a sign for me! 20+ years and I now know it’s time to walk away 🙏🏽🙌🏽
don't look back, hon
This video understands broken good women so well.
Absolutely TRUE. I felt every word deep in my soul..... I pray men listen to this video with an open heart. 🙏 1/11/25
I got to the breaking point but instead of leaving or blaming it on my very human husband I called out to God. He healed me and helped me to love more, to love deeper to see my own selfishness and how I was not being loving or respectful. God was my lover, my strength and when I learned on him I no longer felt neglected. I slowly began to break down the wall that my husband had built around himself and the one I had built around my own heart. It has been 7 years and I am glad I never gave up, never walked away. Our relationship is more loving, more caring more mutually submissive now than when we started 20 years ago. God did this, not me. I was broken, my husband was broken. God healed us.
The coldest chill came over my body after hearing this. Yes, it's a very accurate depiction of how it went in general terms. There's been healing to overcome the time this was a fresh wound, but closure is left to the void.
Excellent video. To all the women out there who have had the misfortune of entering into a toxic relationship and you finally found it within yourself to say you have had enough; that you value yourself more than he; that your children deserve better treatment....and you walked away, Well Done! I left my narssistic alcoholic partner of 7 years in May 2024. He nearly destroyed me with his lies, his gaslighting; and his toxic drama that surrounded him wherever he went. I left him 600 miles away. I have a lot of healing to do but I am safe, and surrounded by my loving family. I have forgiven him and I still love him but I deserve better. The pain is overwhelming but I trust the process. I value thr lessons I learned and I pray he finds healing for bis narcissim and his alcoholism. But I am done!!! I am free of his abuse. Ive learned so much about myself. Number one, I love myself, two I am enough, and three I deserve better as all of you do! Many blessings to you and yours! 🙏
What a message!!! Somehow God brought these messages to me this afternoon and I Thank Him!!!!!❤❤❤❤
This I felt so deep. 😢
Only a God fearing woman deserves ALL from a man.
Only a God fearing woman would stay to the point of breaking...
Once the spirit is broken its of no use to anyone. You must walk away into the healing arms of Jesus.
The attempts to break you .... but the value you realize within yourself when you don't ...
For me it was 42 yrs, he passed away in January,i am free, but the pain is still in me ,i thought i was the only one who was so foolish to stay, i ask myself every day why didn't I leave ,why , i deserved better than he gave me, yet i waited ,and tears of regret and sadness of the wasted year's 💔😭🇨🇦 ues i am broken 😭😭😭💔💔
@CloudKingdom7 I am so glad that I have been a help, my pain and brokenness was not in vane,and l hope others will not do as I did ,stand tall ladies we are beautiful and must love ourselves enough to walk away 🇨🇦🙏💕 it's too late for me, but not for you.
@CloudKingdom7who this ?
I got broken from years of that as well. What was brought to my attention was that I couldn't keep living in the past. My life isn't back there. My life is in front of me. I can't unscramble that egg or unring that bell. What I can do is LEAVE all that gunk back there where it happened and start from right now and move forward. I will not keep rolling over in my head what he did and said to me. That's just like giving him permission to keep doing it to me. We all have woulda, coulda, shoulda's here. You know if "If and buts" were candy and nuts, we would all have a Merry Christmas.😅 God restores wasted years and everything else that was taken from us if we leave the gunk behind and move forward with Him. All of you are in my prayers. Love and Blessings to you all!
Emotional abuse is the worst
@JaniceS65 thank-you for your reply I needed to hear that, bless you ,and my journey to healing continues,🇨🇦🙏💕
I was that man that he described in this video. I'm no hypocrite, I'm going through this right now realizing what I've lost. I myself have been growing and bettering myself mentally and emotionally. Praying to get a second chance! 😔
Its not just for women..its for all good people..they never broken by accident whatever they r men or women
Realise it before it get too late...love ur good , always giver partner ✨
I did not give up on myself nor what my worth I left what didn't destroy me I left him to break himself as I moved foward to heal myself
This rings true for me as I'm sure it does others. In the past, I've grabbed people that didn't grab me in return. It's an awful jaw clenching truth. Grab onto the people who value you and let the others fall away.
it's the start of new chapter of her life after abroken heart emotionally ,after a lot of crying😌😌it's a ceasuras
Sad but very true, my husband was never present I carried the burdens myself, brought a child up single handedly and then told it was not good enough . Broke me down so badly , should have left him a long time ago.
Whoever this is you are on point. And I have had enough the words of wisdom and understanding right here. Only if they knew. Thank you. I needed this ❤
It just made me stronger ❤
Wow! How very true. I went thru same but he did this to please others as he felt obligated.
I’m not a woman but I experienced this and it hurt being in a relationship like that. I understand what other in the same scenario may feel too. I wish this world heals instead of breaking each other. There can always be something wonderful in this world
Amen sending him more love and appreciation than was given
This is true with my daughter and her husband. Thank you for this prayer to share with her.
As long as he doesn’t come back, I am happy. I shook off the dust under my feet. My integrity is mine.
So true. I stayed in a bad marriage for almost 10 years. I was NEVER enough. I couldn't take any more of the cheating.
Absolutely 💯 I am this good woman who was blind sided by the devil 😈 been physically and mentally abused for years and enough is enough. I can’t take much more, I am not getting loved, cared for, appreciated or respected as I should. I bend over backwards and do do do for him to get little in return. My voice can’t even be heard without a fight, so I stay in silence a lot. Sorry to those woman out there who are going through this! You’re beautiful, amazing and wonderful and we deserve way much more than this
Needed to hear this today!
Always have an exit plan.
Only God validates me . A man adds value to my life.
It took 6 years to break me completely by him and some other, and 6 months to back myself just the basement, still the process is on going. Now I can feel something is with me who wants me to recover early as soon as possible.
Thank you so much
You got this!!
@@tiffanyi.6459 yes
Man this made me cry ❤