One woman’s incredible search for her birth mother: part 2
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- Опубліковано 21 жов 2024
- Forty years later, three siblings discover who abandoned them as newborns in a B.C. town.
Janet Keall was one of three babies mysteriously left on doorsteps in Prince Rupert in the late ’70s. Finally, after decades of searching, Janet learns the truth about her birth mother.
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This is a very emotional story. I'm happy that this woman found her sister and brothers. I'm sure that life has a difference meaning now.
She found out who her mother was - she had died just 3 months before. She went on to find her father who was delighted that she found him with so little to go on.
Im adopted and my mother always said that trying to find the birth parents could be like opening a can of worms. The more I have matured and lived life, the more i think shes right (God Bless Her Soul - she raised me, therefore she is my mother)
Exactly , there are a lot of stories where the birth family straight up rejects adoptees . Sometimes the parents will reject just out of sheer defensive mechanisms . You can never truly know what can happen . If you want to find out for whatever reason , it cannot be a lone pursuit. You need people in the fight if you want to find your birth family.
This is very true. My fiancés mom found her birth mom last thanksgiving and her half siblings found months prior warned none of them had a relationship with her for a reason. She denied even having her…on a phone call on thanksgiving
Many people use all sort of word but only the heart knows ..You are so gentle...stay this way....
Wonderfully presented. Very thoughtful and caring. I continue my own search. My only connection via 23 & Me is a first cousin, but she is adopted and searching for her birth family.
How many people have a relationship with their own siblings without knowing they are related. We are in a very sad times.
Painful! I know this sounds cruel but I wish I could trade. One sadly misses her mother by a few months yet another has a mother who deliberately finds ways to destroy their child's life 20 years ticking. I respect her so much for forgiving cz that's how she would heal
Stay strong your story will help many
Forgiveness is overrated. This woman's voice is soothing.
I just read the articles, including the follow-up where she finds her birth father! I'm so impressed with her tenacity. Her birth father married but never had children. I hope that's a good thing- that he's excited she's the child he never had, rather than a bad thing- that he doesn't have interest in a relationship with a child. I hope she has peace having some answers.
I read the articles as well. I was stunned to know that the mother abandoned 5 babies in total and only raised one son. I would truly like to understand what goes on inside the mind of a woman that could deliver babies on her own and then abandon them - and why she would not use birth control. I hope Janet writes the book. Amazing that she was able to solve this mystery.
To quote an article, he (the father) is extremely happy she found him. - here a quote within a quote of Janet saying what he said
“He just kept saying, ‘Thank you for not quitting. Not many people would have kept looking, especially with nothing to go on.’”
😢 I have been following her story forever. I can't believe she was 3 months too late.... Ugh my heart breaks for her.
why not include more of the details in this part 2 video??🙄
i read a lot, so that's not an issue.. but why have us go to another website to learn more about what was going on? because:
she abandoned 3 babies that she had within about a 3 year period - and then had a 4th, who she kept.. and she was a typical mom with him who liked to bake?? and cook?? just... *wow.*
I would not want to know a woman who would abandon three children in that manner.
She actually abandoned five babies....and raised one son.
You are judgmental, cruel, and weak. Obviously, the mother was essentially scared and desperate. Libby, you are awful.
@@natbb9 - a woman gave birth to and abandoned five children. She clearly had no health care while pregnant, as well. And I'm awful for not wanting to know her if she was my mother? I'm adopted. it would be my choice. None of that makes me cruel or weak. Judgmental, yes. My right, if it was my mother, to not want to know her.
Scared of what? Birth control?
@elfriede Jordan Yes it is. Try as I might, I cannot understand why this woman would continue to put herself through the physical ordeal of giving birth, on her own, that many times - but had no interest in being a mother. Birth control was an option she did not bother with - and preferred to take this route of abandoning them. And what then caused her to decide to keep and raise her son?
Maybe in some twisted way, she thought she was helping women that couldn't have children? It is too bad that these abandoned children will never have answers as to what her thinking and rationale was. It is certainly a sad but intriguing story.
i am also searching for my biological mother and father. it has been such an empty feeling my whole life (27YRS) and i just want to know where i came from too! i am so happy to hear she found info out. To me, closure does not have to be a happy outcome. As LONG as i get closure of whot hey are, i woudl be MORE than happy.
Hoping you find what you seek!
diann h have you ever thought of doing ancestry.com. My grandmother, who was put up for adoption, did it and found serval family members and made a family tree. That’s after 50+ years of searching. She found her sister, her brother who passed away, her mother who passed away, uncles and cousins etc.
Only love would allow understanding compassion and empathy for such a situation. Thank you our god for it.
you have such a beautiful kind voice
Poor sweet child. I’m glad she found her siblings. God bless them all and I hope their lives turned out great.
I can't imagine.. you're in labor and you have a healty baby and you don't want to keep your own flesh and blood! And it does not happens once.. not twice.. but three times.. 😢
I just can't imagine...
She left 5 babies 😏
How can woman give birth alone? Who helped her?
I look at it differently. She was obviously not in a good place in life if she had multiple pregnancies from multiple partners resulting in 3 full term babies in 39 months (since they are all only half siblings none of them have the same father). Yet that woman chose to do everything she could for them, they were healthy babies carried to full term and lovingly wrapped up and left in the safety of a place that would get them medical attention and found them wonderful loving homes. Byes she should have not kept getting pregnant, but beyond that she did what she could to ensure the children would have every opportunity that she couldn't give them. For all we know each time she planned to keep the baby and then realized after getting home from the hospital and struggling in whatever situation she might have been in, that she was unable to be a good mother. Because it doesn't sound like the babies were abandoned immediately after being born. I think giving up a child willingly is al,last always done as the most gracious gift of love. Whereas selfish people keep the baby because they are attached to it, but unselfish people realize the harm they will do by keeping it. It mentioned that she went on to "make her own family" which hints that hers was not great, so let's give her the benefit of the doubt that she was going through some things and possibly barely more than a teenager at the time.
We cannot judge.. could be mental health issues.
@@MommyOfZoeAndLiam that is such a kind and thoughtful response. Being a mother is extremely hard especially if she didn't have the support and resources she needed to properly care for her children. A mother will do whatever she can for her children and the circumstances surrounding their births were difficult one could speculate. She tried to ensure they would be safe and found and that's really saying something that she wanted them to be ok
I think, in a way, this was the best outcome/closure that could happen. It might have led to more heartaches.
Agree GOD took mother so she wouldnt face the riot act.
At least the baby was left where someone could see her.
No
A mother that abandons 3 babies and raises 1. Is not really a mother that I personally want to know. How can you raise 1 child and abandon 3 I don’t get it... I mean no disrespect to the women’s decision to look for her mother, but that’s just my personal opinion. I’m happy she at least has some sort off closure finding her siblings. I think that’s the best outcome that could of happened for her.
Dear Janet, may you find peace in your soul, and live a happy, full life with your husband and children around you.
Such a sad story what a truly lovely woman this lady is..made me tearful she’s been through so much searching. God bless them.
Can relate to part of this as I didn’t know my biological father and gave up looking...
I hope you can bring yourself to search again soon, new avenues are evolving as time goes on. May God bless your efforts.
Amazing story! I was relinquished at around 5 along with my brother and two sisters. I have looked for our birth mom for about 15 years and no trace. I am currently waiting on a DNA result from an unidentified body. Maybe it will be her. Thank you for sharing your story.
Please keep us posted here what you find out!
Best of luck in your emotional endeavor and wish you all the best.
God helps you find her and all your birth family
I can help you find your birth parents. I've reunited many people separated by adoption. If you are interested lmk I don't charge anything
Praying that you find your answers and that your journey is revealing and blessed, going forward! Stay strong and always believe in the power of YOU! You serve to inspire...❤❤❤
Sounds like someone i wouldn’t wanna meet
What kind of person was she? She lived all her life without guilt, knowing that she abandoned her three kids?
I am sorry for you and you siblings that she passed away without the possibility to meet you I am glad you found your father.
I just cant understand how that woman could have 5 babies , 4 which she abandoned ......
it's crude but was she not aware of contraception ?
was Sarah a victim of abuse or very careless ? unable to learn from previous experiences in life ?
it's all very strange .
That's awesome she pretty much solved it herself
I don't think we can judge from the galleries after watching 11mins of footage. We don't know the mother's upbringing, mental health or anything much at all. Janet is an incredible woman, to find it in her heart to forgive her bio mother (a testament to her adoptive parents legacy). Forgiveness takes away the power to be controlled by the hurt into the future.
Despite the efforts over the years from my brother and I, our father has little interest in a relationship with us, since our parents divorced. It has inspired us to be better fathers, so not all bad.
Very sorry but you are better off..she dumped 3 like trash..SHE DIDN'T CARE!!
tracker 584 You need to.open your mind and be less judgemental.
So close yet so far
Sorry you couldn’t meet your mother.
Happy you for your siblings.
Contentment will be in your life now all of you❤
I’m sorry, but as a mother, I don’t get it.
Agreed - Maybe, MAYBE the first time but 4 times after that?? If she was not mentally slow than I am sorry but not excusable.
Once maybe..BUT 3!! or maybe more..who knows. Glad she's gone. She won't dump any more
This was a sad story I wish her mother didn't die..... I been to Prince Rupert once it is a very remote small city off the coast of British Columbia it is beautiful.....
Gosh... she make me cry.
No words can explain the devastation that a child feels when his parents abandon him or her! That's coming from a man who was left by his father in his childhood so trust me I know how it feels! I don't have anything positive to say about the Sarah, the mother and the Father, but the sweet side of the story is that Janet met his half siblings!
I don't agree that the birth mother was a "normal" person. Who abandons 3 babies outside?! That is cruel and very strange. She is NOT someone I would want to know.
Debbie, she actually abandoned five babies....and raised one son.
Debbie LOVESTOGARDEN if she hadn't abandoned them outside nobody would have found them. Some mother has done worse things than that often because of how society has looked at single mothers.
@@singtweetypie I understood it to read that she abounded 3 babies and the other 2 died at childbirth of the congenital condition.
@@lindafrance9192 Janet was able to get medical records for her birth mother after she died. She discovered there was another baby boy who she abandoned July 27, 1980 at North Vancouver’s Lions Gate Hospital, suffering from exposure and anemic, that lived for only a few months due to other medical complications. Then In 1983 she gave birth to a baby girl in a Vancouver hospital and shortly afterwards walked out, leaving the baby behind. That little baby died in hospice a month later due to medical issues. So in total, she abandoned five babies and raised one.
@@singtweetypie thanks for the additional information. For some reason I did not see or read that.
She forgives her mother, yes (naturally) Who else does ? When mothers are found, the had enough time to concoct plausible reasons, except that they liked to lie on their backs !!!
She obviously had emotional problems which she may not have known how to get help. You are all better off being given up. I wonder how your brother was being raised by her. We have to have forgiveness in order to live a happy life. Good for you for bing so strong to keep looking. It’s not easy. I have to say you are all so good looking. Very happy for all of you.
Just sickening, 5 babies she abandoned, she was a normal person who liked baking ? Really ! How could any normal person do that , I wouldn’t have wanted to meet her if I’d found that out ! And certainly wouldn’t be shedding any tears for her
FYI, the video states she abandoned 3 and raised 1.
Yes @Linda France , my bad !! it is 3 😃( typo error ) FYI whether it’s 3 or 5 or 6 I wouldn’t have wanted to meet her
A banded is such a harsh word. Times were so different in those days. Unwanted pregnancies for many were difficult for so many especially young unmarried girls. Abortion was not legal. Medical services were not easy. Many people gave babies to someone they felt offered a better life. Adoption or “abandonment “ should never be hidden from children…..just like the “my father who raised me and loved me” isn’t my birth father. Everyone involved should know everything so when child is old enough and intelligent enough to enough to understand should know the truth.
Bless you!
I understand the need to find her bio mum and father but how can you overlook abandoning not 1 but 5 babies? I am not attached to this situation in any way, and to be honest I am having a hard time overlooking her lack of maturity and concern by having all of these babies and then just dumping them and walking away..I dunno to me her story isn't one to go all Ga-Ga over..
How could a woman keep having babies and abandoning them? She abandoned three babies! Who were the fathers? Did they all have the same father? What happened to him?
It would be refreshing to hear at least one of these people who search out their biological mothers and fathers to acknowledge the wreckage these people left behind because of their irresponsible reproduction. It’s too easy to say that they were “addicted” or “immature” or “mentally unstable” without also noting that people with these problems should NOT be encouraged to have children (even if by “accident.”)
Finding birth parents is a double edge sword. You run the risk of rejection, or acceptance. Learning medical background is important. As a father, I wonder what I would say or feel if I was approached with the news of an unknown offspring.
Mom could have aborted the 5 babies as many women from her generation did. She chose to give birth to them instead and put them on God's hands. God took good care of them. They are all grown, beautiful and healthy. Thank you, mom, for not killing your babies.
No part 3?
If this true I feel very sorry for you, she aint worth your sorrow, she's abandoned several children. 😓😓
Implicit in the word "Mother"are the traits that word embodies: nurturing, caring, love, support, patience, expenditure, yet never knowing wha the final product will be. Closure is an unword that is a press invention: closure is the heart to heart bond forged by mothering.
"Closure" (psychology) was a term created In 1923 by psychologist Max Wertheimer . It means clarity and capturing the essence of what we perceive. Wertheimer defined it in geometrical terms, it means drawing a singular line, and when the line becomes blocked (life event) , another symmetrical line is drawn underneath to close the geometric shape. Think of an oval. Curved line on top. Swipe back and draw a curved line on the bottom to complete the oval. The singular line goal of the daughter was (past) to be parented by her mother. (singular line blocked by by the mom's abandonment). Still on singular line path, daughter tried to meet mom (blocked by life event of mom's death.). Closure - discovery had reached the limit/end. She swept back, completed the oval by using both upper and lower symmetrical lines because she was clear about who her mom was, what happened and she captured the essence of the perception of her mom's past. If we had a time machine and could go back and correct our mistakes and the mistakes of others, thus obtaining our goals, dreams and desires, there would never be a reason for closure to exist in the first place. Life would always be a contentious singular line and not an oval.
The fact, that Stephan and Kathie are her half- siblings says everything.
No hate- but their mother wasn't a responsible person. Only my opinion. May be, i'm wrong.
I think the best thing happened. The mother wouldn't have to face what she did wrong. I believe the mother wouldn't have been able to face them. She didn't do the right thing and placed them for adoption. One's is understandable 3 times no. They wouldn't have forgiven her but don't think the mother would've coped. Very sad story. I wonder how the 4th child felt when he found out what his mother was capable of?
WHAT ABOUT THE FATHER ?
He had no clue that she existed until they took the DNA test..So I can almost believe that the father of the other 4 babies were kept in the dark as well..
Be strong
But Sarah never told anyone about her other kids...makes me think she didn't care. If I ever gave up a child to adoption I would want the parents to keep me ip to date occasionally. I can't just ghost a child of kine.
I didn't know there was a part 2. I saw your first one and I placed a comment there that maybe through DNA you may find a first cousin, aunt or uncle and you did. Who knows why your mom did what she did but the fact that you forgive her shows what a beautiful soul you are. I'm glad all three of you are safe and now you have another sibling and an extended family. I hope they welcome all of you with open arms.
Oh no
This is the 2 story of the sick 😷 person gets really her Gary
Sorry 😐 not for you for what she did
I wouldn’t be happy 😃 to see her
I got pregnant 🤰 at 15 in I was alone no money 💰 no school 🏫 nothing
I take care my kid 🧒 she is now 27 married and I am grandmother 👵
If anybody is interested in searching for their birth families I can help you. I've reunited many people separated by adoption. I don't charge anything. Lmk if I can help
I was not adopted so I do not quite understand the extreme interest in finding out the biological parents that some adoptees have. Maybe if it happened to me I would be the same but somehow it also seems to be a rejection of the adopting family. They say that they had a good childhood. Did they not bond with their adoptive family? I can understand an interest but not the obsession. It seems among adoptees that there is a range of interest. Some really don't care much and others are obsessed. I wonder why.
Reactions vary from person to person. My cousin has two children via an open adoption. One is curious, but not ready to know her bio family. The other has no interest at all. I'm adopted and always felt it would be disloyal to my parents to want to know about a bio family. But you really can't understand unless you've been there. You don't look like anyone. Your parents heritage isn't your heritage. And for me, the older I get, the stronger the desire is to know.
My son was put up for adoption while I was working on the road as a driver. I was forced into signing as I had no support from anyone to fight it. Lucky for me, when my son turned 18 we reunited. A lot of questions were asked and answered. 5 years later, his adoptive mother and I "birth father " are married. What I've learned is that some people who were adopted have no desire to meet their birth families. Some do. I is a choice only they can make and understand. 4Veritas, you'll know when you're ready for that step.
I was never adopted but had a very disconnect family tree, I was always the curious one wondering where we came from and did the family tree. We all want to know where we came from and why we like what we like
Same here want to find my father even though he may be a disappointment, I just want to see his face, and I want him to see mine
It's always good to have changes on our every/daily story...that girl made a step...it always make sense when an adoptees have still time to find answers about their beginnings😊🙏 being grateful that they're on Earth living because of their biological parents who may not be there for a long time😥 they've learned to love and forgive😊🙏
So you talk to your half brother i hope so!!!