You are not their savior
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- Опубліковано 20 бер 2023
- If you’ve ever been asked to help or give advice to people who’ve not quite learned the concept of listening, you’ll understand why it’s so hard to keep assisting. At some point, we realize that many people don’t want to be helped, don’t know how to move through the help, or how to change their situations on their own. Codependency will become the narrative and your energy will be depleted.
Make sure you listen closely about what to do and how to navigate with them.
I so appreciate this message for the natural empath... It gives us permission to release people, who use others instead of striving for themselves... especially family!!!
I know all too well ❤️❤️❤️
You said a whole WORD, "...to release people who use others instead of striving for themselves." I recently released an individual with this exact same mentality.
Man!!! I cultivated this faulty thinking pattern out of survival and my kind-heartedness. I was constantly drained and my cup was always empty. I stopped focusing on others and began to make sure my needs were met first…unapologetically.
@@jaycarp88I’m working on this now feeling drained as ever, after trying to help everyone
This happened to me with my sister. I put up a boundary and told her how I felt. She hasn’t spoken to me since. I’ve been going through the grieving process but little by little i am learning to let go of ppl who don’t want to change, family included.
I'm literally going through the exact same thing as you with my sister. That grieving process takes a lot out of you especially at the beginning but with time it becomes less and less intense. Since I put up that boundary I've done & achieved SO much more in the last year versus what I've tried achieving in the last 5 years when I was being her "savior". You help so much that they become entitled to your help and vilify you when you finally put boundaries in place and treat you like this evil person who's never cared about them. I'm so glad that you've chosen to prioritize yourself (you're not a bad person for doing that)!! Sending you a lot of love and light ❤
@@zamangwanezikhali1052 AMEN TO TAKING CARE OF YOU! YOU ARE WORTH IT. YOU AREN'T ALONE IN THIS STRUGGLE. GOD MADE US TO LOVE ONE ANOTHER, NOT USE PEOPLE. AND, YES, LIKE LISA SAID, "FAMILY ARE PEOPLE". I AM DOING THIS NOW. IF THE ONLY ONE I HAVE IS GOD, I'M OKAY WITH THAT. HE IS SAFER THAN MY FAMILY(?) LOVE TO YOU!
It's learned helplessness. They want you to listen to them complain and then take care of their problems. 🧡
Yes
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DOES ANYBODY HAVE "ENTITLEMENT FAMILES?" THE KIND THAT TAKE, TAKE, TAKE? I AM DISABLED NOW AND GET NOTHING ANYMORE AS FAR AS EVEN A PHONE CALL. THEY LIVE 3 BLOCKS AWAY FROM ME. PATHETIC. OH, I HAVE NOT GIVEN THEM ANY MORE MONEY. THEY ARE GOV. HELP, LIKE ME. WHY DID I DO THAT FOR SO LONG? HYPOCONDRIACS, MOSTLY. FAKE. SPELLING WRONG?
Definitely needed to hear this I’ve been practicing saying no to people around me that I’m realizing are takers ❤️ “takers don’t mind taking until you pull back” so true
YESSSSS!
Facts!
your energy is so calming and insightful, lease please please don't get discouraged as you grow your channel you've got amazing things to offer, appreciate all that you do
Indeed! A journey takes a while. I’m a patient vessel. I’m just here to grow along with transparency and invite anyone who wants to join and as well. Thank you for your encouragement ❤️❤️❤️
@@SeasonedDialogue I PRAY FOR TRANSPARENCY. SCARY SOMETIMES WHAT GOD SHOWS ME.
I learned the hard way that you cannot save people from themselves. Some are hellbent on self-destructing. I had to learn to love from afar and let go.
This is confirmation for what I'm going through with my adult son. I finally said No to something and now our relationship has shifted. Thank you for this conversation and topic, Sis. 💛💛
I found it’s best to not give advice but to share perspective. People are going to following their own divine understanding.
Absolutely
You have a very calming voice and message 😊
Thank you so much 🙂
I literally listen to her before bed😊
“You cannot save people, you can only love them.”
- Anais Anin
(We only control us and all have a right to our lessons and chosen path. Some may not want to be saved only to know someone cares.)
We have no control but God however we have choices and decisions which comes from his ability to give us free will.
Very true!
@John-Is4xh
I truly agree!!! King, thank you from a Queen, for sharing the wisdom you've gained from your journey w/God, thus far!
Have a Peaceful day, evening and night!!
Each man must work out his own salvation with fear and trembling.
Pray for yourself..Read bible for yourself. Cultivate your relationship with Jesus. Most important relationship you will ever have..
Your voice is so calming and your message is so powerful
Thank you 😍
I SAID THE SAME THING. HER VOICE RELIEVES MY ANXIETY❤ I ALSO FOLLOW HER ON INSTAGRAM💯
I’m a true follower! I follow you on TikTok and you never disappoint! The calmness of your voice and the gift of word you speak is like a daily vitamin
I really appreciate this!
@@SeasonedDialogue much love Lisa, am also from tiktok
Thank you for this video. I recently had to learn this the hard way. I unintentionally saw a friend as a project (didn't as realised I saw them that way until now). I saw their potential and tried to help them but you can't help people who don't want to be helped.
My problem is I get investment in people, specially when I care about them and I genuinely wanted the best for this person but realised, my version of what's best for them and their version of what's best for them is two different things.
We're going to go our separate ways but I wish them nothing but the best. I definitely learnt a lesson and won't be doing that again.
Oh yes! Sometimes we don’t realize how close we become to others hoping and wishing for the best… but some people truly don’t want help… they want others to listen. And sometimes listening to their way of thinking can be very hard as well
I found myself replaying this episode and getting something that I missed the previous time. I commented on another episode and voiced tge very thing that you are discussing now. I soooooo appreciate your saying this. I am a single, female, Christian with chronic health issues but I am the source and the go to when money, prayer, a sounding board, defender, counselor but it is never reciprocal. I just recently started saying, "no", not answering the phone when I am having a drained day from Lupus or just need my peace. I even limited my cheering for those who need reassuring validation always! My peace is re-emerging and my mind and body is getting rest.
RELATING TO THIS. SOMETIMES WE JUST NEED A DAY TO BREATHE. REST IN THE LORD. YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
Amen! Only Jesus can save
I loved listening to this. You bring up some good points. And yet also made me realize that I don’t need a savior I need a friend. I share stories with people and they assume I am looking for help, or a savior. I am just sharing my life and thoughts. I am an introvert and do not realize that my stories are told in a way that I guess portrays me as some who needs saving. I have lots of people who want to give me everything but their friendship. They will open their home to me, but not their lives or heart. I am invited on special occasions but not the everyday things. God does walk with me, yet it would be nice to connect with a person who wants to walk with me too. Share a life. I am no charity case. I have been thru the shtuff! But I am not a charity case! Thank you for this! God allows me to see the truth in all ways always.
Goodness!!!’❤️
I FEEL LIKE THIS A LOT. SORRY, I KNOW IT HURTS. PEOPLE DON'T WANT TO BE BOTHERED IN THE CHURCHES, I AM SEEING. COMES DOWN TO GIVING ME A RIDE OR HALPING ME WITH MY WALKER. SAD TO HELP AND NOT SEEN AS ONE WHO COULD USE SOME HELP THEM SELVES. GOD BLESS YOU ALWAYS.
Its the whole message. The part when you say, "don't play over people because you don’t know where God positions people to see the BS that you're doing." Whhhhewwww chile...this the one right here! This message is assurance and confirmation.
Thank you!!!
People are deceitful and will drain you if you allowed them. I was kind to a mutual friend where I loaned a large sum of money with the agreement to make monthly payments. Lo and behold the individual did exactly what I told them they were gonna do. The played a fast one created a conflict then stoppwd answering my calls and every call made. I will not call or text ever because God know exactly what he is doing and how to do it even when we don’t see it. I was angry and hurt but I am praying to God for wisdom and discernment to know and see the hearts of those who don’t mean me well. As of today still no call or no payment. MORE TO FOLLOW🤦🏽♀️
I love this. I come to the realization that I had to tell my family, don't ask me for anything I can't ask you for.
I truly am grateful for this video. Ppl makes you feel like the vellin when you no longer available to assist.
Deepest gratitude for your insight Lisa Marie. This video was placed for me to realize eye am not weak to lead with love even after those who have betrayed me so much. When eye block people out my life it’s because they have over stepped my boundaries way too much and eye deserve to protect me peace ☮️ it is mine. 🙏🏿🌻☮️ Boundaries are a must and going back to set new ones are necessary 🙏🏿
You are a breath of fresh air. You voice is so soothing and your spirit is so sweet. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and your heart. We need more people like you.
Wow 5 months later and this episode is really resonating with me at this time. It’s September the season of renewal and me letting go of my savior cape. Thank you for this message ❤
I definitely needed to hear this one! Resonates deeply with me!
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I just love you. Your energy is one of a kind. You have such a pure heart and soul. Blessings sister 🙏
Thank you so much
She deserves so many more Subscribers-your messages are inspiring and healing!! Keep doing what you are CALLED TO DO!!!!
Thank you sooo much ❤️
Amen this message was on time I’ve been so tired of being a person’s savior that it’s drained me🦋
Time to let go ✨
@@SeasonedDialogue amen yes🦋
I jussssst had a similar situation and woW, this is confirmation that my disernment was real..I am a questioner of myself at times, but I felt what I felt. What a loss for the kids, but God...🙏🏽
Thanks for this message. Lord as an empath I get so drained. People take and never put back.
Yes!
Not sure how this came up on my recommended but you’re touching on my exact situation with people and I needed this. ❤
Wow! I’m so glad this was for you❤️
Me too!!
I dont know you in person but I believe this is you and I feel your spirit of calm. I wish more women and people in general were logical and spoke to each other with more respect and calm. A soothing voice can de-escalate situations.
This has been such a blessing. I had to end a situation just a few hours ago and I had doubts even though I handled it with gentleness and lots of care but through this video its like God is telling me soothing things. He still got me. I'm not a bad person for making boundaries. God Bless you dearly.
Not bad at all ❤️❤️❤️
You are right on time with this one... I can't help you if you are stuck in a phase of insanity...
Absolutely!!!!
I think I just found my Favorite New UA-camr!! I'm taking notes Queen 😌
Thank you ❤️❤️❤️🙌🏾🙌🏾
I love the illustration on us moving in a way that we wish others moved for us, and most of the time we never get it back 😏
I understand this but I feel like at the same time healing can come from helping other people. My issue is knowing who to help & where to draw the line with help
When we get tired, that’s when we know
We're very similar when it comes to the explaining things to the T lol, trying to connect with that person on a human to human level & just being honest about how we feel. The response your friend gave is usually the one I get when I do this I've noticed (8 times out of 10) where the person is like damn I have no choice but to admit that I understand where she's coming from, since she was gentle about her response, let me try this 'human to human' thing. I feel it's important to give yourself the space to get to that point so you don't give off that lower vibrational anger- it doesn't help greater good, doesn't benefit one love because you are not showing anything different than what people are used to seeing from others around them who are taken over by negativity and low vibrations. I think it has a greater impact on the person for when they reflect on the issue. But the approach only works for people who can be logical, doesn't usually have the same effect with narcissists or egotistical people who actively do things even when they know they're effed up. Also the point isn't to get the right response from them, it is to set that boundary or bring closure for yourself if it's time for that to end & give an idea of where you're coming from to the other person; ultimately benefits both parties. We gotta work from higher self not a place of reactivity/the ego. I completely agree with the message of this video, new sub! Made me smile, and you have a very soothing voice. Glad I stumbled across your acct, keep spreading light, peace and God bless 💜
I came back to watch this one again. I just joined your Membership because you're truly feeding my soul, Sis. I'm grateful for you and the work that you're doing. Stay and be blessed. 💫💫
So happy I came across your page. You came at the right time in my life where I feel like I'm at a cross roads in giving up on my toxic family that always "need help" but don't do the homework to help themselves. You can't hold onto a ship with holes in it.
I love knowing people like you exist. I am the same ❤
The child in me.. needed to hear this. I just wish my mom had a mind like this . Then maybe my journey in life would be different 🤔
Keep going with your podcast. This was the episode that pulled on my heartstrings a lot.
Thank you so much for the confirmation ❤️
The vibe of your videos is simply beautiful! 🖤 Love the topics you cover as well
I’m going through this with my mother in law living with us. She has revealed how evil she truly is. It has been so energy draining! I have had enough, her sense of entitlement is beyond comprehension. I’ve prayed about this situation for months. Enough is enough; this is where I end this. This video showing up on my newsfeed is confirmation.
Stumbled upon your content today during my morning motivation session. Thank you so much. I’ve been on this healing journey and I feel like god brought me here. A lot of things I needed to hear.
Be careful to whom you give your time and attention. Money will be earned again, time once lost will never be returned
Your voice is everything...soothing, calm and peaceful. At times it felt like you were rapping or reciting a poem....😊❤❤
Very insightful, it's peaceful in here❤❤
Thank you
I love this! God will definitely put you in the right place at the right time to show you who people really are. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙏🏾❤️
When I promise I needed to hear this message today on GOD.
Goodness sis 🙌🏾
I have always been the go to person..Ms Fix It., Ms. Rescue and Ms. Loan officer..
New subbie here ,
God bless you 🙏 and the work your doing. What I do now is listen. I don't analyze or predict. I just listen and wait for the nuggets. So thank you.
Awww thank you!
I have just subscribed. Boundaries are healthy. I have had to stop over stretching myself and taken for granted! It reminds me of a wise saying. "When i set my boundaries, i don't meet your needs!" Mean't in context and in a respectful manner.
I love that saying!!!!! And thank you so very much for subbing as well ❤️
My biggest lesson was family, and I’m grateful for the experience. I am absolutely in love with who I’ve became because of it✨. Thank you for sharing your story as well.
I think I found my new favourite YT Channel. Thank you so much!
Awwww yay!!
first time i came across your videos, and listening to you gave me a lot of answers, I've been struggling in my journey of self discovery and setting healthy boundaries and i must say there was so much healing listening to you
This podcast came from your heart & it's full of facts. Blessings 🙌 truly enjoyed
Love love you my sista ,.God bless you keep doing what you are doing .
I'd like to remark by first thanking you for this work you are putting forth. It is apparent that you are sharing the outcomes and insights to some internal/ emotional/ spiritual--work you've done; and are now sharing your wisdom and experience with intention. Yes, your voice is calm and there is a unique certainty and clarity with which you express. To date, I've enjoyed these excerpts, these sermons, these revelations. Once more I simply but fervently give thanks to you, ( and God) for being a voice that aligns with those whose ears, eyes, hearts, and minds these lessons are meant to reach. You're encouraging and inspiring strangers to you. We (l) am grateful for your assignment to impart wisdom and mine to listen. Thank you
Awww thank you soooo much ❤️❤️❤️❤️
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾Sis you are a gift to us in these interweb streets.
This is the truth I’ve had to let ppl know when I can’t give something or else they will take advantage of my kind heart to give
This beautiful woman is a savior because I really needed her advice! Thank you! ❤
You are amazing Lisa❤
I just discovered your chanel and I love it.glad I found you ❤
I just want to say you are amazing ❤so calm, righteous, so inspiring and beautiful heart ❤
This was very powerful !! Thank you Lisa Marie & Glory to God 🗣️💯🙌🏾✨
This was so damn good.. From the example of handling the conflict, finding discernment and modeling grace in the whole situation. Thank You!
I’m guilty of wasting my precious energy 😮😢 LORD GOLD PLEASE HELP ME PROTECT MY ENERGY 💯✝️😇
Good morning from my side of the globe…I needed to hear this!!! thank you sooo much for your words of wisdom!!!
Amazing Grace how sweet the sound ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you I needed to hear this. I dealt with betrayal from people, taking my kindness for weakness. Also this was reinsurance to reply from my heart space ,Understanding their faults, and still believing in them also still being present to help each other grow .
Love this message and needed it. ❤️ thank you🙏🏾🙏🏾🫶🏾. Your wisdom and timing is grately appreciated. Thank you for your voice and that beautiful mic haha
I love this! It’s a breezy morning here in Texas… 6:19am, I discover you… perfection 🙏🏾😁 - definitely a fan, definitely subscribed
Do me a favor… keep doing this!!! Expand as expansion occurs, but continue putting you magic out there. It’s soul soothing and grounding.
Sending waves of gratitude and continued good vibes
Your voice gives peace and listening in my soul❤
Your voice and energy is so relaxing and the advice is so good too.🥰
I needed to hear this in this moment. Thank you so much for sharing. 🦋
Found this video on Facebook now I’m here..
Loooove you 💗
Yay! Thank you! I'm so glad you are here!
I love all of your content here! Being on an unconditional self love journey myself, this hand found me at the right time. ❤. So much authenticity and true
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You speak beautiful truths
You have healed me today from all the years of sadness that hiding in the corner coast me self doubt for years of being a 'good friend ' then 12 years later she dispersed on my wedding day without saying congratulations.
Additionally the 'amazing' emotionally unavailable husband who I married to tried many years of I'm the problem.
Thank you for your warmth 1 stone and 2 birds today for me is better than what the therapist has offered me.
Thank you so much.❤
Awwww!!!! Keep going!!!!
I absolutely needed this
As I listen to you speak ,As I read the post of others, I don't feel so abnormal, different crazy.....I need to dig deep within myself,and learn the difference between helping and giving myself away....I must admit, coming across your channel has been a blessing,the answers to my years of prayer.....You are able too understand me without even knowing me.....HOW?WHY?WHO? So many questions flow through my mind after listening to you speak on different subjects....Where do I need to begin.....Who do I need to cut off?Why haven't I seen this years ago?Why couldn't I see these things with my eyes??????? However I thank you so so much 🥰🥰🥰
Love the knowledge you're teaching!!
Amen ❤
Sister, The Most High will test you on sweet day that you served HIM WELL THANK GOD FOR YOU AND HIS PRECIOUS PEOPLE
Keep it coming, this resonates so much. 💙🙌🏾
Same here sis
You’re so welcome
So true.. I am not the savior.. helping is hurting me and taking my peace.
Wow! I am sooooo glad you have a UA-cam channel. I follow you on fb and your words are so needed for me some days….. today is another one of those days…. thank you Queen 🧡
Thank you
this is exactly what i was asking to see from the universe
Soothing voice & wisdom ❤🔥
Wow! Truth be told .. I must pull back
I for real took notes!! Thank you so much for your insight you’re amazing.
I feel like this was a message just for me. Thank you so much for your light I’ve watched several of your videos before but this one I felt compelled to comment. I think it’s truly important to recognize when you’re overextending yourself and constantly giving. Just because of the person I am caring, loving, and wanting to help out. I’m always giving apart of me to someone in a form of time, money or conversation and it can be a lot for me at times when I’m not all together. Since it is family or friends and knowing their situation I don’t mind cause I give with my heart. When it is overwhelming though I have a hard time expressing how that makes me feel but I think just learning more about boundaries and applying them to my relationships with people and family will be the key.
Bless you goddess❤
You're voice is so smoothing and the message insightful. Thank you for taking the time.
I'm dealing with a toxic birth mom. I'm 36 years old trying to heal from childhood trauma and the only way that i can is by completely disconnecting from her. My siblings and i are victims of physical abuse and being molested. Shes still with him almost 40 years later and is still in denial and protecting him. When i decided to end this cycle of allowing her into my life then she wants to play victim. I
Good for you! Sometimes we have to make very important decisions based on what keeps us mentally and physically safe. You chose you and I’m happy that you did ❤️
Amazing vibe and content , thank you for calm and charming talks!
I'm sooo glad I found ur channel..I really appreciate ur content...you touched on a similar situation I went through..take care
New subscriber here. I love your content on all platforms. I thank you. We all thank you. Shared with siblings, my daughter, colleagues, and framed. Beautiful words.
Thank you! So happy you are here!❤️
So Divine!
Thank You For Your Contribution!🤎
Thank you for your valuable insight Lisa. Your videos are so relatable, I am working on setting boundaries and being upfront with my feelings. I've never been comfortable with vocalizing how I feel but with God by my side anything is possible.