I also met my husband on an app😍. Being a black woman in a BW/WM marriage, I took upon myself to thoroughly educate my white husband about life from my view as a black woman because racism is something he doesn't experience a lot or at all. Beyond that education we had already decided that we would use the race differences to our positive advantage. We choose to live our lives spiritually by choosing to live by humanity(human race) over racial views . That choice has lead us to seeing each other as the people we married and we are the team. We set boundaries that exempts us from having to listen to our family, friends or strangers opinions towards our lives. We are the change we want to see in others. It's beautiful, fulfilling and filled with love. Wishing you two all the best💖💖. Keep the positivity coming.
This is great-- I feel like the most important element of a great partner is not one who grew up with your exact experiences, but rather one who is willing to listen and learn and understand your perspective over time. My wife grew up a woman, she grew up poor, and she grew up a minority person in America. I didn't experience any of those things, but I've learned so much from listening to her and understanding the world through her eyes.
The world is changing. More white marrying black women more and more. Asian people are in the same path. Congratulations 👏 👏 👏 👏 the world rocks with no love limit. Thanks. God works it out.
As a BW married to a WM for the last 27 years, my advice is to never stop learning and appreciating each other as whole human beings. Listen and try to understand the other's POV. Do not dismiss concerns or feelings. Validate each other's experiences. The connection that full acknowledgement of each other creates, is invaluable for a lasting, healthy and rewarding relationship. And make sure to share your kiddies' pics. They are going to be gorgeous!
I hear white guys say they don’t see color BUT as a black woman OUR color points to our “Culture”. So you’re right. It’s not our color that we want you to see and learn about, it’s our Cultural.. Blacks are taught to live and learn about white culture no “seasoning” and whites don’t learn about black culture, “seasoning”. Our hair, food, lifestyle and music is not the same. And as a white man that’s where the learning comes in. Love you guys authenticity!! ❤
@mommabangtan8555 A Black spouse indicates consciousness, pride, strength, and a high self-image A non-Black spouse indicates isolation, shame, weakness, and a poor self-image
@mommabangtan8555 I’m sorry but what’s does color have to do with anything???? Zero. Other than Culture. To authentically be yourself your culture has to be embraced.
@@DrUmarJohnson1 I’m sorry but your views are false and contentious. I’ve watched many of your videos and while I find some of your opinions enlightening your perception is not based on facts. Who created and designed “humans”?? By design, skin color wasn’t created to cause division or war between people. BUT men like you, in their own weakness, and inferior complex cause division and confusion to boost your own by spreading negativity propaganda. If the Creator thought it good to design humans by color, shape, size then who are you to judge His design! There’s absolutely nothing wrong with two cultures joining together providing they embrace each other’s culture and morals.
@@DrUmarJohnson1 that comment is so narrow minded and ignorant. And from a man, typical. It shows insecurity, low self esteem and huge ego. The Almighty Creator designed every human into being. Every color, hair texture and every size of being. It’s clear your view point is seriously floored, without merit, science and/ or logic. Lastly, you’d benefit more from spreading a positive message of love and peace not war, contention and division, if nothing else, keep your low vibes to yourself because although this couple might not give 2clicks about your hurt feelings, spreading this type of propaganda only brings back negative karma back to you. So if you find you’re rejected a lot, it’s the crap that’s dished by you is coming back. One Love and walk good 👍🏽 ❤
My black wife and I have been happily married for a long time now and I love hearing interracial couples perspective on their relationship and how others perceive them. Kolter Bouchard who popularized the 'BLACK WIFE EFFECT' was a guest on my podcast channel discussing interracial relationships, race and the 'BLACK WIFE EFFECT'. Great discussion for anyone in interracial relationships.
My husband and I were married over 30 years ago and we are an interracial couple. I married him in his home country where I was the only white person around for miles. This left me a lifelong impression on me of what it was like to be singled out and being treated differently. This was so important for me even though I found it very hard. To me, sharing the same faith was and is so much more important. However, I don’t think you can’t not think about race if you are going to have children. That would be unfair to them because no matter what you have to say that race doesn’t matter, it will impact your children. I can say this even growing up in one of the most multicultural urban city in the world. You can’t ignore racism, because your children will experience it at some level. My experiences early in my marriage made me very nervous to have a child and I waited a very long time before I had children. During those years I made sure to immerse myself in my husband’s culture (and he did the same with mine). Please don’t ignore this, it is so important. Racism can be subtle, but just because you don’t notice it, your children will. You need to embrace the challenge full on. Just my personal experience.
I’m a older single black woman, and do believe racism comes in many races ,not only whites people but if you have a strong Christian faith,life will work for you,I get so fed up of this colour issue,with all that is going on in this world we all should be thanking our god each day,❤❤ you both and god bless ,be always true to each other.
I ADMIRE Y'ALL RELATIONSHIP!! May God Continue To Bless Y'all Marriage and I Pray That This Video Will Encourage Others To Be Open To Interracial Relationships! It's So Beautiful!! ❤❤
Hi guys it is so obvious you are perfect for each other. I love the way you interact with each other both expressing unwavering support for each other. As a wm i believe love never sees colour and it is imperative that wm follow the lead/trend set by bm in opening their options to all races of women. Stay strong, stay safe and keep posting the message of love❤️🥰
As another White guy in an interracial marriage, I feel the same way -- I don't think about being different races on a daily basis, we're just in love. For comparison, I'm tall (6'2'') and my wife is short (5'0'') and that difference comes up more often (once a week or so?) than our racial difference.
Same, people ask questions about it far more than I (Black woman) or my husband (White man) actively think about it. Yeah we’ve discussed both differences and similarities (he’s jewish) in bigotry we’ve faced and other life experiences related to race/ethnicity but outside of conversations and actively facing/dealing with people who have an issue with our marriage we aren’t thinking about it. Our age gap (between 13 & 14 years) and height difference (over a foot) is more relevant in our relationship People’s hyper focus on race is weird
@maenad1231 I think several things can be true at the same time, love! I believe both your experiences, the original commenter & other BW in interracial couples who have the opposite experience as you, still have to discuss these issues because they are STILL very much relevant & are things that BW face daily! I'm not saying that either of you aren't aware of that, btw. I'm not attacking your comment or disagreeing with any of your points made! Most of your points are in fact valid. Ijs, that everything can still be considered but with a balanced mindset because if we insinuate that something isn't that important, we're still dismissing others reality! Just my little opinion! 🙏🏾❤️
It's really sad that in2024 , we still need to have these kinds of conversations . Different isn't bad , its just different. We are all human . I'm attracted to good people end of.
@@Леголас03 you cannot make a broad statement that people are attracted to people of their own race . You have to say some people are . When people meet other cultures and live in different countries they realise that we might look and speak differently but we are all the same . Millions of interracial couples in 2024 .
@@1trueloveforever almost all people prefer partners of their own race, this is logical and this is a fact. There are even statistics. It just happens that people of different races also fall in love with each other. This is unusual but it is also normal.
EVERYTHING in this video was spot on!!! You don't watch the news bc you recognize it is divisive. BEAUTIFUL!!! The news will have you focus on hating everyone bc they feed off that. One of the BEST things for your marriage! Also, you focus on EACH OTHER. It shouldn't be about someone's epidermis. We are ALL human! Whatever issue anyone of any color has with you is just projection. You're both amazing! You look like a princess and he a prince and you are each other's family and that's what we need to see! Love you guys!
You guys are blessed to have that amount of support and acceptance in your life. Having to choose, and potentially walk away from family and community It is not easy. Some people think about race often, because they face it often.
love it love it love it !!! your kids will be beautiful , my son is 6' 4 his girlfriend is 5'11 they are both former runway models... your situation is blessed
I love the authenticity of your relationship, you’re both clearly on the same page. A relationship where there is appreciation for each others is, beautiful to watch. I am enjoying you both all the way from the uk 🇬🇧 ❤❤❤
1st let me say I love the title PECAN GINGER l am from the era "Loving vs Virginia " with the country in the state its in right now I need to see you guys living your best life with each other thank you for sharing ❤️ ❤🎉😊
I Love The Both Of Your Personalities. You're An Inspiration. I Can't Wait To See Your Beautiful Babies. Your Attitudes Are Exactly It Should Be. #GodIsOnYourSide And Remember #LoveTrumpsHate 💯
Love this new subscriber!!! You guys have such a positive attitude and mindset I love it 🥰 my husband is Asian and I’m Black. So totally can understand 💕❣️
My boyfriend is Hispanic and I’m white and not enough people talk about this stuff. I also met him on a dating app. Bumble in 2018! Thanks for sharing this on here ❤️
I am a BW married to a WM - 23 years, 28 as a couple . My husband was oblivious to the racism I've experienced; thinking that I was overreacting. Until last year in Alaska when a restaurant wouldn't serve us.
My dad is Nicaraguan and my mom is Jamaican. Sadly my dad’s side was extremely racist to my mom and it culminated in me not ever meeting my dad or my grandpa ( he actually died recently…I only have one photo of him but I don’t feel much when I look at it). It really affected my trust in people and I keep my guard up as a result. Interestingly enough my fiancé is half Filipino and half Swedish and I feel this sense of belonging and comfort when I’m with her. I finally feel like I have a place where I belong. I wish you both the best! ❤
15:58 ,you guys are right, you are attractive, even here on UA-cam. I stopped watching UA-camr, but I saw u on my timeline and I put u on my watch later, and now am watching u and I like your personalites. I love the fact that you love God! Wow you guys are christian am impressed! And I like that u an interracial couple ❤❤ much love..
I believe that the quality of your families had a lot to do with your compatibility. Racism or openess is taught by the family well before formal education starts. Having only one child I firmly believe that a consideration in planning a family isn't just money - it's having the time and willingness to spend time with your kids and both teach and enjoy their presence. They really are different people at different ages. You two are an inspiration.
Omg I'm so glad I came across your video I definitely agree with everything you're both saying it's just absolutely in 2024 this is still an issue or problem I come from a military family we were raised with diversity I'm a beautiful woman of color I have biracial children our whole family is diverse we believe in people are people too and it is who makes you happy, loves, supports you like you said you get 1 ticket thts it I love meeting different races the food, the language, the music everything my children are the same yea we get the looks the stares my sister and I had had a black guy come up to us and get mad if we were talking to a white guy but his girlfriend was white she was just as shocked as we were it's ridiculous! Maybe I need to try tinder again I'm still in search of the love of my life I love your honesty, the love you have for each other and your genuiness I'm definitely checking out your channel! 💖💖
PEOPLE!! Date whoever you want because it’s nobody else’s business and those who object!! Don’t make it your problem because if you do you giving them to much say so over your life as well as your being!! Life is to to short to waste your time on anyone that’s not down with you or for you ya dig !!
It also depends on where you live. My uncle who’s married to a ww moved to a certain part of Texas that has a neighborhood with alot of IR couples, so that they could raise their family with less pushback or issues.
2024 Living in New Zealand 🇳🇿 viewing you again about your topic sorry the volume was turned off. My whole reason for doing that was to look at this amazing looking MAN & WOMAN married and so in Love. Your pet dog had a 2 second feature. Good on you LOVE &CHERISH ❤...😊
I’m in a relationship with the same gender/racial make up as yours, and I can sadly say, the most looks and negative feedback I’ve gotten, have been from other Black people. Particularly black American people. The white people I have encountered, have thought we were a beautiful couple and have largely had nothing to say. I mean, a few of them have looked at us though. it’s definitely hard not to be bothered, but I will never be bothered enough to not be with the love of my life. We get married next March! Overall, we have gotten way more positive or neutral feedback than negative though. We are definitely super blessed. But the snickering, weird/angry comments, etc.. I have been all other Black people. It’s really interesting, because it’s not what I would have expected.
@ my fiancé and I were literally sitting in a Denny’s and this black couple stared us down from across the path & made loud comments and laughed. Racism from white people, especially systemically, is very alive and real. But we need to talk more about hating black people too 🤷♀️
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Being in a relationship with a white man has shown me that while love goes beyond race, it doesn’t erase the importance of my lived experience as a Black woman. My identity is shaped by history, culture, and personal challenges that affect how I see and move through the world. He fully recognizes that I am his girlfriend but he also sees me as a Black woman whose reality deserves acknowledgment and respect. For he and I to truly grow together, he must be open to understanding and valuing the experiences that make me who I am.
I completely agree with you. The point isn’t about your partner acknowledging your culture or history-though that’s important in any relationship-but rather about ensuring that race doesn’t dictate or limit your love for one another. True love sees beyond differences and thrives on mutual respect, understanding, and genuine connection
Gravitate to the people that loves you both. People have their opinions and some will be cruel. Some of my greatest loves were white men. Trust the love you both have. Ignore the haters. Have a wonderful life.
I am interracial relationship and have been for 10+ years. We live in Sweden and here people are not used to it so they act very weird and funny around us. I try to se it from their perspective but I feel like people should know better it is 2024, we are not in the 60´s anymore, there is Tv and social media. It is as if some people want to be backwards, like they do not want to be open minded.
@@michaelmcdougall7367 I’m a single BW and very happy. I haven’t met anyone yet, black or white, that I feel is right for me. One weird thing I’ve experienced is a kind of subtle hostility from WW who are dating, married to, or have children with BM. They seem threatened my presence. Their insecurities are obvious and menacing.
And, those white women often see nothing wrong with the fact that the black men they date are prejudiced against the women of their race. That would be a major red flag for me.
It is now 2024. I got married in 1984. My son was a year old, my family was not at the wedding. My parents told me that a month was too short a notice for them to come to New York from Maryland. I knew deep down they did not approve of my blond choice of a husband. We are not together for at least 30 years because of his drinking, not his race. Ehat I found interesting as of two weeks ago, my sister asked me id I was ashamed of my marriage. She is always one to worry about what other people think. No, I am not ashamed of my marriage. I am dissappoin ted that it didn't last. One of the worries with my family was that he would call me the N word during an argument. That never happened. First of all any one who would call their significant other such, is a racist and would not marry a Black person. I am surprised and saddened that we still have this conversation about interracial marrieages. For me, marriage is the only way to stop the hatred. Love has no color, nationality or status. We love who we are attracted to and fall in love with. My father only wanted me to be sure the relationship was not one sided. He insulted me when he thought I was with a white man for money or status. My husband was as his T shirt once said "Flaming Liberal". He had no money except for what he worked for. A good man, except for the alcohol, which can ruin any marriage. C'est la vie.❤
You make a beautiful interracial couple, actually my daughter is dating a White male, she is Black. I told her to ignore people who stare at her or act stupid.
Wondering what triggered the two of you guys to make another video like this? There’s so many nuances in this matrix. I personally feel like here in San Diego, BW/WM dynamics are less common, so when people see it they stare EXTRA hard. I still think WM overall have this unspoken rule over them they cannot pursue BW, but any other race of woman is fine. If it’s an Asian woman especially, no one bats an eyelash. WM and BW share that experience actually where who we can date is policed. WM are expected to be “keepers of the white race” and BW are still expected to be “keepers of the Black race”. Whereas WW and BM don’t have that requirement on them.. anywho thanks for sharing!
Hey Love! Some of our newer supporters wanted to hear our take on being in an interracial relationship, so we decided to address it again. I agree with you!!
I JUST LOVE YOU TWO!!!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤ CULTURAL BLENDING OR WHATEVER; LOVE IS LOVE; as the song goes don’t worry be happy!!!!!!🤎🤍🌍🌍🌎😍❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️💙❤️💚🩵🖤👏🏽👏🏻🫶🏾 WHAT IS THE PROBLEM????!??🌍🌎🌏
3:52 Great video. There will definitely be people who have a problem with the Black/White thing. However you have to live your life. Funny my husband noticed it much more often than I. I think it was his Papa Bear protection aura. My husband was 6’4’ (I’m 5’8”) first generation Italian and 17 years older than me. It was both our second marriage. He was the Love of My life. We met on a Monday (my deceased sister’s birthday. I’’m certain she had a hand in our meeting). Six days later he asked me to marry him. I’m not sure I even knew his last name!! Unbelievably I heard myself saying yes. From that day we were never apart until he went home in 2015 nearly 20 years after our first meeting. We often got second looks. I think it had nearly as much to do with our stature (we looked awesome together) as our race. We too have several incidents where waiters, etc; did not realize we were together. Sometimes it would get very awkward when the check arrived and they didn’t know whether to give it to my husband or me. They would often just sit it in the middle of the table. That did not happen with our same race friends! LOL There are no coincidences in life. Like my husband and me, you two were destined to be in relationship. May you find, the peace, joy, happiness in your marriage that I found in mine. Many Blessings and years of wedded bliss! ❤
Oh I met my man and I didn't have any issue dating a Caucasian man. It's your decision and besides you can't help who you fall in love with. I have dated my fellow Black men. But they didn't seem to appreciate me and the things I did for them. Best wishes always.
I'm black my boyfriend is white, and he wants to eventually get married and move to Wyoming because cost of living is cheaper and there's no taxes there. Wyoming is soooo white, barely any black people there. It's a red state, and after electing Trump, I'm worried about the racism there. Anyone on here live in Wyoming, who's in an interracial relationship/marriage? I'm soooo concerned!!
Yeah the racism will always be around but trump can't overturn interracial marriage rights, that so called project 2025 was only a scare tactic. I'm also concerned about the racist conspiracy theorist crack heads always believing they own this country. 😢
It’s great that you’re thinking deeply about such a big decision. First, it’s important to communicate openly with your boyfriend about your concerns-your feelings about diversity, community, and potential challenges are valid and deserve to be heard. If Wyoming is where he sees a future, maybe take some time to visit together and get a feel for the environment. Explore whether you’d feel comfortable building a life there.
I need some help I don’t know if I like this girl as a White Latino 17 and she’s a BW 16 I grew up around African American culture considering I was living in the projects when I was younger so I know the sides of both worlds but she doesn’t know much about me and I don’t know much about her we met at church and became good friends but I’m conflicted and scared on what her parents might say about me also the reason why I’m conflicted that they might take it out on her for trying to date a white guy considering I’ve never met her parents I don’t know if they would judge me
It’s clear you’re thoughtful and care deeply about doing the right thing. My advice is to focus on building your friendship first. Get to know her, let her get to know you, and take things one step at a time. Don’t let fear of her parents’ opinions hold you back. Be respectful, humble, and true to yourself if you ever meet them. Cultural differences can be navigated with understanding and openness. Most importantly, trust God. Pray for wisdom and let Him guide you. A relationship rooted in faith and respect can overcome challenges. Take it slow, and clarity will come with time.
It is so annoying the way people view and talk about interracial relationships in the USA as though it is a novelty. The UK has the highest rate of mixed couples (mostly black/white) and kids and that has been the theme for decades. Having lived on different continents in multiracial, culturally blended societies and married to two races, I find that culture and ideologies are more of a problem than race/colour. In my personal experience and other couples that I know, it was/is the black person's family, especially the men, that was more of a problem than the white person.
☀️ I like how you brought up the fetish thing I don’t think this applies to black n white in America to much but the Fetish idea seems big like in the White guy Asian woman ie Thai, Filipino etc type of Fetish situation
I’d agree outside noise doesn’t matter. But I will say that deep conversations come into play being different races. So I think they made it sound way easier than it can be. Now this is based on the people in the relationship of course. We are both really tuned in with current events people. At the start convo is light, as it should be. You don’t talk politics on the first date and religion etc. But after some time convos get deep. For me us talking about history, police brutality and our ideas of what privilege is lead to hours of digging to understand. Because honestly we’ll never know what it’s like being the other. But by that point if the two people are solid and already love and respect each other those are learning conversations for both parties. But if a person is not open to hear other points of view or turns debates into arguments it’s not going to work. And that is the truth.
As a B/M dating outside your race is taboo for like back in the 60’s and 70’s it’s just like you said it’s a culture thing. I believe if you make each other happy that’s all that matter but I never have dated outside my race but it was because where I grew up it was segregated and this was the 80s and 90s any enjoy life
@@Pecan_Tan Thanks for re-stating this. As also being in an interracial marriage I think it's extremely important to not let anyone tell you what you should or shouldn't be focusing on, apart from each other. You have the ultimate respect for each other, which will resonate to those around you....and eventually any family you may have. Don't let anyone define what you should or shouldn't be, simply because of your melanin content. "Culture" has become a divisive word. Forge your own path......
Hello! You guys may be interested in a podcast episode The Cole Life (UA-cam Channel) put out a month ago titled Dispelling Interracial Myths to hear another perspective.
@@candacedawn357 A Black spouse indicates consciousness, pride, strength, and a high self-image A non-Black spouse indicates isolation, shame, weakness, and a poor self-image
The reality is..... race does matter.....I have 3 mixed race children.....unfortunately kids will experience racism no matter how much you try to ignore it ESPECIALLY when they start school......it's best to prepare them for it prior to starting school....... my kids live in a diverse community but attend a predominantly😮 White school but their school have a lot of Hispanics at the school......MY KIDS EXPERIENCE racism from White and Hispanics.....my kids don't cry about it but the reality is no matter how racially ambiguous they look they still deal with racism....once they found out 1 parent is Black the insults started flooding in.....
Transfer them to school with a higher degree of mixed kids of similar background. They'll still deal with colorism but that's less extreme form of racism. I'm mixed myself and lived my parents horrific ignorance about these things so I know what their dealing with. The only other option is raise them to be extremely tough like warriors and to deal as much damage as they get. That's not the healthiest way to go about long-term though.
I also met my husband on an app😍. Being a black woman in a BW/WM marriage, I took upon myself to thoroughly educate my white husband about life from my view as a black woman because racism is something he doesn't experience a lot or at all. Beyond that education we had already decided that we would use the race differences to our positive advantage. We choose to live our lives spiritually by choosing to live by humanity(human race) over racial views . That choice has lead us to seeing each other as the people we married and we are the team. We set boundaries that exempts us from having to listen to our family, friends or strangers opinions towards our lives. We are the change we want to see in others. It's beautiful, fulfilling and filled with love. Wishing you two all the best💖💖. Keep the positivity coming.
This is great-- I feel like the most important element of a great partner is not one who grew up with your exact experiences, but rather one who is willing to listen and learn and understand your perspective over time.
My wife grew up a woman, she grew up poor, and she grew up a minority person in America. I didn't experience any of those things, but I've learned so much from listening to her and understanding the world through her eyes.
Cool, now tell how you REALLY.deal with it.😂
The world is changing. More white marrying black women more and more. Asian people are in the same path. Congratulations 👏 👏 👏 👏 the world rocks with no love limit. Thanks. God works it out.
@childressgiles7626,
You don't even belong in a whyte nation in the first place.
Please I am looking for a white husband o
As a BW married to a WM for the last 27 years, my advice is to never stop learning and appreciating each other as whole human beings. Listen and try to understand the other's POV. Do not dismiss concerns or feelings. Validate each other's experiences. The connection that full acknowledgement of each other creates, is invaluable for a lasting, healthy and rewarding relationship. And make sure to share your kiddies' pics. They are going to be gorgeous!
I love this!
Keep it 💯
I hear white guys say they don’t see color BUT as a black woman OUR color points to our “Culture”. So you’re right. It’s not our color that we want you to see and learn about, it’s our Cultural.. Blacks are taught to live and learn about white culture no “seasoning” and whites don’t learn about black culture, “seasoning”. Our hair, food, lifestyle and music is not the same. And as a white man that’s where the learning comes in.
Love you guys authenticity!! ❤
@mommabangtan8555 A Black spouse indicates consciousness, pride, strength, and a high self-image
A non-Black spouse indicates isolation, shame, weakness, and a poor self-image
@mommabangtan8555
I’m sorry but what’s does color have to do with anything???? Zero.
Other than Culture. To authentically be yourself your culture has to be embraced.
@@DrUmarJohnson1 I’m sorry but your views are false and contentious. I’ve watched many of your videos and while I find some of your opinions enlightening your perception is not based on facts. Who created and designed “humans”?? By design, skin color wasn’t created to cause division or war between people. BUT men like you, in their own weakness, and inferior complex cause division and confusion to boost your own by spreading negativity propaganda. If the Creator thought it good to design humans by color, shape, size then who are you to judge His design! There’s absolutely nothing wrong with two cultures joining together providing they embrace each other’s culture and morals.
@@DrUmarJohnson1 that comment is so narrow minded and ignorant. And from a man, typical. It shows insecurity, low self esteem and huge ego. The Almighty Creator designed every human into being. Every color, hair texture and every size of being. It’s clear your view point is seriously floored, without merit, science and/ or logic. Lastly, you’d benefit more from spreading a positive message of love and peace not war, contention and division, if nothing else, keep your low vibes to yourself because although this couple might not give 2clicks about your hurt feelings, spreading this type of propaganda only brings back negative karma back to you. So if you find you’re rejected a lot, it’s the crap that’s dished by you is coming back. One Love and walk good 👍🏽 ❤
@mommabangtan8555that's nice, I see color but I DON'T see color. (I acknowledge that you're this race but I don't see your race as an issue).
Yall are a gorgeous couple, Your kids are gonna be so cute!. My gf is black and she's absolutely the Ying to my Yang. ❤
That’s cute. P.S I think it’s “Yin”.
Yin & Yang ☯️
My black wife and I have been happily married for a long time now and I love hearing interracial couples perspective on their relationship and how others perceive them. Kolter Bouchard who popularized the 'BLACK WIFE EFFECT' was a guest on my podcast channel discussing interracial relationships, race and the 'BLACK WIFE EFFECT'. Great discussion for anyone in interracial relationships.
Nice! I'll have to check it out!
I'm the child of an interracial couple! Thank you for this lovely video
Glad you enjoyed it!
My husband and I were married over 30 years ago and we are an interracial couple. I married him in his home country where I was the only white person around for miles. This left me a lifelong impression on me of what it was like to be singled out and being treated differently. This was so important for me even though I found it very hard. To me, sharing the same faith was and is so much more important. However, I don’t think you can’t not think about race if you are going to have children. That would be unfair to them because no matter what you have to say that race doesn’t matter, it will impact your children. I can say this even growing up in one of the most multicultural urban city in the world. You can’t ignore racism, because your children will experience it at some level. My experiences early in my marriage made me very nervous to have a child and I waited a very long time before I had children. During those years I made sure to immerse myself in my husband’s culture (and he did the same with mine). Please don’t ignore this, it is so important. Racism can be subtle, but just because you don’t notice it, your children will. You need to embrace the challenge full on. Just my personal experience.
Thank you for sharing! super insightful! ❤️
Spot on
I’m a older single black woman, and do believe racism comes in many races ,not only whites people but if you have a strong Christian faith,life will work for you,I get so fed up of this colour issue,with all that is going on in this world we all should be thanking our god each day,❤❤ you both and god bless ,be always true to each other.
I ADMIRE Y'ALL RELATIONSHIP!! May God Continue To Bless Y'all Marriage and I Pray That This Video Will Encourage Others To Be Open To Interracial Relationships! It's So Beautiful!! ❤❤
Watching interracial couples balances my perspective out after seeing soo much hate everywhere else. ❤❤❤❤❤
Love is love. It’s about the heart 🤎🧡
Hi guys it is so obvious you are perfect for each other. I love the way you interact with each other both expressing unwavering support for each other. As a wm i believe love never sees colour and it is imperative that wm follow the lead/trend set by bm in opening their options to all races of women. Stay strong, stay safe and keep posting the message of love❤️🥰
Thank you!
As another White guy in an interracial marriage, I feel the same way -- I don't think about being different races on a daily basis, we're just in love. For comparison, I'm tall (6'2'') and my wife is short (5'0'') and that difference comes up more often (once a week or so?) than our racial difference.
Same, people ask questions about it far more than I (Black woman) or my husband (White man) actively think about it. Yeah we’ve discussed both differences and similarities (he’s jewish) in bigotry we’ve faced and other life experiences related to race/ethnicity but outside of conversations and actively facing/dealing with people who have an issue with our marriage we aren’t thinking about it. Our age gap (between 13 & 14 years) and height difference (over a foot) is more relevant in our relationship
People’s hyper focus on race is weird
@maenad1231 I think several things can be true at the same time, love! I believe both your experiences, the original commenter & other BW in interracial couples who have the opposite experience as you, still have to discuss these issues because they are STILL very much relevant & are things that BW face daily! I'm not saying that either of you aren't aware of that, btw. I'm not attacking your comment or disagreeing with any of your points made! Most of your points are in fact valid. Ijs, that everything can still be considered but with a balanced mindset because if we insinuate that something isn't that important, we're still dismissing others reality! Just my little opinion! 🙏🏾❤️
It's really sad that in2024 , we still need to have these kinds of conversations . Different isn't bad , its just different. We are all human . I'm attracted to good people end of.
Людей привлекают люди своей расы и это более чем нормально и естественно. Но бывают и межрасовые отношения
@@Леголас03let her know Russian homie
@@Леголас03 you cannot make a broad statement that people are attracted to people of their own race . You have to say some people are . When people meet other cultures and live in different countries they realise that we might look and speak differently but we are all the same . Millions of interracial couples in 2024 .
@@1trueloveforever almost all people prefer partners of their own race, this is logical and this is a fact. There are even statistics. It just happens that people of different races also fall in love with each other. This is unusual but it is also normal.
EVERYTHING in this video was spot on!!! You don't watch the news bc you recognize it is divisive. BEAUTIFUL!!! The news will have you focus on hating everyone bc they feed off that. One of the BEST things for your marriage! Also, you focus on EACH OTHER. It shouldn't be about someone's epidermis. We are ALL human! Whatever issue anyone of any color has with you is just projection. You're both amazing! You look like a princess and he a prince and you are each other's family and that's what we need to see! Love you guys!
I love seeing people come together despite culture differences. It's love
You guys are 100% right😍😍You were also lucky to have open-minded parents.
100 + years of mixed race in my family (on both sides)...and I'm proud of it. I wouldn't be here without them.
Love it ❤️
You guys are blessed to have that amount of support and acceptance in your life. Having to choose, and potentially walk away from family and community It is not easy. Some people think about race often, because they face it often.
love it love it love it !!! your kids will be beautiful , my son is 6' 4 his girlfriend is 5'11 they are both former runway models... your situation is blessed
I love you guys realness
❤️❤️ Thank you!!
I stopped watching the news too in 2016. I have been much happier since then .
The news can be very toxic!
Yeah them news media outlets are crazy with politics and other crap always at war with everything.
This was beautiful and inspiring. Thank you for sharing! God Bless!💜
Thank you❤️
I love the authenticity of your relationship, you’re both clearly on the same page. A relationship where there is appreciation for each others is, beautiful to watch. I am enjoying you both all the way from the uk 🇬🇧 ❤❤❤
Amen
I greatly appreciate your narrative! May the both of you enjoy a long and fulfilling life together.
Thank you so much!
1st let me say I love the title PECAN GINGER l am from the era "Loving vs Virginia " with the country in the state its in right now I need to see you guys living your best life with each other thank you for sharing ❤️ ❤🎉😊
Love it!! Thank you for your support!! ❤️❤️
I Love The Both Of Your Personalities. You're An Inspiration. I Can't Wait To See Your Beautiful Babies. Your Attitudes Are Exactly It Should Be. #GodIsOnYourSide And Remember #LoveTrumpsHate 💯
Love this new subscriber!!! You guys have such a positive attitude and mindset I love it 🥰 my husband is Asian and I’m Black. So totally can understand 💕❣️
You're such a beautiful couple keep the love flowing 🎊 🎉 💖 🙏 💕
My boyfriend is Hispanic and I’m white and not enough people talk about this stuff. I also met him on a dating app. Bumble in 2018! Thanks for sharing this on here ❤️
"Hispanic" is not a race. Your partner could be white Hispanic, Black Hispanic, mestizo Hispanic, Asian Hispanic, etc.
This ISN'T about you, this is about Black Woman and White men. Even now, you still trying to make it about you. You all make me sick.
wonderful video, I love the different subjects that you touched on. I wish you lots of love and happiness.
Thank you so much!
Hey love is love. You guys love each other, do it up , you two. You have a beautiful love. Let it grow.
Beautiful couple ❤ thanks for sharing!
Thank You❤️
Love this!!!!❤❤❤❤ Continue to be a light you guys🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾. In Jesus Name!!!
Thank you! ❤️
Hello loves. Y’all are precious, God bless you you both🙏🏻💜
Thank you so much 🤗
I love y'all. Just keep living your lives. Right is right and good is good.
I am a BW married to a WM - 23 years, 28 as a couple . My husband was oblivious to the racism I've experienced; thinking that I was overreacting. Until last year in Alaska when a restaurant wouldn't serve us.
Racism is very real in America and in other parts of the country. I'm sorry you had to experience that😔
My dad is Nicaraguan and my mom is Jamaican. Sadly my dad’s side was extremely racist to my mom and it culminated in me not ever meeting my dad or my grandpa ( he actually died recently…I only have one photo of him but I don’t feel much when I look at it). It really affected my trust in people and I keep my guard up as a result. Interestingly enough my fiancé is half Filipino and half Swedish and I feel this sense of belonging and comfort when I’m with her. I finally feel like I have a place where I belong. I wish you both the best! ❤
Thank you so much for sharing ❤️ Sorry for your recent lost. I wish you and your fiancé nothing but the best!
I am older but I. absolutely agree with you both.
Awesome video! You two are beyond your years in wisdom. Wishing you both many happy, loving, exciting years together.
Thank you so much❤️
He is handsome
Im glad to see you two loving each other. Just be true to each other and respect each others feedings.
Beautiful matches💖👌 and children of Christ Jesus The Most High!🙏
Thank you so much for an important and amazing video❤
Your welcome ❤️❤️
What a beautiful couple. Love is blind. Simple and true.
15:58 ,you guys are right, you are attractive, even here on UA-cam. I stopped watching UA-camr, but I saw u on my timeline and I put u on my watch later, and now am watching u and I like your personalites. I love the fact that you love God! Wow you guys are christian am impressed! And I like that u an interracial couple ❤❤ much love..
Thank you so much!❤️
New subscriber here love you guys
Welcome!!
Five minutes into the video, all I hear is “love who loves you”. Nothing else matters. It’s important but it doesn’t matter.
He mentioned God! Lord y’all are beautiful!
I believe that the quality of your families had a lot to do with your compatibility. Racism or openess is taught by the family well before formal education starts. Having only one child I firmly believe that a consideration in planning a family isn't just money - it's having the time and willingness to spend time with your kids and both teach and enjoy their presence. They really are different people at different ages. You two are an inspiration.
Thank you for your perspective ❤️ I 100% agree that the our quality of our family played a role in our openness to purse one another!
Omg I'm so glad I came across your video I definitely agree with everything you're both saying it's just absolutely in 2024 this is still an issue or problem I come from a military family we were raised with diversity I'm a beautiful woman of color I have biracial children our whole family is diverse we believe in people are people too and it is who makes you happy, loves, supports you like you said you get 1 ticket thts it I love meeting different races the food, the language, the music everything my children are the same yea we get the looks the stares my sister and I had had a black guy come up to us and get mad if we were talking to a white guy but his girlfriend was white she was just as shocked as we were it's ridiculous! Maybe I need to try tinder again I'm still in search of the love of my life I love your honesty, the love you have for each other and your genuiness I'm definitely checking out your channel! 💖💖
Candied Pecan + Ginger is a visually delicious combination.
You two beautiful people and look good together.
PEOPLE!! Date whoever you want because it’s nobody else’s business and those who object!! Don’t make it your problem because if you do you giving them to much say so over your life as well as your being!! Life is to to short to waste your time on anyone that’s not down with you or for you ya dig !!
I 100% agree
@@Pecan_Tan Thank You 🙏
I love how easy you guys make it sound but seriously y'all need to teach a class because it is serious out here!!!!
It also depends on where you live. My uncle who’s married to a ww moved to a certain part of Texas that has a neighborhood with alot of IR couples, so that they could raise their family with less pushback or issues.
2024 Living in New Zealand 🇳🇿 viewing you again about your topic sorry the volume was turned off.
My whole reason for doing that was to look at this amazing looking MAN & WOMAN married and so in
Love. Your pet dog had a 2 second feature. Good on you LOVE &CHERISH ❤...😊
Should we find you a black one
Right on beautiful humans 🙏🏽🙏🏽😉
U guys are such a beautiful couple. Love you guys
Thank you!!
I’m in a relationship with the same gender/racial make up as yours, and I can sadly say, the most looks and negative feedback I’ve gotten, have been from other Black people. Particularly black American people. The white people I have encountered, have thought we were a beautiful couple and have largely had nothing to say. I mean, a few of them have looked at us though. it’s definitely hard not to be bothered, but I will never be bothered enough to not be with the love of my life. We get married next March!
Overall, we have gotten way more positive or neutral feedback than negative though. We are definitely super blessed. But the snickering, weird/angry comments, etc.. I have been all other Black people. It’s really interesting, because it’s not what I would have expected.
Past and present matters. It's interesting that you would not expect black people to have a different perspective on interracial unions.
@@dranchd6571 they can have any perspective they want. I’m talking about the blatant rudeness. Thanks
I’ve had the same encounters with black folks.
@ my fiancé and I were literally sitting in a Denny’s and this black couple stared us down from across the path & made loud comments and laughed. Racism from white people, especially systemically, is very alive and real. But we need to talk more about hating black people too 🤷♀️
This has also been my experience as well.
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Being in a relationship with a white man has shown me that while love goes beyond race, it doesn’t erase the importance of my lived experience as a Black woman. My identity is shaped by history, culture, and personal challenges that affect how I see and move through the world. He fully recognizes that I am his girlfriend but he also sees me as a Black woman whose reality deserves acknowledgment and respect. For he and I to truly grow together, he must be open to understanding and valuing the experiences that make me who I am.
I completely agree with you. The point isn’t about your partner acknowledging your culture or history-though that’s important in any relationship-but rather about ensuring that race doesn’t dictate or limit your love for one another. True love sees beyond differences and thrives on mutual respect, understanding, and genuine connection
Gravitate to the people that loves you both. People have their opinions and some will be cruel. Some of my greatest loves were white men. Trust the love you both have. Ignore the haters. Have a wonderful life.
You guys are a beautiful couple. ❤
I am interracial relationship and have been for 10+ years. We live in Sweden and here people are not used to it so they act very weird and funny around us. I try to se it from their perspective but I feel like people should know better it is 2024, we are not in the 60´s anymore, there is Tv and social media. It is as if some people want to be backwards, like they do not want to be open minded.
That’s patriarchal white supremacy doing its job.
Keep going baby girl
I've honestly never had a problem race wise, I highly support the beauty of different races ❤ God bless yall!!😅
My husband and I have been together 21yrs.....if people give us looks we don't even notice anymore
Beautiful.
Thank you!
Racism does happen in those relations. I know a white female who's married to a black guy but does not like black women. So sad.
That's upsetting
@Pecan_Tan Racism is real and manifests itself in many ways.
@@michaelmcdougall7367
I’m a single BW and very happy. I haven’t met anyone yet, black or white, that I feel is right for me. One weird thing I’ve experienced is a kind of subtle hostility from WW who are dating, married to, or have children with BM. They seem threatened my presence. Their insecurities are obvious and menacing.
And, those white women often see nothing wrong with the fact that the black men they date are prejudiced against the women of their race. That would be a major red flag for me.
The black men are a part of that problem, some of them don't like Black women either and the two of them get together to harp on that.
Keep doing you!
It is now 2024. I got married in 1984. My son was a year old, my family was not at the wedding. My parents told me that a month was too short a notice for them to come to New York from Maryland. I knew deep down they did not approve of my blond choice of a husband. We are not together for at least 30 years because of his drinking, not his race. Ehat I found interesting as of two weeks ago, my sister asked me id I was ashamed of my marriage. She is always one to worry about what other people think. No, I am not ashamed of my marriage. I am dissappoin ted that it didn't last.
One of the worries with my family was that he would call me the N word during an argument. That never happened. First of all any one who would call their significant other such, is a racist and would not marry a Black person.
I am surprised and saddened that we still have this conversation about interracial marrieages. For me, marriage is the only way to stop the hatred. Love has no color, nationality or status. We love who we are attracted to and fall in love with. My father only wanted me to be sure the relationship was not one sided. He insulted me when he thought I was with a white man for money or status. My husband was as his T shirt once said "Flaming Liberal". He had no money except for what he worked for. A good man, except for the alcohol, which can ruin any marriage. C'est la vie.❤
Thank you for sharing! I agree that love has no color ❤️
If you are happy in the swirl, that's all that matters. Moses in the Bible was in the swirl, his second wife. Swirl on.
❤❤❤as BW I am not have self confidence to face the racism that's amazing ❤
congratulations Beautiful Couple people lets come together get a Grip
You make a beautiful interracial couple, actually my daughter is dating a White male, she is Black.
I told her to ignore people who stare at her or act stupid.
You’re both beautiful and so attractive 💯%.😊
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Thank you!! ❤️❤️
I am going into an interacional relationship i just joping and prayimg it works i love h forever and him me also❤❤❤❤❤❤
There is one race the human race 😊🎉
Of course. However, in the world in which we live, people are affected by race and racism every single day. We should acknowledge that.
Wondering what triggered the two of you guys to make another video like this? There’s so many nuances in this matrix. I personally feel like here in San Diego, BW/WM dynamics are less common, so when people see it they stare EXTRA hard. I still think WM overall have this unspoken rule over them they cannot pursue BW, but any other race of woman is fine. If it’s an Asian woman especially, no one bats an eyelash. WM and BW share that experience actually where who we can date is policed. WM are expected to be “keepers of the white race” and BW are still expected to be “keepers of the Black race”. Whereas WW and BM don’t have that requirement on them.. anywho thanks for sharing!
Hey Love! Some of our newer supporters wanted to hear our take on being in an interracial relationship, so we decided to address it again. I agree with you!!
You are beautiful girl!
Thank you❤️
Beautiful perfect couple in Jesus Christ ❤
I JUST LOVE YOU TWO!!!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤ CULTURAL BLENDING OR WHATEVER; LOVE IS LOVE; as the song goes don’t worry be happy!!!!!!🤎🤍🌍🌍🌎😍❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️💙❤️💚🩵🖤👏🏽👏🏻🫶🏾 WHAT IS THE PROBLEM????!??🌍🌎🌏
He’s fine! Go Girl!! #Ginger
3:52 Great video. There will definitely be people who have a problem with the Black/White thing. However you have to live your life. Funny my husband noticed it much more often than I. I think it was his Papa Bear protection aura. My husband was 6’4’ (I’m 5’8”) first generation Italian and 17 years older than me. It was both our second marriage. He was the Love of My life. We met on a Monday (my deceased sister’s birthday. I’’m certain she had a hand in our meeting). Six days later he asked me to marry him. I’m not sure I even knew his last name!! Unbelievably I heard myself saying yes. From that day we were never apart until he went home in 2015 nearly 20 years after our first meeting. We often got second looks. I think it had nearly as much to do with our stature (we looked awesome together) as our race. We too have several incidents where waiters, etc; did not realize we were together. Sometimes it would get very awkward when the check arrived and they didn’t know whether to give it to my husband or me. They would often just sit it in the middle of the table. That did not happen with our same race friends! LOL There are no coincidences in life. Like my husband and me, you two were destined to be in relationship. May you find, the peace, joy, happiness in your marriage that I found in mine. Many Blessings and years of wedded bliss! ❤
I missed you cuties 🥰
Oh I met my man and I didn't have any issue dating a Caucasian man. It's your decision and besides you can't help who you fall in love with. I have dated my fellow Black men. But they didn't seem to appreciate me and the things I did for them. Best wishes always.
I'm black my boyfriend is white, and he wants to eventually get married and move to Wyoming because cost of living is cheaper and there's no taxes there. Wyoming is soooo white, barely any black people there. It's a red state, and after electing Trump, I'm worried about the racism there. Anyone on here live in Wyoming, who's in an interracial relationship/marriage? I'm soooo concerned!!
Yeah the racism will always be around but trump can't overturn interracial marriage rights, that so called project 2025 was only a scare tactic. I'm also concerned about the racist conspiracy theorist crack heads always believing they own this country. 😢
It’s great that you’re thinking deeply about such a big decision. First, it’s important to communicate openly with your boyfriend about your concerns-your feelings about diversity, community, and potential challenges are valid and deserve to be heard.
If Wyoming is where he sees a future, maybe take some time to visit together and get a feel for the environment. Explore whether you’d feel comfortable building a life there.
💯Race/Culture/Ethnicity differences should not be overlooked. These topics need to be discussed by the two in the relationship
Maybe it’s just me but when someone says I don’t see color,how could you not ,anyone please answer.
To some extent you see color but you don't allow it to consume or define you...at least we didn't.
WM dating BW for first time and experienced racism at recent bar/eatery we went out to, how do you deal with this?
I need some help I don’t know if I like this girl as a White Latino 17 and she’s a BW 16 I grew up around African American culture considering I was living in the projects when I was younger so I know the sides of both worlds but she doesn’t know much about me and I don’t know much about her we met at church and became good friends but I’m conflicted and scared on what her parents might say about me also the reason why I’m conflicted that they might take it out on her for trying to date a white guy considering I’ve never met her parents I don’t know if they would judge me
It’s clear you’re thoughtful and care deeply about doing the right thing. My advice is to focus on building your friendship first. Get to know her, let her get to know you, and take things one step at a time.
Don’t let fear of her parents’ opinions hold you back. Be respectful, humble, and true to yourself if you ever meet them. Cultural differences can be navigated with understanding and openness.
Most importantly, trust God. Pray for wisdom and let Him guide you. A relationship rooted in faith and respect can overcome challenges. Take it slow, and clarity will come with time.
It is so annoying the way people view and talk about interracial relationships in the USA as though it is a novelty. The UK has the highest rate of mixed couples (mostly black/white) and kids and that has been the theme for decades. Having lived on different continents in multiracial, culturally blended societies and married to two races, I find that culture and ideologies are more of a problem than race/colour. In my personal experience and other couples that I know, it was/is the black person's family, especially the men, that was more of a problem than the white person.
Thank you for your insight, were just sharing our story/experience
True I've had the same experience love is love and if you're lucky enough to find it that's all that matters.
I'm Mexican looking like canelo and i appreciate my Nubian queen my family was happy they thought i was gay 😂
☀️ I like how you brought up the fetish thing I don’t think this applies to black n white in America to much but the Fetish idea seems big like in the White guy Asian woman ie Thai, Filipino etc type of Fetish situation
I’d agree outside noise doesn’t matter. But I will say that deep conversations come into play being different races. So I think they made it sound way easier than it can be.
Now this is based on the people in the relationship of course. We are both really tuned in with current events people.
At the start convo is light, as it should be. You don’t talk politics on the first date and religion etc. But after some time convos get deep. For me us talking about history, police brutality and our ideas of what privilege is lead to hours of digging to understand. Because honestly we’ll never know what it’s like being the other. But by that point if the two people are solid and already love and respect each other those are learning conversations for both parties. But if a person is not open to hear other points of view or turns debates into arguments it’s not going to work. And that is the truth.
As a B/M dating outside your race is taboo for like back in the 60’s and 70’s it’s just like you said it’s a culture thing. I believe if you make each other happy that’s all that matter but I never have dated outside my race but it was because where I grew up it was segregated and this was the 80s and 90s any enjoy life
Race does matter! You may not want to deal with it and find ways to deflect as a coping mechanism, but here you are explaining yourselves.
Race doesn't matter in a relationship. Where explaining it because our new supports wanted to hear our opinion on it. Thanks for the comment
@@Pecan_Tan Thanks for re-stating this. As also being in an interracial marriage I think it's extremely important to not let anyone tell you what you should or shouldn't be focusing on, apart from each other. You have the ultimate respect for each other, which will resonate to those around you....and eventually any family you may have. Don't let anyone define what you should or shouldn't be, simply because of your melanin content. "Culture" has become a divisive word. Forge your own path......
Hello! You guys may be interested in a podcast episode The Cole Life (UA-cam Channel) put out a month ago titled Dispelling Interracial Myths to hear another perspective.
Thank you for the recommendation Candace! I'm going to check it out ❤️
@@Pecan_Tan Cool! I would love to hear what you think.
@@candacedawn357 A Black spouse indicates consciousness, pride, strength, and a high self-image
A non-Black spouse indicates isolation, shame, weakness, and a poor self-image
Where are you guys based out of?
We are in Florida 🌴
Beautiful lovely
Thank you 😊
I have mixed kids but conflicted on doing this again
Thank you ❤️
BTW Is Dylan Irish?
Yes! more so Italian but he has Irish as well!
The reality is..... race does matter.....I have 3 mixed race children.....unfortunately kids will experience racism no matter how much you try to ignore it ESPECIALLY when they start school......it's best to prepare them for it prior to starting school....... my kids live in a diverse community but attend a predominantly😮 White school but their school have a lot of Hispanics at the school......MY KIDS EXPERIENCE racism from White and Hispanics.....my kids don't cry about it but the reality is no matter how racially ambiguous they look they still deal with racism....once they found out 1 parent is Black the insults started flooding in.....
Thank you for sharing Tee! I agree that once you have kids, a more formal conversation should be had.
Transfer them to school with a higher degree of mixed kids of similar background. They'll still deal with colorism but that's less extreme form of racism. I'm mixed myself and lived my parents horrific ignorance about these things so I know what their dealing with. The only other option is raise them to be extremely tough like warriors and to deal as much damage as they get. That's not the healthiest way to go about long-term though.