I tried being a dad for 30 days
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Hi there 👋 If you're new to my videos my name is Matt D'Avella. I'm a documentary filmmaker, entrepreneur and UA-camr. I've made a couple documentaries for Netflix. I also teach courses on everything from filmmaking to habit change. If you like to nerd out about self-development as much as I do, you can subscribe for weekly videos.
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Okay so apparently there isn't a 30 day return policy...
That's crazy
HAHA. same as after 18 years the free trial of life automatically upgrades to a paid subscription
😂😂
File a report, the company has to take it back within 30 days, else sue them.
Welcome to the club, Matt ;) My son will turn 4 in December. I'm not a walking zombie now, but there are different challenges now, and I'm still tired sometimes. However, I would never go back now! :) I wish you and your family all the best!
“It’s so easy to be bad parent, to not care, to not research, to not worry..” Best quote. We know Franky will be one of the luckiest boy to have you both as his parents! Happy for you Matt and Nat 🎉
It's the new norm .
Congrats. If your experience is like mine, your entire mindset will change much more than you realize, even now, as your kid grows and grows. So much of the parenting I've seen in the media makes so much more sense to me. I thought I understood the struggles of a parent, but I see now that it was all silly theory that I couldn't possibly understand. And you'll understand more and more as the years go on.
It's a great journey, but don't feel guilty if you sometimes think it's not a great journey. Being a parent is the best thing I've ever done.
Well said!
Hey wheezywaiter! you are one of my favorite UA-camrs!
Love you Craig!
I love your youtube videos wheezywaiter!!
Love ya wheezy
You have no idea how satisfying it is for parents to hear from new parents how freaking hard it actually is. But also the absolute best thing ever.
Fellow Dad here. It's true that it's gonna be one of the hardest part of your life, but it certainly will be the most fulfilling. Congrats to you guys!
Can you please delve a but in the part "most fulfilling" internet is full of only negative things related to parenthood a positive comment with real details will help us all a lot.
@@AkshatPaul I lived on my own for nearly a decade before being married at 30 - seven years later we have three beautiful children and I can’t imagine going back. While I don’t regret waiting for the right time to be married and start a family, the priorities are so different now and it feels so much more fulfilling to sacrifice for others instead of only taking care of myself.
I know that’s only a partial answer but the mindset shift truly rocks your entire world. Especially when you realize that you are responsible for people who will eventually take your place in society! I have set aside a lot of goals that I thought were important to me, which have also helped pave the way for better goals, both for my family and for myself.
Being a parent is like putting a magnifying glass directly over all of your greatest flaws and having the opportunity to grow into your best self on behalf of others. No other achievement even comes close.
@@ckhicks Thanks for sharing your experience.
When your children laugh, hug each other, have fun, tell you, they love you, say funny things, start to take care of you more and more, do things that show you have done them right... your heart will burst with joy and love.
@@AkshatPaulI wanted to direct my comment to you. Please see my other comment. 😊
He is absolutely precious. I got teary watching this - my own boys started their first year of high school/last year of middle school this week. I think the most true thing I ever heard about parenting is, “The days are long but the years are short.” There were definitely days when I counted the hours until bedtime…but now those days seem so far away, yet somehow only just yesterday. Time is a weird thing when you become a parent. Sending warm thoughts your way - hang in there!
As a creator who's been inspired by Matt over the years and as a (kind of new) dad - this is the one video that I have been waiting to see in forever. It's like every single point hit home - and weirdly, it has been even more exciting in seeing you take up the role with such demeanour. Thanks Matt - I hope we keep getting more videos from this side of you!
Watched this video when it first came out, right when we found out we were pregnant. Rewatching it now at 4am with our 5 day old sleeping on my chest while my wife grabs a few hours sleep, and it hits so close to home. We’ve been lucky with phenomenal midwife-led care during our hospital care, but also looking forward to taking him home and learning how to parent in our own space. Great video.
This is so needed, most routine videos are from people who aren’t parents or kids are older.
Congratulations and welcome to a new world, can’t wait for the toddler stage videos 😂👍
It's strange how natural it is for me to see you as a dad. I've known you for I don't remember how long, I just have the feeling that in a certain way I have access to your life and now I follow you in this important part of your life and everything seems so natural to me.
I'm 100% sure you and Natalie will be great parents. The way you always put a lot of effort, dedication and attention in what you do will be reflected in the way you take care of your son.
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I totally agree that becoming a parent is extremely hard.. Since becoming a father, I feel like I started a second life. Everything is different, including my value system. I have shifted completely to focusing on another than myself. My definition of love has significantly shifted. Ultimately this is a gift.
It's not extremely hard to be honest. As long as your children are healthy and you are healthy. I, have a kid and the beginning it's not easy because everything is new. But can not call it extremely hard. How is it possible that it's hard when a lot of people have children. There are harder things that not all of those people can. Just enjoy it.
@@jblizzard962I'm sorry, but your comment is extremely foolish. I have a five month old and it continues to be hard. It's extremely fulfilling and the best thing I've ever done, but they change so rapidly in the first 5 years that it's hard to get used to anything. Once you get used to less sleep and leaving house with baby, it gets a lot better. But I think it's extremely stupid to say it's not that hard. Clearly, someone else is doing more work than you on your end.
@@NadiaSeesIt after my wife gave birth she lost a lot of blood. We were lucky we were in the hospital, because it would not stop. After we came home I had to take care of my child with no experience and take care of my wife that could not do a lot because of the losing of the blood. After a week I got back to work, waking up the whole night to give the bottle because breastfeeding would not work, also because of the blood lost. Luckely we had some help of family. Do not tell me I lett someone else do all the work and then say it's not that hard. With a lot of structure she slept through the night after 5 weeks and my wife got better. Would not call it easy only call it extremely hard is also not reasonable. Just say to yourself that your lucky that your healthy and your child is healthy. It depends on what your used to in life. Not used to short nights maybe it can be difficult. So, there are a lot of parents thus it can not be extremely hard.
For single parent I can imagine it can be hard. For two people not that hard in case of health and basics needs as a job and a house.
Congratulations!! As a mom to twin boys (born 28 years ago)...it's all worth it! That first year with my twins was the HARDEST OF MY LIFE. I now laugh thinking back at how much I cried, how scared I felt and the fact that I questioned every single thing multiple times when it came to my sons. I think it all turned out pretty well as my sons are now both adults and work as educators. I can tell you that I survived the multiple questions and anxieties I had as a parent and you will too.. Oh yeah, their dad sometimes helped too. LOL!
Welcome to fatherhood, Matt. I’d say that your experience sounds about like what we went through - including the lack of weight gain thing - which was so stressful. Frankie is adorable. This brought back so many fond memories (my 17 year old son is lounging on the couch behind me). Congratulations, again, to you and Nat.
Congrats to both of you. Welcome to the world, Frankie.
This made me shed a tear. Thanks Matt and congrats on becoming a dad!
Same! Now I admire you guys much more. #FanfromColombia
Same!😢
Congratulations! 37 years old dad here with two wonderful kids of 5 and 3 years old! Have fun on this journey. yes it’s hard and intense sometimes but it’s rewarding and so much fun. For the parents, open communication at all times and be sensitive to each others needs. It is very important for the family’s health. Specially in the beginning.
Congrats Matt, and welcome to the best job in the world! I've been a father for 9.5 years, and I'd like to tell you it gets easier but every single milestone is both challenging and fulfilling. It's hard work but so worth it. Also it does go as fast as everyone tells you.
Our eldest turned 25 today and it’s amazing how what you’re saying still resonates! I so appreciate your vulnerability here! You guys are great parents. What a gift little Frankie is.
Congrats Matt and Natalie. You guys will be fantastic parents.
Definitely! 💞
Most definately
Being mom has taught me more about myself than anything else. Parenting is hard, it’s like an unexpected slap in a face no matter how much you try to prepare for this role, but as Matt said despite being hard, it gives you much more hapiness.
Congratulations Matt and Natalie! Seing your faces when you look at Frankie makes my heart melt. ❤
That first minute gives me so much satisfaction. My daughter is 4 and I'm almost 48 years old. I'd like to think I'm as energetic as my 20--year-old self, or even my 30-year-old self. It's true that as a parent the days are long, and the years are short. Congratulations!
So, so true!
"... It's what makes good parents." Thank you for this, Matt! I needed to hear that.
Congratulations to you and Nat on your little family 🫶🏽
I'm a mom to a baby girl under a year old and it absolutely does get (so) much easier. I actually look forward to her waking up in the morning now because she's so awesome to be around. There are hard parts still for sure but it's now so enjoyable. So congratulations, Matt! Been watching you for a long time now. Happy to see your family expand!
My daughter just reached 1 month today, it's so nice to see other parents experiences and that last piece of advice your brother gave to you, it's just so true! Every time I feel exhausted, I feel a bit better when I realize that. Congrats to both of you, it's hard but we got this!
When I had my babies I roped off the house and kept everything and every one as quiet as possible. As I tell parents who ask, you can have it all just not all of it at the same time.
I'm not a parent but this certainly can help me prepare for the day if it ever happens. Given you're channel is my favourite (this video is one of your best btw), it teaches me that when life gets complicated, its worth going back to basics. When we encounter something that seems complex, it's very easy to respond in kind. Thank you for giving this to us and of course, congratulations. It's satisfying to see you come this far. Long may it continue!!!
I remember that we were looking at each other saying: “What were we thinking!” There’s definitely a live before and a live after. But we wouldn’t go back to the before. In the end all the struggling, sleepless nights, worries and questioning “Are we doing the right thing?” is nothing to the joy and happiness it’s brought us. Congrats Matt and Nat! You’re doing great! Frankie couldn’t have wished for better parents.
Congrats!!! Frankie is amazing! I heard similar advice that I always cling to: if you’re worried about being a good parent, then you’re a good parent. Bad parents don’t worry about their parenting… I’ve always admired your work, but this is a special, new level. Thank you for sharing your journey 💜
Congratulations to you guys. We have an 11 week old (our third child). The first two weeks definitely are the hardest. I feel the second month is a lot easier. Every stage is different. The first child is ALWAYS the toughest. I have never really been a fan of the newborn stage, but it definitely passes you by quickly. Today, I just drove my oldest child to his first job, so there's a stage you get to look forward to...
Frankie is adorable. You can see all the love you two have for one another and your child, and that is so vital for raising a child. My older two kids see how much love my husband & I have shared, and for nearly 23 years we've been together, 19 years married. . .and having babies together really makes it a great testament for our love. You two will do great! Keep communicating and working as a team, like I see you have been doing. That's the way to go!
I agree! The first two weeks nearly broke me. I could not feed my baby enough through breastfeeding. I spent 3 full days without sleep while cluster feeding until my husband insisted we combo feed with formula so I wouldn't have a mental breakdown. That helped a lot.
Now my baby is 5 months old and so smiley and fun. It won't ever be easy but it's always worth it. :)
Welcome to the world Frankie!! Matt, your brother is a genius at giving advice. Obviously, a great dad. This is for both of you, but mostly Nat. I picked up on her stress and pain from experience at giving birth and being in the hospitsl. As a mom of 4 girls, one who was born with congenital heart defects, and my last born with me being sick with Covid I can relate. You did everything right and nothing wrong. The only knowledge I have after delivering 4 beautiful girls is that each one is like the first time. My last was a 9lb baby. Between her shoulder being lodged in a funny place, Covid, she lost 3lbs in the first month. After considering myself a pro at nursing, I found myself a total newbie. I had to pump all hours of the day between nursing. I had to consult with a lactation consultant. Weekly weigh ins. I supplemented with formula. All while caring for 3 other girls, my dad passing away unexpectedly, the general stress of being an adult living life. It was awful and scary, and nothing like the last pregnancy/birth/post partum experience I fantasized or planned for. I was pressured and shamed and I had to fight for me and my baby. It's still beautiful and wonderful. My youngest turned 1 on the 30th. It absolutely goes by too fast. Sending a long distance hug to you both. Especially for Nat. Its a shame you didn't feel supported while in hospital. Unfortunately, with healthcare such as it is, it's extremely important to advocate for yourself, each other, and for Frankie. I have faith your gonna be great parents.
Casually opened up UA-cam to learn how to speak Spanish to then be pleasantly surprised by my For You Page that one of my favourite youtubers had a baby! Congratulations!!!! ...And good luck!
You are gonna be the great dad for sure 😊 so happy for you!
Aww. What a privilege to be introduced to Frankie! Congratulations Matt & Nat! Thank you for sharing your journey!
Only you can turn becoming a parent into a documentary 😂 I love it❤
Frankie is the cutest little thing! Congratualtions!
It's so sweet to see a buff dad navigating the joys and challenges of being a dad. You can tell he's going through a whole mix of emotions.
Being the super good parents is the most difficult thing in the world and at the same time it is more fun and enjoyable. It is the part of life and I am really excited to become a parent in the future ☺️
I'm about to cry rn. This is so touching and heartwarming. You guys are clearly doing really great and are amazing parents. Don't forget to tell nat (especially in the really rough times like during tantrums or when shes just touched out or overly emotional from hormones or being overtired) that she's doing great bc as a mom myself I cant even describe how much of a difference it makes just to have someone acknowledge that you are trying and that you are in fact NOT failing in the bad moments. A lot of time, I was told that by people who only saw my child when he wasn't crying and just being a happy baby and it never felt genuine. I was told by 2 random women out in public that I was doing good in the middle of dealing with a tantrum, and I cried so hard because it felt like I was really being seen. That's somethin⁶g a lot of people don't talk about, but, especially first-time moms or moms with little ones, NEVER forget.
Yay, I love this new generation of dads being involved in taking care of the baby and raising their kids. My dad admitted a long time ago that mom raised me and my sister, he did help in some ways especially with picking us up from school, but mom ran the house (and paid bills), helped me with homework/studying, and she cooked all the meals while she had a full time job as an accountant. My sister and I didn't have an allowance, we could only earn a little bit of money to do chores (and basic yard work), keep our rooms clean, and take care of the dog. I appreciate seeing married couples act as a team by taking care of the house and the kids, it's such a beautiful and important dynamic.
Father of three here - your brother’s wisdom is spot on!
Every day is a new adventure but it’s the best kind of challenge. Plus, you and Nat doing all of that as a team is unlike anything else; getting past those first weeks is the true grind.
We just went through our second miscarriage…your video was like balm and we’re celebrating a successful and safe delivery for y’all.
So excited for you THREE to be on this journey as a family. Keep it up.❤
Just got sent this video from a friend. Fellow new dad with a 2 month old son and I've been feeling the exact same way as you with almost no difference. Haven't felt I've resonated with a video so much before, but it's comforting to know many others go through the same feelings
Man, Matt, I am so proud of you!! Also, more content on fatherhood/parenting man!!❤
Nat is sooooo pretty, motherhood looks good on her!
LOVE this congrats!!!
Thanks for the care package! Frankie's been loving the onesie :D
All the best for the new daddies! Life starts now! Enjoy the ride as most as you can!
The second I saw our son for a first time I felt everything IN ME changed! It’s 4 years and it’s super powerful every single day…
Hey Matt,
Huge congrats on entering the world of fatherhood! As someone who's been through the complex rollercoaster of parenthood, I can't tell you enough how much I appreciate you showing the real, unfiltered side of being a dad. It's not all rainbows and butterflies, but each moment-no matter how challenging-adds a layer of depth to our lives that's beyond rewarding.
Your transparency will undoubtedly help many new parents feel seen and understood. Can't wait to see you, your content, and your family grow in this new chapter.
Wishing you sleep-filled nights and priceless memories!!!
Thank you for being SO real & honest about parenthood! Absolutely love the name, Frankie, & it already shows you guys are amazing parents 💕
Congrats, the best advice I received (and I was on the receiving end of) is to always remind Nat how great of a job she's doing. Motherhood is so hard especially in the early months and hearing reassurance is invaluable during such a vulnerable time.
The moment i saw the title, i laughed matt ngl, super creative 🤣
Frankie is SO ADORABLE! Congrats, Matt and Nathalie ❤
You three are just adorable! Thank you for sharing Matt, really appreciate your storytelling and showing your vulnerability through this experience as well. Was Frankie's fist-bump at 1:35 intentional to align with your voice over saying 'respect and admiration' to Nat - so perfectly timed! :D
This made me cry! Not enough dads feel this way! I was lucky to have a great dad and my kids are just as blessed! Thank you! If it's not tough you aren't in it! I love the quote! It's true! Thank you and good luck! Congrats!
Man, it’s been so impressive to see your progression on UA-cam but it’s really gratifying as a viewer to see you as a father. Take whatever time you need to find a balance in your life as a new parent, we’ll all stick around for however long it takes.
Congratulations on your beautiful, angelic son. Please tell Natalie that she looks more stunning than ever! So very happy for you both. What a beautiful life you're giving to this little precious boy.
I realized the reason why we have kids is because we need to learn to love someone else rather than just ourselves.
Matt, I laughed out loud after the 30 day countdown. I was on the verge of tears thoughout the entire video - there are no words to express the feelings, but you did an amazing job documenting your feelings and ups and downs. Sending you, Nat, and Frankie all the best ❤
I tried to be a dad for 26 years and now I think I will stick with it. Definitely life changes. Congratulations Matt and enjoy your little one.
Wife and I went through a few losses, we both lost it when we first heard our son cry
Congrats! ✨ Parenting is harder than people tell us, but is more wonderful than you can ever imagine ❤.
Those final seconds of the video made me break down in tears. New dad here too, and so much resonated. Thanks, Matt.
I'm so happy to see this! It makes me feel better that there are other people like me out there who got hit over the head by parenting and how hard it is! But we wouldn't trade it for anything!
This was truly a gem of a clip, humorous, sad (the suboptimal hospital stay), and very loving - 100% self recognition. All respect and care to all you parents who do your best and and may all others also find a sustainable path.
Matt and Nat really produced an entire offspring just to give us a self help video on parenting, now that's dedication to your audience! (Shitposting aside, congrats! Kid's gonna grow up to be one of the most well-rounded people on the planet with you for a dad)
Such an Adorable Baby ...congratulations to you both!!
As a mom of two, now 15 and 20, congratulations on your new son! I’m so happy that you’re enjoying him! Sleep will come. I promise! :)
Love this. Those first few weeks are so hard, but at some point things click and it gets better. The exhaustion never goes away, but when they see you and run straight to you with their arms open for a hug it is all worth it. ❤
Day 31, goodbye kid
The greatest gift. What a sweetheart! ❤❤ everything gets easier with the next, and next blessing.
Father of four here. I’m glad to hear it all went well and you are enjoying your time. This is definitely a life change that will teach you what essentialism is
So true!
Went through the exact situation 8 months ago when my daughter was born and things to get easier but its still a lot of work but as soon as they smile all the stress and tiredness goes away.
Dude we just got some pretty intense news about our impending birth and I needed this. Great to see you and Nat (and Frankie) thriving and growing through this experience. ❤
Hope everything is okay! Thinking about you guys and hope you have a smooth delivery!
My second is 5-weeks-old today and my first is 18-months-old. It's a rollercoaster and with every transition into things getting "easier", they suddenly get "harder", it is constant change and therefore the most challenging, incredible and fulfilling experience a human being can undergo. Welcome to the club Matt. Thank you for creating and sharing the video I really needed this week.
I officially joined the dad club just three weeks and one day ago. This video couldn't have come at a more fitting time for me. Kudos to Matt for sharing it! Here's to all the awesome dads out there! 🕶👨👧👦🎉
Can we also talk about how Nat looks amazing, wow motherhood goes well on you Nat. I am very happy for both of you and I hope to see your process in the future with Frankie.
haha best ad spot ever 😂❤
Have been watching your vids since you were single and now watching you holding your baby makes me cry from happiness 😭😭😭!!! God bless your beautiful family 🩵
30 day series is back baby! I mean literally😂
He’s so cute!!! Enjoy all the highs and lows. You’re both doing a great job!
I will always live for this quote about parenting. “Everyone is a good parent until they become one”. I didn’t realise I became a parent to an actual until we brought our daughter home. Then I didn’t bath her for the first 2 weeks, I would always pass her to the nearest family member. Also congratulations 🥳 on baby Frankie.
omg Matt!! i know im a stranger to you, but seeing your videos, & knowing about your life, feels like we are part of your family, and seeing Frankie, its like seeing another nephew of mine, and know that we already adore him!
Hey Matt, I’m doing the full time UA-cam thing with 6 kids. Would love to chat. 😊
Never expected to see you on this channel. But ig the content of the video is what brought you here
Yeah ain' no way he be there.
I thought he be watching some cloud configuration or tech stuff all the time.
The cutest baby ever award goes to Franky!! Parenting rocks but such hard work, you two look like pros, well done Nat for the labor did not sound easy, kia kaha. May your week be filled with lots of sleep and sleeping babies!
After my first was born I kept thinking: 'When does it get easier?' He's 9 now and I'm still wondering that 😂 Parenting is certainly not easy but so so worth it.
My daughter is 20, living at home. My life has never been so hard and busy. I loved the baby years but her as an adult with all the mess and moaning gets on my nerves
Currently in early labor at home watching this - I'll be thinking about those cute wake-up arm stretch clips to get me through. Congrats!
My Dad also tired it out for 30 days. Then he went to get milk
Mine is 2 months old now! Our Sweet little girl! And she already has a cousin thats 3 days old. I was so happy to stumble on this video. I didn't feel like watching youtube today and I wasn't interested in ANYthing youtube recommended today. Even things I like. Then This Video Nailed it! Trying to figure out still persuing my passions with a newborn. Im trying to finish my decluttering goals so I can unleash myself to write a book and learn (at least one) foreign language. So close. Now my little one is a whole new beautiful adventure too. Thank you for Everything!!!! Congradulations! He's so cute! And I had an interesting labor myself, and could appreciate enough your compliments to your lovely wife and her sacrifices. It's not easy. 6 DAYS??? :O :) She's amazing! You both are! -Long time follower
This video reinforced my childfree status. Thanks for being honest about your experience. Parenting is not for everyone and it definitely isn’t for me.
Fam fam you ain't NEVER LIE. I give those who do props, I have my own issues, I CANNOT be responsible for another HUMAN BEING 😢.
Your brother's advice made me tear up! So true
Man, the conclusion. Thank you for sharing the last heartwarming words, your growth from an independent content creator, to documentary director and now adding a parent! Big hugs from Mexico
The part of you talking how challenging yet great it has been made me cry and smile 😭❤️
I’m a dad of a 2yo and the mornings are as awesome as when he was little!
To emerge from the mind bending experience of pregnancy, to the split-second realization that the baby is born and the real work is just beginning - that’s the moment you start to understand what being a parent is like. It’s exhausting and wonderful and terrifying and surreal - and you can never understand it all until that moment it hits you. Congratulations on your beautiful son! The real adventure is just beginning; may you face all your future parenting challenges with the same love with which you look at your son today.
Ohhhh, that's so sweet! Congratulations!
My son is 9 years old now. But his first year was the most challenging and memorable. I wish you patience during this not easy but magical time ❤️🥹
My daughter just turned 6 months. This is so real. The rhythm is always temporary, but in a good way! And when they start laughing, you just forget all the hard parts.
Congratulations Matt! As always your genuine and honest presence in front of the camera is second to none!
And Franky is so cute! ❤
Congrats. What a beautiful baby is little Franky. You both are doing well, great parents and he will be a great son. I’m happy for this family
When I became a parent this is when I valued minimalism even more. Life is so chaotic with a baby I needed to make the rest of my life as simple as possible.
More of this! Amazing Edit and video! Started crying as a fellow dad here! Gratulations from Norway 🇳🇴
Thanks for being so honest about the challenges -- but also pointing out those challenges are nothing compared to the highs of being a part of shaping a human. I'm a single dad to an amazing 23 year old special needs son, who still needs a great deal of time, attention and guidance. What you said at the end made me tear up because it's so true -- when you think things are tough ... that usually means you're doing the right things for your kids. "It's easy to be a bad parent. Being a good parent is hard work." --- or something like that. So well said -- THANK YOU!
Massive congratulations, Frankie is adorable! Not a parent yet, but love seeing the honest stuff so that I'm not shocked one day
Congratulations Matt! That's the best thing I ever heard about parenting. I'm a Mom of two girls 9 and 16. My first daughter got released from the hospital before me. I ended up sick after I got home. I was in a sleep for pretty much four days. My second daughter was a premium she was in the hospital for a month. I'm blessed for being a stay at home. Thankful for my life with my husband and daughters. Enjoy every season of parenthood!