Is My Husband Cheating With My Best Friend?
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1. Plan carefully and methodically
2. Acquire and compile evidence( P.I. if necessary)
3. Start stashing money
4. Make a long term plan
5. Unless you are in danger, pretend like everything is normal.
6. You are empowering yourself to blindside him.
7. Plan very carefully for you and kids future.
8. Compile copies of all finances. For the last 5 years.
9. Start stashing money.
10. Start stashing money.
Be kind to yourself, stay busy, spend time with support system.
Best advice!! And don’t sleep with him. No telling what you might get.
stashing money will not play well in divorce proceedings. Thorough documentation yes so you get your fair share, but not proactively stealing it. If he can prove that, it will not play favorably.
I agree. Quietly get your life in order.
Pack away treasures ready to move
@@josh.kaptur adultry Doesnt play well. Its tit for tat. Hes f**king the neighbor.
@@josh.kaptur Better plan is to work with a lawyer to make sure HE cannot remove/hide chunks of money until/during the divorce proceedings.
On top of cheating, he is also insulting her intelligence with these idiotic lies.
He and the friend both are! Yep
To be fair, she’s not acting super intelligent. He keeps cheating because she keeps allowing it.
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The insult would be the straw for me😢
Behavior is a language
Begin a single mom is better than begin with the wrong man who has no dignity, moral or respect for you. Period.
Just because you don't value your husband, doesn't mean that other women won't. Handle your business, and you won't have problems ❤
She's really looking for someone to tell her to ignore it or that she's overreacting..... it's heartbreaking
@@DeaconChrisstrash response. You don’t know this women. Stop projecting your inadequacies.
Well for some single motherhood is a terrifying prospect and it might be better for the children for her to maintain the facade.
@hannao139 just talk it out, and if that doesn't work pray. But don't throw your family away if something can be worked through-
Oh man I have never heard Dr. John say, “Until you sit in reality, I can’t help you” ugg that was powerful 😓 I feel so bad for this lady.!!
Infidelity should be treated as a very serious crime
ABSOLUTELY!
I agree, also should count in a divorce. Some states are "no fault" and it doesn't matter if your spouse cheated.. it's not right.
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I understand your frustrations but don’t give the government any idea pls
It is on Muslim countries. Under Sharia law. Is that what you want? Sharia law? Because most Westerners whinge and whine that they would never want sharia law. You can't have your cake and eat it too.
Who needs enemies with “friends” like her? 🤮 Run, Hannah!
Caller isn’t innocent. She married a hot man other women want because of her inherent superficiality and now acts surprised he has options. I guarantee if she sought her husband in the computer lab instead of the nightclub or the football field, this wouldn’t be an issue. Oh no, I parked my Ferrari in a high-crime neighborhood with the keys in it and it got stolen, I’m such a victim!
Yep. I know the feeling well. Your friends should never be friends w your man
Who needs a husband with a husband like him? 🤢🤮
So true Rule #1: Don't share personal info about your marriage with friends or family. I learned the hard way too.
It just kept glitching on me when I tried this video tutorial so firstly I would say thank you for the video and secondly, thank you Dale Valskov meeting you was a blessing in disguise keep up with the good work I'm sure a lot of people will be needing your assistance iin the nearest future after seeing this
God bless you, you lost a friend and a husband that’s tough to accept.
Maya Angelou once famously said: "When someone shows who they really are, believe them". Your choice in this matter seems clear to me, and I think to you as well.....the biggest obstacle for some of us, is the will. You are worth much more than that.....LEAN FORWARD!! Hoping for the best....
"... believe them the first time." Even better.
I feel her pain. Been in a relationship for 7yrs and she outright tells me that she went home with someone because of "spite" and see if she was still desirable. It's world shattering and it's easier to say do this or do that. It's not that simple when your whole world gets flipped and bombed. You're not alone ❤
You know what you can handle. People offer advice based on their perceptions and experiences. You can judge better since you actually have spent time with the person. Some people can and maybe should be forgiven if they show true remorse, others don't.
I'm so sorry. Run from her ASAP if you feel your self esteem dropping
She needs to talk to her neighbor’s husband to discuss the situation.
The notion of a perfect marriage or relationship is a fallacy; every relationship is unique. What works for Adam may not necessarily work for Peter. Nevertheless, I've discovered that there's always a solution to every problem. Five years ago, my wife and I were on the verge of divorce due to challenges in our marriage, but we were able to mend our relationship. It was a tough time, but we survived.
The significance of your words is not lost on me, and I genuinely hope my feelings resonate with yours. Despite our current physical distance, I cannot conceive of my life without her; my love for her is deep-rooted. I yearn for her return, and I'm committed to doing whatever it takes to make it happen. We've explored different paths, including therapy, in our journey toward reconciliation
Learning to let someone you love go is always a tough journey, but in my case, I had the wisdom of a spiritual mentor who kept my marriage from crumbling. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters
I appreciate this guidance. I'll quickly search for her online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that this approach will also bring me the results I desire; I miss her dearly
He is a repeat cheater, I don't know that a marriage could get past that, there will never be trust again!
You constantly write this on these videos
Tell her husband for sure.
I’m sure he knows wouldn’t surprise me if they were swingers
@@DavidPavlovich2 😂😂
That’s the first thing I would do
My belief is that you need to guard and protect your heart. Take care of yourself and your children. Please get legal advice and do NOT get involved or even speak to your neighbor or anyone except professional and take legal action immediately.
@@lynnehansen1721so true. The neighbor is just as a bigger liar than her husband.
Hannah, if you read this, please know that my heart goes out to you. My ex husband cheated on me snd when I asked if he was cheating, he would point blank lie to my face and deny it. I KNEW he was doing something, my whole body knew, but I refused to call him a liar so I would step back from those conversations. Finally, the evidence was too clear for him to deny any longer and he had to admit it.
I asked him why he had denied it everytime I had asked. His answer was because the women I thought he was cheating with were not the right women. He was cheating with other women.
It is SO hard when you are convinced that you are crazy, overreacting, or stupid. You are none of these, sis. You have a good heart and chose to believe the man you married ❤ I truly hope you make your way to a better life, to a life you and your kids deserve ❤️ Be well, girl 🌸
You don't need to see the dirty details in this case, just take action.
Except sometimes it can help in divorce cases to have the dirty details.
I would have a short honest talk with him and tell him I can't stay married to a husband I don't trust. Full stop. That would be it.
You sound like someone who has not gone through the years of gaslighting that come with it....
This is beyond any such talks. She should just get a lawyer and file for divorce.
She already admitted at 2:14 that he’s cheated on her before so that conversation would have no credibility. He didn’t suffer any consequences of cheating the first time so it’s meaningless. In fact, him being faithful and not cheating should be the surprise.
@@vaska1999 Do you always "one up" all your comments or conversations?
@@standground7956 yep
I love that he reminded her that her children are taking their cues about relationships by watching her and her husband. She owes it to them to start a new life.
As a woman who is in the middle of going through this right now and it has been going on for 6 months - go with your gut. She is not your friend. Time to involve the other husband and get on the same page. Yall need to bring this to light. You need to set boundaries. They are cheating. Even if it’s -only - emotional cheating. 😒🙄 I finally stopped just letting things happen. Stand your ground. Do not be gaslit. I am so sorry.
I'm so sorry 🙏🏿❤
No. You and this woman..NEED TO PACK UP YOUR THINGS AND GO.
@@carriefawcett9990yeah because it's so easy to just do that, right?
I wish i would have found this channel about 7 years ago !!! Im 31 now and I married young , sometimes just having someone tell you that your not crazy is what you need .
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I have been in this position. I knew something was very wrong and we were going to counselling. He swore to me and the counsellor that he was not having an affair and that I was paranoid and untrusting. Then his girlfriend came knocking on my door and told me what they had been doing and that I needed to get out of the way for their "true love". Such a shot to the gut, but in one way, I felt so much better - I was NOT crazy. All those times I sensed that he was lying, that there was a big cloud over us, was real! I was NOT crazy. He was just a big liar. And their "true love" was soon jettisoned as he tried to get me back. I could not go back. It is painful, but you get through it. And there is a better life ahead.
Get a lawyer, prepare yourself emotionally, practily and financially, do it for ypurself and the kids.
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The fact that she needed to call anyone about this reveals that the first step is self worth. That matters more than what she does in response to this obvious cheating and disrespect. Once she gains self respect, the difficult steps begin to fall in place. On the other side, in a year or two, you won't believe how much better your life is. You'll still have challenges. Being a single mom isn't easy. But it's much easier than living with (and next door to) people who spit in your face and letting your kids see that.
Poor woman. Hopefully now that she is facing the painful truth she can gather the strength and resolve to leave him. I wish her all the best.
Dear Hannah, the nicest advice I can give to you it that please run before he & your "bestie" will torn your heart apart again ❣️ Because when it comes to the topic of cheatin, I'm very honest to you that I NEVER could reunite with such kind of man again because I was & am still often unfortunately a crush to married men around me but I'm giving zero effs about them & in my hotel job, I even saw such kinds of men with their affairs in their arms & still acted like "The Very Hungry Caterpillar" by checking out & flirting with another ladies including me. Your husband also sounds like that to me. These people are always hungry. That's why you immediately should run away from them ASAP to stay SANE & hence, I really appreciate my quiet single life because since all of these happenings, I have seriously trust conflicts with people❣️ It's sad but you're not alone. And you don't need them to love yourself because they only showed they don't deserve you❣️😘
I like your Very Hungry Caterpillar analogy!
@@lilithowl Thank you ❤️🔥 Such hungry persons will even cheaat on their affairs because they are childish preds who don't know their limits. Wish you & her a great day ♥️
She just hasn’t been cheated on and humiliated enough to leave. She’s one of those that leaves once the guy is set up to give the best friend what she’d been asking for all along.
I'm sure she's been humiliated plenty. Boys like this will play mind games with you until you don't know up from down. They are boys, not men. Selfish, insecure, psychologically abusive boys.
I feel so bad for this woman. She sounds like a genuinely kind person.
Theres a light at the end of the tunnel though. My mom got remarried after my dad left and she’s never been happier.
The “he never cared” hit ME hard…I can only imagine what this feels like because wow. I don’t wish this on nobody
I would go to the neighbor husband and tell him everything we would read the text together why you just ruin your own marriage while you can ruin hers as well
I am so disturbed by the fact that going next door to a woman’s home to do anything for her is even being used as a lie . Just that alone is disrespectful and inappropriate. Going to help another woman without his wife being present let alone at midnight and to lie about the wine ? This guy is a clown! And her neighbor also has zero integrity! No shame . Unbelievable!!!! Any man at another’s woman’s home without his wife there is not acceptable! Ever ! What a douche bag!!
Wow some of you people act like your partner's jailer.
@@lilithowl you’re a cheater and a boundary crosser . Easilily detected
My husband and I think it’s so crazy how many couples there are out there who don’t have each other‘s phone passwords. Anytime my husband ever asks for my phone. I give it to him freely and openly and we don’t even have to ask each other because we have each other‘s passwords and neither of us is hiding anything - except for maybe a surprise party or something about a Christmas gift. It’s so nice to be able to trust your significant other in that way. And anytime that either of us has felt uncomfortable with some thing, we’ve brought it up and made a point of getting it cleared up as quickly as possible.
Her husband AND her "best" friend are both jerks. I feel for her. And if my husband had said "I deleted it," I would be FURIOUS.
The same thing happened to me he went for a 2.5-hour walk in winter, at night, and he hated the cold. Refused to show me the phone next day he deleted everything. Also, it wasn't the first time he cheated. I didn't leave for 2 more years. But it was over that day. It's hard to find the courage to go when you have little ones and bills. It's scary. But it's inevitable, prepare to go, the leave.
I was told by a friend that my ex boyfriend was seeing another one of her friends. I asked around and found out he cheated on his ex wife. That was enough for me. I dumped him immediately. Later, i found out he cheated on subsequent girlfriends. Some people are just cheaters! Just leave
Such a sad call.
She is wanting solid proof or for them to admit it. Because If she leaves.... even tho 1+1=2 and she knows what's going on, she really don't KNOW what's going on. And then she'll ask herself repeatedly if she did the right thing by leaving. What if he really didn't sleep with the neighbor etc. She just wants to be assured that she's doing the right thing... and yes, that she is not crazy. I know this because I'm in the same Exact situation. Except mine is just sleeping with everyone it seems
Mine is a total narcissist
I am so sorry. You DO have the strength to leave. One step at a time. Find a support system, they will help encourage you. There are all sorts of support systems that weren't available a while ago. I'm guessing there's even some online. Don't wait for it to get better. It won't. It will get worse. Get out now.
@alycewich4472 every time he feels me getting over him.... he comes waltzing back in. I hate him. But I love him. I hate that I love him. I think more than anything my ego is shattered. Self esteem. Self worth. Idk everything. I'm angry that he don't want me like I deserve to be wanted. So I guess it's been a battle to prove to myself that I can make him be what I want/ need. I guess I feel like if I can't fix this or him and make him loyal to me, I've failed. I've lost that lil something that I felt like I had that made me special or unique. So maybe it's my pride that won't kick him outta my bed right now. Even tho I'm cringing at the thought of him touching me. Yet I still want him. I just wanna bang my head against a rock. Smh I know I deserve better. More than he can provide emotionally, physically, and even financially. I've never been stuck on somebody like this. I hate it
I’m so sorry this happened to you. Leave for you and your daughters. Things will be hard at first, but you will feel so much better in the end. ❤ Ramp up your self care, call a lawyer, and find somewhere to stay away from all of them if you have the means.
The fact that shes not even upset or feel frustrated or anything, makes me loose respect for her - seeing that she doesnt respect herself enough to put her foot down.
I hope she continues to find strength to navigate away from this toxic relationship.
Hannah, you deserve love, care, and respect ❤ you got this!!
Girl if you stay he’s going to do it again. Be brave sister. Love yourself.
She’s in denial. I hope she gets some therapy and finds the strength to leave that terrible husband.
14:13 Dr D is right please be kind to this woman. DON’T go at her. Go at her scummy husband.
She deserved the best support ever
Same thing happened to me! My husband cheated with my best friend, our neighbor. We are now divorced!
I was in the same boat. My husband lied, the other woman lied, it was terrible. TRUST your gut. You are not nuts.
As someone who has felt the sting of this type of betrayal, I felt this. The hurt, anger, and sadness that is felt is like no other. Your best friend is supposed to be trustworthy and so is your partner. I'm so sorry to the caller. It sucks, and you'll never truly get over it. There will always be a piece of you that doesn't trust any women, any partners, and especially them together.
I've been in Hannah's shoes many times and it took me being emotionally broken to stop choosing men who do not respect me or themselves. The process of getting to know someone and holding that person accountable is a real thing. No one has the right to lie, cheat, and be disrespectful then expect to continue to walk with you as if nothing happened. I learned the hard way but now I know better and I expect better. I'm not afraid to walk away anymore.
Ugh, I feel for her. She was desperately trying to hang onto the marriage with plausible deniability-“Well, I didn’t actually see the texts, so how can I know what happened?”-when there actually was none. He told her everything she needed to know by omission.
I’ve been cheated on, I’m so sorry. You’re in my prayers.
I’m sorry to comment so much but I hear u in me. I spent so many years denying my gut and listening to how jealous and crazy I sounded that it has taken time to get it back. But it does come back and you will stop questioning yourself and trust yourself again and it is amazing
She is worth so much more than this. She deserves so much better than this. I hope she sees that & gets better.
This is why I always say don’t allow “best friend couples” to be a “part”’of your marriage. Especially when it involved drinking heavily or being under the influence of drugs and alcohol. Keep your marriage or relationship sacred. Don’t share everything and don’t overspend time with other “couples”.
Hannah you have the right to be treated with nothing but respect. John often says you’re teaching your children what a marriage looks like, what love looks like, and most importantly how to treat a woman. You know what you know. Find support. Sending you blessings so you can do what you know HAS to happen next. 🙏🏽🌹🌹🌹🌹💜
Mercy me people did you not hear Dr John say be kind.
It breaks my heart for her and the children.
Shame on all of you , why can't we as women fell her pain and NOT be so catty ⁉️
Their poor children! Both families 😢 how insanely selfish!
This exact thing happened to my aunt. Husband with the " best friend" next door neighbor. Leave him!!
When your partner snatches their phone from your hand, that's all the proof you need. You don't need to see texts. They've just told you everything you need to know.
I wish I knew this person so I could hug them. She deserves so much more. There is nothing good that comes from sacrificing yourself in this way to stay married. It might take a while, but it is time to make a plan and get out. Even if it means you need to be strategic and make sure your financial bases are covered before you go.
This was heartbreaking to hear. I’ve been through this and the best thing I could have done was walk away.
He's exhibiting the behaviors of a person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). A man with the same disorder has a UA-cam channel, Mental Healness. Watching him discuss the behaviors matter of factly really helped me understand it's a him problem and stop blaming myself.
Im infertile. My Ex wife had anaffair and got pregnant. ULTIMATE betrayal.
That was 10 yrs ago... i couldnt be happier with my new wife and two step children whom i live dearly. That thing she did, was backhandedly the best nicest thing anyone has ever done for me
Her husband knows he can do anything and she’s not going to leave.
Sounds just like My wife who cheated on me for 10 years, moving/counseling/new careers through all of it. He’s never gonna change leave him now. I’m sorry.
The second you cant see the phone is the second they comfirm they are doing the shady shyt that made you ask for the phone in the first place. There is absolutely no reason to not see your husband's texts or that he deleted them. Its called gaslighting and if they have to do that it becasue they know they are in the wrong.
It’s hard to leave when you have no where to go or a support system or even financially stable…especially with kids. It’s the main reason I stay unfortunately
Hannah girl! Stop letting this man play in your face girl…your kids are watching, and developing a blue print of navigation. You know what to do, please do it.
Mam, I hope you see this. It is better to wake up alone than to wake up wishing you were alone.
Run! Do you not smell smoke? There's fire everywhere! Prepare yourself not to burn.
It's amazing what you do Dale Valskov We need a lot of people with your skills and set who have good intentions and spread love
Not only are they cheating, but they think she's stupid. They're both disrespectful.
She keeps saying "I know... I know.." but she is not getting it. It didn't hit her quite yet. She is a people pleaser, she needs serious therapy jes....
So sad😢
It doesn't really matter if they are sleeping together. The disrespect is more powerful. Respect your self.
Facts shes weak and afraid. I've been there. Bless her heart.
@@tinacamara4900 If they are not sleeping together the husband did not cheat period!!!
@@moniquejones6482 What you mean boy?
Caught my ex wife with another dude, I felt like the world dropped on my shoulders and I couldn't get out. After a few months, I realized she did me a favor by doing it 6 years into the marriage instead of 26 years into the marriage. Then, her misery set in with her new relationship, arguing and fighting all of the time. After 6-8 months, she was begging me to get back together, but with a smile I said, you got what you thought you wanted so now you get to live with your decisions.
Mic drop! Good for you!
What was the reason she said she cheated. Damn sorry man.
@@aortega701 - I am good, sucked going through it at the time but glad she did it years ago. To this day, she will still deny it even though I literally caught her. But the reason was, she "thought" he had money. Even though I worked all of the time, every time I mentioned starting my own contracting business, she would want to argue, "you will do nothing but fail". Well, she moved in with the dude she still denied cheating with, within a few months his house was in foreclosure and he was losing everything. Within a couple years I had 2 businesses with 45 employees and doing my thing.
Sometime some things can turn out bittersweet!
Good for you!!!! I’m sorry this happened
Great answer. You reap what you sow, now she can have him and keep him, LOL.
I can’t imagine my wife asking to see my phone and telling her “no”
Especially after you’d already been caught cheating before lol
EXACTLY!
Its the reality for SO many women
@@huntergreene7306 and men. That’s really not a gender specific thing.
@@berniegordon6338 - 100%
It takes a blatant amount of nerve to leave your bed at midnight and go to a neighbor's apartment for 2 hours, while your wife is at home waiting for you to return. Sister, it doesn't take 2 hours to open a bottle of wine. May God go with you through this difficult time.
It takes 2 hours or more of cork screwing the neighbor.
The sad part is the audacity. Like, that's how little he thinks of her, that she's an idiot who won't even realise what's happening under her nose. The arrogance to just get up and leave, in the quietest time of night, and think you're so smart no one will know.
Truth!
Not to mention he has a past history of cheating. He also lets her look at his phone but only after he erased the texts. She looks and though she can't see the actual texting, but she can see that there are hundreds of text back and forth.
This dear woman needs to find her self-respect. She is worth far better treatment than what she's receiving. And whether she realizes it or not the way the dad treats the mom effects the entire family. For the sake of her children, she *must* put an end to this betrayal.
My father was a serial cheater & when my mom was finally done, she packed him up while he was away on a business trip. She sat me down & asked me if I knew what happened to dogs that got the taste of sheep’s blood. I looked at her & promptly said, “You shoot them.” And she looked around at my father’s things so neatly stacked & labeled & she looked back at me & said, “I just pulled the trigger.” I never forgot that nor forgot the strength it took to admit someone doesn’t love or respect you as much as you thought. Thanks, mom for the life lesson. Good luck Hannah. Stay strong.
Sorry, I didn’t really get it. What did your mom mean by, “I just pulled the trigger?”
@@TigerTummy23it’s a phrase as in she made the last move. (Pulling the trigger in this means she finally was done)
@@BriellaEats Oh, I see. Now it makes sense. Thanks :)
@@TigerTummy23 absolutely! 😊
As someone who was married to a serial, your mom is the best. I'll remember that.
“That’s called a regular affair, not an emotional affair”, you could hear the heartbreak in her voice after that💔
Sounds like she's been gaslighted for so long, she wants to believe he's not having an affair 😢.
I think she knows, she's just too afraid to admit it to herself.
@@YourOpinionMatta How could you not know with ludicrous excuses such as the one they offered?!
I think it’s more self convincing because of the hardships single motherhood brings
100%. My ex's affair went on for close to a year, almost in plain view, before I put the divorce papers in front of her. I wanted to believe the lies and that my gut was wrong. She lied for the first six months of the court proceedings before she got cornered with the threat of proof. She came clean and vindicated every single suspicion I'd had for the previous 18 months. This poor woman on the call is dealing with the same thing. Hannah ... go to court and destroy this monster. The thought of it is terrifying, I know. At times, you'll feel like there's no point in continuing on or that it'll never end. But if you're going through hell, keep going. It doesn't last forever here.
She’s probably believing it for financial reasons. Sometimes the amount of work it’ll take to leave the situation makes you just wanna believe the lies.
1. Middle of the night 🚩🚩
2. Cork Screw 🚩🚩
3. Deleted text messages 🚩🚩
4. He's cheated before🚩
The list goes on
He's a man 🚩 🚩🚩🚩🚩
😂😂😂 sorry, I couldn’t resist!
Yeah. . . . the list just goes on and on. . . .
Girl RUN! I was married to a cheater. Life is so much more peaceful as a single mom who isn’t dealing with a selfish man child
Same and I 100% agree with you!
im tryin to tell a friend the same thing but she wants a baby and to be married so bad. She found out her boyfriend of a year had a one year old baby and had been sneaking to visit and stay with the childs mother
SERIOUSLY
@@em7937 wrong, being convinced is part of the human experience. And it sticks, that's what being convinced implies.
You picked him. You women only want the men that are desired by all women. While you passed up all the faithful dudes in your youth because they were "nice guys"
I don't understand when people say they are your friend and betray you in the worst ways. Disgusting
No friends, no trust
No one is your friend. Trust no one but pretent that you do
@@steelearmstrong9616 People who say trust no one are afraid to get hurt. Trusting others you're close with is a normal part of life. The problem is, don't continue trusting them after they give you reasons not to, such as in this case.
I have had abilities my whole life, and I can read people like a book.
@@GameChanger597 Acceptance
Your work speaks volumes of the kind of man you are. efficient, organized and result oriented well done , Dale Valskov you're soo good at what you do
Is this a meme, or is it just a bot farm that posted/liked comments on the wrong video?
omg my jaw dropped when she said the friend said the husband was home but she just needed help opening a bottle of wine at 12-2 am. like wow y'all couldn't have come up with anything better than that
They clearly didn't need to if she's that naive. So sad. I hope she realizes she deserves better than this husband and "best friend."
He was OPENING a bottle of wine alright...
My jaw dropped just reading the title 😂
they dont even care if the excuse sounds valid after a while, as long as they dont have to actually tell the truth
Well technically he more than likely did take “his” corkscrew to open her bottle. Is another way of saying it. She may not be lying.
She needs to talk to her "friend's husband and compare notes.
Exactly this 💯
Totally !
The husband next door wasn't putting babies to bed at midnight. He was in on the action.
@@Jessica-J.ones. lol damn
She needs to ask the husband about where he was that night and tell him her story. Her husband was in their house for two hours after midnight? Where was he? Is her story BS (yes). Then plan the big escape after the finances are in order.
That is not your best friend sis. They are definitely sleeping together.
Terrible
Get a good lawyer girl!!!
Relax , it was just a really tough bottle of wine to open, took a few hours
@@nicklowe_the bottle was probably full of hot air.
@@nicklowe_ 😂😂 he was screwing something alright.
Her soon-to-be divorce attorney can subpoena those text messages.
It doesn’t even matter she said the same thing
Save your money, Hannah. You don't need them.
It doesn’t matter anymore if someone cheats. The courts couldn’t care LESS who cheated on who. If you go in with that in mind it may help you with custody issues.
in many states, it won't matter
His approach with her was so honest/frank and still remained so gentle. Great job with this call truly
+1
Cheaters want an easy way out to destroy their family, then cry when they’re alone.
He might have thought he'd get away with it. It might also all have been going on a lot longer than she knew.
@@emmajones8590 at the heart of it all, they want to destroy the family.
Sadly he has been gaslighting her for so long that she has learned how to gaslight herself.
I hope you get the peace and healing you deserve Hannah. You deserve so much more. Wishing you well.💜
She is desperate to stay married. She KNOWS the truth.
Sadly true,,, anything to stay married
This is so unfortunate and saddening!
AMEN!
Yes that's exactly right. sad.
I won't judge her choices. She has a history that is influencing her decisions. She's doing what she thinks is best for her and her children. She is the one who will live with her choices - not us. "I would....". "I wouldn't...." Is all speculation. You don't KNOW until your actually the one living it and even then your basing your decisions in a different history and perspective.
I wish this woman peace of mind - whatever she chooses to do. It's a tuff spot to be in.
NS-jtv99 YA EXACTLY YOU KNOW IF SOMEONE'S COMING IN AT 12 MIDNIGHT, OR 2 AM. YOU KNOW DARN WELL WHAT'S GOING ON.
When your husband won’t show you the text messages, there’s a problem. A big problem. Bless her!
Why she has his number?
@@not-even-german4892My husband & I are friends with other couples from church. With one of them, we have a running 4-person texting thread so we can make plans for our next dinner & game night together, pass along any news quickly, share funny GIFs, or whatever. It’s not totally weird to have phone numbers of close friends of the family.
That being said……. With ANY history of even an inkling of cheating, having other women’s phone numbers should have been a thing of the past. I feel so sorry for this girl. 😢
@@not-even-german4892That part's not at all strange. All four of them are friends and next door neighbours and they do things with their kids together so they would have each other's numbers even just for emergencies as neighbours. It's the secrets and lying and deleting things that makes it all weird.
He's an adult and he isn't required by law to show his phone.
She can go to the provider and get the messages that way.....I wish people would remember that
Opening a bottle of wine takes 2 mins, not 2 hours.
Yeah the excuse was pitiful at best. Should have come up with a better lie
Where's her husband at, wake him up to open the wine.
Cork screw = 2 minutes
The “other” screw = 2 hours
I take two minutes. 😳
It was real deep in there…
My ex's affair partner came to our home and physically fought me! My ex never stopped seeing her after that...they never change. SAVE YOURSELF!
Oh my word
My phone is available to my spouse 24/7. Being honest and having nothing to hide is a wonderful feeling.
Yes, nothing beats a clear conscience when putting your head on the pillow at night. Also, knowing you're exclusive with that one person is such a sense of security
Believe it or not everyone doesn't think like you
Leave. Divorce. Please .
It really is a wonderful thing. My phone is completely available to my partner too, he has no desire to check it, the contents would bore him to tears but it’s beautiful having nothing to hide.
If he had nothing to hide, showing her his phone would be a nonissue. Also, it doesn't take 2 hours to open a bottle of wine. Hannah, you don't deserve to be treated this way. Also, as Dr. John said, she's not your best friend. She doesn't respect you or your marriage. I hope you get away from both of them.
My heart absolutely breaks for you my girl.
You are worth so much more.
Why, she already admitted that he cheated on her before. Him not cheating would be the surprise.
She sounds like she doesn't have any self worth.
Get a lawyer. Blindside him. Get the house, child support and alimony. Find your real friends and family that you have to help you.
I agree 100% except, in this particular case, about getting the house. Then she has to live next to her.
Seriously and in the case of infidelity she’ll get more than him.
@@kateruterbories2692 My thought is that she can sell the house and get another one in another part of town or move to another city or state.
@@michellec3349 Not in today's world (speaking from experience.). Everything is split 50/50.
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Your work speaks volumes of the kind of man you are. efficient, organized and result oriented well done , Dale Valskov you're soo good at what you do
Get rid of them both. Ain't nothing best friend out here. My circle is small and I like it like that.
WHY do these guys get married and have children the hurt and destruction they leave behind if you want to be a player STAY SINGLE😢
Takes two to tango.
Amen!
The guy likes having a girl that loves them, but they also can't help trying to get with other women. I knew a few dudes like this in college. I don't know if they stopped doing this after getting married
Because they are male.
Because marriage doesn’t fix their undesciplined penis
Sadest part is I can tell she won't leave she doesn't sound like she has an actually support system. Hope she gets the help she deserves.
She's not even crying. She's so numb to his bs.
A support system is not required to have a backbone. She’s a doormat and needs to come to the realization that she can be by herself and ok with her kids. Her kids are not babies and he has done this before.
@@whosaidthat9265 obviously a support system is not necessary but it helps when you know you have someone to fall back on.
I’d divorce him and surrender my parental rights.😂 Enjoy, MFer.
it sounds to me like she thinks believing he's cheating means all the years she has spent making it work are in vain. 10 whole years only to be betrayed by her friend and her husband. I feel sad for her
When I was pregnant and caught him cheating, the terror was so bad I only had the ability to hate on the other woman and could only think about what to do to make him leave her and choose me over her. Zero rational, zero self worth, 100% deception. Therefore I could not judge the willingness of this lady to keep trying but she HAS TO GET OUT 😰
I’m sorry you went through that love. I hope you have healed and are stronger than ever 🤍 God bless you and may you receive many blessings in your life
It's over, keep it moving lady
Red flags:
-Sneaking next door past midnight to your former best friend to open a wine bottle
-Deleting text messages
-Zero respect and lack of boundaries from him
I feel so bad for her. I can relate to not wanting to see what's in front of you. She's not crazy, he's trying to make her think she is.
Been there - it's so crazymaking when uncovering years of lies
If you have to post rules on the fridge about not going over to other women’s houses at night… gurl, run.
I wonder what the neighbour's husband thinks about all of this?
He's probably in on it.@@emmajones8590
Change the fridge
@@emmajones8590maybe the guy has no fridge
@@emmajones8590 I wish he would have asked her if she said anything to the husband bc I GUARANTEE she didn't & he has no clue about it, & was upstairs sleeping with their child. 🤦🏻♀️😔