How to Motivate Yourself: Leverage Dopamine & Overcome Your Excuses
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Do you want to know the surprising truth about #motivation?
Right now, think about something you want to change or improve.
How do you make lasting and powerful changes and life improvements? And how do you keep going even when you don’t have the motivation to do it?
If change was easy, we’d all have six-pack abs and a million dollars in the bank.
And that’s where this episode comes in: Mel is here to teach you the HOW.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- How to self-motivate so you can take action
- What dopamine is and how it’s linked to motivation
- The simple steps you can take today to tap back into your internal drive
- The 2 truths about motivation that you are forgetting
- The research-backed reason you continue, initiate, or quit something
- What to do when someone you love is losing motivation
- The real reason you cannot #motivate others
- How to cope with not getting something you have been working towards
- How to navigate feeling “behind” or in a “comparison game”
- How to pick yourself back up when you feel like life’s punched you in the face
- The first (and most important) step in understanding what drives your motivation
- One powerful question to ask yourself when you feel “stuck”
- What role #dreams and #goals play (and it’s not always to achieve them)
- How to hack the moment of hesitation we all feel
- The most powerful reframe you need about failing
- How to get clear about the direction you are going in without wandering aimlessly
- Mel’s 5-second rule that will move you towards action (even when you are not motivated)
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In this episode:
00:00 Intro
02:11: That painful moment of rejection that bursts your motivation.
07:22: What NOT to do when someone you love gets rejected.
08:34: What to do after life punches you in the face.
16:52: What is motivation, anyway?
18:24: The chemical that motivation relies on and why you need to know.
24:41: One of the most important hacks to help you stir up motivation again.
35:21: Three powerful words from advertising history that will change you.
40:02: A powerful mantra Mel wants you to repeat when you don’t feel like it.
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It’s often getting started that’s the hardest part. If you dare yourself to do just 5-10 mins of the thing you need to do, it often results in much longer or seeing the task through to completion. ✔️
I am going to try it!
so true! starting is the biggest challenege
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Something I have experienced as a woman going through menopause and how that affects motivation when hormones/health are NOT in balance... it plays a HUGE part so if this might be you and all of these strategies still aren't working or you just are not DOING IT... give yourself grace and compassion and get your hormones and health checked out... that could very well play a role! Hugs!
this is a great reminder, thank you
Oh my gosh I really needed this! I have PMDD and starting perimenopause the hormones are out of control and I feel so bad that I can't put these things into practice 2 weeks of the month. I really appreciate your message.
Day 11 in 2024 and I already needed to hear this!
I am so grateful for this channel ❤
Our son had a similar experience. I heard this tip to tell h s seniors applying to their “dream” school. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket. Apply to a school you know they will accept you and also apply to your top 3-4 schools at the same time when you apply to your dream school.
Last advice came from a Univ professor told our son when he didn’t get accepted to the major at his dream school. “You have the grades & the discipline, GO WHERE YOU ARE LOVED”. Our son choose his no 2 school and they offered him 60% academic schokarship for all 4 years. He got so much work experience from that school for his employment after graduation.
11:15 at least he's not Black.*could be worse* #itsallProvidence
It took so many years for me to admit that my problem is not giving my all to what i want to become or do. I knew i was not but i never sincere enough to admit it. Here i am at a point tired, burned out, feeling lost and failed on things I've not tried enough to achieve or succeed, giving continuous excuses to quit and procrastinate waiting for the motivation that would never come. The shift happens now. I'd not wait for anything to come or happen. Thank you Mel! ❤
Step one: Remind yourself of why this matters?
Step two: Just Do it! ✔
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Precise,,, concise, achievable!!!
I was recently surprised to learn I’m especially motivated by purpose/impact on others. For example, it’s hard to keep exercising for my own sake 🤷🏻♀️, but if I tie it to maybe inspiring others by showing them change is possible for them too,… it helps!
My favorite saying, thought about getting it tattooed lol just do it!!
Always love when someone takes the time to summarise her 9 hr. videos. If I already don't have the motivation or energy for something, where am I suddenly miraculously going to find it to listen to a video I don't have time for.
"And in case no one else tells you today, let me be the one to say I love you and I believe in your ability to create a better life"
I just want to thank you Mel, for being a beacon in my life. I've never had people in my life who told me these things. So the ending to your videos is like a verbal hug that I look forward to.
You don't have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.
This is so true! "DO IT!" I heard Harrison Ford say, "Use the Force? NO! FORCE YOURSELF!!" And, I never forgot it. It's even better when you take inspired action. When you FEEL something come through, and it is SO powerful that you slip right into action with a firery passion that yanks you into it beyond your control. I hope everyone can find their passion. If not, well, they have Mel Robbins to give them an idea of how the human mind needs activation.
I love this podcast! Always grateful for Mel Robbins 🙏 Thank you! Your 2024 workbook is on point. It got me to see more clearly what it is I have been doing and why. When I am called to go back and reference what I wrote, I see there is always more to the story that is my life 🔥
Spot on!!!❤
2 months ago, a higher management position was redacted. I totally feel unmotivated to continue my current position. However, I have a job, unlike many these days. So till I find that job that tics all the boxes I continue on.
I live by goals.. I'm ADHD diagnosed. That's what keeps me going. I listen to you daily as my routine. I have to. You're my lil BIG voice in my head. ❤
Do you have any advice or tips to keep going and achieve goals? I was diagnosed 2 years ago and only started medication treatment 4 months ago. I’m struggling with adjusting to different meds and treatment
I’ve been struggling with motivation for a long time. Thank you for talking about it and humanizing this struggle. Especially if people struggle with depression and anxiety- avolition becomes a big obstacle!
"How do you need me to support you today?" Thank you! This is the greatest question ever!
00:02 Understanding self-motivation is key to tapping into drive
02:16 Waiting for a college decision with excitement and nerves.
06:44 Dealing with rejections and setbacks
09:02 Learning to self-motivate after rejection is crucial.
13:28 Understanding the science behind motivation and leveraging dopamine.
15:45 Motivation is the general desire or willingness to act in a certain way.
19:57 Dopamine levels are tied to craving and motivation.
21:56 Motivation is not reliable in tough situations
26:07 Understand what you want and why you want it for self-motivation
28:13 Knowing your why is crucial for self-motivation
32:26 Motivation is about feeling like doing something.
34:26 Motivation is just a feeling.
38:35 Just do it: Push through the hesitation
40:48 Failing at full speed is crucial for overcoming challenges.
45:16 Only you know how much you have to give
47:20 You have greatness inside you.
I got my happy bum to the gym this morning. First real exercise in months.
Hey there! Oakley for the win! 🏆 The Oakley story hit home, resonating so deeply. Your narration brought out the essence of his journey and how it pushed him to transform into the person he aspired to be. In my late 30s, I've been on a similar path, chasing evolving dreams. It takes time, right?
Personally, navigating those small emotional hiccups and defending the positive vibes is a daily task. Your episode taught me a valuable lesson-being the conductor and narrator of your story. Talking myself into it, realizing I deserve every bit of success, has been a game-changer. It's a journey that often reveals itself in moments of struggle.
Big thanks to Mel and Oakley! Your stories have added a meaningful chapter to my life. 😅😊😂🙏💫👊
I’ve planned to become a multi millionaire. I’m just getting out of burnout for 9 months. I’m going to work hard and I needed this!🤩🤩🤩
BEWARE:
*Avoid hustle culture. Work hard but in a healthy way*
Life taught me to work smarter and harder too, but in a healthy way not where you work from 5 pm until 4 am in the morning.
This is my warning to you.
Be ambitious.
But beware of pitfalls that these gurus tell you - yes hard work is gonna be put in, but it isn’t all I need to do.
Yes my husband worked for 30 years at a company that just shut down…so hard to redirect yourself after that long and thinking it was a life job. Now we are using this time to reimagine our lives to where we want to go. Without this scary and horrible situation happening to us we might have never moved, never expanded ourselves….no decisions made yet this just happened Friday but mindset, mindset, mindset
This is a 17 yr old young man!? Wow....that level of self understanding and maturity at that age is amazing. Well done, Mama Mel & Chris. ❤
Yes!!!! I so often have to tell myself “just do it”. I jump out of bed when the alarm goes off daily and on those mornings I really don’t feel like exercising I’m always so glad I pushed myself into it afterwards!
Wow. The podcast has been amazing so far this year. I’m so glad it’s just Mel doing the talking. No offence to her previous guests but whilst they for sure know their stuff, they usually don’t come across nearly as inspiring or as articulate as Mel does - these days I skip those episodes. Keep up the great work!
So why does she spend over half an hour talking and rambling before she actually gets to the point ? I found it really frustrating listening to her explanation about Oakley. Instead she could have summaried in 5 minutes what happened to him and get to the actual point of it. As for the as advertisements. Omg. Omg. Why?
My friend is looking after my 3girls today so I can listen to you uninterrupted 😂and get some stuff sorted in the house. I was offered a day off to collect my thoughts and have me-time. I felt like a kid in a sweet shop...but I realised it's the environment that I have an issue with so going away always feels great, but coming back sucks. If I change my environment permanently, I will no longer feel overwhelmed etc. So I'm flowing on the motivation that this is a rare chance to change things
Listening to you over the llast couple days and I sooo want to nail down this morning routine thing. Mine is completely screwed. Wake up, grab a cup of coffee and tip toe downstairs to watch tv until it's time to wake up the yr old lab pup who's a complete asshole once he wakes up.🤣 I could write a book explaining how I ended up with this shitty routine of mine. Chronic pain, husband working nights for a long time, pup...it's a laundry list of conditioning. I'll try again tomorrow. Thank you for what you do it gives me hope.
I love the reminder of the “why”. It sees me through no matter what once I connect with it. It also works in reverse. Why NOT to do something. The why and the “just do it”….winners!
Paula here. I actually rarely have a problem with self motivation. Since changing to my carnivore lifestyle 467 days ago and seeing the amazing improvements in my health has shown me how being self-centered motivates me in every aspect of my life. I know people will be appalled at my being self-centered but it does not have to have negative connotations. Because my interconnected consciousness with every living thing on earth has expanded and I have more love and peace in my life. This motivates my every decision to get things done and keep things moving. Mel you are a great Mom and did the right thing when your son was rejected. This was actually depicted on the TV show, Last Man Standing, when Eve was rejected from her dream school, West Point. It was their best episode.
As I was listening to this, I was motivated to do my Life Admin chores. I just came from a trip and I missed my meds. The symptoms of withdrawal and the travel bag unpacking chore was unmotivating. Today, I realized that I was able to keep doing what I needed to do when I listen to Mel. Thanks, Mel!
Hugs to Oakley! (And to you and Chris navigating this with him 🤗) x
I thought it was another perfect family success story...Thank you for showing us your personal setbacks. We went through the same disappointment applying for school.
I heard this, and it resonated with me... "Rejection is God's protection"
Rubbish. Complete crap
OMG Mel we've been through this process with a stellar kid and I have so much empathy for you guys! My son didn't get his school of choice either but ended up choosing UCSD and he has THRIVED there! He's a state lifeguard, EMT, in graduate school now and working at a high school for teaching goal. It works out how it's supposed to trust me!!
Omg !! How much did I need to hear this Mel! 😮 how did the universe put this on my recommended videos….idk but boy I love how the universe works. Just last night we had by far the most defeating nights. My son, he’s an amazing hardworking kid! His coaches, other parents, teachers…say so. Kind, with a HUGE heart! He’s been wrestling for a year & 1/2, on the varsity team, fought fair & square to keep that spot. Has had a few wins, but mostly losses. Last night the kid that beat him, turn to our team and bowed and threw his hands up as a sign of complete disrespect. My son was crushed, upset beyond measure. Not over the loss but over the other kid’s reaction. My heart completely shattered 😢
Hi Mel, idk if your influence could’ve made any difference for your son being accepted or not. But I do know of parents who feel their kids are entitled due to their money or standing. But I know that the fact that you never used this to push it through for your son is so admirable! You are a wonderful mom by allowing your son to work hard towards what he wants, it is the only way to handle his situation. My daughter went through this same thing as your son. She was absolutely crushed. All I could tell her in that moment, was that it was because there is something even better for her in store. That she needs to trust the process, and other colleges are better suited for her. And shortly after she received a scholarship to the better school, that’s harder to get into. She graduated as a Registered Nurse and works at Primary Children’s Hospital in Oncology.
You always amaze me, and I love listening to you! You’re real, your kind, and I dig ya! Keep shining Mel!
There isn't a video that I don't feel as if I'm the only one this woman is speaking to. Let's bottle motivation and hand it out. You. Are. Amazing ❤
I sure do relate to real examples and practices! You have such an insightful, intelligent son! This has been something ive been struggling with and trying to work on. Thank you, Mel!! ❤
Mel I heard this on your show and loved it. The It founder said “rejection is God’s protection”. I loved it! Pass that on to your son. God has a bigger dream for him.
Thank you, Mel. I’ve been procrastinating laundry today. “No matter how much I do, it’s never done” “the closets are trashed so how can I even put stuff away”
CHANGE THE STORY!
“I don’t feel like doing laundry, but I do REALLY feel like getting dressed in clothes I feel good in tomorrow. I will have a much happier day if I can do that tomorrow, so I’m going to do the laundry”
Really we can do everything.❤
PS… 🌟 Mel, you earned four stars for painting such a vivid picture of satisfaction. Cleaning up and creating that feng shui vibe brings serious joy, especially with the incense- SIGH Feeling in control, peaceful, until you sit down and face the chaos of tasks.
Why's is it a struggle? Not the doing, but the time and energy it takes. Trying to build a system, it's a journey. Thanks a ton for the inspiration. Love ya! Fantastic episode, and now onto making 2024 the best year-let's go! 🚀
I'm learning English with the vídeos
THANK YOU MEL!🎉😁 SO needed this one! I'm doing the workbook and dealing with the setbacks of past years....last year I was sick and weak from gallbladder issues, in October had surgery and now pain free!😊 In 2022....TONS of car repair and other medical bills just cleaned out my funds I'm saving up. And I do feel like last few years life has kicked me in the face...and wondered how to get the momentum back and get rolling again on my goals. My goal...buy a bus and become a nomad, taking my business of drum wellness program on the road. I only focused on the "when I accomplish this goal I'll be happy" trap, instead I also need to focus on the journey of building my drum wellness business and now adapting it to work with different populations. How much I will learn about myself and grow along the way before I can go on the road.😊
This conversation was a beautiful one to listen to especially since this morning’s Daily Jay was focused on where and from who we seek approval. Jay mentioned his friend Mel Robbins and then this episode popped up while I was still mulling everything over. It is helpful for letting go of things that no longer have a worthwhile ‘why’ as well as forging gently forward in a spirit of the things that call us in the depths of our being.
Hey, hon. I realized awhile ago that motivation is an emotion and emotions are ephemeral. It takes some work to summon emotions, but the emotion doesn't last. Motivation to me is excitement about doing something productive. You can be productive when you do it for self-respect or to be rational. Being excited about being productive is more fun and stimulating. But being productive out of other reasons is just fine, too.
I love you, Mel. When you were on TV, I wasn't ready to hear your messages. I wish you were on TV now. You are great!
Fail at fill spewd is thr most inspirational mantra in this whole podcast. I did not put words to it, but that's what I've been doing for the past 467 days of changing my entire life. And yes, it is being your best, whatever that means , for any givrn moment, day or any point in time. Thanks for that. I'm writing it down and placing it where I can see it.
guys today my exam that is my speaking exam in ielts please give me good luck😅❤
Good luck! Sending good vibes
That son is an amazing young man. We went through this and it was a difficult process.. But today when you broke it down I was reflecting and I’m really realizing how hard and determined my kids worked to get into their dream school and never gave up. Our daughters were wait listed and got into different schools then waitlisted called the week before. Our son dropped out off a UC school he didn’t like and went to another UC dream school and then private school USC paid for his PHD program. It all works out the good news is it’s all about learning how to deal with disappointment and frustration but never giving up its really about life as we all know it. I think your so. Should do the UC common application UCSB Santa Barbara would LOVE him 👍
He will bloom anywhere because he has fantastic parents who care!
I had a year of the worst moments of my life. My husband passed away, my cat died, I had to give up my home, my dogs, everything I ever dreamed of, and more. Motivation after all of that, is hard. I had to move through the mourning that happens after all of that. Woah, I started a list of things I hated, and what do I really want and need. Last year I wrote a list of what I wanted in a partner. How do I feel better about myself. The changes I made, and the new life I have is amazing.
I love how you mentioned that you never see the rejections online. We are often so ill equipped to handle the hard times… parents have so much pressure to never show their kids their personal struggle and how they get through it- it’s this idea that we have to be “strong” for them. I think it had a real paradoxical effect, because they don’t get the benefit of learning from our resilience.
I also love how you acknowledged how it sucked. That’s something that I’m learning with my 9yo now… I was telling him “it’s okay, don’t worry” etc and he was resistant to that- and it created a sort of friction. But, I’ve learned it’s so much better when I put myself in his shoes and acknowledge the suck… then he’s way more open and can accept my guidance, instead of fighting to get me to understand/accept his feelings. It may seem like a small change, but it’s been a HUGE blessing.
I would love for you to make even more parenting videos! ❤
Dear Mel💚 thank you for sharing your very private experience with being rejected 🙏 it helps to remember I’m not the only person who feels like that! We went through the same situation with our son who was rejected by all schools in my city! It was a horrible experience because it happened to someone you love so much. Now he had a good school and we must deal with his ADD, lack of concentration and motivation. So dopamine is the perfect topic 👏 thank you so much for supporting us🙏 have a wonderful weekend 🤗
My dream is to create art and sell art, sometimes I feel so unmotivated to create because I’m worried no one will like my artwork. I definitely needed to hear this, thank you Mel! ❤️
I need a "Fail at Full Speed" t-shirt. All of this makes so much sense!! Thank you!!
Wow! Thank you Mel ❤ two weeks ago I had a similar experience with my son and somehow it took the wind out of my sails 😔 cos my heart's breaking for him . This put me back on track ❤
Yes - considering disappointments could be a blessing in disguise has helped me a lot over the years… ❤
Thank you for existing you're like my mother I never had. I'm also thankful for youtube platform. Words can't describe ❤
All of these ups and downs that we all experience are part of our life’s journey (rejection, disappointment, etc.). Each experience I believe has a reason to it whether or not we realize it at that particular time. I believe that God directs our paths sometimes when we don’t see why our course in life doesn’t make sense to us at the time. I also believe that this (reaction) is part of our human condition.
This is SO significant and breaks it down to reality. Just do it at whatever % you are at today.
I just did it again! Came to the gym! “Just”! Love it
LOVE the phrase "Fail at Full Speed!" Brilliant....! ❤
I'm glad to hear you say that Mel. It sucks, after I was demoted on my job, no fault of mines and my company just expected me to get over it. It mentally took me down, questioning myself, am I good enough, after I worked so hard for 4 years to get the promotion. I felt so defeated, I was left with such frustration during all of 2023. Now I have to restart all over again to prove myself that I can do the job one more time. I don't feel motivated at all, but in order to keep my job and able to pay my bills, I have to mentally motivate myself to perform in sales once again.🙁
😂 I always tell myself, when I get rejected, it's their loss not mine 😅 I believe God has something better ahead. God always closes one and opens another. 😊
This is so true. I always say the universe is working to protect me from myself and the path I would choose that might not lead me to where I need to go. So many times I have thought that applying to colleges (I got into 6/7 schools I applied to but waitlisted at an out of state university that was my number one choice) but I ended up in a career I loved, relationships that ended and I was upset but I ended in a much more loving and healthy relationship. Things to tend to work themselves out the way they are meant to and often lead to more happiness than what you thought would make you happy to begin with.
My daughter is applying to 25 top med schools, same issues. The best way to motivate is to let go of the outcome. Do your best that’s all your son can do at this point! Good luck and keep filling out applications, take a gap year if he doesn’t get into his dream schools. It will all work out- I promise🙏
My personal experience is Do it and Do it is best motivation because when i just go for a walk without thinking it's become my habit to daily 1 hour walk when we do something anyway opens the new doors automatically. Do it if you fail do it again with better way
JESUSE MEL!!! Can you please get out of my head!!!😅😅 your videos come on just as I'm going through these issues❤❤. Are you with the government, listening to what's going on in my home😂😂😂❤❤
I also have one applying to college this year and my heart feels so heavy listening to your son's story. It's really hard and we have no control! This was very good to listen to for myself, the one applying to college, and my other 2 kids that have ADHD.
Three days before I had an interview and did not went well that I sensed from her facial expression and she told me that she will call me by Friday if I got the job. Today is Thursday and I am going to call her for the follow up whether I got it or not. I was so depressed when she said I will call Friday and sensed like a no. And, I seriously needed this particular topic podcast to understand life. Thanks Mel!
I would love an update.what happened?
@@semakoc6346 ya I did not got the job of which I talked about, but still I continued to hand out resumes and finally got a job in kfc.
That college lost out on Oakley! He seems to be a brilliant person from your videos and no doubt he'll do even better somewhere else. I'm sorry about the disappointment though, sending hugs! I managed to bounce back from a similar rejection, went to another great place and used my disappointment as motivation to get in at the next level, later on.
Mel, I too am your bestie. World book of Genius?!😉. You are telling my story. Blow, after blow and they kept coming. My health was affected and then the COVID hit and I couldn’t go to the hospital. Any who, I was knocked off the wall, I literally came falling down. I’ve lost and given up my life as I knew it. Ugh, E3000 is the best glue that I’ve found but it too needs a little help to set up ❣️😉
Maybe Oakley can go a different way?! I’m not shrugging off college but things are different now and so is Oakley. He’s blessed because of all of you. Who knows maybe that college will be offering him a Degree in the future 💕☘️✌🏽
I am sorry that Oakley didn’t get into his dream school… My son applied to 4 schools and I encouraged him to look at some other schools and he said, you don’t think I can get into any of the schools I applied to.. I said, you have no idea what these schools are looking for.. some of the things(a lot) they are looking for are out of your control.. I find that what makes for great college experience are the friends you make… it doesn’t matter what school you go to.. I’ve seen kids come home miserable from their first choice school.. finally, if that’s truly their first choice.. possibly apply again next year .. it seems like there are different approaches to being able to get in.. it may seem like the end of the world.. but it may have been best thing that happened!
Ziltch. I've spent all my life looking for ways. Nothing works. Which tells me something exciting underlying could be stopping me. I have ADHD and depression.
I just went to a breakup today and you uploaded this today, Thank you.
The hardest part is often just getting started. If you challenge yourself to work on the task for just 5-10 minutes, it frequently leads to working much longer or even finishing the task completely.
This was 1000% what I needed to hear. This coaching is right up there with the "Let Them" coaching for me.!
My daughter is loving U of A in Tucson. Weather is lovely. 😊 Love you Mel, thank you!!
I need to listen to this every day!! It, in itself, is motivating! Thanks Mel!
We had the exact same experience last year. So hard. We were so sure she would get in and she didn't. She's at a different school. She's going to try again this year to transfer in, which is an even bigger long shot but she's doing it!
I have a message for Oakley. I also didn't get into my top school Notre Dame. I ended up loving my college. I would have hated the weather at Notre Dame.
Honestly there is some truth in receiving and learning from another person’s experiences, I have been listening to your talks for the past few hours
They all resonate to life and I like to thank you for sharing and helping so many people 🌷🌷
Omg! I do needed to wake up to this podcast ( I just fell into zombie mode after my hubby passed in 2020.
I did not know or recognize myself 😅
Iloiked around my house and it does not look like I even live here ( I would never live with so much clutter
Thank you for NM usa
Okay before I comment on this topic...MEL! HAVE YOU HEARD OF DISHWASHING GLOVES?!?! 😂 Remove the nasty part by giving your hands a dry barrier. Changes everything! Mr Clean Bliss gloves feel so luxurious.
Thank you, Mel. Thank goodness I met you.
Im so grateful I have you in my life. Your podcast topics r always spot on, and come on time. Thx
I needed to hear this because I felt I was at my end.
2024 is the best motivation of us ❤ because i follow mel Robbin ❤ podcast, simple word but full of knowledge ❤ thank ma'am mel Robbin ❤
Love you Mel thanks for all your help
Your worth. And what is it that’s worthy? All that is good. Nice . Best. Beautiful. Nice. Wonderful. Your worth as being the best version good version of you. 2nd tapping that kicks out the motivation spike in you.
Besides Motivation we have to learn the power of understanding! Reality is merely an illusion..
I think there’s more to it than just motivation. I like that you included the caveats about figuring out your direction first. I’d love to hear more about prioritizing. Sometimes it can feel like everything is important, which of course leads to paralysis….
Thank you so much ❤️ 🙏
The way you told that story in the beginning, my heart sunk for your son so much and I don’t even know him…
GM Mel. Question: Why does Oakley 'have' to continue his education? I highly recommend being self employed. I too am dyslexic but we dyslexics are creative as hell and have a high intelligence. He is brilliant. Always has a following in his podcasts, for one.
I obviously don't know Oakley, but I would answer because he has goals and dreams. My 15 year old has dyslexia and wants to be a dermatologist. Will she achieve that? It remains to be seen, but she has wanted to do that as long as I can remember. I am not going to tell her she can't. I can say she is working her buns off. Congrats on finding success in self-employment
Because education opens doors. Oldest Masters in early education, specialized in literacy second kid is a court judicial clerk who does warrants for state court house BA criminal justice/Sociology Last Masters in Sports Exercise science/ Marketing working as support for national broadband company. Great insurance; trips to Hawaii, Australia, London, Costa Rica cuz they have great incomes. My husband worked for a newspaper as sports and editor for decades without a college degree, raised family without health insurance. We’re in debt. That’s why!
Like David Goggins says: motivation is a crap discipline is the way to go! Great podcast Mel!
I love this episode Mel. I’ve been listening to your podcasts for a while and I mean your podcast always pop up in the exactly moment when I need it.
Touched me right where I am. Now I’ve got some thinking to do 🙂
So so true. Everyone needs to listen to this!!!!! Thanks Mel!
Mel if I were a NIKE executive I would ask you to sponsor my brand. I Loved today’s episode.
@MelRobbins, the best year booklet is nothing but extraordinary. It is so good that I not only put my own therapist on it, she loved it and thanked me for blessing because she is now sharing with some other clients .how freaking amazing is that???? Thank you, thank you, thank you 🙏🏼🙌✨. 💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻
I had the same experience when my son got deferred from northeastern a few weeks ago, you’d have thought the world came to an end, he was very down, made harder by the fact his study mate got a free ride there but luckily he’d applied to other places and got in but it sucks to work that hard and not get what you want but it’s also a huge life lesson that disappointment is part of life. Luckily my son is emotionally intelligent too and he’s ok now but the build up around college acceptance is hard for them.
I don't think this can be non-useful for anybody, it's like a realization to just keep pushing through and what an explanation. Damn❤
Thank you Mel for sending the love, the high-five and the gentle kick up the arse
You are my go to guru ❤
Thanks Mel. I absolutely Love ❤️ all your advice. You help me smile.
This is one of your most real topics about life. Reality!