What makes me happy is knowing that I raised a good kid, seeing my horses roam in my back yard, and appreciating the great friends I have made over the years.
I get out of bed every morning to see the sky. If I'm lucky, it's sunshine and the sky is blue, and I smile, if it's overcast, I have to get up the next day to see if the sky is blue, and so on. Wanting to see the blue sky and feel the sunlight on my face, was what helped me through a really tough time, and it still keeps me going.. I still struggle, I still have bad days, but as well as the clouds roll by, so does everything else, and I am happy to be alive, with everything that comes with it.
I'm currently going though therapy to figure out who I am when I'm not bending to other peoples expectations... I think I will be able to die happy once I know who I am a bit better and be able to live towards those values more. Right now I'm so grateful for my amazing partner and all that we have built with our love.
Healing. I need to heal 30 years of held in and toxic trauma. I need to prioritize my self, my mental health and my healing. You know what? I AM doing it. I am working on that healing. So that I can be the best version of myself. P.s. death does not scare me. Even without healing I am not afraid of death. I have always wished for it. It is only now that I appreciate life more then I wish for death.
You've come a long way. I have an inkling that those "30 years" is what others may not live in 3 lifetimes, eventually. You've worked very hard and you carry on. And that's really amazing!
In my mid 60s, left decades-long marriage, am in transitional housing for the homeless -- and I am happy. I am free. I have family and friends, a roof over my head, food, and an understanding that people are wonderful and generous. I don't have "stuff." But I have what's important. I'm happy. Even better, I feel joy.
I think I have what I need to face death without fear. have never really feared it. but my son is 17 years old. and I really want to see him be an adult before I die. will love it. but if that does not happen, I know he will be a good person and a good adult who is kind to people and animals because he already is. so I'm not worried, but would still love to be there and experience it.
This really made me think. For me it's seeing my rescue dogs grow in trust & confidence. Also hot chocolates (bonus points if it has marshmallows), hugs and my friends & chosen family who I am so blessed to have because they're beyond incredible.
I love this song, but it makes me incredibly sad. I love my husband but I keep feeling like I missed something very important by never receiving that kind of love from anyone. I don't think my husband gets it and I will never know how its like to be loved like that...
What about yourself? What you miss, is it not receiving it from yourself? It becomes almost impossible for others to not follow when you go ahead with good example. And it is almost impossible for anyone outside of you to fill your cup. They may happen to fill half. The half that is for you to fill, only you can notice to be full. It's never been empty. But when a glass is full to the rim with clear water and you look from the side, you may get the impression there's nothing inside. Take care.
I don't think it is possible in life to do ALL the things you want to do. We have so many fantasies about things in life that unless we (collective people) have unlimited financial support, most will never come true. I've done a few things I hoped to do, but if I died tomorrow, I'll still die a happy woman. I went to university and got two degrees which I struggled through as I dealt with mental health issues and overcoming grief. But I graduated when I didn't even know if I could keep going on (to those struggling right now, you can do it! Believe in yourself). I met my husband at University and we still support each other 20 years later. I have a tight circle of friends that I love. I have had some impact in my career goals -though I'm not where I want to be at this stage in my life. I'm okay with that, honestly. Life doesn't always give you what you want, it's just going to have its way - which is from a song but I can't think of the title and artist at the moment. I traveled outside Canada once, I've seen my favorite singers in concert, met one of my favorite authors, discovered happiness in places I didn't think existed, I have nieces and nephews I adore and miss terribly. The only thing I want to focus on anymore is getting more time with family -Dad, step mom, siblings, aunts and uncles, and my in-laws. I don't live near any of them and the pandemic has prevented me from risking travel to see them. I'm looking forward to seeing them, hopefully this summer, on the coast line of the Atlantic Ocean lounging next to a bonfire under the stars.
Can you react to Criminal Minds season 3 episode 18? half of it is about this woman who kills her husband after years of emotional abuse and the abuse shown in that is... not the kind i see people talk about usually (it's gaslighting , manipulation and complete control over the victims life making them unable to fight or run or even ask for help) Please please please react to it. i want to know what kind of outcomes can be expected from a victim of abuse who had been going through this for decades as i don't think many end up killing their abusers but i can see many killing themselves. you can add even more "subtle looking but horrible all the same" abuses from other movies and please talk about short term vs. long term abuse and how it messes with the victim's mind
Just when I think Jonathan can’t get any cooler, I found out he likes Thomas Rhett!! Great song and strongly agree! Having my husband, my pets, my Jesus, and being a therapist, on top of all the love and support I have from others, I could die a happy woman ❤️
I've had people accuse me of lying because I'm not especially interested in accumulating wealth. I've got a great husband who I'm best friends with. I have a great group of friends and we all help and support one another and cheer our successes together. I like the work that I do enough that while there's been other things I've wanted to spend my time doing, I've never dreaded getting up to do it. I help people when I can. I take the opportunity to play whenever I have the time. I take every chance to pet my cats. I don't fear being dead. I'd just regret not being able to see more of the future.
What I need to die happy: Friends. Real friends. The "I can hang with you & do stuff with you & celebrate your birthday with you & support you no matter what, & you don't need your computer to contact me as I'm right here" type of friends. The kind who, if I died tomorrow, would show at my funeral. My literal worst fear is dying alone & nobody coming to the funeral. Also therapy (for that I need this pandemic over so I can actually make & show up at appointments without a mask on).
I've never feared death. Even after having been near to it so many times as I have. For me joy is an extremely rare and fleeting emotion. I think my only hope is to have had enough of joy and experience enough of the things I want to that I can be more content with my life as I die. That and the hope that there will be someone who will notice my absence and find my body even better if they are someone who would be able to have me cremated and my ashes spread where I put my daughters ashes when she died.
I am sorry for you loss. And I hope for your regain of connection to yourself. Actually all emotions are fleeting. That's their nature. We tend to have a misconception here. Feeling content and centered within, is not "happy". It's a consistent feeling of connection and stability while really any other emotions can be rippling or crashing at the surface of your "bubble". And the bubble isn't of isolating and disconnected feeling. It's strangely the opposite. There's deep connection, but you perceive the difference between the "you" in the center and "you in thoughts", "you in feels", "you in physical circumstances". It's so odd to try and use words. One of these things you can kind of describe but it only "clicks" when you're there. Maybe rather than being far away from that state, you are on the contrary too close. I've noticed that the majority of people is taught to get reconnected and get there through meditations etc. But - from own experience - I have found that a minority of people is basically built the other way round. And the advice given needs to be kind of reversed. Different example: In Aikido (self-defence technique) we kept being told to loosen up and get softer. I always got problems till my teacher's teacher told me "You're the opposite! If I tell them to loosen um, then I want you to hear 'gather yourself, reinforce'! You're different. You're over-flexible!" That advice made all the difference in all aspects of my life. I soar up without meditation, too. My struggle is "grounding" Maybe this resonates with you. Maybe you've "almost gone" because you're more "there" than "here" and your path is to find your basic footing. Wish you well, whatever your path is.
For me, happiness is a journey, not a destination, but as long as I have Keygan’s hand in mine, a good view and a cuddle for my beautiful corn snake Scarlet I don’t think there’s much more that I need I love how Keygan and I can get lost in each others imaginations and just play DND for hours
Not completely happy. Love has always alluded me. But I always had Paris, my quest to find my biological family has come true. I have been homeless, so for me having my own bathroom, kitchen, and my own bed with pillows (Salvation Army in Boston was cheap not all beds had pillows and if you got one it wasn't an actual one kind of like a pillow sized gym mat). After getting my breast cancer diagnosis, I felt a sense of relief that my time is winding down and for once I felt fearless because my pain and suffering will be over in time and no matter what bad things are thrown at me, knowing I have a short window of about 6-10 years to endure a better existence is on the other side of the veil. I do have travel regrets, retirement regrets (probably won't get to have a retirement in New Orleans) , I feel bad I may never discover gifts in myself because years of mental trauma have paralyzed me from ever exploring them. If I made a difference somewhere in my life I could be ok in a resigning kind of way.
You're here. You shared your story. Making a difference can really be as simple as that. And I have no doubts you already made a difference. Possibly more than meets the eye. And I hope you can find, that maybe relationship alluded you, but love has always been there. In your best ways, you're still taking care of yourself every day. That is love. I wish you many reasons to smile between now and whenever your time is. Over sun rays and rain drops or whatever else meets your eye and rings with your soul.
Thank you Jonathan for this video! I needed it. At first when you asked what would you need to do so you could die happy like sometime soon, my first thought was I don’t have kids yet. I can’t die happy. But I had a chemical pregnancy last summer and I lost the baby unfortunately. Hardest thing I’ve ever gone through. I thought about it and if I die tomorrow, I’ll get to meet my little baby that I lost and want so desperately to know. Maybe I don’t get to watch my kids grow up. I don’t know God’s plan. But at least if my life gets cut short, I could die happy because have my baby that I lost up in heaven to look forward to. Thank you for giving me some perspective!
Hm, I think Mended Light (and / or Cinema Therapy) need to go to an island vacation destination location and do some episodes from there about something they can tie into their locale. Like can an island getaway really make you happy? Facing your fears (swimming with sharks, paragliding, fire coals walk). And whatever else can be thought up as topics or tie ins that could, technically, work as a video topic for this channel. Sponsorships by accomodations and eateries too of course. Tax write off? 🤔😁 Okay, that would probably come across as totally unnecessary for the scope of this channel. Just doing some brainstorming. 😜
This whole thought trail is so foreign to me. I can't imagine being happy *and * okay to die. If you *are* happy, you wouldn't want to die; you'd want to contiue being that happy and go further into that which makes you so happy. The season I *do* long so much for death is that I've never experienced true happiness, only pain, traumas and lonliness my whole life.
my pleasures are reading sci fi/fantasy mainly, writing poetry, writing computer programs,, walking, talking, spending time with my friend and family, spending time with God
My niece and nephew and my horse,are the reason I get up.I’m grateful for music,and art.side note-anyone else wondering if they fell out of that hammock a few times,trying get the shot of them in off balanced position. 😂
I think for me to die happy I would want to see my child(ren) grow and have good lives. On a similar note, I'm grateful to finally be carrying our first child thanks to IVF after years of infertility. Since we're talking Thomas Rett, reaction to his song Ya Heard?
Before I die , I’ll hopefully find love, I will take care of my sister and watch her grow up, and I will pay respects to my great grandfather and thank him for moving to this country
What would make it so I could die happy? I would like to have the skills and know how to take care of a vehicle. I would like to fix the problems in my life to get me to a point where I feel like I could be a good enough example to have kids and not burden them with my problems. I would like to work out a budget where i live within my means and have enough to save for emergencies. I'd like to find a friend who will be there for me when I need them, not just when they need me. I'd like to get rid of the weight of responsibility of avoiding letting anything dangerous even get close because I know how much it would hurt the ones I love if I could no longer work. I'd like to feel like I have worth, not just know it intellectually. I already have too many regrets to die happy. Although I'm only 25. Hopefully I live long enough to one day get there, barring the universe cutting my life short unexpectedly.
Like others, Cinema Therapy lead me here, so now I follow both. to link to your 'other' channel and yet expand the topic here...How would you compare the characters of Chippings (1939's Goodbye Mr. Chips) to James Stevens(1993's Remains of the Day)? Do you think they're both satisfied with where their lives wound up? What do you think about balancing satisfaction and regret? Can knowing a job well done be enough? I do feel Downton Abbey did a better job with rounding out the personal lives of the staff, but Stevens went deeper into the sacrifices of a life in service. Your thoughts?
WARNING: Do not read if the concept of embracing the death aspect of life is triggering for you. I can completely back that nothing outside is necessary to be able to leave feeling content. And be in that place of inner peace from an early age, too. I've always considered death my best friend. I welcome them for myself or others any day, any time above the prospect of suffering and pain. I rather see people/animals be able to leave than have to stay when they really no longer want to fight a battle they're losing. People are different in everything. And some will want to fight till the very end and some of us have different priorities. It's sad to separate, yet, to me the veil is so thin, that the difference between "here" and "there" is very smal. When loved ones are gone, it can be emotionally painful at times, when it comes to practical things. But other than that I'm exactly a breath away from anything and anyone alive or gone, upcoming or very long long passed. Things seem to be a little different, when your perception is wired such way. I too, cry over losses when they wanted to stay or when I mourn the grief of those who have stayed and don't feel connected. As for myself: They all know that it's not a big deal for me, yet I'll fully support their process of grief and be there to poke them, when they get themselves stuck in it. They know it's about them and that I'm fine, even if out of sight. I'm living every moment and don't keep regrets for my "pets" I'm ready any day. I'll never be ready and OK for/with anything "pain". So yes, you will see me jump out of harms way. I also don't like the thought of dragging ppl in (e.g. in accidents, leaving them guilt tripped). I've promised to myself to leave in a simple and easy way whenever it is that I'm "done" with this round of life.
I do appreciate what you do here and I am sorry if sometimes I come across in my comments as harsh or rude. I could treat you cruelly but it would just be me kicking myself because the things you say get to me and because I am soul sick and you probably see that.
I want to see Power Rangers get therapized, sure it might be a 20-ISH episode series, but I honestly don’t care, I wanna see a therapist’s reaction to Power Rangers.
This is a song I would love to see analyzed: ua-cam.com/video/2oSjhuIb6Us/v-deo.html Charlene's "Never Been to Me". YYou and Alan may have been 10 years younger than me to not know of late 70s music. But I think a lot of women who took th ed road less traveled who chose independence, career, and liberated and how still live as life of regret.
What makes me happy is knowing that I raised a good kid, seeing my horses roam in my back yard, and appreciating the great friends I have made over the years.
Yes! This is the stuff of life 🙃
Best part: you singing along. Beautiful video. 💜
I love that he starts singing along
I get out of bed every morning to see the sky. If I'm lucky, it's sunshine and the sky is blue, and I smile, if it's overcast, I have to get up the next day to see if the sky is blue, and so on. Wanting to see the blue sky and feel the sunlight on my face, was what helped me through a really tough time, and it still keeps me going.. I still struggle, I still have bad days, but as well as the clouds roll by, so does everything else, and I am happy to be alive, with everything that comes with it.
I'm currently going though therapy to figure out who I am when I'm not bending to other peoples expectations... I think I will be able to die happy once I know who I am a bit better and be able to live towards those values more. Right now I'm so grateful for my amazing partner and all that we have built with our love.
Healing. I need to heal 30 years of held in and toxic trauma. I need to prioritize my self, my mental health and my healing. You know what? I AM doing it. I am working on that healing. So that I can be the best version of myself.
P.s. death does not scare me. Even without healing I am not afraid of death. I have always wished for it. It is only now that I appreciate life more then I wish for death.
You've come a long way. I have an inkling that those "30 years" is what others may not live in 3 lifetimes, eventually. You've worked very hard and you carry on. And that's really amazing!
@@KxNOxUTA thank you 🥰
In my mid 60s, left decades-long marriage, am in transitional housing for the homeless -- and I am happy. I am free. I have family and friends, a roof over my head, food, and an understanding that people are wonderful and generous. I don't have "stuff." But I have what's important. I'm happy. Even better, I feel joy.
I think I have what I need to face death without fear. have never really feared it. but my son is 17 years old. and I really want to see him be an adult before I die. will love it. but if that does not happen, I know he will be a good person and a good adult who is kind to people and animals because he already is. so I'm not worried, but would still love to be there and experience it.
"You will never not win me with country music on a beach... just so you know." That had me laugh. Thanks for that. :)
This really made me think. For me it's seeing my rescue dogs grow in trust & confidence. Also hot chocolates (bonus points if it has marshmallows), hugs and my friends & chosen family who I am so blessed to have because they're beyond incredible.
I love this song, but it makes me incredibly sad.
I love my husband but I keep feeling like I missed something very important by never receiving that kind of love from anyone. I don't think my husband gets it and I will never know how its like to be loved like that...
What about yourself? What you miss, is it not receiving it from yourself? It becomes almost impossible for others to not follow when you go ahead with good example. And it is almost impossible for anyone outside of you to fill your cup. They may happen to fill half. The half that is for you to fill, only you can notice to be full. It's never been empty. But when a glass is full to the rim with clear water and you look from the side, you may get the impression there's nothing inside. Take care.
Best video ever loved this , who knew country music could be therapized
I don't think it is possible in life to do ALL the things you want to do. We have so many fantasies about things in life that unless we (collective people) have unlimited financial support, most will never come true. I've done a few things I hoped to do, but if I died tomorrow, I'll still die a happy woman. I went to university and got two degrees which I struggled through as I dealt with mental health issues and overcoming grief. But I graduated when I didn't even know if I could keep going on (to those struggling right now, you can do it! Believe in yourself). I met my husband at University and we still support each other 20 years later. I have a tight circle of friends that I love. I have had some impact in my career goals -though I'm not where I want to be at this stage in my life. I'm okay with that, honestly. Life doesn't always give you what you want, it's just going to have its way - which is from a song but I can't think of the title and artist at the moment. I traveled outside Canada once, I've seen my favorite singers in concert, met one of my favorite authors, discovered happiness in places I didn't think existed, I have nieces and nephews I adore and miss terribly. The only thing I want to focus on anymore is getting more time with family -Dad, step mom, siblings, aunts and uncles, and my in-laws. I don't live near any of them and the pandemic has prevented me from risking travel to see them. I'm looking forward to seeing them, hopefully this summer, on the coast line of the Atlantic Ocean lounging next to a bonfire under the stars.
Can you react to Criminal Minds season 3 episode 18? half of it is about this woman who kills her husband after years of emotional abuse and the abuse shown in that is... not the kind i see people talk about usually (it's gaslighting , manipulation and complete control over the victims life making them unable to fight or run or even ask for help) Please please please react to it. i want to know what kind of outcomes can be expected from a victim of abuse who had been going through this for decades as i don't think many end up killing their abusers but i can see many killing themselves. you can add even more "subtle looking but horrible all the same" abuses from other movies and please talk about short term vs. long term abuse and how it messes with the victim's mind
That would certainly be so interesting to see his reaction to!
Just when I think Jonathan can’t get any cooler, I found out he likes Thomas Rhett!! Great song and strongly agree! Having my husband, my pets, my Jesus, and being a therapist, on top of all the love and support I have from others, I could die a happy woman ❤️
I've had people accuse me of lying because I'm not especially interested in accumulating wealth.
I've got a great husband who I'm best friends with. I have a great group of friends and we all help and support one another and cheer our successes together. I like the work that I do enough that while there's been other things I've wanted to spend my time doing, I've never dreaded getting up to do it.
I help people when I can. I take the opportunity to play whenever I have the time. I take every chance to pet my cats.
I don't fear being dead. I'd just regret not being able to see more of the future.
What I need to die happy: Friends. Real friends. The "I can hang with you & do stuff with you & celebrate your birthday with you & support you no matter what, & you don't need your computer to contact me as I'm right here" type of friends. The kind who, if I died tomorrow, would show at my funeral. My literal worst fear is dying alone & nobody coming to the funeral.
Also therapy (for that I need this pandemic over so I can actually make & show up at appointments without a mask on).
I've never feared death. Even after having been near to it so many times as I have. For me joy is an extremely rare and fleeting emotion. I think my only hope is to have had enough of joy and experience enough of the things I want to that I can be more content with my life as I die. That and the hope that there will be someone who will notice my absence and find my body even better if they are someone who would be able to have me cremated and my ashes spread where I put my daughters ashes when she died.
Sincerest condolences 🌹🌹🌹 💔
I am sorry for you loss. And I hope for your regain of connection to yourself.
Actually all emotions are fleeting. That's their nature. We tend to have a misconception here. Feeling content and centered within, is not "happy". It's a consistent feeling of connection and stability while really any other emotions can be rippling or crashing at the surface of your "bubble". And the bubble isn't of isolating and disconnected feeling. It's strangely the opposite. There's deep connection, but you perceive the difference between the "you" in the center and "you in thoughts", "you in feels", "you in physical circumstances".
It's so odd to try and use words. One of these things you can kind of describe but it only "clicks" when you're there.
Maybe rather than being far away from that state, you are on the contrary too close.
I've noticed that the majority of people is taught to get reconnected and get there through meditations etc. But - from own experience - I have found that a minority of people is basically built the other way round. And the advice given needs to be kind of reversed.
Different example: In Aikido (self-defence technique) we kept being told to loosen up and get softer. I always got problems till my teacher's teacher told me "You're the opposite! If I tell them to loosen um, then I want you to hear 'gather yourself, reinforce'! You're different. You're over-flexible!"
That advice made all the difference in all aspects of my life. I soar up without meditation, too. My struggle is "grounding"
Maybe this resonates with you. Maybe you've "almost gone" because you're more "there" than "here" and your path is to find your basic footing.
Wish you well, whatever your path is.
For me, happiness is a journey, not a destination, but as long as I have Keygan’s hand in mine, a good view and a cuddle for my beautiful corn snake Scarlet I don’t think there’s much more that I need I love how Keygan and I can get lost in each others imaginations and just play DND for hours
Not completely happy. Love has always alluded me. But I always had Paris, my quest to find my biological family has come true. I have been homeless, so for me having my own bathroom, kitchen, and my own bed with pillows (Salvation Army in Boston was cheap not all beds had pillows and if you got one it wasn't an actual one kind of like a pillow sized gym mat). After getting my breast cancer diagnosis, I felt a sense of relief that my time is winding down and for once I felt fearless because my pain and suffering will be over in time and no matter what bad things are thrown at me, knowing I have a short window of about 6-10 years to endure a better existence is on the other side of the veil. I do have travel regrets, retirement regrets (probably won't get to have a retirement in New Orleans) , I feel bad I may never discover gifts in myself because years of mental trauma have paralyzed me from ever exploring them. If I made a difference somewhere in my life I could be ok in a resigning kind of way.
You're here. You shared your story. Making a difference can really be as simple as that. And I have no doubts you already made a difference. Possibly more than meets the eye.
And I hope you can find, that maybe relationship alluded you, but love has always been there. In your best ways, you're still taking care of yourself every day. That is love.
I wish you many reasons to smile between now and whenever your time is. Over sun rays and rain drops or whatever else meets your eye and rings with your soul.
This channel really is mended light. Love you guys❤
Sure. Make me cry. In fine. 😭
Every morning, I get up for my kids (and my horses 😁)
Thank you Jonathan for this video! I needed it. At first when you asked what would you need to do so you could die happy like sometime soon, my first thought was I don’t have kids yet. I can’t die happy. But I had a chemical pregnancy last summer and I lost the baby unfortunately. Hardest thing I’ve ever gone through. I thought about it and if I die tomorrow, I’ll get to meet my little baby that I lost and want so desperately to know. Maybe I don’t get to watch my kids grow up. I don’t know God’s plan. But at least if my life gets cut short, I could die happy because have my baby that I lost up in heaven to look forward to. Thank you for giving me some perspective!
So sorry you had to go through that! Losing a child is so hard. I hope you can continue to feel God's love and peace.
Hm, I think Mended Light (and / or Cinema Therapy) need to go to an island vacation destination location and do some episodes from there about something they can tie into their locale. Like can an island getaway really make you happy? Facing your fears (swimming with sharks, paragliding, fire coals walk). And whatever else can be thought up as topics or tie ins that could, technically, work as a video topic for this channel. Sponsorships by accomodations and eateries too of course. Tax write off? 🤔😁
Okay, that would probably come across as totally unnecessary for the scope of this channel. Just doing some brainstorming. 😜
I am grateful for this warm bed and my kitty laying on my legs.
This whole thought trail is so foreign to me. I can't imagine being happy *and * okay to die. If you *are* happy, you wouldn't want to die; you'd want to contiue being that happy and go further into that which makes you so happy. The season I *do* long so much for death is that I've never experienced true happiness, only pain, traumas and lonliness my whole life.
Go to an island for work so you can use your vacation as a tax write off...... Oh you mean the Adam Sandler method
my pleasures are reading sci fi/fantasy mainly, writing poetry, writing computer programs,, walking, talking, spending time with my friend and family, spending time with God
Great advice!!!! And I love your personality. Subscribed 😊
All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.
- Mithrandir -
My niece and nephew and my horse,are the reason I get up.I’m grateful for music,and art.side note-anyone else wondering if they fell out of that hammock a few times,trying get the shot of them in off balanced position. 😂
I think for me to die happy I would want to see my child(ren) grow and have good lives.
On a similar note, I'm grateful to finally be carrying our first child thanks to IVF after years of infertility.
Since we're talking Thomas Rett, reaction to his song Ya Heard?
Before I die , I’ll hopefully find love, I will take care of my sister and watch her grow up, and I will pay respects to my great grandfather and thank him for moving to this country
I live for my sisters, coffee and the possiblity that there is a loving God.
Where was the link to that free resource for the mental fitness? all I see are the links to your other videos and a link to this video.
It’s in the description now!
What would make it so I could die happy? I would like to have the skills and know how to take care of a vehicle. I would like to fix the problems in my life to get me to a point where I feel like I could be a good enough example to have kids and not burden them with my problems. I would like to work out a budget where i live within my means and have enough to save for emergencies. I'd like to find a friend who will be there for me when I need them, not just when they need me. I'd like to get rid of the weight of responsibility of avoiding letting anything dangerous even get close because I know how much it would hurt the ones I love if I could no longer work. I'd like to feel like I have worth, not just know it intellectually. I already have too many regrets to die happy. Although I'm only 25. Hopefully I live long enough to one day get there, barring the universe cutting my life short unexpectedly.
Like others, Cinema Therapy lead me here, so now I follow both. to link to your 'other' channel and yet expand the topic here...How would you compare the characters of Chippings (1939's Goodbye Mr. Chips) to James Stevens(1993's Remains of the Day)? Do you think they're both satisfied with where their lives wound up? What do you think about balancing satisfaction and regret? Can knowing a job well done be enough? I do feel Downton Abbey did a better job with rounding out the personal lives of the staff, but Stevens went deeper into the sacrifices of a life in service. Your thoughts?
I would LOVE to hear what you have to say about”Long Stretch of Love” by Lady A!
WARNING: Do not read if the concept of embracing the death aspect of life is triggering for you.
I can completely back that nothing outside is necessary to be able to leave feeling content. And be in that place of inner peace from an early age, too.
I've always considered death my best friend. I welcome them for myself or others any day, any time above the prospect of suffering and pain. I rather see people/animals be able to leave than have to stay when they really no longer want to fight a battle they're losing. People are different in everything. And some will want to fight till the very end and some of us have different priorities.
It's sad to separate, yet, to me the veil is so thin, that the difference between "here" and "there" is very smal. When loved ones are gone, it can be emotionally painful at times, when it comes to practical things. But other than that I'm exactly a breath away from anything and anyone alive or gone, upcoming or very long long passed.
Things seem to be a little different, when your perception is wired such way. I too, cry over losses when they wanted to stay or when I mourn the grief of those who have stayed and don't feel connected.
As for myself: They all know that it's not a big deal for me, yet I'll fully support their process of grief and be there to poke them, when they get themselves stuck in it. They know it's about them and that I'm fine, even if out of sight. I'm living every moment and don't keep regrets for my "pets"
I'm ready any day. I'll never be ready and OK for/with anything "pain". So yes, you will see me jump out of harms way. I also don't like the thought of dragging ppl in (e.g. in accidents, leaving them guilt tripped). I've promised to myself to leave in a simple and easy way whenever it is that I'm "done" with this round of life.
really, none of us are promised the next three seconds, so I agree with you.....
I do appreciate what you do here and I am sorry if sometimes I come across in my comments as harsh or rude. I could treat you cruelly but it would just be me kicking myself because the things you say get to me and because I am soul sick and you probably see that.
I want to see Power Rangers get therapized, sure it might be a 20-ISH episode series, but I honestly don’t care, I wanna see a therapist’s reaction to Power Rangers.
Yes! I would love an analysis on Dr. K from Power Rangers RPM.
@@pygmalion0451 yeah, lump her into the mix.
This is a song I would love to see analyzed:
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Charlene's "Never Been to Me". YYou and Alan may have been 10 years younger than me to not know of late 70s music. But I think a lot of women who took th ed road less traveled who chose independence, career, and liberated and how still live as life of regret.
You're a saint, you're a Goddess, you're the cutest, the hottest.
❤️
I get it but from a mom to child