Best responses to "Why are you so quiet?"
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- If you're an introvert, you've probably been asked "Why are you so quiet?" Here is how to respond to this annoying question.
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Any good replies that I forgot?? 🤔
We will think about it first. XD
Death stare.
They'll never come back.
Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious
"Why are you so quiet?"
"It's not that I don't talk. I just don't want to talk to YOU"
I usually say: I dont speak unless I feel it’s worth saying or being heard.
"you're quiet"
"You should be too"
Love it
Yasss I like this response!
*quiet
ROASTED
DAMNNN
''I don't plan my murders out loud.'' Works like a charm against dumb and rude people.
Lol
Ooooh I like that one
I mean, I was told by some dudes on a train that I look like someone who could get away with murder. So this might work for me.
@@silentshadow3894
I have been told that as well, but not so blatant.
@@returnoftheromans6726 yeah well people on trains and buses and stuff that will talk to passengers they don’t know are generally really weird and blunt from what I have experienced. Though to be fair people that could get away with murder was the topic of conversation with him and the other guys he was talking to. I just happened to be sitting right next them and the noticed me.
As a quiet person myself this is one of the most annoying questions I’ve been asked my whole life. One person even told me they don’t trust quiet people, like wtf??? I don’t care, leave me alone lol
I've been told this by my own grandmother. Very frustrating 😕
some people are freaked out by things that they dont know much about :(
I prefer my own company, and a response I always have is “go away, I don’t like you.” In college my lecturer says I’m very quiet, but opinionated. Bitch yes I am, I can debate with a brick wall. Give me a assignment brief and I can write twenty seven pages within two weeks.
same
@@whyamigae9666 Give you some plates and you can turn it into and full day celebration...
I got that question once from a adult woman , in front of a group of people.. she clearly did it to offend me.
I just responded "iam glad there are quiet people like me .. imagine a world where everyone is as loud as you. It would be super annoying dont you think?"
She was really shocked and never tried anything like this again.
Just turn the thing around ..i mean whats this stupid question anyway ?
Yes, that question is super rude. Being extrovert does not allow one to be impolite. People should weigh their words. I have noticed some extroverts talk so much they don't even process their thoughts which makes them say random things that happen to be rude and they dont even notice. And then there are some who think they dominate the group with their "smart talk" and start feeling overconfident and become rude on purpose.
An introvert might want to respond with accusing them of being impolite.
You destroyed that witch perfectly. 👌 People like her just like to bully the quiet individuals. They feel superior while making others feel inferior. That's toxic.
@@MaddieSchnitzel I'm an introvert, but It's usually the other way around, being introvert does not excuse being an asshole. When people speak, most of the time it is to reach out an connect with you, and that's good intent. They're not trying to be invasive.
It's also common sense that when you ignore people, it's a gesture you dislike them, so obviously they feel something's off. Yes they might ask someone why they're quiet, but it depend son context what the intent is. I mean unless you're insecure of being quiet, there are so many ways to tell people you're quiet genuinely, might even make a new friend that way.
I hate that it's a trend for introverts to be angsty and blame the other ones for talking. That is just not how society works, or games, or movies, or media, or any form entertainment. Life's full of interaction whether we like it or not. And even when someone doesn't like real life interaction they still involve themselves to other ones that has it, like movies.
@@kenz2756 why are you copy pasting?
My teacher in elementary used to call me something in my language that roughly translates to "wild animal" cause I was a quiet kid, like public humiliation was supposed to make me talk more.
Exactly. If no one is listening, imagine how many wars this planet would suffer
I like: "Because you haven't stopped talking."
Or
"I'm just gathering information."
That last one really freaks people out 😂
But the first one is the most true.....
Both feel like they're often actually true
thousandth like!!!
I use the second one quite a lot. Works like a charm :)
Yes
I’ve actually said “I don’t know, why are you so loud?” to my friend once when they asked me why I was so quiet. They just stood there speechless for a minute.
Got to say, that was my first thought as a response.
Love it! I'll try it next time.
Sounds like it worked. For a minute.
@@Seraphus87 lol
Yo I wrote the same!
When I was young, I was very shy. When people would ask that question, it made me more quiet. Later I realized me being quiet made them very uncomfortable. Very empowering.
jajajaja🤣
Yeah I actually didn't really relise I was quiet until someone asked me that then I became more quiet.
I always wonder why people ask this question instead of just trying to start a conversation
I usually don't phrase it like that,
Instead I'll say something like:
"Hey, I noticed you've been a bit secluded,
Is it okay if I join you for a bit?"
True. Tho I wish someone asked me this badly. I love challenges unironically and this would allow me to segue into a conversation if I play my cards correct
@@powerjolt7215 I mean, I would,
But the chances we'd ever meet are nihil.
@@BramLastname That is true, but it's fine mate. Thanks for at least saying you would if we ever met 😄
@@BramLastname Wow, that actually sounds like a good way to approach a lonesome person. It doesn't seem the least bit offensive, and it sounds really considerate. "I noticed you've been a bit secluded." Also love the use of unique words such as secluded, instead of "by yourself." It sounds comforting.
"My dad got killed by a dictionary!" Haha, nice one, Frank, I'm definitely going to use whenever someone asks the DREADED QUESTION!
1.2k likes and no comments? Let me change that
I've seen your comments all over UA-cam lol. I never really realized locals like you exist throughout the channels. Looking at the channels I subscribe to too.
You're a Kool Kat Trina Q 😎
@@ievolcisum Thanks so much, Ki Mu, you're pretty sweet yourself! ♥️😘
"My dad got killed by a thesaurus!"
"Your father was murdered by a thesaurus?"
"AAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH!!!"
Someone asked me that once at work and I responded with “What is there to say?”
Caught her off guard with that one lol
She shrugged and went back to what she was doing
I’m using that
@@seljal.3993 Happy to help :)
Perfect I'm using this next time
I always use that one but not as a joke
@@eytanminski6168 I usually say it in a joking manner, but I also genuinely mean it. It’s more me being so annoyed by getting this question all the time lol
“I’m not quiet, you’re just loud”
“This is the library”
“Talking killed my grandma, okay?!”
Trolls
Maybe...
Not the Trolls quote 😭😭
I have a younger sister who made me watch it, suffer
once this guy that was like notoriously known for being misogynistic asked me like," whyre you so quiet or why don't you talk much " and I was like "well I'm a woman after all I don't speak unless spoken too" and it was so funny just seeing his blank expression and then him just walking away cause he's said some similar bullshit in the past.
The best response I ever heard was (*in a Russian accent*) "Russia sent me to listen not speak"
It freaks people out if you are quick enough.
LOL I would blow it by laughing immediately afterwards if I ever tried saying that
LMAAAAO
This comment aged well
Hmm yes i like that, use humor instead of insults. Nowadays many skits tend to condone you being an asshole to respond to others. That wouldn't be the right way to do it.
Poland just arrested a Spanish citizen believing he spied for Russia, don't say this in Poland.
The premium subscription one is pure genius, but I'd watch out with the "undressing you with my eyes" response, because you might inadvertently end up in a relationship with someone really extroverted and perish of depleted battery syndrome in a week. 🤣🤣🤣
Or more likely, they slowly walk away haha
True, some of us would add another unwanted stalker on our list
I thought he said addressing. My somewhat innocent mind 😊😃
😂 premium subscription. I feel like a verbal prostitute. Undressing not included in the fee 😅
@@lucidfangirl1030 🤣🤣🤣 I don't know, addressing you with my eyes still feels kinda dirty, only in a poetic fashion
Once a group of my extrovert class mates said
"Why are you so quiet?"
I replied with - "Shhh I am having a staff meeting in my head."
Their looks is still fresh in my mind.
ohhhhoho, i LOVE this! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
My Friend said "You are so quiet. I feel like you are silently Judging me."
I remained silent, nodded slowly and responded after a few seconds.
"Yeah there's a little of that."
“sounds like a you problem”
Or
“don't ask questions you don't want the answers to” lol
1:14 "K-nocked out." Why did I find that so funny 😆
I found it so funny too! 😆
That's one of my favorites 🤣
Because it was
I guess the K is not so silent after all! 🤷🏽♀️
🤣
"Because I don't want to talk to you."
Blunt and straight to the point.
Love it 🙂
Hmm ok, nice way to push them away. Do you do that to everyone? Hope not.
@@kenz2756 You’re not obligated to say anything to anyone if you don’t feel comfortable. There’s nothing wrong with not wanting to talk to someone. That doesn’t necessarily mean you should push people away, specifically those that want to help you or genuinely want to connect with you. But if you don’t feel like talking to someone, it’s not rude to let them know you don’t feel like talking or you would rather be alone.
@@Mattyboy-dn4oo Thing is when you ignore people you give the impression you dislike them, they're doing something wrong, or you've got an issue, like being constipated. I would assume the question comes out naturally, I mean, people are trying to reach out, you're right, and this confuses people.
@@kenz2756 Ignoring? That’s confusing considering that your giving someone your attention by telling them that you would rather be by yourself. It isn’t being dismissive. You’re letting them know how you feel and establishing a boundary at that point in time. If you genuinely care about said person, then you would respect their right to want to have their privacy. That doesn’t mean they hate you.
I understand that a majority of people that ask this question are trying to reach out and be friendly, but the reason why this question is annoying for some introverts is because it gives the impression that something is wrong with them. They want to spend some time alone. They may be focused on something else. To them, being alone in their thoughts, ideas, hobbies, etc is their idea of normalcy. Or they may feel insecure about speaking out or afraid that they may not be heard or say the wrong thing. They also may just not have anything to say and don’t feel obligated to talk. So when you ask a sensitive question like this, it can pressure someone into feeling like their quiet nature is a problem. That it’s something that is hurting others. It feels like their under a microscope and they of course don’t want to explain away their insecurities so they tense up. It’s a judging question and it’s not really a good way to start a conversation with someone.
You could instead say “You seem a little quiet today. What’s on your mind?” or invite them to join in what your doing. You could even compliment them like if they’re wearing a cool shirt with a character you could say “Hey that’s a cool shirt man!” That could encourage them to open up more, especially if it pertains to a certain interest. Introverts are generally sensitive so when you come towards them with a question like “Why are you so….” that can actually cause them to do the opposite and be even more reluctant to open up. They can make their feelings known without being rude or dismissive but I believe that was the intent of this video. As pure as your intentions may be, this question can be considered insensitive to some people and I think their are better ways to reach out to others without addressing their quiet nature. Especially if it’s someone you’ve never talked to.
(sorry for the long reply, but I think more people need to understand it from the perspective of the person getting asked and not just assume that we’re being “rude” or “there’s something wrong with us” those hurt just as much)
I once heard that it is better to keep your mouth shut and be thought a fool, than to open it and remove all doubt. I've lived by it ever since.
"Are you a quiet-phobe?" Is such a good one haha 🤣🤣
"I can only speak 15 words a month and I just used them all up"
You just made my day!
I'm keeping this video in my "AMAZING" playlist...
Or should I keep it in "important to remember" playlist?
how is ur comment added 7 hours ago .....wth?💀
Just add it to both
Sensing Liar, liar inspiration 😂
"My doctor said I can only speak 20 words a month, and I just used up all of them, right now."
Haha yes it did mine too the it's kinda amazing how perfectly the sentence is of 15 words
These are REALLY funny.
And it struck me when listening to them that I've been so isolated over the past 2+ years that nobody has asked me why I'm so quiet in at least that long.
When I was a toddler, my parents were getting a little worried that I wasn't talking. We were having a barbeque and my grandfather was backing up and almost backed into the grill. I shouted "HOT!" That was my first word. So I have always said that since I was a baby, I only talk when I'm saving lives.
Ok but "HOT!!" As a toddler's first word is hilarious. I relate to this, barely talked until I was like four. Once someone told my kid self to open my mouth and say something and I literally opened my mouth. Didn't say anything though.
I looooove this soooo much!!! 💗💗💗🥰
@The Croissant 🥐 Einstein and I have so much in common. Except that my understanding of physics never evolved much beyond grills being hot.
@@mjprozac 😭 this reply is so funny, I am trying not to laugh it's almost 1 AM here.
Well my twins first word was cucumber... not sure how that happend
My mom asked me once why I was so quiet that day and I said: "I'm always quiet. You just didn't notice because the others are so loud."
This is one of the rudest questions in my opinion, it always makes me feel out of place, not accepted and anxious, it makes me feel like being quiet = being me is not good enough and pressures me into apologazing for my very own nature.
Yeah, if I notice someone is withdrawn from the group,
(As in physically moved away because nobody was talking with them)
I tend to walk over to them and ask if I could keep them company for a bit.
Yup...the downside I think to our personality is trying to understand how other people function and failing; so always feeling a bit awkward and anxious because am not going to get the joke or it's actually not funny to me at all but even the dog is laughing. Then getting a little desperate, hoping pls don't let anyone speak to me; especially not the guy staring...why oh why did I wear this blouse that creates cleavage...how to I get rid of my boobs. Next time stay home.
0:49 *My mother was a librarian and my father was a budhist monk. They met on a silent retreat and got married. And then they died!* That's so romantic and zen altogether. Good one mate UWU
This is my favourite!
Yes. Easily the best one there. 🍻
Ha ha it was beautiful. If only it were true! ...About my parents :D
I want someone to write the tragic story of Marion the librarian and Mark the monk. It will be better than Twilight.
OMG! >//////< The introvert in me blushes. I never get that many ikes so soon, with no content on my own page... wtf just happened. I just said, my true feelings... OwO
I once said; "Shh, can't talk, they're watching" when someone in my class asked me why I'm quiet while we went to our next class. He stood there staring at me then I just walked away
LOL that's amazing
lol
LMAO
I'm commandeering that! Thank you!
😂😂
I've always taken that sort of question very literally, usually answering "I don't have much to say" or just "I don't know" cause I'm not sure what they expect me to say. I don't think it's always asked to be rude or condescending, but it's a poor way to try to get someone to open up.
the "please god never let me get that point!" LOL.....and the "clearly i'm an introvert" is so accurate, how can there be ppl who don't know about introversion *sigh*
exactly my two favourites!! And yeah, agreed. I think some extroverts just can't comprehend what introversion is and why we are like that cause it's so much the opposite of them. Maybe that's why.
My family, introversion to them is an alien concept
Random classmate: why don't you talk much
Me: I'm an introvert
Rc: what does that mean
Me: socialising drains me
Rc: well that's very ignorant
Me: ...🙄 **this is why I don't explain**
The"Does me being quite make you nervous" is a killer response cause I use it all the time and it works....Really, you gotta try it out. It's a real move.😏
tried that once and all i got was "not really, you look like the least threating person I've ever met"
@@Angel3x111 Lol, must have hit hard, no hard feelings.
It'll freak the other person out 💀💀 The first thing they'll think is that you're a serial killer- 💀🖐️
@@snickbiordking5748Yup,So True ~Fact: thats the whole point😎
This is one of my favorites
I like to think that not talking a lot makes what I do say worth more. I don't usually have strong opinions on things, so when I do speak up others know that the topic is important to me. That and when I start cursing under my breath it's treated as a serious warning sign that my stress levels are reaching their peak
I agree with you. No need to speak unnecessarily and you get to save that energy for when you actually need to speak or help someone
As a social introvert, like how I wanted to enjoy going outside while being quiet and there’s not much people here, I’d be pretty upset if anyone tries to ask me that question
Extrovert: "Why are you so quiet?"
Introvert: "Because you won't stop talking."
*Friend -* “Why are you so quiet?”
*Me -* “You don't know? I'm dying inside!”
Why is this so relatable?
Is it to say the silence is making you feel very uncomfortable? Hmm yes, that's a problem with shyness or anxiety usually. Gotta learn how to connect with people a quiet way. Gotta let them know who you are so that they know you're quiet and it shouldn't be awkward. Who knows? might even gain a new friend.
Although, not sure if i would call them 'friend' if they're asking why you're quiet. Doesn't seem like a type of person who knows you at allm
@@kenz2756 man, why you are in all the coments?
Before all this crap that is happening in the world, I would actually try to be nice or at least acknowledge people even when I just wanted to be left alone, now I just don't give a crap anymore. Call me rude or quiet all you want, just leave me alone to be miserable in piece.
@@kgt6776 mans just either a troll or an insecure dimwit who tries to sound intelligent
My favorite is " Why do you talk so much? Isn't that a rude question from me?" Your question can also be perceived as rude. Keenau Reeves said a version of that. Love it.
"My mother is a librarian and my father is a Buddhist monk, they met in a silent retreat and get married" this is my favourite 😂 gonna try it for those annoying question, u know what those questions really suck
My personal favorite. "I'm not quiet." Then silently look at them like there's something wrong with THEM.
Quiet*
gaslight the extroverted into thinking you're one of them
@@PhoenixArtz000 hell yea
Frank: "I can only speak 15 words a month n i just used them all up".
Me: literally counting these words 🤣
Yep, I counted too!
Wow that's genius
Me too lmao
Me too LOL!
Oh F man! What a observation!👏
I read a post of Keanu Reeves how he reaponds to that question: "Because I am and that is how i function. I don't ask you, why do you talk so much? It is just rude."
Made me laugh!!
“You’re so quiet.”
“That’s because you never are.”
"Does me being quiet make you nervous?" 😎
That was priceless!
I did that once,
But I first turned my head towards them,
Started looking at different parts of their body,
And then after a few seconds said
"Why so nervous? I haven't even said anything yet."
@@BramLastname hahaha that's also a good one 😂 i assume they were speechless after hearing that from you 😄
@@starfish5267 They were surprised,
But I couldn't keep a straight face,
So it just ended up as a fun icebreaker.
@@BramLastname love it! you definitely left an impression 😁👍
Even though being an ENTP I've been asked if I'm always this quiet when I was in school. I replied "not around people I like."
Ooof
Thanks you. Truth.
Wait a minute ..........you are quiet while been an entrovert that is kind of dumb & stupid 😒😑
@@doufila4038 I'm an ambivert though. And why is it dumb to be quiet haha. Nah. Using your head to think instead of only talking is the opposite of dumb.
@@doufila4038 By the way you can still be shy even if you're an extrovert. Those are two entirely different things, dummy (:
"Why are you so quiet?"
"It's really nice... you should try it some time."
-Why are you so quiet?
-Why are you so loud ?! 🤨
I once heard it somewhere, a great answer to question is:
SomeDumb: Why are you so quiet?
Me: *Why are you so loud?*
“I am in energy-saving mode right now.” my favorite one!!😂 this one I’ll borrow. Thanks, Frank!! people seem to be uncomfortable when they’re around people who don’t talk as much as them.
Well, if you're left in a room with a cousin you're not close to, would you feel absolutely no discomfort at all? Usually this awkward silence is the impulse that make people start talking. Even introverts usually do because well, introverts can still feel awkwardness no matter how quiet one likes to be.
Good point, it really depends on the people you’re with in the room. But yes, even introverts feel the need to start a conversation because silence is too loud sometimes. Thank you for sharing your thoughts about this, @Kenz ! : )
@@kenz2756 nah I love the silence. Would never say a word no matter how awkward it got for anyone. Just pointless to have small talk when you clearly don't care or are interested in conversing with that person.
@@nostalgicbliss5547 I would never put it that way because it really seems like you would instead devalue everyone else and you're not interested in anyone. Seems way more like an edgy emo thing than an introvert. I don't know, often times people confuse lack of morals with introversion and i find it kinda concerning.
@@kenz2756 Nah there are many interesting people, most people are just fake. So it's pointless to converse with them cause you know it's not genuine. Too many two faced and shady out there.
these are really helpful but I just stare at them and walk away (and never look back). 😂
I sometimes want to say "bcs you keep interrupting me whenever I speak" but then all the attention is on me and I get flustered which leads me to a deeper silence so I just laugh it out 😂
Same honestly, people want to interrupt and talk over you like nothing you say matters but then act confused as to why you're suddenly quiet, lol.
The utter _rage_ I've sympathized with during this video is great in quantity.
Lmao the "are you a quiet-phobe??!!" Amazing XD
Me and my friends were out when a boy came up to us, he asked why I'm so quiet and I said because I have nothing to say. I was too busy observing my friends interact with him and wondering if they were oblivious to the awkwardness.
"Why are you so quiet?"
"Do you have a moment to talk about our lord and saviour the flying spaghetti monster?"
The absolute WORST was, in my younger years, when people on the make would gratuitously challenge me for not "opening up" more...whatEVe-e-er that was supposed to mean. It put all the emotional onus and guilt on me for, apparenly, not PERFORMING to their satisfaction. And I was too young and callow to understand what sort of manipulation that was and would fall into profound self-scrutiny over whether I really was the repressed emotional cripple they were portraying me as (who could, of course, only be saved by their ministrations...you know how that goes). If somebody ever asked me that now, "Why don't you open up more?" I think I'd answer, "You're, what, doing an autopsy? A dissection? What do you think I am--a FROG?"
Im keeping that response in mind
Omg that response 😂😂😂😂😂
That's exactly what it is, people thinking they are owed a performance. Some people feel uncomfortable when someone doesn't quite fit into a narrow set of expectations regarding social behavior within a short range of time, and get offended by it. "Your silence makes me uncomfortable, as I prefer constant jibber jabber; how dare you make me feel that way??"
“what are you, my therapist? You taking a survey? Nosy”
“My dad got killed by a dictionary.” I can’t even watch “Webster” reruns. I’m seriously traumatized.
was in a friend group with a lot of extroverts and couldnt get a word in edge wise most days but this one guy saw me struggling to cut and and made a big "SHH" and made everyone stop talking so i could say my little bit, dont think ill ever forget that or how accepted it made me feel
"Does me being quiet make you nervous? " that one was kinda flirty 💕😉👌
"Wise men speak when thay have something to say, fools when they have to say something."
Wah
Facts
HOW ABOUT THIS? DO YOU PREFER THAT VOLUME? HOW DO YOU LIKE ME NOW?
Frank shouting out loud just made my day😂😂😂
"Shh, I'm trying to hear what the voices are saying." Which isn't always a lie actually,lmao, I'm schizophrenic and do hear voices and they're so mumbly and impossible to comprehend most of the time I often become obsessed with trying to understand what the hell they're talking about.
What do they talk about?
My favourite is 'My father was killed by a dictionary' and 'HOW ABOUT THIS? DO YOU PREFER THIS VOLUME? HOW D'YOU LIKE ME NOW?'
My favorite one is “ does it make you nervous?” 😂 Like completely turning the tables on them, but in the fun way
I'd probably say yeah, it does make me nervous haha. It's sounds like a good icebreaker on its own, if I'm left In a room with some person i don't know it's gonna be awkward if it's just silence, so saying that and getting that response, then responding my way? Thats a good interaction. That's already some steps forward to connecting.
@@kenz2756
It all depends on the context I suppose
My most recent response was, "I'm waiting." The person who asked was so loud and talkative... I'm glad my cousin and sister added after my answer cause they were who I was waiting for
😂😂
"Why are you so quiet?"
"I'll just send you a video on that topic"
"Oh, I don't know. Maybe it's because growing up I was raised to never inturupt people and also in elementary school whenever I said anything my classmates always shunned me aside and made rude comments further reinforcing the mentality in my head that if I talk I'm doing something wrong."
I had the same experience. Whenever I'd present, some people would laugh which made me even more insecure.
If you talk, you talk. I say screw what the other people say. I'm a huge introvert myself with pretty bad social anxiety... and it's because of the same things you faced friend...
I did end up getting a girlfriend whom I love and she helps me get out of my bubble occasionally and I know I can always confide in her... man I've told her a lot of my deepest secrets and dreams and desires... 👀
Uh where was I going with this..? Oh yeah! It's all about being assertive. I'm 17 years old at the moment and becoming assertive is my goal. Don't be like me and rush it... Ease into it. Enter a conversation in a good mood, don't hold onto your thoughts and opinions, say them even if you think everyone won't agree..
Most importantly, don't trust everything your brain tells you. I'm an overthinker and a big one at that. My overthinking thoughts are usually bad for the most part...I can't tell you the amount of times I had to get reassurance from my girlfriend that she won't leave me for one of my friends or another guy (We hadn't spent much time together at that point because of exams.. but the idea was still there.. Even though I knew why we couldn't see each other) and the worst part is I know these are fake ideas and I try to replace them with good thoughts of things that actually happened and it makes me feel better.
I also do other things to keep my mind focused on something productive. Baking, breaking, fixing, cleaning or even just listening to music and analyzing the words and or beats and rhythm. Small things make a huge difference. I also do my projects bit by bit and let me tell you, the satisfaction of having it actually complete by the time I have to hand it in... PURE BLISS.
As you can see I rambled and just typed too much. Sorry for that lol. I didn't give my full advice or half of it... but let me stop now... Again, sorry for the wall of text
I have very narcissistic family members. I say anything and I’m being grumpy or difficult. Even asking for legitimate things like I’m tired after coming home from work and don’t feel like being bothered. Or getting yelled at because I got upset because my dad pulled my cat’s tail. I guess I’m conditioned to believe that anything I say is problematic so I just stay quiet
I'm sorry you had to go through that. 😔
Comebacks like these only come to me days later when I’m reliving all the embarrassing moments of my life
Right lol!
🤐🤐😕 when they aren't needed anymore
No cause same
once a classmate asked me this and i replied with
"bc theres ppl like you in this world, why should i?"
I NEED to do this at work!
People are literally so obsessed as to finding out why I'm so quiet all the time. I usually just shrug my shoulders and say "I'm just a quiet person I guess."
That's much better than responding as an asshole, which apparently people in the comment sections love to do. I mean it's just a question, why make a ruckus about it if people are indeed quiet?
@@kenz2756 because most people who ask this don't even want to be friends with you, they just fell unconfortable with the fact that you are a introvert. With does not make sense. Again most people not everyone
When people ask why I'm so quiet, my response is usually, "well, I don't have anything to say. I'm not going to speak if I have nothing to say. Would you rather me speak when I have nothing to say? Believe me, if I have something to say, I will say it. There's no problem there."
That’s a good honest response. I think I’ll use that. Sometimes when I don’t know how to respond to certain things I just go quiet. I think that might make it look to them like I’m brushing them off but I’m not. I’m genuinely just at a lose of words. Still that misunderstanding is better than me trying to force words out of my mouth. All I know who to be is myself, trying to act like someone else just makes me socially anxious.
"I'm quiet because I don't need to talk now. When I need to talk you best believe I'll say what I need to say and get it over with. No need to waste all my energy and time... especially when the person doesn't want to listen to me..."
Yes,this is exactly it,some people just don’t understand that I simply will only talk when I need to other than that,I’m not saying a word to you except of course good morning,thank you etc.
I used to have a coworker that picked up a knife very creepily and then started prepping vegetables every time somebody got on him for being quiet 😬
That is too funny!
this is gold
"That's how I function, any problem"
“You’re really quiet.”
“Thanks, it’s a skill that took me years to master.”
"Why are you so quiet?"
"This is the calm before the storm. 😡"
When people see you are quiet they tend to think you are being anti-social. That's not always the case but in my case, they are right.
Man, are sociopaths who plan for world domination your place's quiet people population?
It's my case too, but I think you meant asocial not anti-social.
Yeah, I have to admit to be asocial too. Not always but sometimes I feel like this cat: ua-cam.com/users/shortsGFAqaoSIAhg?feature=share
@@libera7161 😂
Last night a guy asked me how juice that was supposed to be on one shelf ended up on a different shelf four feet away. I told him I think humans did it. He said what? I repeated myself. He starred at me blankly. He asked if I like to drink juice. I said not really. He asked if I like Capri Sun. I said asked and answered. He's like no I just asked about Capri Sun NOW. It's a kind of JUICE! Ugh.
‘This is not me being quiet this is me trying to ignore you.’ Is a good one.
Ignoring people is a gesture you have a problem, either with them or yourself. You can answer genuinely or act like an asshole. Either way i think you're just fantasizing here.
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I am.
I’d never purposely upset someone lmao. Just thought it was a good one, sorry if I came over as a douche
I’m fairly loud too, so it doesn’t apply to me anyway
"Does my silence bother you? Sounds like a 'you' problem."
My aunt told me "I haven't really heard you yet" towards the end of our last "family reunion". I live alone, have no social life, and now I'm suddenly surrounded by about 20 very loud extroverts talking over everybody. Of course I'm quiet XD It takes a lot of effort not to faint, I have to stay focused.
EDIT: Forgot a word.
I remember when I used to work the officemates decides we should all get coffee. So I was just sitting there sipping on mine while they talk over each other. One of the girls noticed me and was like "Oh no, is there something wrong with you?"
"Yes, there is. I made the wrong decision following you all here"
@@nunyabiznes33 What's wrong? Is being quiet making you uncomfortable?
@@kenz2756 No. It makes people uncomfortable though - or they think I'm feeling uncomfortable.
@@nunyabiznes33 Sure, being left In a room with a cousin that i don't know - then have awkward silence, is a big discomfort to anyone whether introvert or extrovert. People just feel compelled to break the ice, so i do do that despite being introverted. I'm quiet but having more friends is not something I'm against, It's beneficial.
Gotta say, when you're ignoring people, that is read as a gesture that you dislike them, so of course they'll feel something's off. Either that or you're actually constipated or something LOL, even i as an introvert knows that. So don't feel surprised that they asked you that, i mean the dude even brought you a coffee, they expected you to like each other lol.
As a huge extrovert, I need to forever apologize to all the introverted people in my life when I have asked this question or was confused with their way of socializing. One was most likely always confused with me.
This is one of the rudest questions in my opinion, it always makes me feel out of place, not accepted and anxious, it makes me feel like being quiet = being me is not good enough and pressures me into apologazing for my very own nature
No introvert is ever confused with an extrovert need for talking and attention, they just accept it as the way they are without trying to change them. Even if they can be annoying AF at times. It's always the obnoxious extroverts trying to change an introvert. Not saying all extroverted people are obnoxious, but some can be so patronizing.
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I mean I'm pretty confused about where they get all the energy from
@@viktorthevictor6240 from socializing, duh. that's what makes someone an extrovert.
@@n0-b0dy Nah. It's probably from too much coffee.
Great video Frank! As an introvert this happens to me a lot. My best response is.... "Oh, don't mind me, I am just enjoying everything you are saying that I am contented just listening." Works everytime!
"If you can' say something nice, don't say nothin' at all." - Thumper
One time I responded with, "Because I am quiet." They seemed like they did not quite know how to respond to me simply owning the fact that I was quiet :P
That last one .... not exactly my story, but definitely my level of awkwardness and over-sharing. 🤣🤣
Me 😆. I don’t talk much, but when I am asked anything I’m embarrassingly honest
I have almost 0 filter. Like, people say that you shouldn't talk about, I don't know, your diarrhea or whatever, and I'm just like "...why not?"
I want to talk about my adenomyosis, but it grosses people out. 🤣
I kinda quiet bc almost all of my friends are chatterboxes (and I love to 'hear', not fond of talking). My aunt always teases me with "Why are you so quiet? I can't imagine how you can get a husband... If you can get them, are you just sitting around and be quiet together?"
Oh God... What's wrong with spending time together in quietness as long as it's wholesome for both parties 🤦🏻♀️.
Everyone knows that quiet people hood all power. It’s intimidating and I love it.
I’ve found that most people who ask me why I’m so quiet genuinely want to know why, so I give an honest answer. Now those that call me mute are another matter 🤦🏻♀️ 🥲
Exactly. Some people deserve to be brushed off like this, and some don't. Not sure how to tell exactly which one is which, though.
People thought I was mute and depressed as well
A guy once asked me, you don't talk very much, do you? I just stared at him silently for a few seconds (which I thought was a perfect, hilarious response). Apparently it just makes someone uncomfortable.
And i guess the question makes you uncomfortable. Don't get why not just respond, no reason to troll people otherwise.
"(which I thought was a perfect, hilarious response). Apparently it just makes someone uncomfortable." You say it like those two things are mutually exclusive, lol.
@@kenz2756it's was funny
@@kenz2756 When you ask a rude question you get what you get.
@Kenz We troll them because the question is rude.
They're ALL great. But the vomiting one had me in stitches!! 😅😂😅😂😅😂🤣
I"ve gotten a response of a sarcastic "Dude, you talk too much!" when being quiet all the time.
My response was "Well, I have a lot to say...just not verbally."
That got him to focus on a different employee from then on.
As this type of quiet introvert, I still really don't understand what is so weird and why does it look so abnormal to other people. Like, is it really that bad from an outsider point of view? How is my silence interfering with your normal way of living life?
I'm still not used to answering that question. Starting with my mother ever since I can remember and then many other people from then now, I just wanna know: why is that even a question? XD Like I don't understand what they don't understand and why do they find me being quiet as being something abnormal or something standing in the way of their tranquility. On the contrary, it should even make their lives less complicated, I'm not standing in the way, so what's the problem?
But I guess the answer lies in this: only the people for which their own silence would mean that there is something wrong with them or in their life, would be asking you 'why are you so quiet?' 'Cause they think you're like them and being quiet has to mean there's something wrong with you, by their flawed logic.
When being quiet can also mean you're perfectly comfortable with your own persona and this is how you manifest it. And then when those kind of people ask you these types of questions and you turn into a ball of anxiousness precisely because of them. And then they think you're finally ok because you seem more animated, when in fact they don't realize they have caused an imbalanced state in your life in those moments.
Some people dont like silence as it makes them uncomfortable. It scares them. "Silence screams the truth" - that's what I once heard. Some people are unable to be alone with themselves. They need contant outside impulses in form of company of other people. That's actually sad. It seems they can't handle things on their own. I wonder sometimes if they ever have time to reflect on things.
Now im an ambivert, which is a mix of both extra and intro, but people who are loud all the time are exhausting. They always have a need to say something even if it's something stupid and unnecessary.
Some of them are cowards who need constant distractions to deflect the uncomfortable subconcious thoughts they might have.
Yeah I hate it when someone just wants you to be bubbly and upbeat all the time. I’ve shown off some energy but now my mother thinks that’s my default personality when it’s not. And now every time I’m quiet or I don’t respond to a joke/tease, I’m just “in a mood”… ugh. I really wish I lived alone at this point.
@silent night wow. I'm sorry this happened but it does make a great story.
I've lived similar instances when (especially women, but I won't go there. I'm a woman) would think I thought I was better than them.... Because I was quiet and only participated in class... Like, that's what we are there for, be quiet and listen and answer. They always thought I was stuck up, mean, a biat@#, etc. Never understood why some people just disliked me so as I hardly ever said anything to anyone, let alone get in the way.
It still baffles me why people were so pressed
Makes sense
As a quiet person, you talk a lot in a UA-cam comment and this aint a negative thing to say cuz it is so fucking relatable to me.
We have a lot to say that stays in our head because we choose which are the good ones to speak out or talk about or else it'll just be nonsense
"I guess I see people like you and I'm like, 'Please, God, never let me get to that point'"... I'm totally using that one, thanks Frank! 😆
The dialogues are winning🎯. Seriously deserves more views.❣️FJ
My best response; “talking takes too much energy, and I’m tired.”
0:30 They will never ask again lol 🤣
Wow! Let it out, Frank!! 😱 My empathic nature felt every bit of that, especially the yelling!!🤣 The librarian and the Buddhist monk...🤯🙌😹💜
@VyVAceShaz 😂🙌 hilarious!
As a crocheter the counting in my head one spoke to me on a spiritual level 😂
Because I don’t want to talk to you is the best response.
0:18 You're so red here!!! 🤣🤣😂😂🤣🤣😂😂 Practicing for a while?
1:26 is my best one. Straight to the point.
As a passive-aggressive introvert, I will definitely be using it lol
Off the top of my head I have: "I only open my mouth when I have something to say", "You talk enough for both of us", "I was thiking about something else" and "Are you gonna obnouxiously gasp at the the sound of my voice like you didn't know I could speak again? It wasn't as funny as you thought it was the first time buddy".
They don't even ask me why. Just goes straight to answers themselves like "u're so quite, eww"
The Silent K one was pure gold 🤣