Also what you could do is put on some positive Co- parenting or mother/father relationships/marriages. We need to highlight the positive movements of families especially in the black community. Dont give up on the podcast
What I’d suggest for alternative content, bring fathers you’ve had historically on the pod who you know are genuine and let them share updates with how things are going post their court dramas. The channel has done phenomenally well in sharing how us fathers have battled the system, it’ll also be good to see follow ups so people can remain motivated and inspired when they hear positive stories of how their relationship is going with their kids post court drama.
The irony is you can actually choose not to deal with these fathers.. meanwhile Sharon up the road has and will be dealing with it for YEARS! At least you’re able to see things through the eyes of mothers dealing with joke ting fathers.
I,m a man with 3 baby Mom's, and I have never had any problems... When are men gonna realise that it is always our fault, We choose the women we lay with. Women react to inconsistent men. Consistency and being a man of your word is everything... Some males don't know how to be men, and I guess they need to be taught...
When I came on, I was seriously ill and was in hospital the next week for a few weeks. I so badly wanted to reschedule but I have the sense to know that it's someone's time, money and convenience that is affected. Some people, have no regard for anybody else's inconveniences let alone their children. The childishness of people is real.
I needed to hear this today. The guilt the default parent carries is overwhelming when the other parent doesnt bother, that are inconsistent and unreliable. Thank you ❤
On the Flip Side.. I am the resident parent (father) mother had supervised contact at a center.. I tried to work with them for over 5 years.. the mother was so inconsistent that I had to end the sessions because it was affecting our daughter negatively because she kept on being disappointed.. when I went back into the court order, it actually supports this.. actually directed me that if the mother does not follow the guidelines of the contact arrangement... Then it is to be reduced to indirect contact eg. Letters... The court understands that inconsistency is not good for a child's welfare. #Facts. Ey yo! Talk di tings Dem Bredda! Man Dem fi get G Checked for Dem loose behavior 🔥💯
Good for calling this type of behaviour out, as that’s the only way a clear message will be sent into our community that such fathers are not welcome in a productive honest space. May there be no place to hide for fathers who do not put their best foot forward. This is just a snippet of what mothers have to experience with some of these men, our community should not allow this in any capacity. Good job 👍🏾
@@time4advancement244I doubt VERY much he’s making more than 50 pence a video at around 1k views an upload. This platform isn’t driving significant revenue, BFFR.
@@time4advancement244personally I think that that's a good idea. Don't get me wrong, I understand your point but I feel that the meeting/brotherhood/advice etc.. is invaluable to those who are serious. Most guys don't have solid friends who will hold them accountable, give them advice to help them regain access to their children etc... so I feel its fair. Just my two pence 🙏🏾❤️
If they can do this to a man like riddler knowing all his done to support men in similar situations, then it doesn't take much imagination to guess how they treat their child and child's mother
I hear the frustration bro but you will get that in all walks of life dealing with people. What I will suggest though is try to get to a good consistency of uploading videos for the health of the channel. Good luck bro keep striving the channel still has growth to make 👊🏼
Riddler, Big Respect 🙏 for calling out the bad behaviours of fathers who are letting the other good guys down like you. Keep your head up & be the advocate for how to be a Great Dad for your kids.
I think, and i see this a lot with new podcasts, there's a reliance on "interviews" which often falls flat as interviewing is a niche. I think shift strategy to discussions with your friends about your personal journeys, issues, and successes like how it was at the beginning, and ad hoc guests here and there to discuss together an issue they bring up.
Big up Riddler 👊🏾 been supporting the channel since I came across it. I completely respect what you're doing for dads as well as building the podcast and I think you're right there are some dads that need to be held accountable You might have to get people who feature on the podcast to sign a NDA so that people can't flake at the last minute after recording
@@MRLX54 so they grown enough to have have sex and a baby but not grown enough to simply talk to each other? Do you realize how stupid that sounds to normal people?
Thank-you for delivering a voice of reason DJ Riddler 🙏🏾 - it's of no surprise that many women experience a similar type of inconsistent behaviour especially where children are involved 🖤💖
My child’s father needs to listen to you on the money tip. Some how he thinks I’m going to spend it in Harrods… I am the most unmaterilistic plain Jane you will meet and he claims he doesn’t trust me with money…
Accountability is the key. Fathers who want things redacted, retracted, taken out of the podcast, after they gave you their stories are 'red flags'and its the same for people who don't show up at the times agreed, don't call or respond to your messages. They do this in relationships too, its part of their DNA that needs fixing. But, at the end of the day, these are the fathers that women chose to have kids with, then complain that these men are no good. And some of these women have 2, 3, 4 ,5 children with different men all doing the same thing. What's the common denomination? And for the Baby Fathers staff, maybe you need another way of vetting these men so that they don't waste anymore of your time and/or money. Tweaking the process will help to get the real men who need your support.
Can't believe you man are doing riddler like that smh. The man is providing free life changing information helping many guys out there and you got guys taking the piss kmt. keep going bro but you might have to figure out a way of holding men accountable who waste your time ( such as paying for the booked podcast session)
Now you understand what black women have been going through for generations in the UK. From the Winndrush, and most likely before, when many Caribbean males just left their wives or partners to raise their children and never looked back. Their sons, grandsons, and in some cases grandsons are behaving the same way. Yes there are some degenerate/dysfunctional black women out there, but generally if a male is doing the decent honourable task of being a loyal, supportive and protective father, the mother will respond positively. Even if the father doesn't provide financial because of his circumstances, but he is present in his child's/children's life, mum will respond positively. Like the podcaster said, showup when you said you are going to be there or phone and let the other party know. What is so hard? When will black men grow up? I know big black hard back Caribbean men in the UK in their 50', 60s and 70' plus who still indulge in juvenile behaviour. And no one says a word!
@@fitzanderson1980 Yes it sounds like I'm generalising but I'm not. Good Carribbean men/fathers in the UK are the exception, especially ones that are into black women. Let's not pretend that baby mama/baby daddy lifestyle is not embedded into the culture. It needs to stop.
What about when you give the mother of your child money from the time she was pregnant so she could’ve start saving for when the child is born and continue to give her money after the child is born then she tell everyone that you have never gave her money, what about that?
@@BRI2020-d8x the funny thing is that I only gave her cash once or twice because I have always send the money through my bank so the proof is there, and that is how stupid the situation is
I understand when a dad doesn’t want to give the mum money for the child, maybe you don’t trust or see how it’s spent. Why wait for her to start saving, you have P.R too so can save it. As a single mum who didn’t get any financial contributions please factor in expenses such as hair care, skin care, school trips, extracurricular activities, tuition & books in addition to clothing & uniform and food. I have found it really interesting when some dads think buying new tracksuit or trainers is amazing and think they are dad of the year. Why not open a junior isa or stocks & shares and put half away to invest & the other half to the mum . We have to start thinking ahead and setting them up for the future If your child is of a certain age & you’ve taught them how to budget, you could pay them directly via standing order. A lot of dads don’t follow either of these methods because they want to maintain control of how their finances are spent on the child. But after a while the child will learn how and what was contributed to their life and if their dad has been inconsistent they are likely to reject them when they become a teen or young adult.
This is mad childish behaviour from anyone in any context, to arrange and confirm everything and then no show and go silent. And for it to be an almost regular thing is nuts, it's so disrepectful. You said it like it is though, real men are men of their word. If you say you're going to do something then do it, stick to it and follow through. I want to come on, I have an insane story you wouldn't believe. I need to be out of the court process first though, Don't want them putting their stupid spin on it.
Women claim they do not need a man. They 'independent' 😒 Let's see 'em do it by themselves. As for this youtuber, good work and mandem should stop wasting his time!
Black women generally only claim to not need a man when they have witnessed pathetic poor excuses for men fail at being decent fathers to them or their children all their life. Yes there are waste women out there spewing this mantra with no experience to back up this assertion, but most women base this mantra on experience. White women and south Asian women don't make such a statement. Why do you think that it?
£20 a week is nothing but I’ll say this, for a child that I can’t see and not allowed to see, and I have still have to pay? Huh? Nah I got savings account he can get that when he’s 18 as long as he completes a short financial course
Also what you could do is put on some positive Co- parenting or mother/father relationships/marriages. We need to highlight the positive movements of families especially in the black community.
Dont give up on the podcast
What I’d suggest for alternative content, bring fathers you’ve had historically on the pod who you know are genuine and let them share updates with how things are going post their court dramas.
The channel has done phenomenally well in sharing how us fathers have battled the system, it’ll also be good to see follow ups so people can remain motivated and inspired when they hear positive stories of how their relationship is going with their kids post court drama.
His literally saying what most baby mothers say to the fathers 😅
The irony is you can actually choose not to deal with these fathers.. meanwhile Sharon up the road has and will be dealing with it for YEARS! At least you’re able to see things through the eyes of mothers dealing with joke ting fathers.
I,m a man with 3 baby Mom's, and I have never had any problems...
When are men gonna realise that it is always our fault, We choose the women we lay with. Women react to inconsistent men. Consistency and being a man of your word is everything...
Some males don't know how to be men, and I guess they need to be taught...
😂shut up
Well done riddler , some of these men are time wasters .. yr platform is for genuine men only .
Real talk g. I’m a dad who lives with all of my sons (3) and I watch your pod just to make sure I don’t become one of the (some) you mentioned.
This kind of men are waste of space , expecting mothers to do everything and not to be held accountable
Didn’t realise you was going through so much on the back end, your a real one!
When I came on, I was seriously ill and was in hospital the next week for a few weeks. I so badly wanted to reschedule but I have the sense to know that it's someone's time, money and convenience that is affected. Some people, have no regard for anybody else's inconveniences let alone their children. The childishness of people is real.
Sorry to hear how some people are just time wasting.
I needed to hear this today. The guilt the default parent carries is overwhelming when the other parent doesnt bother, that are inconsistent and unreliable. Thank you ❤
On the Flip Side.. I am the resident parent (father) mother had supervised contact at a center.. I tried to work with them for over 5 years.. the mother was so inconsistent that I had to end the sessions because it was affecting our daughter negatively because she kept on being disappointed.. when I went back into the court order, it actually supports this.. actually directed me that if the mother does not follow the guidelines of the contact arrangement... Then it is to be reduced to indirect contact eg. Letters... The court understands that inconsistency is not good for a child's welfare. #Facts.
Ey yo! Talk di tings Dem Bredda! Man Dem fi get G Checked for Dem loose behavior 🔥💯
Good for calling this type of behaviour out, as that’s the only way a clear message will be sent into our community that such fathers are not welcome in a productive honest space. May there be no place to hide for fathers who do not put their best foot forward. This is just a snippet of what mothers have to experience with some of these men, our community should not allow this in any capacity. Good job 👍🏾
You should charge studio fee for all guests that want to come on the show. Then you can refund them the “deposit” once the episode airs.
in that case, any money this UA-camr makes from the video should then be shared with the guest.
It's business and should not be a ONE-way transaction
@@time4advancement244I doubt VERY much he’s making more than 50 pence a video at around 1k views an upload. This platform isn’t driving significant revenue, BFFR.
@@time4advancement244personally I think that that's a good idea. Don't get me wrong, I understand your point but I feel that the meeting/brotherhood/advice etc.. is invaluable to those who are serious. Most guys don't have solid friends who will hold them accountable, give them advice to help them regain access to their children etc... so I feel its fair.
Just my two pence 🙏🏾❤️
I disagree I feel like he should charge a deposit for his time.
Also he has to have studio which I'm not sure of he hires me out there's alot of costs including his time
I’m so glad he said this !!
Now you see it. This is the majority of them.
If they can do this to a man like riddler knowing all his done to support men in similar situations, then it doesn't take much imagination to guess how they treat their child and child's mother
I hear the frustration bro but you will get that in all walks of life dealing with people.
What I will suggest though is try to get to a good consistency of uploading videos for the health of the channel.
Good luck bro keep striving the channel still has growth to make 👊🏼
Riddler, Big Respect 🙏 for calling out the bad behaviours of fathers who are letting the other good guys down like you.
Keep your head up & be the advocate for how to be a Great Dad for your kids.
I think, and i see this a lot with new podcasts, there's a reliance on "interviews" which often falls flat as interviewing is a niche. I think shift strategy to discussions with your friends about your personal journeys, issues, and successes like how it was at the beginning, and ad hoc guests here and there to discuss together an issue they bring up.
Big up Riddler 👊🏾 been supporting the channel since I came across it. I completely respect what you're doing for dads as well as building the podcast and I think you're right there are some dads that need to be held accountable
You might have to get people who feature on the podcast to sign a NDA so that people can't flake at the last minute after recording
I wish you could have this conversation with my baby father. He needs to hear this !
You chose him so you have that conversation
@@jayo3074How can they? if that baby father is being bitter.
Wow
@@MRLX54 so they grown enough to have have sex and a baby but not grown enough to simply talk to each other? Do you realize how stupid that sounds to normal people?
Thank-you for delivering a voice of reason DJ Riddler 🙏🏾 - it's of no surprise that many women experience a similar type of inconsistent behaviour especially where children are involved 🖤💖
My child’s father needs to listen to you on the money tip. Some how he thinks I’m going to spend it in Harrods… I am the most unmaterilistic plain Jane you will meet and he claims he doesn’t trust me with money…
14-15 fathers per week you speak to. Shocking 😮.
Keep going big man.
I was gunna start a pod but people bailing/ time wasting like this was why I obstained from it🤕
In theory, everything you’re saying is correct. There’s always grey area/anomaly’s, but I agree with many of your points 🤝🏿
Accountability is the key. Fathers who want things redacted, retracted, taken out of the podcast, after they gave you their stories are 'red flags'and its the same for people who don't show up at the times agreed, don't call or respond to your messages. They do this in relationships too, its part of their DNA that needs fixing.
But, at the end of the day, these are the fathers that women chose to have kids with, then complain that these men are no good. And some of these women have 2, 3, 4 ,5 children with different men all doing the same thing. What's the common denomination?
And for the Baby Fathers staff, maybe you need another way of vetting these men so that they don't waste anymore of your time and/or money. Tweaking the process will help to get the real men who need your support.
Can't believe you man are doing riddler like that smh. The man is providing free life changing information helping many guys out there and you got guys taking the piss kmt. keep going bro but you might have to figure out a way of holding men accountable who waste your time ( such as paying for the booked podcast session)
Now you understand what black women have been going through for generations in the UK. From the Winndrush, and most likely before, when many Caribbean males just left their wives or partners to raise their children and never looked back. Their sons, grandsons, and in some cases grandsons are behaving the same way. Yes there are some degenerate/dysfunctional black women out there, but generally if a male is doing the decent honourable task of being a loyal, supportive and protective father, the mother will respond positively. Even if the father doesn't provide financial because of his circumstances, but he is present in his child's/children's life, mum will respond positively. Like the podcaster said, showup when you said you are going to be there or phone and let the other party know. What is so hard? When will black men grow up? I know big black hard back Caribbean men in the UK in their 50', 60s and 70' plus who still indulge in juvenile behaviour. And no one says a word!
This is a huge generalisation?
@@fitzanderson1980 Yes it sounds like I'm generalising but I'm not. Good Carribbean men/fathers in the UK are the exception, especially ones that are into black women. Let's not pretend that baby mama/baby daddy lifestyle is not embedded into the culture. It needs to stop.
What about when you give the mother of your child money from the time she was pregnant so she could’ve start saving for when the child is born and continue to give her money after the child is born then she tell everyone that you have never gave her money, what about that?
I smell Bull💩 - was the alleged Mother of the child meant to get everything needed for free ? #GTFOH
You can open an account for the child when they are born like a JR ISA it’s locked until child is 18
@@BRI2020-d8x the funny thing is that I only gave her cash once or twice because I have always send the money through my bank so the proof is there, and that is how stupid the situation is
I understand when a dad doesn’t want to give the mum money for the child, maybe you don’t trust or see how it’s spent. Why wait for her to start saving, you have P.R too so can save it.
As a single mum who didn’t get any financial contributions please factor in expenses such as hair care, skin care, school trips, extracurricular activities, tuition & books in addition to clothing & uniform and food.
I have found it really interesting when some dads think buying new tracksuit or trainers is amazing and think they are dad of the year.
Why not open a junior isa or stocks & shares and put half away to invest & the other half to the mum . We have to start thinking ahead and setting them up for the future
If your child is of a certain age & you’ve taught them how to budget, you could pay them directly via standing order.
A lot of dads don’t follow either of these methods because they want to maintain control of how their finances are spent on the child. But after a while the child will learn how and what was contributed to their life and if their dad has been inconsistent they are likely to reject them when they become a teen or young adult.
REAL
Facts 🙏
This is mad childish behaviour from anyone in any context, to arrange and confirm everything and then no show and go silent. And for it to be an almost regular thing is nuts, it's so disrepectful. You said it like it is though, real men are men of their word. If you say you're going to do something then do it, stick to it and follow through. I want to come on, I have an insane story you wouldn't believe. I need to be out of the court process first though, Don't want them putting their stupid spin on it.
Unfortunately this is too true.
Can we get some false allegation interviews please
Your disclaimer at the beginning should be enough, if they’re coming on they should know what they’re doing and saying.
Need your help still
I want to come on the podcast but because I'm Muslim and mu community is small I'd have to wear a bally like a drill rapper
Women claim they do not need a man. They 'independent' 😒
Let's see 'em do it by themselves.
As for this youtuber, good work and mandem should stop wasting his time!
Black women generally only claim to not need a man when they have witnessed pathetic poor excuses for men fail at being decent fathers to them or their children all their life. Yes there are waste women out there spewing this mantra with no experience to back up this assertion, but most women base this mantra on experience. White women and south Asian women don't make such a statement. Why do you think that it?
£20 a week is nothing but I’ll say this, for a child that I can’t see and not allowed to see, and I have still have to pay? Huh? Nah I got savings account he can get that when he’s 18 as long as he completes a short financial course
I hear it but couldn’t you use the same money you’re saving to go mediation an get something arranged so you can see your son?
You're either trolling or an utter fool.
It costs less than £500 in mediation & courts fees to gain access to your child. Not that you don’t, just putting it out there as many don’t know 🤝🏿
Boring,🥺
I would of let off that episode to pay the studio time this ain't no charity bills have to pay 😅 sell me that episode lowp
🤣🤣🫣