The first half of “boys, bugs and men” my new song coming soon.
Вставка
- Опубліковано 2 тра 2024
- Subscribe to Paris Paloma's UA-cam channel: parispaloma.ffm.to/ytsubscribe
Follow Paris Paloma:
Instagram: / parispalomaofficial
TikTok: / parispalomaofficial
#parispaloma
![Paris Paloma - labour [Official Video]](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/jvU4xWsN7-A/mqdefault.jpg)
![Paris Paloma - labour [Official Video]](/img/tr.png)
![Paris Paloma - labour [LIVE at Tate Britain]](/img/n.gif)
“He isn’t a bully, he just likes you” we’re raised to be the toys of men. Can’t wait for this song!! :))
And to accept abuse as a sign of love. And Disney made us believe we couldn’t save ourselves.
I just do the same. you get what you give. treat me like garbage, I treat you like garbage.
Horseshit
Snow White is just a girl who was SAd. Same thing with Aurora/Sleeping beauty. It's disgusting how little girls are taught to glorify them and their stories as "romantic"
The only reason my mom told me this was because the boys got so defensive, because she didn't mean it's okay, because they have a crush on you, she meant, accuse them of having a crush on you to their face in front of their friends, it was really effective
when i was in fifth grade, a kid in my class brought me a grasshopper and smashed it against the wall, and i cried. i never thought i would hear it expressed like this.
a boy in my class ate a moth bc he hated that me and my friend (also) a girl like looking for bugs at recess. this song is so real
womp womp
yea I honestly never thought too many other people would have a similar experience like that. had a boy who used to be my friend in 3rd grade killing grasshoppers i was watching in the playground to get a rise out of me, cried like a baby to the recess aids cuz wtf?? this song is oddly therapeutic
Boys always killed lightening bugs when I was little. Chasing them around with bats. I would try to stop them but they couldn’t be stopped. There were too many of them and not enough of me. This is amazing. Thank you from all the little girls. I still catch lightning bugs and save worms. I’m 54.
This song speaks to me... My 5 y/o daughter came home from school last week telling me a boy stepped on a slug she found at the playground. She made a little home with leaves for it and he just crushed it with one step. She cried and I understand now, through your song, what really happened here...
when i was in grade 3, me and my best friend (also a girl) would love to make little homes for moths we found, and temporarily put them in little bug containers to see how many different kinds were at our schoolyard. Boys in my class would kill any moths they saw to upset us. One kid ATE a moth to get a reaction out of us. Thats just one incident. This song is so real.
Didn’t realise how common this is, when I was 6/7 yrs old I found some spider eggs that I was excited to show a teacher (she kept bugs like stick insects in her classroom) and when I showed it to a boy in my class, he immediately crushed them.
@@viys3261 same, once a boy at school stepped on a moth i was watching, another time a boy we were visiting kept crushing snails in garden chairs while i was telling him to stop. i probably didn't realise at the time that they did it to provoke a reaction
A boy crushed my snail friend at the bus stop when I was 8. I'm 30 now, and that horrible sound still lives in my heart.
@@Verbayuk Hey. I'm an after school teacher for elementary kids and I've witnessed this behavior from a particular student quite a lot and I'm not sure how to get him to STOP because he is also the MOST DEFIANT PERSON EVER :(
My teachers told me to "just walk away" and later that I "had a victim complex". Meanwhile, they were hunting me down as a pack at recess on a daily basis to corner me and either beat me up, or touch me in places a girl should never be touched. One of them went on to break my nose. We were children. I was a *child*.
Ah yes, teachers protecting the start of a bully system that's probably going to last for years and follow the victim until the end of their childhood. 'Victim complex'. Surely nothing else but a self victimizing girl. I'm sorry for you sister.
That tEaChEr needs to be fired...
Fuck that teacher, I'm sorry that happened to you
I hope that you find healing and people who support you the way they ought to. You never deserved to be treated that way. I'm sending you love my dear, and I hope they face hell.
GIRL. You just struck something in me. I have this core memory of watching a snail crawl across the sidewalk when I was 8. I was running late to catch the bus. This little boy came up and said I should just squish it. I lied and told him I was a vegetarian, because for some reason I thought he'd leave me alone. Instead, his eyes lit up, and he stomped it with his shoe. I'll never forget the dark delight he took in that crunch.
I remember when i was little and a boy from my class crushed the spider I'd been watching just to upset me but i didnt cry, i was a very anrgy kid even at such a young age and my first instinct was to shove him on the floor and kick him as hard as i could before asking how he liked it. After that they all stayed away from me, it made making friends hard but atleast noone did things to deliberately upset me, ive calmed down alot and therapy helped me be less angry but i still dont regret kicking that boy, the spider did nothing wrong
You did nothing wrong either 🙏🏽❤️✊🏽
YOU DID NOTHING WRONG!!!
Honestly? Good. Maybe you helped that kid understand consequences.
As a very empathetic child, this would destroy me. I was the kinda kid who would walk the long way home from school in the rain just to pick up all the snails on the footpath so they didn’t get crushed.
I vividly remember watching a group of young boys smash a nest full of Plover eggs with tennis rackets at a caravan park one day and crying my eyes out to my mum n dad because I couldn’t understand why they would ever do anything like that.
I remember, even as a teen, having boys at school tormenting Praying Mantis’ in the hallway before I would pick it up n put it in a garden, because I KNEW they would kill or injure it otherwise.
Boys just seemed to be so cruel. I’m tearing up at this song
Reminds me of when I was a kid, and my uncle's girlfriend at the time had a son. There was a caterpillar we found, and he was jealous of the fact that I was paying it more attention than him when we were playing. He was almost 10 years old, and beat it to death with a bat.
My family acted like it wasn't a big deal. They said he was just a boy. Just a boy who viciously beat to death a helpless caterpillar.
Edit: I also remember one time when I was a little bit older at a beach, I was about 14 years old. Having to get involved and freaked out on some young boys, so I think may have even been a few years older than me at that point. They were putting crabs in balloons and beating them against the rocks.
Their parents wouldn't stop them, and got angry at me for screaming at them.
I was horrified to see such violence in front of me, I had to get involved.
I never thought about it from this perspective.
My cousin did this to me, but with baby birds. And he was 15 and I was eight and he blamed me, said it was my fault because I pet them and the mother wouldn’t take them back (a lie). He was his own destruction, eventually.
15 years old?! WTF. Sounds like a psychopath tbh
@@Garsnoos He was.
I worry that he’s going to graduate to hurting people if he hasn’t already
@@maddieb.4282 He passed away recently, so no more worry about that. He was a criminal and a drug addict and alcoholic for most of his life. I think the person he hurt the most was himself.
This makes me think of the time when I was eleven years old and a group of boys put a love letter in my locker telling me to meet him on the playground during recess and I was met with a group of boys who stood and laughed at me instead. For a long time “I love you” felt like a lie to me when I heard it from any man other than my father. Because those boys had to feel like they had power.
Y’all really still be holding resentment over elementary school bullying 😂😂 get the fuck over it already, everyone has experienced bullying before. Your experience isn’t unique and special…
I'm sorry you had to deal with those bunch of assholes
This song immediately unlocked a memory of when I was like 4 and the boys of my class in kindergarden liked to play to torture ants. Not kill them, _torture them._ I was a little kid so the only way I could verbalise how upsetting that was for me was asking them if they'd like it if a giant appeared and did that to them for fun. They laughed at me because giants dont exist and then grew up to be bullies :) after listening to this song, I cant say I'm surprised by that outcome
We really should focus on that more. Any boy (or hell, any kid) willing to torture animals, regardless of size, is going to grow up to be a bully and worse
I remember making a boy cry cause he was mean to bugs and I went "No, you're just weird." He was expecting me to be scared of him, but I just had auch a face of disgust and disdain, he just... burst into tears. Mostly cause as it happens at 5/6 yo, other kids jumped in, and he got called bug eater because a kid brought up his dad who hunts had told him you should only kill animals you plan to eat.
Sometimes, gaslight can be done in the name of good.
There’s something about your songwriting and your delivery that never fails to move me. It’s like you put words and music to feelings I’ve never been able to understand before. Thank you ❤
you are single handedly verbalising about 80% of femisism
This song speaks to me in a way that I can’t explain.
Very excited to hear a full version soon❤
The lyrics make you spiral into deep thought. That’s very moving
Would you ever release this version as it's own full video? The emotion Is just so tangible
Does anyone else get worried when they love one thing an artist has created so much that you worry their next creations won't live up to it? I was waiting, desperate for the new songs to live up to my love of labour and oh my goddess you did it again. When I say it's been on repeat all day, I truly mean it. All day.
All your lyric just makes me feel seen, it’s making me cry actually
I neeeeed you to drop these acoustic covers somewhere i can stream them they are so so stunning
omg your singing is so mesmerizing need you to drop the full version rn
I know it's only previews, but i like this performance better than the produced clip... the live performance with just vox and acoustic is a more powerful delivery... its just beautiful, very moving.
Beautiful, powerful, amazing. Lyrics and voice
This is SOO good!! I can't wait for it to come out
such a powerful song writer im in awe by the lyrics alone and then her voice on top i absolutely cannot wait for the full release
When I’m a mom I plan on teaching my kids every life is valuable, even bugs. (I’m scared of most bugs myself but I’ll make sure my kids won’t be lol)
I like the sound of this version more than the official--hope you release an acoustic one
When i was a hypersensitive kid, a boy was pulling off the legs of a fly and i said stop it and started cryinv and he showed it to me and pulled its wing off
Another Anthem for women. You are singing our lives. Thank you, @ParisPaloma ❤❤❤
Her voice is so beautiful and haunting.
This exactly describes what I saw in my now ex-husband’s eyes when he’d hit me. I couldn’t put it in words until now. Thankyou for putting it down in words :
“And I have seen you relish such violence with a joy, that I have only seen before in the eyes of little boys”
damn taking my spot as an early fan
random but ur pfp is so pretty!
Incredible! Excited to hear the whole thing
You have a way with words that is just... so beautiful and painful at the same time, is magnificent. Thank you for your art and for sharing your mind, heart and soul with the world, with us
not to make this about me but I always feel so awkward about these kinda songs cuz Im trans right? but Im FTM so I get and relate to these songs SO MUCH but I dont want to seem like Im taking away what girls/woman go through by relating to the song- I don't really pass that well, so it's easy for men to see me as a woman and that's why I relate so much to these kinds of songs- I hope this comment isnt offensive if it is Im so sorry, I love the song so far
I think her songs are for people who resonate with them. If you’ve only witnessed the topics she sing of, or experienced them, or whatever it might be that draws something out of you and feel them, I believe they’re for you
If you're ftm, you likely grew up with these same experiences as we did. So these songs are for you too ❤
@@IATEALLTHECHEESE thank you, I always felt bad for liking it and relating haha. Thank you
I'm trans too, and I relate to these songs. There's nothing wrong with that, we're not taking anything away from anyone by having art resonate with us. Being transmasculine doesn't make you anyone's enemy.
Happened a lot to me, I was a weird kid, and people liked to pick up fights with me to get me upset then gaslight me into thinking I was overreacting. I liked bugs, I found them cute and precious, and boys would just come and crush them with no remorse, judging me for my reactions, which they'd get everytime. I'd be drawing and one guy younger than me and his friends would come and steal my things to throw them in the trash outside. The one that stung most, I made a makeshift boat with some boark, leaves and sticks and put it to sail on the huge puddle in the yard at school, it had rained for days, and I was so happy and proud that it worked so well. Ended up sunken and broken from the dozens of rocks some boys threw at it, cause well, if something exists, may as well break it down uh ? Never understood how brutality was such an enjoyment for them. Basking in the emotional power you have over someone you made cry, I suppose. Hated everyone of them.
This is why i will never have kids.Can't with the worries and the responsability of teaching them any values when the world is there to destroy my efforts and hopes on them becoming decent,compassionate and genuine.
Will you ever forgive?
Love these lyrics!
You're music has helped me through really tough times. Thank you for what you do.
WOOOO!!
LOVE LOVE LOVE !! Please release soon
Please release a full acoustic version of this song as well, it's so good!
thank you for validating such horrible things about boys that we could not put to words, cuz they're always boys that we love and whose unkindness we cannot understand
this took me back to growing up, all those first experiences with boys my age and how it always set me off in a wrong way. kind of creeped me out and worried me. im a lesbian now so everything makes sense, but you captured that feeling so so well. brilliant job 💛🌟
remembering the time I saw a ladybug on the stairs at school and there were a lot of people coming through so I just crouched down and put my hands over it to protect it until I could safely carry it away. Multiple kids literally stepped on my hands to try to squish it under my hands, I didn’t give up though and i used all my strength to protect the little creature and was eventually able to bring it outside
as the person who walks ahead of the group and stands around a bug on the ground so the group doesn’t accidentally step on it, i felt this song 🫶🏻
This is an excellent song.
My friends and I found a bird on the ground that had impaled itself against one of the fences that surrounded the school yard. Careful not to touch it, we covered it with leaves, twigs, and dirt for a grave.
A boy in our class heard of the bird and after seeing where we buried it, he dug it out and began to chase us, bird in hands while we shrieked and ran
He threw it up in the air and in our direction, shouting "fly, birdy! fly!" as we ran further, not wanting to be hit with the carcass.
It's more a silly story I tell now, how the boy who sat next to me licked a dead bird and threw it at me in elementary school, but I was terribly upset that day that he had dug up the grave we had made.
This happened to me at summer camp. My friend and I found a Baby Birds Nest that we could clearly see into from the top of the rock wall. A group of boys threw wood chips into the nest. I remember screaming and crying at them and they just laughed
Wow... What a relatable song. Beautiful... Once I witnessed kids jumping on a pile of snails. It was sad and sickening. I loved to care for snails as a kid : (
i can't wait for the full song! ❤
Oh so that's an universal experience?
love it!
This is so gooood😭
this sounds soooo amazing!!! love ur music!!
Reminds me of the time a bird hit the classroom window, my bully (a boy thought it was funny, of course). I knew they'd toy with the bird's body, so I told the teacher i needed to go to the bathroom and snuck around to grab the bird and bury it.
They later joked that I ate the bird but I was more content with that than with what they would have actually done.
my childhood self feels so seen by both this song and the comment section, thank you, I thought I was alone in this. such a strange phenomenon. kids in my class used to mock my love for animals, once they put smashed worms on my desk, and another they pretended to give me a gift just for it to be a dead fly without wings. I won't share the most traumatic experience I had here but it involved a poor dead bird, sometime after seeing me bury another one I found in the park. vegetarian from the moment I could, at 12, mostly vegan now at 21. it makes me sick to watch people I love eat meat. I still feel grief and guilt after I mindlessly swat at an annoying bug. I think of what little me would see. these lyrics ring so true to me, and this sounds beautiful. I don't often get emotional on youtube. thank you
It's beautiful! 🙌🏻❤️
i really can wait for the full song, this is gorgeous, and very moving
Oh, this is so good can’t wait till it’s released! Also reading all the comments seeing how we all share these experiences is making me so sad 😭
Powerful ❤
oh wow. beautifully written!
Cant wait for it, love you💖
I'm so excited!! Just got so many chills, your voice is beautiful and your writing captures so much
Oh Paris. Thank you.
Beautiful!
Feeling this to my core!
I’m so excited to see you in June!!❤️❤️❤️❤️ I’m your 1# fan!!❤️❤️
Please release “if I was the last woman on earth!”
WHEN DOES IT COME OUT OMG
This sounds really good
I think the first time i processed an animal being killed was when these boys got a hold of a toads and stabbed a stick into its back and was then twisting it aroujd in the poor toad killing it. I think that was really the first time i saw blood that wasnt from a nosebleed or mosquito. I dont know how old i was but very small. The memory flash out more like vivid inages rather than a video. And vague audio of ehat they were saying. But i clearky remember my horror for the poor toad and how much i very much didnt want to be around those boys anymore.
That is so horrifying
I kid you not, the first time I saw a naked boy... we were 5. He pulled it out to pee on his pet bunny that I'd asked to see.
He was the pastor's son, because of course he was.
It’s amazing that you think holding resentment towards a 5 year old is mentally stable…😅
@sabbathpriest3755 I don't hold any resentment. I heard this video and it reminded me of a weird, related thing. So I shared. Bless you.
@@sabbathpriest3755they didn’t share any of their feelings, only events that happened. There is no indication of resentment at all. That is just your interpretation
@@sabbathpriest3755the only kids that do that shit are kids who its been modelled to. sit down and touch some grass.
@@sabbathpriest3755Resentment?
Paris pretty please release the acoustic version of this song I love it
you are so amazing i cant even put it into words
Yes, so true. Kindergarden, boys slicing worms and then mansplaining that I shouldn’t be sad, one worm just became two. And me running running running from them, just to be found again and made to watch this « scientific miracle » again and again
seems its a Canon even for women we didnt realise exsisted...
This is so beautiful
I AM SO EXCITED FOR THIS YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW
Beautiful
You are incredible. You are moving mountains.
Fucking love your music Paris. The Fruits and Drywall are always on repeat. Such an incredibly talented and insightful lady
I need this song in my life right now.
I loved snails and frogs as a little girl and caught them when I could (in my hands, I couldn't imagine having one at home trapped in a jar), and I was often late because I picked up all the snails and worms after rain and put them in the grass so they won't get stepped on.
When I was seven or eight I built resorts for snails with pools and roofs, plenty of leaves, shade, rocks, hiding places, anything a snail could want. I brought them there and back if they didn't wanna stay. I was happy with it and some even trusted me and it was amazing.
My classmates knew and one of the boys took one of my snails, put it on the grass, and waited for me to pass him by only to jump on it with a smile on his face. I felt nauseous and sad and so fucking mad. I kicked his ass so hard when he was around me he would literally look if any snail was close to him and he'd step away from it.
I played with the boys a lot - I hated dolls, tea parties, and those stereotypically "girly" toys. I liked to play rough with them and would often fight with them - but I always knew it was okay because I never picked on anyone or bullied anyone. Both sides agreed to it, and the only times when they didn't, is when I was defending something or someone. So it's not that I was "a girl" or didn't get that "a little violence is okay" or "that's how boys like to play".
I just never found cruelty funny or justifiable. And this song puts it in words so amazingly, because while I immediately get mad thinking about that snail, I was told being sad about it made me weak and silly and that I should be embarrassed about it and I had to always pretend it didn't get to me so much, and I couldn't comprehend it, because I always felt like it was an act of terror and torture and war, to force someone to look as you kill something they loved and make them not even flinch - but if you say that, you're the problem, and they're happy. And it's just so fucked up to make sure little kids have to pretend not to feel pain for the rest of their lives.
girl that lamp in the background is neat as hell
Incredible writing, hope you keep going!
In 1st grade me and my bff were building a “worm house” and this older boy came over and slowly ate our worms one by one making both me and my friend sob. Why was this such a universal experience??
Sometimes those little boys grow up to be decent men humbled and haunted by their gnawing, troubled conscience . . .
That's some tight writing.
It’s the worst thing when you have two little bunnies for pets and the men around you only talk about hunting or eating them.
I hope you get to a safe environment, eventually
Love it ❤
Girl YES
I am freaking obsessed with you
Damn
Beautiful 🥰
Whoah
This is who I picture Hozier sings for.
i adore your voice holy shit
Sounds so good