The first story when Shayne starts taking about reactive sexuality, accelerators vs brakes, and saying “you don’t have a low sex drive, your brake is just on” has changed my brain. Thats so insightful and incredibly helpful for me personally. I really love that Reddit stories is both funny goofy time and genuine analysis and introspection. As an autistic person, these conversations have helped me to understand so much about myself and about interpersonal interactions. Gonna go sit with this new knowledge for a little while and let it marinate on my brain.
I'm curious if this book touches on asexuality at all because, as one myself, a lot of people struggle with understanding what that means or how it differs between individuals as it's a spectrum. Like, I very much have a sex drive but I'm not attracted to any gender or sex and have no desire to physically be with another person. But other asexuals find people attractive but genuinely have no sex drive, some have very specific "accelerates" like Sapiosexuals only getting turned on by intelligent people. It can be hard for a lot of allosexuals to understand the nuance and how to properly communicate with the acespec person.
@@RiveroftheWither Come As You Are acknowledges asexuality but isn't really aimed at asexual people. If you're sex favorable or sex neutral, I think you could still get a lot out of the book (I did). And I feel like Emily Nagoski has talked more about asexuality elsewhere, maybe in her newsletter, but I don't remember where exactly.
makes you wonder how many times they say "cut that" and actually do cut it. do they really get even more out of pocket than what they let us see. chilling to think we may have only seen a fraction of angela's chaos
My husband had the leg lengthening surgery, but not to be taller. He was in the military and was shot through the femur (thigh bone) and lost 45 mm (about an 1.5 inches of bone. He went years with an uneven gait which led to hip, knee, and back problems. We decided to do the lengthening to help alleviate those. It took 45 days to lengthen the bone because you can only separate the bone 1 mm a day. Bone will not jump a gap so you have to separate it slowly. Then another 2 months to heal completely. He still has some back and knee pain, but it’s much better after making his legs even again.
I have a coworker who's son had a leg thing since he was born, had this procedure. It has legit medical value, but it's also very funny to imagine some dude just doing it because they want to be taller lol
This Spommy content was *AMAZING* they were riffing so well with Shayne. Dude, they have to be put in more videos together for real. This was one of my favorite Reddit Episodes in a while.
I thought you were calling Spencer "mommy" for a minute and I had to take some time to realise that's definitely NOT what you were saying, and self reflect on why I would even think such a thing...
"My family poops big." belongs in the pantheon of iconic opening lines alongside, "It was the best of times, it was the worst of times" and “Call me Ishmael.”
"My family poops big." is in the same level as “It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune, must be in want of a wife.” in terms of famous opening lines
My favorite thing about Spencer and why he's my favorite is because he makes the wildest jokes that people just silent laugh at and have physical reactions to. Mostly every joke he makes does. He's my absolute favorite and I also need more of these three omg!
My cousin had a leg cage for lengthening for years when she was in highschool because she was born with one short leg (I believe it also had a deformity) and absolutely needed it for her quality of life. I can't imagine volunteering to do it for both legs.
Right, I can see it being a really helpful tool for mobility issues like that (and even then, I can totally see many people using prostetics instead of a big surgery). To do it for "vanity reasons" feels so extreme that the level of mental health issues worries me. Most "cosmetic" surgeries are not that invasive, I think. Unless it's something like gender confirmation surgeries involving nerves and function. But even that feels less invasive and has research for the medical positives and quality of life. But the leg one feels like the risks are soooooo very high to every day function for something that changes so little. I don't know... it worries me.
I know a guy who’s brother was in a similar situation, one leg was shorter than the other (not significantly so, it’s not like one was half the size, but it affected his quality of life). When I was in primary school, around age 11, I saw him wearing a leg brace for the first time (he may have worn it longer but I never saw it). I’m not nearly 18, he still wears the leg brace. Why would you voluntarily do that to yourself for vanity?
@@hernameispekka_Rebeccamost cosmetic surgeries are also reversible to a degree. Like you can get implants removed, most if not all injections need to be maintained. But the surgeries where it changes your skeleton like having bone to change your jawline for cosmetics at least just requires an incision and then at most a jaw brace for a few months. That's the most extreme one I can think of and even that is way less than leg or spinal lengthening procedures and recovery
Yeah, my mom had one leg that was very slightly shorter than the other for most of her life (a result of a hip injury she'd had as a kid). The difference between the length of her legs was so small, you couldn't see it when you looked at her and it didn't affect the way she walked in any way that you'd notice. But that very tiny difference caused her to balance herself differently than most people when she walked, and that resulted in the knee on that side taking extra wear and tear until it finally needed to be replaced when she got older. The different distribution of balance also affected her spine in a way that caused a lot of problems as well and also resulted in surgery. Tbh, she probably could've used the leg-lengthening surgery (especially since the knee replacement ended up being just as traumatic and time-consuming, thanks to the hospital introducing MRSA into the area and having to take the artificial knee out twice to battle it; at one point, she had no knee and a picc line with antibiotics running into her chest for ~6 months). So, for QoL stuff and preventing possible problems down the road, I can absolutely see how leg-lengthening surgery would be worth it. Doing it because you're insecure about being short, though, is just wild. My height is decidedly average and I've dated women who are both taller and shorter. If you truly like each other, it doesn't matter and no one cares. If the person does care that much about your height, then they're not the person for you.
@mortifer6390 I don't really want to be calling people out, and it does boil down to my opinion. However, one of the reddit story episodes is very controversial. The trio on that one has literally NEVER reappeared 2 of 3 only.
i did an essay about the limbs lengthening and its not the bones that are the problem. Bones can easily fix themselves and elongate with the surgery. Its the muscles that pose a big problem. They regenerate incredibly slow and that's where the complications arise. From what I've researched, the north American procedures seem to be doing well but it takes a Loong time to be fully able to move around. Like a good solid 2 years to be able to run again. Bigger issue for me is that there isn't enough time allotted to test to see how far along the surgery could affect you in later years.
I spent too long a while ago researching it after watching another video talking about it.. my legs were cramping with sympathy pain. So not worth it, maybe one day but the muscle thing made me flinch 😫😫😫😫 Shayne is totally correct, the right person won't care.
oof... Thanks for sharing the info. Insecurities are a real deal, your brain is literally insisting EVERYBODY ELSE cares and pays attention when in fact NOBODY else but you yourself actually does. And in fact a lot or insecurities, especially when channelled in toxic gender expectations and social roles kinds of reactions, are a major turnoff for most people, much more so that the superficial aspect of physique is likely to be. It heals nobody to tell them their insecurity is what's making them less attractive instead of the matter of their discontent, and we should be sensitive about how we approach the issue of insecurities especially when it comes to young people. But also, an adult man of average hight letting their hight affect their close relationships and overall behavior, paying into cultist internet pseudoscience and taking the insecurity out on their significant other is plain pathetic. I'm not one to bash cosmetic procedures with can have a major life quality increasing impact when handled with care and consideration with adequate concern and caution from the health care providers, but speaking about the realities of both the causes of the demand for and effects of these procedures is increasingly important. Most cosmetic insecurities are arbitrary at bast and delusional at worst. Real, but not necessarily based in reality.
I'm only 4'10" and when I was 16 I had an x-ray of my hand taken to look at my growth plates and the doctor was like "ehhh... you *might* get another quarter of an inch but you're pretty much done growing." and I was like "and there's no way for me to be taller?" and the doctor was like "well, we could break your legs, put pins in and crank you up every month or so but it would be incredibly painful" and I was like 😬 "no thank-you."
Yes. I had my femur lengthened (one femur was much shorter) for quality of life reasons. The true work is the months after the device is placed. You have to slowly bring the bones apart manually with a type of wrench so everything else in the leg can adjust. Your leg(s) are broken for months, I personally had a lot of complications due to infections, the physical therapy afterwards is brutal, and I personally still have other muscle related issues years later. Some people even need the procedure redone in some cases, they had it as an option for me but I chose something else to help with the leg difference. Long story short, it was well worth it for my case. But for cosmetic reasons only?? Id suggest lifted shoes or learning to be content with your natural height 😅
Proposing at someone's wedding is rude for two reasons: 1. You are taking the focus off of the couple, and the entire purpose of the event is to focus on the couple. 2. You are using the time, money, and labor of the dozens of people that worked to create a great event, with a venue, decorations, inviting all your friends and family, food, music, etc, in order to make a picturesque backdrop for your proposal. How about this? If you propose at my wedding, you pay for half the costs. Deal? No deal? Then you were just looking to mooch off the work I put into the event.
Honestly, the least you could do is ask the actual couple. If they’re okay with it, you can slot in a time, make it part of the occasion. It could be a fun way to end the reception, as well as give the newlyweds some breathing room. Maybe during the bouquet toss if they’re really generous. Of course, THEY’D get to decide when it happens, and they are still well within rights to give a hard no. Regardless, it’s ABSOLUTELY something you don’t surprise them with, especially as the best man. If they would support you anyway, there’s no reason not to ask.
Excellent point, I want it to become standard etiquette to send them a bill if they do that. If you’re feeling especially cheeky, include it in your invitations or a sign at the wedding that says “if you propose to someone at this event, you are consenting to a legally binding contract to pay for half of the wedding”
I would hope people were less sensitive. So he proposed, big deal. It's just one moment in a long wedding reception after which everyone will refocus on the wedding couple.
@@rasheedismyname8226 they literally mention in the story that everyone did not in fact refocus on the wedding couple, but made the proposal a big deal also how's any of this to do with the overplayed fiddle of "being too sensitive"?
Ikr? The only thing that would be worse is doing it during the vows. OFFICIANT: Do you take this man to be your lawfully wedded husband? BRIDE: I do. BEST MAN: Sorry to interrupt, but you know who else we should ask if they do? My girlfriend. **Turns to gf in crowd and gets down on one knee** Babe, we've been together for almost 2 months now, and...
the woman putting the pics in the slideshow really just the play hamlet puts on to know that claudius killed his father, it's so Shakespearean and theatrical I love it
Shayne, it actually meaans SO MUCH to me that you pointed out how illogical the animal death story was. By myself, I would've been too caught up in my own anxieties and emotions to condiser the logical points you made. Hearing a story that's definitely fake and then having you immediately point out the fakeness? It's better for my mental health than even skipping over that story would have been! ❤
I immediately was like "wouldn't it only foam?" and started googling. Apparently, you wouldn't be able to consume so much vinegar and baking soda for it to explode. You would "only" throw up. Tbf, that's the case for humans, for hamsters it might be different, but I doubt that a hamster would be able to consume that much as well.
Also the hamster would have to eat a lot of baking soda and vinegar, both of which are usually unpleasant but it's a hamster so I can see it happening, the baking soda would have to not dissolve completely in the stomach acid, and the vinegar would have to be not completely diluted by saliva and other internal juices. Then the hamster would have to not be stinking up a storm with it releasing gas. Obviously wouldn't expand either. But that story is kinda funny as hell.
It's probably a good exercise to assume all reddit stories are fake in some way (I deeply empathize with how you feel btw, im like that too). The thing is, most stories will have missing information, some parts of it deeply exaggerated or straight up faked for the sake of drama. I'd argue the people telling the stories are mostly creative writers, or unreliable narrators and the rare poor soul that actually had that happen to them. Hope that helps!
Our version of the "poop knife" were popsicle sticks. We had a bathroom drawer full of them (mom got them from the craft store) and we'd grab one whenever needed. The pro was you could throw them away and not have to wash or re-use. The last five mins of this episode are GOLD. "Tommy's silence was deafening", "He needed serious mental and physical help." 1:00:38
Happy birthday Shayne Happy belated birthday Tommy Happy day Spencer edit: Yeah this episode is an instant rewatch for me, absolutely great stories and vibes.
The notion of a flawless marriage or relationship is a myth. There's no set formula for success; what works for one couple may not work for another. Yet, I've discovered that there's always a way forward, even in the most challenging times. Five years ago, my wife and I encountered significant hurdles in our marriage that nearly led to divorce. Despite the adversity, we managed to weather the storm and emerge from it with our bond renewed and revitalised
It's always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white
The way Shayne said “my wife-“ and started giggling and Tommy went “shut up!” I fucking love this trio. I’m gonna need more Tommy, Spencer, and Shayne together in stuff 😂❤
The only time I’ve ever seen a proposal at a wedding go well, was when the couple knew and it happened after. At the throwing of the bouquet, were instead of throwing it the wife handed it to the woman who was then proposed to. Like that is sweet, cus everyone knew and they had approval. And it was a fun playoff of a weird lil thing about weddings.
First story: Neither is the AH. I understand her feelings, especially feeling rejected. I don't think BF was in the wrong. He was excited, but he couldn't stop the game at that moment. It's definitely a communication thing, and I think they can grow from it. My husband and I had a similar issue when we were younger. I learned which games he can't/can pause, and he tells me when his raid nights are or if he just started a match. I always play pausible games, but my husband loves games like LOL, Runescape, and WoW.
@@mage1439she said it ended up being 20mins so that also doesn’t help that he said 10-15 and it was more than that. Not saying he’s an AH but if they’ve been having issues with her not wanting sex as often, I’d prioritize that over a 20min raid
@@mage1439 exactly my opinion too, anything over an hour and I'd understand being upset a little, but 20 min feels like he was still thinking of her. Could have talked it out vs going to reddit 😅😂 hopefully her saying it ruined his night doesn't mean he got really upset though
As someone who gets to the end of a story and then gets sidetracked, and thus frequently misses the beginning of the next story, I really appreciate the timestamps!
Hi, six foot tall girl here, here’s my (purely anecdotal) on-the-ground research regarding dating men of many heights: The ones who were about my height or even slightly taller were the ones who would slowly but surely make my height a “problem”. I have my theories as to why, which is that these guys were always used to being “tall” to other women they’ve dated, and then here comes my monstrous (lovingly) ass, and they don’t know how to deal with that. Shorter dudes or super tall dudes (which I’ve also dated) have never really had to confront that. Shorter guys are used to being same height or shorter in some cases to their female partners, and super tall guys don’t regularly encounter ladies that are around their height. I don’t know. It’s weird. For the record, I legit don’t care about height, but I DO care if you want to try and make MY height an issue. It just feels like it’s a problem with that guys particular ego getting bruised (for literally no reason, we can’t control our heights), and that has nothing to do with me, so stop trying to make it my problem.
Eyy I'm 6ft too. 😊 I've never had people closer to my height causing issue. It's always been people who are shorter who tried making me feel guilty for being tall. I guess it depends 😅 I've never been fussed if someone is shorter than me, but I refuse to be a scapegoat for their insecurities, if they can't get over the fact I'm taller (something I can't change), they need to move on.
I’m 6’ 3” and I was super into this girl at school that was 6’ 5”. She was stunning and I’m pretty sure that if she could only date guys taller than her, she’d still be single. I’d catch flack for trying to get to know her since “you’re still shorter than her”. “Bro, who cares: I climbed trees as a kid, what’s stopping me now?”
Shayne reading “Come As You Are” not only solidifies how great of a guy he is, but what a good partner he is as well. While this book talks about sexuality as a whole, it does tend to cater to Afab sexuality
They're referring to his partner and wife who doesn't identify as a woman which is why afab is used. Cis Women are still afab, they weren't wrong for that verbage.
@@nahthxafab can refer to trans men and nonbinary people who are afab. they can have different experiences with sexuality, and depending on if the book uses feminine and “women” terms, that would dictate whether it is for all afabs, or just woman sexuality.
I don't think anyone is the asshole in the first story because it fully aligns with what they've set before. The boyfriend set the precedent of "it's when you also want it", and she wanted it one night. He wasn't in the mood/situation to want it, and she lost interest in it. The story never said that the boyfriend was upset, so it shows that he respect her right to withdraw that desire. It's just a certain point in time in a relationship.
It mainly just feels like she might just feel insecure in the relationship due to her not being as interested in that form of intimacy. The OP mentions that they've been together since they were both 20, so there's a chance that she might not have been in many relationships, and she might feel a form of FOMO or be feeling as if she's letting him down. Even the boundary of sex happening when she was 100% into it was imposed by the boyfriend, and the OP chose to make a compromise that. Now that a condition isn't being met (she is no longer in the mood by then), she might feel regret in rescinding her desire. Since OP is posting about it in the first place, this is probably a newer experience for them, so I feel that it's just jitters from unfamiliarity.
On the first one, as an asexual, I totally get why she felt bad and not in the mood anymore after she went to the effort and was put on hold. It's really hard to stay in that mindset of being open to sex when you have to wait, not to mention feeling rejected. But also on the other hand I understand where the guy is coming from. He's not a jerk for not dropping everything to have sex asap. It's a hard situation to be in that me and my husband have been navigating for about 14 years. More communication will help more than a surprise. If you'd let him know to be ready for something as you were headed home, he may have not started the raid. Just some advice to someone who will never see it lol, and to anyone else who might be in this sort of relationship. Also huge shoutout to everyone who've navigated their asexual/allosexual relationships to the point where you only have sex when you really want to, and are comfortable sticking to that. It can be honestly harder than you'd think for the asexual in such a relationship to feel comfortable enough to set those boundaries.
That said, while the boyfriend should probably take the opportunity given that it doesn't arise very often.. I get how it can feel unfair when partners don't exactly match up. And one partner sort of "runs" when intimacy happens, and then if there's one time you yourself aren't in the mood or in this case are doing something else like a hobby, it feels doubly bad. I dont think its fair to expect the other partner to always at a whim drop something they might be doing because the low sex drive partner is ready. Surprise is nice but I agree, when intimacy is that infrequent it probably would've been best for her to communicate before she got home. She's not a bad person for doing it, but it sounds like she needs to be a bit more understanding or flexible to make their relationship work.
@@11DaltonB Yeah, by no means is anyone in the wrong for having a low sex drive. But that doesn't mean your 'not right now' holds more value than his 'not right now'. He isn't obligated to say 'yes' simply because of how infrequently you're in the mood. That would be getting into dangerous territory
39:42 She thinks this wasn't "the high road", but I think it absolutely was. She had a lot of much lower roads available to her that she didn't walk down.
FR. I’m not 100% sure if I would have gone through with it, but I’d definitely fantasize about giving a speech ripping apart his character and putting a bunch of photos of them up there. Her devil on her shoulder is quiet and I respect her endlessly for that, because I’m not sure I could be the same 😂
Thank you SO much for finally revealing the poop knife story! It's mystery has been plaguing me since I first heard mention on the podcast 😂 Love you all, I listen to the reddit reads while cleaning houses and it makes me lol (for realsies)😅 You all seem like my kind of people, and I can tell you enjoy each other's company. Your other material is great too, but these are best for just listening so I'm sad I'm all caught up! Thanks for bringing laughter to my day, and Happy Birthday Shayne! 🎉
My boyfriend's family has a 'poop stick' that they use. Its in a bucket along with the plunger that they use in the same manor. Their house was built in the 1800s and is basically falling apart, so the plumbing was installed around the 1930-40s and hasn't had the most renovations. The toilet clogs a lot because of that, so they just always had the habit of using the poop stick to break it up if the poop was on the bigger end to ensure they don't have to spend money on upgrading their plumbing
at least that family is smart enough to keep it in the bathroom, the poop knife family keeps it in a separate room entirely and they bring it back there after its done
My family had a poop screwdriver when I was growing up. It was just a really long flathead screwdriver. We also kept it in the closet in our laundry room for some reason.
Since hamsters exploding came up, this actually happened to me. It was not gory, but when I was younger my family went to a festival during the summer. When we came back, we realized my sister did not put water in his bottle. It must have been 100 degrees upstairs (no ac, just windows units which were off). We went up to check on him and there he was, probably more than 3 times his normal size, upside down, mouth hanging open. It was very traumatic and I’ve never let my sister forget. I’ve included “my hamster exploded” in two truths and a lie ever since.
I’m so sorry that happened. I can’t imagine how traumatizing that must have been for you and your family. How old were you and your sister? You say you won’t ever let her forget, but please be aware that you are now perpetuating a never ending cycle of trauma. I hope you both can find peace with each other and let the cycle come to a close. Really wishing you the best.
If it's any consolation, that almost definitely happened after death. Bloat is a natural thing for corpses that occurs when bacteria in the body cause gaseous buildup. There's no reason that dying of heat/dehydration would cause that sort of swelling that I can think of.
For those who are curious, the “reactive sexuality” Shayne is talking about is actually called responsive desire. There are two types of desire: responsive (responds to stimulation and the senses) and spontaneous. It’s more of a spectrum than two different categories. It’s common for both partners to be more spontaneous early in a relationship, and then settle into their natural desire type.
As someone who watches these videos during dialysis for kidney failure (which makes me sleepy) and to fall asleep at night, I would LOVE a soundboard lol. These videos are awesome and have made treatment so much more entertaining. Anyways, thanks Smosh.
@@neliaferreira9983 basically it's a bunch of different buttons that, when pressed individually, play a specific sound assigned to said button! sometimes it's an actual physical electronic device called a "soundboard", other times it's just a bunch of buttons on a digital screen! :3
@@neliaferreira9983 it means sound effects they can hit live. Watch the podcast “perfect person” (there are episodes with smosh members!) for an example
11:58 the menage terminology and explanation and then Tommy bringing Nicki Minaj to the convo plus the automatic captions got me off guard and made me spit my water laughing lmao
Honestly would love if Shayne ever wants to do a whole +5 hr video unedited just talking about psychology stuff! I love getting to hear people talk about the things they're passionate about.
I was listening to him thinking "just a few episodes ago he talked about never using his psychology degree, but clearly he is very knowledgeable and has great insight, I think that degree is working out great for him!"
The poop knife update is that it keeps being reposted so much, someone keeps changing the "years" on the story. So Happy we finally got to hear the story LIVE!
57:51 my grandparents had a poop knife growing up. it seems so normal growing up then getting older you’re like “oh. that’s actually insane now that i think of it”
Shayne having read Come As You Are was not what I expected, but it’s awesome! I work for a counseling clinic that specializes in Sex Therapy, and it’s a book we often recommend and have several copies of. Emily Nagoski (PhD) really knows her stuff, and is a phenomenal sexuality educator. For those interested in her work, she’s also written a book called Come Together. Where Come As You Are is primarily a delve into how we think about women’s sexuality, Come Together focuses on intimacy in long-term relationships and discusses a lot about “the mood”, spontaneity, and desire, which is a exactly the sort of thing that first story’s couple would benefit from reading about.
Shanye, my mom and I usually watch your reddit stories together. Sometimes I watch beforehand in case I need to prepare her for a certain topic or story… unfortunately today I made the mistake of not actually watching it beforehand, so now my mother knows the tale of poop knife. I was mortified when it came up, but luckily she laughed about it. I guess everything worked out and it will now be a funny joke for us later lol 😭😂
Another term for a "reactive" sex drive is "responsive desire", which I like because it sounds a little more intimate and less like a warning for hazardous chemicals 😄 I've gone down a few rabbit holes trying to figure out how the allos work.
37:40 I LOVE THIS GIRL. she ate soooooo hard and i LOVED how he asked to meet in a oublic place bc he was definitely scared 😭😭she was ABSOLUTELY in the right, and it was GENIUS because it freaked him out sooo much
I had to take an hour break from this video to go on a rabbit hole dive of responsive versus spontaneous drive and its wild to me that as a 24 year old i had to learn about this concept from smosh. This has been a mild issue in my relationship but now i have endless information about working through this concept. Smosh helped me understand my sexuality and that hurts my brain
As a short man I can say that tall women care as much about height as short women do. Some do want a taller guy but most don’t care or at the very least if you’re the same height it’s fine. Tall women know they’re tall and a lot of the time they’ve been made to feel weird about it so they don’t judge men on their height.
@@lfrandsyou're the same height went you're horizontal. people who care about height are usually projecting what they feel like when they see a taller woman with shorter man. If the look of you two together is more important than health, it's likely a shitty relationship. It feels so awkward and wrong to me but its just how some people have matured(or not) i guess 🤷♂️
When Shayne started talking about reactive sexuality I just knew he'd read Come As You Are, lol. Very good book, highly recommended to both men and women who want to make their sex life way easier to navigate.
28:01 with the wedding one, what if the girl said no, not saying it's super likely, but what If she did, not only would that ruin your proposal but it would ruin their wedding too
Ah, you should totally read the famous Reddit stories. All the legendary ones. Streetlamp LeMoose, the jolly rancher story, the mysterious post-it notes, TIFU by trying to throw my steak out a window with the follow up from his wife, 'today me, tomorrow you', don't ask me how I took this picture, the potato story, and of course the swamps of Degobah, which deserves it's very own video.
I want to say two hot takes has done the jolly rancher story though it might be on the Patreon. I know Morgan for sure has referenced it, and I'd have to reread for a refresher, but I think I've heard it.
The second Tommy started talking about the surgery, I immediately knew what was up! I had that reconstructive surgery when I was around 10, but it was to lengthen my one leg because it was shorter than my other one due to a fused bent knee (it was just a birth anomaly). The braces are called external fixators and I had one for about a year---I grew 7 inches of bone, way more than the doctors expected, which I guess was kind of cool? (I don't really remember much, I basically looked like the angry cat meme for 12 months because I was so disinterested in what the doctors had to tell me about my growth). While it has certainly helped me, it was an incredibly painful and excruciating process (you twist the bars every few weeks and constantly replace them the more the bone is forcefully grown. The bars are attached to pins that are attached to your bone, hence, the 'stretching' affect), not to mention the fact that I basically spent the whole next year after that going through physical therapy to reteach myself to walk. So yeah, I don't know if I would say it's worth it just to gain an extra few inches of height. Also, because I live in Canada, I was fortunate to get all of this done for free (basically), so the thought of even spending upwards of $75,000 on just the surgery alone is a little crazy to me. But I mean, if that's something you're into, you do you, I guess?
For people that are proposing at weddings I suggest the wedding parties involved do this in response: don’t kick them out. Don’t yell at them. Do not acknowledge what just happened at all or congratulate them either. When they get upset about why no one’s saying anything tell them it’s bc the party wasn’t for them. Take away the attention seeking satisfaction they were trying to get
@@royalblu1100REAL, not a woman but still get it. I'm 5'9, I'm usually taller than most my friends and partners (if I have them) but either way, I quite enjoy boots with heels. This always gives them a complex despite being shorter than me because I'm now taller- it's wack.
Happy birthday shayne and damn look at you teaching everyone about sexuality I really appreciate that. People don't seem to understand just how complex sex is and hopefully it sparks people to learn more
22:59 - that is called a self-fulfilling prophecy: when an individual's expectations about another person or group eventually result in the other person or group acting in ways that confirm the expectations.
The only time I've ever seen/heard of a proposal at a wedding that wasn't crazy, was a video I saw where the Bride was in on it and handed her bouquet to the girl before having her turn around to see the guy proposing.
If I have a traditional wedding (up in the air) I think I’d start throwing things at a bridal party or groomsmen who proposed to their partner without informing my partner and I. Because I don’t care about weddings, I would’ve said ‘yeah go ahead’ if they had informed us assuming my partner agreed. But if they had the audacity to do it without warning me? Fucking war has been declared. You don’t surprise me with that shit on my big day.
Having recently binged the Perfect Person episodes with smosh folks on as guests, ABSOLUTELY GET A SOUNDBOARD! Especially if you let Courtney pick out the sounds, their taste in weird noises is forever immaculate!
Accurate. That's the state of a lot of men in the MGTOW, incel, alpha male, manosphere trying to date. I've seen way too many guys actually have a shot and then just blow it because they can't let go of their bad attitudes, biases, insecurities, etc. like I have literally seen women get called gold diggers that only want to date men with 6 figures... because the girl offered to pay for half during the first date and that guy wanted to believe that was an attempt to shame and humiliate him for not being rich. She turned down date 2 because he literally insulted and cussed her out and that then became the "proof" that she only cares about money. It's wild the lengths people go to avoid actually dealing with their problems.
The first story when Shayne starts taking about reactive sexuality, accelerators vs brakes, and saying “you don’t have a low sex drive, your brake is just on” has changed my brain. Thats so insightful and incredibly helpful for me personally. I really love that Reddit stories is both funny goofy time and genuine analysis and introspection. As an autistic person, these conversations have helped me to understand so much about myself and about interpersonal interactions. Gonna go sit with this new knowledge for a little while and let it marinate on my brain.
I'm curious if this book touches on asexuality at all because, as one myself, a lot of people struggle with understanding what that means or how it differs between individuals as it's a spectrum. Like, I very much have a sex drive but I'm not attracted to any gender or sex and have no desire to physically be with another person. But other asexuals find people attractive but genuinely have no sex drive, some have very specific "accelerates" like Sapiosexuals only getting turned on by intelligent people. It can be hard for a lot of allosexuals to understand the nuance and how to properly communicate with the acespec person.
@@RiveroftheWither Come As You Are acknowledges asexuality but isn't really aimed at asexual people. If you're sex favorable or sex neutral, I think you could still get a lot out of the book (I did). And I feel like Emily Nagoski has talked more about asexuality elsewhere, maybe in her newsletter, but I don't remember where exactly.
@@RiveroftheWitherAce by Angela Chen is a great book about being ace written by someone who is ace so I highly recommend!
Same! I texted my gf about it right away lol. I’m really wanting to read that book now too
@@RiveroftheWither yeah same here asexual and I have a hard time defining if I even HAVE a sex drive being sex repulsed
I love that every time I watch one of these videos someone will say “ we can cut that” and the editors do not, in fact, cut that
Angela is the common victim to this 🤣🤣🤣
It's a running joke
makes you wonder how many times they say "cut that" and actually do cut it. do they really get even more out of pocket than what they let us see. chilling to think we may have only seen a fraction of angela's chaos
and now george primavera has fallen victim to this as well 😂😂
Especially since there are two editors in this video. 🤣
My husband had the leg lengthening surgery, but not to be taller. He was in the military and was shot through the femur (thigh bone) and lost 45 mm (about an 1.5 inches of bone. He went years with an uneven gait which led to hip, knee, and back problems. We decided to do the lengthening to help alleviate those. It took 45 days to lengthen the bone because you can only separate the bone 1 mm a day. Bone will not jump a gap so you have to separate it slowly. Then another 2 months to heal completely. He still has some back and knee pain, but it’s much better after making his legs even again.
I’m so glad that procedure exists
that kind of use for leg lengthening is great!!! using it for aesthetic insecurities before, like, fucking therapy or sthn is a miss fo me.
It’s wild that that’s a thing we can do, modern medicine really is awesome! best wishes to you both :D
I have a question: couldn't they do surgery and replaces the area with metal to even the height difference? No disrespect, just curious
I have a coworker who's son had a leg thing since he was born, had this procedure. It has legit medical value, but it's also very funny to imagine some dude just doing it because they want to be taller lol
This Spommy content was *AMAZING* they were riffing so well with Shayne. Dude, they have to be put in more videos together for real. This was one of my favorite Reddit Episodes in a while.
I thought you were calling Spencer "mommy" for a minute and I had to take some time to realise that's definitely NOT what you were saying, and self reflect on why I would even think such a thing...
I prefer "Tencer"
Tommy and Spencer definitely some of my favorite guests
The “He’s dead / He killed her” jokes after Shayne says “Update” is such an old joke, yet I still laugh way too hard everytime someone says it
It happens like twice every single episode and yet every single time it somehow gets me
such an easy joke lol but still effective i suppose lmao
He rubbed her too hard 😩
@@cozymoggeleiykyk 😭😭😭😭
don't forget "they broke up" "they got back together" "they're together now" it's always great
You absolutely never propose during someone else's wedding. Brad at least had the common sense to propose to Janet after everyone had left.
And look how well that turned out.
Plus the ring was "nicer than Betty Monroe had (oh Brad!)"
Dammit, Janet....
God dammit Janet
@@ninjabluefyre3815 Hey it was great when it all began.
'6 inches for free" is about to become a part of so many compilations next week.
i just love how no one in the room caught it until he tried to fix it lmaooo
Giggles for 8 yr olds for sure
@@poppetawoppet i imagine "instant classics" and some compilation of all of the severely out o pocket shit that spencer says as well.
20:15 there's also this one that they didn't notice 😭😭
Working on that already lmao
"Tommy's silence is sideways" sneakiest line of this episode
"My family poops big." belongs in the pantheon of iconic opening lines alongside, "It was the best of times, it was the worst of times" and “Call me Ishmael.”
Where’s the best of times worst of times from ??
A tale of two cities - Charles Dickens @@Gwennan
@@wolfblood5596 thank you! Also I see that your username is wolfblood and that was my all time favourite show growing up!! I was seriously obsessed 😆
"My family poops big." is in the same level as “It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune, must be in want of a wife.” in terms of famous opening lines
The story is so well written
58:42 Tommy's silence was deafening, you could cut the tension with a knife.
What kind of knife
Smosh Reddit stories presents: 💩 🔪
A poop knife maybe...
clever
wow lol i have reached the story and i get this comment now, bravo lmao
“I’m allergic to stupid” went so hard
I had a snort laugh when he said that. This episode was great!
27:23
@@Boyer-Dyou goat
Literally everybody says that lol what
@@Mysteryz-li2pw they meant the way he said it
My favorite thing about Spencer and why he's my favorite is because he makes the wildest jokes that people just silent laugh at and have physical reactions to. Mostly every joke he makes does. He's my absolute favorite and I also need more of these three omg!
Yeah this is one of my favourite combos
My cousin had a leg cage for lengthening for years when she was in highschool because she was born with one short leg (I believe it also had a deformity) and absolutely needed it for her quality of life. I can't imagine volunteering to do it for both legs.
Right, I can see it being a really helpful tool for mobility issues like that (and even then, I can totally see many people using prostetics instead of a big surgery). To do it for "vanity reasons" feels so extreme that the level of mental health issues worries me. Most "cosmetic" surgeries are not that invasive, I think. Unless it's something like gender confirmation surgeries involving nerves and function. But even that feels less invasive and has research for the medical positives and quality of life. But the leg one feels like the risks are soooooo very high to every day function for something that changes so little. I don't know... it worries me.
I know a guy who’s brother was in a similar situation, one leg was shorter than the other (not significantly so, it’s not like one was half the size, but it affected his quality of life). When I was in primary school, around age 11, I saw him wearing a leg brace for the first time (he may have worn it longer but I never saw it). I’m not nearly 18, he still wears the leg brace. Why would you voluntarily do that to yourself for vanity?
@@hernameispekka_Rebeccamost cosmetic surgeries are also reversible to a degree. Like you can get implants removed, most if not all injections need to be maintained. But the surgeries where it changes your skeleton like having bone to change your jawline for cosmetics at least just requires an incision and then at most a jaw brace for a few months. That's the most extreme one I can think of and even that is way less than leg or spinal lengthening procedures and recovery
Yeah, my mom had one leg that was very slightly shorter than the other for most of her life (a result of a hip injury she'd had as a kid). The difference between the length of her legs was so small, you couldn't see it when you looked at her and it didn't affect the way she walked in any way that you'd notice. But that very tiny difference caused her to balance herself differently than most people when she walked, and that resulted in the knee on that side taking extra wear and tear until it finally needed to be replaced when she got older.
The different distribution of balance also affected her spine in a way that caused a lot of problems as well and also resulted in surgery. Tbh, she probably could've used the leg-lengthening surgery (especially since the knee replacement ended up being just as traumatic and time-consuming, thanks to the hospital introducing MRSA into the area and having to take the artificial knee out twice to battle it; at one point, she had no knee and a picc line with antibiotics running into her chest for ~6 months).
So, for QoL stuff and preventing possible problems down the road, I can absolutely see how leg-lengthening surgery would be worth it. Doing it because you're insecure about being short, though, is just wild. My height is decidedly average and I've dated women who are both taller and shorter. If you truly like each other, it doesn't matter and no one cares. If the person does care that much about your height, then they're not the person for you.
i knew a girl with dwarfism who had both her legs lengthened
Tommy and Spencer duo + Shayne’s picks is a GOLDEN combo
So good together.
I want to say this is my dream group for a video, but I'm pretty sure I think that every time a reddit stories video drops, whoever is on.
@@Sigurn27 smosh has like 2 bad trios chemistry wise imo and they never let them be a solo trio.
@@Cuggaconroyfan30001Wait who would you say?
@mortifer6390 I don't really want to be calling people out, and it does boil down to my opinion. However, one of the reddit story episodes is very controversial. The trio on that one has literally NEVER reappeared 2 of 3 only.
i did an essay about the limbs lengthening and its not the bones that are the problem. Bones can easily fix themselves and elongate with the surgery. Its the muscles that pose a big problem. They regenerate incredibly slow and that's where the complications arise. From what I've researched, the north American procedures seem to be doing well but it takes a Loong time to be fully able to move around. Like a good solid 2 years to be able to run again. Bigger issue for me is that there isn't enough time allotted to test to see how far along the surgery could affect you in later years.
I spent too long a while ago researching it after watching another video talking about it.. my legs were cramping with sympathy pain. So not worth it, maybe one day but the muscle thing made me flinch 😫😫😫😫 Shayne is totally correct, the right person won't care.
Oh this makes me uncomfy ☹️
oof... Thanks for sharing the info. Insecurities are a real deal, your brain is literally insisting EVERYBODY ELSE cares and pays attention when in fact NOBODY else but you yourself actually does. And in fact a lot or insecurities, especially when channelled in toxic gender expectations and social roles kinds of reactions, are a major turnoff for most people, much more so that the superficial aspect of physique is likely to be. It heals nobody to tell them their insecurity is what's making them less attractive instead of the matter of their discontent, and we should be sensitive about how we approach the issue of insecurities especially when it comes to young people. But also, an adult man of average hight letting their hight affect their close relationships and overall behavior, paying into cultist internet pseudoscience and taking the insecurity out on their significant other is plain pathetic. I'm not one to bash cosmetic procedures with can have a major life quality increasing impact when handled with care and consideration with adequate concern and caution from the health care providers, but speaking about the realities of both the causes of the demand for and effects of these procedures is increasingly important. Most cosmetic insecurities are arbitrary at bast and delusional at worst. Real, but not necessarily based in reality.
I'm only 4'10" and when I was 16 I had an x-ray of my hand taken to look at my growth plates and the doctor was like "ehhh... you *might* get another quarter of an inch but you're pretty much done growing." and I was like "and there's no way for me to be taller?" and the doctor was like "well, we could break your legs, put pins in and crank you up every month or so but it would be incredibly painful" and I was like 😬 "no thank-you."
Yes. I had my femur lengthened (one femur was much shorter) for quality of life reasons. The true work is the months after the device is placed. You have to slowly bring the bones apart manually with a type of wrench so everything else in the leg can adjust. Your leg(s) are broken for months, I personally had a lot of complications due to infections, the physical therapy afterwards is brutal, and I personally still have other muscle related issues years later. Some people even need the procedure redone in some cases, they had it as an option for me but I chose something else to help with the leg difference. Long story short, it was well worth it for my case. But for cosmetic reasons only?? Id suggest lifted shoes or learning to be content with your natural height 😅
The poop knife is so ubiquitous that there's even one you can find in Baldur's Gate 3 😂
“he had just started a raid with his clan members-“
“his WHAT members?!”
LMFAOOOOO
Goated comment lol
klash royale
Proposing at someone's wedding is rude for two reasons:
1. You are taking the focus off of the couple, and the entire purpose of the event is to focus on the couple.
2. You are using the time, money, and labor of the dozens of people that worked to create a great event, with a venue, decorations, inviting all your friends and family, food, music, etc, in order to make a picturesque backdrop for your proposal. How about this? If you propose at my wedding, you pay for half the costs. Deal? No deal? Then you were just looking to mooch off the work I put into the event.
Honestly, the least you could do is ask the actual couple.
If they’re okay with it, you can slot in a time, make it part of the occasion. It could be a fun way to end the reception, as well as give the newlyweds some breathing room. Maybe during the bouquet toss if they’re really generous. Of course, THEY’D get to decide when it happens, and they are still well within rights to give a hard no.
Regardless, it’s ABSOLUTELY something you don’t surprise them with, especially as the best man. If they would support you anyway, there’s no reason not to ask.
Excellent point, I want it to become standard etiquette to send them a bill if they do that. If you’re feeling especially cheeky, include it in your invitations or a sign at the wedding that says “if you propose to someone at this event, you are consenting to a legally binding contract to pay for half of the wedding”
I would hope people were less sensitive. So he proposed, big deal. It's just one moment in a long wedding reception after which everyone will refocus on the wedding couple.
@@rasheedismyname8226 they literally mention in the story that everyone did not in fact refocus on the wedding couple, but made the proposal a big deal
also how's any of this to do with the overplayed fiddle of "being too sensitive"?
@@alexia3552 that feels a bit much
I mean, that makes it sound like you expect it to happen, when at almost every wedding it doesn't
Not only did this guy propose at his best friend's wedding, he did it DURING HIS BEST MAN SPEECH. omg
Ikr? The only thing that would be worse is doing it during the vows.
OFFICIANT: Do you take this man to be your lawfully wedded husband?
BRIDE: I do.
BEST MAN: Sorry to interrupt, but you know who else we should ask if they do? My girlfriend. **Turns to gf in crowd and gets down on one knee** Babe, we've been together for almost 2 months now, and...
That’s just whack - all public proposals are about attention anyway
the woman putting the pics in the slideshow really just the play hamlet puts on to know that claudius killed his father, it's so Shakespearean and theatrical I love it
Shayne, it actually meaans SO MUCH to me that you pointed out how illogical the animal death story was. By myself, I would've been too caught up in my own anxieties and emotions to condiser the logical points you made.
Hearing a story that's definitely fake and then having you immediately point out the fakeness? It's better for my mental health than even skipping over that story would have been! ❤
idk what’s wrong with me, I instantly assume every reddit story is fake when it starts to get weird, but I was fully on board for this bullshit
I immediately was like "wouldn't it only foam?" and started googling. Apparently, you wouldn't be able to consume so much vinegar and baking soda for it to explode. You would "only" throw up. Tbf, that's the case for humans, for hamsters it might be different, but I doubt that a hamster would be able to consume that much as well.
Also the hamster would have to eat a lot of baking soda and vinegar, both of which are usually unpleasant but it's a hamster so I can see it happening, the baking soda would have to not dissolve completely in the stomach acid, and the vinegar would have to be not completely diluted by saliva and other internal juices. Then the hamster would have to not be stinking up a storm with it releasing gas. Obviously wouldn't expand either. But that story is kinda funny as hell.
It's probably a good exercise to assume all reddit stories are fake in some way (I deeply empathize with how you feel btw, im like that too). The thing is, most stories will have missing information, some parts of it deeply exaggerated or straight up faked for the sake of drama. I'd argue the people telling the stories are mostly creative writers, or unreliable narrators and the rare poor soul that actually had that happen to them. Hope that helps!
@@Apolarbearselfie ❤️
With the amount of times they say “we can cut that” and then it gets left in is starting to make me question what (if anything) actually gets cut 😂😂
It's either hundreds of things or nothing at all 😂
Same lol 😂
Or it’s a bit
The only thing that gets cut is the poop with the poop knife
@@NeonWafflez707only if it’s a horizontal
I NEED a clip of Tommy sneezing then immediately saying "I'm allergic to stupid"
If that doesn't become a tiktok audio I might cry
Our version of the "poop knife" were popsicle sticks. We had a bathroom drawer full of them (mom got them from the craft store) and we'd grab one whenever needed. The pro was you could throw them away and not have to wash or re-use.
The last five mins of this episode are GOLD. "Tommy's silence was deafening", "He needed serious mental and physical help." 1:00:38
wait what. what do you do with them
My GMA had a poop knife. I’m here searching for other people who went through this 😂
I have spatula
@Gizmex I know it's bizarre in concept, especially for ppl who've never heard of it before, but it's wicked practical! Lol!
@@saiyanguardian6578 right on!
Dying laughing because after Spencer said "His what members?!" Tommy and I both laughingly said in unison "shut the fuck up" lmfaoo
i said that too like a second beforre tommy 😭 i felt so seen
i don't get it lol whatt
@@highdefinition450same
@@highdefinition450 "His clan members" sounds the same as "His klan members".
Hope this helps.
Happy birthday Shayne
Happy belated birthday Tommy
Happy day Spencer
edit: Yeah this episode is an instant rewatch for me, absolutely great stories and vibes.
lmao this needn't be this funny
Every day is Spencer's day fr
Happy day Spencer 🌻
HAPPY SPENCER DAY! wait no
@@Derpylel 💀💀
I feel like Shayne’s gonna pick some of the craziest stories ever
Edit: Shayne absolutely did not hold back with these picks that was amazing
I love the idea of commenting this before watching the video
Bold of you to assume he has that authority 😂
@@sw3et.t00th_m3nac3well yea that’s the point of the comment, they’re making an assumption before watching 😂
yes
just saw this comment after finishing the video. Holy Hand Grenade, what an emotional roller coaster 😅😅
The notion of a flawless marriage or relationship is a myth. There's no set formula for success; what works for one couple may not work for another. Yet, I've discovered that there's always a way forward, even in the most challenging times. Five years ago, my wife and I encountered significant hurdles in our marriage that nearly led to divorce. Despite the adversity, we managed to weather the storm and emerge from it with our bond renewed and revitalised
It's always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white
This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks.
You won't regret it
Yay!! So happy for you and your wife!
not to be rude, but what does this have to do with the video?
The way Shayne said “my wife-“ and started giggling and Tommy went “shut up!”
I fucking love this trio. I’m gonna need more Tommy, Spencer, and Shayne together in stuff 😂❤
read this the moment i got to that part, it was magical lol
Wait when was that?
@@RSiB-22 like around 46:20
@@liamgallacher thank you!
'He asks if I feel protected by him.' Ironically, hearing that in this context would make me feel unsafe 💀
SAME i thought this was about to go into a WAY different direction 😭😭
@@vixithespiderlingone of those times where “if you have to ask…” 🫥
I physically recoiled from my screen, for real.
The only time I’ve ever seen a proposal at a wedding go well, was when the couple knew and it happened after. At the throwing of the bouquet, were instead of throwing it the wife handed it to the woman who was then proposed to.
Like that is sweet, cus everyone knew and they had approval. And it was a fun playoff of a weird lil thing about weddings.
Yeah, proposing at a wedding with the newlywed couple's approval is sweet. Proposing without asking them for permission is rude.
As someone who had to rewatch this today because I fell asleep watching it, I was too fast asleep for the sound effects to effect my slumber lol 😂
The irony of the poop knife story is that this story got so big it spawned a actual poop knife product you know the op probably bought and uses lol
First story: Neither is the AH. I understand her feelings, especially feeling rejected. I don't think BF was in the wrong. He was excited, but he couldn't stop the game at that moment. It's definitely a communication thing, and I think they can grow from it. My husband and I had a similar issue when we were younger. I learned which games he can't/can pause, and he tells me when his raid nights are or if he just started a match. I always play pausible games, but my husband loves games like LOL, Runescape, and WoW.
It was also 10-15 minutes. It's not like he was doing a 6 hour raid.
@@mage1439she said it ended up being 20mins so that also doesn’t help that he said 10-15 and it was more than that. Not saying he’s an AH but if they’ve been having issues with her not wanting sex as often, I’d prioritize that over a 20min raid
@@mage1439 exactly my opinion too, anything over an hour and I'd understand being upset a little, but 20 min feels like he was still thinking of her. Could have talked it out vs going to reddit 😅😂 hopefully her saying it ruined his night doesn't mean he got really upset though
The biggest issue is her reaction. Immediately feeling sad and telling him he lost his chance for not dropping everything because she was in the mood.
I mean, he 100% can just leave the game. Your partner is more important than a video game.
57:27 "IM AWARE OF WHAT HE MEANS." Idk why, but Tommy has such natural sass and it's always hilarious to me 😂❤
Spencer as a permanent spot on this show WITH A SOUNDBOARD would be gold 😂😂
As someone who gets to the end of a story and then gets sidetracked, and thus frequently misses the beginning of the next story, I really appreciate the timestamps!
I appreciate the time stamps too. Had to use them today to skip the hamster story.
@@MiraBoo Don't worry, it's a fake story and it's not possible. No animals died in real life in that way, impossible.
It’s useful for me when I accidentally fall asleep during one!
Hi, six foot tall girl here, here’s my (purely anecdotal) on-the-ground research regarding dating men of many heights: The ones who were about my height or even slightly taller were the ones who would slowly but surely make my height a “problem”. I have my theories as to why, which is that these guys were always used to being “tall” to other women they’ve dated, and then here comes my monstrous (lovingly) ass, and they don’t know how to deal with that.
Shorter dudes or super tall dudes (which I’ve also dated) have never really had to confront that. Shorter guys are used to being same height or shorter in some cases to their female partners, and super tall guys don’t regularly encounter ladies that are around their height.
I don’t know. It’s weird. For the record, I legit don’t care about height, but I DO care if you want to try and make MY height an issue. It just feels like it’s a problem with that guys particular ego getting bruised (for literally no reason, we can’t control our heights), and that has nothing to do with me, so stop trying to make it my problem.
Eyy I'm 6ft too. 😊 I've never had people closer to my height causing issue. It's always been people who are shorter who tried making me feel guilty for being tall. I guess it depends 😅
I've never been fussed if someone is shorter than me, but I refuse to be a scapegoat for their insecurities, if they can't get over the fact I'm taller (something I can't change), they need to move on.
I’m 6’ 3” and I was super into this girl at school that was 6’ 5”. She was stunning and I’m pretty sure that if she could only date guys taller than her, she’d still be single. I’d catch flack for trying to get to know her since “you’re still shorter than her”. “Bro, who cares: I climbed trees as a kid, what’s stopping me now?”
Tommy’s absolute DISDAIN for the infamous poop knife story really got me good! 😂
Here from the recent "Phone It In" where someone asks Trevor about the spider lady from RuneScape
Can you tag me? 😂
Happy birthday Shayne!!! Everyone’s favourite golden retriever energy🎉
Yes happy B-day!!!🎉🎉🎉
Happy birthday!!
Yes people with golden triver engery are some of the coolest people ever
i feel like he's too chill to be a golden retriever
@@nhnnj he’s a golden retriever that works in an elementary school
Shayne reading “Come As You Are” not only solidifies how great of a guy he is, but what a good partner he is as well. While this book talks about sexuality as a whole, it does tend to cater to Afab sexuality
Does the book mention trans men? If not, call it "women's/female sexuality", not AFAB. Respectfully.
They're referring to his partner and wife who doesn't identify as a woman which is why afab is used. Cis Women are still afab, they weren't wrong for that verbage.
@@poofballoonI'm confused by this comment. It's giving terf.
@@nahthxafab can refer to trans men and nonbinary people who are afab. they can have different experiences with sexuality, and depending on if the book uses feminine and “women” terms, that would dictate whether it is for all afabs, or just woman sexuality.
@@M3gaHeart OH okay I think I got the tone of their comment wrong then. Thanks for clarifying!
Shane said "we finally read it" at the end and I just then realized why the name Reddit sounds so appealing 😂
Never made that connection before.
Oh. My god. Why did I not get it until now?! Thanks for the realisation lol
Same 😂
I wouldn't believe this, except there's 3 of you lol. I thought this was so obvious, "I read it, on reddit"
I just made the connection🫣
I don't think anyone is the asshole in the first story because it fully aligns with what they've set before. The boyfriend set the precedent of "it's when you also want it", and she wanted it one night. He wasn't in the mood/situation to want it, and she lost interest in it. The story never said that the boyfriend was upset, so it shows that he respect her right to withdraw that desire. It's just a certain point in time in a relationship.
It mainly just feels like she might just feel insecure in the relationship due to her not being as interested in that form of intimacy. The OP mentions that they've been together since they were both 20, so there's a chance that she might not have been in many relationships, and she might feel a form of FOMO or be feeling as if she's letting him down. Even the boundary of sex happening when she was 100% into it was imposed by the boyfriend, and the OP chose to make a compromise that. Now that a condition isn't being met (she is no longer in the mood by then), she might feel regret in rescinding her desire. Since OP is posting about it in the first place, this is probably a newer experience for them, so I feel that it's just jitters from unfamiliarity.
“Do you want a life that’s a movie or a like that’s a life” just hit me so hard for some reason
On the first one, as an asexual, I totally get why she felt bad and not in the mood anymore after she went to the effort and was put on hold. It's really hard to stay in that mindset of being open to sex when you have to wait, not to mention feeling rejected. But also on the other hand I understand where the guy is coming from. He's not a jerk for not dropping everything to have sex asap. It's a hard situation to be in that me and my husband have been navigating for about 14 years. More communication will help more than a surprise. If you'd let him know to be ready for something as you were headed home, he may have not started the raid. Just some advice to someone who will never see it lol, and to anyone else who might be in this sort of relationship. Also huge shoutout to everyone who've navigated their asexual/allosexual relationships to the point where you only have sex when you really want to, and are comfortable sticking to that. It can be honestly harder than you'd think for the asexual in such a relationship to feel comfortable enough to set those boundaries.
Also Ace
Also ace and if it doesn’t happen immediately I’ll lose focus and then it’s gone forever. Sorry dude, you missed the train! 😂😂😂
That said, while the boyfriend should probably take the opportunity given that it doesn't arise very often.. I get how it can feel unfair when partners don't exactly match up. And one partner sort of "runs" when intimacy happens, and then if there's one time you yourself aren't in the mood or in this case are doing something else like a hobby, it feels doubly bad. I dont think its fair to expect the other partner to always at a whim drop something they might be doing because the low sex drive partner is ready. Surprise is nice but I agree, when intimacy is that infrequent it probably would've been best for her to communicate before she got home. She's not a bad person for doing it, but it sounds like she needs to be a bit more understanding or flexible to make their relationship work.
@@11DaltonByeah, a partner isn't a vending machine for sex, no matter how frequently or infrequently you want it
@@11DaltonB Yeah, by no means is anyone in the wrong for having a low sex drive. But that doesn't mean your 'not right now' holds more value than his 'not right now'. He isn't obligated to say 'yes' simply because of how infrequently you're in the mood. That would be getting into dangerous territory
39:42 She thinks this wasn't "the high road", but I think it absolutely was. She had a lot of much lower roads available to her that she didn't walk down.
Agree! Its a high enough road. I wouldve made the entire compilation video just ss of their incriminating texts.
Completely agree!
FR. I’m not 100% sure if I would have gone through with it, but I’d definitely fantasize about giving a speech ripping apart his character and putting a bunch of photos of them up there. Her devil on her shoulder is quiet and I respect her endlessly for that, because I’m not sure I could be the same 😂
Thank you SO much for finally revealing the poop knife story! It's mystery has been plaguing me since I first heard mention on the podcast 😂 Love you all, I listen to the reddit reads while cleaning houses and it makes me lol (for realsies)😅 You all seem like my kind of people, and I can tell you enjoy each other's company. Your other material is great too, but these are best for just listening so I'm sad I'm all caught up! Thanks for bringing laughter to my day, and Happy Birthday Shayne! 🎉
2nd story, "cut your feet off" made me think "instead of looking like Barbie, she must become a Bratz doll" 😂
A family member once told me that if I ever grew taller, then they'd cut my knees off
@@maxwelllutomski7855 the amount of times i was told i’d be “stumped” 😭😭😭
For some reason I was thinking about the original Cinderella tale where the stepsisters cut off their heels to fit into the glass slipper 😭
@@sketchycat6223same!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY SHAYNE TOPP FROM ICARLY
Wait is that the same Shayne that’s married to Courtney Miller?
Hope its a banger!
Another birthday by Shayne from iCarly
If you read this Happy Birthday to you Shayne 🌼🎉🙂
@@WubbyPunchYes
My boyfriend's family has a 'poop stick' that they use. Its in a bucket along with the plunger that they use in the same manor. Their house was built in the 1800s and is basically falling apart, so the plumbing was installed around the 1930-40s and hasn't had the most renovations. The toilet clogs a lot because of that, so they just always had the habit of using the poop stick to break it up if the poop was on the bigger end to ensure they don't have to spend money on upgrading their plumbing
Same with my boyfriends family, just no plunger and bucket just a stick lol
at least that family is smart enough to keep it in the bathroom, the poop knife family keeps it in a separate room entirely and they bring it back there after its done
Amazon sells large metal chopsticks that work perfectly for poop knives let him know
My family had a poop screwdriver when I was growing up. It was just a really long flathead screwdriver. We also kept it in the closet in our laundry room for some reason.
@@FuZZiiToasT a man of fine taste
Since hamsters exploding came up, this actually happened to me. It was not gory, but when I was younger my family went to a festival during the summer. When we came back, we realized my sister did not put water in his bottle. It must have been 100 degrees upstairs (no ac, just windows units which were off). We went up to check on him and there he was, probably more than 3 times his normal size, upside down, mouth hanging open. It was very traumatic and I’ve never let my sister forget. I’ve included “my hamster exploded” in two truths and a lie ever since.
I’m so sorry that happened. I can’t imagine how traumatizing that must have been for you and your family. How old were you and your sister? You say you won’t ever let her forget, but please be aware that you are now perpetuating a never ending cycle of trauma. I hope you both can find peace with each other and let the cycle come to a close. Really wishing you the best.
If it's any consolation, that almost definitely happened after death. Bloat is a natural thing for corpses that occurs when bacteria in the body cause gaseous buildup. There's no reason that dying of heat/dehydration would cause that sort of swelling that I can think of.
For those who are curious, the “reactive sexuality” Shayne is talking about is actually called responsive desire. There are two types of desire: responsive (responds to stimulation and the senses) and spontaneous. It’s more of a spectrum than two different categories. It’s common for both partners to be more spontaneous early in a relationship, and then settle into their natural desire type.
Thank you, I typed reactive sexuality into UA-cam and nothing relevant really came up
@@GaryOPostlethe book Come As You Are is written by the expert on the subject. Emily Nagoski Ph.D.
As someone who watches these videos during dialysis for kidney failure (which makes me sleepy) and to fall asleep at night, I would LOVE a soundboard lol. These videos are awesome and have made treatment so much more entertaining. Anyways, thanks Smosh.
Wishing you all the best and sending you lots of love ❤🤗💕
What do you guys mean with "soundboard"? What is it in this context?
@@neliaferreira9983 basically it's a bunch of different buttons that, when pressed individually, play a specific sound assigned to said button! sometimes it's an actual physical electronic device called a "soundboard", other times it's just a bunch of buttons on a digital screen! :3
@@neliaferreira9983 it means sound effects they can hit live. Watch the podcast “perfect person” (there are episodes with smosh members!) for an example
@@neliaferreira9983 basically a machine or app that plays sounds so that they press a sound and it can add to the story
11:58 the menage terminology and explanation and then Tommy bringing Nicki Minaj to the convo plus the automatic captions got me off guard and made me spit my water laughing lmao
Tommy, Spencer and Shayne are an amazing trio! Love these three together.
Honestly would love if Shayne ever wants to do a whole +5 hr video unedited just talking about psychology stuff! I love getting to hear people talk about the things they're passionate about.
I second that. I could hear him talk about anything, I like his voice and his worldviews.
I was listening to him thinking "just a few episodes ago he talked about never using his psychology degree, but clearly he is very knowledgeable and has great insight, I think that degree is working out great for him!"
This, right here, is my dream blunt rotation! Tommy and Spencer vibe off of each other so well and Shayne just fully vibes with everyone always.
I'll have to agree lmao
GUYS ITS THE POOP KNIFE STORY THE ONE WE HAVE BEEN WAITING FOR! Also happy birthday uncle! 🥳
I've never been able to understand why they kept it in the laundry room instead of the bathroom.
@@bobbii Same wth
The poop knife update is that it keeps being reposted so much, someone keeps changing the "years" on the story. So Happy we finally got to hear the story LIVE!
I love the banquet revenge. Top notch. Not even a bunch of drama, just a big middle finger and mic drop. Lovely
Shayne KNOWING his stories are gonna he crazy makes me wonder what level of crazy they actually are…
Honestly, they were pretty mild to me lol.
@@pearlygirl88 Poop knife made me laugh so hard 😭
@@nicholeloranagreed. Such a Reddit classic.
I would love a Kiana’s picks episode! Her talking points for the smosh cast episode were so good!
Oh that would be so great
57:51 my grandparents had a poop knife growing up. it seems so normal growing up then getting older you’re like “oh. that’s actually insane now that i think of it”
Shayne having read Come As You Are was not what I expected, but it’s awesome! I work for a counseling clinic that specializes in Sex Therapy, and it’s a book we often recommend and have several copies of. Emily Nagoski (PhD) really knows her stuff, and is a phenomenal sexuality educator. For those interested in her work, she’s also written a book called Come Together. Where Come As You Are is primarily a delve into how we think about women’s sexuality, Come Together focuses on intimacy in long-term relationships and discusses a lot about “the mood”, spontaneity, and desire, which is a exactly the sort of thing that first story’s couple would benefit from reading about.
Happy Birthday Mr. Miller! 🎉🎉🎉
Mr miller 😂😂😂
This episode was chaos and I demand more of it. Can we get annual Shayne reddit stories on his birthday and have Tommy and Spencer be the guests?
44:35 it’s the final squeak that gonna make me cry
Hey, got my pancakes out and I’m ready to hear these stories! Happy birthday Shayne!
Lmaoooooo
Shanye, my mom and I usually watch your reddit stories together. Sometimes I watch beforehand in case I need to prepare her for a certain topic or story… unfortunately today I made the mistake of not actually watching it beforehand, so now my mother knows the tale of poop knife. I was mortified when it came up, but luckily she laughed about it. I guess everything worked out and it will now be a funny joke for us later lol 😭😂
Another term for a "reactive" sex drive is "responsive desire", which I like because it sounds a little more intimate and less like a warning for hazardous chemicals 😄 I've gone down a few rabbit holes trying to figure out how the allos work.
37:40 I LOVE THIS GIRL. she ate soooooo hard and i LOVED how he asked to meet in a oublic place bc he was definitely scared 😭😭she was ABSOLUTELY in the right, and it was GENIUS because it freaked him out sooo much
I had to take an hour break from this video to go on a rabbit hole dive of responsive versus spontaneous drive and its wild to me that as a 24 year old i had to learn about this concept from smosh. This has been a mild issue in my relationship but now i have endless information about working through this concept. Smosh helped me understand my sexuality and that hurts my brain
As a short man I can say that tall women care as much about height as short women do. Some do want a taller guy but most don’t care or at the very least if you’re the same height it’s fine. Tall women know they’re tall and a lot of the time they’ve been made to feel weird about it so they don’t judge men on their height.
Tall woman here. Yep.
I'm 5' 10" and yep can confirm.
We care, but we also get it. If my dude is at least 5'7-5'8" and otherwise my type, I'm happy
5'10" woman here. Can confirm.
6’ and this is the way. A wise person once said: in the sack, it doesn’t matter if your toes don’t touch.
@@lfrandsyou're the same height went you're horizontal. people who care about height are usually projecting what they feel like when they see a taller woman with shorter man. If the look of you two together is more important than health, it's likely a shitty relationship. It feels so awkward and wrong to me but its just how some people have matured(or not) i guess 🤷♂️
When Shayne started talking about reactive sexuality I just knew he'd read Come As You Are, lol.
Very good book, highly recommended to both men and women who want to make their sex life way easier to navigate.
Thank you for the suggestion!!
Same
same!
OOOOHHH, I finally got Spencer's joke about "his WHAT members?!"
Clan members...but with a K 🤣🤣🤣
28:01 with the wedding one, what if the girl said no, not saying it's super likely, but what If she did, not only would that ruin your proposal but it would ruin their wedding too
the pregnant wife's sister one was crazy. She said "during and AFTER the pregnancy." and no update????
If it was real, maybe the wife didn't want him posting more about it on the internet in case other people figured out who they were.
I was wondering if the only one who caught that.
The absolute disgust Tommy gave Spencer after he said "nice" 46:11 has me laughing so hard.
12:28 to correct this, menage means "mix", its a mix of 3 people
56:35 the “let her cook” line almost killed me😭
i feel like soundboards should be a mainstay on most of smosh’s content. i know it within my bones that these people would make such good use of it
Ah, you should totally read the famous Reddit stories. All the legendary ones. Streetlamp LeMoose, the jolly rancher story, the mysterious post-it notes, TIFU by trying to throw my steak out a window with the follow up from his wife, 'today me, tomorrow you', don't ask me how I took this picture, the potato story, and of course the swamps of Degobah, which deserves it's very own video.
I think they’ve done the steak one? Kinda early on
I want to say two hot takes has done the jolly rancher story though it might be on the Patreon. I know Morgan for sure has referenced it, and I'd have to reread for a refresher, but I think I've heard it.
These all sound amazing and I'm realising I'm a bit of an Amanda when it comes to the legendary scrolls of reddit
I’ve never heard ”you can cut that!” so many times in one Reddit stories episode 😂😂😂 Thanks to the producers for leaving the gold in ❤
HAPPY BIRTHDAY SHAYNE!! 🎉🎂♥️
Spencer should be in every episode. He was on one the entire time 😂
27:23 brilliant comedic moment from Tommy as always. 👏
Tommy is a comedic genius indeed 😅
I came here to comment this 😂😂 Tommy is always funny lol
Tommy is actually the funniest person and I came to comment this exactly that his immediate comedy after a sneeze was pure gold
The second Tommy started talking about the surgery, I immediately knew what was up!
I had that reconstructive surgery when I was around 10, but it was to lengthen my one leg because it was shorter than my other one due to a fused bent knee (it was just a birth anomaly). The braces are called external fixators and I had one for about a year---I grew 7 inches of bone, way more than the doctors expected, which I guess was kind of cool? (I don't really remember much, I basically looked like the angry cat meme for 12 months because I was so disinterested in what the doctors had to tell me about my growth). While it has certainly helped me, it was an incredibly painful and excruciating process (you twist the bars every few weeks and constantly replace them the more the bone is forcefully grown. The bars are attached to pins that are attached to your bone, hence, the 'stretching' affect), not to mention the fact that I basically spent the whole next year after that going through physical therapy to reteach myself to walk.
So yeah, I don't know if I would say it's worth it just to gain an extra few inches of height. Also, because I live in Canada, I was fortunate to get all of this done for free (basically), so the thought of even spending upwards of $75,000 on just the surgery alone is a little crazy to me. But I mean, if that's something you're into, you do you, I guess?
I was so relieved with the last story. I was repeating to myself “please no coconut story”
I wonder if they'll ever be brave enough to read The Swamps of Dagoba 😬
Ok guys, I read your comments and set off to find those Reddit stories.
O
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I had to come back here to report back, but I ain't thanking you!
Oh hell nawh not the coconut one 🤢
For people that are proposing at weddings I suggest the wedding parties involved do this in response: don’t kick them out. Don’t yell at them. Do not acknowledge what just happened at all or congratulate them either. When they get upset about why no one’s saying anything tell them it’s bc the party wasn’t for them. Take away the attention seeking satisfaction they were trying to get
The issue is the other people. The wedding party may take a stand, but you cant prevent guests from acting ad they will.
@@laurenhawes7201 yeah you can't control what anyone else will do even if they didn't react
as a 5'9 girlie, the second story is scarily true to life
You're taller than me and I wouldn't care. Some people are weird af
As a 5'4" dude, I want a girlfriend taller than me.
No same I'm 5'8 and I'm perfectly fine with dating someone shorter than me but they always get a weird napoleon complex about it😭
@@royalblu1100REAL, not a woman but still get it. I'm 5'9, I'm usually taller than most my friends and partners (if I have them) but either way, I quite enjoy boots with heels. This always gives them a complex despite being shorter than me because I'm now taller- it's wack.
I’m 5’6” and I honestly don’t care if someone is taller than me. We’re all different and can’t change that aspect of ourselves.
Spencer's comedy hits sooo hardd!!!!!!!! 34:24
Absolute Comedy King
Happy birthday shayne and damn look at you teaching everyone about sexuality I really appreciate that. People don't seem to understand just how complex sex is and hopefully it sparks people to learn more
22:59 - that is called a self-fulfilling prophecy: when an individual's expectations about another person or group eventually result in the other person or group acting in ways that confirm the expectations.
This is the best trio for these, hands down. Could literally have these 2 every week and it would be 100% bangers
The only time I've ever seen/heard of a proposal at a wedding that wasn't crazy, was a video I saw where the Bride was in on it and handed her bouquet to the girl before having her turn around to see the guy proposing.
If I have a traditional wedding (up in the air) I think I’d start throwing things at a bridal party or groomsmen who proposed to their partner without informing my partner and I. Because I don’t care about weddings, I would’ve said ‘yeah go ahead’ if they had informed us assuming my partner agreed. But if they had the audacity to do it without warning me? Fucking war has been declared. You don’t surprise me with that shit on my big day.
Having recently binged the Perfect Person episodes with smosh folks on as guests, ABSOLUTELY GET A SOUNDBOARD! Especially if you let Courtney pick out the sounds, their taste in weird noises is forever immaculate!
22:58 not a word, but there is a term.
'Self-fulfilling prophecy'
Accurate. That's the state of a lot of men in the MGTOW, incel, alpha male, manosphere trying to date. I've seen way too many guys actually have a shot and then just blow it because they can't let go of their bad attitudes, biases, insecurities, etc. like I have literally seen women get called gold diggers that only want to date men with 6 figures... because the girl offered to pay for half during the first date and that guy wanted to believe that was an attempt to shame and humiliate him for not being rich. She turned down date 2 because he literally insulted and cussed her out and that then became the "proof" that she only cares about money. It's wild the lengths people go to avoid actually dealing with their problems.
Yes, I also said aloud to the screen but they didn't hear me.
@@neliaferreira9983 IKR, why they ignore us like that TwT
Was about to say the same thing
"It's a movie moment."
"But do you want your life to be a movie, or do you want your life to be a life."