GRWM & TALK ABOUT SURVIVING DIVORCE | MELISSA SOLDERA
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It’s fascinating that you kept your assets separate when you married so young. Most people don’t I think. Its really about emotional maturity. Bravo to you both.
My mom’s a financial planner lol I was well guided
@@MelissaSolderaI preach this to my very young girls as well. ❤
@MelissaSoldera maybe you could do a video about what your mom told you. Maybe she could join. ❤
I remember when I was getting a divorce after 28 years, one of my friends told me that one day you will sit down on your couch, light a candle, and feel peaceful. At the time it was hard for me to imagine, but I can remember the very minute that it happened! Love you, Melissa!
Hi Mel I know usually we talk in french but in order for everyone to see: Im so sorry you didnt have somebody to talk to during your divorce😢And to everybody here: Mel was there for me and she is like a sister you can be yourself with and talk about the good/bad/ugly❤thank you for being you and being available to empower this conversation!!!!🥹
Awwww Karine!! 🥰🫶🏼 je t’envoie plein d’amour❤️❤️❤️
I think this is a good video even for myself, married SAHM. Marriage is hard and we sometimes forget what truly matters. It is so important for our kids to see how to properly handle things. Not only that but to always look on the bright side. It really does improve the mood of things. ❤️
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That’s called Law of Assumption, where you change the way you think about yourself & your life, and the universe shows you evidence of what your beliefs are.
It’s a game changer and more ppl need to know how they can create great things in their lives by changing their mindset & their self-value.
I didn’t know that that’s what it was called but so much yes to what you said!
Mel thank you for being continuously frank and open. Personally I think that you speaking to the world about your life experiences is extremely valuable. The voices of women need to be heard. You being brave enough to share supports and uplifts others. I've been watching your videos for years and am glad to see you so happy now.
Melissa, thank you for this talk. I'm not divorced but my husband of nearly 38 years passed away last year and there are similarities in how those losses affect people. I've always been strong in a lot of areas but losing someone also made me feel at a loss as to how I do the things I want to do without the person I planned to do them with. For me, the idea of traveling on my own has been intimidating. However, even though I've booked the trip to Paris and leave next week all my fears of what could go wrong are creeping back. Today, I'm going to focus on what will go right and put that out in the universe thanks to you.
Im so sorry for your loss, I can’t imagine. Im sending you all the positive and healing vibes!!! You got this Patricia❤️sending you a huge hug!
@@MelissaSoldera Thanks for the vote of confidence! It will be a great trip!
Thank you for sharing Mel. You're amazing, truly amazing. I've watched you for a couple of year now, and I can resonate with this having gone through a divorce myself. I send a big hug for being brave and sharing with all of us. ❤
This was so valuable to hear. I'm not in this situation but I feel this video so important. I'm sorry to hear about what you've gone through♥️
I’m going through a divorce now and just really needed to hear your message. Thank you for sharing this… you have no idea how much it helps. I keep repeating your line… “the stability you had in an unstable relationship….” Wow!
Thank you so much for these video. You have no idea how much you've helped me.
Thanks Mel! This was beautiful… didn’t even know I needed to hear some of this. ❤
Wow! I’m so happy you’re happy ❤
Thanks for making me cry. Whenever something touches me I cry. Especially because I’m going through all this. I’m not married, but in the same relationship for 22 years. It’s toxic and we have a 19 year old who has witnessed a lot. Makes me sad that he had to see all the fighting and arguing. I feel like this is gonna be my life. Since the pandemic. All I do is stress eat. I’ve gained lots of weight. So insecure. I was already. It made it worse and I stay in. I probably need thousands of hours of therapy. I hope I can get out of this. I’m always sucked back in. Thank you so much!
Wishing you the strength to get through this difficult time. 🙏🏻💕
Sooo good much needed today❤
I agree with keeping assets separate! 4 years married, about to be 29 years old we don’t share any accounts or assets and it’s the best thing for us !
Hi Melissa! Thanks for doing this video. Not many people discuss how lonely and isolating divorce is. I have finally started over. Divorce will be final next month and I have moved to a luxury apartment home. I was married for 27 years. We raised 3 amazing children who are all adults now. I am loving my new independence. My only regret is that I didn’t do this sooner. I was too afraid. Now I am older and afraid my best years are behind me. I lost some friends and in laws who I thought we’re family through this process. I hope to date one day soon but for now I am learning me.
Thanks again for sharing
im cryin ... thank you for sharin ...
Wow wow ....long time follower and I could not be more impressed with my dear friend! ❤❤❤
Great q and a video ❤😊
Handbag collection next!
November 10th will be my handbag collection video
Such beautiful makeup :*
In general I think we find it hard to speak to others about things not going how we expect them to. I'm mod pregnancy have felt horrible and it took me telling everyone about it for weeks for my entire family of women to crack and say yes they were just as bad and it seems to be part of a family thing with having difficult pregnancies. But it took them weeks of asking me how I was and me expressing how bad it was. I was surprised because they could have saved me a lot of trouble had they told me it was a family thing and I would have known it wasn't going to change or get better and would have taken treatment right away rather than trying to ride it out. I don't want to say it's lack of solidarity I think it's honestly our blaming of ourselves and feeling like a failure that we don't want to disclose that. Shame attached to it. So happy you were able to get out of depression and that you're in a good place with yourself to feel comfortable speaking about your experience without believing the narrative of it reflecting on who you are in any way. I've followed you for a long time I am happy to see you talk about feeling stronger :)
You’re such a good mom
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Are you able to talk about tips on copareting?
What is the blush shade color?
Excellent video🙏🏼
Mel the separate property is fascinating but didn’t you live in a communal property/marital residence or did one of you inherit ? Very interesting video !
When you significant other know you believe in til death due us part they will take you through hell because they know that you will try to keep the marriage together.
I never thought of it like that, that’s so valid
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Hi. Is it Canada like here in US that the kids split between parents or 1 week one then 1 week the other? And is custody of the kids split 1/2 and 1/2? Who decides in Canada the logistics? The courts or the parents themselves?
If parents are in agreement it wouldn't make sense for courts to have to butt in. I don't know anything about it but although challenging two mature people who can agree should be able to sort it out in my opinion
that all sounds ideal, I wanted to learn about the logistic in another country because the one here I know very well, and maturity is not really that determining but more the law.@@dragamboazulinqiacupuntura122
Thank you for this video. I have been separated from my ex for 3 years. He has dated for 2 1/2. I started dating in March. He has kept his girlfriend secret from my children the whole time however after dating a few months myself I decided to tell my 14 year old daughter since I really like this person. She did not take it well and basically said that she wants me happy however does not want me to talk about it nor does she want to see him. The mom guilt is so hard to deal with. Do I let my kids rule my life forever and keep everything a secret or do I choose my happiness to? I love them so much and don't want to hurt them. My and and I are like yours. Still friends most of the time. Still do things as a family for the kids. My kids don't want any change to that or any new people. Its so hard.
Talk to a professional. Better help has online people so it feels less daring. Because this seems like a really tight spot. Glad your daughter wants you to be happy, that's nice to hear. Sending hugs
I been divorced almost 4 years. My daughter was 13 at that time. Me and my daughter are siesta been very close. But She didt not like the idea that any other man will come to our life beside her daddy. I gave my daughter her time.. Bcz it’s too much to handle for kids. Now she is very happy for me she get along so well with my boyfriend…
I would say kids needs time. Specially teen girls. Try to be her friend and mother when needed. Things will definitely work out for you. 🙏🏻❤
@@ayeshachaudhry750 thank you so much!
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You look so pretty! Have you done any work on your face ?
Thank you❤️ Just my maintenance Botox and filler in my lips
@@MelissaSoldera I think your eye makeup suits you very well x
I wish women’s happiness wasn’t so wrapped up in men.
I see it more in others... Men, women, society, children. Yes we want the best for others but we need to be well to be able to be our best loving selfs
You mentioned in a previous video having a high expectation for a ring. Can you say more how that jives with being so young and poor?
I worked in a luxury department store- I was broke and had credit cards. My budget didn’t match my expectations- I’m pretty sure a lot of us have been there.
@@MelissaSolderaoh yes 😂
We never get to know what's on your lips... 😢❤
Great q and a video ❤😊
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