I'm Losing My Wife
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- Опубліковано 27 вер 2024
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Jenny or Kyle Appleford
7211 Haven Ave, Unit E-407
Rancho Cucamonga, CA 91701
My wife’s channel:
/ @jennyapple4704
INSTAGRAM: jenny_appleford
FACEBOOK: Our Brave Jenny
For business inquiries: veganapplefords@gmail.com
DIAGNOSIS of my Wife:
March 19th, 2021 Stage IIIA Non Small Cell Lung Cancer (Non-Smoking)
February 2022 Stage IV Non Small Cell Lung Cancer (spreading to Brain, and other parts of lung and lymph nodes)
Gene Mutation EGFR with Exon 20 Insertion
TREATMENTS: Received or currently Receiving
2021: 8 Rounds of Chemotherapy (Carboplatin and Paclitaxel) with 30 concurrent radiation treatments to chest and lung
Failed Immunotherapy directly after Chemo and Radiation (Durvalumab, 1 round)
2022: Chemotherapy
10 rounds of Chemotherapy (Carboplatin, Alimta, and Avastin)
6 with Carboplatin, 4 without
Targeted Brain Radiation (Completed)
CURRENT TREATMENT:
I am on a clinical trial for my specific gene mutation
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Kyle, just a little thought - I want you to know, as the cancer patient, that Jenny doesn’t need you to make every occasion count, and every moment to be special etc. she just needs to spend each day with the ones she loves, taking one day at a time. No one’s life’s is filled with perfect moments. I know you feel the pressure but please don’t put that on yourself. Your love for her, and the fact that she can count on your love and care for your children going forward is everything she needs. I promise. This is how I feel; I have learnt this.
I'm a cancer patient and the guilt I feel I dont say no to the plans made for us all has a family,I go along with it.
You are so right.
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻♥️
Just want to echo what you said. As a another cancer patient, the only thing I really cared about during treatment (and now), was spending time with my kids and grandchildren. It doesn't matter what they're doing. Ordinary things seem extra-ordinary, and my greatest joy is just watching them and deeply savoring even seemingly mundane things. Everyday moments are the most cherished treasures.
My son just went through this with his wife.
Jenny will tell you what she wants to do. All my daughter in law wanted was to spend as much time with her husband and children as she could. All you need to do is follow her lead.
You are strong. You and Jenny are amazing.
Sending all my prayers.
I have a few suggestions…
1. Take some time to make molds of her hands. One for each of you. When she has the energy do crafts with the kids. Those moments are the ones that matter in the end.
2. Get a voice recorder and have Jenny tell stories of her life. Being able to go back and hear her voice will be a treasure.
3. As hard as it will be, plan her memorial with her. Talk about the songs she would want, then flowers that are meaningful. What does she want others to know.
4. Make a Google document with a list of the things that need to be done. Share that with people that can help you. They will be able to look at the list and not need to ask you. If there are things that you want to do put some type of marking next to those items. Make a second one for Jenny to put things she wants to do. Her list will change as time goes by and this will let her make changes to the list on her own.
5. Have Jenny to write a letter, or record on a recorder, anything she would want to tell the kids on those important moments.
Please know there will come a moment (or a few) where she will try to push people away. She is going to morn losing her life, losing the ability to be there for the kids. She will feel guilty that she is hurting the people she loves, even tho it is not her fault. In those moments just hug her. Don’t take it personal, she loves you! Mentally we think that if we make our loved ones angry or push them away, it won’t hurt as bad when the time comes.
Try your best to live in the moment. Do what you can today, & try not to stress about tomorrow. I know that is easier said then done. Just realize the the time you focus on tomorrow is time you are not here today. The things you think are the bucket list items are not really the bucket list. In the end holding your hand or giving you a hug, play with the kids, singing songs, cooking food, etc are the moments that will matter.
I am praying for y’all! I know Jenny will fight because she loves you all with her whole heart! 🫶🏼
Such beautiful suggestions❤️
Wonderful suggestions❤
DEFINITELY Do The Hand Molds! ❤
I completely agree with you and as a hospice carer I so hope Kyle and/or Jenny and family and close friends see your post… I know for sure your suggestions will be incredibly helpful to all of their close support network… thank you so much for your thoughtfulness and kindness for posting @ChicMom❤
Clearly you’ve been through hard times, bug hugs to you as well. 😔
You haven’t lost her. She’s right there. I’ve lived through my mom’s battle with cancer, my battle with cancer, and my husband has survived four bouts with cancer. I know exactly how you feel right now. But I’m in my late 60s and if there’s one thing I’ve learned it’s this: we only have today. You don’t know what is going to happen, and you don’t know what God is going to do. I was mourning the loss of my husband when he had only seven months to live. That was 14 years ago. He had a miraculous recovery from stage 4 metastatic melanoma. So all I can say is enjoy today and don’t think about tomorrow because none of us knows what tomorrow will bring.
What a beautiful response. Thank you so much for sharing this. God works miracles and it can happen. God Bless you and your family and God bless this family as well. ❤
Wise and compassionate response. So true. Thank you for reminding us.
Kj 😮kids 😮
Kyle I am old enough to be your Mom. Can I just say, the pride in my heart as a Mom for you is so huge. You have held the earth up. Please give yourself grace. As a outsider watching you & Jenny, your love for your wife& your children is so strong. Your little moments in your car are so very precious. Oh you are so perfect in each others eyes. Your doing it Kyle. I’m so proud of you, I could only hope to have someone just like you in our family. You are a wonderful gift to all the people closest to your heart❤
This is beautiful😢😢😢💕💕💕🙏🙏🙏
Yes well said indeed. I'm in total agreement with you and i'm seventy. This is such a wonderful family love connectio isn't it wow so so sad 😢
@@mariecleo214Thankyou so much for your beautiful words
Amen to that!!
Such lovely words✨💫
Your new word: DELEGATE. Ask your wife’s sister and her parents to get the info, talk to the lawyers to get legal stuff done, talk to your job about things….have her family take the kids during the new treatment. Have them do all those things. Delegate.
YOU focus on loving your family and getting her to appointments. That’s it. Prayers to you always.
When my husband got to point in his cancer journey where we knew he wasn’t going to beat it without a miracle our doctor said something that really helped. He said “do you want to spend the rest of your days doing through medical procedures, test and treatments that aren’t going to make a difference and will only give you a little extra time… maybe… or would you rather spend those final days with those you love making whatever memories you can?” He told us to go home and make memories and spend time with loved ones. I am thankful for his words…
Yes. I couldn’t agree more. MD Anderson told my friend the same thing. She chose to go home to her children and spent the next month with them. She did not want any more treatments that would only make her worse.
I think at times we think that by not doing SOMETHING we are giving up hope. This is not true, I never gave up on the possibility of a miracle and prayed for it. Unfortunately we did not get that miracle but I know that my husband is whole and healed now because he is in his heavenly body. This doesn’t mean I didn’t and still don’t grieve but it makes it a bit easier knowing where he is. ❤️
I’ve always felt that if I got any kind of diagnosis like that I would
Do as many natural
Things as possible like canabis, vitamin c drips, rife machine, budwig but wouldn’t do any of these harsh treatments to prolong would just go off and manifest and live in the moment as much as humanly possible unless I’m too I’ll to function. I just wouldn’t want to know. I read aboht a women who went off on a final holiday once and just drank coconuts as it was all she could handle and she had a miracle and never died and now runs a business making coconut products. My friends dad also rejected all treatment to extend and is still here 7 years after a 6 month ish diagnosis
@@ExplorewithSarahlouise Just know these “natural” remedies are usually a hoax. You have better odds taking the oncologist’s advice. Yes I have a cancer diagnosis and gladly took Chemo and radiation.
True. I was very mindful of not expecting my husband to “fight” and “beat the deadline” when we knew we had to accept his forthcoming death. I wanted him to have the peace of mind of knowing that whatever life threw at our children and me, that we would always be able to take it on the chin and manage, in his honor.
We were not so codependent like Kyle and Jenny but we met at school and for over thirty years we were friends, lovers, life partners, parents and a darn good team. I miss him very very much but our children are doing well, they’re happy, healthy and have great prospects in their lives.
We manage. It’s very hard, sometimes it seems impossible, but we just get up and take each day as it comes, don’t we?
I do it for the love of my husband and our families.
Time for Kyle to put on his big boy pants. Children are going to need to feel safe, comforted and happy from day one. I wish him all the best.
Kyle, it is unreal how your life now is mirroring mine. Not currently but it is unreal. I have two boys who are grown now and they lost their mother to cancer as well. I fought just as hard as you are and it was unreal. I have one thing to say you can do this. Just stop and breathe. Every time you feel anything negative just breathe. My boys were small when we were going through this and it was hard on them as well. I had support but at night when it was just us was the hardest. They missed their mommy so much. I think they still miss her. They are both grown with their own families and very successful. Although it seems that it is bad now you will get through this. Just be prepared for a lot of pain and sorrow. I raised my boys alone and it was hard but we did it. We got through it. I know you don't want to hear this now but its true. You will get through it. You will find yourself doing the things that she did. Its something that you can do. I feel a that kinship with you and I wish I could speak with you. It helps sometimes to talk to someone who has been through this. I will continue to fo!low you and pray for you. I will be here if you would like to reach out. I love ya bro and you are in my thoughts and prayers constantly. Until next time.
This is such an inspiring and altruistic comment...
Sit here with tears in my eyes😢 I am so sad that you and your boys had to go trough this..
Send you love❤
I hope Kyle reaches out to you. ❤ such strength and similarity. Bless you.
For you and your sons and Kyle ❤❤❤❤
How kind and thanks for sharing your story!
I lost my best friend and wife of twenty years three nights ago to multiple organ failure. Hurts like heck. My prayers for you and your family.
As a stage 4 cancer patient. I don’t have my family around me, I’m doing this all alone. Believe me, as a dying patient I don’t want video moments. I wish I just had my family near me. Just me and them. Don’t worry about ur viewers, just be with her and kids. Nothing else or anyone else matters. Live ur life at full tilt. 🙏🏻💜 take time for yourself. As a caregiver u need time and space. You got this as a dad…just be still and let God lead you. Family will carry you through.
I’m sorry you don’t have support around you. ❤
So sorry for you😢 send you love❤
So sorry you're facing your cancer alone. Thinking of you.
❤I'm sorry you don't have the support you deserve. I'm sending you a big hug and love.
Your not alone you have us ❤❤ hang in there 🥺
All I can say is that your mother did an amazing job of raising such a compassionate and loving man, who in turn is a wonderful husband and father. I truly believe that even though you will go through many hard times ahead as a single father, you will never fail to let your children know how much they are loved. I'm sure that your female family members will step in to help with Winnie and with advice when it is needed.
Just remember that it is completely normal to be feeling all of the emotions you are going through right now. 😢🙏
❤
💯. Kyle and the kids will never be alone, as they have such a strong, supportive family. He's going to have a tough couple of years, but love will get them through.
Yes agree 💯
Yes kyle
Prayers for you and your family. Let God lead the way.
you don't need to be perfect for you're wife, just be present. She knows you love and adore her and you are doing a great job!
Perfectly said !
Stage 4 here too.
I was given a time line too...
Love is all you need. Support her. One day at a time" one min to one hour, someday, seriously.♡
Do today, do now.. Love every moment.
Theres no perfect in this situation.Pace yourself.
Love and light
Mary
Have you not seen the level of perfection she expects from him?
I know what u r going through. I been diagnosed with cancer stage 4. I am praying for your family. I have 6 months to live.
Rip
I hope you are still here
Kyle, as a retired hospice nurse, having taken care of many patients including family, I can only tell you what I have said to many families who were where you are right now. Each day is precious but what it makes it precious are the hugs, kisses, I love you and time together. It cannot be perfect, it's life and it will be so difficult for you to find happiness and smiles if you put constant pressure on yourself. Sometimes knowing your time is short, makes it more valuable. As Jen has said, it could be longer. Her pain will be controlled and she will be kept comfortable because that's what Hospice does. Never be hesitant to ask for help. People want to help because they care and it gives them comfort.
One day at a time, take care of you so you can take care of her and the babies. Go to God for comfort and reassurance. You will be in my prayers and please, if you need to talk, I am available any time. Ann Ellis
They’re not using hospice yet. I don’t think they’re even having at home palliative care. I wish they would!
Beautifully said. ❤
@annellis9108 I absolutely love ur comment!!!!!! Amen!!!!!
❤Kyle YOU ARE PERFECT JUST AS YOU ARE. Your lives are filled with love for each other & your children.Ask for help with other stuff, people want to help you! Putting pressure on yourself will exhaust you. It is all so unfair that this is happening. Cry, laugh, punch pillows as needed, there is no wrong way just do what helps you both to keep treading water. Every day will be different but special in it's own way. You & Jenny are such a kind and loving couple.What could I do to help?
I will pray and send hugs across the country.Please give yourself a break and give Jenny a gentle hug from me Blessings always to all.❤❤
@@Anastashya: hospice is best when entered early. Same with palliative care. They could help with social workers who are specialists in working with children (and adults). Pain management, bathing, spiritual all incisive helping walk this journey. You all are my my ❤❤
As a survivor of 4-stage cancer, my husband and I were where you are right now. That was over 40 years ago, and I'm still here. Nobody can understand the struggle that you go through, except those of us who have been there. However, everyone's experience is different, and we really can't put ourselves in your position. Kyle, all I can say to you is, you don't walk alone, God is walking with you and is giving you strength. Please hold on to your faith and keep a stiff upper lip. We're all praying for you and Jenny. God bless you!
omg really that’s amazing xx
Amen🙏🏻💗🕊
I'm so glad you testified of the truth to believe. I have a friend who also was miraculously healed of 4th stage colon cancer. But it required searching scriptures to see where she needed to repent.
She's thriving strong as an elderly woman and very healthy and active.
When I decided to also repent, I opened my Bible, made my list of sins, and confessed them to a wonderful person and spoke with my mouth, declaring, pronouncing by faith, I would be healed. GOD heard my faith and healed me one night as I slept.
He will do it for you also. He loves faith. Without faith, it is impossible to please Him. Take faith the size of a mustard seed. Seek His face. ❤
You have to be still and pray. Be still and listen to God and let him take the reins. He has her in hands. There is nothing but his love for you and Jenny. Make many videos of you and Jenny that be shown for you and your children at a later date. We do not know the time or hour. Ask for God for help. He does provide.
@@sandybeach2135 don’t give false hope
Kyle, as a woman, I can honestly say that I've NO doubt that just being with you is making every day count. You are amazing just being you, that's all Jenny needs & I'll say you are doing more than just a damn fine job! YOU & the kids are all she needs hon. God bless you all ❤🙏🏻
So beautifully said!
I don't know where life has taken you since you posted this video. But sir, I am 65 years old, and I have found myself struggling with a lot in my life. But you, sir, is the strongest man I have ever watched. You never seem to give up. You put yourself out there in your most vulnerable time. You always put your wife and your children first. You don't run away from your responsibilities. And I have the utmost respect for you. You, sir, are the epitome of what a husband and father should be. You are writing a playbook for other young men to follow. I wish I could do more, I wish I could be financially supportive, but I can't. All I can do is pray for you all and give you my support. God bless you all. You will be a great father and friend to your children.
I want life forever
Beautifully written
Well said!!
I was a caregiver for 7 years for my husband. Don’t look at the calendar. Don’t count the days. Take each day as it comes. Minute by minute. You are right to take notes. I have forgotten so many things to this day. Ask for help when you need it. Big Texas size hug for you
As a grief counselor, I can say that the most cherished moments that people have are the everyday at home time with loved ones.
That's what I missed the most when my husband became sick. It wasn't the big things, I cried when I didn't have to meet him after work and talk about our day on the ride home. I don't know why it was so special, but it was. I miss it still.
Hi Kyle, Lost my husband to small cell lung cancer in 2008. Our son was in high school. Some of the best times where when we just hung out at home watching movies etc. I went to great lengths to plan what I knew would be our last vacation and it wasn't worth it. The small moments at home all of us together were the best and the memories that comforted me. You need to take time for yourself to relax because you can't help her if you are overwhelmed. Keep things simple and enjoy the time you have. Don't try to be perfect because that is not necessary. Praying for you all.
Same here, same diagnosis to small cell carcinoma. She smoked heavily, then stopped. I was out on the road as a trucker when she began this journey! Emory said she needed a lung, so she said, then my health began to fail. On my birthday she called me because of a reaction to her B/P medicine, then it was a mass in her lung, all at another hospital. They did a biopsy, and afterwards a tentative date. September of 2016, she drew her last breath. When I saw Kyle like this, I felt helpless all over again. I'm so sorry, I don't know what else to say or to do! 😪😥🙏🙏
I’m so sorry you’re all going through this. I’m also a stage 4 kidney cancer patient at city of hope. I’m crying with you. I’m praying for you all. I’m so sorry 🙏🏻
Awww prayers do you have a you tube channel sharing your journey ❤
are u still alove bro
We lost a daughter to cancer and when we reached the final stage and made plans to honor her wishes, some people thought it was morbid. I’m glad you are talking to each other and your children about this difficult situation. Prayers for all of you in this most challenging time. Take advantage of any help offered and ask for help if needed. 🙏🏼
Your decision is powerful and I will learn from it as will anyone who reads your words
I am so sorry for your loss.🙏
The only thing that is morbid is that dam cancer
It is no one elses business how you or your loved one deal with end of life decisions.
I’m sorry to hear about your daughter. God Bless her. Did you go with your plans to honor her regardless of what others thought? They have a issue with death. If not, try to move forward and do what you want and has meaning for you in your life.
When my children were younger, I always felt so pressured to please everyone at my spouse, children & my’s emotional expense, and somewhat financial expense. It was so stressful. Growing up, my parents had very few parties so I didn’t have much experience with them.
We have a modest, nice house….it can hold say 18/20 people for a party yet we always had so many more people because we felt pressured by family. Summertime- the yard was good. Some family members are laid back, others so negative and made sure to always give their unsolicited opinions. The happy events in our lives became time of arguing to each other and even bitterness prior to the big Christmas, birthdays or graduations. My kids were much younger than their cousins so never fit in with them. Now we don’t do the parties anymore. (We did most, since other family members didn’t even attempt them on both sides.) Now, the really surprising thing is, my family all do their own thing, his family (we are more close to)…..they HAVE gatherings for the holidays and we are not invited. Therefore, honor your daughter now at your home or grave site. Give yourself compassion and do what gives you comfort to get through the future days. I’ve learned to speak up and plan and include who I want to include. ❤ Peace.
I lost my sister 23 years ago leaving 4 small children the youngest was a baby, you don’t need a bucket list you just need to be together, I’m sure Jenny would agree. The most precious moments will be remembering you altogether as a family. My sisters children grew up to be very caring and special people, never forgetting their Mom, I know she is still watching over them.
I suffer from severe depression and I haven’t enjoyed life in over a decade. I live a very poor life. I wish I could somehow transfer my body to Jenny because I know she’d do so much good with it. I don’t understand why the best people on earth are afflicted with terminal diseases like this. It’s just heartbreaking.
To Kyle, I wish everyone on earth could have a companion like you. I have never seen anyone (man or woman) that is so compassionate, supportive, and truly kind. People like you are very rare. I’m so so sorry you’re facing this. It’s maddening how unfair this is.
❤❤ I truly agree. Jenny is extremely lucky to have Kyle as her life partner.
Don’t give up on yourself. These days are difficult but the grace in facing the darkness is a reminder that you’ve been through it before and will come through it again. That is a promise.❤
I'm so sorry you have depression I've suffered with it too. I'm feeling better now it will come and go throughout my life but I'm so grateful for the wonderful joy of life of all the beautiful things in it and the people that are caring and compassionate in my life. Try to appreciate each and every day, go out and smell the flowers, and appreciate the rain. There are also many wonderful partners out there that I've observed with real love and respect for their other half. I refuse to be bogged down by negativity. Life is incredibly short and incredibly precious.
My heart feels hurt for you, however, \you need to know that you have been the best partner and support ever in dealing with this. Bless you, Jenny and your family...
I saw the title of this and my heart dropped to my toes. Heartbreaking. Know you have a lot of people all around the world praying for you and your family during this incredibly difficult time. We love you all ❤❤
Kyle, I also have lung cancer so I can say this.....Don't worry and beat yourself up so much about making every day special. When you are faced with this just being alive and with your loved ones makes every day so very special already....you don't need to worry about "stuff" or trips so much....just love each other every day as much as you can.
Kyle you maybe could also benefit from a prescription of Ativan like your wife has for those moments where your anxiety is taking over.
@@SANDRA-ez4icthis is a great idea! I do understand he wants to be on point for Jenny and he seems like the type of guy to try and take on everything "naturally" but it couldn't hurt. a low dose for the most stressful moments.
Hi Kyle. My husband and I went through end of life with our 6 year old son after battling cancer for 18 months.
It is brutal. So I’ve kind of been where you are and It’s devastating. When kids are involved it’s devastating. We fought up until the end with “new therapies” because we didn’t want to give up. I have no regrets BUT……in hindsight we’ve come to realize that we just worsened his quality of life in his remaining days for no reason other than him becoming a science experiment. Like the doctors told you and us this might give you a little more time, but that’s it. Please consider Jenny’s quality of life vs spending her remaining days in San Diego fighting. It’s ok to stop and take a big deep breath and do nothing. You deserve this quality time together. Your kids need you more right now than ever. Your world is crashing down and please just think about the possibility of spending the next 6 months wrapping your heads around this the best way that you can vs being a science experiment. I say all of this with compassion and empathy, you both are truly amazing loving people. And again I’ve been where you are and only wish someone gave us this advice. It’s OK to hit the pause button and do the bucket list things that you want to do together.
Sorry to hear that you have had such an awful experience. I think that you have offered some very wise words here. I used to be a radiographer and saw so often the Guinea pig patients - drained of any spirit of themselves and just becoming a statistic for research purposes. Sometimes a patient would ask me if they were getting better but I could never answer that question. Often it was difficult to get the patient off the table without breaking down myself but always trying to give a smile as I said goodbye.
This is some straight up tough truth. Jenny is so young and she looks so good even in the middle of her struggles. We are all still hoping and praying for a miracle for our sweet Jenny. We don’t know if one will come. I pray that both Jenny and Kyle will discern what is best for their family and when it’s time to say, let’s spend our time together, the way we want to. I hope this treatment will help give you more time and with no awful side effects. I pray that when the time comes to say we are going to do do what’s right for our family, you will have perfect peace. Sending love and hugs. 💕💕💕💕
This advice is so important. Quality of life is key.
❤🌹Im very Sorry for the Loss of your Lovely Boy, Im sure he realised, you fought very hard, for his life and you love him very much and thats why you did what you had to, what a cruel world it is When we lose our little ones/ Loved ones
So sorry for the loss of your son. I halted the end treatment with my husband, and we choose to spend what time we had left together❤ when he passed away I was with him. It was such a peaceful passing and I knew we made the right decision of stopping all the extreme measures and just enjoying what little time I had with him. Thank you so much for sharing and again I’m sorry for your loss.
Kyle, I am so worried because we haven't seen Jenny in 6 days. Yes, I check every day. You guys have become part of our families. This may sound strange since we have never met in person, but because you have opened your hearts and vulnerabilities to us, we feel as if we've known you for years. Well, we are all connected, and we are all a part of one great big human family. Jenny, you, Ellis, and Winnie are always in my prayers. We love you all. God be with you.
They deserve time together without filming everything. Give them the space and grace to have that precious time......
@@jacqueline8559I don’t think she meant if that way..she was just explaining that she worries because she feels so connected..so it was an innocent comment..
My wife battled cancer for 3years 10months she passed two weeks ago. I know what you are going through. You and your wife have my prayers.
Im very sorry for your loss
So sorry for your loss 💔🙏
My condolences!🌹
Condolences and prayers. 🙏
I’m so sorry praying for you 💔🙏🥹
I would like to tell you this, Kyle. Three years ago February 18th I received a phone call that changed my life for the rest of my life. My daddy, my hero, my first best friend was in ICU and unresponsive! At the time I lived two hours away. I made that two hour drive in one hour! I sat with him in the hospital for 13 nights/14 days. The results were he suffered an Ischemic Stroke. I stepped up at 32 and became his full time primary caregiver. Two kids of my own to raise. My dad and I got a place together and I did all his care. All the Doctor appointments, rehabs etc. April 18th my dad suffered his second stroke (ischemic) and on our way to the hospital he was in the beginning of his third stroke. It was very scary but luckily he made it out fighting. July 2020 my dad got his Vascular Dementia diagnosis. Another bump in our journey but we were going to tackle it together, and I always made sure my dad knew that. Unfortunately May 25th ‘22 my dad lost his balance with his walker and ended up falling and breaking his femur. He made it through surgery wonderfully and we were on the road to recovery. Went to rehab and my dad did phenomenal as always. Unfortunately the world crumbled Father’s Day 2022 when my dad could no longer walk and was going in and out. As a child I had to make the phone call that I never wanted to make. In home hospice was started before the end of that week but since I work in home healthcare/hospice I knew the road I was fixing to be going down and the end of life medication that my dad would be given. It’s not a journey for the weak but I know during that time you feel incredibly helpless and weak. July 25 ‘22 10:23pm I stepped out of my daddy’s room for a brief second and the Angels came and carried him home. For a while I was truly mad that I didn’t get to be in the room for that moment but it was later explained to me that my dad had protected me my whole life and he was going to continue that up till the Angels came and carried him home. My dad told me a couple days before he passed “Job well done” later I found out that’s from a bible verse. I fully believe in my heart God was speaking through my dad to me. When I told my dad I was going to be ok, he said in his upbeat voice “I know Jessie!” Here I am a year later and even though I thought I wouldn’t make it through without my dad, I have to say he was right, I was always going to be “Ok Jessie” He never let me down when he was physically here so why would he let me down when isn’t physically here! I understand your pain Kyle. That ache you feel in your heart is unbearable at times. The want to keep fighting will never fade. And that LOVE, trust me, will never fade! You’re doing an outstanding service and God wouldn’t have placed you in this position if he knew you couldn’t do it. Kyle, you’re an Angel and never doubt yourself! Love from Georgia! ❤
Check your dads meds...theres a medication causing this. Is he on a statin? Cholesterol medication? If not change the bp pill...If the blood is to thin , he will have a stroke again. No aspirin with blood thinner, these doctors are causing strokes because they write out scripts but have no education on them...sending you and your dad love and healing!❤❤
I'm in tears. Thank you for sharing, that was beautiful.🤍
LOVE YOU SWEET FRIEND ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for sharing that! God bless you, Jessie!
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Making each moment special is as simple as Jenny said, cuddle up and treasure those moments. She didn't want to go to Hawaii, she wanted to snuggle with you and your little ones. Do that and you all will have THOSE special moments ❤😢
not with that clinical trial going on she will be sicker !
@@inka87871 and she would STILL be able to snuggle with her family. She did during other treatments when she was sick.
@@inka87871she’s not in one now. She’s doing the proton therapy
My father lost his beautiful wife, my mother in March 1969. She was only 49. I say this, because for the first time in my life and your generosity in sharing your experiences with the world I feel I can understand what he must have REALLY gone through. It forever changed him, of course but he managed to raise me alone. You’re incredibly strong;
Asking for help is an admirable thing to do!
Kyle, I’m a 65 year old man that never cries but hearing you talk about what your family is going through, filled my eyes with tears. You are facing all this courageously in a manly fashion. Your wife is fortunate to have you.
I promise to pray for you bro.
Great comment! 😊
🙏 Kyle and Jenny
as a perfectionist, after losing my ex husband, my best friend, and my daughters father, i’ve absolutely learned that perfection is a waste of time. life ends and after that, nothing is on you. prayers Kyle, 🙏🏻
@ Loren
Where u & Ur Husband Divorced when u Lost Him ⁉️
yes, but he was still my best friend @@michelemoyna2691
I lost my husband of 20 years and my BEST friend 3 yrs ago. We are never the same. It’s just a breath at a time some moments. Prayers, love, strength to you all. Listen to your gut and you WILL continue to “hear her” in your mind’s eye when it’s her time. Doctors aren’t always right. Hugs to you all. 🙏🏻💚
My Beautiful Wife Jan 2years 8 months ago and like you all did everything together also. Nine of our lives will. Be changed forever without our Loves God Bless Kyle ,You and everyone on this page.
I’m so sorry for your loss honey
In Jenny's own words just being together sleeping together is what makes her feel the best. Having you guys around is what makes things perfect. Don't try to change things....try to keep things as normal as possible and it's the time you spend together that means the most.
Great advice, yes, this is what Jenny said she wants. ❤
@@User79344”I love family bedtime”. ❤
Praying for all of you! 🙏 I can tell you my father had lung cancer and was given 2-3 months. He opted not to pursue treatment. He lived almost 10 months after being told. Hospice was great with helping keep him comfortable and supporting us as the caregivers. Just remember nothing has to be perfect and anytime spent together is a blessing. Prayers🙏
Don't know if Palliative care would be for you and Jenny. They could give you support and they don't discourage further treatment if desired .
My sister did the same with her breast cancer. She opted not to continue with any more treatment, as the outcome was inevitable. She wanted to spend her last days with her family and friends instead of treatment after treatment. I understood.
Kyle, as others have said, Jenny doesn’t need a bucket list, she just wants to be with you and the children. Don’t add additional pressure to yourself. I will tell you that your love and devotion to Jenny is absolutely amazing. Some never experience that, that is your gift. I wish the world were full of the kind of love you share. What a paradise it would be. You are amazing, she loves you as much as you love her. It’s heartbreaking to listen to all you are all going through. My heart breaks for all of you. ❤
Kyle, thank you for giving us a look into the caretakers version. My mom died at 41 leaving my dad as a single parent. He wasnt perfect but he did the very best he could. The main thing was that we knew we were loved. Never! stop telling your kids how much they are loved. My love and prayers are with you Kyle as you go through this new experience. You and the kids are all Jenny truly needs right now ❤
One step at a time, Kyle is the only way to handle all of this. Jenny, YOU, and your children are in all of our prayers. 🙏❤✝️
I just want you to know, as a former certified Hospice Specialist, when the time comes, utilize them to the fullest. It's their job to take the weight off of your hands as far as the comfort care measures, and caretaking, so that you may spend quality time with your loved one. It makes an enormous difference. As usual, I am praying for you to continue being strong as you have, obviously Jenny and the children are deeply in our thoughts and prayers. God Bless.
Kyle I lost my brother from diagnosis to his passing in 4 weeks. I lost my son, unexpectedly, a couple months later. I found that living in the moment with both of them is the best thing I could have done. I was with my brother to the end and I’m grateful for the time. I did struggle with memory issues and racing thoughts. Take notes and set reminders to stay on task. Just live in the moment… you have been an amazing caregiver, husband and father.
Omg ,I'm so sorry for your losses in such a short space of time ❤❤
@@gilliangoodman6362 thank you. It’s really a lot and it makes my heart go out to all that go through this.
This breaks my heart! So sorry for both of you! My Husband is battling stage four cancer right now. Sending Prayers!
So sorry
Kyle, I was born with a severe congenital heart defect. I was given a timeline of just 48 hours!
I am 33 TODAY! NEVER lose hope!
Jennie IS blessed to have you as her husband. The care, love and attention you give surely provides a sense of security for her and your children. Many times we feel inadequate for the situation, but God chose YOU for Jennie. God is with you!!
Kyle, I was a Single Mother after losing my husband in a head on collision years ago. My girls were ages 7 and 4. It was very hard, but I had lots and lots of support from friends and neighbors. You will have that support as well. I feel your pain and frustration and all the feelings you expressed in this video. Jenny had a great idea when she suggested you create your own channel as a care giver. We are here for you as well as for Jenny. You talked about feeling so much pressure because you have a mountain of things to take care of. I have found it helpful to take care of one thing at a time and try not thinking about everything at once. Will you have substitute teachers taking you class while you and Jenny are in San Diego? Can some of the legal necessities be taken care of remotely, online, digital signatures etc.? I also learned some time ago not to focus on perfection. You don't need that self inflicted pressure. Jenny just wants to have quality time doing simple things with you and Winnie and Ellis every single day, and it doesn't have to be perfect. I know you are hurting because I know you and Jenny are Soulmates. Not everyone has a marriage like yours, and you are truly blessed to have been able to experience this sublime love. My heart is breaking for all that you guys are going through. I will keep praying for you and your family.
You are a beautiful person as well.
You're a rock Kyle. The pressure on you is obviously immense. You're doing all the right things. Know that there are ppl thinking about you and everything you're going through.
😞 Kyle I am sorry. This video relates to exactly what I am going through as a partner of a stage 4 lung cancer patient. It feels like living in the Twilight zone and everyones voice is charlie browns teacher. Thank you for this video. You said the words that I couldn't come up with, but feel.🙏 For you. This is very hard listening to 😭
Kyle stop!!!!! Take a deep breath. I totally get where you’re coming from. I did this for my mom my sister and hubby all 3 passed from cancer. What your going thru is soooiooo hard and you have a lot of weight on your shoulders. You have to take care of your self as well. I want you to pray and Jesus to take this wheel while you take care of daily stuff. You need a time to let all this out. And if that means to cry scream what ever it takes. We are all praying for you 🙏. And praying for Jenny to be healed. It’s hard I know hon and you are in a very dark area. Keep talking to us. We are here for you all. Much love ❤️ and prayers for you Jenny and your beautiful babies
i feel ur worries..i feel what ur going thru..my wife was sick for the past 6 years..in and out of emerge..she was diabetic and had many health problems..she sadly passed away June 14, 2022 after 16 wonderful years together..
Matthew 11:28 … “Come to me, all who are weary and heavy laden and I will give you rest”. Kyle, I understand how overwhelmed you are right now, it is a lot that you guys have been given, this scripture comes to mind, I hope it will help you. I’m keeping all of you in my prayers!
I have cried for Jenny, you and both of your babies for what you are going through. I still hold out hope for a miracle, as Ellis said, miracles do happen and I say Amen to that 🙂
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Your mom raised you and you are a great guy , Kyle. I bet she feels like she didn't do things perfectly either. You will be there for your kids when they need you. You don't have to figure out your whole life today.
I went through this with my wife. Be strong for her. Love her. Spend every minute with her.
I’ve lived w my husband for 40 yrs. I met him when his first wife died of cancer. He had two boys at the time age 3n 4, you will meet someone nice to you cuz you’re so caring. Your kids will be ok, god exists, thank you
If anyone knows what you're going through it's Taylor Odlozil, he has a small child and just lost his wife almost 2 weeks ago. I cried when his wife Haley passed away, and my heart breaks for you all now. I lost my son it was unexpected, and my world was shattered that day. People asked me how could I be so strong at that very moment, I didn't feel strong I felt broken, and I told them I'm strong through Christ who strengthens me I leaned on God to help me get through a time that was so horribly painful. I pray that God gives you strength.
I came here to say this!
I feel the hardest part of end of life is the doctors still pushing treatments to the last breath that dont really help. Ive seen it with many family members. Sometimes the late stage treatments shorten life due to complications or infections. Its up to each person, but maybe its time to think about relieving that added stress, bringing on a palliative team and just enjoying the rest of her days. Palliative care has their own team of doctors and nurses with resources of support for the whole family. They step in and really help in so many ways ❤
I agree with you so much. It seems so cruel to put these families through another treatment, and all the money all the hope that was never going to be realized. I completely hate big Pharma.
Agreed! It takes away from time you have with your family! It’s a very hard decision that needs to be made by both parents!❤
Very true. All of this “fighting” for a few weeks of pain and suffering is often exhausting and heartbreaking for everyone concerned. Keeping your loved one free of pain and surrounded with love, is often the greatest gift to give. The patient needs to know that their loved ones will be able to manage and bring up the children with oodles of love and support. Kyle is in early days but I do hope that he knows this and gives Jenny the reassurance that she so desperately needs.
Quality of life is everything. The harsh treatments only prolong the inevitable, imo.
The go fund me in Kyle’s video description is growing! Let’s keep banding together to support this family!! They’re so deserving. Thanks for being real, Kyle. ❤ You and the family have stolen our hearts. I hate to see you both go through this.
yes if we could all share this on FB or other platforms, we can help make life a little bit easier for this family.
I feel for you Kyle. My mum died when I was 3. 7 children and all got separated. You will come out strong. With all your memories. Your children will be so proud of you. Always talk about her with them. My mum was never spoke about. Just keep strong. Your a good father x
Kyle--So many of us out here are at a loss for words. But, you all have an army of prayer warriors for sure !! And with the prayers let us all together hold onto the hope of the new treatment adding more precious time for you all. For this moment--one day at a time, certainly easier said than done....but your awesome and amazing support system is never going to allow anything to go unchecked. Please feel all these prayers and love going out to you Kyle..Go and give Jenny,Ellis and Winnie the coziest afternoon you can. Tucking you in my prayers as we speak. Miracles still happen. Love to all.xoxo
It's just heartbreaking! But never forget, you have the largest sounding board out here that ever existed!!! Feel free to unload your fears at any time, right here! We love you, and feel such heartache for you. Take it easier on yourself and let YOURSELF enjoy each moment left with your sweet family.
One day at a time, Kyle … you have done an amazing job in supporting Jenny and your kids. Never give up faith in God. Thousands of people are praying for Jenny’s full recovery. Love from Toronto, ON ❤️🇨🇦🙏🙏🙏🙏
I lost my husband pancreatic cancer. I have 12 kids, it’s fast and brutal. I’m so sorry you and your family have to go through this.❤❤
I may not know what to say. I'm here listening to you from Texas. Kyle, you have alot of ears here listening. We are here for you and the family. Sending prayers,
Paul from Perth and Josh from the POG family have reached out to you so I hope you have all made contact. Sending you love and peace xx
You don't always have to be strong for your wife. It's ok to break down in front of her. She will understand and love you all the more.
Dear Appleford family-your names have been placed on the temple prayer list which will reach prayers from thousands of people. I will be fasting this Sunday and will dedicate my fast to you.
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Kyle. You are perfect to Jenny. You are perfect to your children. The relationship you both have is amazing and you’re doing an AMAZING job.
Take a few deep breaths. It’s okay to break down and cry. You are human.
I will always lift you Jenny and your kids in prayer 🙏.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings with us. Sending you and your family a virtual hug.
Kyle, 43 years ago when I was 37, I lost my husband from lung cancer. I listen today to your video and tried to remember how I dealt with everything. My heart breaks for you, Jen and the kids.
Let every day be special. Make memories. Remember you are the one who will have the memories. Find a relative who can help you with appts, etc. You will look back on this time, and have pride in what you did for Jen. I consider what I did for my husband the finest moments of my life. It is very difficult, but it is true, time helps. You never forget, you learn how to live with it. I went to counseling before his death and for two years after. It really helps. I shall keep you in my prayers. I know you have the strength to support Jen and the children. God bless
Beautifully said.
We are here anytime you need us Kyle. We love all of you and if you find it therapeutic to come here and..just talk, we will listen, because we care. Strangers can be the easiest to talk to sometimes. God bless you, Jenny, and the little ones.
Kyle, You are the most wonderful husband any girl could ever have! Memory loss is part of being overwhelmed and you are surely overwhelmed. So many of us have watched you be loving and supportive. Jenny is so lovely and loving and just so strong. Cancer is a horrible disease and it saddens me how many people still die from this disease. You are not alone in this because so many of us are here for you. I pray for you both every day. Keep reaching out because we want to keep staying by your side
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I have been in your shoes, I lost my husband to cancer. It was the worst 10 months of my life. So, I will keep you and your family in my prayers 🙏
this is f--ked losing someone so close and dear
Kyle you are truly such an amazing husband and father. I don't know how you seem to cope so well with everything 😢 Jenny knows she has one of the best in you and couldn't ask for better❤ all praises to you and your beautiful wife for being so real, raw and vigilant. You two are warriors and I pray that God gives you both the strength to the end....whether that's the end of the cancer or the end to heaven😢🙏❤
I just went through this with my sister, as her caregiver. Please know my prayers are with you, Jenny and your children. God Bless you.
My heart is breaking for you. These are your darkest times. Just breathe, Kyle. One foot in front of the other and one day at a time. You will raise your kids amazingly well. They are her legacy. Stay strong. Everyone is rooting for you guys. Sending love ❤
My dear Kyle,
When you said « I love my life, I love my wife and I love my children » I knew you will overcome your loss because you are able to cherish what Jenny gave you, taught you, and you are on the way to the acceptance of the fate you two have to face. And that you will be able to harvest the joy it also brings, will bring.
I lost my father to cancer and I felt honored that he let me be part of the journey till the last breath. My heart goes to you all four, your video is so true to the core that I couldn’t help but send you my respect and friendship. Jennifer from France.
It’s hard to grieve the loss of loved ones while they’re still alive 😢❤
Anticipatory grief is a real thing. In Kyles position, his children are going to need him to be strong and keep them safe, from day one. It’s never too soon to get grief counselling so that he is prepared and able to be the Dad that they need.
Maybe Jenny can make a "coming of age" video where she can talk to Winnie about what to expect with her first period, how to use sanitary products, how she might feel, etc. I think this will be so special for her daughter to get to hear this from her own mother rather than someone else. I know you all have so much on your plate so I hope this isn't an overwhelming suggestion. Praying for you and your family ❤ I hope Jenny experiences a miracle and gets to live many more years than expected. Please take care ❤
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@@creaturedomes9364 Are you really trolling on a post where a young wife & mother died of cancer? Do better.
Im still praying for her healing, so much. I choose to believe in miracles and that she can pull through this. ❤ to you both.
Amen
Amen.
We Love You Kyle! Please know that. The prayers are flooding in from all over the world for you, Jenny and the family. ❤❤❤
Kyle, you have to lean on your family so that you can concentrate on Jenny and the kids. You know that you would do it for them. Let them do it for you. I know they can’t do it all but they can help. ❤❤❤❤
Where is Jenny's Mother in all of this? I haven't seen her or heard you talk about her presence in your family's lives, while Jenny has been going through this long, arduous cancer journey?? How involved is Jenny's Dad & siblings?
You are amazing person Kyle take care of you self and beautiful kids you guys have just pray for you God bless you been strong for you beautiful women you have ❤❤❤❤
When you look back in life it’s not the “things” it’s the moments spent together. That’s what your children will remember. As a caregiver the stress is so deep on you. Just be sure you take care of YOU. You have done an incredible job throughout this. ❤
Being a caregiver and going through this myself your words are so true and comforting.❤
@@debrahanko3978Big hugs to you. I’ve been there too. And I’d do it again in a heartbeat. But the stress is so heavy. Hugs.
@LyndyLive yes in a heartbeat, I would do it all over again too. Hugs back and to all going through grief.
You have a whole community here to help you along the way. You don’t have to figure out the rest of your life today. I am praying hard for a miracle for all of you.
Oh my heart breaks for you all. My Mother in law passed away with Lung Cancer. It was so hard watching her going through that. I’m praying that Jennifer beats all odds with this treatment. God Bless 🙏🏻❤️
Kyle being a Dad to your children wont be the hard part. Living without Jenny will be the hardest. Your wonderful kids will be there to hold you up. Not physically but emotionally.
They will remind you what life really is about. You have great family, great friends and that’s
very important. God bless you Kyle.
You’re a far braver man than me Kyle - you’re inspirational. I’m here shedding tears and I see the strength in you that I don’t have and never will. I’m losing my partner too - but only because she’s tired of me. I wish Jenny could have the life I’ve wasted, I’d swap it in a heartbeat. I’m so sorry. 😢
I hope that you can make it better and chance your life around.
There is more to life than one person who rejects you. You still have time to live because you are needed here. Take the time to find what your purpose is and maybe this time next year you will feel very differently. Good luck.
It's not too late for you. New starts and new decisions happen all through life. Decide not to waste your life. See a doctor to better manage your mental health or whatever you need to sort out to make these changes. You may have wasted a part of your life but you still have time. Don't waste the rest fretting about the past.
There is no such thing as a wasted life my friend.
@@bendietrees I meant *years* not life, but appreciate the comments. I hope that Kyle, Jenny and the kids are doing Ok, I have far too much empathy and sadness for them - Kyle, you’re doing amazing - miracles *can* and *do* happen. 💙🇬🇧
My daughter’s doctor told her she had about 3 months, when she actually had a month. The doctor still wanted to continue with “chemo”, when my daughter just wanted to rest and stop chemo. The doctor tried to push more chemo on her, and then made her feel bad for refusing continued “treatments” that were just making her last days more difficult. My daughter didn’t have children or a husband. So I cannot imagine what you are going through. I thank God you have a close and loving family and good friends. You are such a good husband and father! Being scared is hard, I know…. I am praying 🙏 for you all…
I just went through your exact experience with my wife. Everything you are experiencing resonates with me. Cancer diagnosis, , chemotherapy, radiation, imunnotherapy, LMD (death sentence), proton therapy. I set monthly goals. She was diagnosed in December 2022, January we went to Chicago, February we went to Jamaica, March we went to NYC to see her brother and our son (& treatment at Sloan Kettering), April to Cancun with our daughter. She was very happy to have these opportunities and I will always cherish the moments. I was the primary caregiver and watched her die a little bit everyday. My prayers are with you.
My heart breaks for you I'm so sorry
We Around The🌎 are STANDING/PRAYING/BELIEVING and We ALL Will Continue To Be Here For Y’all! This Video Touched ALL I’m Sure- We ARE HERE For Y’all! Y’all have BLESSED ALL Our Lives By SHARING Something SO HARD! Millions of HUGS/PRAYERS are Being Sent to Y’all and Your Precious Children! 🙏🏻🤗🌼
Kyle, I was a caregiver to both my parents, dad -cancer, mom- Alzheimer's and my husband, who I lost last Sept. I can say that you can't make it perfect. You have to take it one day at a time and enjoy the day, the way it is. It's already perfect because you and your kids are there.....that's perfect to her. Keep a notebook with and write down things. To be honest, you are in a grieving process, even though she is still here. Please give yourself grace. My husband died in my hands and I didn't know he was dying. He had been sick for many many years and a lot of health issues. I basically took care of him from 2005 -2022. I put a lot of pressure on myself and developed anxiety. I will be honest with you. After your beautiful wife is no longer here you will have what is called "widower brain"...pretty much of what you are going through now with forgetting, things like that. My hubby was my best friend as well. I still don't want to do life without him. My husband fell in love with me at first sight. It will be scary at first. You have to take one day at a time, one hour at a time, one minute at a time. You are a wonderful dad and you will always be a wonderful dad, no matter what.
This brought me to tears 🥺🥺 thank you for being so candid and vulnerable with us Kyle you are what a husband should be, & what you and Jenny have is truly beautiful you’ll both forever be in my prayers ❤
Dear Kyle, Jenny is so blessed to have been graced by a man who loves her in the most beautiful self-sacrificing way that most women could only dream about having in there lifetime. I want to thank you and Jenny both for allowing us into your cancer journey that continues to touch so many of our lives each day. We love you both and our thoughts and prayers are with you always. 🙏❤️
Dear Kyle, when I was young, found the love of my life ❤ we were young had a daughter 💔 he was diabetic at 10 years old and we went through quite a bit together lost his kidneys and had been on the kidney machine until he received a new 🙏💔kidney. The doctor warned us, he has 10 years at most then his kidney will fail. Id always believed in miracles.🙏 God did warn me how long he'd have to live, how long I'd be taking care of my husband. This happened in the 80's Now I look back and had seen what God was trying to show me all life's lessons 🙏, VERY DIFFICULT AND I KEPT ASKING WHY???? I WAS SO DEEPLY HURT AND CONFUSED. I WILL TELL YOU IT MADE ME VERY STRONG BUT CON BECAUSE I STILL DIDN'T UNDERSTAND WHY? WHEN YOU ARE YOUNG LIFE THROWS YOU ALL K8NDS OF HARD SHIPS. IN THE END IM SO MUCH MORE CLOSER TO HIM. I WILL SEE RALPH AGAIN AND I CANT WAIT!
Amen❤
Dear Kyle, my heart goes out to you. I lost my husband three weeks ago today 😢 He was my best friend, my everything and we were total soulmates. We were together over thirty five years. It's so hard but take it from me that you will deal with it. Somehow we get the strength from somewhere to get up every morning and face another day. Love to you all ❤️
My condolences for your loss
I’m so sorry. I wish you all the strength in the world to help you live life the way your husband would want you to.
Life can be so cruel, but it’s also very beautiful.
The sun will shine again.
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I'm so sorry
No one can heal the hurt anger or pain that you, Jenny or the children are feeling, but we can pray. Every second of every day is a memory that you are making. Being there with her is more valuable than you will ever know Kyle! My prayers will not stop and I truly believe that God hears our prayers.
Amen 🙏 praying as well and u are absolutely correct in saying God hears our prayers and he answers them!!!!!!
Amen🙏🏻
You're a wonderful man, I'm so sorry you are going through this! prayers for a miracle. You don't deserve this pain
We’re there for you Kyle. Here to listen and be there to support you as much as we can from afar. 🙏🏻
Y’all are in my prayers. My husband had lung cancer in left lung they removed half all was good for a year and a half. But they found a spot on his right lung we have a pet scan on the 16 th. I’m praying it’s not back. We have had 41 years together but I’m terrified of being left alone. So I’m praying hard that you both can fined peace and comfort and all that you need to get through this difficult time. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Were you given survival rates for early stage lung cancer? It sounds that your husband's was caught early. Jenny had said something about lung cancer having only a 6% survival rate at 5 years. I don't know if she meant all lung cancers or just stage 4. That number doesn't sound right for early detection, but it scares me. I have a lung cancer screening ordered and petrified. If early detection doesn't give good odds, not sure if I should even get the screening my doctor wants me to have. I was widowed at 41 with 5 children. Losing my husband, their dad, shattered us. I married him at 18. He was my world, but I need to live for these kids. My mother died of lung cancer just months after my husband's sudden death. already terminal stage 4 when diagnosed so we never went through early stages or survival talk. That 6% statistic, which I may have heard wrong, is making me question even getting scanned. I hope you have your husband by your side, healthy, for a long time.
@@betsybabf748 The odds are meaningless. All they do is scare people. My husband had a 2% chance of living 24 months. It’s been 14 years. You will be one for the books ... I pray! You’ll be a survivor!
Hello,
I want to let you know I just went through a similar situation with my mom. It IS indeed a hard thing to deal with. But then again, my mom was 82 (yes, she passed just 4 weeks ago...). I don't know how old your husband is but I am guessing younger and it sounds like he has more of his left lung remaining than she did. I pray this is the case IF indeed it's cancer! Are you anywhere near (or can you get to?) the Cancer Treatment Centers of America? I've heard they are very good IF you aren't comfortable with your husband's doctor's experience and expertise)
My mom first got lung cancer in 2011 but hers too was caught early. She was Stage 1. She had surgery and they removed bottom lobe of left lung and most of the top lobe. After her surgery she had regular scans but didn't have to get chemo or radiation. She was cancer free 12 years! She got sick again recently, had CT scan and they found fluid on the right lung, a 6.3 x 4 cm mass and an enlarged subcarinal lymph node. She was too weak and sick and old to survive. I miss her dearly!!! Praying for a good outcome for you! If I can help, plz reach out
Kyle you're an AWESOME HUSBAND AND FATHER and DON'T EVER FORGET THAT! Praying 🙏 for Jenny,you,and the kids! I'm so sorry for what you're going through. 😢
You are a amazing father Kyle, your amazing wife beat cancer and you beat cancer wth her.
Kyle, what an honor that you choose to share your 'life' with us. You have never met us, but we feel we have known you and your precious family forever. Please remember we are ALWAYS right here...to listen and to support you in any way we possibly can. You and Jenny and Ellis and Winnie have enriched our lives and made us better people. THAT is one truth that will you will never lose. --- You have not mentioned allowing us to help with Jenny's medical expenses ... that is absolutely one way we could be a part of your family with more than just words. You always say, "We'll figure it out." Please let us help you with the 'figuring.' LET US KNOW HOW WE CAN DO THAT! We so want to do that for Jenny. --- My prayers will continue....and yes, Ellis is right: there are miracles! We love all four of you dearly...always will. 💔❤