QUIET PEOPLE: You are hated because they can’t figure you out!
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Sad part. People are more likely to trust a loud drama person than a quiet person who does nothing but mind their business and at peace.
FACTS!!! Mind boggling.
This is so true. This happened to me at my religious meeting. I keep to myself She's a troublemaker, drama. I don't interact. I walk away. She came running after me, harassing. I turned around and lit into her. The next thing I know the Elders wanted to have a meeting with me. I said no. One of the Elders saw what she had done, plus she had a history of bad behavior. He put a stop to it. It's so ridiculous how these types of people get support.
The reality is most people in general are sheep and lack discernment. They want to fit in and go where the drama and gossip is. If you are the type person doesn't try to fit in, you will be look as weird or crazy.
I talk to some people more than others... The more a person points out how quiet I am in a negative manner, the more quiet I get around them.
Exactly because if they’re negative about it they’re showing their true colors. They’re looking for ammunition and you’re not giving it to them.
I do that as well! It 😊
Exactly that is accurate to the T
But also quiet people may talk a lot to people that they like and are comfortable with.
Soo true.
That’s me.
True
Yup 💯
Yes
Extroverts always want you to match their energy but they’ll never match yours.
so true!
Agree
@@t.sizzle5308 facts
We can be alone for weeks. Can they do that? 😂
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The less you talk the less they know so they can’t gossip 😮
EXACTLY!!! 👍🏿💯
Everything this dude says is spot on. People don't like it when I just sit and observe everything around me. You can find out a lot about others by just sitting there and observing your surroundings.
Exactly… Actions speak louder than words which is why I always observe before saying anything. Actions tell me all I need to know about a person.
So very true.
Well i hate when loud people talk. They treat quiet people like their freakin confession box
Haha yes they DO! 😂 And that's even more frustrating when they turn around and dog you out, but wanna use me as a therapist 🤦🏾♀️.
People call me secretive, because i keep it to myself, because when you think about it, most people dont give a danm, they have their own problem, my go to is only God.
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It is better to remain silent at the risk of being thought a fool, than to talk and remove all doubt - Maurice Switzer. One of my favorite quotes.
Absolutely. Another way of saying that is... Even a fool is considered intelligent as long as he keeps his mouth shut. Proverbs 17:28
Amen my go to ♥️🙏🏾 you get persecuted for keeping peace and staying quiet
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I'm so used of being quiet and when I try to talk to people my mind is blank. I have nothing to say. 😅
Likewise, and then when you do try to talk it sounds so awkward or start to stutter or the words coming out don't make sense and then people think you're weirder. Ugh would rather just stay quiet 🤦🏽♀️
Facts bro even when I was a people pleaser people would still talk about you so it doesn’t matter whether you talk or not people will always have Something to say about you which is ridiculous because if I’m quiet how am I bothering you.
I'm at peace with myself when I'm quiet. Small talk, talking just to be talking, takes me out my comfort zone.
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I'm very reserved. Silence can't be misquoted
Facts!
It’s also annoying when people ask why you so quiet. But if you said why you always talking they probably wouldn’t like that
probably?
Right 😂lol
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Exactly
Back to sender 😂
Most of what people talk about is complaining or just foolish things. Im just done with all that. They who talk poorly about quiet ones need to grow up. I recently had to quit my job because all I got was stink face from everyone cause Im a quiet private person
As a black man myself. People try their hardest to put me in a specific box but they can't because they don't know me. It bothers them for some reason. I am more than willing to let people know who I am. In some ways I'm not hard to approach. I don't make things difficult for everyone. It's funny how when I'm minding my own business it's some how I'm the most challenging person to be friends with when that's not necessarily the case.
Society is weird like that. Minding your own business is labeled in the most weirdest ways.
That person is:
- Angry
- Depressed
- Nervous
- Loner
- Loser
Where are these coming from? Insecurities of other people that's who. You being in your own lane bothers them. If you get that impression from them... STAY AWAY. They will not be your friend even if it seems like they want to be. Their intent isn't genuine and I know from experience. Some people are afraid they are figured out mostly by observant people. The quietest person is a threat to them.
Whatever facade they are pulling is something they don't want to be exposed.
They go from friend groups, work, school, and other regular gatherings.
Very well put and I 100% agree with this sentiment!!! 💯💯💯
"Why isnt she talking?" Someone said that to my boyfriend when I first met one of his friends.😂
The funny thing is I find a lot of extraverts very shallow, while quite people tend to be very down to Earth.
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True not all extroverts are friendly
Even if you don’t share much, people will make up things and spread rumors regardless An there’s always that one person in the group that has to label you “shy or quiet”.
I know it’s hard to do, but I personally do my best to not entertain lies. Depending on what they’re lying about of course. All of that nonsense is just to get a reaction out of you.
@@BigMike_RTTV. Once I notice the lying I tend to distance myself from those people. If I WANT to contribute to a conversation I will do it of my own free will. Don’t need assistance such as “you need to talk more”. In the workplace for example some people just want to mind their business and get their work done. If you don’t want to be involved in the gossip drama and such, coworkers and bosses will say “you’re not a team player”🙄 “you’re not friendly” and all sorts of stuff. They (both bosses and coworkers) will actively work to get you fired even though you’re not making any trouble. Well I guess that’s not the right place to be working at anyway
One thing that extroverts should stop doing is over talking while introverts are talking. Shut up and let us cook and process these gems of information.
Thank you!
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as a quiet person I grew u thinking something was wrong with me, nd wished I was as extroverted and outspoken as everyone else.. but now being 26 I've accepted that this is who I am, and Im not changing myself to make anyone feel comfortable.
You are same age as me. But I m not able to accept myself... coworkers at office always tells me I dont talk to them and I'm weird
Thanks Man, Im a very quiet person and people around me hates me. People label me as weird or crazy. I really can relate to this.
That’s their problem if you’re just being yourself. People will label you no matter what you do so if they’re gonna do it anyway it may as well be when you’re just being your genuine self.
I get the same thing at work. Don't talk to him. He's miserable, he's this, he's that, etc. I have told people. I am here to work. Not socialize. That is what the company is paying me for. I'm not here to make friends or enemies. I just want to do my job and go home to my family. If you have a problem with that. That's on you.
Same
@@hughkingsley8631 You are not alone.
I am introverted around most people but with the few, and I mean few individuals I trust I am quite chatty, funny, and silly.
I don't speak much in group settings b/c most people are superficial and gossipy. Gossip bothers me deeply so until I trust you I will remain in observer mode.
Also, most overtalkers do not share the space for others to shine their light, it is very unbecoming and annoying. I pray more people learn the art of active listening.
Extroverted chatty people often look foolish and they cannot see it, whereas quiet people rarely look or act foolish. "Better to be quiet and maybe be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt", as Abe Lincoln said.
Proverbs 17:28
Even a fool, when he holdeth his peace, is counted wise, and he that shutteth his lips is esteemed a man of understanding.
Im quite, but today a lady found out just how loud i can be when she decided to bully my four year old. Im quite and gentle but i can roar like a lion if you mess with my kids
I FEEL YOU ON THAT!!!
Being a quiet and genuine person gets u no friends..but lot of haters for some unknown reason.Dont ppl want to be around simple and authentic people?
@@steadyhorse1 You’re deemed boring and uninteresting when you’re quiet… At least that’s the perception. Very few will “Get You”, but that’s the price you pay for being your authentic self. Plus side to it is that you weed a lot of people out being yourself because most can’t tolerate it.
"Why are you so quiet?"
Because I'm not trying to give you ammo
so you can later shoot me in the back.
Facts… The less they know the better
@@BigMike_RTTV That is the same thing I said to someone.
I KNOW man that 💩 annoying
I love this statement
True! Just because someone's talking to you, doesn't mean they are telling you the truth. It doesn't mean you are learning who they are. If a person is quiet, they're not lying, back biting, or gossiping.
FACTS!!!💯
What's annoying is when you're at the gym, some random person you've never met will start talking to you like somehow you're their best friend and they'll talk your ear off. And then the next time you see them you say hi and they act like they don't know you or just say hi back and then walk off like you're bothering them. Extroverts are really weird. At least introverts in my experience have better manners and don't do random, strange garbage.
BROOO same shit happened to me he sparked up a conversation, next day I waved at him STRAIGHT UP walked and act like I never existed
I agree with Mike. The quiet people are very curious about their surroundings, and the people around them will say something like she or he clothes are wrinkled. I noticed that the talkative people gathered in a group can criticize the introvert.
@@terrencerobinson7553 Gang stalk even… Quiet ones are deemed a threat. Because we usually know a lot about a lot of people and they have very little to nothing on us.
This is the story of my life. Sometime I hate it because I can’t understand why people need to pry Rather than mind mind their business
Not the chatty patty! 😂😂😂😂 that’s a new one
I stole that one from Dame Dash I can’t claim it 😂
I think that being reserved allowed me to figure out who's trustworthy and who's not. People who try to make you feel like a weirdo for your personality from what I experienced do it as a mind game to force you to put your business out there for their approval. I had people scared of me simply because I don't say everything that's on my mind and I don't share personal stuff, I had someone tell me that they couldn't figure me out and that it troubled them. And some act shocked that you have friends, question your intentions even when you're straight forward, I think it's to chip at your self-esteem.
That’s their problem not yours… I never understood why some people have a need to know.
I'm pretty quiet but am nice to many people's surprise. I keep my personal life to myself unless I know you like that.
Same
I love being a quiet person. I’ve always been a quiet person. I’m loud around friends, but my natural disposition is to be quiet. Most of the time I enjoy being in my own head and I’m comfortable with myself whether I’m alone or with others. My parents always tried to make me be more extroverted. They really thought there was something wrong with me because I wasn’t an extrovert, had to do all this therapy and turns out I was just an introvert that’s just who I am and I’m not going to change it for anyone
@@anniestafford9321 You and me are just alike… I get loud and loose with my friends yes, but for the most part I’m just quiet and chill. No shame in that friend, keep being who you are. 👍🏿💯
I always end up having issues at work/school and I’m always labeled as the problem. Thank you for creating a video that others can relate to
Im so glad to see another big handsome.mike like me thats quiet ❤❤❤❤❤ awesome 👌 ❤❤❤
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you described what i went through in my last job. thank you for this
Pleasure friend… Happy to help. 🙏🏿
It's crazy how much being quiet and keeping to yourself can annoy others. You have to deal with constant sarcastic comments and being made to feel like you're being rude/weird just for not having much to say, or not wanting to mention every little thing you do and think all the time.
It annoys them because they have a conflict within themselves. I never understood how someone’s silence can bother some people so much. They’re not bothering you lol.!
Amen im quiet person my dream is being in a ranch by myself I'm like brook lesnar he doesnt like people at all
True, I am kinda quiet too. I don't really like people.
"Can’t figure you out"....I have been told this exact thing by a female supervisor in a female dominated office. It's no surprise I didn't last long in that environment.
@@user-ke5md1ho8h Smh that’s wild
I'm not your child or a puzzle, why do people need to know all your business? I feel like it is a nosy control thing.
They just have nothing else to do and nothing going on in their own lives.
I thought I was a quiet person but some people are really quiet. If they talk it's like they don't want to.
I rather being hated for minding my businees and quiet
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I read a comment on Reddit that said “why are you so quiet?” and the response was “because I actually think before I speak”. I’ve never related so much to a response comment before lmaooo
Yo that hits home! 💯
Some places if you don't openly pick a side, then you become the enemy to both sides and they try to do things to make your life miserable. What can someone do in a situation like that?
Get on God’s side.
People act like being quiet/introverted/reserved is a bad thing.
In the multitude of words there wanteth not sin: But he that refraineth his lips is wise. The tongue of the just is as choice silver: The heart of the wicked is little worth. The lips of the righteous feed many: But fools die for want of wisdom.
Amen!!! 💯💯💯
You are so wise! I’m so happy I found you’re channel, thank you for sharing you’re knowledge with us
I appreciate your comment. I have to give God all the credit… He’s brought me through a lot and I’d be remiss in not sharing. Blessings to you and thanks for watching! 🙏🏿😊
Introverted by nature 👈👈👈
Thank you. I really needed to hear this.
You’re most welcome 🙏🏿
What's so crazy is the loud mouths be the crazy ones. Because someone is outgoing doesn't mean you know them. People's thinking be off. Why do you have that much time on your hands to worry about what someone else is doing? Get a life.
I've been bullied /harraseed/taunted multiple times. But I observe. Then I strike. People will take your quiet as a weakness until you show them otherwise.
Don't COMPARE YOURSELF WITH OTHERS OR DON'T COMPARE COCKS
What you don’t give people they can’t use against you if you give someone the bullets they will shoot 😮😮
Big G always back with wise wisdom.
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Agreed !
Great video sir. As a rather talkative (lots of small talk and my own details) person when I get comfortable, I will have to try keeping myself to myself. Appreciate everything you do!
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Thank You for this!!! This is me all day!! But I get labeled when I go to certain jobs.
Which happens because people hate what isn’t easily understandable to them. That’s not your problem though. 💯
@@BigMike_RTTV Thank You
this video reassured me a lot so thank you, there have been people who have hated me for no reason and i never understood why, thank you so much!!
@perseus274 that’s the perfect way to describe it
I'm a very quiet person. I was brought up in an environment where kids should be seen and not heard, so we were rarely allowed to voice ourselves or face the consequences for being outspoken. My circle of people I associate with is very small. Less than one hand I can count. I grew up with 4 sisters and one brother and yet, I would walk the streets alone. Now, being alone, no longer bothers me. I have accepted my way of life. I bother no one and if my being quiet seems to trigger people. Don't know what to tell you. I'm hard-working, loyal and I'll give the shirt of my back to help someone. I just no longer have trust in people and the easiest thing for me to do is just to keep people at a distance.
Love this comment. It’s better to be quiet with a good heart than and loud mouth with a heart full of corruption. 🙏🏿💯
One reason I’m quite ppl like to control my mindset and how I feel bout things ppl talk over me loud asf over me their mindset be trash asf 🥱 everything a pointless debate and conversation
Exactly… A lot of conversations are fluff talk and merely pointless.
Even I am also Christian introvert even people call me anti social and anti community
That comes with the territory friend
Tune in , agree its true
Thanks for this encouragement, Mike, I appreciate it! It's Amazing how God will give us a good reason to open up our mouths, right?
Yes and also when to just remain silent. Thank you also for your comment. I’m glad you found it helpful. 🙏🏿
Amen so true..
Im always worried if I dont talk someones ear off, theyll think I hate them. At the same time, Im worried if I do talk, ill be judged anyway. The struggles real.
You going to be judged no matter what you do anyway… So you may as well be judged for being yourself.
Thanks Mike, so appreciate you speaking out, feel like I've found somebody that really understands. I migrated from China to Australia 21 years ago and I've been living here for more than half of my life, sometimes total strangers will come up to me a ask me where I come from. When the response is "here, Australia", they will keep pushing and trying to force me to give them the answer they want -- yes, total strangers asking me personal questions...
Thank you for your comment and I’m glad you’re here. And you’re not obligated to tell anyone anything that they’re not required to know. If they get upset about it so what. They don’t do anything for you lol.
Brother you are on track. I am Gossiped about. Targeted. Slander my name. Gathering of the "Flying Monkeys". They cannot figure me out and I love it. They have no facts!
As long as you’ve wronged no one then that’s their problem not yours. Keep doing you sister! 💯
@@BigMike_RTTV they have never even heard my voice. I keep it shut.
My god, I’m going though this! Thank you for sharing this!🙏
You’re more than welcome 🙏🏿
or they think they have you figured out and think there right. and there way off
Thanks
Pleasure 🙏🏿
Im quiet because i have selective mutism
Same 👍🏿
Thanks for always giving us knowledge💪💪💪
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Brilliant video. Thank you. 😊
Glad you enjoyed it friend… You’re very welcome! 🙏🏿
I've always been quiet. Today mostly because people argue when your opinion isn't the same as theirs.
@@daveskelton7101 Yoooo that boggles my mind!!! That’s exactly why I don’t discuss politics right there. People get into their feelings way too much for having a different point of view. It’s sick!
A lot of people don’t actually care to have a conversation or listen to people. They just do it to do it because they were told that’s what they should do. That’s why they don’t mind talking about nothing.
True!!! 👍🏿💯
Can u make a part 2 on this I enjoyed this video
Just posted 👍🏿
amazing video! i needed to hear this today ❤
I’m happy you found it helpful 🙏🏿
They said I’m too quite and don’t smile at work crazy things is I’m just chilling minding my business
And not bothering a soul smh.
@@BigMike_RTTV it’s crazy man. People fear wat they don’t understand so I just leave them alone
I don’t understand myself tho i am not shy talking to new people and i talk alot with my friends.. but at first glance people always assume i am a quiet person and my parents and relatives always say i am a quiet person and i never talk.. but at home you know i am tired and lazy to talk do i rather stay in my room and sleep .. but they pressure me so much that me being quiet becomes an insecurity of mine .. whenever they say i am a quiet person i start to think and become depressed why am i like that .. why cant people accept me for who i am.. why do i have to change?
Oh my goodness I relate to you so much. Growing up I was quiet and everyone made it seem bad, so I tried changing but I failed and now whenever someone says I'm quiet I feel bad. But now I'm learning to continue and like myself for who I am. Even though I still feel bad cause almost everyone in the family is chatty and I'm not
You be surprised that Women take small and big ❤
thank you for the encouragement sir 😊😊😊
Always welcome
They get so offended by it too lol
Crazy isn’t it?…lol
Great message 😃🖐️❤️❤️❤️it
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Great video sir thank you for sharing
You’re more than welcome 🙏🏿
Im him im that quiet person i recently found you and really enjoy your videos 😊
Thank you I appreciate that you found the content helpful. 🙏🏿
I think I finally found someone I can relate to. 👍
And I’m glad you’re here! Welcome 🙏🏿
Thank You 🙏🏾
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The annoying part is when they asked why are you so quiet or if they ask are you ok and say you’re fine they still think something is wrong
They just can’t leave you alone haha
@@BigMike_RTTV lol exactly
Why would they go a mile to destroy me and my future 😭🥺
Jealousy or intimidation possibly.
The only problem with talking or no talking is that when I do say something people get tje wrong idea seeing me and dont know the issue but when i am quiet that seems weird. It's like youre damned if you do bit damned if you dont.
Just can’t win… Just be yourself.
I found my ppl😞
Thanks so much ❤🎉😊😂
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That's is right. 100
Facts..
Extroverts are usually a laugh but can be rude, they tend to talk at you rather than have a conversation, they say what’s on their mind you try replying to what they’ve said and they cut you off mid sentence by talking louder over you after a while of this I personally shut down and just listen, then they will ask why you so quiet lol a conversation involves more than one person talking.
I don’t even entertain a person any longer once I see that they’d rather talk than listen. Cutting me off mid sentence is my biggest pet peeve.
Faxs
Tuning in
I used to be quiet and people thought im dum
Who cares what they think… Unless you’re quiet when it’s warranted for you to speak. But not everything deserves a response.
7k subs soon 😍
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