On the topic of Cohabitation | The Unpopular Opinion UG
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- Опубліковано 11 вер 2024
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The Unpopular Opinion
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Claire
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Prim
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Kemi
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Love,
Claire, Prim & Kemi
I am team Phiona.
Stay were you are until when you are ready to have me in a proper way.
Marriage first, staying together second and having children last.
I love Prim's positive vibe towards her ways of living. It is really so rare for such people to get disappointed. When you expect less from someone, you get less disappointed.
❤️
That feeling/pain when your partner is feeling some papers and he ticks single when you even have children together😭😭
Prim is so candid and has so much clarity over her decisions. Love it
I think cohabitation is a raw deal for women. Especially in this Era where civil marriages are so cheap. What happens in case you get children? You are left utterly unprotected. What happens if the man dies when you have invested together? The only time I would accept cohabitation is when we are working towards formalizing the union within 6 months of us living together.
Well said
I think the 6 month trial period to commitment is a great point. I won’t lie, I’m hesitant moving in with someone after marriage. I personally need to see how we both operate in close quarters. The pandemic ended a lot of relationships because people were forced to quarantine together
I am from Somalia, cohabiting is forbidden culturally and religiously but I liked the conversation.
You are killing it girls keep up👏🏿👏🏿
I love Prim’s perception of the ‘Why’. It’s mind opening for me.
I agree… knowing your why is important 🙃
True ,that' was a clear perception
@@Knowledge2cash Something new have learn too.
Prim you got yourself an emotionally intelligent and mature man
Having such discussions can be very difficult 😕 especially the financial situation
I'm Kenyan and I love this show it's so nice to interact with the Ugandan perspective. I am a fan of Murugi Munyi from TMI podcast and can't wait to watch the show.
Thanks for joining our family, Grace ❤️
I really love seeing the world through Prims eyes.....its important to know what it is one really wants💯
Nyonyozi prim has strong points, these days we do it for financial reasons not specifically for love reasons
Prim’s answer to the why, amazing. I get judged for looking at life like that most of the time and I always worry that as women we’ve been raised to be a little more close minded and more prone to being blinded by our emotions.
Deep conversations ladies❤️
I love that she says it was a financial decision... Because many people make the decision for the same reason but are not sincere enough to do so... First time on this channel and I like
Welcome. I hope all our conversations present this type of opportunity. To hear things that aren't said enough
The lengths we go to explain ourselves in this current generation is worrying. Matters of principle require no much explaining.
We cohabited with my now husband for 12 years and had our four children in that period, we recently made it official (2018) we are living well, we always talked about making it official but to me it felt comfortable and healthy.
I met my husband in December 2017. Once. He lived in a different town. We lost contact for a bit and then started talking again in March. We kept talking over the phone for 3 months. In June 2018, he finally visited and stayed for a weekend when we decided we wanted to be in a committed relationship. And we both weren’t into LDRs and I wasn’t going to move to his town of residence, he moved in with me and we lived together till we got married in August 2019. It was a financial decision to some extent lol keeping two houses wasn’t wise. I never thought I’d cohabit but I’d do it again. Maybe because we agreed on what sort of relationship we wanted and it was really a no-brainer. We are partners in EVERY sense of the word.
This is lovely to read 😍 thank you for sharing.
Thank you for sharing this, Uzoma. We're sure it'll help someone
It will always be a no for me on cohabitation. But I appreciate you opening my mind to other perspectives about it.
I love the honesty here. 👍🏾
Love that. Stand by your choices while extending some appreciation to divergent views. Here for it
Wow Murugi Munyi is coming to Uganda 🇺🇬 🥰🥰🥰🥰
Yes she is 🎉🎉🎉 I hope we’ll see you there 🙃
yassss! We hope you can join us. Info in is the description box and our instagram
Wow looking back Prim has really done the work congs Prim for getting healthy. Its a winner journey
Prim Prim
Yr a gem❤️❤️
And for Claire and Fiona, thx for being open minded, and never judgemental!
Thanks for supporting Angella ♥️
Claire thanks for this whole thing of ‘do you’ it’s something I have learnt and it’s actually true … #teamdoyou❤
Releasing yourself from caring what other people do with their lives has been one of the best things I have EVER done. 🙃
People should just see righteousness in there own eyes, such a great topic, thankyou ladies.
Banange Bubuna God bless your soul, he needs to mentor many on these streets, thanks for sharing Prim 😊
Well said Prim.... everybody do what works for you, do not impose your beliefs and what you think is the right way on others!!!
This has been very interesting,..... there's things we don't get to know till you hear it from someone doing it. Prim you have shared a truth to something I have always misunderstood, it's a heart thing,if it doesn't make you lose sleep then do you😊. Loved this and again y'all look sooooo lovely as usual❤️
Thank you hun ♥️
First off
You ladies look so good 😍😍😍.
This discussion is an eye opener. I like how Prim isn't afraid to be different. Love love y'all vibes
We promised you realness and rawness and that’s what we endeavor to bring you. Thank you for making it safe for us to be ourselves.
Its an eye opening discussion and thanks to Prim for telling us how it is based on her experience
Prim, I love the way you perceive things. Very candid and realistic.
U're making ma days brighter..I remember the days I was staying abroad but used not to miss shows like these.
I named u ma Oprah Winfrey show of Uganda and I pray that this show gets a place to wave on Ugandas best TV stations. Cos u're so real and this is what a gd show shd have.
I can write a book 📚 how excited iam to see a show like this in UG like those of doctor OZ en Oprah..
May God make u go spaces.🎉🙏🙏🙏
Aww this means a lot to us. Thank you so much for the support and for the fire fits Claire has been giving us
A new subscriber here and I love this discussion and clarity of thought. Prim said " Let me handle my firewood, handle yours" Dang!! Love her. Love all of you ladies!
I am Kenyan ,and I love this episode really learned alot .. thankyou Ladies
Marriags is taking astep of Faith, so if u cohabit yr not exercising yr faith… hope this helps some one.
nice topic, the only difference between cohabiting and marriage is a piece of paper. This piece of paper is what makes someone feel secure and comes at a cost. The paper has some sort of prestige as well. Just do you, what if u want to take your relationship on another level and u don't have money to fund a wedding ?? Lets not judge and cohabiting does not make u seem u went for a cheaper option, in some cases circumstances play a role. Loving the show from Kenya (+254)
I'm a new follower since your live show with Murugi Munyi and honestly i am hooked to your channel. I relate with Fiona coz i am more religious and i made a personal decision not to cohabit with any man. However i love Prim's wisdom and clarity. She is so grounded. If i am ever to cohabit, i would go with Claire's option. Its safer to have an introduction or traditional marriage or some form of formal commitment. All in all, you have a new fan from South Sudan 🇸🇸
I love you Prim. Thanks for being so open, and actually that's the new era, we are in. Most of us are doing that.
Prim hugs darling ♥️♥️ , Thank you so much ladies for dz Topic have really enjoyed en learned alot from dz🙏
Before watching this, I was team Fiona Iam still, but Prims answers as to WHY is very honest and very candid.
You ladies are doing a great job, I thank God I found you, the episodes are very Informative.
Primm is so gorgeous and I love her beautiful mind.
First time watching and I am hooked. Love from Kenya 🇰🇪 🇰🇪 🇰🇪
I love her points of cohabitation. Never thought of it that way.
Kemis voice is laced in an anointing you just cant help but notice.
Very interesting conversation with very many layers. For me marriage does not guarantee the success of a relationship. What it means for me is a display of commitment and protection/security in the legal sense plus the kind of home I intended to bring my kids into ie, married parents (personal choice). That's all. Now, if those bases are already covered without 'the ring', it then comes to what you as an individual wants for yourself, which is different for everyone.
One thing I know though, living with someone gives you and whole new dynamic of the relationship. Knowing what I know now, almost 10 years married, one year living together prior and one year long distance, if you want to taste those waters first, go for it. You might not want that marriage after all LOL
Thanks for sharing Linda. This will definitely help someone
And I love you ladies honesty it's genuine but cohabiting is dangerous it blurs the vision of the future relationship
Primmmmmmmmm......ewo. kuddos to you ladies...great topic.
Loved this episode 😘,,, y'all so woke and am here for it. Prim is so eloquent and how she put her thoughts together is beautiful. The why is important. I'm with Claire on this, I have no probs with anyone cohabiting but I wouldn't do it myself. I'm for partners where we visit each other but retain our specific houses. Half cohabiting maybe, I need my space to be my own. I can share it but not all the time. I need to see the partner when I want and not all the time 😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣 to each their own. I’d say if I did enjoy seeing my husband whenever I wanted before we got married.
I totally agree with these ladies. You must know your WHY and most especially WHO you are as a person; what you can handle and what you can't. Do Not Compromise because you will get hurt.
There is no master formula for how a marriage starts.
How it ends is what matters.
Every episode comes with very very vital lessons. I'm always looking forward.
Thanks for watching 🤗
We're so glad to hear this space pours into you ❤️
First time watching the show. This is so impressive & it’s very good to see that we have such open minded human beings in Uganda. All these ladies are different and they bring out different opinions in their personal life which is such a unique team.. Cohabiting is very common in African countries and a lot of people don’t really understand how it should work. There is so much to learn from this show mostly with this topic. I wish a lot of people could know what you guys are doing ,cause it’s such a great job.
Putting that aside! I am so glad that you ladies actually bought this topic because I think 80% of people living in Uganda actually doing cohabiting. Unfortunately just because we Africans like miss using things. When people decide to cohabit they go there for bad Hidden agendas and then they end up losing. Which is always the usual case in uganda . So it’s very good to hear such topics and to have such open-minded people that can talk about it because there is so much to learn from this topic and maybe there will be a change . Thank you again ladies
Much love from 🇺🇸
thank you so much. It means a lot that our content is hitting home and stirring us to speak up.❤️
Prim lives a very realistic life 👏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
I'm always here for her side of the story
I am here for it
I’m definitely here for it too ❤️
One thing I hate about cohabiting is that it's disadvantages outweigh the advantages that's why I wouldn't opt for it. But if someone feels comfortable with cohabiting then go ahead. If it makes you happy.
Real ,Raw and we are saying it all🤩🤩🤩🤩come on now
I’m glad you guys are loving the new intro 😍😍
yasss Rich auntie ❤️
I love you ladies
I have made myself no one can break me.
The only solution to all of this Katogo is being your own product. Ma God cohabitation no go zone I can't trust those sons just verbally they are too untrustworthy.
🤣🤣🤣 sis I hear you
Also,how to withstand one another's mannerisms and also general hygiene.. Thanks
Key word *PARTNERSHIP*
👏👏👏 Prim
Here because yes Murugi Munyi
this is great I can't believe I watched it to the end, but I think we men also need to be represented 💪
We hear you. We're working towards more episodes with diverse guests
Appreciate your balanced perspective of cohabitation. Both the man and woman are benefiting and are also taking a risk. I also believe it helps both parties decide whether a long term commitment is necessary
Prim your ideas are of a modern mature woman, i cohabited 2 yrs before marriage. We now been 12 yrs together. Marriage has no formula. It can work out or end, I have seen it all
Decisions shdnt be made from a point of weakness...thank u Claire..
watching from KE , i have cohabitted and i would never again
Personally, I don’t would do it either 🤗
It's always beautiful when you ladies are open and vulnerable.
I am Kenyan, and this is my first episode to watch, the lady who spoke about cohabiting after her financial situation changed during COVID, I like that she was so honest but also, it's very clear that this is how many women ended up cohabiting. Especially women who might never be able to be financially secure like the lady here who will one day be in a better financial space. It was a need based decision not a want. Grateful for her honesty.
Thank you for sharing openly. We appreciate that
I love prim she is owning it, love the mind-set
Brilliant opinions ladies! Prim that a great perspective you have there
We appreciate the energy you put in ❤️❤️👏👏👏👏
Woow.. prim is really honest. This has been informative and educative for me.
That'a great to put things on paper prim.
Wether we like it not ,we need to talk about cohabitation because it has been the norm for centuries,as a Christian I'm scared of doing it because I'm trying to set boundaries (sexually) before marriage and that has driven way men but what can we do,it is what it is
Thank God , it has driven away the ones not meant for you believe me. A man who has done the work wouldn’t go away because you won’t sleep with him now , what will he do when you are pregnant ? If he can’t exercise self control now or if you ever get sick 🤒
@@esthernalweyiso9805 thank you, no one wants someone without self control
"Uphold the standards you have set for you, sis. It is important to be true to yourself and the right person will respect and share those values" Kemi
We're glad this conversation is helping us stop and think through real things we have been a little too quiet about.
But who are those that haven't subscribed to this channel??
I looooove the content
You know!!!!!!! 🤣🤣🤣 thanks so much for your continued support, Daphne ❤️
Sis, who are those actually? 😄 Thanks for the support, sis
Love from Zambia❤️, love the very candid conversation plus y’all are BEAUTIFUL!🔥 I wish I could understand the language 😂.
That insight from prim was a good one. 😃
Thank you all for sharing your thoughts.
Our pleasure ❤️
Very very well put. Society expectations will kill some people one day. Do you!
amen!
First of all…. Y’all look stunning 🤩 as always 👯♀️👯♀️ plus it’s season 2 already💃💃💃 well done 🎊🍾
Thank you!!! It’s really a pinch me moment that we have a show that is now on season 2 🙈
Thank you so much 🤗
Key word... partnership!!!
Am learning more English from Kemi ,she said "anecdote"I had to immediately hit google with my fake spelling even i searched for "anicdot 😂😂😂😂😂😂
LOL. Sis we have died. Here's a response from Kemi
"Sis, all these book I be reading, I have to put the words somewhere. Glad someone is learning with me 😄"
@@theunpopularopinionug sis tell us the books u read
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Me: was the video waiting the word and it pops running anecedot
I think marriage is overrated!! A lotta females have been brainwashed n enslaved by religion n culture that if a man is not willing to commit to marriage, he doesn't love enough. Thats how a lotta females end up stack in bad marriage cuz their spiritual leaders n families have convinced n hoodwinked them that not being married or divorce is a sin. Sin ma foot!! Many dudes have married their girlfriends under duress from family members. They end up leaving their wives stack at home by themselves. They wanted marriage n they gave it 2 them. So they don't owe them anything.. A dude marrying u doesn't prove Jack!! It is simply a process a dude maybe willing 2 go thru simply cuz thats what u want n they don't wanna hear anymore nagging from u n yo family. Let marriage happen organically n u'll enjoy it. I've many cpls that chose cohabiting n they've lived together for many yrs without the pressure of marriage. Btw, not everyone was meant get married n their is nothing wrong with that..But the churches many of which r ran by the world's worst scumbags convince u otherwise. Thats y uc a lotta divorces. A lotta females want weddings as something off their bucket list. Bottom line, don't get sucked in by these church doctrines cuz half the time these churches r run by sinners worse than u. Follow yo heart n do u. F other pplz opinions. If u don't feel like marriage is a thing 4u, don't get married for the sake of it cuz at the end of the day ur the one going 2 be stack with the person u married under duress!! Ur a grown-ass woman who shd make yo own decisions. I think the biggest problem is that these churches want 2 think 4u n decide 4u what is a sin n what is not!! They're mo like the pigs in animal farm. I could go on 4 eternity about the church BS but I'll stop here. Those r ma 2 cents!!
Kale I jas came across your vlog accidentally but I think t was meant for me, I love the lady in pink kale atooba u v made my day u gal I wish u knew, bmbi thank u ladies era let me even subscribe mutyambe mwogere ne ku emotional abusers banange kikambwee
I’m glad you found out channel ♥️
yassss! Glad you found us. Thank you joining our little space ❤️
Had to subscribe asap
So insightful
Prim!!!! Whenever u speak, I feel u r speaking out some of my personal stuff that I v always been shy to say out, feel more confident with everything around me more than ever
Just from the beginning of this episode this slim lady like me wearing the black shirt is now one of the example of a single lady who can do a show about love, relationship and marriage
Bcos am single too but i do hear some saying to me or behind my back how can i be talking abt marriage or love when she is still single
Thanks again for the encouragement
Love da honesty in here
Eh but you guys😂 do you know how many times I’ve Re-watched the intro. “real, raw and we are saying it all.” 😂 mwebale ba dear.
A follower suggested it a few weeks back. I’m glad it’s being well received 😍
Thanks dear, it's a blend of a few suggestions we got from our audience. We love it too! ❤️
So interesting, so educative 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾thank you ladies
Murugi Munyi brought me here. I am loving the channel already.
Like Prim said, if you're cohabiting please keep your mindset to partnership not marriage. This will help you to invest 50/50 with your partner in everything without ignoring big things in disguise of afterall his my husband.
Yes, I’ve been captivated, and I’m officially in love with these ladies 😍
real , raw & we saying it all 💃
This was actually suggested by one of our amazing followers ❤️😍
@@Knowledge2cash I love it . Its super dope & kuddoz to her 👏
You guys i love your topics, like i can spend a whole full day on your Channel😄☺️ very interesting Topics and i also love your honesty in everything
Thanks so much guys for sharing.As Prima as said cohibitation started way back, naye let's not looking at it as abad thing coz sometimes it really helps alot.
It really does help some people…
Prim 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍 vibes... Pure vibes...
It is a very vital discussion. Openiness is key in everything because some people pretend and promise what they won't do just win soul mates.
Oh wow, these ladies are really open minded. Had to get these brains..
Bravo
Prim you are so Honest.
The topics are well thought through and enriching!!! Love it for me🥰
Love it for you and all of us to be honest. Thanks so much for the support ❤️
Yes toxic Christianity/toxic religiosity. Would love that topic!!
Prim I love you and Fiona that smile ija nkuhe brother wangye omuriire ibanja otherwise I love yo vlogs I nolonger sleep early UA-cam is my extension
Prim is a resource
She really is
I'm Kenyan watching for the first time. You ladies are awesome.
Thanks for this ladies. Request. Can we please include the men as guests in some of these conversations you decide to share with us to listen to their perspective on things. Thank you.
Thanks for this suggestion… The Live show is ushering in the shows where we have guests on the show. We definitely have the shows where we’ll have men 🙃
Insightful, informative, educational, honest, raw and real. This is it! Love you ladies. And am always looking out for another episode all the time.Thank you Prim for being real and relatable and the rest of the ladies, you are all point!🧡🧡
Thank you so much!
Prim👏🏽👏🏽
Well done ladies
Omg!! How did I get to this you tube channel . Yamawe I’ve been glued for hours
Society and religion set the standards, its your choice to choose how much they influence your choices. Choose you and what is right for you at the time🙂