This couple definitely lacks shame. Here in India, we give cash instead of gifts at weddings and stuff and the amount generally depends on how close you are. But NEVER do we demand that they give anything at all. Not a gift not cash. Nothing at all. I mean how shameless do you have to be to ask for things.
A very tiny percentage does this kind of behaviour, but needless to say, as with any women dominant space, all influencers are being put under fire. That's my feminist act of the day. I claim not all men rights too. 👽
@@bikerultimate you really need to differentiate between bloggers who are sharing their lives and aspiring influencers who are counting to get free stuff from anyone around them. If someone started posting with the idea that they'll become influencer, that's already shows lack of math skills in conjunction with inflated ego, and I personally don't stand for those people.
When my oldest nephew said no gifts, but if you would like to give them a gift they would like money for their kitchen renovation. They ended up with $18,000 from everyone.
Listing really expensive items to the wedding gift wish list is a tactic used by some people so that the guests would forgo the gift and just give money. They knew that none of the guests would be buying them a $3k coffee machine (unless they have a really wealthy uncle, lol)
I’ve definitely seen before on registries where couples would put an option for guests to gift however much they desire to collectively fund the couples’ honeymoon, but never seen a goal amount or a demand for it so that’s crazy. 😭
This is quite common in Italy where a lot of couples already live together before getting married. So it makes no sense to do a traditional registry where you give the couple stuff for their new home. So instead they just do a "lista viaggi" (literally travel registry) and people can give them money to go on their honeymoon instead. Several people I know did this
Yeah and in those cases the newlyweds aren’t demanding for their guests to fund the honeymoon, it’s more of a kind gesture the guests can choose to do. Tbh i might opt for this travel registry on my own wedding in the future
That's the right way do it. My cousin anf her husband were already living together so they didnt really need anything so they said "if you wish to give a gift we would appreciate funding towards our honeymoon". They didnt demand or expect it. Just said if you are able to and would like to give a gift please do this instead. This on the other hand is crazy.
I would totally do that if my culture included registries just an option along with a few more artistic pieces for my home the basic stuff I would like to buy myself.
In Chinese traditions, couples do receive money in red pockets but it’s usually used to fund the wedding itself, not a honeymoon. And it is certainly not mandatory, just manners and respect
I was a flower girl for my stepdad and my mothers wedding and I was throwing flower petals around and this old man came up to me and yelled at me for littering 😐
If instead of the registry she would have asked people to gift them money for the honeymoon that would have been fine, but having a wishlist full of expensive stuff AND try to collect funds at a wedding? Nah that’s just embarrassing
You can either ask for registry gifts OR money contributions, but not both. And you definitely can't make it mandatory, especially with no warning ahead (and even if you warn... Expect people to not show up if they will be required to give money.)
I think it's also reasonable to include an option on a registry for money or to say that they also would take cash of any amount for the honeymoon (or a house fund or whatever) but mostly in instances where maybe the couple doesn't really need any tangible gifts (like if they already live together). But to expect any gift, registry or cash or otherwise, is still nuts, and even more so if it's mandatory haha
In many Brazilian weddings, that’s a thing, actually😂 But nobody is expected to give a specific amount and nobody is forced to give anything, it’s just a fun thing to do at the party. Usually, by then the honeymoon is already paid for anyways, as that’s just some extra cash for extra fun or to add to an emergency fund for the starting couple 😊
thats a wedding tradition in Brazil. people always do this, ofc it's not mandatory, but people always help. and its not for the honeymoon, it's just money to help you 😅
It’s more common practice these days to fund the honeymoon or just give cash since most couples live together before marriage and have all they need. But the high ticket items and passing the bucket was obnoxious and trashy.
When I got married my husband and I were already living together. If people pushed again we asked for a donation to our honeymoon but the trip was already paid for. It was more like a we could do extra things on the trip. Sadly most of the money we got actually ended up going to our new bed since our cat peed on it the day before our wedding.
My brother in law & his bride had their whole honeymoon as gift registry. We were to purchase prearranged meals, sightseeing, hotels etc for 6 weeks in Europe. As we couldn’t afford to travel internationally to attend, there was an expectation that we would purchase a high value gift. Any gifts not in the register were return to stores / guest for refunds. Absolutely appalling sense of entitlement.
Im guessing shes asking for the expensive gifts to either sell off or to first post and show off that she has this kinda money to buy these things and then sell them.
I’ve read about brides tell guests what to wear depending on how much they weigh. I either wouldn’t show up to that wedding, or I’d show up in the most extravagant, almost inappropriate outfit I could find. Just to spite her.
That $300 was probably from 3 couples who hadn’t bought a gift yet. That marriage is doomed if 1 person has unreasonable expectations about their lifestyle. That Hermes blanket is so last year anyway.
Omg that's wild. We actually didn't have a registry. We didn't want anyone feeling pressure. If anyone asked, we told them they don't have to give us anything but if they do want to do anything, money would be enough because we have all we can ever have at home . We used that money to pay off wedding expenses. We went on a sweet simple honeymoon to Canada and had an amazing time!! Whatever happened to love being about love and not about money. This is your wedding, your guests aren't obligated to give you shit. They spend money on gas or money to travel just to attend your wedding, then they spend hours celebrating with you and then have to go back home spending more money traveling home. How dare anyone demand gifs . Their prescence is plenty.
We in the Netherlands often ask for money instead of gifts by putting a little envelope icon on the invite. Then on the day itself we have a box where people can safely deposit often a card with some money included right next to a guest book where people can write something nice. We collected enough to fund over half of our honeymoon. But we used most on honeymoon extras like couples massage, excursion in a submarine, sushi, suitcases. Never ever spend money you don't have.
I was at a wedding, when it was time for the wedding kiss, they literally kissed for a minute, and standing there like a statue, i was laughing so hard lol
Why doesn’t she do affiliate marketing and use her social media money to fund her own trips? Reach out to the hotel if they can sponsor her in exchange for reviews of the hotel and referral to her thousands of followers?
I’ve seen things like this in quinceañeras, which is expected and encouraged (the donation bucket, the quince caries the bucket and starts a conga line that goes through all the seating) . But it’s also a cultural thing that has taken place for a long time. On the other-hand i have never seen this done for weddings (however i’ve only been to one or two) so i can’t speak much on that) but from what i gather this isn’t “normal” at weddings (or at least American weddings) however i don’t see the problem with either. The newlywed’s requests were quite ambitious, and given, a bit unfair and unreasonable. But the thing they were trying to achieve isn’t outlandish aside from their “all expenses paid Bahamas trip” price
Just don't have a registry!!! Put it on your invite, "we love yall but we don't need anything else but a lovely honeymoon, take that money you're about to spend on a microwave or a set of dishes and just give it to us" to expect money AFTER asking for expensive gifts is crazy
I mean if that’s what they wanted they could’ve made the gifts cash only but even then no one is obligated to ensure the night ends with 12k in their hand nor should a gift be required as if it’s required it’s no longer a gift.
My nephew and his fiance did a Go Fund Me for a trip to Norway to see some astronomical light show. I think they got $100. These kids were minimum wage workers.
Friend put up a decorative bird cage. Mostly for just cards. But there was a lot of money in there. I noticed later someone put paperclips at the top of the cage so people could clip the cash. having it floating at the top. Really fun/cute. I learned that, at the time, it was a popular thing to do. They were extremely surprised to have so much more than cards. It was a "no gift" reception because they didn't need anything. It went to a house down payment and a start to a college fund for future kids.
The only reason you should ever ask for a $3000 dollar coffee machine is if you are wanting to practice at home for being a barista but even that is an absurd price
One of the best wedding registries was for a couple I know in their mid-30’s getting married. They had everything they needed to set up their household, so their wedding registry was helping to fund different excursions for their honeymoon. But you could make partial gifts, etc. It was great and so convenient! But the excursions were not outrageous and this was in lieu of a traditional registry.
Like I think it’s great when people say please don’t buy us a gift but if you’d like to donate a little bit of money for our honeymoon is nice. The way we live now when my parents got married they where starting their lives and didn’t have household items that where traditional to gift back then. BUT THIS WOMAN NEEDS TO GET A GRIP
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Where do people get this kind of confidence?? Imma need some because fr that is too much 🥴
What is your wedding cringe story? 🤔
It's not confidence. It's a lack of shame. Confidence is quiet and knows itself.
@@jojokeanei don’t relate
Ew that's not confidence and I wouldn't want any of that. That is selfishness, entitlement and lack of consideration for the guests.
This couple definitely lacks shame.
Here in India, we give cash instead of gifts at weddings and stuff and the amount generally depends on how close you are. But NEVER do we demand that they give anything at all. Not a gift not cash. Nothing at all.
I mean how shameless do you have to be to ask for things.
It ain’t called confidence, it’s called audacity. And, it’s from their parents who failed to educate them on common courtesy, respect and humility.
I think her receiving $300 was ridiculous. She can work for the trip herself
Yeah if she wants to go then plan it her self
And she is a INFLUENCER I would honestly record this and show her fans
Yes or the money or the gifts
@@shiprasharma9166aspiring influencer, a person who wishes to be an influencer, she isn’t even someone who influences people yet
@@shiprasharma9166 People don't deserve to have their life ruined just for being annoying.
Aspiring influencer said all I needed to know
Yep, truly
Aspiring choosing beggar it seems
A very tiny percentage does this kind of behaviour, but needless to say, as with any women dominant space, all influencers are being put under fire.
That's my feminist act of the day. I claim not all men rights too. 👽
@@bikerultimate you really need to differentiate between bloggers who are sharing their lives and aspiring influencers who are counting to get free stuff from anyone around them. If someone started posting with the idea that they'll become influencer, that's already shows lack of math skills in conjunction with inflated ego, and I personally don't stand for those people.
Over these aspiring influences
I get asking for money if you don’t want gifts, but you can’t have both
When my oldest nephew said no gifts, but if you would like to give them a gift they would like money for their kitchen renovation. They ended up with $18,000 from everyone.
@@candie1230oh wow
Listing really expensive items to the wedding gift wish list is a tactic used by some people so that the guests would forgo the gift and just give money. They knew that none of the guests would be buying them a $3k coffee machine (unless they have a really wealthy uncle, lol)
fr
I’ve definitely seen before on registries where couples would put an option for guests to gift however much they desire to collectively fund the couples’ honeymoon, but never seen a goal amount or a demand for it so that’s crazy. 😭
This is fine though. Sometimes all the good stuff on the registry is gone
This is quite common in Italy where a lot of couples already live together before getting married. So it makes no sense to do a traditional registry where you give the couple stuff for their new home. So instead they just do a "lista viaggi" (literally travel registry) and people can give them money to go on their honeymoon instead. Several people I know did this
Yeah and in those cases the newlyweds aren’t demanding for their guests to fund the honeymoon, it’s more of a kind gesture the guests can choose to do. Tbh i might opt for this travel registry on my own wedding in the future
That's the right way do it. My cousin anf her husband were already living together so they didnt really need anything so they said "if you wish to give a gift we would appreciate funding towards our honeymoon". They didnt demand or expect it. Just said if you are able to and would like to give a gift please do this instead. This on the other hand is crazy.
I would totally do that if my culture included registries just an option along with a few more artistic pieces for my home the basic stuff I would like to buy myself.
"It's mandatory." The speed with which I would have gotten up and left, laughing the entire way out, would impress the Flash.
In Chinese traditions, couples do receive money in red pockets but it’s usually used to fund the wedding itself, not a honeymoon. And it is certainly not mandatory, just manners and respect
I was a flower girl for my stepdad and my mothers wedding and I was throwing flower petals around and this old man came up to me and yelled at me for littering 😐
The most supreme example of failing to read the room I have ever heard of. haha
I'm so sorry that happened to you, what a creep that guy was.
Did he hit his head or something 😕
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🎉😂
Bruhhh you have to be another lvl of dumb to do that-
The fact that people showed up to her wedding is astounding.
They don’t even deserve the $300. Who tells their guests that it’s mandatory? I would’ve left.
That's when all the guests should laugh, stand up and leave while flipping the bird.
"Aspore insta influencer" is the saddest dream i have ever heard of
Fr thats when you know it’s going down hill fast-
The Nerve 👁👄👁
The actual AUDACITY
HOW DARE 😤
Fr
It is mandatory
Me: gives a nickle.
Them:😐
“We’ll you didn’t say how much-“
Exactly what I thought lmao.
2 cents, take it or leave it.
People are INSANE.
If instead of the registry she would have asked people to gift them money for the honeymoon that would have been fine, but having a wishlist full of expensive stuff AND try to collect funds at a wedding? Nah that’s just embarrassing
You can either ask for registry gifts OR money contributions, but not both. And you definitely can't make it mandatory, especially with no warning ahead (and even if you warn... Expect people to not show up if they will be required to give money.)
I think it's also reasonable to include an option on a registry for money or to say that they also would take cash of any amount for the honeymoon (or a house fund or whatever) but mostly in instances where maybe the couple doesn't really need any tangible gifts (like if they already live together). But to expect any gift, registry or cash or otherwise, is still nuts, and even more so if it's mandatory haha
This the time you pull the “sorry I only do card no cash” 🤣
for my wedding registry, i'd put all the lego sets we want so we could build it instead of honeymooning
In many Brazilian weddings, that’s a thing, actually😂 But nobody is expected to give a specific amount and nobody is forced to give anything, it’s just a fun thing to do at the party. Usually, by then the honeymoon is already paid for anyways, as that’s just some extra cash for extra fun or to add to an emergency fund for the starting couple 😊
I think many culture did that except in US haha
Are the guests also expected to buy expensive wedding gifts as well as giving money during the wedding?
I would laugh my ass off before leaving the wedding
3000$ Coffee machine 😂😂😂😂😂
thats a wedding tradition in Brazil. people always do this, ofc it's not mandatory, but people always help. and its not for the honeymoon, it's just money to help you 😅
Okay asking people if they had a little bit to spare to help pay but saying it’s MANDITORY?! Insane!
This is just plain rude. She should be so grateful, she is lucky she got even $300
Fr I would have either glared at them and given nothing, walked out, or dropped a cent.
That marriage will fail.
Wanting and getting are two very different things. When they said donating for the honeymoon is mandatory, I would have grabbed my gift and left.
It’s more common practice these days to fund the honeymoon or just give cash since most couples live together before marriage and have all they need. But the high ticket items and passing the bucket was obnoxious and trashy.
I would have left the wedding right there
When I got married my husband and I were already living together. If people pushed again we asked for a donation to our honeymoon but the trip was already paid for. It was more like a we could do extra things on the trip. Sadly most of the money we got actually ended up going to our new bed since our cat peed on it the day before our wedding.
Either have gifts or ask for money, you don't get both
None of them drink coffe 😂
My brother in law & his bride had their whole honeymoon as gift registry. We were to purchase prearranged meals, sightseeing, hotels etc for 6 weeks in Europe. As we couldn’t afford to travel internationally to attend, there was an expectation that we would purchase a high value gift. Any gifts not in the register were return to stores / guest for refunds. Absolutely appalling sense of entitlement.
Im guessing shes asking for the expensive gifts to either sell off or to first post and show off that she has this kinda money to buy these things and then sell them.
"It's mandatory!"
Watch me cosplay flash lmao
I’ve read about brides tell guests what to wear depending on how much they weigh.
I either wouldn’t show up to that wedding, or I’d show up in the most extravagant, almost inappropriate outfit I could find. Just to spite her.
Petty af. I like it
omg really?? that’s insane. If it were my wedding i’d be grateful for people to even come in the first place
Heh heh heh, yup, me too, I can be "Petty Betty" when necessary 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣
“infliencer” just says it all lol
The way that putting money in was MANDATORY everyone probably put ones
She wouldn't be my friend anymore.
That's the easiest way to get your close ones to start avoiding you lmaooo
How did they manage $300?😂
Maybe 30 of them gave 10$?
That $300 was probably from 3 couples who hadn’t bought a gift yet.
That marriage is doomed if 1 person has unreasonable expectations about their lifestyle. That Hermes blanket is so last year anyway.
Omg that's wild. We actually didn't have a registry. We didn't want anyone feeling pressure. If anyone asked, we told them they don't have to give us anything but if they do want to do anything, money would be enough because we have all we can ever have at home . We used that money to pay off wedding expenses.
We went on a sweet simple honeymoon to Canada and had an amazing time!! Whatever happened to love being about love and not about money. This is your wedding, your guests aren't obligated to give you shit. They spend money on gas or money to travel just to attend your wedding, then they spend hours celebrating with you and then have to go back home spending more money traveling home. How dare anyone demand gifs . Their prescence is plenty.
How shameful but of course “no shame in their game”
We in the Netherlands often ask for money instead of gifts by putting a little envelope icon on the invite. Then on the day itself we have a box where people can safely deposit often a card with some money included right next to a guest book where people can write something nice. We collected enough to fund over half of our honeymoon. But we used most on honeymoon extras like couples massage, excursion in a submarine, sushi, suitcases. Never ever spend money you don't have.
Please drop influencers
Influencers are the worst thing that has happened to human society
This is why you send a gift without attending the wedding
tbh what i would do is give them like 2 cents
The audacity 😂😂😂
aspiring instagram influencer is something I never thought I would hear
I was at a wedding, when it was time for the wedding kiss, they literally kissed for a minute, and standing there like a statue, i was laughing so hard lol
Ok so people are now aspiring to be Instagram influencer? That's wild
She wanted those expensive gifts so she could return them and get the cash.
I’m surprised that she even got $300 at all
Imagine how soulless you are when you aspire to be an influencer.
watch me give her £1, £10 MAXIMUM 😂
I was willing to hear her out till I heard it was mandatory
"Aspiring influencer", ha!
Bahahaha "mandatory"
I remember one time when I was at my friends wedding the flower girl pushed over the bride and kissed the groom saying “I do”
As soon as you said "aspiring Instagram influencer" that was all that I needed to know lmao.
Why doesn’t she do affiliate marketing and use her social media money to fund her own trips? Reach out to the hotel if they can sponsor her in exchange for reviews of the hotel and referral to her thousands of followers?
I’ve seen things like this in quinceañeras, which is expected and encouraged (the donation bucket, the quince caries the bucket and starts a conga line that goes through all the seating) . But it’s also a cultural thing that has taken place for a long time. On the other-hand i have never seen this done for weddings (however i’ve only been to one or two) so i can’t speak much on that) but from what i gather this isn’t “normal” at weddings (or at least American weddings) however i don’t see the problem with either. The newlywed’s requests were quite ambitious, and given, a bit unfair and unreasonable. But the thing they were trying to achieve isn’t outlandish aside from their “all expenses paid Bahamas trip” price
Just don't have a registry!!! Put it on your invite, "we love yall but we don't need anything else but a lovely honeymoon, take that money you're about to spend on a microwave or a set of dishes and just give it to us" to expect money AFTER asking for expensive gifts is crazy
Wedding invitation instructed guests to bring a dish to pass.
I passed.
I mean if that’s what they wanted they could’ve made the gifts cash only but even then no one is obligated to ensure the night ends with 12k in their hand nor should a gift be required as if it’s required it’s no longer a gift.
I actually see this happen all the time. Where the bride’s registry is just a portal to upload money
Me grabs a 5 cent coin out of my pocket
Especially for the bride
I would leave the wedding ceremony ASAP 😂😂😂😂😂
.... If only she ASK them to put money into her trip instead of expensive gifts...
the audacity made me bol
My nephew and his fiance did a Go Fund Me for a trip to Norway to see some astronomical light show. I think they got $100. These kids were minimum wage workers.
People do not like being shaken down for a wedding.
My family has a tradition of wedding guests helping to raise funds for down payments or other important expenses, but even then it’s never demanded
Probably asked for those gifts so she could return them
Girl that's being Shameless
The worst thing is that she wants it for the looks on social media and not because she wants a great vacation with the love of her life
I would do the trip instead of of the gifts.
THAT MUCH!! LOL
gurl if you'll be a bridezilla to get money for your expensive trip just for clicks, nah thanks, I'll pass
You know what I feeling generous today
I give HA LF A penny! 🤗
girls acting like it’s a church and the guests are paying the tithes😭
Having a wish list that is onsane is alright imo bc I mean u dont have to buy it, but mandatory funding the trip????
Maybe she should of warned people to bring cash😂😂😂
Friend put up a decorative bird cage. Mostly for just cards. But there was a lot of money in there. I noticed later someone put paperclips at the top of the cage so people could clip the cash. having it floating at the top. Really fun/cute. I learned that, at the time, it was a popular thing to do. They were extremely surprised to have so much more than cards. It was a "no gift" reception because they didn't need anything. It went to a house down payment and a start to a college fund for future kids.
I would've taken back the gift I brought and walked out lmaooo
Would’ve loved to see the bride’s face when people refused
Damn, I'm surprised they even got $300.
Hermes : “Air-mez” just a thing I know…
The only reason you should ever ask for a $3000 dollar coffee machine is if you are wanting to practice at home for being a barista but even that is an absurd price
that‘s what a decent espresso machine + grinder costs.
I would start taking money from the bucket.
this kinda looks like a charity case
One of the best wedding registries was for a couple I know in their mid-30’s getting married. They had everything they needed to set up their household, so their wedding registry was helping to fund different excursions for their honeymoon. But you could make partial gifts, etc. It was great and so convenient! But the excursions were not outrageous and this was in lieu of a traditional registry.
who would even go to someone who’s like that’s wedding-
Me being Chinese 💀
Basically u have to give money to the wedding couple 😁
It's giving narcissist
Heard influencer and it made me instantly go "oh gees, this will be outrageous." Influencers need to get the audacity out of their hair.
"aspiring Instagram influencer" oi very
She is insane.
Like I think it’s great when people say please don’t buy us a gift but if you’d like to donate a little bit of money for our honeymoon is nice. The way we live now when my parents got married they where starting their lives and didn’t have household items that where traditional to gift back then. BUT THIS WOMAN NEEDS TO GET A GRIP
The fact she only got one fortieth of the money needed is wild
They should've done a courthouse wedding and use the remaining funds for their honeymoon trip💯💯💯