the DEEPER psychology of Coraline | object relations

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  • @mylittlethoughttree
    @mylittlethoughttree  Місяць тому +7

    The first 500 people to use my link skl.sh/mylittlethoughttree09241 will get a 1 month free trial of Skillshare premium!

    • @sentientfetus3894
      @sentientfetus3894 12 днів тому

      Instead of people parwell universe maybe parwell universe in people. If different universe interact enough wouldn't they be the same universe

  • @kiracarver988
    @kiracarver988 Місяць тому +58

    Thankfully my mother taught me early on that she was simply human. She always owned her mistakes and made amends. It truly does help develop empathy.

  • @Aerie925
    @Aerie925 Місяць тому +25

    I always saw it as a “the grass isn’t always greener” kinda story. That being in the other world she realizes that the world and human behavior is nuanced that her parents do love her even if they are sometimes too busy to show it.

  • @lani3217
    @lani3217 Місяць тому +79

    As a child, I condemned Coraline‘s parents, but I grew up. I went to therapy. I have a child of my own, and I agree with your views on this video. These seem like two people who are extremely exhausted and could have handled the adult life better and made their child feel more secure at that time of course but as parents, our lives are definitely on a scale with her reaching what I call the age of importance I see why they moved her from her city to her little town

  • @4ngelofluv
    @4ngelofluv Місяць тому +22

    as a psych student who is unhealthily obsessed w coraline these vids r great! i rlly liked the thing abt transitional objects and the other mother being the reverse! my take on the doll and her sense of self could be about her transitioning from child to teen, in the splitting sense, she (her real self) is now the teen, her parents don't really seem to be attending to her like they would a child, and seem to feel she can take care of herself (despite still restricting her - the paradox of being a teen!). the doll now represents her child-like self and how she just wants to play (the other world indulges this). She also sort of takes care of the doll by taking it around the house 'playing with it' and, as another commenter pointed out, puts the doll's needs before her own, like a parent to a child. At the end she comes to grips with her sense of self and thus does not feel she needs to split, learning nuance in everyone around her and herself.

  • @hypnotikerotix
    @hypnotikerotix Місяць тому +7

    As a child, I thought I had two sets of parents. My mother, with makeup and hair done, and my mother, ponytailed and makeup free. My father was with and without glasses, but as I later realized, it was my father inebriated and sober. Coraline was one of my favorite books growing up. Learning about the theory of splitting and the impact it has on Coraline’s story is giving me some clarity on my own ideas as a child.

  • @dragonlyra
    @dragonlyra Місяць тому +13

    Wow... The idea of transitional object made me understand so much... Throughout my childhood I had a difficulty throwing anything in the trash because I personalized them. Now I know why. Thanks!

  • @crystalgemgirl731
    @crystalgemgirl731 Місяць тому +7

    I'm glad you mentioned Horrid Henry, his whole family is kind of toxic, he SEEMS horrid (and, yeah, he can be pretty mischievous and there are moments where he actually IS horrid) because, technically speaking, he's the only normal person in the family. His mother is narcissistic, his father is an enabler, and his brother... His poor brother... Is an overachiever that can be kind of a brat. Peter KNOWS Henry is the Scapegoat, and he knows, the worse Henry looks, the better Peter looks, so he goes out of his way to get Henry in trouble. Peter will be chasing that high all his life.

  • @SleepyLeeeee
    @SleepyLeeeee Місяць тому +18

    I've only seen parts of this movie, so I'm just functioning on the scenes you showed. First, you did a great job explaining everything so give yourself a lot more credit for that. Second, what an excellent movie to use to illustrate these concepts. You can really see the..I don't want to say distortion...but the way it is at the same time the way Coraline is perceiving the events around her. For instance, the parents frantically working away...they have these exhausted looks and bags under their eyes. They aren't enjoying it. They at least took the time to interact with Coraline and continued on with life, meeting her needs, despite the work requirements (even if she doesn't like/think so). It would be different if they completely ignored her. The color in this film does a lot too. Like the bright yellow raincoat and the drabiness of the kitchen/mother exchange. Anyways, great video!

  • @ruubux
    @ruubux Місяць тому +11

    I always get excited when I get a notification for a new video from your channel. Another great video that has given me a lot to think about!
    Some notes on Coraline vs the doll Coraline: I believe they are contrasted between the fully autonomous and the version that can be fully possessed and controlled. Having the doll turns Coraline into a caretaker. And I can't help but notice times when Coraline puts the doll's needs before her own, such as the shot of them looking out of the foggy window when Coraline wipes away the condensation for the doll before she does for herself. I think this is an instance that shows what Coraline thinks a caretaker should do for their child, and may further symbolise Coraline's resentments towards her parents

  • @Window4503
    @Window4503 Місяць тому +18

    I never thought I’d learn so much psychology today! Awesome video-always love an excuse to hear more analysis of Coraline.

  • @MaximusOfTheMeadow
    @MaximusOfTheMeadow Місяць тому +17

    About the Other Colaline, if she's splitting then I think there is a conflict there about becoming independent. We all want to be a doll where there is a all powerful all knowing being taking care of us, catering to our every need and controlling every aspect of reality. If the theme of the movie is growing up then we have to leave all the behind us. Then we have to confront that our mom&dad's were lying to us for our entire existence for our own good(only complicated by the fact that lying is wrong) Not just dealing with the injustice that existence itself is not as safe, perfect or caring as the liars made us believe. Made more difficult by the fact that the ons who lied and hurt us are now imperfect, but still care about us more then the entire world combined. Anger, hurt, helplessness, the sudden (over)drive to become independent but still desperately wanting to be cared for
    It's a lot

  • @aff77141
    @aff77141 Місяць тому +6

    I feel like people who get angry when coralines parents aren't treated as monsters, are the exact people who refuse to see humanity in their parents and have been conditioned to believe that either it's the parents fault or the child's fault, so if the parents aren't being condemned you must be blaming the child. The truth is both much simpler and more complicated, that all parties are people.

  • @alexnartlecorn6677
    @alexnartlecorn6677 Місяць тому +4

    I love Coraline analyse videos and psychology videos - such a treat to have both in one :)

  • @myragroenewegen5426
    @myragroenewegen5426 Місяць тому +5

    I think the Other mother having evil behind her in Coraline DOES very much relate to Coraline's psycology as a metiphore. This other mother is an escapist fantasy. As Coraline is drwn deeper into dependence on that fantasy, she comes to realize that there's something deeply toxic about it. What if the things that bother her about her parents are really just inconveniant extensions of other things she likes about them and needs from them? What if these are, in fact, some of the qualities that make her herself -- an adventurous and strong-willed person who may actually be able to be happy depending on them less and being more self-sufficient? Realizing parrents aren't ideal beings hurts, but eventually it allows us to relate to them and also grow apart from them without carrying unrealistic resentment about them.
    Suddenly the other mother, who exists as a passive homemaker only to please Coraline is perfect, but not relatable. Retreat into the fantasy keeps Coraline from working out complexity in her parrents, an imperfect world and, at worst, herself. Without the self-understanding of working out her problems actively in the world SHE is at risk of having her eye's cutely buttoned up and living forever in the false reality of her own head, while increasingly unable to see(understand) what the truth of her world actually is.
    This makes her vulnerable to manipulation and, indeed, why would anyone live to encourage her to be this way unless, like the other mother (and the coraline who believes in her), they had very small-minded limits on how far they wanted to stretch their imagination and for what purpose. Coraline, an imaginative and brave explorer at heart, is at risk of being trapped inside one very limiting perspective that cuts her off from learning and from others, eats away at unfillfiied pain unproductively, and makes her an immobile puppet of cercumstances and people arround her.

  • @Rebecca-x
    @Rebecca-x Місяць тому +1

    Coraline is one of my fave films. Way ahead of its time. The animation is so amazing! The story- telling too. This came out when I was a child I was so scared but watching it as an adult it’s watchable for myself now. It’s so good. I know it’s a film but relate a lot of Coraline

  • @lewiitoons4227
    @lewiitoons4227 Місяць тому +2

    this series is perfect, working on a commision of a coraline themed painted box, keeping me interested in the theme in the background, very informative content

  • @briannesimone8003
    @briannesimone8003 Місяць тому +4

    Is the Coraline doll sentient? It's a creation of the Beldam's but so were Other Wybie and the Other Father. Is it being used against its will or is an extension of the Beldam in the same way the Beldam's detached hand was?

  • @safirasart
    @safirasart Місяць тому +2

    I love and adore your videos. In the case you're also into video games I think I'd adore hearing your takes on edith finch

  • @MrsImogen
    @MrsImogen Місяць тому +2

    As a parent, I can understand Coraline's parent's behavior. They are stressed, and when you're stressed, it's difficult to see anything beyond what you're stressed about. Even your child...for a short, hopefully, amount of time. They've got just as much going on as Coraline. Of course, she's a child, and that makes the experience different.
    It's a fantasy, I think, of almost every child.
    Their real parents are so much cooler than the ones they live with.
    I had that fantasy. Of course, my parents are objectively lame (😂)... but hey. It's the introduction to disappointment. A lesson we all need to learn.

  • @bazookabullet101
    @bazookabullet101 Місяць тому

    Coraline videos have been great. You always offer fresh perspectives on whatever you cover good stuff

  • @elliecoffin616
    @elliecoffin616 Місяць тому

    I really loved these videos! Recently read the book and these add to it

  • @thewomenwiththepearlearrin4127
    @thewomenwiththepearlearrin4127 11 днів тому

    I think the Coraline doll might represent a lack of control that Coraline feels in her own life.How the doll is quite literally ,well a doll.Its there to be controlled and played with.Throughout the film, she has a lack of independence in ways that she can control such as attaching to her parents, and ways she cannot like not being allowed to go out in the rain and the people in her life not listening to her.I think the doll is an object that separates Coraline from dependence. She doesn't become the other mother's doll by sewing buttons into her eyes, but she also is able to separate herself more from her parents( like a doll that needs to be carried to move) and be more patient at the end of the film.

  • @Sabbath.4u
    @Sabbath.4u Місяць тому +1

    I really like your coraline videos

  • @snekboiboop
    @snekboiboop Місяць тому +12

    3:40 really reminds me of jack staubers/adult swim's "Opal"! i'm not sure if youve dissected it before, but it's fantastic!

    • @bananamanchester4156
      @bananamanchester4156 Місяць тому +4

      I second this, would love to see Thought Tree's analysis of Opal!

  • @briancheuy7703
    @briancheuy7703 Місяць тому

    Really enjoy your analysis videos

  • @eatatjoes6751
    @eatatjoes6751 Місяць тому +9

    I have a theory…it’s “clarity.” Coraline realizes, *“shit my real mom loves me, she’s given love and affection, she’s just stressed. Now the other world…sucks because I’m not in it.”* It’s the post- bad decision effect where everything changes after you realize something is off, from your mindset to how your perception is.
    For example, my boyfriend has DID/OSDD, and he has a little place for what I call his system: the Garden. I’ve been visiting the Queen of the Garden for a while now, and she’s gotten mighty “fond" of caring for me.
    It was cool for that while, until I noticed a few signs.
    I kept asking for a specific type of thing, seemingly out of nowhere - I’ve neglected other areas/people of the world, and physically my boyfriend has had to eat more to accommodate the repeat visitations.
    Eventually the Queen gives an ultimatum, essentially offering herself as a replacement for him - and soon everything in the garden looks…different. Brighter, yet more *hostile* and *persistent* in its need to pleasure - (sexually and non-sexually) me.
    This video clearly puts my feelings about that into terrifying perspective. And I don’t know how to feel.

    • @cecilyerker
      @cecilyerker Місяць тому

      What THE FUCK are you doing playing around sexually with a man with DID? He’s going to kill you one day. He shouldn’t be sexually involved with ANYONE. I’m genuinely concerned for your safety. No man is worth all that.

    • @DWEEBERBUG
      @DWEEBERBUG Місяць тому

      What does this mean? I want to understand

  • @noahruiz9532
    @noahruiz9532 Місяць тому

    I love these types of videos, very interesting very cool

  • @sentientfetus3894
    @sentientfetus3894 12 днів тому +1

    Isn't blame and accountability the same thing

  • @hidingtk2860
    @hidingtk2860 Місяць тому +1

    I haven't watched this movie not once. However, these videos & Others have saved me from doing so. 🤔 I think one day I'm going to buy you a coffee ☕️.

    • @mylittlethoughttree
      @mylittlethoughttree  Місяць тому +1

      Well regardless whether you do or not, the thought is appreciated and I'm glad you're enjoying my videos 😊

    • @hidingtk2860
      @hidingtk2860 Місяць тому

      @@mylittlethoughttree Jk aside, I do enjoy them. Not just Coraline but all of them. I like knowing how the brain works in all aspects. The brain fascinates me.

  • @Imboredandgay.
    @Imboredandgay. Місяць тому

    I had a relatively similar childhood, with my dad traveling at least once a week and my mom not being mentally well enough to truly take care of me and my older brother. Since I was about 8 (and my brother was 14) I’ve needed to cook and clean or our mom would get mad at me. For a while I split my mom into the good one for being more fun and my dad into the evil one, but recently I realized that my mom being too mentally ill to parent didn’t make her good. An 8 year old shouldn’t have had to make sure a 14 year old got up and ready for school on top of barreling a chronic illness

  • @MaximusOfTheMeadow
    @MaximusOfTheMeadow Місяць тому +1

    Thank you

  • @rebekaersek5324
    @rebekaersek5324 Місяць тому

    I would love a video FX's The Bear
    It's full of rich and interesting characters

  • @Dontstopbelievingman
    @Dontstopbelievingman Місяць тому

    Really interesting insight.

  • @ZeroPhoenixTheLastBladeTheory
    @ZeroPhoenixTheLastBladeTheory Місяць тому +51

    Weird, I think I just experienced splitting when I watched this amazing video, when it became the baddest most evil sellout video just as the sponsor part came up.

    • @bananamanchester4156
      @bananamanchester4156 Місяць тому

      Yup that's splitting alright- immature black and white thinking as a result of you being unable to manage your frustration in a healthy way 😂 sponsors are here to stay bud, accept or stop watching UA-cam vids. Your call.

    • @bananamanchester4156
      @bananamanchester4156 Місяць тому +19

      Yup that's splitting alright- as in, it's overly simplistic and binary, and probably denotes a lack of maturity 😂

    • @ZeroPhoenixTheLastBladeTheory
      @ZeroPhoenixTheLastBladeTheory Місяць тому

      @@bananamanchester4156 it's a joke, content creators are allowed to be paid for their work 😌

    • @BeeWhistler
      @BeeWhistler Місяць тому +7

      @@bananamanchester4156Agreed. Not to mention the inability to empathize with the need of others to make a living and a selfish desire to get all these videos for free.

    • @ZeroPhoenixTheLastBladeTheory
      @ZeroPhoenixTheLastBladeTheory Місяць тому +3

      You people sure don't get sarcasm

  • @squirlmy
    @squirlmy Місяць тому

    Sorry, nearly two weeks late, but I relate this phenomenon to Trump in America -because his popularity is very hard for many of us to understand. He is seen as the perfect leader/caregiver by very damaged people. And, it can be hard to imagine, but there are many, many Americans damaged in their childhood who haven't gone through Caroline's journey to maturity (JD Vance seems a prime example). They will put up with whatever crimes and horrible things Trump does, because he's paying attention to them, he's the perfect parent. More responsible politicians are "too busy parents" paying attention to things that might not seem in Trumpers' immediate interest, not catering to their desires for play. As a childless adult with a good childhood, it's a little hard for me to relate to the subject here, until I use it to understand what's going on with the Republican party, and that's what hooked me on this video.

  • @styrofoamboogie2042
    @styrofoamboogie2042 Місяць тому

    good video

  • @mwomcast
    @mwomcast Місяць тому

    Another day, another Kleinian banger

  • @CU.SpaceCowboy
    @CU.SpaceCowboy Місяць тому

    so basically opal lol

  • @bananamanchester4156
    @bananamanchester4156 Місяць тому +4

    An open-ended invitation to interpret Coraline's attachment to the doll, you say? What luck!!! Here are some thoughts I have in no particular order-
    - Coraline is experiencing loneliness at the start of the film but still acts in a somewhat abrasive way towards Wybie and the cat. However, she clings to the doll. Could be symbolising that she feels like she can only rely on herself? Perhaps she isn't ready to open up and trust anyone else yet? Or she feels nobody else can understand her?
    - the doll is the Other Mother's spy, perhaps it is the transitional object between Coraline and the Other Mother. An early way for Other Mother to foster an unhealthy, dependent attachment between them?
    - The Other Mother objectifies the children, figuratively and literally. On the other hand, Coraline personifies the doll by playing out it's reactions to things, clearing the fog in the window for the doll to see through ect. Perhaps an early indicator that Coraline will be the antithesis of Other Mother, showing they are opposites?

    • @SleepyLeeeee
      @SleepyLeeeee Місяць тому

      I really like your thoughts on this. I don't think Coraline knows HOW to open up while at the same time remain true to herself. The fact that Coraline goes through both types of mothers is a good indicator that she is looking find a way to resolve this dynamic. Isn't that how we become individuals? She can take what she learned from the "other mother, " the good traits, and replicate them in a more sincere way. It bridges a gap that she feels her real parents don't fill but in a way unique and meaningful way to her.

    • @bananamanchester4156
      @bananamanchester4156 Місяць тому +1

      @@SleepyLeeeee yes you make some good points! We do see Coraline being more charitable to her neighbours at the end, she even makes them all lemonade, a sure sign she is starting to mature and consider what others might want!

  • @couraublaise1715
    @couraublaise1715 Місяць тому

    I wonder how the good parent pov explains the moments where she appears schizophrenic, such as when she yaps at wyborn. It seems to me that beyond the ghost story we see her parents repeatedly ignore her when she talks, and her beginning to completely split from reality. In this sense, she keeps having this self created story that gets more and more developped, until wyborn sees the hand, or understands the base level of truth behind it. The image of the little coraline in her hands really spoke to me in the schizophrenic reading, as well as the bugs and rats infesting the house. Maybe projection.

  • @ElvenTinuviel
    @ElvenTinuviel Місяць тому

    Awesome video as always; I'm concerned why you're currently promoting Neil Gaiman's work though. It seems we as a society should be putting a pause on that during info gathering.

    • @mylittlethoughttree
      @mylittlethoughttree  Місяць тому +1

      I won't lie, I didn't find out until a week ago. His stories have always been some of my favourite but now....😬 Based on the allegations, I imagine him to be guilty but it would be wrong (and also legally risky) for someone like me to speak publicly until the courts are finished. So either I stop discussing any of his work, which I did consider. However I've already made 2 videos, and this was Henry Selick's movie, with so many talented animators pouring incredible amounts of work into it. I love Henry Selick movies and it's a shame to think one of his best could be tarnished by the original author being an awful person. I figured I'll at least finish the videos I was planning to make, without mentioning him or the book any further, and then just stop. It's not the best solution, admittedly

  • @woofexe4050
    @woofexe4050 Місяць тому +3

    I just got introduced to your channel today with your video about different attachments styles in Coraline. I ended up watching the other videos you had about Coraline and was sad to see there were only a few.
    So, I was about to watch your videos on Spirited Away. It's unbelievable that you put out another Coraline video today, I'm so happy to watch it! Coraline was my favorite movie as a child as I felt I could relate in a lot of ways. I unfortunately came from a household that caused me to have a disorganized attachment style and I moved from place to place a lot.
    I love phycology and this movie really helped me as a child who felt so alone and found comfort creating my own world to disassociate to for a bit. Unfortunately, since that was a coping skill i developed as a child and due to having multiple different mental health issues, I struggle with quite a bit as an adult.
    These videos have really helped me understand myself better, thank you for combining two of my favorites things, psychology and Coraline! 💙🗝 ⚉ 🪡 🐈‍⬛
    P.s I will be sure to finish your Spirited Away videos ❤🚂⛩️🐉🐷