Hi lucy! I luv ur videos! Thank you for making everything so easy to follow! I just was gonna look at your voice tutorials because im genderfluid and I wanted to know how, but your videos have me questioning if I’m actually trans! I luv your channel so much and i really wish I could donate! ❤❤❤
Haven't been able to cd in about 2 years, finally get some alone time, every two minutes someone comes banging at my door needing something. Haven't had a single visitor for about a year before that, but the second I put on some lipstick.. lol
100% this. I line it all up in the stores app so I can even get help if I need to. If anyone questions it, I'm a support worker (my actual job) doing some shopping for a client. Even though the last part is a lie, this puts me in the working headspace and I lost all nerves whilst shopping, even when close to home
@@jimmypatterson9854 Oh i see.... That sounds good ~ ermmmmm yep 👍 i don't really know what to say but i feel obligated to answer you in a long manner due to the length of your answer and to serve as a justification to listen to this video 👉👈
I secretly transitioned, my family never found out even after 2 years HRT. when I came out they were all shocked, and I'm glad I did it secretly because none of them were supportive!
This video made me realize how intimidating i am to people who know me. I just started making changes that were very visible such as nails and nobody was willing to ask questions. Stay safe out there my lovelies and remember you all beautiful 💚
I'm playing this game with my emotionally repressed parents. I guess it's a win-win, either they won't bother me, or they will be forced to talk to me about something personal of their own volition.
lmao same, as an overly masculine man who was closeted in denial, the transition to my now muscleless (took 2 years 😢) body painted nails, and cute little fem self, completely shocks those that knew me before yet nobody has a single nasty thing to say. Will be keeping the boxing gloves tattoo😽
For me personally, I don't like being intimidating, because I feel I hurt my loved ones (and other people) by being that way. The things I have done, which I know I did without any bad intentions, I've done in secret, not out of cowardice, but so they wouldn't bring sadness to them.
I think you warm up to it little by little. I started out cross playing at conventions then gradually moved inti dressing femme in public. Eventually I made the big step of hrt
I know the clothes store feeling. I wasn't completely stealth, I had one person that knew. My aunt. So she brought me shopping for feminine clothes. And instead of presenting confidence (I would if I was alone), I played the role of the "bored out of my mind guy while the girl shops clothes", when she was mostly picking out clothes for me.
If your inconspicuous clothes are folded neatly and you have enough of it, pick some pieces you never wear, unfold them, put secret clothes inside the inconspicuous clothes, and fold that, and put it below all of the frequently-worn clothes.
The youtube trans space has been nothing but amazing so far. People just sharing their experiences has made me feel so comfortable and unconditionally accepted, and like all the guides/advice videos are genuinely life saving
For the clothes, the best option I found was thrift stores. Not only will you usually have a much wider variety of options, but you also won't have to have awkward conversations with staff. Beyond that, new clothes are expensive. At the thrift store you can get clothes for a few dollars that otherwise you'd be spending a fortune for... And if they don't fit or they aren't really to your liking, you aren't out all that much.
I'm in a position where I can comfortably practice transition at any pace, but my job is very exposed to the public, and the general community is awful. I appreciate these discreet tips. I shaved my arms once and it felt nice, but I felt self conscious about them when walking out in short sleeves. it felt nice not having hair there, honestly, and I'm def going to make the most out of shaving this autumn/winter. Been meaning to give my legs a shave. That's next on my list of things to do.
If you haven't yet, do it. Smooth legs sliding through clean sheets like glass is a joy like no other. It feels AMAZING. Just prepare to pretend you're a swimmer if you're planning on wearing shorts, and brace for that excuse not working. Why it doesn't, idk, but own that shit. Athletes are stereotypically confident, after all.
I for real feel like a paranoid schizo lol. Everytime i dress up i pull down all the curtains, lock all doors (just in case), turn off/obscure all camera's, and grow hyperaware off all sounds.
The intro got me thinking: you are turning into your digital self. You are goals. Edit: double tap rewind as soon as the video begins. Over and over again. You're all welcome. ❤
for shaving legs I recommend using an electric razor initially if you have one, its way faster but the shave is not as close but it makes close shaving easier
I did a bit of sneaky transition for the first year. I still didn't come out till a month after people started asking about the long hair and noticable growing boobs.
I also didn't tell anyone. I started to male-fail about 1 year into HRT at which point I decided to transition socially and stop trying to hide changes.
@icqme8586 lucky. For me its been over a year in and I have to make an extreme effort to been see as female. I'm only passable when everything is on point. Male failing with no effort feels like a pipe dream to me
I've been doing my nails all the time for the past 16 months or so, and I'm not kidding when I say that I've gotten over twice the compliments from strangers about the color of my nails in those past months, than I've gotten compliments from strangers about anything else about my body in my entire lifetime combined
I'm late 50s, so not quite a girl anymore, literally a TransMa now. I absolutely love your energy and the way you deliver your content, so refreshing ❤
I definitely just clicked because of the Elite Penguin Force headquarters in the background, not because I've been trying to figure out how to make any progress in transition but being scared of being noticed.
Best advice for growing hair: Just be a metal head UwU Edit: That applies to colored nails and maybe colored hair as well, depending on how accepting people are around you. Your presentation can be part of a sub culture or just a style you like. Not everything necessarily has to be gendered. Like, there are cis men who color their nails, shave their body, color their hair, ... just because they like it (many bodybuilders shave, men of subcultures like punk or goth sometimes color nails and hair, ...). As a transgirl, I think this could be a good argumentation to slightly transition while still staying closeted. I will certainly do it this way + use Lucy's sneaky ideas on top :3
Some other things I'd like to add about hiding a transition, if on HRT it's probably a really good idea to either see your family (or anybody you want to stealth around) either often, or not at all. Like if someone saw you only every 3 months or something, they're going to more easily notice the changes to your body because it won't be gradual for them, whereas it would be if it were daily. Though you should also avoid any situation where being with them might involve them taking pictures (like going to the beach, holidays, other social events) because that picture now serves as a reference they could use to more easily notice. And you should also avoid letting them touch you since HRT will definitely make your skin feel smoother. Edit on that part: Also worth keeping in mind that if any children notice changes from your transition, there's a decent chance they'll say something about it whether they/their parents are accepting or not. Kids don't really have inhibitions and often say what's on their mind. So if you had extended family with kids, even if they're accepting, the kids may expose you if they pointed anything out. Hasn't happened to me but worth considering. For getting HRT in stealth (or as much as possible), at least if you're in the U.S and an adult there's Planned Parenthood and informed consent, which means they provide information and allow you to make the call as an adult capable of their own decisions. You can basically just make a digital appointment (even if people live with you, that digital meeting might not be too bad, though best to schedule during time safe and alone) and maybe even pick up a prescription the same day like I did. It's also good to ask about financial assistance and stuff if you need that. Estrogen is luckily pretty easy to get actually, or at least easier than testosterone since that's a controlled substance. And for hiding HRT prescription itself, if you take them as pills then you could keep like a week's worth at a time in a pill organizer. Some people might not already be taking any medication, BUT you could pretty easily justify it by also getting some supplements, like vitamin C, vitamin D, iron, zinc, magnesium, omega 3, B vitamins, etc. although hiding the actual bottles for the HRT may still be something to consider. Lastly this might not be an option for everyone, but if you're into cosplay or some fandoms like Star Wars/Harry Potter, you could replace the simple dysphoria hoodie with full body outfits like a black robe, which would hide a ton. Tell people you're just being a Sith lord or wizard. If they know you to be nerds for those things, it probably won't raise too much suspicion. Edit to add: Also a REALLY good way to voice train in stealth would be signing up for a choir, if anyone has the option. I took choir for like 2-3 years when I was in school and I feel it helped tremendously, even with what little voice training I did. Choir will not be specifically for getting a feminine voice of course, but you will learn a lot about how to control things like pitch, resonance, etc. a lot of techniques you learn in voice training will be taught in a choir class. It's not unusual for anyone of any gender to take choir classes, and if your family thinks it's feminine there may even be a choir in your church (if you have to attend one). I would say the only downsides to a choir class are that you'll probably have to lean into your deep voice, even though you expand your range, if you are a bass then they'll want you singing bass. And of course, you need to be able to afford it. If your education is being paid for by your parents, it's a great time to get credits for graduation while picking up a skill useful in transition. Choir is also just awesome for learning to project your voice, you will find it easier to speak with authority and rizz as the kids might say.
Another great tip for those who wish to keep their alter-ego lifestyle private, is to get a private storage unit near your home, where you can keep all of your feminine attire, books, magazines, etc. I did that for many years before I came out! I kept a card table and comfy wheeled desk chair in there. I had a makeup mirror w/light, and full length mirror. I placed remnant carpeting on the floor. I would always go there to get 'dolled up' before trans support group meetings (which I had founded), and other outings with friends, and then go there to 'undo' afterward! Keep a jug of water and paper towels in there (they help, trust me)! I screwed an electrical adapter into the light socket, and screwed the light bulb into the adapter, which gave me non-grounded power for a small fan, and a small radio, etc. But be careful on the power usage, as those sockets aren't rated for much power (maybe 100 watts). You'll also want to keep your clothes, shoes, wigs, etc. sealed up while inside there, as they would get nasty if they're left out. Also, make sure your storage unit is accessible 24/7, otherwise you may be in for a rude surprise after a night out! 😧😧🏳⚧
When I was thinking about how to start transitioning, I could not decide how I would tell anyone close to me. I'm more afraid of their reactions than embarrassed of myself. My decision was to keep it secret. Only a couple close trusted friends and one very supportive family member knows what I am doing. While I can't say much about the social aspect of transition, I have been on HRT for almost a year. I feel so much better about myself. That may not work for everyone but, for me, it has been lifesaving. At some point, the people in my life will take notice. When they do, it may not go well. I can imagine their feelings being hurt. Nobody likes to feel left out. Maybe they will feel that I didn't trust them enough but, it's not about them. I'm not doing this for anyone but me. If they would have been supportive before, then they will be when they find out. Nobody else's opinion matters to me. Be confident in yourself and good people will take notice.
For the shopping thing it’s like 99% of cashiers do not care what the f you buy and if you go into small alternative stores the probability is high that the cashier is queer too and really excited to help you out. It’s happening quiet reliable to me
Another tip for getting clothes at a store; get a gift receipt if you feel nervous. If you ever say "it's for my girlfriend" they could be skeptical but if you get a gift receipt it's more reason for them to believe you
If the 'friend whose body is similar to yours' is in the hospital and/or its their birthday soon, that gives a reason why it is so urgent and why they can't do it themself, but why despite being nervous, you insist on doing it, and the nervousness will be read as embarrasment by onlookers.
i boymodded for like 2-3 years back i nthe day until psych had to tell my family im t so it was fun hiding stuff in plain sight is always the best honestly having a ton of online friends i later in life become irls with helped alot also as ex (or still kinda boymodder dont really present overly fem just girlboy thing ) diy hrt is really what saved me
Another tip: buy things that look like mens clothes but are actually womens. That way you can wear those clothes 24/7 without anyone noticing. Sure it's not skirt go spinny territory yet but you don't have to be that sneaky all the time. The skirts and dresses can come later when you're in a safer space.
Literally everything I wear aside from the graphic tees is female clothing, socks, jeans shoes, and underwear. Graphic tees to me the ones I like are not available in female so to me they are generic even though technically male so that does not matter. My family has never noticed. I am completely closeted and only my wife and my sister know the truth. The kids are 17 and 18 and have no idea that dad is trans and cross dressing full time pretty much. I would love to be fully out and wear what I want but I worry about how the kids and my Mother in-law that lives with us will react.
Do lots of hard cardio exercise to get closer to your ideal girl body, walk into the store, when they ask you who the clothes are for, just go "ME!" and give off that generic exercise glare. That works, too.
For shaving body hair I'd recommend a double edge razor like Henson. They're usually marketed as unisex, replacement razors are way cheaper and its a lot easier to avoid cutting yourself (you can still cut yourself if you're not careful but you don't have to worry as much about it). I use a Henson razor to shave my body and facial hair and I can get a really close shave relatively easily/quickly.
Had a friend gift me a vintage adjustable double edge and it makes shaving so much better. Went the entire vintage route with the badger brush and shave soups. Totally worth it.
i love me watching this while being completely out lol. btw for everyone wanting to learn vocal training but doesnt want other people to hear, you can still watch videos to learn what you’ll need to do, plus a lot of the resonance stuff can be practiced while whispering :)
Im just starting my trans journey (mtf) at 26... your videos are such a big help not just with all the helpful information but my confidence is through the roof 😊 so I'm watching everything from the beginning trying to learn as many tips as possible. Lots of love from the Uk ❤❤
I have to say...luckily I don't need to do it secretly, but clothes shopping alone made me very nervous, especially because in literally 6 stores there wasn't even one skirt 😅 But...speaking of skirts...if you can't buy one, but you have an old shirt, you can make a skirt yourself! You need to check if the shirt fits around your waist when it's upside-down, then cut either before the holes for the arms or below them to create an opening to step comfortably into. Then just put it on like it's a skirt... if it's too loose, then try to tie a knot with the fabric, which is too much for you. It won't look perfectly, but it will do its job ^^
It's illegal to prescribe HRT here so I just go into the pharmacy with all the confidence I have, quickly take my hrt, pay and bail. I only got kicked once. I also love to order the thing to the pharmacy so when I come in I say: -Hello, order 6159. -Here. That'll be $23. *Pays and leaves*
For clothes I am lucky enough to just have a date that went shopping with me a week ago. It was scary, it was dysphoric but we went to a state capital so who is gonna remember? And now I got skirts, shorts, and skorts. And the skirts go spin :3
Thank you so much for this ❤ I knew I was trans for a long time, but now I've gotten over any denial I've had. That's mostly thanks to wandering son, (a 2003 manga) and a few clothing items I bought while thrifting. Relating to those characters that much is... Well it's not very cis of me. Also been a fan for quite a while and I can now confirm you're very cool :3
Pro tip: while buying moisturizer put a pregnancy test box on top of your shopping cart. Onlookers and cashiers will be too shock to ask any further questions. And while scamming items leave the pregnancy test behind or say that you won't need after all, any nosy one will just assume "well a decision was made that day"
I have some of my stuff hidden in my computer case from my failed attempt at building a computer. Glad I found a use for that thing.... I am slowly growing my hair out and taking more time to deal with body hair also.
This video is giving me mixed emotions; on one hand it's a very important one for all of us out there who live in unsafe environments to deal with our issues... at the same time I just wish for a time where none of us lives in an unsafe environment to begin with... 🥺
You can acknowledge the situation is wrong, but whats important just aswell is to help people in those situations work with the tools they have, which is a huge public service
Yeah, that's true of course. Some people don't have a choice, and for some even DYI can be out of reach... I still hope that the number of these people will shrink dramatically during the time I'm alive.
Let's hope for the best...progress is not a straight one-way street, if you compare the late 60s and peak hippie culture with today for example. But we can only hope and do our part.
If you are able to drive, the area where your spare tire is in your trunk is a great place to store stuff. Did this for a gender-questioning friend once.
Little advice on the shaving from a cis guy Before putting a shaving razor to your legs , try using an electric trimmer to shorten the hair down to shaving length. I do this when I get lazy and don't shave for a few days. Hope this helps someone! 🌟
I don't need to watch this because I didn't do anything about it until i was 37. I'm a lil dense -.- I do think it's fascinating to learn about though. So while not a need it's still enjoyable
Some thing that's worked for me hair-wise, is getting/growing out a long mullet or wolfcut. Like you said in the video, some people aren't the best when it comes to controlling how you look, so take this with a grain of salt. I know that personally with my hair, I still get regular comments from my parents telling me to go back to my shorter hair. *But* Because the mullet kinda came back into style, there's an excuse for growing your hair out. I find it's kind of a stepping stone to getting a fem haircut. You get bangs, short on the side, and long in the back, which isn't too bad. Also for NB's and Genderfluid individuals, it being halfway between masc/fem may be useful!
I failed at the very first hurdle, and that was before I even started questioning my gender. At the time, I had a buzz cut and I told my parents that I wanted to try growing out my hair to shoulder length, just to see what it was like. THAT WAS THE ONLY REASON. Nevertheless, parents asked my CBT therapist to tell me to talk to by psychotherapist about why I wanted to grow out my hair. About 6-8 months later, still growing out my hair, I began questioning my gender (kind of).
When I was younger around 8 I did these techniques Alot due to not being able to come out but thank you for the content you are amazing now I am living out as my true self all of the time and for everyone out there you are loved I love you and care shine like the sun it can bring love light nourishment or when mistreated can burn you I love everyone cis and non I want all of you to know that everyone needs to know that they are loved muah 💋💋💋
Finally started HRT this year at 26 but I knew I was trans and wanting by 11 so I had many years of being sneaky. I always thought about passing on my tricks, excuses, and stories so I love that you are making this kind of video. My favorite thing is manufacturing a socially acceptable way to dress up. One such time was when I was in 6th grade I was part of a dance trapeze class (school below dance studio). The theme was night circus so I started saving up my lunch money for a whole month so I could buy sometime, I had to walk downtown but I found a shop selling a black and red tutu I bought "for a friend who was sick". Come the night of the performance I realized it was obviously an audience of school parents but thankfully I had the iron clad excuse of we needed to match/they made me. With that ready I could use hairclips in my " longer Justin Bieber hair" and some eyeliner and go on stage and perform. Best of all was after me and the girls got to run around downtown at night dressed up. With the protection of not wanting to embarrass me other parents never brought it up and my parents never knew.
Before I transitioned, I used to just go into the stores, try it on in the changing room and then go pay. The staff really don't care if its for you or anyone else. I was never questioned about trying on/buying womens clothes. Just don't worry about it. Just go in there and be confident and everything will go fine :)
Im scared to even show long hair that's why I cut it. my households hatred to trans people is as potent as smelling salt. i cant think about anything I could do. my purchases, whereabouts, and house are all monitored all the time there is no way to ever express myself. I'm not even safe in my room. I cant tell anyone because I don't trust anyone around me to keep a secret. no friends I can tell they are too close to other people that they might tell others who cant be trusted. at my current all I can do is talk to online strangers about it. or just say nothing for four years. And people wonder why teen suicide is so high
• I take hormones • I have a scheduled permanent hair removal • My mother knows • I am happier every day But: I still dress and appear manly, because it would still look a bit off
Is there a follow up to this? Are there hormones you can start taking which won't be noticeable for a while? My fantasy was to transition but never dress as a girl publicly until one day people just think I'm a girl wearing guy clothes, which isn't that unusual here. Once people start mistaking me for female that's a sign I can 'switch'
@@fairyprincesslucy Thank you for the reply! My biggest worry was having boobs too quickly, so I bought a chest binder. But I stopped hormones (self medicating) because I was concerned my body hair wasn't going away so I think I have to deal with that first.
Before I started transition, I was an avid bicyclist and serious bicyclists shave their legs to reduce air resistance. Everyone knew I was a cyclist so no one thought it was odd that I shaved my legs. It also feels amazing to be zipping through the air with hairless legs.
Hi I just wanted to say that I'm 12 and my parents don't support my transgender identity so these tips really helped me and im now feeling more euphoric than ever after following your advice! :3
The "do makeup right before showering" tip is BRILLIANT! A tip I can provide: people may (and eventually will) notice you shave your legs, but barely anyone will notice you do so with arms. And even if they do (which ever happened to me ONCE throughout all the years), you can simply say your arm hair is genetically very short, and they're gonna eat it up.
I am a cis white male and I am here to say I support all of you! ❤ I am sure transitioning is a scary time and not everyone will approve but as long as you are doing what makes you happy while not hurting anyone go for it!
1. When going to shopping bring one of those paper bags that people use for presents. 2. Go shopping during holidays, such as women's day and valentine's. Nobody will find it weird.
It's been 5 years of medical transition, I started estrogen in late 2019. I've also had 3 surgeries, including FFS. Passing is impossible for me so just manmode still, and continue to plan more surgery to try and make the dysphoria more bearable. My close family knows at this point cause I told them a few years ago. Still, I'm a guy to everyone I know, even those I've told about the medical transition. To the outside world, people would just assume I'm a cis man.
For nails there's something called "easy peel off" nail polish that'd I highly recommend. It's not quite as nice looking as real polish but you can literally just peel them all off in like 30 seconds if need be. My sneaky days are long behind me but that was definitely a product I used to use frequently.
Im still closeted but im starting (diy) HRT soon, hopefully i can just keep it up and then if i get questioned on it then come out. But the goal is slowly transistion myself! This video didnt help me much because i already do these things but its a great idea!!!
I want to be a feminine and joyful girl..... but just based on my character, I'm as depressive and silent as possible, who cares more about the inner world than the outer manifestation. I try to make the transition, but because of the depression I get tired quickly and I immediately feel like I'm putting on a show for others. But without that performance... because of my personality and lifestyle, I'm not much different from the rest of the guys. Just if I was a girl from the beginning... there would be zero questions for me, but I'm not stupid... I understand how I look and how I sound. It's all weird, and I don't even know how to put it all together and present it to you as a comment. Maybe other trans girls have similar feelings? Thanks for what you do, your voice videos have helped me...really I've given up on the whole thing. Maybe someday I'll find the motivation and reason to get back into it.
The whole "fake it till you make it" mindset does really help for me with stuff like that, even if acting completely different than how I typically present to others feels unnatural, and part of my brain tells me I'm just putting on a performance, it just feels so much nicer to act that way and that makes me able to set aside those thoughts
And I know that as long as I keep on acting like that, it will slowly but surely become more and more natural to me, and eventually it's pretty much my base personality
When I was « stealth « I bought a wedding dress from a charity /thrift shop & the lady asked me if I wanted to try it on 😊. It wouldn’t have fit anyway but basically I don’t think the majority of shop workers care, they’re there to sell clothes not criticise the customers ❤👍
Also, if you pay for clothing items using CASH, you can buy them, then find a restroom to try them on, and then return them to the store right away, if need be (otherwise, using a debit or credit card will require a day or two before you can return items). I always purchase a few different sizes closest to my own size, that way, I can get just the right fit, and return the rest. I will also then buy extras of the items that fit, such as blouses, skirts, etc., because I know I will need them for MANY years to come! I have bought THOUSANDS of skirts and blouses in public places over the years, and NOBODY has ever given me a hard time (even when they KNEW why I was buying them)! It's FUN!!
im a 14 in the uk and i just want hrt to not be miserable for once and i wanna diy but im paranoid people will notice and then me and my family get jail :
A pair of plyers works well on body hair. The first time is hard and takes a long time, but over time it gets less and less and eventually just stops coming back.
Me ten months on hrt and still in boy mode denial: wow this video is exactly what I need *crosses each idea out with a red pen as it slowly dawns on me it’s too late to keep hiding*
I advise for clothes, if you are for example too young to do any of this, or too scared, big hoodies are your bestie, primarily in cold regions. If they're oversized and baggy, I know I do prefer tight fitting clothes physically, but mentally, it feels like a dress. It's long, it's big, it's cute, and won't call for much suspicion.
Background: I'm single and live alone. I started diy hrt without any thought of how I would come out. I let my hair grow and after about a year, family and friends started to comment and ask questions. I remember the first person I told; it was my niece. She commented on my skin and asked what I did. I could tell from how she was acting that she knew something was up, so I just flat out told her I was on hrt. From then on whenever someone said something, I'd tell them I was trans.
Thanks for watching the video
Hi lucy! I luv ur videos! Thank you for making everything so easy to follow! I just was gonna look at your voice tutorials because im genderfluid and I wanted to know how, but your videos have me questioning if I’m actually trans! I luv your channel so much and i really wish I could donate! ❤❤❤
Cashier: “Why do you look so nervous holding those girl clothes”
Me not wanting to get outed: “Uhh uhh uuhh im stealing-“
Better than being outed am i right
I am stealing it... but legally, as I am gonna pay. JUST DON'T TELL ANYONE!! Stealing is bad!!
"I hope my sister likes the gifts i give her."
@@Emma-QueenofhellLegit got me a gift receipt the first time I went fem-shopping 😂
@@Kelly_Jane LMAOOOOOOO
the cis urge to watch a video on how to secretly transition instead of sleeping
real
okay but after you watch be sure to sleep
The most cis hetero normative comment I've ever read. Yeah.
*explosion*
@@IsuiGtz Lucy jank explosion!! :000 woo!^-^
Very real sis...
17:40
*family Is out for the whole day
*new clothes arrived yesterday
*dress up fem and mentally celebrate
*doomscroll for 15 hours
I don't know you, but u looked cute in that
lmao that hit hard
Real
Felt
Haven't been able to cd in about 2 years, finally get some alone time, every two minutes someone comes banging at my door needing something. Haven't had a single visitor for about a year before that, but the second I put on some lipstick.. lol
master trans woman passing down eldritch knowledge to newbloods and totally cis eggs
I'm a new trans woman have any words of wisdom?
@@UPGAX Do you think "as long as you love others as you love yourself" might be words of wisdom?
@@Alex-p2h1b I would say they are good words of wisdom at that
@@UPGAX if you think you're not trans enough, you are
unironicaly thinking about building the light yagami desk mechanism to hide my cute fem clothing lol
But first...as a distraction... I'll take this CHIP AND ILL EAT IT!
hahahahahahahahahahaha, humans are very interesting
Wait oh my god you're actually so right
Okay so like, I genuinely think I'm gonna do this thank you so much for the advice
If I actually do it and it works, I will update all of you
MINUS THE FIRE MIND YOU
A trick I use in shopping is go with a list in hand and behave like I'm shopping for others. Often I am, but I digress
100% this. I line it all up in the stores app so I can even get help if I need to. If anyone questions it, I'm a support worker (my actual job) doing some shopping for a client. Even though the last part is a lie, this puts me in the working headspace and I lost all nerves whilst shopping, even when close to home
Yes, also mouth "tf is a chemise" to yourself, even though you know full well and already have 4 of them
i legit have to act like this regardless of gender cause idfk how to act in a shop
@@Bejeodiehrubridjehfoekdjriwknr well no, you're supporting yourself, so YOU ARE the client.
I tried to secretly transition; but it didn't work. I discovered self-love, and ended up just coming out instead. Damn estrogen! 😫
How didnyou try to do it secretly? Just take hormones while in the closet?
This is the path I'm on... I've tried several small things and already I'm a happier person.
So you're saying if I try hrt I might not be able to secretly transition.
@@jimmypatterson9854 my completely cis straight ass thought that for me to be able to begin HRT i had to transition a bit first, is that incorrect?
@@jimmypatterson9854 Oh i see.... That sounds good ~ ermmmmm yep 👍 i don't really know what to say but i feel obligated to answer you in a long manner due to the length of your answer and to serve as a justification to listen to this video 👉👈
Me still sporting a moustache, holding only a skirt to the shop clerk: "yo can you unlock the changing room please" 😅
"It's for a costume/themed party"
"My twin needs clothes and wears the same size as me"
I still have my moustache ;-;
I have a full blown beard. Better yet, I have pitch black hair..
W comment. Keep winning!
I secretly transitioned, my family never found out even after 2 years HRT. when I came out they were all shocked, and I'm glad I did it secretly because none of them were supportive!
@katyoungodly how much does it cost HRT?
@@Alex-p2h1bit really depends, pills are cheap but expensive, you can buy 28 for around 15€ or less, but those wont last u long
@@Alex-p2h1bit depends on your state/country and well your doctor’s im not on hrt
@@Alex-p2h1b if you are doing DIY, injections can cost 40-100$ per year, pills are a lot more expensive at around tenfold the price
This video made me realize how intimidating i am to people who know me. I just started making changes that were very visible such as nails and nobody was willing to ask questions. Stay safe out there my lovelies and remember you all beautiful 💚
I'm playing this game with my emotionally repressed parents. I guess it's a win-win, either they won't bother me, or they will be forced to talk to me about something personal of their own volition.
heh I feel this, I just showed up to work in a skirt at one point and nobody even commented
@@jdatlas4668 Done this as well. And pretty much had the same reactions.
I even got compliments on my wig. Even if it's a cheap Amazon one. :)
lmao same, as an overly masculine man who was closeted in denial, the transition to my now muscleless (took 2 years 😢) body painted nails, and cute little fem self, completely shocks those that knew me before yet nobody has a single nasty thing to say. Will be keeping the boxing gloves tattoo😽
For me personally, I don't like being intimidating, because I feel I hurt my loved ones (and other people) by being that way. The things I have done, which I know I did without any bad intentions, I've done in secret, not out of cowardice, but so they wouldn't bring sadness to them.
I love watching trans tips that i will never manage to muster the courage to get close to using
You've got this!!! Take your time! But please don't put it off too long.
(I'm in the same boat)
bestie, we're big girls now (I assume, these are mtf tips). It might take us a second to build up that courage, but we can do it, okay?
I think you warm up to it little by little. I started out cross playing at conventions then gradually moved inti dressing femme in public. Eventually I made the big step of hrt
@@Jestrath that's so amazing
I know the clothes store feeling. I wasn't completely stealth, I had one person that knew. My aunt.
So she brought me shopping for feminine clothes. And instead of presenting confidence (I would if I was alone), I played the role of the "bored out of my mind guy while the girl shops clothes", when she was mostly picking out clothes for me.
that is so sweet, shoutout to your aunt
That’s so sweet and slay of her
"Even if it's a secret now, it won't be one day" the way i almost cried
If your inconspicuous clothes are folded neatly and you have enough of it, pick some pieces you never wear, unfold them, put secret clothes inside the inconspicuous clothes, and fold that, and put it below all of the frequently-worn clothes.
great tip, works like a charm for me for years O:)
At clothes store: "It's for my girlfriend" but reversed, cashier told me "I'm sure she'll be happy". Me embarassed "yes sure that's for... her yes".
The youtube trans space has been nothing but amazing so far. People just sharing their experiences has made me feel so comfortable and unconditionally accepted, and like all the guides/advice videos are genuinely life saving
For the clothes, the best option I found was thrift stores. Not only will you usually have a much wider variety of options, but you also won't have to have awkward conversations with staff.
Beyond that, new clothes are expensive. At the thrift store you can get clothes for a few dollars that otherwise you'd be spending a fortune for... And if they don't fit or they aren't really to your liking, you aren't out all that much.
I'm in a position where I can comfortably practice transition at any pace, but my job is very exposed to the public, and the general community is awful. I appreciate these discreet tips.
I shaved my arms once and it felt nice, but I felt self conscious about them when walking out in short sleeves. it felt nice not having hair there, honestly, and I'm def going to make the most out of shaving this autumn/winter. Been meaning to give my legs a shave. That's next on my list of things to do.
that stinks... I'm sorry:c
good attitude I think tho!!
you got this!!!!!
If you haven't yet, do it. Smooth legs sliding through clean sheets like glass is a joy like no other. It feels AMAZING.
Just prepare to pretend you're a swimmer if you're planning on wearing shorts, and brace for that excuse not working. Why it doesn't, idk, but own that shit. Athletes are stereotypically confident, after all.
If any questions arise, just say that you like running and hair makes you less aerodynamic. Or any other sports work. Bouldering, cycling, etc.
Oh the struggles of being anxious about dressing up fearing you might get caught even though no one is going to be home for the next 3 hours
Felt haha that's why i learnt speed changing at the time, get good at changing back FAST and you can dress fem more
I for real feel like a paranoid schizo lol. Everytime i dress up i pull down all the curtains, lock all doors (just in case), turn off/obscure all camera's, and grow hyperaware off all sounds.
this is way too real
3 hours isn't enough
lol hi cvzen (do not question why i am here)
The intro got me thinking: you are turning into your digital self.
You are goals.
Edit: double tap rewind as soon as the video begins. Over and over again. You're all welcome.
❤
goals^-^
I do that whenever yt tells me that subtitles have been turned on WHICH COVERS UP THE SUBTITLES so I just spam it and it's hilarious
WE GETTING OUT THE CLOSET WITH THIS ONE 🗣🗣🔥🔥🔥
for shaving legs I recommend using an electric razor initially if you have one, its way faster but the shave is not as close but it makes close shaving easier
oh fesure, I'm lucky to be pretty hairless, but electric all the way yyyy, initially at least
IPL and epilate ❤❤❤❤
I did a bit of sneaky transition for the first year. I still didn't come out till a month after people started asking about the long hair and noticable growing boobs.
I’m thinking about going about things this way. I look forward to the conversation “are those… are you… never mind… hold on”
@@Asathegoopy my favorite was saying back. "I've always had tits!!"
I also didn't tell anyone. I started to male-fail about 1 year into HRT at which point I decided to transition socially and stop trying to hide changes.
My boobs aren't noticeable unless I wear something that makes them stand out. It's been over a year and I'm not even a full A cup.
@icqme8586 lucky. For me its been over a year in and I have to make an extreme effort to been see as female. I'm only passable when everything is on point. Male failing with no effort feels like a pipe dream to me
I've been doing my nails all the time for the past 16 months or so, and I'm not kidding when I say that I've gotten over twice the compliments from strangers about the color of my nails in those past months, than I've gotten compliments from strangers about anything else about my body in my entire lifetime combined
This is so real for me cause after I started painting my nails it’s not to uncommon to get compliments about it and it’s always so nice
I'm late 50s, so not quite a girl anymore, literally a TransMa now. I absolutely love your energy and the way you deliver your content, so refreshing ❤
I definitely just clicked because of the Elite Penguin Force headquarters in the background, not because I've been trying to figure out how to make any progress in transition but being scared of being noticed.
I'm in this comment and I don't like it
What’s elite penguin force?
@@danaharrington6561 The secret organization from Club Penguin.
Best advice for growing hair: Just be a metal head UwU
Edit: That applies to colored nails and maybe colored hair as well, depending on how accepting people are around you. Your presentation can be part of a sub culture or just a style you like. Not everything necessarily has to be gendered. Like, there are cis men who color their nails, shave their body, color their hair, ... just because they like it (many bodybuilders shave, men of subcultures like punk or goth sometimes color nails and hair, ...). As a transgirl, I think this could be a good argumentation to slightly transition while still staying closeted. I will certainly do it this way + use Lucy's sneaky ideas on top :3
Also being in a hippie jam band for 10 years also makes it easy to grow your hair out without questions.
Men’s razors aren’t just more stealthy, they are also (usually) cheaper. I know many women who buy male razors for body hair to avoid the pink tax.
Some other things I'd like to add about hiding a transition, if on HRT it's probably a really good idea to either see your family (or anybody you want to stealth around) either often, or not at all. Like if someone saw you only every 3 months or something, they're going to more easily notice the changes to your body because it won't be gradual for them, whereas it would be if it were daily. Though you should also avoid any situation where being with them might involve them taking pictures (like going to the beach, holidays, other social events) because that picture now serves as a reference they could use to more easily notice. And you should also avoid letting them touch you since HRT will definitely make your skin feel smoother.
Edit on that part: Also worth keeping in mind that if any children notice changes from your transition, there's a decent chance they'll say something about it whether they/their parents are accepting or not. Kids don't really have inhibitions and often say what's on their mind. So if you had extended family with kids, even if they're accepting, the kids may expose you if they pointed anything out. Hasn't happened to me but worth considering.
For getting HRT in stealth (or as much as possible), at least if you're in the U.S and an adult there's Planned Parenthood and informed consent, which means they provide information and allow you to make the call as an adult capable of their own decisions. You can basically just make a digital appointment (even if people live with you, that digital meeting might not be too bad, though best to schedule during time safe and alone) and maybe even pick up a prescription the same day like I did. It's also good to ask about financial assistance and stuff if you need that. Estrogen is luckily pretty easy to get actually, or at least easier than testosterone since that's a controlled substance.
And for hiding HRT prescription itself, if you take them as pills then you could keep like a week's worth at a time in a pill organizer. Some people might not already be taking any medication, BUT you could pretty easily justify it by also getting some supplements, like vitamin C, vitamin D, iron, zinc, magnesium, omega 3, B vitamins, etc. although hiding the actual bottles for the HRT may still be something to consider.
Lastly this might not be an option for everyone, but if you're into cosplay or some fandoms like Star Wars/Harry Potter, you could replace the simple dysphoria hoodie with full body outfits like a black robe, which would hide a ton. Tell people you're just being a Sith lord or wizard. If they know you to be nerds for those things, it probably won't raise too much suspicion.
Edit to add: Also a REALLY good way to voice train in stealth would be signing up for a choir, if anyone has the option. I took choir for like 2-3 years when I was in school and I feel it helped tremendously, even with what little voice training I did. Choir will not be specifically for getting a feminine voice of course, but you will learn a lot about how to control things like pitch, resonance, etc. a lot of techniques you learn in voice training will be taught in a choir class. It's not unusual for anyone of any gender to take choir classes, and if your family thinks it's feminine there may even be a choir in your church (if you have to attend one). I would say the only downsides to a choir class are that you'll probably have to lean into your deep voice, even though you expand your range, if you are a bass then they'll want you singing bass. And of course, you need to be able to afford it. If your education is being paid for by your parents, it's a great time to get credits for graduation while picking up a skill useful in transition. Choir is also just awesome for learning to project your voice, you will find it easier to speak with authority and rizz as the kids might say.
oh, that's a good one! very true :)
This was a good read and very helpful!
Woah, this couldn't have been posted at a better time. Perfect thing yo watch at a sleepover-
Another great tip for those who wish to keep their alter-ego lifestyle private, is to get a private storage unit near your home, where you can keep all of your feminine attire, books, magazines, etc.
I did that for many years before I came out! I kept a card table and comfy wheeled desk chair in there. I had a makeup mirror w/light, and full length mirror. I placed remnant carpeting on the floor. I would always go there to get 'dolled up' before trans support group meetings (which I had founded), and other outings with friends, and then go there to 'undo' afterward!
Keep a jug of water and paper towels in there (they help, trust me)!
I screwed an electrical adapter into the light socket, and screwed the light bulb into the adapter, which gave me non-grounded power for a small fan, and a small radio, etc. But be careful on the power usage, as those sockets aren't rated for much power (maybe 100 watts).
You'll also want to keep your clothes, shoes, wigs, etc. sealed up while inside there, as they would get nasty if they're left out.
Also, make sure your storage unit is accessible 24/7, otherwise you may be in for a rude surprise after a night out! 😧😧🏳⚧
When I was thinking about how to start transitioning, I could not decide how I would tell anyone close to me. I'm more afraid of their reactions than embarrassed of myself. My decision was to keep it secret. Only a couple close trusted friends and one very supportive family member knows what I am doing. While I can't say much about the social aspect of transition, I have been on HRT for almost a year. I feel so much better about myself. That may not work for everyone but, for me, it has been lifesaving. At some point, the people in my life will take notice. When they do, it may not go well. I can imagine their feelings being hurt. Nobody likes to feel left out. Maybe they will feel that I didn't trust them enough but, it's not about them. I'm not doing this for anyone but me. If they would have been supportive before, then they will be when they find out. Nobody else's opinion matters to me. Be confident in yourself and good people will take notice.
For the shopping thing it’s like 99% of cashiers do not care what the f you buy and if you go into small alternative stores the probability is high that the cashier is queer too and really excited to help you out. It’s happening quiet reliable to me
Another tip for getting clothes at a store; get a gift receipt if you feel nervous. If you ever say "it's for my girlfriend" they could be skeptical but if you get a gift receipt it's more reason for them to believe you
If the 'friend whose body is similar to yours' is in the hospital and/or its their birthday soon, that gives a reason why it is so urgent and why they can't do it themself, but why despite being nervous, you insist on doing it, and the nervousness will be read as embarrasment by onlookers.
i boymodded for like 2-3 years back i nthe day until psych had to tell my family im t so it was fun hiding stuff in plain sight is always the best
honestly having a ton of online friends i later in life become irls with helped alot
also as ex (or still kinda boymodder dont really present overly fem just girlboy thing )
diy hrt is really what saved me
Another tip: buy things that look like mens clothes but are actually womens. That way you can wear those clothes 24/7 without anyone noticing. Sure it's not skirt go spinny territory yet but you don't have to be that sneaky all the time. The skirts and dresses can come later when you're in a safer space.
Literally everything I wear aside from the graphic tees is female clothing, socks, jeans shoes, and underwear. Graphic tees to me the ones I like are not available in female so to me they are generic even though technically male so that does not matter. My family has never noticed. I am completely closeted and only my wife and my sister know the truth. The kids are 17 and 18 and have no idea that dad is trans and cross dressing full time pretty much. I would love to be fully out and wear what I want but I worry about how the kids and my Mother in-law that lives with us will react.
Do lots of hard cardio exercise to get closer to your ideal girl body, walk into the store, when they ask you who the clothes are for, just go "ME!" and give off that generic exercise glare.
That works, too.
For shaving body hair I'd recommend a double edge razor like Henson. They're usually marketed as unisex, replacement razors are way cheaper and its a lot easier to avoid cutting yourself (you can still cut yourself if you're not careful but you don't have to worry as much about it). I use a Henson razor to shave my body and facial hair and I can get a really close shave relatively easily/quickly.
Interesting. Definitely looking it up. For very cis reasons :3
Had a friend gift me a vintage adjustable double edge and it makes shaving so much better. Went the entire vintage route with the badger brush and shave soups. Totally worth it.
i love me watching this while being completely out lol. btw for everyone wanting to learn vocal training but doesnt want other people to hear, you can still watch videos to learn what you’ll need to do, plus a lot of the resonance stuff can be practiced while whispering :)
Im just starting my trans journey (mtf) at 26... your videos are such a big help not just with all the helpful information but my confidence is through the roof 😊 so I'm watching everything from the beginning trying to learn as many tips as possible. Lots of love from the Uk ❤❤
I have to say...luckily I don't need to do it secretly, but clothes shopping alone made me very nervous, especially because in literally 6 stores there wasn't even one skirt 😅
But...speaking of skirts...if you can't buy one, but you have an old shirt, you can make a skirt yourself! You need to check if the shirt fits around your waist when it's upside-down, then cut either before the holes for the arms or below them to create an opening to step comfortably into. Then just put it on like it's a skirt... if it's too loose, then try to tie a knot with the fabric, which is too much for you. It won't look perfectly, but it will do its job ^^
WHATS THIS?!
PEAK CONTENT THAT WILL AID ME WONDERFULLY?!
satisfactory
beautifully
It's illegal to prescribe HRT here so I just go into the pharmacy with all the confidence I have, quickly take my hrt, pay and bail. I only got kicked once. I also love to order the thing to the pharmacy so when I come in I say:
-Hello, order 6159.
-Here. That'll be $23.
*Pays and leaves*
Just bought HRT.
@@DeSalle553 I want to know how to do that... but here... we don't even have them in pharmacies :c
The cis male urge to watch this video all the way through
For clothes I am lucky enough to just have a date that went shopping with me a week ago.
It was scary, it was dysphoric but we went to a state capital so who is gonna remember?
And now I got skirts, shorts, and skorts.
And the skirts go spin :3
Thank you so much for this ❤
I knew I was trans for a long time, but now I've gotten over any denial I've had. That's mostly thanks to wandering son, (a 2003 manga) and a few clothing items I bought while thrifting. Relating to those characters that much is... Well it's not very cis of me.
Also been a fan for quite a while and I can now confirm you're very cool :3
Pro tip: while buying moisturizer put a pregnancy test box on top of your shopping cart. Onlookers and cashiers will be too shock to ask any further questions. And while scamming items leave the pregnancy test behind or say that you won't need after all, any nosy one will just assume "well a decision was made that day"
I have some of my stuff hidden in my computer case from my failed attempt at building a computer. Glad I found a use for that thing....
I am slowly growing my hair out and taking more time to deal with body hair also.
This video is giving me mixed emotions; on one hand it's a very important one for all of us out there who live in unsafe environments to deal with our issues... at the same time I just wish for a time where none of us lives in an unsafe environment to begin with... 🥺
You can acknowledge the situation is wrong, but whats important just aswell is to help people in those situations work with the tools they have, which is a huge public service
Yeah, that's true of course. Some people don't have a choice, and for some even DYI can be out of reach...
I still hope that the number of these people will shrink dramatically during the time I'm alive.
@@TheRealLanMisa They will, simply because younger generations are hugely pro LGBT, 10 or 20 years and most people haveing kids just wont care
Let's hope for the best...progress is not a straight one-way street, if you compare the late 60s and peak hippie culture with today for example. But we can only hope and do our part.
If you are able to drive, the area where your spare tire is in your trunk is a great place to store stuff. Did this for a gender-questioning friend once.
Great video. I also just wanted to say is... your voice is Absolutely Perfect!
Little advice on the shaving from a cis guy
Before putting a shaving razor to your legs , try using an electric trimmer to shorten the hair down to shaving length.
I do this when I get lazy and don't shave for a few days.
Hope this helps someone! 🌟
I don't need to watch this because I didn't do anything about it until i was 37. I'm a lil dense -.-
I do think it's fascinating to learn about though. So while not a need it's still enjoyable
watching for totally cis reasons!!
Watching this to pass along all this information along to anyone that needs it. Yes.
19:00 you are helping a lot of people woman great job
your voice is so soothing an tranqual
Some thing that's worked for me hair-wise, is getting/growing out a long mullet or wolfcut. Like you said in the video, some people aren't the best when it comes to controlling how you look, so take this with a grain of salt. I know that personally with my hair, I still get regular comments from my parents telling me to go back to my shorter hair.
*But*
Because the mullet kinda came back into style, there's an excuse for growing your hair out. I find it's kind of a stepping stone to getting a fem haircut. You get bangs, short on the side, and long in the back, which isn't too bad. Also for NB's and Genderfluid individuals, it being halfway between masc/fem may be useful!
girl i just think you look so cute in that outfit! also love the cute jump in the beginning. also i love your hair!
I failed at the very first hurdle, and that was before I even started questioning my gender.
At the time, I had a buzz cut and I told my parents that I wanted to try growing out my hair to shoulder length, just to see what it was like. THAT WAS THE ONLY REASON. Nevertheless, parents asked my CBT therapist to tell me to talk to by psychotherapist about why I wanted to grow out my hair. About 6-8 months later, still growing out my hair, I began questioning my gender (kind of).
When I was younger around 8 I did these techniques Alot due to not being able to come out but thank you for the content you are amazing now I am living out as my true self all of the time and for everyone out there you are loved I love you and care shine like the sun it can bring love light nourishment or when mistreated can burn you I love everyone cis and non I want all of you to know that everyone needs to know that they are loved muah 💋💋💋
Me watching this because I’m too afraid to come out to my whole family but can’t take all this waiting anymore…
Finally started HRT this year at 26 but I knew I was trans and wanting by 11 so I had many years of being sneaky.
I always thought about passing on my tricks, excuses, and stories so I love that you are making this kind of video. My favorite thing is manufacturing a socially acceptable way to dress up.
One such time was when I was in 6th grade I was part of a dance trapeze class (school below dance studio). The theme was night circus so I started saving up my lunch money for a whole month so I could buy sometime, I had to walk downtown but I found a shop selling a black and red tutu I bought "for a friend who was sick". Come the night of the performance I realized it was obviously an audience of school parents but thankfully I had the iron clad excuse of we needed to match/they made me. With that ready I could use hairclips in my " longer Justin Bieber hair" and some eyeliner and go on stage and perform. Best of all was after me and the girls got to run around downtown at night dressed up. With the protection of not wanting to embarrass me other parents never brought it up and my parents never knew.
i love how part 4 is just "cartoon dogs" LMAO
4:50 been there as far as that context note goes 💗 thanks for making this
Before I transitioned, I used to just go into the stores, try it on in the changing room and then go pay. The staff really don't care if its for you or anyone else. I was never questioned about trying on/buying womens clothes. Just don't worry about it. Just go in there and be confident and everything will go fine :)
Im scared to even show long hair that's why I cut it. my households hatred to trans people is as potent as smelling salt. i cant think about anything I could do. my purchases, whereabouts, and house are all monitored all the time there is no way to ever express myself. I'm not even safe in my room. I cant tell anyone because I don't trust anyone around me to keep a secret. no friends I can tell they are too close to other people that they might tell others who cant be trusted. at my current all I can do is talk to online strangers about it. or just say nothing for four years.
And people wonder why teen suicide is so high
That's such a huge problem, it's more than huge.
its horrible im sorry you have that
i got jumpscared at the beginning lol
You a Time Traveler
@ItsRanu- of couse they are, I mean...who else would go through puberty more than once? XD
@@ItsRanu-probably watched when the video was privated
@@ItsRanu- not only am I a time traveler, but I am also a proud member of the fairy princess Lucy channel
your hair is so pretty today!!
This video made me realize I’m further then I thought and I love it
• I take hormones
• I have a scheduled permanent hair removal
• My mother knows
• I am happier every day
But: I still dress and appear manly, because it would still look a bit off
Is there a follow up to this? Are there hormones you can start taking which won't be noticeable for a while? My fantasy was to transition but never dress as a girl publicly until one day people just think I'm a girl wearing guy clothes, which isn't that unusual here. Once people start mistaking me for female that's a sign I can 'switch'
Estrogen takes a while to do its thing so many people do opt to dress the same while estrogen works it's magic! So this is an option if your comfy
@@fairyprincesslucy Thank you for the reply! My biggest worry was having boobs too quickly, so I bought a chest binder. But I stopped hormones (self medicating) because I was concerned my body hair wasn't going away so I think I have to deal with that first.
@AliaK-i1e what was hrt like? Did it feel good?
Before I started transition, I was an avid bicyclist and serious bicyclists shave their legs to reduce air resistance. Everyone knew I was a cyclist so no one thought it was odd that I shaved my legs. It also feels amazing to be zipping through the air with hairless legs.
Hi I just wanted to say that I'm 12 and my parents don't support my transgender identity so these tips really helped me and im now feeling more euphoric than ever after following your advice! :3
I've been there! When I was 12 my parents were super unsupportive, just remember not to give up being you and know that things get better
The "do makeup right before showering" tip is BRILLIANT!
A tip I can provide: people may (and eventually will) notice you shave your legs, but barely anyone will notice you do so with arms. And even if they do (which ever happened to me ONCE throughout all the years), you can simply say your arm hair is genetically very short, and they're gonna eat it up.
I am a cis white male and I am here to say I support all of you! ❤ I am sure transitioning is a scary time and not everyone will approve but as long as you are doing what makes you happy while not hurting anyone go for it!
I love that you used Pangya music, so relaxing to listen at the same time~ 🥰
How I wish I had this video a few months ago, particularly for the clothes part.
1. When going to shopping bring one of those paper bags that people use for presents.
2. Go shopping during holidays, such as women's day and valentine's. Nobody will find it weird.
It's been 5 years of medical transition, I started estrogen in late 2019. I've also had 3 surgeries, including FFS. Passing is impossible for me so just manmode still, and continue to plan more surgery to try and make the dysphoria more bearable. My close family knows at this point cause I told them a few years ago. Still, I'm a guy to everyone I know, even those I've told about the medical transition. To the outside world, people would just assume I'm a cis man.
For nails there's something called "easy peel off" nail polish that'd I highly recommend. It's not quite as nice looking as real polish but you can literally just peel them all off in like 30 seconds if need be. My sneaky days are long behind me but that was definitely a product I used to use frequently.
Im still closeted but im starting (diy) HRT soon, hopefully i can just keep it up and then if i get questioned on it then come out. But the goal is slowly transistion myself!
This video didnt help me much because i already do these things but its a great idea!!!
Diy?
Please teach me the ways
I want to be a feminine and joyful girl..... but just based on my character, I'm as depressive and silent as possible, who cares more about the inner world than the outer manifestation. I try to make the transition, but because of the depression I get tired quickly and I immediately feel like I'm putting on a show for others. But without that performance... because of my personality and lifestyle, I'm not much different from the rest of the guys. Just if I was a girl from the beginning... there would be zero questions for me, but I'm not stupid... I understand how I look and how I sound.
It's all weird, and I don't even know how to put it all together and present it to you as a comment. Maybe other trans girls have similar feelings? Thanks for what you do, your voice videos have helped me...really I've given up on the whole thing. Maybe someday I'll find the motivation and reason to get back into it.
The whole "fake it till you make it" mindset does really help for me with stuff like that, even if acting completely different than how I typically present to others feels unnatural, and part of my brain tells me I'm just putting on a performance, it just feels so much nicer to act that way and that makes me able to set aside those thoughts
And I know that as long as I keep on acting like that, it will slowly but surely become more and more natural to me, and eventually it's pretty much my base personality
My record for getting out of femme clothes is 10 seconds 💀💀💀
When I was « stealth « I bought a wedding dress from a charity /thrift shop & the lady asked me if I wanted to try it on 😊. It wouldn’t have fit anyway but basically I don’t think the majority of shop workers care, they’re there to sell clothes not criticise the customers ❤👍
Also, if you pay for clothing items using CASH, you can buy them, then find a restroom to try them on, and then return them to the store right away, if need be (otherwise, using a debit or credit card will require a day or two before you can return items). I always purchase a few different sizes closest to my own size, that way, I can get just the right fit, and return the rest.
I will also then buy extras of the items that fit, such as blouses, skirts, etc., because I know I will need them for MANY years to come! I have bought THOUSANDS of skirts and blouses in public places over the years, and NOBODY has ever given me a hard time (even when they KNEW why I was buying them)! It's FUN!!
As always an absolutely amazing video. Lucy you are doing wonders for the trans community and we thank you so much. Keep it up!!!
This is something I'm really struggling with lately. Thank you!
im a 14 in the uk and i just want hrt to not be miserable for once and i wanna diy but im paranoid people will notice and then me and my family get jail :
I love the dynamic of you and your chaotic pop filter
Thnx pal
I was literally JUST talking about this idea to my doctor and therapist
A pair of plyers works well on body hair. The first time is hard and takes a long time, but over time it gets less and less and eventually just stops coming back.
My eyes lit up so brightly when you segwayed from leg hair to leg wear
i dont need to transition secretly my parents are supportive but im a sneaky lil girl so ima be using this :3
Me ten months on hrt and still in boy mode denial: wow this video is exactly what I need
*crosses each idea out with a red pen as it slowly dawns on me it’s too late to keep hiding*
Wow. So you're saying that I, a cis male, can take hrt for ten months and still be cis though?
I advise for clothes, if you are for example too young to do any of this, or too scared, big hoodies are your bestie, primarily in cold regions.
If they're oversized and baggy, I know I do prefer tight fitting clothes physically, but mentally, it feels like a dress.
It's long, it's big, it's cute, and won't call for much suspicion.
Background: I'm single and live alone. I started diy hrt without any thought of how I would come out. I let my hair grow and after about a year, family and friends started to comment and ask questions. I remember the first person I told; it was my niece. She commented on my skin and asked what I did. I could tell from how she was acting that she knew something was up, so I just flat out told her I was on hrt. From then on whenever someone said something, I'd tell them I was trans.
Thanks for making our day better.