Its prespective, hes ready to change the struggle, its not the fact we know hes struggling. We should acknowledge him ready to change for his kids before he dies
Very true. I'm a social worker that works with at risk individuals and addicts, and I'm an addict myself. I remember that tiredness when I was in my active addiction and I can still feel it sometimes. Not so much a tiredness from the recovery process or fear of relapsing myself, I've developed better coping strategies and try to pass them on, but more so an emotional exhaustion from that same struggle that made me an addict in the first place. For me, at least, the tiredness is a product of the particular type of brain I have. The kind of mind that can't be content while remaining still; that needs to constantly expend mental energy treading water to keep my head above the surface and maintain some semblance of emotional stability. In other words, it almost feels like I have to move faster and faster to stay in the same place, and it gets tiring.
Shelby Wilson man it’s nothing to be ashamed of it can happen to all of us. We all have our inner demons, it can be different but we all have them. It ain’t nothing to talk down on someone because you have your inner demons too. Only reason I say this cause people always look down on people like that which yes if they don’t wanna change then I can see why but it can happen to all of us. A real man can cry it feels like once you hit that emotional wall and let go of it and express yourself as a man that’s when things can change, you kind of feel better from my experience. As a man we always lie that we are doing good and we’re this and that, you always trying to looks like your perfect to avoid being vulnerable I have done this a lot and still do, but when I do open up I feel so much better and I start getting to work. Showing your weakness takes courage and strength! I feel like it’s the first step in everything. Much love to that man, he’s a great guy I can relate a lot. I’ve never had a drug or alcohol issue but I can relate in other ways and of course I’ve know people who’s been in a hole cause of drugs and alcohol, it’s a very serious issue and I hope everyone finds a way, god bless us all and stay safe! 🙏🏼
Some people don’t have anyone to ask to for help and iv called the suicide line before and said “ I don’t even know why I called but I just need advice” . People assume everyone has people who care and not all do.
What’s worse is that most men don’t pull this shit (being an alcoholic) and most who are alcoholics don’t seek celebrities opinions in the guise of counselling… dude just wanted some fame it’s as simple as that
I drank for 17 years heavily and it ruined my life, I started when I was 18 with a fake ID and never slowed down. It broke me down inside and ruined every relationship I had, it caused untold amounts of damage, legal and financial hardship. I got to the point where I couldn't even function anymore, I was drinking every waking moment. This year, I finally had enough. I quit drinking 1-6-21 and haven't looked back. Since then I've gone to school for IT and landed my first real, full time office job. I'm 36 years old and I have a felony for drug possession and unlawful carrying of a weapon in Texas, all of this stemmed out of my alcoholism. Going back to drinking isn't a choice for me. Thanks for reading. *edit:* 1/23/23 I want to thank everyone for all the support. I am still sober, haven't had any relapses. Just got poached from an offshore company for a substantial pay increase.
Thanks for the story dude! Keep that shit up! It’s only up from here. May sound weird coming from a total stranger, but I’m proud of you for finding the strength to quit and turn it around dude. You’re awesome.
You had the strength and presence of mind to make the correct turn even if it took too long. You could have let yourself slip away without fighting the good fight. The good fight to set things right and become healthy both physically and mentally. My story is similar to yours. Same age. Started drinking same age. My guess would be that your child hood was hard. Mine was. Alcohol has nearly ruined me too. I have two healthy kids and I’m the only parent they have right now because their mother is in rehab due to alcoholism. She had our kids in her car when she was arrested for her third charge. The first two she totaled the vehicles. I believe it was an act of god that saved my kids. I live in a crummy house and struggle to make ends meet but I keep fighting the good fight because I know better and brighter days are ahead if you stay in the fight. Your story helps because it gets lonely out here sometimes. It’s encouraging. We’re out here too. Job well done getting clean and all the best in the future.
yea, what he said was beautiful man. So much truth, i can relate so much from the watch me wreck my life to not trusting myself. i wish he could hear those words how we heard them. that was powerful
Theo's instinct to sit and listen even in those moments of awkward silence is amazing. Most people are so quick to fill in that silence, but Theo waits and lets more come out. Truly imoressive and amazing what a friend Theo could be to anyone
Im studying nursing- and for mental health assessments or therapeutic communication they say appropriate silence can be the best, shows active listening and encourages the person to speak more. This is probs the best example of this i have seen
I'm in school to be a therapist, and silence is incredibly powerful. I was talking with a friend of mine last night, and I just stayed totally silent. She kept going and going for about 15 minutes and was coming to her own conclusions. Most people know what to do.
Why is that so hard these days? So many guys on radio shows and podcasts have call-ins and they don’t even pay attention but Theo stops comments and says “alright, lets hear more” it just feels so refreshing
Same here bro., I’m living it in real Time. I have it all and my drinking is ruining it everyday. Beautiful wife and kids the house with the picket fence good job. Etc why do I do this ?
“watch me wreck my life, don’t you care” this shit hit on a whole different level. Theo is such a real one for that. Self Sabotage is very real. “ True loneliness is when you don’t even have yourself” that is crazy man. Theo is a solid ass dude man. he’s a gift from god
He honestly articulated the difficulties of addiction better than anyone I have heard in rehabs or 12 step circles. Seems like Theo derives his comedic skills from his insights into psychology and his eloquence.
That was my brother's motto too. Made me sick to my stomach. I answered that question for myself early in life. No one cares. Many years later I'm suffering from that root trying to get over it, but can't.
This made my cry my fuckin eyes out. I work blue collar and was on a roof all by myself crying like a little kid. I wish I could help. I never wanted to hug somebody this bad in my life. We love you brother. If you read this you’re valuable, you’re worthy and you’re capable.
I’m only 22 and deal with addiction 4 generations of addiction, never thought I’d be like them, it started as just having fun now it’s taking shots of whiskey before work, and bring the bottle with me and mix it at work, then after work, I have decided to make the change and break the streak so if I ever have kids they can look at me as an example.
@@WeMadeiit I'm right there with ya, 20 years old, 3rd generation addict. Started with weed at 13 then by the time I was 18 I was smoking getting drunk everyday taking Xanax and smoking percs. Been clean off everything but weed for 2 months now
I am 40 and 4 generations of substance abuse has made my life a rocky rode, of self destruction, you name it and I would fuck it up, you got to get mad, you got to get pissed off and let your will power make you a strong sob YOU guys can do it get clean and stay on top of your shit! East Tennessee listening keep it up
swish831 I agree, it’s also disheartening that we have to applaud this simple act of human decency in these times. I don’t want to get political but I truly believe politics are making people meaner. That with social media have made people colder.
On the 18th of this month of December I would be 6 years sober. Can you share anything with me that you have learned that may continue to keep me strong and focused. Congratulations to you!
"Alcohol gave me wings, and then took away the sky"-- I don't know where I heard that, but it was something that ran through my mind for years. Quitting can be difficult, but it has to be done.
@@Psilocybin77 he’s from the AA book. I promise that’s where you heard it even if it was reiterated in another book or by someone else. That’s who originally said it.
Fuck man this dude has balls, I really hope he’s doing well, I’m 21 with no kids and barely any responsibility and I’m having a hard time with this shit, guys a warrior
Oddly enough, its the responsibility that will help you. Its the responsibility keeping this caller alive. He's has more work to do, this call was a good step.
@@Hj61S827 Playing to lose in itself implies you have given up but are too afraid to do the deed, so instead you let social suicide get you, mental suicide get you and finally physical degradation till death.
Zero judgment from him! He didn't post this for monetary reasons....... he posted this to help those that are too ashamed to admit the truth and to help them. This was the coolest thing I've seen Theo do. Assuming he needed to feed the entire crew on Bert's cooking show without even asking was number 2. Theo is a southern gentleman.... aka a class act.
@@chrishoyt0917 I feel you buddy I was 3 weeks clean and fell off the wagon Idk why i did it but i miss the sober feeling alot..3 weeks down the drain plus a hole in my bathroom wall
In July (not sure what date) of this year it'll be roughly a year for me, I don't like to keep track on days or months. Chronic use for me for nearly 14 years, started out casual then habitually weekly after about a year, that turned into daily use at 1 point when I was earning a lot of money then when I wasn't I was choosing between powder and paying my bills - I'm sure you can guess what I chose. I managed to get stable with once a week use for the last 2ish years but that would still sometimes end in me overspending. It wasn't conducive to a healthy relationship with my Mrs or a healthy life becuase it would still at time spill into 2 or 3 day binges and in the end I realised that although I enjoyed the feeling I had after 3 beers and 2 fat lines of pure coke... I thought I enjoyed it more than I actually did. I realised I didn't *need* it to function, to be myself or to feel satisfied with my weekly achievements at work. At first I did miss it a lot but only becuase it had been a habit for so long, after a while I realised my life wasn't over when I didn't do it and then everything else fell into place with regards to how I felt about it.
I do at times wish I could do it and I know that I could just enjoy a half g or 0.8g over the course of about 8 hours, so basically a whole Friday night, but why? So I can get some self absorbed sense of feeling good? Yeah I'll get that it's guaranteed with good coke but do I need it? And beyond that is it a good or healthy choice? If I'm 100% honest the answer is always no, sometimes I want it but I shouldn't act on it and that's how I live now. And trust me Liz that choice gets easier to make every time you make it, the urge to do it will be less frequent but it will keep popping up but instead of getting tired of fighting it I feel a sense of empowerment which helps keep me on the right path.
Keep it up. 16 days becomes 17, and then a month. As your brain establishes new neural connections, your thinking will change, and you will be a sober person.
@@Benbentilktreat week 3 like week 1. What did you do week one? That feeling of disgust and guilt and shame, it’s a curse and blessing. Ironically you never want to let that feeling go. Write it down if you need to remember it later on.
Seen a lot of clips of Theo, and I think he’s funny, but just letting this guy talk and taking time to listen… gave me a ton of respect for Theo. Glad this dude called. Life is hard and harder when we go it alone.
I'm a big fan of funny theo too, but as an alcoholic, I really needed to hear this serious side of theo. And it's just as admirable, he's amazing at being both funny and sharing his wisdom, he gives me hope
I haven’t seen much of Theo, but have a ton of respect for him after this video. However, I’m pretty sure that’s a voicemail he was playing, not a live caller.
I am so impressed he didn’t interrupt the caller. Amazing. He truly listened, and thought about how to answer it. Didn’t blow him off with a “keep it with the steps”
Sobriety itself is useless. Proper state of mind and happiness is what he should demonstrate to his kids. At least give them a chance to change their perception of normal, because most will propagate what they observe in their seminal years. We all seek “normalcy”
Theo, if you think you’re anything like any other comedian on this planet, you’re dead wrong. You’re a cut above the rest, my friend, and everyone sees that. Please keep doing you.
I started drinking alcohol years ago as a teenage, spent my whole life fighting alcohol addiction. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder, got diagnosed with cptsd. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.
Thanks for sharing your story. That's rough I sympathize. Save your health save your mind. Life is better without heroin, cocaine, alcohol and cigarettes. And you have more money in your pocket. God bless everyone who has rejected the devils intentions to be addicted to alcohol and cigarettes etc which can cause so much damage to health. I will pray for you all.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Germany don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
Mushrooms are very medicinal. This is why anybody familiar with psilocybin and any other kind of fungi will tell you, "They are alive." They have a very ancient wisdom. To my experience, all mushrooms have always said, "Pay attention to your life. How you think, how you feel, and what will you do with the information that you always knew, but now are seeing in this point of view." This is why mushrooms are so respected in tribal cultures. This mental health treatment works for me too. Half micro doses do the trick for me. At least a few days at a time with lengthy time in between. Never addictive. Thank you for sharing this point!
first 20 seconds in and im tearing up. i feel this man, just through his cracking voice and choice of words i can feel his pain. theo dude you are so much more than a comedian to us
Men supporting and healing other men is the best thing to see in this world. I hope everyone who needs help reaches out, no matter how silly or ashamed or awkward you feel. People love you, and recovery is not just a one stop shop! Getting back up and trying again after a relapse is the bravest, strongest thing you can do. xx
This video helped me through a breakup two years ago and its helping me today as a struggling addict. This man pops up in my head on occasion, his words and Theo’s insight really inspire me. I hope he’s doing okay today
Me too, I understand where's he's coming from and I can say from experience- where there's a will there's a way. Being sober is beautiful, I pray for this dude, and hope he finds some hope. One thing I know is you have to have something to believe in spiritually and you have to do it for You. Well those were my experiences. Addiction is basically chemical slavery.
It sounded like he was suicidal and not saying it outright. It would have been good if we'd had some idea of how the conversation turned out, whether the guy even stayed on the line.
Man, I came here to laugh, and I ended up in my feelings over a couple of guys I’ve never met. Godspeed brothers. It’s a marathon. I’m praying for you both.
Amen, brother. Sometimes we really all need some help from another heart or another set of hands. It's a blessing to have people in our lives who care.
It’s so ironic that he’s saying he wants to be something his kids can look up to. Because beating addiction is one of the hardest things a person can do in this life. His kids being able to say “my dad is sober and beat the devil of addiction” is one of the most badass things ever. Especially knowing he did it for them. THAT is the most amazing thing to be proud of and look up to. Please keep pushing if you’re reading this!!!!
You’re right. You gotta beat it first though and they gotta be old enough to understand. Fighting a similar battle myself. It’s the goals thing for me trusting yourself other things. I run a successful construction company but the struggles always there
Bless you. I can see you're an incredibly intelligent and compassionate human. Generous too. The internet can feel so cold and sterile sometimes but it can also be a conduit for sharing love and wisdom. Bless you!
Bro, I just hit 7 years sober and I sometimes take it for granted, but listening to this guy almost made me cry. Wish the best for him. Stay strong brother practice the steps and practice gratitude everyday.
This made me cry. I was in the same boat, drinking myself to death. I can't say where I got the power to stop, but it happened! I'm sober 2 years, 7 months and 13 days. If I can do it, anyone can! God bless you all
God bless i dont know you but very proud of you. Hardest thing is to quit drinking im with you over a year sober. My mom getting cancer gave me strength to be there for her with her battle. My biggest wish is to live and die sober.
Good job brother , keep it up! I'm not sober but I'm only 23 and I don't drink every day or even every week. I do smoke a fair amount of weed though. Also, as an addict how do you consider nicotine and caffeine? Do you think it creates bad set of circumstances for a addict? My family has history of addicts and I've been afraid my whole life of it. Sometimes I feel like I'm falling into the pit of depression and addiction..but life is all cyclical
@@payton3938 my brother. I can't say everything you might need to hear for you and your life. I'm not sure what that looks like. I do know that at your age, a huge defense against slipping into a worse spot is having friends around you that influence you in a positive way. Keep good people around you who care about you and make you want to be and do better every day. People that inspire you. That will give you like a boost to your immune system. Help you fight harder. Be well my man.
@@anti-ethniccleansing465 man covid fucked me up. Went a period of 6-7 months last year I drank twice a day 7 days a week. Put on 50 lbs and became an alcoholic. I've finally got control of myself these past 2 months and was able to cut the drinking down and get back to working out. Can't imagine what other people went through.
honestly bro im tired too... i feel like a have to, to have a regular night... and quarantine made it hell and now im at a point where im starting to fuck up but im ready to let go
I started to cry in the first two minutes . I am a fourth generation alcoholic all of the first males born for the last hundred years are alcoholics in my family. God bless him and if you see this Comment brother God bless you
Me too. Every male for 4 generations too man. Including myself. I hate this demon. My dad has Werneke Korsicoff syndrome from drinking. That's dementia that hits outta nowhere.. It hit him on my birthday 4 years ago and it hasn't gone away. He doesn't know where he is or WHO he is most the time. And here I am now, with a drink in my hand. Jesus what's wrong with me??
I hope this guy knows how many people he actually helped calling Theo and pouring his heart out on air, big props to Theo too for allowing this man to vent
There’s nothing quite like hearing grown men be raw and real, vulnerable. Especially as someone who deals with addiction, hearing someone else say the same things I’ve felt helps. And to see others who are on the other side in recovery brings hope. God bless us all, may we all stop that addiction cycle.
@@belove751I’m with you both . I’m only on my second day. And It’s truly surreal hearing people essentially speaking YOUR mind. Its almost as if you’re listening to yourself, and hearing that pain manifest in someone else’s voice makes you really question why you would be so cruel to yourself to not take action against it. So many of us don’t respect ourselves enough to do anything about it. Good luck to you and anyone else who reads this ❤
Theo saying "Drinking and drugs are just a side effect" is SO bang on for me. I know I'm not addicted to either but is solely based on numbing the constant pain and loneliness I experience on the daily. This was such an excellent video, yet terrifying how accurate it is to my situation
He looked like he was struggling to come up with something to say to him long pauses blank expression which means he had some inner dialogue going probably caught by surprise and was unready for the caller to go so deep..
Proud to say Theo is from where I’m from. People from southern Louisiana are the most compassionate, empathetic, and understanding people you’ll ever meet.
This quote helped me a lot and was said by a previous guest on your show, Jordan Peterson: Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping. I am now almost 12 months sober.
Yeah I think I got something in my eye about halfway through. Congrats on doing better. I am too. First time in my life I’m actually doing pretty well. I dropped the drinking a few years back. Not in a program but I’m kinda doing some of the steps naturally anyway. Scary but I have to start the apology phase. Starting with my daughter It’s hard to admit how badly I messed up with her I’m still gathering the courage
It works if you want it to work. I drank for 21 years. Then I walked into the rooms of AA at 38 years old. Step 1: We admitted we were powerless over alcohol-- that our lives had become unmanageable. That clicked for me when I read it. It was how I felt inside. I didn't know there was a way out of my own hell. Now my life is getting better by the day. Go check out a meeting near you man. You will find support.
As an alcoholic with 3 years sober, I need to remember that the nightmare can come back just as easily as it did back then, I swear to myself I will never touch alcohol for the rest of my life. Moderation isn’t an option for me, and I’m okay with that. Please stay strong brothers, if not for ourselves, for our fellows
I relapsed after 4 years taste never left I knew I couldn't drink but did anyway I should never have drank with my girlfriend she was even buying it for me and her I tryed to get sober again when she did but she wasn't an alcoholic or at least she says she not drinking but she gave me wiskey a few times theres days I'm not sure if she was helping me or hurting me
Mad respect to the caller, that first minute was the rawest shit on UA-cam. Takes a fucking MAN to bear his soul in such a vulnerable way. Protect Theo Von at all costs people, he is an irreplaceable asset to humanity🙏🏻
OnPointFirearms if anything it makes it even more respectable considering he could pause it and comment whenever he wants without impeding the flow of ‘conversation’ like he would in a real call
And when you think you deserve something good you feel selfish.....why.....because we are selfless....its a tough world to face when your selfless, but its worth it because you get glimpses of......you are existence itself....and that is powerful
@first last yea dude this guy's on his last one after trying hard to be better for him and his kids...I hope to whatever god you get an addiction and go through this. Your ignorance proves you deserve it.
Theo is one of the few famous people that you can tell has a heart of gold. This video has helped so many people struggling with addiction and low self worth. I hope the caller got help and turned his life around.
No. The self loathing allows us to be addicts. Its much easier to hate yourself and give yourself an excuse to continue. Much harder to accept responsibility
I asked for help 311 days ago...hardest thing I've ever done. I just stumbled on this and I'm glad I did. Been rough the last few days, and I didn't realize how much I needed to hear this. Thanks Theo, I'm on to the next 311. I hope the caller knows he's not alone, and hope he was able to get help.
Keep asking man, I'm watching this bc my bestie is a (dry atm) alcohoic. He's one of the most wonderful people I know but alcohol kept calling. You should know his story is a success - he went from 30 year old heading towards death fast to a now nearly 50 year old with two lovely kids, a new life and hope. Trust me when I say if my mate can do that, so can you.
Theo just listening and letting that man pour his soul out was moving. There were so many pauses where anyone else would’ve started jumped in and started talking.
@@justgames_notalk well then I take it all back. 😂 He could’ve stopped the tape and interjected throughout it though, and he didn’t. He listened to the whole thing before his thoughtful response.
This is an amazing insight and so true. It was a come to Jesus moment that saved me. And even if I lose some battles, I know that the war is won. I know where I'll be if I keep fighting. My weapons are in the Spirit's land.
This is painful, poignant, and beautiful. I quit 30 years ago when my kids were small. As a mother, the thought of being a drunk while raising children was more than I could bear. I was sick and tired all the time and I hated myself. My children needed me and so did my husband. Getting sober was quite a journey and not an easy one but then again, it's as hard as you make it. Theo may not know it but he saved people by opening his heart to the caller, {who's voice I will never forget.}We addicts are so often scorned and the pain we feel is deep. Much love to Theo and the tender soul who was brave enough to call for help.
From a mother who's son hung himself purposely to end and control how his death would end his life because the Opiods had taken every semblance of life he'd dreamed of. He was hurt on the job and not once but twice and he kicked the hydros after 8 months in rehab and had regained control of his life and was raising my only grandchild on his own until 2nd accident where, once again he was told this new Opiod wasn't addictive and the Oxys took him down to where he couldn't come back and fact is that the Pharms took 10 years to develop it full well knowing they Made them to MAKE addicts based off a high percentage of the population having the genetic profiles that would make addicts from those whom took the drug for more than 2 weeks AND that the opiod settlement was stolen from those harmed and KEPT by those who allowed these deaths and state prevention was the reason why and that this man needs to know that he is loved.
@@MorangRick-ql7oh I am so sorry for the loss of your son. I can't even imagine your pain. I'm not super religious but I will pray for you to find peace. Like your son, I had an accident and was put on opioids and became heavily addicted. It was tougher kicking the pills than the booze. I watched a number of documentaries about how the drug companies pushed opioids on people and gave doctors incentives to prescribe them. Horrible, evil ,greedy people. Again, you have my sympathies.
Thank you for your very kind words. I'm overcome and so appreciate the few who understand and reach our to offer their kind and uplifting words..There's so MUCH that the population in general as well as those affected by this and blame themselves for but that I've uncovered 10 years of LIES and VERIFIED, SCIENTIFIC PROOF that DNA targeting was started way earlier than this Cov. Thing and that lab notes, reports and testimony from those recently breaking silence as to the purposely intended addictions as well as STIGMAS driving this genocide as certain genetic defect is found in almost 78% of population AND can SKIP GENERATIONS, therefore causing the ignorance of even FAMILY whom don't know that it's not a weak willpower and that for those who could quit?? Didn't have the defect because to actually QUIT would cause physical death and WHY SO MANY WHOM THOUGHT THEY COULD, didn't and couldn't and why most overdosed to end their lives not KNOWING what I've now uncovered after 3 years of intensive investigation and cooperation of others whom speak from authority..and that THOSE who allowed this are the ones whom refused to stop it yet now HAVE STOLEN THE BILLIONS IN SETTLEMENTS under the name of PREVENTION and now you know and if it touches your heart and you want to make a difference so that others are educated and aware then by all means SPEAD THIS TO EVERY LIVING SOUL to NOT TRUST ANYONE but yourselves in putting ANY DRUG of ANY SORT into your body...bless you
@@Flowersforeveryonee thank you for your kind ❤️. You don't even know how much it means to me that you didn't have to take the time to send, let alone read what I'd addressed so again, from a brokenhearted mother still trying to make it make sense, THANK YOU DEAR!
This video is therapeutic. Being ‘tired’ sucks… Remember you are worth it! You are worth the effort to better yourself. You probably saved this man’s life. You’re the man, Theo.
I’m a medical student (training to be a doctor) and we have lectures and teaching sessions about having empathy for patients that are struggling, how to listen to them and put yourself in their shoes. That is one of the most difficult things to learn, especially if you haven’t experienced it yourself. This was a textbook example of how it’s done. He listened and related, didn’t judge or try to persuade. He never made empty statements or said things like “at least...”. This video helps people more than you know Theo, addicts and non-addicted alike. I will remember this going forward in my career. Thank you brother.
My dad was a general surgeon, and an anesthesiologist, but he didn't know anything about substance abuse. That's not a put down of my dad, just a fact. Fortunately, both my parents lived long enough to see me sober for more than a decade. What I have tried to share with others, alcoholics and the lay community is that number 1, alcoholism is a physical allergy, that triggers a mental obsession. My body processes alcohol differently than a "normal" drinker. Number 2, all the intellectual prowess in the world won't change that, or get anyone sober. We have a saying in recovery, "Bring the body, and the mind will follow". Recovery is dependent upon two main things, "Surrender, and the Willingness to live differently. Simply put, without taking action, recovery is nearly impossible. The cart CANNOT be put before the horse!
If more professionals in your field would think like that a lot of people would get the help they need. The most in compassionate thing anyone could say too a addict is why don’t you just stop like they haven’t thought that a million times they just can’t get there without proper help there’s people out there addicted to drugs that are begging for help and can’t get it .
just did a clinical rotation at a chemical dependency unit and Theo’s emotional maturity and ability to empathize with this person is so admirable. A lot of tools to success are learned from the 12 step program. Theo would be an amazing sponsor
I wish everyone Listened to people the way Theo does. Not thinking about what he’s going to say next, not in a hurry for the guy to stop talking, just listening..REALLY FUCKING LISTENING. Theo, you’re a hero.
I've heard from therapists that ANYONE can be a therapist, all it takes is listening and understanding imo. There's a difference between a therapist and a psychologist for example
My unfortunate experience is that most people who have quit will be all like "this worked in my particular case so it _has_ to work for you and if it doesn't then you're doing it wrong" instead of letting people find their own way if they need to. Just my two cents, somewhat corroded coins.
My 3 kids are the reason I’m 3 years sober. It wasn’t fair to them to be hungover while they were wanting to go to the park and play. I started drinking at 15 years old and stopped at 27. I couldn’t just have 1 drink. I drank until I was fucked up and blamed it on me “being in my 20s” but it was a real problem. Hope this dude or anyone struggling can get help and find something to dive into and live for that! Good luck brother! Theo you’re the man! Proud of your dumb ass! Gang Gang
taliwakka27 Ya I never wanted kids when I was younger. Glad they’re here now tho, couldn’t imagine life without these little bastards. But it doesn’t have to be having kids to get your shit together. Find your passion and fuckin dive in!
It's prerecorded almost like he left a voicemail but hopefully the dudes alive to fight another day, from one addict to another, former addict to another in active addiction. God bless everyone struggling.
I remember saying to myself that after I had my first child I would instantly get clean. Then an old lady woke me up at a traffic light with my baby in the back after passing out on Fentanyl. Then I told my wife I would get clean for her. Then she went to live with her parents after I nodded off mid-conversation after promising I was clean. Then I said I would get clean for me brother after he tried a tearful intervention, first time I've ever seen him cry, he said: "I can't lose you." Then I sold all the guitars and amps and a computer he gave me. All for 20 30mg oxys. One day I tried to get clean for myself. And I have been now for 6 years after being a dope fiend for 20. I'm still happily married with three kids, she stayed with me. It's the hardest mother fucking thing I've ever done, but until you can do it for yourself, you're just a hamster in a wheel. God bless people like Theo who has never forgotten the forgotten people like us.
You know it’s real when someone says “I’m tired”. I have said the exact same thing in regard to my drinking when it was spiralling out of control. Today I’m 6 months no alcohol and feel amazing. Hang in there and never give up .
I really like how Theo Von changes gears sometimes, like he's not always funny.. I mean it's great when he is but it's also nice to have a counter balance, it's real..
Man, I had a parent who was always in denial that they were toxic and thus never improved. The fact that he admits it and is taking steps is something I hope his kids will always admire: he’s trying. Because damn some people don’t whatsoever.
I agree. My parents had a lot of issues but my mom would actually apologize to us when she screwed up. She was vulnerable and told us she was in the wrong, and we forgave her every time. So now that's what stands out to me about those times...it's what I remember most - not what she did wrong but about her owning up to it and not pretending to be perfect. I think that speaks volumes to kids. It's okay to mess up. We just need to own the mistake, learn from it, apologize if we hurt someone, do what we can to repair and move forward. Kids need to see that and know that for their own lives. Now I apologize to my kids when I mess up (like my mom did to me), and they forgive me. They tell me when they mess up too, and I forgive them. So we all learn together.
There’s a fine line though. It’s good that she owned her mistakes. My neighbor will relapse and always apologize and make her son feel sad for her but then won’t do anything to try to avoid it happening. Just pretend it didn’t happen. Most won’t get anywhere doing that and I always remind her that it’s understandable that she feels ashamed and embarrassed but to also know nobody holds it against her, just take action. The way one reacts to their relapse is significant and will speak volumes to if they will make it. It’s a hard cycle but it gets easier. So much is brain chemistry changing
I felt this guys pain. Watching this years later and I hope he’s doing better. Got 6 years sober and still vividly remember trying and failing in the beginning. I remember the fear and panic. Not knowing that it was even possible to live sober. I just couldn’t comprehend how anyone could. I wanted to isolate and when I went shopping I was terrified to go down the chip isle cuz that’s where the alcohol was too. But it does get easier and the freedom and self respect to develop by working those steps and coming out the other side is so worth it and better than you can imagine. For anyone still struggling, know you can do this! Take it one day at a time, one hour, one minute! Ask for help and accept it. You’re not alone
"im in control if I lose" I think I literally said that while talking to a friend yesterday about my drinking. The only thing more dangerous than a alcoholic who acts out, is an alcoholic who flies under the radar and causes no problems. Nobody intervenes or questions what you're doing because you are killing yourself quietly.
I love how Theo knows it was a privilege to get that call. Brother, you have a heart that is so relatable. I know you're tired. Caller, I know you're tired. I'm tired.
This is exactly what i was like before I stopped drinking. 12 years sober in October this year and have never looked back. You made the first step by admitting there's a problem. You can do this brother!
Theo, maaaaaan... listening to this clip, and hearing this gentleman's call for help and for that much needed lifeline, and your reply, especially with that once part at 10:16 where you said everything you thought you hated because it wasn't there for you, e.g. reliability, etc... that shit is spot on with my addictions. That right there hit home for me, brother.
listened to this clip again today, 17 days sober on my end, 39 years old. What a brave Man, hope he is doing better. everything they both said rings so true.
I am also 39. I have heavy drinking problem. I am on my day 2. Hangover is killing me. I let down my wife. Without her i am lost. Really dark place i am in now. Hope everything will be okay.
I felt everything this man said. I feel his pain, frustration, sadness, loss, despair but I also feel his will. It’s there. The candle isn’t out but his world is so dark. I pray he makes it. I pray he find the light and let’s God in.
It’s not about me I know but I didn’t drink today. Started a new job this morning hungover and feeling completely miserable. I won’t be hungover tomorrow morning and it’s a start. Solidarity to everyone who struggles with this nonsense.
When you hear someone say they are tired, you know they are struggling.
Its prespective, hes ready to change the struggle, its not the fact we know hes struggling. We should acknowledge him ready to change for his kids before he dies
Very true. I'm a social worker that works with at risk individuals and addicts, and I'm an addict myself. I remember that tiredness when I was in my active addiction and I can still feel it sometimes. Not so much a tiredness from the recovery process or fear of relapsing myself, I've developed better coping strategies and try to pass them on, but more so an emotional exhaustion from that same struggle that made me an addict in the first place. For me, at least, the tiredness is a product of the particular type of brain I have. The kind of mind that can't be content while remaining still; that needs to constantly expend mental energy treading water to keep my head above the surface and maintain some semblance of emotional stability. In other words, it almost feels like I have to move faster and faster to stay in the same place, and it gets tiring.
Tired, meaning you got to wait on your shoulders that you're tired of dragging around, meaning you are just ready to let go.
Word up
Shelby Wilson man it’s nothing to be ashamed of it can happen to all of us. We all have our inner demons, it can be different but we all have them. It ain’t nothing to talk down on someone because you have your inner demons too. Only reason I say this cause people always look down on people like that which yes if they don’t wanna change then I can see why but it can happen to all of us. A real man can cry it feels like once you hit that emotional wall and let go of it and express yourself as a man that’s when things can change, you kind of feel better from my experience. As a man we always lie that we are doing good and we’re this and that, you always trying to looks like your perfect to avoid being vulnerable I have done this a lot and still do, but when I do open up I feel so much better and I start getting to work. Showing your weakness takes courage and strength! I feel like it’s the first step in everything. Much love to that man, he’s a great guy I can relate a lot. I’ve never had a drug or alcohol issue but I can relate in other ways and of course I’ve know people who’s been in a hole cause of drugs and alcohol, it’s a very serious issue and I hope everyone finds a way, god bless us all and stay safe! 🙏🏼
so much respect to this guy for having the balls to ask for help. He helped a ton of people whether he realizes it or not.
I know I have trouble asking for help even from my closest friends. it's a rough deal
@@jimbob9543 same here i think part of it is we dont want to come off as weak but thats only weakness leaving the body
Yep... I called on night laying in bed a fucking mess while my husband had disappeared doing his dark arts. I had no one else but Theos hot line.
sure did
Some people don’t have anyone to ask to for help and iv called the suicide line before and said “ I don’t even know why I called but I just need advice” . People assume everyone has people who care and not all do.
Nothing more painful than hearing a grown man tell the world he's tired.
Heavy
What’s worse is that most men don’t pull this shit (being an alcoholic) and most who are alcoholics don’t seek celebrities opinions in the guise of counselling… dude just wanted some fame it’s as simple as that
@@Girtharmstrong69 if that’s really how you view people, I’m sorry for you
@@Girtharmstrong69 man didn’t even start off with his name, he ain’t looking for fame, sometimes there isn’t a catch…
@@aidanmaggio5666 awe I’m sorry my opinion doesn’t conform to what you think
“I just don’t know how to live sober”. That says it all. 😢
I drank for 17 years heavily and it ruined my life, I started when I was 18 with a fake ID and never slowed down. It broke me down inside and ruined every relationship I had, it caused untold amounts of damage, legal and financial hardship. I got to the point where I couldn't even function anymore, I was drinking every waking moment. This year, I finally had enough. I quit drinking 1-6-21 and haven't looked back. Since then I've gone to school for IT and landed my first real, full time office job. I'm 36 years old and I have a felony for drug possession and unlawful carrying of a weapon in Texas, all of this stemmed out of my alcoholism. Going back to drinking isn't a choice for me. Thanks for reading.
*edit:* 1/23/23 I want to thank everyone for all the support. I am still sober, haven't had any relapses. Just got poached from an offshore company for a substantial pay increase.
Thanks for the story dude! Keep that shit up! It’s only up from here. May sound weird coming from a total stranger, but I’m proud of you for finding the strength to quit and turn it around dude. You’re awesome.
Keep pushing dude. Don’t stop. You’re not alone. Life is shitty.
❤️
Drugs including alcohol if you do it for long enough stunts your growth as person and people need to realize that
You had the strength and presence of mind to make the correct turn even if it took too long. You could have let yourself slip away without fighting the good fight. The good fight to set things right and become healthy both physically and mentally. My story is similar to yours. Same age. Started drinking same age. My guess would be that your child hood was hard. Mine was. Alcohol has nearly ruined me too. I have two healthy kids and I’m the only parent they have right now because their mother is in rehab due to alcoholism. She had our kids in her car when she was arrested for her third charge. The first two she totaled the vehicles. I believe it was an act of god that saved my kids. I live in a crummy house and struggle to make ends meet but I keep fighting the good fight because I know better and brighter days are ahead if you stay in the fight. Your story helps because it gets lonely out here sometimes. It’s encouraging. We’re out here too. Job well done getting clean and all the best in the future.
No matter how wild we all think Theo is, I’m sure we can all agree he probably could talk anyone off the ledge.
He’s the perfect mix of reality and humor
I love theo mostly because he's more of a normal average joe than a celebrity I hope he doesn't become a shill like Bert , Tom, and Joe
It just happened right now dawg
He'd just have to say those 8 beautiful words: "You got gifts flying out of your dick"
yea, what he said was beautiful man. So much truth, i can relate so much from the watch me wreck my life to not trusting myself. i wish he could hear those words how we heard them. that was powerful
“The loneliest feeling is when you don’t even have yourself” that hit deep..
Bro im 24 and i didnt have myself for the past 5 years. Ive just been dissociated, depressed and a drug addict. What the fuxk do i do..
Theo's instinct to sit and listen even in those moments of awkward silence is amazing. Most people are so quick to fill in that silence, but Theo waits and lets more come out. Truly imoressive and amazing what a friend Theo could be to anyone
Im studying nursing- and for mental health assessments or therapeutic communication they say appropriate silence can be the best, shows active listening and encourages the person to speak more. This is probs the best example of this i have seen
i noticed that, i need to do that more often
he was trained by Rogan, so....
@@carlh-thehermitwithwi-fi679nigga what does any of that have to do with this
I'm in school to be a therapist, and silence is incredibly powerful. I was talking with a friend of mine last night, and I just stayed totally silent. She kept going and going for about 15 minutes and was coming to her own conclusions. Most people know what to do.
"let's hear more"
proceeds to listen
That may be exactly what this guy needed. Just to have someone take the time to listen to him. hear him.
Why is that so hard these days? So many guys on radio shows and podcasts have call-ins and they don’t even pay attention but Theo stops comments and says “alright, lets hear more” it just feels so refreshing
Aren't all these call ins prerecorded? So "let's hear more" means "continue the voice clip".
Jon M yeah, people don't get it. Bwahahaha!
Onward.
"Watch me ruin everything...because I'm in control of that." God that hits home. Such a profound statement.
Same here bro., I’m living it in real
Time. I have it all and my drinking is ruining it everyday. Beautiful wife and kids the house with the picket fence good job. Etc why do I do this ?
@@Onetakelifestyle3323 how are you doing now brother? Sending you strength man!
@@chanakyanaravarjula6237the fuck is that
@@Onetakelifestyle3323 you got this brother 🙌🏼
@@Onetakelifestyle3323 Because you are weak?
“I just want to be something my kids can look up to”
I really felt that
One love brother
@Yanni ain’t nobody asked you
@Yanni You should probably refrain from watching 15 minute videos centred around alcoholism then..
Then go to rehab and get therapy then instead of calling into a comedians podcast 🤡
@Yanni ur face makes me sick
@@williamallard6396 you're wack. Get lost
“watch me wreck my life, don’t you care” this shit hit on a whole different level. Theo is such a real one for that. Self Sabotage is very real. “ True loneliness is when you don’t even have yourself” that is crazy man. Theo is a solid ass dude man. he’s a gift from god
I agree that he is a gift from God. Man, when he speaks you can tell he means 100% what he says and its straight from the heart
@@Hi98765 Hope you find some help.
"True loneliness is when you don’t even have yourself"
That shit is heavy.
He honestly articulated the difficulties of addiction better than anyone I have heard in rehabs or 12 step circles. Seems like Theo derives his comedic skills from his insights into psychology and his eloquence.
That was my brother's motto too. Made me sick to my stomach. I answered that question for myself early in life. No one cares. Many years later I'm suffering from that root trying to get over it, but can't.
This made my cry my fuckin eyes out. I work blue collar and was on a roof all by myself crying like a little kid. I wish I could help. I never wanted to hug somebody this bad in my life. We love you brother. If you read this you’re valuable, you’re worthy and you’re capable.
What kind of work do you do? I work as an HVAC service tech so I related hard lol
I’m only 22 and deal with addiction 4 generations of addiction, never thought I’d be like them, it started as just having fun now it’s taking shots of whiskey before work, and bring the bottle with me and mix it at work, then after work, I have decided to make the change and break the streak so if I ever have kids they can look at me as an example.
@@WeMadeiit I'm right there with ya, 20 years old, 3rd generation addict. Started with weed at 13 then by the time I was 18 I was smoking getting drunk everyday taking Xanax and smoking percs. Been clean off everything but weed for 2 months now
I am 40 and 4 generations of substance abuse has made my life a rocky rode, of self destruction, you name it and I would fuck it up, you got to get mad, you got to get pissed off and let your will power make you a strong sob YOU guys can do it get clean and stay on top of your shit! East Tennessee listening keep it up
@@sebsalo3580 how did you get off the percs bro? Trying to do the same myself but the withdrawals are close to unbearable.
Theo is one of the realest out here. Hope he sticks around for a long time
He will, his fans will carry him on till the end my friend
You do realize your living in the end of America right?
hes got good genes his dad lived till like his 90s right?
@@Rand_War 87 i believe
kidwave1 1000
Theo really thinks before he speaks when he's being serious. Admirable.
swish831 I agree, it’s also disheartening that we have to applaud this simple act of human decency in these times. I don’t want to get political but I truly believe politics are making people meaner. That with social media have made people colder.
@@gdo3510 Without a doubt.
A comedian always thinks before they speak that’s how they make jokes
I'm a 51 year old alcoholic with 6.5 years. This was good for me to hear.
This man I'll never know will be in my prayers.
Congratz to you bud hope everything is still working out
Dude you have all my Respect Struggling Right now real bad
It's good to know there's people out there that put other people in their prayers. Something heart warming about it.
Hell yea wanna grab a beer?
On the 18th of this month of December I would be 6 years sober. Can you share anything with me that you have learned that may continue to keep me strong and focused. Congratulations to you!
Damn man. I really hope this dude gets better. That sounded painful
100% Agree : /
Witten Friedland easier said than done buddy.
@@wittenfriedland sounds like an addict justifying itm
Witten Friedland you are by far the exception to most people. Alcohol was the furthest thing from a medicine for me.
@@wittenfriedland spoken like a true alcoholic
"Alcohol gave me wings, and then took away the sky"-- I don't know where I heard that, but it was something that ran through my mind for years. Quitting can be difficult, but it has to be done.
Dr Bob I’m pretty sure
@@natesgeeklounge No idea who that is, it was a writer about 20 years ago who said it while describing her own relationship to alcohol.
What an awesome quote man, best of luck to all of us struggling🙏🏼 it’s hard for others to understand unless you’ve been there
@@Psilocybin77 he’s from the AA book. I promise that’s where you heard it even if it was reiterated in another book or by someone else. That’s who originally said it.
Third edition story in the back
Fuck man this dude has balls, I really hope he’s doing well, I’m 21 with no kids and barely any responsibility and I’m having a hard time with this shit, guys a warrior
It’s also alluding to suicide. If you hear someone use it like he just did. They are not ok. Be there.
Oddly enough, its the responsibility that will help you. Its the responsibility keeping this caller alive. He's has more work to do, this call was a good step.
Feel u bro
@@Hj61S827 Playing to lose in itself implies you have given up but are too afraid to do the deed, so instead you let social suicide get you, mental suicide get you and finally physical degradation till death.
@Christian Torres same age man, me too.
The fact that Theo says "lets hear more" shows how kind and good person he is.
Well its becuase the guy basically had said nothing.
@@pbufh yeah man is that, most people would have start preaching he listened for good 5 minutes or more
Zero judgment from him! He didn't post this for monetary reasons....... he posted this to help those that are too ashamed to admit the truth and to help them. This was the coolest thing I've seen Theo do. Assuming he needed to feed the entire crew on Bert's cooking show without even asking was number 2. Theo is a southern gentleman.... aka a class act.
@@uploderpilot could not agree
more
@carpediem1981jfa Thank you! I appreciate your multiple comments! Hopefully, it helps someone in need.
I’m 35 days into recovery. Get up again brother
Matt Hill congrats on ur 35 days!! 🙏🏾
Keep going dude! I'm struggling right now. I relapsed and now I'm back in the hole. Fucking sucks! I truly hope better things for u! Peace!
23 days. Im so hopeful this time. Let's gooo!
@@chrishoyt0917 I feel you buddy I was 3 weeks clean and fell off the wagon Idk why i did it but i miss the sober feeling alot..3 weeks down the drain plus a hole in my bathroom wall
We got this bro keep pushing
I’m 19 days clean from coke today, over 10 years I’ve been playing to lose. Theo you have helped more than you could ever know
Godspeed brother, hope it’s going well
In July (not sure what date) of this year it'll be roughly a year for me, I don't like to keep track on days or months.
Chronic use for me for nearly 14 years, started out casual then habitually weekly after about a year, that turned into daily use at 1 point when I was earning a lot of money then when I wasn't I was choosing between powder and paying my bills - I'm sure you can guess what I chose. I managed to get stable with once a week use for the last 2ish years but that would still sometimes end in me overspending.
It wasn't conducive to a healthy relationship with my Mrs or a healthy life becuase it would still at time spill into 2 or 3 day binges and in the end I realised that although I enjoyed the feeling I had after 3 beers and 2 fat lines of pure coke... I thought I enjoyed it more than I actually did.
I realised I didn't *need* it to function, to be myself or to feel satisfied with my weekly achievements at work.
At first I did miss it a lot but only becuase it had been a habit for so long, after a while I realised my life wasn't over when I didn't do it and then everything else fell into place with regards to how I felt about it.
I do at times wish I could do it and I know that I could just enjoy a half g or 0.8g over the course of about 8 hours, so basically a whole Friday night, but why?
So I can get some self absorbed sense of feeling good? Yeah I'll get that it's guaranteed with good coke but do I need it? And beyond that is it a good or healthy choice?
If I'm 100% honest the answer is always no, sometimes I want it but I shouldn't act on it and that's how I live now.
And trust me Liz that choice gets easier to make every time you make it, the urge to do it will be less frequent but it will keep popping up but instead of getting tired of fighting it I feel a sense of empowerment which helps keep me on the right path.
i hope that’s still the case brother.
sister *
I got 16 days sober.
This was so good to hear.
I hope that man gets better.
God bless.
Keep it up. 16 days becomes 17, and then a month. As your brain establishes new neural connections, your thinking will change, and you will be a sober person.
I truly hope you now have 36+ days..but if not i truly hope you try again now. ❤
@@Psilocybin77
Thanks
I'm definitely trying to establish new habits.
@@hesentmeorbs101
Thanks!
I have sixty two today!
@@michaelmueller8746 Nice man! Hope everything is going well ❤❤
35 days sober let’s go🎉 and I pray that whoever called is sober, happy, in recovery, and on their way to a long healthy future ❤
🎉🎉🎉👏👏👏👏
Please keep going! Sober sucks sometimes. Life sucks sometimes. YOU are not alone. Prayin' for strengh for you.
Hell yeah! 🎉
It’s so hard. I typically only make it 3 weeks max then end up in a terrible bender for months just to repeat the cycle.
@@Benbentilktreat week 3 like week 1. What did you do week one? That feeling of disgust and guilt and shame, it’s a curse and blessing. Ironically you never want to let that feeling go. Write it down if you need to remember it later on.
Seen a lot of clips of Theo, and I think he’s funny, but just letting this guy talk and taking time to listen… gave me a ton of respect for Theo. Glad this dude called. Life is hard and harder when we go it alone.
I'm a big fan of funny theo too, but as an alcoholic, I really needed to hear this serious side of theo. And it's just as admirable, he's amazing at being both funny and sharing his wisdom, he gives me hope
I haven’t seen much of Theo, but have a ton of respect for him after this video. However, I’m pretty sure that’s a voicemail he was playing, not a live caller.
Theo is the real deal!! Wholesome af
Yeah he’s much more than a comedian! Extremely aware and in touch with others and himself.
I am so impressed he didn’t interrupt the caller. Amazing. He truly listened, and thought about how to answer it. Didn’t blow him off with a “keep it with the steps”
Get sober bro. We pulling for you
Sobriety itself is useless. Proper state of mind and happiness is what he should demonstrate to his kids. At least give them a chance to change their perception of normal, because most will propagate what they observe in their seminal years. We all seek “normalcy”
fuck you. dont tell him what to do.
@ash evildead fuck off
@@Rfnipko you enjoy talking shit on UA-cam or?
Some addicts on here obviously lol
Theo, if you think you’re anything like any other comedian on this planet, you’re dead wrong. You’re a cut above the rest, my friend, and everyone sees that. Please keep doing you.
Alright man just be wary of the way you feed people's egos.
@@pippincovington1348 does this man sounds like someone with an inflated ego?
He is. He is real.
He’s the greatest ever.
I started drinking alcohol years ago as a teenage, spent my whole life fighting alcohol addiction. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder, got diagnosed with cptsd. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.
Thanks for sharing your story. That's rough I sympathize. Save your health save your mind. Life is better without heroin, cocaine, alcohol and cigarettes. And you have more money in your pocket. God bless everyone who has rejected the devils intentions to be addicted to alcohol and cigarettes etc which can cause so much damage to health. I will pray for you all.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Germany don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
Hey! Yes Mr.medmushies
Mushrooms are very medicinal. This is why anybody familiar with psilocybin and any other kind of fungi will tell you, "They are alive." They have a very ancient wisdom. To my experience, all mushrooms have always said, "Pay attention to your life. How you think, how you feel, and what will you do with the information that you always knew, but now are seeing in this point of view." This is why mushrooms are so respected in tribal cultures. This mental health treatment works for me too. Half micro doses do the trick for me. At least a few days at a time with lengthy time in between. Never addictive. Thank you for sharing this point!
How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta
first 20 seconds in and im tearing up. i feel this man, just through his cracking voice and choice of words i can feel his pain. theo dude you are so much more than a comedian to us
He's not even a comedian to me. Not taking away from his comedic abilities but he's way way more than that
Very much more.
A fantastic comedian nonetheless
Theo is a national treasure man we would be nowhere without him
It starts at 15:52 is the best part !!
Men supporting and healing other men is the best thing to see in this world. I hope everyone who needs help reaches out, no matter how silly or ashamed or awkward you feel. People love you, and recovery is not just a one stop shop! Getting back up and trying again after a relapse is the bravest, strongest thing you can do.
xx
“You got gifts flowing out of your dick bro” - that’s some deep shit for us.
Truth
Respect to Theo for being such a good listener and waiting it out so the caller could talk and get it all off his chest...
wish more girls were like you you're great
Steve O and Theo should hang out and talk about sobriety.
andrew yes that would be amazing
I’d pay for that
you mean being sober not sobriety?
@@steve00alt70 oops. Maybe I need to enter sobriety now. Lol
@@steve00alt70 hey not tryna be rude at all, what's the difference? I don't understand what u mean
This video helped me through a breakup two years ago and its helping me today as a struggling addict. This man pops up in my head on occasion, his words and Theo’s insight really inspire me. I hope he’s doing okay today
Hope the guy that called in is doing well, everyone who knows that “tired” feeling knows there is nothing worse
Me too, I understand where's he's coming from and I can say from experience- where there's a will there's a way. Being sober is beautiful, I pray for this dude, and hope he finds some hope. One thing I know is you have to have something to believe in spiritually and you have to do it for You. Well those were my experiences.
Addiction is basically chemical slavery.
It sounded like he was suicidal and not saying it outright.
It would have been good if we'd had some idea of how the conversation turned out, whether the guy even stayed on the line.
So true😔
@@mjinba07 wrong
Simple and accurate. We all have those days.... those who are honest with themselves.
Man, I came here to laugh, and I ended up in my feelings over a couple of guys I’ve never met. Godspeed brothers. It’s a marathon. I’m praying for you both.
I needed to hear this.
Its a marathon is a perfect quote as long as your breathing your still in the race mate 👍 it's
❤️❤️❤️
Allan wats would say it’s not a marathon but a relay race
exactly.
Dude I love how positive these comments are. That's how we need to be. I don't see it super often but I wish I did. Good luck brother.
Amen, brother. Sometimes we really all need some help from another heart or another set of hands. It's a blessing to have people in our lives who care.
Amen to that. He has some other vids like this and it's the same. Best comments on the 'net.
I think it’s a time and place thing. But I agree. Cool that people know when to troll it up and troll it down
They're just comments by people who won't actually lift a finger to actually help ...online comments mean piss all on real life
@@pierceoff6747 yeah that's true in a sense. But it may lead to a greater understanding and a stronger sense of compassion that may help someone else.
What a very kind response to a struggling stranger. Way to go Theo
"I felt so lonely because I didn't even have myself" That's so deep man. My best wishes to the caller and Theo.
It’s so ironic that he’s saying he wants to be something his kids can look up to. Because beating addiction is one of the hardest things a person can do in this life. His kids being able to say “my dad is sober and beat the devil of addiction” is one of the most badass things ever. Especially knowing he did it for them. THAT is the most amazing thing to be proud of and look up to. Please keep pushing if you’re reading this!!!!
Then go to rehab and get therapy then instead of calling into a comedians podcast 🤡
i hope the caller read this comment.
You’re right. You gotta beat it first though and they gotta be old enough to understand. Fighting a similar battle myself. It’s the goals thing for me trusting yourself other things. I run a successful construction company but the struggles always there
Right on Kelly, love the way you phrased that…
Bless you. I can see you're an incredibly intelligent and compassionate human. Generous too. The internet can feel so cold and sterile sometimes but it can also be a conduit for sharing love and wisdom. Bless you!
I’m glad we got Theo to look up to. He doesn’t even realize how much he helps his fans.
Bro, I just hit 7 years sober and I sometimes take it for granted, but listening to this guy almost made me cry. Wish the best for him. Stay strong brother practice the steps and practice gratitude everyday.
7 years sober? Congraluations
@@Keezawea thanks man. One day at a time.
This made me cry. I was in the same boat, drinking myself to death. I can't say where I got the power to stop, but it happened! I'm sober 2 years, 7 months and 13 days. If I can do it, anyone can! God bless you all
God bless i dont know you but very proud of you. Hardest thing is to quit drinking im with you over a year sober. My mom getting cancer gave me strength to be there for her with her battle. My biggest wish is to live and die sober.
Good job brother , keep it up! I'm not sober but I'm only 23 and I don't drink every day or even every week. I do smoke a fair amount of weed though. Also, as an addict how do you consider nicotine and caffeine? Do you think it creates bad set of circumstances for a addict? My family has history of addicts and I've been afraid my whole life of it. Sometimes I feel like I'm falling into the pit of depression and addiction..but life is all cyclical
@@payton3938 my brother. I can't say everything you might need to hear for you and your life. I'm not sure what that looks like. I do know that at your age, a huge defense against slipping into a worse spot is having friends around you that influence you in a positive way. Keep good people around you who care about you and make you want to be and do better every day. People that inspire you. That will give you like a boost to your immune system. Help you fight harder. Be well my man.
Congratulations brother. Gang gang
It sucks I hate it
I'm crying so much. My brother was exactly like this. He's been gone now for almost 2 years. Hope this guy gets the help he needs. 💔
Same here. I hope everyone out there keeps their heads up!
My brother has this problem since years now.... I have no idea what to do to help.
Geez
How did he pass ,if you dont mind me asking?
@@usingbothsidesofmybrain1690 he drowned himself in the Ocean
That ‘tired’ feeling is too relatable to anyone whos struggled with drugs or depression before.
That feeling of being totally exhausted with the lifestyle but you find yourself starting another bender anyway.... such a hopeless cycle
@@cyberhype5495 yeah yk it’s bad when you don’t even really enjoy it anymore but do it anyways
Yup ....
I really dig Theo. Everyone is flawed but not everyone is sincere. Theo is sincere about his flaws and he helps a lot of people.
Been drinking too much and quarantine made it worse, this video was just what a lot of people needed. Thanks Theo
im on the same path
yep
Quarantine made drunks and addicts out of an obscene amount of innocent humans, thanks to these banker fucks controlling the world with this psyop.
@@anti-ethniccleansing465 man covid fucked me up. Went a period of 6-7 months last year I drank twice a day 7 days a week. Put on 50 lbs and became an alcoholic. I've finally got control of myself these past 2 months and was able to cut the drinking down and get back to working out. Can't imagine what other people went through.
honestly bro im tired too... i feel like a have to, to have a regular night... and quarantine made it hell and now im at a point where im starting to fuck up but im ready to let go
I started to cry in the first two minutes . I am a fourth generation alcoholic
all of the first males born for the last hundred years are alcoholics in my family. God bless him and if you see this Comment brother God bless you
Lobster have a drink for me lobster. God bless
Carter E shut up 🤦🏼♀️
I came from alcoholics to bro, but we can overcome 👊 break that chain of addiction
Me too. Every male for 4 generations too man. Including myself. I hate this demon. My dad has Werneke Korsicoff syndrome from drinking. That's dementia that hits outta nowhere.. It hit him on my birthday 4 years ago and it hasn't gone away. He doesn't know where he is or WHO he is most the time. And here I am now, with a drink in my hand. Jesus what's wrong with me??
god bless you my brother. i hear you and understand you. we gonna get through this shit together bro
I hope this guy knows how many people he actually helped calling Theo and pouring his heart out on air, big props to Theo too for allowing this man to vent
There’s nothing quite like hearing grown men be raw and real, vulnerable. Especially as someone who deals with addiction, hearing someone else say the same things I’ve felt helps. And to see others who are on the other side in recovery brings hope.
God bless us all, may we all stop that addiction cycle.
@@belove751I’m with you both . I’m only on my second day. And It’s truly surreal hearing people essentially speaking YOUR mind. Its almost as if you’re listening to yourself, and hearing that pain manifest in someone else’s voice makes you really question why you would be so cruel to yourself to not take action against it. So many of us don’t respect ourselves enough to do anything about it. Good luck to you and anyone else who reads this ❤
@@timefficient great comment. All the best to you❤️
Theo saying "Drinking and drugs are just a side effect" is SO bang on for me. I know I'm not addicted to either but is solely based on numbing the constant pain and loneliness I experience on the daily. This was such an excellent video, yet terrifying how accurate it is to my situation
Theo gave him such dignity. A funny guy and yet…I so admire his depth and compassion- Theo is a rare, rare breed.
Truly an inspiration for us all
He looked like he was struggling to come up with something to say to him long pauses blank expression which means he had some inner dialogue going probably caught by surprise and was unready for the caller to go so deep..
Idk, he feels like a snake with Bobby Lee
Proud to say Theo is from where I’m from. People from southern Louisiana are the most compassionate, empathetic, and understanding people you’ll ever meet.
This quote helped me a lot and was said by a previous guest on your show, Jordan Peterson: Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping. I am now almost 12 months sober.
Congrats man! I hope your still doing well! I had a terrible weekend and for the first I'm ready to really quit. I'm on day 2.
@@GroupConglomerate onwards and upwards.
Jordan spits a lot of easy to handle wisdom. Congrats on the sobriety, hope you are on 20 months now!
@@reuniteireland He passed away 2 months ago sadly.
@@MrMommy-th1ew don't troll here...
I’m 4 1/2 years sober. This made me weep. I know EXACTLY how that guy feels. Been there. Theo, you are a good man. I am finally free. Thank you AA.
Very nice to see, Claude. Keep fighting the good fight brother
Yeah I think I got something in my eye about halfway through. Congrats on doing better. I am too. First time in my life I’m actually doing pretty well. I dropped the drinking a few years back. Not in a program but I’m kinda doing some of the steps naturally anyway. Scary but I have to start the apology phase. Starting with my daughter It’s hard to admit how badly I messed up with her I’m still gathering the courage
15 months sober thanks to AA. It saved my life
does AA really work I'm 33 year old male struggling drinking everyday
It works if you want it to work. I drank for 21 years. Then I walked into the rooms of AA at 38 years old. Step 1: We admitted we were powerless over alcohol-- that our lives had become unmanageable. That clicked for me when I read it. It was how I felt inside. I didn't know there was a way out of my own hell.
Now my life is getting better by the day. Go check out a meeting near you man. You will find support.
As an alcoholic with 3 years sober, I need to remember that the nightmare can come back just as easily as it did back then, I swear to myself I will never touch alcohol for the rest of my life. Moderation isn’t an option for me, and I’m okay with that. Please stay strong brothers, if not for ourselves, for our fellows
❤
Theee years is something I want. I'm only got 8 and been on this nightmare for three months. Need some willingness. Theo? Or anyone hmu
I relapsed after 4 years taste never left I knew I couldn't drink but did anyway I should never have drank with my girlfriend she was even buying it for me and her I tryed to get sober again when she did but she wasn't an alcoholic or at least she says she not drinking but she gave me wiskey a few times theres days I'm not sure if she was helping me or hurting me
Mad respect to the caller, that first minute was the rawest shit on UA-cam. Takes a fucking MAN to bear his soul in such a vulnerable way. Protect Theo Von at all costs people, he is an irreplaceable asset to humanity🙏🏻
anyone can be a hero like Theo, all you have to do is listen when someone needs to talk.
@@moquilla1I love Theo, but he’s not the hero in this video. The caller is. He really made an impact on me. I know I’m not the only one.
The energy we spend just spinning our wheels
without them actually touching the ground and getting us forward
It’s like our car is stuck in snow
It shows a lot that Theo just lets the dude talk for almost 5 minutes. Just listening goes a long way.
Adam Helsel This is facts. I’m still working on being a better listener myself. Should be something everyone makes an effort to do.
Uh, that's because it's a fucking recording. He's providing commentary over a voicemail basically.
OnPointFirearms keep them positive vibes goin homie.
OnPointFirearms if anything it makes it even more respectable considering he could pause it and comment whenever he wants without impeding the flow of ‘conversation’ like he would in a real call
One year and two months sober, feeling alright.. Coors light commercial on this, they are trying to break us ha
When you're used to being in control of your losing; winning seems like its just luck and undeserved.
Absolutely love this.
Damn man that hits me where I need it thank you.
And when you think you deserve something good you feel selfish.....why.....because we are selfless....its a tough world to face when your selfless, but its worth it because you get glimpses of......you are existence itself....and that is powerful
One day at a time. Just focus on finishing that day.
That’s right, man👍🙏
@first last yea dude this guy's on his last one after trying hard to be better for him and his kids...I hope to whatever god you get an addiction and go through this. Your ignorance proves you deserve it.
Theo is one of the few famous people that you can tell has a heart of gold. This video has helped so many people struggling with addiction and low self worth. I hope the caller got help and turned his life around.
First time hearing "ask for willingness." Thank you, Theo.
primadayna me too that was soemthingz. Thx Theo
Addicts are extremely self loathing. It’s like we do things to spite ourselves.
No. The self loathing allows us to be addicts. Its much easier to hate yourself and give yourself an excuse to continue. Much harder to accept responsibility
born free so exactly what I said?
This self isolating shit has made it impossible for me to stay sober hard is an understatement
For sure. Just do it to speed things up. Try to get away as soon as possible.
@@georgegoodall3573 get a workout in bro
Not a single negative comment. The internet needs more people like Theo and conversations like this. 👌❤️
I asked for help 311 days ago...hardest thing I've ever done. I just stumbled on this and I'm glad I did. Been rough the last few days, and I didn't realize how much I needed to hear this. Thanks Theo, I'm on to the next 311. I hope the caller knows he's not alone, and hope he was able to get help.
Keep asking man, I'm watching this bc my bestie is a (dry atm) alcohoic. He's one of the most wonderful people I know but alcohol kept calling. You should know his story is a success - he went from 30 year old heading towards death fast to a now nearly 50 year old with two lovely kids, a new life and hope. Trust me when I say if my mate can do that, so can you.
well done brother, keep it up, much respect and love
Definitely not alone I’m on day 2
Theo just listening and letting that man pour his soul out was moving. There were so many pauses where anyone else would’ve started jumped in and started talking.
He’s such a good man. I can just feel it through the screen. I hope he realizes how many ppl he’s positively impacting
Listening is such a lost concept in todays society people don't listen anymore it's just waiting for your turn.
@@caade_1967 Truer words have never been spoken.
It's pre recorded
@@justgames_notalk well then I take it all back. 😂 He could’ve stopped the tape and interjected throughout it though, and he didn’t. He listened to the whole thing before his thoughtful response.
The devil picks on those he can’t have.
This is an amazing insight and so true. It was a come to Jesus moment that saved me. And even if I lose some battles, I know that the war is won. I know where I'll be if I keep fighting. My weapons are in the Spirit's land.
Fascinating!!!
PTL baby
That's Real
thankyou for that
Theo demonstrates a lost art in the fact he has the ability to just listen and not feel the need to talk over the individual. Love you Theo!
Think he learnt it from the AA meetings where you just sit and let the other person get it all out.
@@tristanmaxlenczner 100%
This is painful, poignant, and beautiful. I quit 30 years ago when my kids were small. As a mother, the thought of being a drunk while raising children was more than I could bear. I was sick and tired all the time and I hated myself. My children needed me and so did my husband. Getting sober was quite a journey and not an easy one but then again, it's as hard as you make it. Theo may not know it but he saved people by opening his heart to the caller, {who's voice I will never forget.}We addicts are so often scorned and the pain we feel is deep. Much love to Theo and the tender soul who was brave enough to call for help.
❤
From a mother who's son hung himself purposely to end and control how his death would end his life because the Opiods had taken every semblance of life he'd dreamed of. He was hurt on the job and not once but twice and he kicked the hydros after 8 months in rehab and had regained control of his life and was raising my only grandchild on his own until 2nd accident where, once again he was told this new Opiod wasn't addictive and the Oxys took him down to where he couldn't come back and fact is that the Pharms took 10 years to develop it full well knowing they Made them to MAKE addicts based off a high percentage of the population having the genetic profiles that would make addicts from those whom took the drug for more than 2 weeks AND that the opiod settlement was stolen from those harmed and KEPT by those who allowed these deaths and state prevention was the reason why and that this man needs to know that he is loved.
@@MorangRick-ql7oh I am so sorry for the loss of your son. I can't even imagine your pain. I'm not super religious but I will pray for you to find peace. Like your son, I had an accident and was put on opioids and became heavily addicted. It was tougher kicking the pills than the booze. I watched a number of documentaries about how the drug companies pushed opioids on people and gave doctors incentives to prescribe them. Horrible, evil ,greedy people. Again, you have my sympathies.
Thank you for your very kind words. I'm overcome and so appreciate the few who understand and reach our to offer their kind and uplifting words..There's so MUCH that the population in general as well as those affected by this and blame themselves for but that I've uncovered 10 years of LIES and VERIFIED, SCIENTIFIC PROOF that DNA targeting was started way earlier than this Cov. Thing and that lab notes, reports and testimony from those recently breaking silence as to the purposely intended addictions as well as STIGMAS driving this genocide as certain genetic defect is found in almost 78% of population AND can SKIP GENERATIONS, therefore causing the ignorance of even FAMILY whom don't know that it's not a weak willpower and that for those who could quit?? Didn't have the defect because to actually QUIT would cause physical death and WHY SO MANY WHOM THOUGHT THEY COULD, didn't and couldn't and why most overdosed to end their lives not KNOWING what I've now uncovered after 3 years of intensive investigation and cooperation of others whom speak from authority..and that THOSE who allowed this are the ones whom refused to stop it yet now HAVE STOLEN THE BILLIONS IN SETTLEMENTS under the name of PREVENTION and now you know and if it touches your heart and you want to make a difference so that others are educated and aware then by all means SPEAD THIS TO EVERY LIVING SOUL to NOT TRUST ANYONE but yourselves in putting ANY DRUG of ANY SORT into your body...bless you
@@Flowersforeveryonee thank you for your kind ❤️. You don't even know how much it means to me that you didn't have to take the time to send, let alone read what I'd addressed so again, from a brokenhearted mother still trying to make it make sense, THANK YOU DEAR!
This video is therapeutic.
Being ‘tired’ sucks…
Remember you are worth it!
You are worth the effort to better yourself.
You probably saved this man’s life.
You’re the man, Theo.
I’m a medical student (training to be a doctor) and we have lectures and teaching sessions about having empathy for patients that are struggling, how to listen to them and put yourself in their shoes. That is one of the most difficult things to learn, especially if you haven’t experienced it yourself. This was a textbook example of how it’s done. He listened and related, didn’t judge or try to persuade. He never made empty statements or said things like “at least...”. This video helps people more than you know Theo, addicts and non-addicted alike. I will remember this going forward in my career. Thank you brother.
My dad was a general surgeon, and an anesthesiologist, but he didn't know anything about substance abuse. That's not a put down of my dad, just a fact. Fortunately, both my parents lived long enough to see me sober for more than a decade. What I have tried to share with others, alcoholics and the lay community is that number 1, alcoholism is a physical allergy, that triggers a mental obsession. My body processes alcohol differently than a "normal" drinker. Number 2, all the intellectual prowess in the world won't change that, or get anyone sober. We have a saying in recovery, "Bring the body, and the mind will follow". Recovery is dependent upon two main things, "Surrender, and the Willingness to live differently. Simply put, without taking action, recovery is nearly impossible. The cart CANNOT be put before the horse!
If more professionals in your field would think like that a lot of people would get the help they need. The most in compassionate thing anyone could say too a addict is why don’t you just stop like they haven’t thought that a million times they just can’t get there without proper help there’s people out there addicted to drugs that are begging for help and can’t get it .
It's very difficult for obsessive compulsive narcissistic doctors to empathize with regular people.
It's sad they have to try and "teach" empathy.
Read "The Doctors Opinion" from the AA book. They agreed in the 1930s that the synthetic knowledge of the medical field can only do so much.
0:30 “let’s hear more” is the best help anyone can give
just did a clinical rotation at a chemical dependency unit and Theo’s emotional maturity and ability to empathize with this person is so admirable. A lot of tools to success are learned from the 12 step program. Theo would be an amazing sponsor
That “I’m tired” hits the very core of the human soul.
Just his breathing made me cry. My god damn feels. I hope a year later the man is doin better
We’re all just tired man we’re tired
I wish everyone Listened to people the way Theo does. Not thinking about what he’s going to say next, not in a hurry for the guy to stop talking, just listening..REALLY FUCKING LISTENING. Theo, you’re a hero.
My man doctor drew stay cutting people off haha
Theo is not a therapist but wow what a good response to that caller. It takes someone that’s been through it to really be able to connect. ❤
I've heard from therapists that ANYONE can be a therapist, all it takes is listening and understanding imo. There's a difference between a therapist and a psychologist for example
My unfortunate experience is that most people who have quit will be all like "this worked in my particular case so it _has_ to work for you and if it doesn't then you're doing it wrong" instead of letting people find their own way if they need to. Just my two cents, somewhat corroded coins.
that "im tired of me not being there for myself" hit me hard
My 3 kids are the reason I’m 3 years sober. It wasn’t fair to them to be hungover while they were wanting to go to the park and play. I started drinking at 15 years old and stopped at 27. I couldn’t just have 1 drink. I drank until I was fucked up and blamed it on me “being in my 20s” but it was a real problem. Hope this dude or anyone struggling can get help and find something to dive into and live for that! Good luck brother! Theo you’re the man! Proud of your dumb ass! Gang Gang
That's good bro ! Happy for you and you enjoying your 3 blessings
you're lucky you have kids and it's ironic for me that I don't want them
taliwakka27 Ya I never wanted kids when I was younger. Glad they’re here now tho, couldn’t imagine life without these little bastards. But it doesn’t have to be having kids to get your shit together. Find your passion and fuckin dive in!
This sounds like me exactly. There no way to have one drink . Doesn’t work
Good for you man. That is great. Way to put your children first. Great attitude
You might have saved that guys life.
I doubt it. But I hope he did. Hope he found God.
he also saved his own life by calling
Doubtful. Highly doubtful he just needed some attention.
It's prerecorded almost like he left a voicemail but hopefully the dudes alive to fight another day, from one addict to another, former addict to another in active addiction. God bless everyone struggling.
I remember saying to myself that after I had my first child I would instantly get clean.
Then an old lady woke me up at a traffic light with my baby in the back after passing out on Fentanyl.
Then I told my wife I would get clean for her.
Then she went to live with her parents after I nodded off mid-conversation after promising I was clean.
Then I said I would get clean for me brother after he tried a tearful intervention, first time I've ever seen him cry, he said: "I can't lose you."
Then I sold all the guitars and amps and a computer he gave me. All for 20 30mg oxys.
One day I tried to get clean for myself. And I have been now for 6 years after being a dope fiend for 20. I'm still happily married with three kids, she stayed with me.
It's the hardest mother fucking thing I've ever done, but until you can do it for yourself, you're just a hamster in a wheel.
God bless people like Theo who has never forgotten the forgotten people like us.
Your a soldier 💫
I've got so much respect for you. This takes so much strength, belief and commitment. I'm proud of you, brother.
Proud of you man. Keep at it
Ty for Sharing X
Congratulations brother, and your wife is made of pure gold, but you know that already.
I’m struggling so bad right now and I’m so glad I watched this video again . The recovery community is so amazing. Love you all
You know it’s real when someone says “I’m tired”. I have said the exact same thing in regard to my drinking when it was spiralling out of control. Today I’m 6 months no alcohol and feel amazing. Hang in there and never give up .
It's been a year later and I hope this still holds true. I'm trying.
Hope you're doing well now a year later sober or not
Still sober. And feel amazing
@@SteveMaruca heck yeah brother, stay strong. Good luck to you and may your future be bright
@@SteveMarucathat’s great man
If a man ever says "I'm tired" that man needs someone to listen and help him out of that place.
I really like how Theo Von changes gears sometimes, like he's not always funny.. I mean it's great when he is but it's also nice to have a counter balance, it's real..
Theos got such a humble caring heart. Through all the comedy this man is really special
Very well said..
This in unironically one of the most heartbreaking things ive ever heard. Dude sounds too real.
5 years clean and sober. Took almost losing everything to get there, including my mind. Massive respect to both these men. Theo is a real one.
Keep my wife’s name out your fuging mouth! 🤚
Man, I had a parent who was always in denial that they were toxic and thus never improved. The fact that he admits it and is taking steps is something I hope his kids will always admire: he’s trying. Because damn some people don’t whatsoever.
I agree. My parents had a lot of issues but my mom would actually apologize to us when she screwed up. She was vulnerable and told us she was in the wrong, and we forgave her every time. So now that's what stands out to me about those times...it's what I remember most - not what she did wrong but about her owning up to it and not pretending to be perfect. I think that speaks volumes to kids. It's okay to mess up. We just need to own the mistake, learn from it, apologize if we hurt someone, do what we can to repair and move forward. Kids need to see that and know that for their own lives. Now I apologize to my kids when I mess up (like my mom did to me), and they forgive me. They tell me when they mess up too, and I forgive them. So we all learn together.
There’s a fine line though. It’s good that she owned her mistakes. My neighbor will relapse and always apologize and make her son feel sad for her but then won’t do anything to try to avoid it happening. Just pretend it didn’t happen. Most won’t get anywhere doing that and I always remind her that it’s understandable that she feels ashamed and embarrassed but to also know nobody holds it against her, just take action. The way one reacts to their relapse is significant and will speak volumes to if they will make it. It’s a hard cycle but it gets easier. So much is brain chemistry changing
I felt this guys pain. Watching this years later and I hope he’s doing better. Got 6 years sober and still vividly remember trying and failing in the beginning. I remember the fear and panic. Not knowing that it was even possible to live sober. I just couldn’t comprehend how anyone could. I wanted to isolate and when I went shopping I was terrified to go down the chip isle cuz that’s where the alcohol was too. But it does get easier and the freedom and self respect to develop by working those steps and coming out the other side is so worth it and better than you can imagine. For anyone still struggling, know you can do this! Take it one day at a time, one hour, one minute! Ask for help and accept it. You’re not alone
"im in control if I lose"
I think I literally said that while talking to a friend yesterday about my drinking. The only thing more dangerous than a alcoholic who acts out, is an alcoholic who flies under the radar and causes no problems. Nobody intervenes or questions what you're doing because you are killing yourself quietly.
Felt the same way myself, well said
That's where I'm at, slow death. Eventually my internal organs and brain are gonna be done with this toxic poison.
That's exactly what I'm doing right now and have been for over a year but not with alcohol but with meth. It's the worst.
Yeah that sounds like me.
Mad respect to Mr. Theo Von right here. The patience, the empathy, and the nurturing he shows this caller really blows me away! Beautiful to see!
Theo is a real one
The fact Theo just listened and didn’t talk is exactly what us addicts. Just a loving ear with no judgement.
Love Theo for this 👏🏼🙏🏼
It was a voice-mail
Us addicts yooo
The program offers a spiritual approach to life, it heals and gives us a second life.
I love how Theo knows it was a privilege to get that call. Brother, you have a heart that is so relatable. I know you're tired. Caller, I know you're tired. I'm tired.
This is exactly what i was like before I stopped drinking. 12 years sober in October this year and have never looked back. You made the first step by admitting there's a problem. You can do this brother!
Congratulations!
That is a truly commendable action. Credit to you man
Theo, maaaaaan... listening to this clip, and hearing this gentleman's call for help and for that much needed lifeline, and your reply, especially with that once part at 10:16 where you said everything you thought you hated because it wasn't there for you, e.g. reliability, etc... that shit is spot on with my addictions. That right there hit home for me, brother.
10:16
Same here. I would use drugs to comfort myself when I felt like I was being abandon.
God bless this guy on the phone. Takes a real man to call and ask for help. I love you brother.
listened to this clip again today, 17 days sober on my end, 39 years old. What a brave Man, hope he is doing better. everything they both said rings so true.
I hope you're still going strong!
I am also 39. I have heavy drinking problem. I am on my day 2. Hangover is killing me. I let down my wife. Without her i am lost. Really dark place i am in now. Hope everything will be okay.
41 years old 3 kids, listening thru tears! Thank you sir for calling and thank you Theo for being here ❤️🙏🏾
I felt everything this man said. I feel his pain, frustration, sadness, loss, despair but I also feel his will. It’s there. The candle isn’t out but his world is so dark. I pray he makes it. I pray he find the light and let’s God in.
It’s not about me I know but I didn’t drink today. Started a new job this morning hungover and feeling completely miserable. I won’t be hungover tomorrow morning and it’s a start. Solidarity to everyone who struggles with this nonsense.
i hope everythings been well for you bro I hope u keep it up
I hope things are going well for you my friend
Hope the new job is going strong 10 months later!
This made me cry. An alcoholic saying what we all wish we could say. Thanks Theo.