I spent a day with AUTOSEXUALS
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I was the idiot thinking that autosexuals are the ones who have sexual attraction to automobiles, but I have learned it's so much more different and interesting. Thank you.
LMAO
Haha I had the exact same thought when I read the title, I’m glad I wasn’t the only ome
I thought the same
Oh thank god I wasn’t the only one
I think that’s mechanophilia, yeah?
Side Note: I think it's stupid that UA-cam forces creators to censor heavy subjects, especially in an educational context.
Now Jeff what are you doing here?
It's because advertisers don't like it.
The bot that selects what to demonetize, doesn't know what context is unfortunately...
@Dax Dexico I didn't comment on the acceptability of it.
hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
Anytime I hear that someone says "[insert sexuality] will die out because they won't reproduce!" continues to seem wild because sexuality has never worked that way? I certainly didn't inherit my sexuality from my parents!
literally, like if it’s inherited and they can’t reproduce then how did any of them exist in the first place?
@@charcoal222 To be fair, many queer folks (sometimes in the closet) can and have had children. But I digress and my point still stands!
Those types of people who say a sexuality will die out don't realize that it will never die out since many people have kids and not everyone will be straight.
@@virtualmorgue I mean if they had you, id assume theyre straight lmaooo
Well at least it will help reduce overpopulation
i understand to an extent why people confuse this with narcissism, but when you think about it it’s quite sad. these people are loving themselves and not trying to force others to like them, and the fact that we as a society associate that with narcissism just shows that we are so against self love and confidence for not only ourselves but others. we feel threatened by others who are happy with themselves and that’s really unfortunate
:(
Think it is weird that people care about these self love ❤️
Funnily enough, it does tie into the root of the term "narcissism", where the Greek legend of Narcissus discusses a man who basically falls in love with himself.
The original tale of Narcissus is quite a lot closer to Autosexuality than to narcissism actually, but it's not exactly feasible to change the English language.
he’s so good at doing interviews and they’re always so engaging even when i have such a short attention span
edit- why did this get so many likes tysm 💀
wilbah
as someone with a very short attention span i agree
@@sundace I thought you two were the same person and got really confused 😭😭😭😭
@@ambipan samee
True I also have a really short attention span and I totally agree lmao
It's great to see how respectful Anthony is
always has been :P
I mean it’s making him thousands of dollars lol you don’t bite the hand who feeds you.
@@LScentral Yeah, but its great to see how he interacts with others especially when it comes to more critical topics or comes to people who are " different " yk?
That thumbnail doesn't do them any favors lmao
@@LScentral even if it's just for the money, it's still refreshing to see
As a trans person who lives everyday in self hate and discomfort, to see other trans people practice self love and appreciation is so refreshing, and borderline shocking. Big respect to them.
I just want you to know you’re so valid in your identity and I hope one day you’re able to feel completely comfortable with yourself. You deserve it
freak
@@darkconcept. only freak I am is in the sheets, babygirl.
@@darkconcept. you can leave now.
@@queerbotanicalqueen oh no. I’m so scared by you freak power
Narcissus fell in love with his reflection, that's is the etimology of narcissism.
You damn right! I am a narcissist, I am not a pathological narcissist (NPD), just someone obsessed with themselves and with sexual desire for myself only, sometimes I fantasize about doing things to myself!
@jasonserial4535 same here with me but not the medical term, just the basic definition lol
@@xrougedustx Self-obsessed is good my friend 👍😎
@@xrougedustx And ur proud of that?
@@jouddabest yes
I'm pretty sure I'm asexual so the idea of being attracted to anyone, let alone myself, feels a little strange (not every asexual will be like that though). I like learning about different people
That’s aromantic not just asexual. Asexual is when you don’t have sexual attraction but would still date someone. Aromantic is when you don’t want to date anyone
I broke my feet today because I kicked my computer because someone commented that my videos are bad! I hate unjustified criticism. Please wish me a speedy recovery, dear iq
@@chocolatedonut6312 I think they meant being sexually attracted to anyone.
I'm aegosexual which is a micro label in the asexual spectrum. Basically I still have sexual fantasies, get turned on by sexual content although for me it's specifically just hentai, but I have no interest in actually engaging in sexual activities with another person. Real life is turn off for me. I still want a romantic companion though but I preferably like it if they are under the asexual umbrella too that way I don't have to risk breaking my boundaries in order to please them. I'd much rather in that case let them go with someone else that's a better fit for them than stuck with me.
@@KatOnline same
"Why do you care?" is honestly such a powerful question. It can be used in so many LGBTQ+ situations. Why DO people care so much when they're not even involved in it? People like what people like, that's no one else's business.
Yeah, but a lot of people are nosy… 😔
"I'm cool with all of this, just very nosy" would be my personal answer 😂 There's no excuse for being very invasive or disrespectful though
"Why do you care?" is not a powerful question, it's the opposite, only the people who side with you will understand and support that statement, people who don't understand will keep not understanding, I think we want people to understand each other, not divide them
Yeah in this case. It is literally no one's business (because the only potential person it would be relevant would be a partner, which would be an autosexual's self)!
When people who have always had rights see other oppressed people gain certain rights, those who benefit from oppression feel like they are losing rights.
that thumbnail is crazy ☠️☠️
We need an video on "i spent a day with narcissist personality disorder" or "I spent a day with antisocial personality disorder"
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE
He already made a vid on those..... You're on the vid, rn 😆😆😆
@@pinky2755 how does it feel to be stupid
@@pinky2755 you thought you ate that 🤚
Someone who's a narcissist won't admit that they're a narcissist. They can't comprehend that they aren't perfect, just like how people with god complexes don't *say* that they have a god complex. So, they might not even accept an invitation.
@@SlimeyBaron this is a very good point
excited to see these people that love themselves more than i hate myself lmao
That’s really funny
ngl this is not love this is ridiculous
@@tkokflux6322 why do you care if it’s real or not, it has no impact on you whatsoever
@@sweetest-of-memes I know but I wont call it something that isnt now if someone denied holocaust would it have some kind of effect on me? hell nah but would I argue with that person YES if I feel like a statement is ridiculous I will always give my opinion on it
@@tkokflux6322 …uh, that second comment of yours took so many random twists that it gave me whiplash 😂😮💨
when you're so used to hating your self, seeing people love themselves so much in a non narcissistic manner feels bizarre. good to know more about autosexuals
I used to thoroughly hate myself, after going through a lot of therapy and taking a lot of psychedelics, I eventually learned to love myself and discover I am sexually attracted to myself
I truly do hate the way I look most of the time- yet I have this. The difference is that, think about it-you might be attracted to a celeb that that is plain or not the normal “sexy”.
I see no reason to love what I see in the mirror. There is so many things I've done I just can't
I think loving yourself in a non narcissistic manner is just having neutral feelings or less focus on yourself actually. It is kind of bizarre to me that someone can sexually love themselves. Its not an issue at all if they're not causing any problems to others but Im not sure if its healthy.
@@bapbirb it’s just another form of sexual attraction that is consensual
I love how comfortable Anthony makes them feel. His energy is very welcoming.
More people should take themselves out on a date! This is a great video
I was so judgmental about this before I watched this, but once Kenzie explained the difference between autosexuality and narcissism, I found it incredibly fascinating.
ye her logic actually makes sense
Yea
Kenzie is so inredible at explaining things and makes confusing topics very easy to understand. Love her
Same!!! I am so happy that Anthony made this video
Why were you judgemental? The only people who get mad at confidence and self love are the people who lack it.
I've never heard of autosexuals before, so I'm reaaally interested in this one
Me too
same
ya same
Yeah same it was really cool
Yea. Can’t wrap my head around being actually aroused by yourself
Or romantically interested in yourself😂
thank god they don’t have identical twins-
Hi, autosexual here!
If I had an identical twin, I wouldn't be attracted to them because they're my twin and they aren't me. Being autosexual doesn't imply that you'd be attracted to your identical twin, which is a weird thing for me to feel the need to say, but here we are
There is apparently a phenomenon that happens in some people where they are attracted to the idea of themselves as the opposite gender. Now I don’t know if Kenzi has that or if she was attracted to the idea of her true self first but I’d love to know more about how trans autosexuals view themselves.
Yea, I was wondering about that too. Very intriguing to think about
The thing that made it super clear to me is that autosexual means I find myself attractive to ME. They don't desire others to feel this way as well. Narcissistic people think EVERYONE should find them attractive, among other things as well.
And narcissism stems from deep rooted self-hatred (and pushing negativity on others) while autosexual is self-love to the extreme.
this is a really fantastic point, thanks for mentioning it! i think this comment answered any confusions i had left after watching the video.
Narcissists also want people to think they're amazing when it comes to EVERYTHING, not just physical appearance. They have to be better than everyone at everything, they have to get everyone to think they're completely perfect.
The obese person with headphones on is only “auto sexual” because no one else would like her, she doesn’t take care of her self and has eaten so much she looks like an ogre, she has to love her self as no one else will.
Thank you for understanding that Autosexuals are not narcissists. I recently had a run in with one and it meant two years of online stalking hell from them. I am an auto sexual and proud to love myself. Self love also helps you to see the beauty in others too. Everyone deserves to have love in their life. It’s pure bliss😍😘💓💓💓💓🥰🥰🥰🌈💛💛💛✨💫
The fact Anthony Padilla started the "I spent a day with (blank)" as a joke but has now evolved to have the show be authentic and accepting of all different kinds of people while gathering very interesting and deep insight into the lives of these people is just beautiful.
Totally 💯
I love it, I'm learning a lot about different kinds of pepple--I think this series was very much needed!
@Xivie why do you feel that way? He is never disingenuous and always respectful
@lemonssssssss4 ??? In what world is 800k+ views failing. Are you on drugs lmaooo
@lemonssssssss4 then the way you worded your comment was wrong lol.
Dude but like, it’s the myth of Narcissus.Falling in love with yourself, how come is not narcissism?
Because narcissism is a mental disorder that was named with the narcissus myth in mind. Being in love with yourself fits with narcissus but not the diagnosis criteria for narcissistic personality disorder. Basically: narcissism does not equal narcissus
@@bottompercy still, this people clearly have a mental disorder. Maybe not narcissism, but one thing is self love and another thing is this bs.
@@rzovlogswhy are people with mental disorders not allowed to be content with themselves? if they're not a danger to others or themselves, who are we to dictate how they should or shouldn't feel?
It’s insane that in a time when the human population is at 8 BILLION and rapidly growing people are complaining about a select few who choose not to contribute to the problem (for whatever the reason). If anything you should be congratulating these people and encouraging them! People just come up with the most illogical excuses to hate on someone.
Freaking exactly! that’s what I’ve been trying to tell people! There are almost 8 billion people in the world, and people decide to get mad at a group that doesn’t even reach 0.1% of that number? Some people need to just accept that this is how the world is, whether they like it or not, and move on with their damn day.
humans love two things, to hate themselves and to hate other humans*
*This is even easier when a bunch of insecure people see a person that they love themselves
Yes let’s encourage made up bs
It’s because people loving themselves personally offends me because I say so 😤
Exactly!!
This is me...its a relief to have a name for how I feel. I'm autistic too. And do believe it's for me,trauma related, I dissociate a lot, but when loving myself, pleasing myself, no dissociation, no flashbacks...I'm good.
Glad ur good
I’m sorry for your past! But I’m happy your love for yourself is stronger!
lol narcissists have a sexuality label now, that's funny
glad you found a name to specify the valid way you go about life
@@volkova6209 >:(
I think another way to understand the difference between auto-sexual and narcissism is the core trait of narcissism is that these people actually deeply hate themselves and feel inadequate so they need to find ways or people to counteract that. Whereas with auto sexual it seems to me like it’s just truly self love to the most extent.
I know a potential narcissist and she doesn’t act anything like these people. I see a clear difference.
Narcissists do not hate themselves. They have a grandiose sense of self-importance, believe they are special and entitled, and behave arrogantly. If they feel envy towards another person it is not because of self-hate, but because they believe that they are more deserving.
@@tstarr8314 yes but it’s all rooted from deep down self hatred. That’s why they act the way they do, to pretend that they love and value themselves so much when in reality they rly don’t.
@@tstarr8314 if you were to think of something a lot , you’d start to rly feel and believe in it as if it were true even if it is not
@@ella-qm6jq Actually, that’s not true. Narcissism does not come from some deep-down self hatred, it an overinflated sense of self-importance and self-worth, with little compassion for others. There’s not always a true reason for it, or self-hatred that causes it. Sometimes people are just that way.
DYSLEXIA! (not to intrude on auto sexuals or take away spotlight) dyslexia has alot more then people think and talk about, and we need to be heard! please please sit down with us in the future 👍
FAX
I would love to see a video talking to people who identify as polyamorous and/or non-monogamous. 🥺 It's an old practice yet a new concept to a lot of people. (Also, sorry for placing this in the comments if there is a proper way to request videos... I couldn't find anywhere on your channel with a section meant for that.) You're amazing as always, and thank you for everything you do and all the enlightening videos you put out.
Yes! Poly people are overlooked so often 😭 Especially since there's huge misconceptions about what it's like. I've met people who think actual healthy poly relationships are just the same as forced harems!
I'm poly and we're often so overlooked in the lgbtq+ community everyone still sees it as bad or cheating or cult like but I'm literally just like everyone else I just perfer having multiple long term partners rather than one and if everyone's okay with it it's absolutely not cheating
@@Jbird728If everyone agrees to the relationship knowing the terms I see no reason to be against it. Some people just aren’t comfortable with different things. It’s human nature to be that way, but I also think humans can think well enough to go against some of that subconscious thinking.
I honestly don't see a problem with this. As long as they aren't really doing anything wrong, then who cares? As an asexual myself, I really don't agree with those remarks other asexuals made towards Alex. Everyone experiences asexuality very differently, and everyone comes to terms with it differently. At the end of the day if you truly believe that you're asexual, then you're asexual. And I think we should all embrace our differences.
Exactly. No one's sexuality needs to be "proven", only rrspectedb
sorry had a stroke last second apparently
Yeah, I had the same thought as you! They're just making themselves happy and they aren't hurting other people in process, so why the hell does it matter?
I've never heard about this sexuality before and I find myself relating to some of the things they're saying plus the way they are acting and talking about this, it really does NOT look anything like narcissism.
Also I never understood the breeding argument? Like why does it matter if I have a child or not???? There's 7 billion people on this planet, we ain't dying out any time soon lol
exactly, it’s completely valid to identify with asexuality due to trauma. it doesn’t make you any less ace.
@@chxbby2695 just let people love who they love, man. Nothing else is important
I find it really cool how respectful Anthony is. I would be uncomfortable in front of a lot of the people he talks to, and it’s just nice to see such a great interviewer like him.
I think the key to it is to just not let your own opinions show during the interview. If you keep a clear head, ask good questions and stay respectful it should be fine. It’s easier said then done I think.
Ikr but to be fair I'm awkward around anyone lol
When I first saw this term when you made the community post about it, the second I read the definition a lot of things started making sense. I definitely feel I could identify with autosexual and it was so nice to see other peoples experiences
my dumbass thought they were fuckin cars at the start.
Same
If you ever decide to spend a day with a recovered ED person I would love to it. Ed are very dangerous and people do not understand them that well
I thought you were talking about Edward
YES!!!!!!!
At first i thought u was talking abt erectile dysfunction but i realize it was eating disorders lol
@@psychogenical1419 both are interesting subjects though
I second this
I wish I got at least 1% of their confidence and love for themselves.
Work on it
try to never say mean things about yourself. always praise yourself when you do something good. also focus on your uniqueness and how that makes you beautiful ❤️
@@mothavery Easier said than done but thank u for the help
How about you grab a piece of paper and start writing anything positive about yourself? Whether it be things you like or enjoy, a beautiful mole, some highlights in your life, or your eyes having a lovely color.
It will seem hard at first, but one small step is better than no step at all. :)
Anything positive, even if it's a really small thing.
@@cybergalacticnova Yes, this could help. Thank u ^_^
autosexuals have the self love we all strive to have tbch lol! ik it’s more nuanced + complex than that, but i truly admire these ppl who can fully embrace who they are
Weird that anyone would be mad at someone for loving themselves it literally doesn’t hurt anyone. I think society has made it so normal to be insecure and not like stuff about yourself that ppl find it strange, conceited or narcissistic to completely love yourself like being in love with yourself
Being in love with yourself is narcissism. Read the story of Narcissus.
@@555nolife666 Being a narcissist is believing that people are inferior to you with a need for admiration from others due to the idea that you’re better than those around you in one way or another and lacking empathy. I think it’s unfair to label someone a narcissist for loving themselves sure it’s to a degree in which most people don’t reach but they aren’t hurting anyone and never claim they’re better than the people around them they just don’t have those feelings towards other people which is fair and valid
@@sanaiyajones3654 so you just proved his point
@@sanaiyajones3654 nope, narcissism is self affectionate by definition. Cope
@@sanaiyajones3654 what ur saying is ego
I don't think it should be under the ace spectrum since its defined by the presence of a specific sexual attraction, not a lack of one. But I'm open to a different perspective of why it is (without assholery).
Edit: I should look more into grey-sexual. Thank y'all for actually not being asshole-ish! 😊I saw 18 replies and got scared 😳
I agree. I don't want to invalidate their experience but it seems unrelated to asexuality (maybe with an intersection in grey-asexuality for a portion of them)
I agree. I’m ace myself and I see the base line definition of “lack of sexual attraction” so, feeling a sexual attraction to yourself is still sexual attraction.
I respectfully disagree. I'm a sex-repulsed asexual and even though this is my first time hearing of autosexuality, I think it could apply to the spectrum. Many asexual people define asexuality as "not experiencing sexual attraction OR the lacking of sexual attraction to any gender or person." Some asexuals (who are not sex-repulsed) do engage in sex to demonstrate a strong form of intimacy with their partner... Or because they DO enjoy the pleasure of sex. But it's just the action they like and not the other person's attributes. From this perspective, I think autosexuality could be somewhere in the spectrum. But I'm not an expert on autosexuality to have a fully-fledged opinion.
I think it would be in the grey-ace spectrum, since someone can be grey-ace and very sexually active with themselves and/or others, they just rarely feel sexual attraction (besides the person the person they are attracted to, like a partner or themselves).
I would say so, since demisexuals and greysexuals are not so black and white and can experience SOME specific sexual attraction, but are still considered ace. I'm a demi and I feel like they're basically like me except the person they need to be bonded to to feel sexual attraction is themselves. From what I've seen, autos are generally accepted as ace. But at the end of the day it really depends on how they feel about it personally.
As an asexual, we do not claim any aces who exclude autosexuals. They are very welcome in the community 💖
As a sex-repulsed asexual I agree!
As a Bambi lesbian (Ace&Lesbian) i also agree!
Ayyyy more aces!!🖤🤍💜
as a biromantic sexual I also-also agree!
SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK 😩
Omg! Before this, I was aroace. But now I might be aroace autosexual???
Get help
Your valid!!
I legitimately thought that Autosexual meant finding automobiles attractive 😂. Am I the only one.
I don't believe that sexuality is something that is genetically coded into you, but that does not mean that it is a choice. Your environment effects you in ways that you have no control over. My favorite color is purple; I have no conscious control over that, I just like purple; that does not mean my like for the color purple exists in my DNA. I think the same is true for sexuality: just like any other like and dislike, it a product of your environment, but that does not make it a choice
good explenation
And caedsexual exists.
One is once a allosexual but due to trauma, they are no longer allosexual (and are asexual.)
I think it can maybe be genetic or environmental, or possibly both. I think it depends on the person. I do agree that either way sexuality isn't a choice. Either way whether it's from trauma, just how you're born, just general environmental factors, etc., your sexuality is valid.
Exactly, and maybe next month my favorite color is blue. It can change and it's not something that's pinned on to you your whole life (even though that's also a possibility). You can like multiple colors and it doesn't mean you're confused which one you like most. You can also have preferences but still like other colors too. Great example, I love it haha
Makes sense. I think it can be a mix of genetics and environment, and there's a level of fluidity each person can have with their sexuality. For instance, I'm autosexual but also attracted to others, but tend to lean towards autosexuality when I'm more isolated. So it depends on my environment to an extent.
All judgement, insecurity and trauma aside, that does sound kinda handy, as the best sex is always available.
I'm so proud to be the 69th like to this comment lol
"Hand"y
Heh heh 😉
and you sleep peacefully at night knowing you're not getting cheated on
Personally, as an asexual, I don't think this quite fits with asexuality. I think this should be considered it's own thing because us Aces have a LACK of sexual attraction while the people in this video still have sexual attraction even if it is to themselves. That's my two cents anyway.
the concept of falling in love with yourself and even finding yourself sexually attractive is SO bizarre to me, as someone who hates themselves so fucking much i'll do anything in my day to ruin things for myself bc i feel like i deserve nothing good, this whole video has been a mind fuck. i literally hate everything abt me this is so crazy to my small hatred filled brain 😂
I don’t know if it could help, but being around other people could be a nice distraction. Can’t give any more advice on self-hate, but I wish u the best anyways
I really hope you get help :( best wishes to you
wow, i just learned so much! i had never heard of autosexual before so i was very curious and excited about this episode. So many interesting concepts. thanks Anthony and interviewees
Same. I like to think I'm a part of the LGBTQ+ bracket (Bi) and then I learn that the + includes way more categories than I could ever imagine. It's amazing and beautiful how diverse the world is.
@@TheYunacat And all of them originate from tumblr 💀
@@goat.95 Dude if you think this is new you need to read up on some history but you most likely would remain ignorant.
@@TiredHumanBeing Please feel free to share some "history".
@@goat.95 And in the article the term was first coined in 1989 way before Tumblr so there's that bud, but if you want to continue to remain close-minded you'll learn nothing
this series is amazing, it teaches ppl the actual pov of pepole who go through these things
Yeah it’s really interesting.
Why did yall make the one guest look so messed up in the thumbnail
I always love Anthony’s interviews because he is so incredibly respectful
As a pan man, I’ll never experience or understand autosexuality fully. Like I don’t fully understand heterosexuals or homosexuals. But like all over sexualities, if it’s between consenting adults I don’t care and I’ll support you. Too many people care what others do in their bedrooms. It also disheartens me when I hear that some inside the queer community aren’t accepting of different “not mainstream” sexualities. Honestly, I’m ranting at this point, but just let people be who they are
Agreed
i know it’s supposed to be like serious and i hate to break the mood but pan man would be an epic lgbtq superhero
@@charl14my you aren’t wrong haha
@@charl14my By day, I am a person who exists.. By night, I am the exact same but I have an even cooler name
@@charl14my hell yeah lol, I think that’s this year’s Halloween costume sorted
the amount of respect this man has for people *chef's kiss* you know his mama raised him right
Go back to smosh 10 years ago
@@e_m_o_c_l_e_W yes... TEN years ago
@@e_m_o_c_l_e_W it's almost like 10 years is such an immensely short period of time that he had no way to improve himself as a person
Peak comedy
He’s just doing what will make him money.
Story of narcissus, go read this and it kinda explains itself😂
FR
Bro right
Wow, I'm envious. The repulsion that I feel myself is so intense, I didn't even know this was possible!
Takes “love yourself” to another level
Honestly, our lives are so short and who gaf if another person identifies or experiences the world in a different way. As long as you are not hurting yourself or others then go chase what makes you happy
PREACHHHHH
I wish people would sit down and talk like this more. A lot of the time we see the bad side of people and forget that we are all people. People are too serious about things like this, and these videos are so refreshing.
I love how he's not judging them or being condescending, he's just asking genuine questions that a lot of other people are probably curious about as well. This was very well done.
You should do an interview with people who are allergic to "everything" (have several allergies). I think it would be interesting to see how those people navigate day to day
Yes!!! I have MCAS along with a few other health conditions, and it causes me to randomly get allergies to almost everything I come in contact with. I just found out I'm allergic to the pneumonia vaccine 😭😭😭
Bruh I'm literally allergic to just soap and people at work try to tell me I can't bring soap (that I'm not allergic to). I'm not getting a rash just to wash my hands. What a nightmare being allergic to more must be.
For me, my dad also has this allergy so usually growing up everything in the house was fine, but if I had to wear a jersey in gym it would itch something crazy, I can usually use naturally fragranced, not synthetic soap and deterrgent brands. This is for every kind of soap.
@@crispyy.roseeMUA me too, I survive because IV Benadryl is a thing 😂 it’s not glamorous
i’m allergic to. grass.
it sucks lmao
YES I’ve been commenting this! I have peanut and egg allergies and there’s so so much people don’t know!
Met an autosexual trans man for the first time in a psych ward in 2016, he was very caring towards everyone younger than him and taught us all very well abt queerness in many aspects, it was amazing
Psych ward part explains a lot
>very caring towards everyone younger than him
Gee, I wonder why...
@@doogus8728 speaking from someone who has been to a psych ward , its not just a place crazy people go. Its a hospital for people experiencing mental illness. When I was there, the people in there were there for attempted suicide, self harm, etc. It's not like how it's depicted in movies/tv/other media. Yes, there are padded rooms, but they dont just throw you in there. They'll only put you in there if you're a danger to yourself or others. I know my experience doesnt represent what every psych ward is like, but i do know that it is much different than a bunch of "crazy" people in cells
Edit: also want to add that im not denying people who are insane exist , I'm just saying the guy this person is talking about is probably just some guy that was in there for depression or something like that, and he just happened to be autosexual. I dont think they would throw someone in the psych ward for simply being autosexual
Lmao course he was in a psych ward
@@kttstrwbry yikes
kenzie is so well spoken i love learning from her :D
As a person who hates their own reflection it makes me happy to see people who love themselves
Autosexuals- I have a question that I'm curious about: Is it possible to fall out of love with yourself? Like what breaking up with someone is like? Hope this doesn't come out offensive but I'm just so curious
Update: Thank you SO MUCH to everyone who responded to this with their experiences- you really made my day🧡 Feel free to still tell me abt your experiences of being an auto sexual, I love reading them 💕
Oh this is good!! How would that play out!? I want to know too!
this is a good question. Once you learn how to love yourself, is it even possible to stop? To be someone you don't love? Would you want to?
And if you did, wouldn't that be incredibly toxic to yourself? I mean, if you had to pretend to be someone else, to be attractive to yourself, then you're not really autosexual, right? Because that wouldn't really be you anymore? That's what I think, but I don't know either. This is fascinating.
@@psychohochsieben2316 I never have to pretend to be someone else because then it wouldn’t be auto sexual. It would just be fantasizing about another person. I personally don’t feel like I could ever be unfaithful to myself. I’m attracted to myself but I also have a long term relationship. Sometimes I don’t like myself but I have never experienced not loving myself. I wonder if anyone else has. Personally even when I’ve been at my least confident I still have found myself sexually attractive. It’s a weird paradox I will say that. But I think with any genuine love it would take a tremendous amount to not love even at allow points.
@@lgene235 ^ explained it perfectly ! Like yes sometimes i feel down and not feeling the greatest with my self image but that isnt to say i still dont love myself ! As for "breaking up", nah at least in my personal experience. Like i know myself and my own worth that even when i dont feel the best, i know all i have to do is look in the mirror with tears in my eyes and smile and still feel my own self love.
Autosexual here! That is a great question. I don't think I've ever had to "break up" with myself, and I don't think it's even possible... but there have been times when I simply don't think about my self-attraction, usually if I'm focused on other things or busy or stressed out. But I've realized that my self-care and self-attraction are intertwined in a way that forgetting myself in favor of external things can be detrimental. Like any relationship, I have to put effort into communicating with and caring for myself, otherwise I just feel blahh. I have legit had arguments with myself before though, and mental health issues that have made me want to quit life entirely, which I suppose could be considered a sort of self-breakup had I been successful.
To me it's like a forever relationship I can't opt out of; and I'm happy with that. Though, similar to long-term relationships (even ones that are going well), it's normal to have romantic/sexual dry spells, or times when you kinda just exist with your partner like friends or roommates. I experience that with myself sometimes. But ever since truly embracing my autosexuality, I crave deep self-connection (romantic, sexual, etc.) even more, and fulfilling that need is helping me thrive. ^^
I felt it when Anthony said “sometimes existing can be exhausting.”
I can see why. “Hey you guys” lookin ass. Looking like a sunburnt horse
Nothing to do with the sexuality, and I understand that autosexuality is different from narcissism, but I wonder if there is overlap. A couple of these people seem to me to be a bit narcissistic outside of their discussion of their sexuality.
I would love to know who! (Not in a rude way of course, I’m just curious)
This makes total sense to me. I think it's wild that people in this day and age have the opportunity to figure themselves out in this way. "You're not alone" can be such a healing idea.
wow really interesting topic!! nice to see people express their self-love in ways that are so unapologetically them and not worrying about people seeing it as “narcissistic” or self absorbed. Self love is the key to all love 💫❤️🕺🏻
damn your real
Hey ravon just wanted to say I love your videos and they are very entertaining! Thanks for making them!
WAIT RAVON!?
omg ravon i love you
maybe he should do a video on neopronouns now ravon
I still don't understand it after watching this. But i respect them and they look so happy. How could you hate that?
i love this mindset 👍
Same
It’s like me with neopronouns. I won’t be able to understand how someone can take their three to four favorite letters of the alphabet and turn it into a pronoun, but if that makes them comfortable and they aren’t hurting anyone that I’m OK with it
I really like cars too
God has arrived to the Comment section
I really really appreciate how respectful Anthony is when interviewing people, especially those who would be considered "out of the norm." He never asks a rude or bias question, love it.
I really thought we were gonna see people who are intimate with cars but I’m glad it’s people who love themselves instead
As a mental health therapist, I highly enjoy your videos. I feel a little more prepared and the exposure to the various topics makes feel a little more confident in being able to communicate with someone who may fall under one of these topics. Thank you.
You should know you’re an amazing therapist. Knowing how to handle different identities, even beyond the basics like race, biological sex, economic status, etc. is so important. ❤
What an amazing therapist you are
Most of them just can't get somebody to love them 😂 seriously
thats autosexual what they talked about in the vidio(and as a autosexual person myself i get alway in relationships)what i think is called autoromanitc(little to no romanitc feelings towords ohter but to your self)
Can't believe I haven't heard of this, this was very eye opening for me. You're great at what you do Anthony and also power to the guests who really helped explain this. 💙
I just went from thinking," oh how narcissistic ", to completely going, " Yo.... thats valid asf ".
I went to totally narcissistic assholes to totally narccisistic awesome human beings.
🤣🤣
i think its important to notice that loving yourself isn’t narcissism, narcissism is actually based off of a personality disorder and theres a lot to it. its more of a self obsession to the point that you think theres noone better than you, and that if you hurt others it is their fault and narcissists don’t actually admit really that they are narcissists, they are warped into believing theres nothing better than them. a lot of it is acc manipulation, and being patronising and demanding of others.
the character development
@@romangonzalezadrianmaurici6302 Contrary to popular belief, narcissism is driven by deep rooted insecurity rather than an inflated sense of self. Narcissists often need to manipulate and control other people to regulate their own self esteem, and I think that marrying yourself and yeeting other people out of the equation of physical attraction entirely is on the opposite side of that in a way. ;P
Their level of self confidence is very admirable, I don’t see any shame on self love
I know! I was so impressed
what self-confidence?
I think autosexuality is totally valid. I also think it probably shouldn't be under the ace umbrella and rather be it's own sexuality. Because asexuality is the absence of sexual attraction. Autosexuality seems to me like it's an absence of sexual attraction to OTHERS, but you still experience sexual attraction (to yourself).
Well if things like demisexual are included, I don't see why autosexuality wouldn't.
@@etta5487 Demi sexuality is still having a lack of sexual attraction, even though it goes away when you get to know someone
@@Commentingstuff yeah and autosexuality is a lack of sexual attraction...to other people
@@WishGender I’ve never thought of it like that, that’s true
The general consensus is that having any sort of lack, complete or partial, in 'regular' sexual attraction puts you under the asexual umbrella. But it's seems skewed to me, some of those people might actually be much "closer" to allosexuality, it being a spectrum and all, and it feels weird to group them under the same umbrella as someone who is completely asexual and sex repulsed or very close to it. It's been bothering me for awhile now and I think there should definitely be a third in-between option for people who don't feel like they belong to either the allosexual or asexual side.
Me for example, I don't experience sexual attraction in the traditional way at all and by the defintion of sexual attraction I apparently don't even experience it, but I know that I experience something, and it is definitely sexual, and I don't feel asexual in anyway, but for obvious reasons am nothing alike allosexual people either. I really wish that there was some label for it, that isn't about defining how my sexual attraction is lacking but rather how it is alternative to the norm but still there.
I just stared at myself in the mirror & straight up said “nope”
I would love love love to see a video on the condition anosmia. I was diagnosed years ago and it’s very interesting. And Covid has made a huge difference to the topic. (Also I’m 18 and would love to speak about it if so.)
I didn't know that had an actual name. I can't smell anything most of the time. I have a few good days where my nose works (good, or bad, depending on the scent) but, for the most part, I can't smell anything. It really makes me sad when I've shoved my face in a blooming lilac bush and can't smell it, even though it's always been one of my favorite scents. I don't know what caused me to stop having a sense of smell, but it's been like this most of my adult life (I'm in my 30s).
yeah i have that too. its been 5 months..
I have parosmia & Phantom Smells. Local hospital blamed covid I never had it.. went to Mayo, diagnosed with Limbic encephalitis and Migraines. The rancid smell of food went away with the steroids but was damage caused by Limbic Encephalitis. Same age group, just really disappointing that in 2021 the local doctors automatically blamed covid and didn't do further research...
wait yo hold up i never knew this had a name !! i lost my sense of smell in 2015, and just kinda continued on w my life in confusion. hold up im about to do a bunch of research
@@AlexanderDaniel it's quite hard doing research on it due to covid, but if you had a serious sinus infection that can cause it too! It's all relating to olfactory damage :)
Is it stupid that I at first thought autosexual meant being attracted to cars 💀
Girl same 💀
I saw some comments on instagram for this video and I am glad the ones under the original video are so much more understanding.
Anthony does such a great and such an important job of teaching us the art of acceptance. And yes, also self acceptance.
And being so toxic under a video about self love is just so sad. And such a testimony of why these videos are so important.
Thank you, Anthony, for doing the work of whatever god you may believe in.
I was waiting for this episode fand learned so much! Anthony is always so nice and respectful to all his guests and that's what makes these interviews so chill & engaging all while being very educational. I never understood autosexuality although I came across this label before but now I feel like I understand it a lot more. Especially with Kenzie's explanation differentiating it from narcissism. These series really helps make the world a better and more accepting place. Thank you, Anthony! And thank you to all the guests in this episode! Everyone should just be allowed to love who they want to love and do what they want to do as long as it's not hurting anyone.
I love seeing how respectful Anthony is in his interviews! Also, everyone know that you are loved, valid, and accepted!
I don't know if I'm jealous or want just a drop of that feeling, especially seeing another gay trans person. At the same time I expect that a lot of people that are uneducated on this stuff to be hostile beyond belief
It’s kind of admirable that before jumping to hate you acknowledged a potential envy in yourself.
I think it’s a very good quality and I’m also trying to work on that myself.
@@stephaniesmith3544 I just know that self love is something I lack and although at first I kind of judged I realised it was the envy of my first thought about myself is usually self depreciating even though (this is going to sound cocky and full of myself but as I say I am a very self depreciating person) I'm constantly told how good I look etc.
It's something I've always done and I kind of check myself the second i judge anyone because I'm not a judging person due to my accepting upbringing but yeah it's something I think people should do more.
I always try and tell people to check themselves before they judge others because what they say or do may reflect their insecurities instead of any "imperfections" or "abnormalities" they see in others.
I already loved the show bc Anthony is so open minded and kind. I got in here and read the comments and my heart is so warmed
That these comments too are open minded and kind!
i love how you are so respectful about everything that comes up into the convo :D real king frfr
Anyone claiming that this is equal to narcissism doesn't understand narcissism (or this sexuality) AT ALL. There is a big difference between a grandiose sense of self and a romantic attraction to yourself.
Agree, but I think this could be really hard to understand. Some people don't even understand homosexuality. Unfortunately not everyone is able to understand things that are outside of what they experienced themselves.
@@libera7161 yeah + the fact that oftentimes people aren’t even WILLING to learn and understand
@@metaloopa6907 true, that's sad. Let's just focus on positive people and ignore the haters. 🙂
yes. this claim also implies that if you're attracted to someone, you personally think they are better than everyone else. i don't think that's necessarily true.
There's different types of narcicism.
Hey Anthony,
Can you do an I Spent a Day with Narcissistic People (People with NPD)? Narcissism is actually misunderstood, especially with the term Narcissistic Abuse being harmful. As an empath, I would love for you to do an episode debunking myths of Narcissists and the Narcissist community. Same thing with Sociopaths (People with ASPD) as well, those two conditions are extremely misunderstood.
Donald trump has npd lol prove me wrong
But I agree that's a great vid idea
For sure, maybe he can do one on MAP people too. Also a extremely misunderstood condition that warrants a video normalizing it. /s
@@Yes-nl7oy
r/woooosh
"/s" is a sarcasm tone indicator.
Edit: lol he deleted his comments.
... I don't think "narcissistic abuse" ... is a harmful term. It's just what usually happens, when people struggling with narcissist traits or disorder don't own their issues and use others to care for insecurities and counter their profound and third party inflicted sense of self-worthlessness.
Narcissistic folks don't usually choose to cause harm ... it's more of a natural consequence of the dynamics caused by the severe hurt they suffered at very early age.
This was so educational and it really shed a much needed light on this topic.
I just love this ❤️ I’m so happy that people are able to come out and express themselves regardless of the evil in this world! These are the good parts in humanity for me!
Anthony, I just wanna say I super appreciate how you treat everybody with so much care and respect. A lot of your videos have helped me want to explore and educate myself. I have recommended your channel to other people to show them that they are not alone with their thoughts, desires and states of being.
Thank you so much for being such a wonderful person and having such an excepting plethora of videos.
Hope you have a great day too!
this series Anthony has created is one of my favorites on youtube, it has educated me in so many different ways.
this series is so informational and necessary. thank you and thank you to everyone involved
I love this series
Same
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He must have on-staff drywall repair specialists for all the ceiling repairs needed. We love Anthony.
Lol! :)
the thumbnail… you didn’t have to do her like that…
I think we created a culture of like self-hatred that people who actually truly love themselves enough to be like sexual is so weird, but I don't actually think it's weird. I think you should be happy with how you look and think you're attractive. I've started to like myself now that I've stopped hating myself. I like my smile. I like how my cheeks look like a chubby chipmunks😊
humanity is so interesting, i love learning about people, this channel is a blessing
The thumbnail makes her look terrifying
Fr man the saturation 📈
They look really pretty in the video idk
As long as people are happy and not hurting anyone, they should be accepted, and anyone who is not cis gender, heteroromantic and hetrosexual should be welcome at pride.
Who came here after watching Aba and Preach Reacting to this ? 😂😂😂😂