I was out for dinner last night with some girlfriends (most of whom have been married for a while) and we all agreed that we want a love song titled 'I don't need a dozen roses, I just need you to take the bins out'.
There's a similar song idea from Faith Hill, "Take Me As I Am". She literally says "I don't need a bed of roses" 🤣 She'd rather have someone who accepts her flaws and is honest with her.
When you said “No one looks good all the time” I went “well no. My friend always looks great, even in the weirdest situations” but then I realized I just love my friend a lot and think they look good all the time so
It's refreshing to hear someone else say that the phrase "you can't love others until you love yourself" is untrue. Not only is that not true (because as you said, there are people who hate themselves but pour their soul into their loved ones), but it's incredibly disheartening to be told that because of something that you can't control (you can't magically love yourself just because someone told you to), you are incapable of loving others. It creates a deeper spiral of self-loathing, so please stop saying this to people. It's okay to encourage people to love themselves. It's detrimental to tell them that they are loveless if they can't. It's far more helpful to reassure them that they are loved regardless of their view of themselves, and that you recognize and appreciate your love for others.
A song that talks about loving someone for who they are, but also, for the way that they change and evolve everyday: "I don't wish to change you You've got it under control You wake up each day different Another reason for me to keep holdin' on I'm not attached to any way you're showing up I'm just gonna love you like the woman I love" -Jason Mraz (Live version, please)
The way you talk about Alicia is so sweet. I wish more people had those sorts of relationships. A good think for you to Therapize would be Mahou Shoujo Madoka Magica. It’s very good and chocked full of existential, mental health goodness.
I used to love that song, because I always interpretated it as him singing for a woman that is not naturally perceived as handsome by everyone else. I imagined a regular or even "ugly" considered person where he is one of the only people who see her beauty (inside and out). That really spoke to me since I myself was not one of the pretty girls. Then I watched the video and was so disappointed because the woman in the video is very beautiful and I think most people would say that. So it's really not that difficult for him to find her pretty. From then on I found the song very shallow. Now I just decided that I continue to interpret the song as if it's meant for all those people who are not always considered pretty/ gorgeous by everyone. I decide what I want the message of the song to be for me. I still think this message of the song would be clearer if the woman in the video wasn't so extremely good-looking, but that's OK because I don't need to watch the video and I just ignore that part 😅 besides the song doesn't even say what other people think of her. It only states that she herself is apparently self-conscious and doesn't think she's beautiful.
Actually, the lyrics themselves could have easy been meant to be interpreted that way. The pop industry is known to prioritize profit: they want to reach as big of an audience as possible, to make a lot of money. Because of that maybe Bruno's producer or something may have made it that the girl in the video would be very beautiful, but who's to say that this is the girl the songwriter had in mind.
They should have shown many different relationships. Oldies looking at their partner lovingly etc. being beautiful because of your soul. That would have been a lovely message
"There are a lot of people who have been taught to be modest and to be humble is a virtue..." And there are also people who were simply taught that everything about our appearance and actions was wrong no matter what. I'm (almost) 29. I was 26 or 27 when I finally began being comfortable singing along to songs, out loud, IN MY OWN HOME, and only in the last year or so have I been able to sing along with close family. I've accepted my appearance and physicality but I still don't think I'm attractive, no matter how I do my hair or what I wear or how I act. I struggle to accept compliments or praise even when I'm really proud of something I've done, because the vast majority that I got growing up were shallow, or even false at times. The song is about one person in the relationship who is self-conscious about her looks and herself as she appears in the world, and the singer is reassuring her that to him, she's beautiful. That she's beautiful as she is, no matter what. And she probably needs to hear that, because maybe she didn't hear it enough from the people she was closest to growing up. I've never had anyone tell me "you're amazing just the way you are." I've never had someone tell me, explicitly, that there's nothing about me they'd want to change. No one has ever complimented my smile, or my laugh. Instead I got criticised for my teeth not being right, or opening my mouth too wide, or having bad breath, or being too loud, or at "best" being teased about my laugh. And never anything positive to balance it out. This song is a dream for someone like me. When I'm feeling like sh**, I'll listen to it and just cry because it simultaneously makes me feel better and reminds me that I don't have anyone who sees me the way the singer sees the subject of his song. But it also reminds me that, maybe, just maybe, one day there will be someone like that in my life. (Or, maybe it's just a fantasy...) P.S. As for the "if perfect's what you're searching for then just stay the same" - yeah, that one can be iffy, but what if this song is being sung (or rather, the message being given) many times over the span of a long relationship? What if we choose to interpret it as "just stay you, whoever you are"? Remember, if you go looking for negativity, you're going to find it.
I want a vlog series where Jonothan reacts to Crazy Ex Girlfriend. If I can’t get a reaction to the show as a whole, could I get reactions to the songs “settle for me”, “you ruined everything”, and “ Put yourself first”?
Can I add "A Diagnosis" and "Anti-depressants are so not a big deal" to that list? I know they are much, much later in the show and therefore spoilers, but like... I need reactions to them.
I would LOVE a series of reactions to Crazy Ex Girlfriend. So many excellent topics to discuss relating to relationship dynamics, mental health, self discovery, etc
The last birthday card my beautiful grandmother ever gave me was the one she ordered for my 21st birthday - it was a beautiful, big 3D cake that literally LIT UP a rainbow of colors and a cover of this song played on repeat. It came in a few days after she passed away, (she passed away the day of my 21st birthday) and I cried all day. She always loved, adored, and accepted me for exactly who I was, when I never felt like anybody else loved me that way. I always knew her love for me was true, and she was the light of my life. Now I must live without it, but every day I hope she's still with me, watching over me.
I love how naturally you admit your appreciation for your wife - as a person, and aesthetically. My parents have been together for almost 40 years (married for 37), and my mom has admitted to me that she doesn't think my dad even thinks she's pretty or capable. My dad's an unrepentant, manipulative narcissist (among other things) - and it's very clear to me why she says that. He treats her like a dumb, petulant child. In times past, he's made backhanded comments (several in public/in front of her friends/coworkers/family) about how she's trying to be like He-Man (for using weighted machines at the gym), how her wrists and hands (before her significant weight gain) were too thick for most jewelry... on and on. He won't stand for accountability, and if he even thinks she's misunderstood or doubted his ideas - he'll fire off some SCATHING comments and treat her like she's not got two brain cells to tie together. There's plenty more, but I'll tie it off by admitting that the way they first started dating (as complete strangers) was that he came to the shop she worked in and asked her out several times - she'd say 'no... no thank you... I don't know you or your people, so no thanks...' (customer service voice in tact). Eventually, he mentioned he was headed to an event at his family's church - somehow that got her. They broke up for a bit, because mom didn't think it was going anywhere, but he begged her back quickly. Married around a year later, and the rest is history...
You wanna a good song about a positive, evolving relationship? I got you! It's an oldie but one of my favorite "I Will Be Here" by Steven Curtis Chapman. No matter what you believe faith-wise (or not), this is an excellent love song. My favorite lines: I will be here and you can cry on my shoulder When the married tells us we're older, I will hold you And I will be here to watch you grow in beauty and tell you all the things you are too me
I loved... - How you sang and danced - How your love for Alicia is the cutest thing - Your review of this song Song-wise, it'd be fun to therapize Sting's I'll Be Watching You and Maroon 5's She Will Be Loved. Perhaps Cinema Therapy can discuss Uptown Girls [2003], Patch Adams [1998], Legends of the Fall [1994] and/or the 1998 version of Great Expectations. Love your work Jonathan!
I think the song "I Swear" is a pretty good message that touches upon looks and also beyond that and how they'll never stop loving the person they're singing about. "as the time turns the page, my love won't change at all." I always liked that line.
This video is Awesome I love Johnathan's insightful commentary and I Completely Believe the part about Alicia looking Beautiful all the time she is breathtakingly beautiful and seems like a genuinely wonderful person too.
Chewing hair is a nervous affectation. In this case from her body language, it seems like she is expressing that she is receptive to his words and advances. Often times like when a a person sees something like a really really cute animal and and is unable to touch it, the energy can manifest as a type of nervousness or aggression.
Please, please, please therapize: "Didn't I" or "Wanted" by One Republic "Wrinkles" or "We All Fall Down" or "Better Idea" or "Beautiful Mess" by Diamond Rio "Incomplete" by Backstreet Boys "Because Of You" by Reba and Kelly Clarkson "What Hurts The Most" by Rascal Flatts "Don't You Want Me?" by Human League "One More Minute" by Weird Al (This would be hilarious if you therapized it)
i think this was a beautiful song for when it was written, i remember when i was younger i was super self-aware and thinking that i was imperfect so none would ever love me and i wasn´t able to love myself and this tipe of songs change that perspective a little bit, it was like the phrase a friend told me once "you´re not ugly, you´re just not your tipe" and it help me see diferent beauty and apreciate mine a little bit more. P.S. sorry for my english it´s not my first lenguaje
When i first heard this song in Jr high it went immediately on my playlist. Its a dream of mine for someone to see that in me including myself. I have always seen it as the deeper meaning of no matter what you have done or where you have been I will love you.
My teenager self loved this song so much. Now an adult, also a therapist I can see things in a different light. However, my teenager self felt so happy when my higschool boyfriend dedicated that song to me. At that time, years ago, I felt seen and validated with that song. I feel it's a teen song, for that type of love and relationship as an adult I think relationships are more complex and there are better songs that represent that.
"Grow As We Go" by Ben Platt is totally the right song to emulate growing together and loving each other through it. Maybe not perfect, but it's real love to me. I would LOVE to see a reaction to it! Lyrics like, "who said it's true that the growing only happens on your own? They don't know me and you. You don't ever have to leave, if to change is what you need, then you can change right next to me and grow as we go." 💛👏
"Whoever you evolve into I will love" - check out some of Jonathan Coulton's songs, specifically "You Ruined Everything". My husband and I sang it at the karaoke at our wedding reception :D Conversely, the best mockery of the trope "marriage = suburbs + white picket fence, but really we're miserable" is very well portrayed in "Shop Vac". Jonathan Coulton has a lot of really really good songs.
One of my favorite love poems is Shakespeare’s sonnet 130 because he just talks about how, by beauty standards, she's not that pretty but he finds her lovely. It ends with the cuplet "and yet, by heaven, I think my love as rare / as any she belied with false compare". You can be not perfectly beautiful and be loved.
Jonathan! At 8:56 you said you wish there was a song that said no matter who you are I’d love you. If so, please listen to No Matter What from the Steven Universe movie (lots of good songs you should react to, maybe you and Allen could do it on Cinema Therapy sometime). It’s more of a friendship song, but it’s so beautiful and has precisely that message. Love the video!
oooh, I'd love for you to address the song "God only knows" by the beach boys. It starts with "I may not always love you..." and then goes into this romantic declaration of love. It's crazy because it's starts saying, "Hmmm...I don't know if this is going to last." And the whole "God only knows what I'd be without out you" sounds codependent. It's like, "I don't know if I will always love you but I just don't want to be alone with my own mess." And considering it comes from Brian Wilson...it's very telling.
Clicked on the video as I liked the song ten years ago. When you shared your story about your wife, that's so wholesome. That is beautiful to hear. Keep up the good work, Jon.
"Some girls feel so good in their own skin, But it's ok if you want to change the body that you came in Because you look greatest when you feel like a damn queen. We're all just playing a game trying to win at life." ~Most girls, a song I'd love you to react to. I had a yearbook entry that said "don't change for anyone" and I wish I had followed that advice, from the same girl who would sing "listen to your heart" to me. I have since learned to play that song on the piano
I definitely prefer "don't go changing to try and please me, you've never let me down before" to this as it isn't saying change is BAD. or that they don't want their partner to change because they are PERFECT. It is merely saying that their partner doesn't HAVE to change anything to PLEASE them, or to avoid letting THEM down, which I definitely think is a GOOD thing. I would never enter into a relationship with the goal that "if THIS changes then this person would be a great partner for me". We all grow and change as people, and change isn't bad or wrong, but ideally we should love, want and respect our partners for who they are NOW, not for who we might envision they could become in the future.
I've always interpreted this song as Bruno telling his girlfriend he loves who she is as a person, her inner beauty. I love Bruno Mars and this is also one of my favorite songs as well. ❤👨🎶❤👧🎹❤💏
THE WAY I LOVED YOU from Taylor Swift is a great song to get therapized. Every time I listen to it I think "what would Jonathan have to say about this?"
I'm from an older generation that grew up on the ballads of America's Great Songbook. If you want to see some lyrics with an unforgettable melody that follow this theme but are in reality backhanded burns, check out 1937's My Funny Valentine.
I loved this song so much and truthfully I would listen to this song when I just didn’t feel great about myself. I loved the line of just stay the same because to me I always saw it as the maybe the dorkiness you have it this you find are weird about how you act you don’t have to change that because I love you for WHO you are. But that’s just my thought on it
Would love to hear you compare a couple of Montaigne songs as a reaction to healthy and unhealthy relationships - My recommendation would be For Your Love (unhealthy) and always be you (healthy). Just really interesting to see one artist explore their unhealthy relationships and their healthy ones in very different songs. Her other recent songs are mostly about healthy relationships too, but always be you is all about the importance of putting in the work to make a relationship good.
This song actually used to bug me SO MUCHHH, like ever since a really young age, just because it is SO SO SHALLOW!! And like, usually I'm okay with that, there are a lot of songs out there which are like this, but to me, the thing that really really reallyyyyy bugged me, was just the fact that no one (who i, personally, have come across) seemed to acknowledge this, or even be aware??? They all just be singing it with googly heart eyes like "aWwwWwwWW tHis iS sUch a cUte sOng. tHe piNNACLE oF LoVe
although, i do see now that maybe this song is shallow, simply bc the writer didn't quite understand or know how to describe things that weren't superficial or tangible. He had probably grown up being taught that things that look great, are great. Maybe with this girl, he felt things he had never felt before that surpassed any superficial understanding he had of the world. He felt a certain radiant light from her. Maybe he actually did love her for her soul. But he didn't really understand what he was feeling. He went back to what he had been taught, and did the mathematicalness equation: "If things that look great are the only things that are great, and this girl is beyond any level of greatness I've ever come across, that must mean that she looks really great. That is the only option." Either that, or maybe he knows exactly the love he has, but a part of him is still scared to let the world view him any less than a "strong male" so keeps the level of the song at some sort of a basic surface level, as a protective mechachnism of his ego. Doesn't want to make himself truly vulnerable. Which is actually completely understandable, considering that as one of the most well known pop singer, he doesn't just have his friends and family to "prove" himself to, he has THE ENTIRE WORLD! It's one thing alone to become truly vulnerable and show humility to the people closest to you, but no one really wants the whole to see their softest spots. Keeping all of this in mind, it doesn't change how I feel about the song lol, it still makes me want to pUKE, but it does encourage me to be a little more gracious to Bruno Mars in creating it. And all in all, the song is a good representation of real life people, and real life thoughts and reactions, and I do appreciate it for that. thanks again LOLOLOLOL, you truly are a legend. Go have an even better day than you were initially going to UwU
As a Bruno Mars fan, I loved this! You should analyse Bruno Mars’s When I was your man. I think it’s a healthy and mature reaction to a breakup. There’s accountability and the hope that the other was finally able to find someone that actually deserves them!
This hits hard - I have a very low opinion of my body, especially after having my kids, which I’ve been trying to work on. Even looking back when I was THIN, I couldn’t see it!! Even in a committed relationship, it’s hard to understand why my significant other can still love me when I think I look really gross.
I use to love this song! Earlier today I was listening to The Script and thought these would be some good songs to react to, they have interesting relationships.
I didnt think much about this song except for a feel good love song until this video. I thought it was just sweet. It would be great if you therapize BTS' Answer: Love Myself song. It's the theme they used in their collaboration with UNICEF for Love Myself campaign. There's a lot of mental health messages packed in that one song.
I would love for you to react to Joshua Bassett's character Ricky in the High School Musical show. His relationships with his parents and how it affects his dating life is really interesting.
I listen to Mended light while I am doing the dishes but my head snapped when he said “My favorite picture of Aleisha I can never show the world, on my birthday…” I thought this was going to take a awkward turn haha lol🤭
I would love you to react to Justin Bieber’s song Ghost with the focus on grief and healing after the loss of a loved one. I lost my grandfather almost three years ago, to a sudden heart attack, and still to this day my mom and I really struggle with it sometimes. Since then my grandmothers health has been decreasing and we don’t think we’re lucky enough to have her next summer unfortunately. I would love maybe some tips to help me and perhaps help me help my mom through loosing her last parent.
I'm not sure if I'm seeing a theme here, but I'm reminded of your opinion on the Jerry Maguire quote. I haven't seen As Good as It Gets, but a reaction channel I watch is considering this movie, and I'm curious as to what you think about the quote from that movie: You make me want to be a better man.
Your take on this song is a lot more positive than mine is, and it's kind of lovely to see tbh :) I think I've just been a bit put off by Bruno Mars' songs. Especially Grenade which always reminds me of 2 people I (kindly) rejected who got super pissy with me because they were "such nice guys who would give me everything I ever wanted" when in reality they were creeps who started sending me virtual love letters and gifts after I had just been polite to them a couple of times 😐 when I think about it most of his songs are nice in practice, but there's an intensity to it coupled with such a focus on superficial stuff which gives me the eebie jeebies
about Ross: it doesn't matter if he was in the right or in the wrong. his stubbornness and inability to acknowledge his partners feelings is what instantly put him in the wrong. he refused to listen to Rachel and how it made her feel, and he wouldn't even read her letter to him (idc how long it was) explaining her feelings. that is the reason I will always side with Rachel, because he could have ended the entire argument completely multiple times by just validating her feelings and taking a small portion of responsibility for his actions. he never does, which just shows lack of character, empathy and an ability to truly be a partner, which is what everyone deserves.
Dude, when I was in my 20s and watched Friends, I loved Ross. Now, his character comes across as selfish and childish. I think you make a good point here.
@@sorshae.elsbernd6132 he's definitely selfish and doesn't care about shared goals, but rather what he can get out of the relationship with Rachel. As an adult i now see a LOT of red flag behaviors that i would be running from as Rachel, whereas i adored Ross as a kid. Maturity definitely changed my view on a lot of things in regards to him, but i still love his character as a character for the comedic value he added.
I think they were both in the wrong as Rachel stated she wanted to take "a break" but she and Ross never elaborated what that MEANT exactly so there was no understanding of boundaries. No understanding of what one could do or could/should not do. Ross should not have slept with someone else sure but it was not planned or premeditated. I don't take either of their sides because they BOTH failed to communicate and so they both share the blame..and generally, I think Rachel is bit overrated lol..always came off to me as holier-than-thou and on a high-horse and overly judgmental but eh..every character had their issues
I think what always always eventually squicks me out with this song is…the Wedding Bells. Then most of the song is “you’re gorgeous/don’t change.” Which is…fine?? Compliments are good. But “never change” + wedding bells…yeah. THAT combination is what turns it from Sweet to Stifling for me. Every. Time. (But because they come in at the second half of the chorus/verse two respectively, it’s hard to Concrete Remember vs this…sticky vibe if I listen to the full song.)
There was a song made by a youtuber that told a story of an immortal being who falls in love with the same soul over and over again, even though it might not be exactly what you were looking for 😅 "Halo" by Beyonce would be an interesting song to therapize 🙂
Bruno Mars- “Just the Way You Are” Sammy Keyshawn- “She Don’t Know She’s Beautiful” One Direction- “What Makes You Beautiful” Ed Sheeran- “Perfect” I love these songs but I hate the emphasis each one places on appearance. I also hate this narrative of, “She’s so attractive but she has low self-esteem and that makes her even more attractive to me,” especially when the reality is that she knows she’s pretty.
@ Producers, can you have Jon(or is it John?) therapize John Legend's All of You? Oh and sitting here and singing right along with John and the clips of the music video.
Please react to "crazy ex-girlfriend", it's a show about mental illness and the point of view of that person. It's a comedy and musical, Rachel bloom is the protagonist, co-creator, writer, and songwriter of this show. She's amazing and the show is amazing! ❤
Dude...I've been watching Cinema Therapy for 2 years and literally never noticed your nose was crooked. My mind is blown. How often do we focus on a feature we feel is out of place and no one else even notices it!?!
This might just be my opinion, but I kinda disagree Jonathan putting out there what he said of "can't love others until we love ourselves" Yes, there are people who don't love themselves, and still hold on their relationships, but I think if you truly don't know how to love or have actually experienced healthy love(not lust love/bad love?) Then you can't express or show that experience to others through actions. You share what you value, and what you know to others. Thus this is why I agree of the saying "can't love others until you love yourself". Same as"have to take care of yourself before taking care of others".
I would love to see you review the book of life and there is a wonderful shallow relationship misstep in the 1994 movie "the swan princess" and I think you would love it too 😂
I was out for dinner last night with some girlfriends (most of whom have been married for a while) and we all agreed that we want a love song titled 'I don't need a dozen roses, I just need you to take the bins out'.
Look up the video I'll Clean Up for You - Tim Hawkins
@@ashley.g done it. I love Tim Hawkins he's great 👍
I love this idea so much 🤣
That would truly be "amazing just the way you are" 💖
There's a similar song idea from Faith Hill, "Take Me As I Am". She literally says "I don't need a bed of roses" 🤣 She'd rather have someone who accepts her flaws and is honest with her.
I don't think I'll ever get tired of Jonathan gushing over Alicia.
Peak wholesomeness ✨
It's so cute
When you said “No one looks good all the time” I went “well no. My friend always looks great, even in the weirdest situations” but then I realized I just love my friend a lot and think they look good all the time so
I, too, don't believe in "you can't love someone if you don't love yourself" and I just applauded when you said that
same here!
It's refreshing to hear someone else say that the phrase "you can't love others until you love yourself" is untrue. Not only is that not true (because as you said, there are people who hate themselves but pour their soul into their loved ones), but it's incredibly disheartening to be told that because of something that you can't control (you can't magically love yourself just because someone told you to), you are incapable of loving others. It creates a deeper spiral of self-loathing, so please stop saying this to people. It's okay to encourage people to love themselves. It's detrimental to tell them that they are loveless if they can't. It's far more helpful to reassure them that they are loved regardless of their view of themselves, and that you recognize and appreciate your love for others.
A song that talks about loving someone for who they are, but also, for the way that they change and evolve everyday:
"I don't wish to change you
You've got it under control
You wake up each day different
Another reason for me to keep holdin' on
I'm not attached to any way you're showing up
I'm just gonna love you like the woman I love"
-Jason Mraz (Live version, please)
Love Jason Mraz
Alsoooo, Grow as We Go - Ben Platt, is a solid song talking about love through changes.
@@cammihawkins1215 Gonna listen to it!
The way you talk about Alicia is so sweet. I wish more people had those sorts of relationships.
A good think for you to Therapize would be Mahou Shoujo Madoka Magica. It’s very good and chocked full of existential, mental health goodness.
I used to love that song, because I always interpretated it as him singing for a woman that is not naturally perceived as handsome by everyone else. I imagined a regular or even "ugly" considered person where he is one of the only people who see her beauty (inside and out). That really spoke to me since I myself was not one of the pretty girls.
Then I watched the video and was so disappointed because the woman in the video is very beautiful and I think most people would say that. So it's really not that difficult for him to find her pretty. From then on I found the song very shallow.
Now I just decided that I continue to interpret the song as if it's meant for all those people who are not always considered pretty/ gorgeous by everyone. I decide what I want the message of the song to be for me. I still think this message of the song would be clearer if the woman in the video wasn't so extremely good-looking, but that's OK because I don't need to watch the video and I just ignore that part 😅 besides the song doesn't even say what other people think of her. It only states that she herself is apparently self-conscious and doesn't think she's beautiful.
Actually, the lyrics themselves could have easy been meant to be interpreted that way. The pop industry is known to prioritize profit: they want to reach as big of an audience as possible, to make a lot of money. Because of that maybe Bruno's producer or something may have made it that the girl in the video would be very beautiful, but who's to say that this is the girl the songwriter had in mind.
They should have shown many different relationships. Oldies looking at their partner lovingly etc. being beautiful because of your soul. That would have been a lovely message
Agree with all the above. He could have also shown girls after a workout, after waking up, after chasing their kids for hours…
"There are a lot of people who have been taught to be modest and to be humble is a virtue..."
And there are also people who were simply taught that everything about our appearance and actions was wrong no matter what.
I'm (almost) 29. I was 26 or 27 when I finally began being comfortable singing along to songs, out loud, IN MY OWN HOME, and only in the last year or so have I been able to sing along with close family. I've accepted my appearance and physicality but I still don't think I'm attractive, no matter how I do my hair or what I wear or how I act. I struggle to accept compliments or praise even when I'm really proud of something I've done, because the vast majority that I got growing up were shallow, or even false at times.
The song is about one person in the relationship who is self-conscious about her looks and herself as she appears in the world, and the singer is reassuring her that to him, she's beautiful. That she's beautiful as she is, no matter what. And she probably needs to hear that, because maybe she didn't hear it enough from the people she was closest to growing up.
I've never had anyone tell me "you're amazing just the way you are." I've never had someone tell me, explicitly, that there's nothing about me they'd want to change.
No one has ever complimented my smile, or my laugh. Instead I got criticised for my teeth not being right, or opening my mouth too wide, or having bad breath, or being too loud, or at "best" being teased about my laugh. And never anything positive to balance it out.
This song is a dream for someone like me. When I'm feeling like sh**, I'll listen to it and just cry because it simultaneously makes me feel better and reminds me that I don't have anyone who sees me the way the singer sees the subject of his song. But it also reminds me that, maybe, just maybe, one day there will be someone like that in my life. (Or, maybe it's just a fantasy...)
P.S. As for the "if perfect's what you're searching for then just stay the same" - yeah, that one can be iffy, but what if this song is being sung (or rather, the message being given) many times over the span of a long relationship? What if we choose to interpret it as "just stay you, whoever you are"? Remember, if you go looking for negativity, you're going to find it.
I want a vlog series where Jonothan reacts to Crazy Ex Girlfriend. If I can’t get a reaction to the show as a whole, could I get reactions to the songs “settle for me”, “you ruined everything”, and “ Put yourself first”?
Can I add "A Diagnosis" and "Anti-depressants are so not a big deal" to that list? I know they are much, much later in the show and therefore spoilers, but like... I need reactions to them.
I would LOVE a series of reactions to Crazy Ex Girlfriend. So many excellent topics to discuss relating to relationship dynamics, mental health, self discovery, etc
YESSSS PLEASEERE THIS SHOW IS SOOO GOOODDDD
Yes please!
The last birthday card my beautiful grandmother ever gave me was the one she ordered for my 21st birthday - it was a beautiful, big 3D cake that literally LIT UP a rainbow of colors and a cover of this song played on repeat. It came in a few days after she passed away, (she passed away the day of my 21st birthday) and I cried all day.
She always loved, adored, and accepted me for exactly who I was, when I never felt like anybody else loved me that way. I always knew her love for me was true, and she was the light of my life.
Now I must live without it, but every day I hope she's still with me, watching over me.
Can we just appreciate the vocals from this man?😭😭 Wow😍 Don’t ever stop✨💕
Grow as we Go by Ben Platt is the best song because it talks about how you can grow together in a relationship.
This one is good too, though
I love how naturally you admit your appreciation for your wife - as a person, and aesthetically.
My parents have been together for almost 40 years (married for 37), and my mom has admitted to me that she doesn't think my dad even thinks she's pretty or capable. My dad's an unrepentant, manipulative narcissist (among other things) - and it's very clear to me why she says that. He treats her like a dumb, petulant child. In times past, he's made backhanded comments (several in public/in front of her friends/coworkers/family) about how she's trying to be like He-Man (for using weighted machines at the gym), how her wrists and hands (before her significant weight gain) were too thick for most jewelry... on and on. He won't stand for accountability, and if he even thinks she's misunderstood or doubted his ideas - he'll fire off some SCATHING comments and treat her like she's not got two brain cells to tie together. There's plenty more, but I'll tie it off by admitting that the way they first started dating (as complete strangers) was that he came to the shop she worked in and asked her out several times - she'd say 'no... no thank you... I don't know you or your people, so no thanks...' (customer service voice in tact). Eventually, he mentioned he was headed to an event at his family's church - somehow that got her. They broke up for a bit, because mom didn't think it was going anywhere, but he begged her back quickly. Married around a year later, and the rest is history...
I understand the message, but what I learned from this video is just how much you love Alicia, and I’m all for it 🥰
You wanna a good song about a positive, evolving relationship? I got you! It's an oldie but one of my favorite "I Will Be Here" by Steven Curtis Chapman. No matter what you believe faith-wise (or not), this is an excellent love song.
My favorite lines:
I will be here and you can cry on my shoulder
When the married tells us we're older, I will hold you
And I will be here to watch you grow in beauty
and tell you all the things you are too me
I love this song so much I'm so glad Johnathan is covering it.
What you wanted to say was not " Whoever you evolve into, I will love", it's "I will love every version of you"
Bruno Mars is fantastic. I adore that man and his music.
2:33- Me in a nutshell.
4:56- I was very close to getting angry at you, sir. It's okay now.
3:05 Jono calling my past self out so effortlessly yet again. Never change hahah. I’m just glad that that’s my past self
I loved...
- How you sang and danced
- How your love for Alicia is the cutest thing
- Your review of this song
Song-wise, it'd be fun to therapize Sting's I'll Be Watching You and Maroon 5's She Will Be Loved.
Perhaps Cinema Therapy can discuss Uptown Girls [2003], Patch Adams [1998], Legends of the Fall [1994] and/or the 1998 version of Great Expectations.
Love your work Jonathan!
I love Bruno. Amazing singer and a real person. I love honest people even if they are famous, honesty is the best policy.
I think the song "I Swear" is a pretty good message that touches upon looks and also beyond that and how they'll never stop loving the person they're singing about.
"as the time turns the page, my love won't change at all."
I always liked that line.
Love this Johnathan. I recommend Bruno Mars It Will Rain.
From the Dad dancing to gushing over Alicia, this video is 👌🥰 ✨️
This video is Awesome I love Johnathan's insightful commentary and I Completely Believe the part about Alicia looking Beautiful all the time she is breathtakingly beautiful and seems like a genuinely wonderful person too.
Chewing hair is a nervous affectation. In this case from her body language, it seems like she is expressing that she is receptive to his words and advances. Often times like when a a person sees something like a really really cute animal and and is unable to touch it, the energy can manifest as a type of nervousness or aggression.
Please, please, please therapize:
"Didn't I" or "Wanted" by One Republic
"Wrinkles" or "We All Fall Down" or "Better Idea" or "Beautiful Mess" by Diamond Rio
"Incomplete" by Backstreet Boys
"Because Of You" by Reba and Kelly Clarkson
"What Hurts The Most" by Rascal Flatts
"Don't You Want Me?" by Human League
"One More Minute" by Weird Al (This would be hilarious if you therapized it)
When they use this song glee as Finn apologizing to Kurt it is a wonderful moment of character development for both of them
i think this was a beautiful song for when it was written, i remember when i was younger i was super self-aware and thinking that i was imperfect so none would ever love me and i wasn´t able to love myself and this tipe of songs change that perspective a little bit, it was like the phrase a friend told me once "you´re not ugly, you´re just not your tipe" and it help me see diferent beauty and apreciate mine a little bit more.
P.S. sorry for my english it´s not my first lenguaje
When i first heard this song in Jr high it went immediately on my playlist. Its a dream of mine for someone to see that in me including myself. I have always seen it as the deeper meaning of no matter what you have done or where you have been I will love you.
My teenager self loved this song so much. Now an adult, also a therapist I can see things in a different light. However, my teenager self felt so happy when my higschool boyfriend dedicated that song to me. At that time, years ago, I felt seen and validated with that song. I feel it's a teen song, for that type of love and relationship as an adult I think relationships are more complex and there are better songs that represent that.
"Grow As We Go" by Ben Platt is totally the right song to emulate growing together and loving each other through it. Maybe not perfect, but it's real love to me. I would LOVE to see a reaction to it!
Lyrics like, "who said it's true that the growing only happens on your own? They don't know me and you. You don't ever have to leave, if to change is what you need, then you can change right next to me and grow as we go." 💛👏
I love this series about the messages we have been fed through pop media! please keep them coming! :) I've learnt so much
"Whoever you evolve into I will love" - check out some of Jonathan Coulton's songs, specifically "You Ruined Everything". My husband and I sang it at the karaoke at our wedding reception :D
Conversely, the best mockery of the trope "marriage = suburbs + white picket fence, but really we're miserable" is very well portrayed in "Shop Vac".
Jonathan Coulton has a lot of really really good songs.
0:10 sounds good!
One of my favorite love poems is Shakespeare’s sonnet 130 because he just talks about how, by beauty standards, she's not that pretty but he finds her lovely. It ends with the cuplet "and yet, by heaven, I think my love as rare / as any she belied with false compare". You can be not perfectly beautiful and be loved.
Jonathan! At 8:56 you said you wish there was a song that said no matter who you are I’d love you. If so, please listen to No Matter What from the Steven Universe movie (lots of good songs you should react to, maybe you and Allen could do it on Cinema Therapy sometime). It’s more of a friendship song, but it’s so beautiful and has precisely that message. Love the video!
7:44 i love that song by billy joel, but my favorite is Always a Woman. that'd be a good one to react to.
oooh, I'd love for you to address the song "God only knows" by the beach boys. It starts with "I may not always love you..." and then goes into this romantic declaration of love. It's crazy because it's starts saying, "Hmmm...I don't know if this is going to last." And the whole "God only knows what I'd be without out you" sounds codependent. It's like, "I don't know if I will always love you but I just don't want to be alone with my own mess." And considering it comes from Brian Wilson...it's very telling.
8:48 Grow as We Go by Ben Platt! Please do that one!
Clicked on the video as I liked the song ten years ago. When you shared your story about your wife, that's so wholesome. That is beautiful to hear. Keep up the good work, Jon.
"Some girls feel so good in their own skin, But it's ok if you want to change the body that you came in Because you look greatest when you feel like a damn queen. We're all just playing a game trying to win at life." ~Most girls, a song I'd love you to react to. I had a yearbook entry that said "don't change for anyone" and I wish I had followed that advice, from the same girl who would sing "listen to your heart" to me. I have since learned to play that song on the piano
I would love to hear you therapize Flaws and All by Beyonce.
Also, I love how much you love your wife. It's the cutest thing 😍
Just found my new comfort yt channel ♡
Omg, I snort-laughed at “That’s how hot I am- I make you want to eat your hair.” 😂
I definitely prefer "don't go changing to try and please me, you've never let me down before" to this as it isn't saying change is BAD. or that they don't want their partner to change because they are PERFECT. It is merely saying that their partner doesn't HAVE to change anything to PLEASE them, or to avoid letting THEM down, which I definitely think is a GOOD thing. I would never enter into a relationship with the goal that "if THIS changes then this person would be a great partner for me". We all grow and change as people, and change isn't bad or wrong, but ideally we should love, want and respect our partners for who they are NOW, not for who we might envision they could become in the future.
I've always interpreted this song as Bruno telling his girlfriend he loves who she is as a person, her inner beauty. I love Bruno Mars and this is also one of my favorite songs as well. ❤👨🎶❤👧🎹❤💏
THE WAY I LOVED YOU from Taylor Swift is a great song to get therapized. Every time I listen to it I think "what would Jonathan have to say about this?"
I'm from an older generation that grew up on the ballads of America's Great Songbook. If you want to see some lyrics with an unforgettable melody that follow this theme but are in reality backhanded burns, check out 1937's My Funny Valentine.
I loved this song so much and truthfully I would listen to this song when I just didn’t feel great about myself. I loved the line of just stay the same because to me I always saw it as the maybe the dorkiness you have it this you find are weird about how you act you don’t have to change that because I love you for WHO you are. But that’s just my thought on it
definitely
Would love to hear you compare a couple of Montaigne songs as a reaction to healthy and unhealthy relationships - My recommendation would be For Your Love (unhealthy) and always be you (healthy). Just really interesting to see one artist explore their unhealthy relationships and their healthy ones in very different songs.
Her other recent songs are mostly about healthy relationships too, but always be you is all about the importance of putting in the work to make a relationship good.
Loved the video! Can you talk about dealing with insecurities and never feeling good enough please? :)
This song actually used to bug me SO MUCHHH, like ever since a really young age, just because it is SO SO SHALLOW!! And like, usually I'm okay with that, there are a lot of songs out there which are like this, but to me, the thing that really really reallyyyyy bugged me, was just the fact that no one (who i, personally, have come across) seemed to acknowledge this, or even be aware??? They all just be singing it with googly heart eyes like "aWwwWwwWW tHis iS sUch a cUte sOng. tHe piNNACLE oF LoVe
although, i do see now that maybe this song is shallow, simply bc the writer didn't quite understand or know how to describe things that weren't superficial or tangible. He had probably grown up being taught that things that look great, are great. Maybe with this girl, he felt things he had never felt before that surpassed any superficial understanding he had of the world. He felt a certain radiant light from her. Maybe he actually did love her for her soul. But he didn't really understand what he was feeling. He went back to what he had been taught, and did the mathematicalness equation:
"If things that look great are the only things that are great, and this girl is beyond any level of greatness I've ever come across, that must mean that she looks really great. That is the only option."
Either that, or maybe he knows exactly the love he has, but a part of him is still scared to let the world view him any less than a "strong male" so keeps the level of the song at some sort of a basic surface level, as a protective mechachnism of his ego. Doesn't want to make himself truly vulnerable.
Which is actually completely understandable, considering that as one of the most well known pop singer, he doesn't just have his friends and family to "prove" himself to, he has THE ENTIRE WORLD!
It's one thing alone to become truly vulnerable and show humility to the people closest to you, but no one really wants the whole to see their softest spots.
Keeping all of this in mind, it doesn't change how I feel about the song lol, it still makes me want to pUKE, but it does encourage me to be a little more gracious to Bruno Mars in creating it.
And all in all, the song is a good representation of real life people, and real life thoughts and reactions, and I do appreciate it for that.
thanks again LOLOLOLOL, you truly are a legend.
Go have an even better day than you were initially going to UwU
As a Bruno Mars fan, I loved this! You should analyse Bruno Mars’s When I was your man. I think it’s a healthy and mature reaction to a breakup. There’s accountability and the hope that the other was finally able to find someone that actually deserves them!
I think the song that says “Whoever you evolve into, I will love” is “Grow As We Go” by Ben Platt
This hits hard - I have a very low opinion of my body, especially after having my kids, which I’ve been trying to work on. Even looking back when I was THIN, I couldn’t see it!! Even in a committed relationship, it’s hard to understand why my significant other can still love me when I think I look really gross.
I love it when I come for content, and I get wife admiration and loving time 💛
Many people enter a relationship thinking they can change or control a person to their will. They would be personally offended by this song.
I just found out today that you had a solo channel, bless the gods
I use to love this song! Earlier today I was listening to The Script and thought these would be some good songs to react to, they have interesting relationships.
You sing well! I love it! I also love your dancing moves, so cute!
Great video, as always! I would loooove to hear you therapizing "She's a always a woman" by Billy Joel, it has loooots of interesting metaphors))
I didnt think much about this song except for a feel good love song until this video. I thought it was just sweet.
It would be great if you therapize BTS' Answer: Love Myself song. It's the theme they used in their collaboration with UNICEF for Love Myself campaign. There's a lot of mental health messages packed in that one song.
Because you are amazing just like Bruno Mars.
Song about love and growing together? Ben Platt, 'Grow as we go"
I would love for you to react to Joshua Bassett's character Ricky in the High School Musical show. His relationships with his parents and how it affects his dating life is really interesting.
I'd love to hear your thoughts on Grenade. That one, in my opinion, is a hot mess psychologically speaking.
The song you are looking for is "Grow as You Go" by Ben Platt
8:54, please do Ben Platt's Grow As We Go
I listen to Mended light while I am doing the dishes but my head snapped when he said “My favorite picture of Aleisha I can never show the world, on my birthday…” I thought this was going to take a awkward turn haha lol🤭
I would love you to react to Justin Bieber’s song Ghost with the focus on grief and healing after the loss of a loved one. I lost my grandfather almost three years ago, to a sudden heart attack, and still to this day my mom and I really struggle with it sometimes. Since then my grandmothers health has been decreasing and we don’t think we’re lucky enough to have her next summer unfortunately. I would love maybe some tips to help me and perhaps help me help my mom through loosing her last parent.
Oohh, a really good song that talks about growth and change in a relationship is "Grow As We Go" by Ben Platt
Please react to comedians talking about mental health, Taylor Tomlinson has bipolar and she talks a lot about this
What about therapizing John Lennon's IMAGINE ???
I'm not sure if I'm seeing a theme here, but I'm reminded of your opinion on the Jerry Maguire quote. I haven't seen As Good as It Gets, but a reaction channel I watch is considering this movie, and I'm curious as to what you think about the quote from that movie:
You make me want to be a better man.
Could you do this for the Killers cause I think it could be really fun. Love your work :)
Your take on this song is a lot more positive than mine is, and it's kind of lovely to see tbh :) I think I've just been a bit put off by Bruno Mars' songs. Especially Grenade which always reminds me of 2 people I (kindly) rejected who got super pissy with me because they were "such nice guys who would give me everything I ever wanted" when in reality they were creeps who started sending me virtual love letters and gifts after I had just been polite to them a couple of times 😐 when I think about it most of his songs are nice in practice, but there's an intensity to it coupled with such a focus on superficial stuff which gives me the eebie jeebies
Really loving this series, Jono! ❤🎵Can you do "You're timeless to me" from Hairspray?
Can we rename this video Jonathan gushing over his wife for 11 minutes and 57 seconds?
Fr though, great video:)
Could you do Young and Beautiful by Lana Del Rey?
about Ross: it doesn't matter if he was in the right or in the wrong. his stubbornness and inability to acknowledge his partners feelings is what instantly put him in the wrong. he refused to listen to Rachel and how it made her feel, and he wouldn't even read her letter to him (idc how long it was) explaining her feelings. that is the reason I will always side with Rachel, because he could have ended the entire argument completely multiple times by just validating her feelings and taking a small portion of responsibility for his actions. he never does, which just shows lack of character, empathy and an ability to truly be a partner, which is what everyone deserves.
Dude, when I was in my 20s and watched Friends, I loved Ross. Now, his character comes across as selfish and childish. I think you make a good point here.
@@sorshae.elsbernd6132 he's definitely selfish and doesn't care about shared goals, but rather what he can get out of the relationship with Rachel. As an adult i now see a LOT of red flag behaviors that i would be running from as Rachel, whereas i adored Ross as a kid. Maturity definitely changed my view on a lot of things in regards to him, but i still love his character as a character for the comedic value he added.
@@crashliep absolutely! And David Schwimmer is a brilliant actor!
@@sorshae.elsbernd6132 agreed!
I think they were both in the wrong as Rachel stated she wanted to take "a break" but she and Ross never elaborated what that MEANT exactly so there was no understanding of boundaries. No understanding of what one could do or could/should not do. Ross should not have slept with someone else sure but it was not planned or premeditated. I don't take either of their sides because they BOTH failed to communicate and so they both share the blame..and generally, I think Rachel is bit overrated lol..always came off to me as holier-than-thou and on a high-horse and overly judgmental but eh..every character had their issues
I think what always always eventually squicks me out with this song is…the Wedding Bells. Then most of the song is “you’re gorgeous/don’t change.” Which is…fine?? Compliments are good. But “never change” + wedding bells…yeah. THAT combination is what turns it from Sweet to Stifling for me. Every. Time. (But because they come in at the second half of the chorus/verse two respectively, it’s hard to Concrete Remember vs this…sticky vibe if I listen to the full song.)
Please do a series on Pink. Basically, So What onwards.
There was a song made by a youtuber that told a story of an immortal being who falls in love with the same soul over and over again, even though it might not be exactly what you were looking for 😅
"Halo" by Beyonce would be an interesting song to therapize 🙂
Also, the song "Something Just Like This" by Chainsmokers and Coldplay
Consistent internal negative self talk means it's really difficult to take a compliment or praise from anyone.
If you want a song about loving the person your so turns into, try Grow as We Go by Ben Platt.
you sing sooo well! can we see more singing jono? ☺️
Bruno Mars- “Just the Way You Are” Sammy Keyshawn- “She Don’t Know She’s Beautiful”
One Direction- “What Makes You Beautiful”
Ed Sheeran- “Perfect”
I love these songs but I hate the emphasis each one places on appearance. I also hate this narrative of, “She’s so attractive but she has low self-esteem and that makes her even more attractive to me,” especially when the reality is that she knows she’s pretty.
@ Producers, can you have Jon(or is it John?) therapize John Legend's All of You?
Oh and sitting here and singing right along with John and the clips of the music video.
Please react to "crazy ex-girlfriend", it's a show about mental illness and the point of view of that person.
It's a comedy and musical, Rachel bloom is the protagonist, co-creator, writer, and songwriter of this show.
She's amazing and the show is amazing! ❤
this is the song my little brother sings to me (he has autism and I helped raise him so we are close)
Dude...I've been watching Cinema Therapy for 2 years and literally never noticed your nose was crooked. My mind is blown. How often do we focus on a feature we feel is out of place and no one else even notices it!?!
Right? And while I plan to fix my teeth I'm not going to touch the nose. I love my nose
This might just be my opinion, but I kinda disagree Jonathan putting out there what he said of "can't love others until we love ourselves" Yes, there are people who don't love themselves, and still hold on their relationships, but I think if you truly don't know how to love or have actually experienced healthy love(not lust love/bad love?) Then you can't express or show that experience to others through actions. You share what you value, and what you know to others. Thus this is why I agree of the saying "can't love others until you love yourself". Same as"have to take care of yourself before taking care of others".
A really really good song (it’s heavy, both musically and lyrically) to cover would be Hush by HELLYEAH!!!
"The nicer way of writing that"... I think grow as we go, sung by the dear Evan Hanson guy
Please, could you dive into This is us? Specially Kate and Toby relationship or Jack and Rebecca
Please!!!
hey jonathan,i think it would be interesting if you did a take on the whole selena and camilla body shaming thing as a future episode
Can you do one on the Notebook or even Cinematherapy :)
I would love to see you review the book of life and there is a wonderful shallow relationship misstep in the 1994 movie "the swan princess" and I think you would love it too 😂